Phone Number cover 11/7/05 2:59 PM Page 1 I LostMy How can I set firm moral standards? What have Church leaders said about kissing? What can I do now to prepare for an eternal marriage? How can I help a friend who is breaking the law of chastity? Phone Number, President Gordon B. Hinckley, speaking to youth and young adults, said that relationships with peers of the opposite sex are “the most common and most difficult of all problems for young men and young women to handle” (Ensign, January 2001). In this book, popular speaker John Hilton III addresses the topic of guy- girl relationships by helping youth and young adults liken the scriptures to both serious and casual relationships. Using the scriptural accounts of David and Bathsheba, Samson and Delilah, Amnon and Tamar, Joseph and Potiphar’s wife, and many others, John shows that the scriptures contain the principles needed to succeed in relationships with members of Can IHave the opposite sex. Packed with quotations from Church leaders, this book contains answers to many commonly asked questions about dating and courtship, as well as dozens of application ideas and resources for additional study. John writes directly and with humor, and he backs up what he says with scripture and the teachings of General Authorities. Whether you are just Yours? beginning to think about guy-girl relationships, starting to date, or prepar- ing for serious courtship, this book contains timely and important advice. About the Author John Hilton III used scriptural advice to win his wife Lani’s heart. They are the parents of three children and live in Miami, Florida. John is a religious educator and has Hilton degrees from Brigham Young and Harvard Universities. He is also the author of two talks on CD, Dating and the Plan of Happiness and The Dog Ate My Scriptures: DAMS A H Excuses, Agency, and Responsibility. BUTC ISBN 1-59038-548-9 51395 d® 9 FnL1 02 0040 01 DERlc2VyZXQgQm9vawtMYXVyaWUgQ29v 02 awBDBFEY 781590 385487 SKU 4954462 U.S. $13.95 D Phone Number cover 11/7/05 2:59 PM Page 1 I LostMy How can I set firm moral standards? What have Church leaders said about kissing? What can I do now to prepare for an eternal marriage? How can I help a friend who is breaking the law of chastity? Phone Number, President Gordon B. Hinckley, speaking to youth and young adults, said that relationships with peers of the opposite sex are “the most common and most difficult of all problems for young men and young women to handle” (Ensign, January 2001). In this book, popular speaker John Hilton III addresses the topic of guy- girl relationships by helping youth and young adults liken the scriptures to both serious and casual relationships. Using the scriptural accounts of David and Bathsheba, Samson and Delilah, Amnon and Tamar, Joseph and Potiphar’s wife, and many others, John shows that the scriptures contain the principles needed to succeed in relationships with members of Can IHave the opposite sex. Packed with quotations from Church leaders, this book contains answers to many commonly asked questions about dating and courtship, as well as dozens of application ideas and resources for additional study. John writes directly and with humor, and he backs up what he says with scripture and the teachings of General Authorities. Whether you are just Yours? beginning to think about guy-girl relationships, starting to date, or prepar- ing for serious courtship, this book contains timely and important advice. About the Author John Hilton III used scriptural advice to win his wife Lani’s heart. They are the parents of three children and live in Miami, Florida. John is a religious educator and has Hilton degrees from Brigham Young and Harvard Universities. He is also the author of two talks on CD, Dating and the Plan of Happiness and The Dog Ate My Scriptures: DAMS A H Excuses, Agency, and Responsibility. BUTC ISBN 1-59038-548-9 51395 d® 9 FnL1 02 0040 01 DERlc2VyZXQgQm9vawtMYXVyaWUgQ29v 02 awBDBFEY 781590 385487 SKU 4954462 U.S. $13.95 D Thank you for downloading this book. For other free books (including audiobooks) please visit http://johnhiltoniii.com You can purchase a copy of this or several other books, DVDs and CDs by John Hilton III at http://deseretbook.com/auth/12376/John_Hilton_III I lost my phone number live 11/3/05 1:14 PM Page i PICK-UP LINES THAT DON’T WORK SCRIPTURAL ADVICE THAT DOES John Hilton III d® SALT L AKE C ITY, UTAH I lost my phone number live 11/4/05 12:40 PM Page ii Thank you to all of those who have contributed to the content of this book and who have helped me grow and develop. This book is dedicated with love to Lani. Note: In nearly every story in this book, names have been changed, and in a few cases, details of the story have been modified to protect innocent parties. © 2006 John Hilton III All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any means without permission in writing from the publisher, Deseret Book Company, P. O. Box 30178, Salt Lake City, Utah 84130. This work is not an official publication of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The views expressed herein are the respon- sibility of the author and do not necessarily represent the position of the Church or of Deseret Book Company. DESERET BOOK is a registered trademark of Deseret Book Company. Visit us at deseretbook.com Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Hilton, John, III. I lost my phone number, can I have yours? : pickup lines that don’t work, Scriptural advice that does / John Hilton III. p. cm. Includes index. ISBN 1-59038-548-9 (pbk.) 1. Dating (Social customs)—Religious aspects—Mormon Church. 2. Mormon youth—Conduct of life. I. Title. HQ801.H494 2006 646.7'70882893—dc22 2005028290 Printed in the United States of America 54459 Malloy Lithographing Incorporated, Ann Arbor, MI 109 8 7 6 54 3 21 I lost my phone number live 11/4/05 12:37 PM Page iii Contents Introduction: Pick-Up Lines and Scriptural Advice . 1 1. Honor the Relationships at Home First . 11 2. Get Out of Bad Situations . 20 3. Be Wise . 28 4. Don’t Make Girls Cry . 38 5. Be the Kind of Person You Want to Marry . 45 6. Don’t Do Something You Know Is Wrong for a Member of the Opposite Sex . 53 7. Keep an Eternal Perspective . 61 8. Use Your Influence for Good . 73 9. Don’t Be Like Water! Be Firm and Immovable in Your Standards . 82 10. It’s Easier to Stop Before You Start . 92 iii I lost my phone number live 11/4/05 12:48 PM Page iv Contents 11. Do Things at the Right Time . 101 12. Get Help When You Need It . 114 13. Immorality Leads to Hate, Not Love . 124 14. Don’t Tarry, Look, or Enquire . 131 15. Prepare Now for Temple Marriage . 143 16. Have Fun! . 152 17. Applying the Atonement to the Trials of Dating . 160 18. Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes . 169 19. Guy-Girl Relationships: The Quiz . 179 Conclusion: The Scriptures Have the Advice You Need . 185 Appendix A: More Pick-Up Lines . 189 Appendix B: Answers to Guy-Girl Relationships: The Quiz . 193 Index Organized by Questions . 199 Index . 201 iv I lost my phone number live 11/3/05 1:14 PM Page 1 Introduction Pick-Up Lines and Scriptural Advice ’ve never been very successful at using pick-up lines. But Isometimes they work! My college roommate Joseph used the following pick-up line to meet the woman he eventually married. He was standing in line at the grocery store trying to think of a way to get to know the woman in front of him. He found out her name was Leslie and talked with her for a few moments as the clerk rang up her groceries. As she was get- ting ready to leave, Joseph knew he had to act fast. He asked Leslie if he could see her grocery list. “You’ve got some good stuff,” he said. “Strawberries, flour . hmmm, you forgot something.” Joseph took out a pen, wrote his email address on her shop- ping list, and gave it back to her. The next day he received an email from Leslie—and the rest is history. You can try that pick-up line on somebody if you want, but I doubt it will work. Joseph was probably just lucky! I’ve heard of many other pick-up lines. The following are three of my 1 I lost my phone number live 11/3/05 1:14 PM Page 2 I Lost My Phone Number, Can I Have Yours? favorites. I can’t take credit (or blame) for these—others told them to me. Guy: “Could I look at your shirt?” Girl: “Sure.” [Guy looks at the tag of the shirt.] Guy: “Just what I thought—made in heaven!” Girl: Do you have a map? Guy: No. Why do you need one? Girl: Because I get lost in your eyes. Guy: Do you have a phone I could use? Girl: Sure. Who do you need to talk to? Guy: My mom. She said to call when I met the woman of my dreams. (If you want to read more pick-up lines, see appendix A.) Pick-up lines are fun, but if your goal is to have successful guy-girl relationships, they won’t be enough—you’ll need the scriptures.