Contents Winter 1992 Volume 109 Number 2 Self-Worth... The Profile Marilyn Van Derbur ­ Within - It's the buzz word She's been named Miss of the nineties: elf-esteem. America and Outstanding But just how much does it Woman Speaker in affect who we are? America, and we're proud pg. 4 to claim her as one of our own. Read more about this incredible Pi Phi. pg.8 4.0 Students - Pi Beta Phi Award Winners - Pi Phi's collegians continue to excel best are pictured throughout in academic . Find out who the Friendship Fund Donor made straight "A's" during List. See the 1991-92 alum­ the last term. nae club and chapter award pg. 16 winners. pg. 25 Pi Phi Express - Shop Convention 1993 - Magic now for initiation gifts for is in the air as Pi Phis pre­ your favorite Pi Phi! pare for Convention 1993. pg.66 Come share "The Magic of Friendship in Pi Beta Phi" in Orlando. Pg.68 Departments News of Arrowmont .......................................... l0 Foundation ......................................................... 14 Collegiate News ...............................................•. 22 Holt House ......................................................... 24 Friendship Fund Donor List ............................... 25 Links to Literacy ................................................ 50 Alumnae News .................................................. 53 In Memoriam ..................................................... 59 Fraternity Directory ........................................... 62 Announcements .............•...........................•...... 64 Arrow Editor- Jennifer Moeller Barcus Address Changes and In FOUNDERS OF THE FRATERNITY Assistant- Elizabeth Ann Gilki on Memoriam Emma Brownlee Kilgore (1848-1924) Pi Beta Phi Central Office Margaret Campbell (1846-1936) Pi Beta Phi Central Office 7730 Carondelet, Suite 333 Libbie Brook Gaddis (1850-1933) 7730 Carondelet, Suite 333 St. Loui s, MO 63105 Ada Bruen Grier (1848-1924) St. Loui , MO 63105 Clara Brownlee Hutchin on (1 850-1931) 314/727-7338 POSTMASTER: Send addre changes Fannie Whitenack Libbey (1 848-1941) FAX: 314/72 7-8049 to The ARROW of Pi Beta Phi, 7730 Rosa Moore (1848-1924) Carondelet, Suite 333, St. Loui , MO Jennie Nicol, M.D. (1845-1881) Correspondence of an ed itori al nature 63105-3328. Inez Smith Soule (1 846-1941) is to be addressed to the ed itor. Fannie Thompson (1848-1868) On Our Cover - Virginia Delta Mary Jennie Home Turnbull (1846-1932) Copy Deadlines Walton Koronkowski ancy Black Wallace (1 46-191 ) Spring-Dec. 1 Fall-June 1 Summer-April 1 Winter-Oct. 1 Founded 1867 The Arrow of Pi Beta Phi 3 We need to learn as adults and young it a national tragedy, since it occurs at women to accept that our parents did a time when all kinds of new the best they could. And then we need opportunities and freedoms are open to to understand that it was not right for young women. Girls today wind up them to say, "You got four A and one tense, uneasy and vulnerable to a B, what happened?" We may have to variety of behavioral problems and look at the situation and say, "I diseases, including eating disorders and understand that they wanted me to be our society cares more about how girls sexuall y transmitted diseases." perfect- it just doesn't work that way. If look than we do boys. There's a whole Laura: they require straight As, that is their different criteria for women. In When Jennifer defined self­ problem, it's not mine." addition, the media and society provide esteem, she put it in terms of the way "symbols," of the perfect woman who Laura: people view themselves. A person with fits in a size 8 dre . She is happy to see But it takes a pretty strong and high self-esteem likes herself as a whole that some of those symbols are secure per on to be able to do that. person and feels as if she is capable of changing with the emergence and And besides, our family is not the only tackling and conquering almost ucce s of such stars as Delta Burke, thing that shapes who we are. In my anything that comes her way. Oprah Winfrey and research, I found so much information Roseanne Arnold. about the role society and the media have in how people view themselves, Laura: especially women. The fact is that I really like what body-image constitutes much of a Jennifer, who is an woman's self-worth and self-esteem. undergraduate at Duke I believe it was Thomas Cash, a University said about professor of psychology at Old women and body image, Dominion University, who said, "We "There is such a perfect believe that if we have the perfect image of the unattainable body, then we'll have the perfect life." figure that everyone aims for. I know I've certainly seen that on a I think this is put out by the college campus. Quite an emphasis is media as well as the other placed on how a young woman looks. college women. Many of There are still so many time I look at a them already have severe sorority sister or classmate and think eating disorders and thus that she does have the perfect body have those tiny, tiny figures and therefore, she must have the that in reality are extremely perfect life. It has taken me a long time unhealthy and dangerous. However, Conversely, a woman with low self­ ro realize that she, like me, has these are the bodies that many women esteem either does not like anything problems. No one really is perfect. aspire to. I think it can almost turn about herself or does not like a few into a competition. It is not about areas of her personality or body image eating, though. It is about a feeling of etc. not being thin enough, attractive Self: enough, worth enough. It is a feeling of Jennifer believes a problem arises emptiness. " when the dislike of these few areas "The idea of body image is an {which can even be just one area} extreme pressure in college. We see the often overrides any positive ideal and cannot reach it without characteristics the woman once putting our health in great danger. We believed she had. are socialized to believe that people will not like us unle s we look like the Laura: 80 lb. models in the magazines. The effects of a distorted self­ Although on a rational level, we know image are all around me. I see it in so this is ridiculous, on some other level, many women every day on the college we believe there is some truth in it." campus. But what are some of the benefit and effects of a healthy self­ Self: image? Cornell University social historian Joan Jacobs Brumberg studied the Self: Self: diaries girls have written over the last "A person with healthy self-esteem Ann Kearney Cooke, a Cincinnati 150 years. She found that adolescen t is able to accept critici m or rejection ... psychologist who specialize in body gi rls today are "overwhelmed with and failure, too ... when pursuing a goal," images, believe it is perfectly insidious feeling of unworthiness and said Jame Masterson. While a person acceptable in our culture to obses low self-esteem a they obsess about might get upset, even very upset, he is about your body if you're a woman. boys and body image at the expense of able to push those feelings as ide, learn Marilyn Van Derbur points out that more fruitful activities. Brumberg calls from mistakes- and move on to the 6 The Arrow of PI Be,a Phi next challenges. The key factor is that few years when I'm an alum. She talks one doesn't lose sight of the things he about how Pi Phis, instead of trying to is good at. A person can use confidence be perfect, should tum to one another to help repair a temporary gap in se lf­ and share what is really going on in esteem. their lives- to say to each other, "I don't know what to do about my eating Laura: disorder." "I don't know how to get And wasn't it Dr. Masterson who Laura: help." Or, said we can increase self-esteem by You mean with Pi Phi? "I know I'm attempting to stay in touch with one's drinking real self when faced with challenging Self: too much situations? This means accepting Yes. Let me read to you part of the and I'm not yourself for what you are- taking letter Jennifer Atler wrote to you when sure what comfort in your abilities and at the you two were working on your self­ to do about same time accepting your limitations. esteem paper. She said, "Pi Phi has it." Or Self: given me the opportunity to whatever experience college with an extremely It was. Pi Phi Jennifer Atler puts it the strong group of women with many of in these words, "Positive self-esteem situation is. the same interests as I have as well as makes people less hard on themselves. The many of the same experiences. If they are a few pounds overweight, one quote Through Pi Phi I have made some of that does not mean they are failures as she gave, I the best friends I will ever have, and it people. If they fail that chemistry test, can has given us a forum to discuss issues that does not mean they are failures as remember • like self-esteem and problems we as people. If they do not get elected to verbatim, women face on college campuses. Not "We need • that position, that does not mean they only has Pi Phi given us an incredible are failures as people. They are able to to talk to 'social connection,' but the women in separate the issues and not allow their one Pi Phi have proven to be a support entire beings and self-worths to hinge another about our lives as they are­ system through the tough times, also." on each success or failure." instead of trying to look or be the way "I think Pi Phi has the ability to people think we should be." Laura: affect a lot of women.