Bullying Power & Control Wheel Bullying is defined as a conscious, willful, deliberate and repeated hostile activity perpetrated by an abuser who possesses more physical and/or social power and dominance than the victim. It is frighteningly clear that when many normal people gain a measure of power over others they often cannot resist the urge to abuse it and treat those below them with cruelty, indignity and contempt. Mediation between the bully and victim is not possible; in a true case of bullying, putting them together to work out their problems would simply re-victimize the victim. Although bullying is generally thought of as a childhood problem it takes many forms across the lifespan: sexual harassment, gang attacks, dating violence, assault, domestic violence, child abuse, harassment in the workplace, and elder abuse. Coercion, Using Threats & Emotional Abuse Intimidation Putting him/her down. Making Threatening future physical him/her feel bad about her or harm. Making him/her do illegal things (drugs/alcohol). himself. Utilizing mocking Making him/her change or nicknames. Staring, giggling, recant story. Making him/her laughing at him/her. Saying afraid with looks, actions, certain words that trigger a gestures. Damaging reaction from a past event property. Threatens to get Social him/her in trouble with Isolation family, friends or Spreading rumors & Humiliation school. gossiping. Refusing to Calls him/her names privately socialize with him/her. “Silent or in front of others. Puts Treatment”. Condemning other down or makes fun of your people who wish to socialize race, religion, class or family. with him/her. Publicly Shows off personal items criticizing the victim's manner in public Bullying of dress and other socially- Power & significant markers Social Status Economic Abuse Demanding money. Stealing Treating them like a servant. Control money and/or possessions. Utilizing him/her to inflict Accusing him/her of stealing abuse on others. Controlling or damaging property to get involvement in school and/or him/her in trouble . Older social activities children: Jeopardizing Technology employment due to Minimizing, harassment in Sending and/or spreading Denying & varying forms harassing, humiliating and defamatory messages via cell Blaming phones, social networking sites, message boards, chat rooms, IMs Saying he/she started it. or e-mail. Disseminating intimate Shifting responsibility for private information or tricking behavior someone into disclosing private information. Pretending to be someone else and posting material to damage that person’s reputation. Developed by Kayte Anton at the YWCA Crisis Center in Enid, Oklahoma .