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Visit the website to be inspired by the possibilities: www.advancedleadership.harvard.edu or email the fellowship director: [email protected] Inquire now for 2017 January 13, 2016 Volume 116, Number 6 An editorially independent magazine by alumni for alumni since 1900 PRESIDENT’S PAGE 4 INBOX 5 FROM THE EDITOR 9 ON THE CAMPUS 13 Nassau Hall sit-in Q&A with activists Latino student demands No more college masters STUDENT DISPATCH: Live-blogging the sit-in Scholarship winners SPORTS: Basketball’s Amir Bell ’18 Women’s volleyball Men’s water polo More LIFE OF THE MIND 31 Surprising findings on mortality Eddie S. Glaude Jr. *97 on race in America P RINCETONIANS 55 Artist Martha Russo ’85 Paul Holdengräber *95, master of conversation Surgeon David Kuwayama *08 Zachory Page 46 ’50 Berta-Thompson ’07 finds a planet V LO E & ROMANCE Zimmerman CLASS NOTES 59 The Enduring Power of Gatsby By Anne Margaret Daniel *99 34 Modern Love By Mark F. Bernstein ’83 36 Steve MEMORIALS 79 The Mother of All Loves By Allison Slater Tate ’96 40 A Songwriter’s Favorite Love Songs By Ruth Gerson ’92 42 courtesy CLASSIFIEDS 85 Finding Love at Princeton By Mary Hui ’17 46 Barros; THAT WAS THEN 88 Not Your Grandma’s Romance By Jennifer Altmann 50 Ricardo by PAW.PRINCETON.EDU Campus Romance Serenades Read Princeton love Listen to Ruth Gerson PAW GOE Vogin/photo stories as told by ’92’s favorite love songs S TO THE alumni, including and read her tips for MOVIE David S by Steve Zimmerman ’50, singing one. pictured at left with his future wife, Betty, at From the Heart Creature Feature illustration Houseparties in May Gregg Lange ’70 takes Shelley expert Susan 1950. They celebrated a romantic look at the Wolfson reviews Victor Photo their 62nd wedding history of Princeton’s Frankenstein. top: anniversary last year. Lovers Lane. From On the cover: As President Eisgruber ’83 listens at right, student activists lay out their demands before occupying Nassau Hall; photograph by W. Raymond Ollwerther ’71 03paw0113_TOC.indd 3 12/15/15 8:06 AM THE PRESIDENT’S PAGE What is happening on our campuses? rotests about racial justice have roiled campuses prejudice confronting students of color manifests itself more across America this fall, including at Princeton. subtly. It operates through stereotypes (which is why our Many alumni have asked me about the causes for this Pre-read this year was Whistling Vivaldi) and is embedded in turmoil. cultures. How, our students ask, can they confront this bias? PMedia pundits and others often suggest that students today One way to confront a culture is to contest its symbols. are simply too quick to take offense, and in some cases are That—not hypersensitivity—is why campus protests have so taking offense when it is not intended. On occasion students often centered on issues related to institutional symbols that have seemed to demand that they be insulated from any some students regard as indicators of patterns of bias. viewpoints or behaviors that make them feel disrespected At Princeton, few symbols figure so powerfully as Woodrow or unwelcome. Wilson. Our School of Public and International Affairs is Many find this trend alarming, and for good reason. Free- named for him, as is one of our residential colleges. He gave dom of speech is a bedrock value at Princeton and every great Princeton its informal motto, “In the Nation’s Service.” university. Teaching, learning, and research depend on the We quote him often at ceremonial gatherings. open and honest exchange of ideas. Wilson was a remarkable man. In my view, he did more We expect all interactions on our campus to be guided by than any other single individual to shape Princeton into the principles of civility and mutual respect, but we do students great university it is today. His contributions to world affairs no favor—on the contrary, we do them great harm—if we won a Nobel Prize. On the other hand, Wilson was also guilty shield them from all expression that discomfits, angers, or of great wrongs, including the re-segregation of the federal offends them. civil service. While youthful hypersensitivity has been a factor in the Every human being mixes good and bad, and we would protests occurring nationwide, it would be shortsighted honor no one if we insisted on an unblemished record. Yet, to regard it as their primary cause. The current wave of when we recount Wilson’s story at Princeton we have often campus activism began with last year’s Black Lives Matter glossed over his failings. campaign. Since then, the nation has witnessed a profoundly I told the protestors that I believe we should retain Wilson’s disturbing stream of violence against black people, including name on both the School of Public and International Affairs several shootings by police and the murder of nine innocent and on our residential college. At the same time, I agreed worshippers at a church service in Charleston, South Carolina.