NOTES Preface 1. Oscar Handlin, The Uprooted (New York: Grosset & Dunlap, 1951), p.3. 2. Egon Mayer and Carl Sheingold, Intermarriage and the Jewish Future (New York: American Jewish Committee, 1979). 3. Egon Mayer, Children of Intermarriage (New York: American Jewish Committee, 1983). Chapter 1 1. Francesco Alberoni, Falling in Love (New York: Random House, 1983), p. 6. 2. Ibid., p. 17. 3. John B. Halsted, Romanticism: Definition, Explanation, and Evaluation (Lexington, MA: D. C. Heath and Company, 1965). 4. Edward Shorter, The Making of the Modern Family (New York: Basic Books, Inc., 1975); Ellen K. Rothman, Hands and Hearts: A History of Courtship in America (New York: Basic Books, Inc., 1984). 5. Morton M. Hunt, The Natural History of Love (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, Inc./Minerva Press, 1959, 1967). 6. Ibid., p. 26. 7. Joseph Stein, Fiddler on the Roof. Broadway musical. 8. Hunt, The Natural History of Love, p. 25. 9. William M. Kephart, The Family, Society, and the Individual, 3d Ed. (New York: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1972), p. 137. 10. Shorter, The Making of the Modern Family, p. 148. 11. Selma Stern, Court Jew (Philadelphia, PA: Jewish Publication Soci­ ety, 1951). 12. Rothman, Hands and Hearts, pp. 28-29. 13. Jan Lewis, The Pursuit of Happiness: Family and Values in Jefferson's Virginia (New York: Cambridge University Press, 1983). 14. Shorter, The Making of the Modern Family, pp. 121-122. 293 294 NOTES 15. Ibid., p. 148. 16. J. Hector St. John Creve coeur, Letters of an American Farmer (New York: Dolphin Books, n.d.), pp. 49-50. 17. Israel Zangwill, The Melting Pot (New York: Macmillan Company, 1908). 18. Arthur Mann, The One and the Many (Chicago: Chicago University Press, 1979), p. 100. 19. Ibid., pp. 75-76. 20. Ibid., p. 111. 21. Ibid., p. 117. 22. Heinrich Graetz, History of the Jews (Philadelphia, PA: The Jewish Publication Society, 1956), v. 5, p. 697. 23. Malcolm H. Stem, "Jewish Marriage and Intermarriage in the Federal Period, 1776-1840," American Jewish Archives (November 1967), pp. 142-143. 24. Milton L. Barron, "The Incidence of Jewish Intermarriage in Eu­ rope and America," American Sociological Review 11:1 (February 1946), pp. 6-13. 25. Moshe Davis, "Mixed Marriage in Western Jewry," Jewish Journal of Sociology 10:2 (December 1968) pp. 177-210. 26. Ande Manners, Poor Cousins (Greenwich, CT: Fawcett Publications, 1972), p. 25. 27. Arthur Ruppin, The Jews in the Modern World (New York: Arno Press, 1973), pp. 318-321. 28. Chaim I. Waxman, America's Jews in Transition (Philadelphia, PA: Temple University Press, 1983), pp. 29-31. 29. National Jewish Population Study, "Intermarriage" (New York: Council of Jewish Federations, 1971). Mimeograph. 30. Isaac Metzker, A Bintle Brief (New York: Ballantine Books, 1971), pp.76-77. 31. Ibid., pp. 91-92. 32. Julius Drachsler, Democracy and Assimilation (New York: Macmillan Company, 1920), p. 126. 33. Milton M. Gordon, Assimilation in American Life (New York: Oxford University Press, 1964), p. 80. 34. Elihu Bergman, "The American Jewish Population Erosion," Midstream 23:8 (October 1977). 35. Andrew M. Greeley, Crisis in the Church (Chicago: Thomas More Press, 1979), p. 150. 36. Richard D. Alba, "Social Assimilation among American Catholic NOTES 295 National Origin Croups," American Sociological Review 41:6 (1976), pp. 1030-1046. 37. Konrad Bercovici, Crimes of Charity (1917). 38. Michael Novak, The Rise of the Unmeltable Ethnics (New York: Mac­ millan Publishing Company, 1971). 39. Herbert J. Cans, The Levittowners (New York: Vintage Books, 1969); Michael Parenti, "Ethnic Politics and the Persistence of Ethnic Identification," American Political Science Review 61 (September 1967), pp. 717-726. 40. Bill R. Lindner, How to Trace Your Family History (New York: Dodd Mead Company, 1978); Arthur Kurzweil, From Generation to Genera­ tion: How to Trace Your Jewish Geneology (New York: Morrow, 1980). 41. United Jewish Appeal, Book of Songs and Blessings (New York: United Jewish Appeal, 1980), p. 25. 42. Floyd J. Fowler, 1975 Community Survey: A Study of the Jewish Popula­ tion of Greater Boston (Boston: Combined Jewish Philanthropies, 1977); Albert Mayer, The Jewish Population Study of the Greater Kansas City Area (Kansas City: Jewish Federation, 1977); Bruce A. Phillips, Denver Jewish Population Study (Denver: Allied Jewish Federation, 1982). 43. David M. Eichhorn, Conversion to Judaism (New York; Ktav Publish­ ing House, Inc., 1965), p. 213. 44. Slogan from a popular bill board advertisement in the New York area for Levy's Real Jewish Rye Bread. Chapter 2 1. Peter L. Berger and Hansfried Kellner, "Marriage and the Con­ struction of Reality," Diogenes 4 (1964), p. 8. 2. Emile Durkheim, The Division of Labor in Society (New York: The Free Press, 1964), pp. 79-81. 3. Shorter, The Making of the Modern Family, p. 71. 4. Ibid., pp. 258-259. 5. Rothman, Hands and Hearts. 6. Berger and Kellner, "Marriage and the Construction of Reality," p.9. 7. Ibid. 8. Ibid. 9. Ibid., p. 5. 10. Ibid., p. 13. 11. Alberoni, Falling in Love, p. 35. 296 NOTES 12. Ibid., p. 25. 13. Lewis Benjamin, The Passing of an English Jew (1907). Chapter 3 1. Moshe Weissman, The Midrash Says (Brooklyn, NY: Benei Yaakov Publications, 1980), p. 218. 2. Isaac M. Fein, The Making of an American Jewish Community: The History of Baltimore Jewry (Philadelphia, PA: The Jewish Publication Society, 1971), p. 7. 3. The Universal Jewish Encyclopedia (New York: The Universal Jewish Encyclopedia, Inc.) 1941 Ed., s.v. "Goldwater," pp. 41-42. 4. Max Vorspan and Lloyd P. Gartner, History of the Jews of Los Angeles (San Marino, CA: The Huntington Library, 1970), p. 8. 5. Ibid., p. 24. 6. Ibid., pp. 95-96. 7. Ibid., p. 97. 8. Jacob Rader Marcus, American Jewry Documents Eighteenth Century (Cincinnati, OH: The Hebrew Union College Press, 1959), p. 188. 9. Ibid., pp. 137-138. 10. Ibid., pp. 30-31. 11. Stephen Birminghan, Our Crowd: The Great German Jewish Families of New York (New York: Harper & Row, 1967). 12. Marvin and Bernard Kalb, Kissinger (New York: Little, Brown, and Co., 1974). 13. Kephart, The Family, pp. 323-329. 14. Erich Rosenthal, "Studies of Jewish Intermarriage in the United States," American Jewish Year Book 64 (1963), pp. 41-43. 15. Rela Geffen Monson, Jewish Campus Life (New York: American Jew­ ish Committee, 1984), p. 23. Chapter 4 1. Louis A. Berman, Jews and Intermarriage: A Study in Personality and Culture (New York: Thomas Yoseloff, 1968). 2. Karl Abraham, Clinical Papers and Essays on Psychoanalysis (New York: Basic Books, 1955), v. II, pp. 48-50. 3. Robert K. Merton, "Intermarriage and the Social Structure," Psychiatry 4:3 (August 1941), pp. 361-374. 4. Monson, Jewish Campus Life, pp. 32-35. 5. Marshall Sklare, America's Jews (New York: Random House, 1971); Charles Liebman, The Ambivalent American Jew (Philadelphia, P A: NOTES 297 The Jewish Publication Society, 1973); Steven M. Cohen, American Modernity and Jewish Identity (New York: Tavistock Publications, 1983). 6. Gallup Report, "Survey Finds Greater Acceptance of Interracial, Interfaith Marriages" (Princeton: The Gallup Organization, June 1983). 7. John E. Mayer, Jewish-Gentile Courtship (New York: Free Press, 1961), p. 62. 8. Ibid., p. 70. 9. Ibid., p. 90. lO. Michelle Green and Linda Marx, "Twice-Divorced Mary Tyler Moore, 45, Heads for the Altar Again," People Magazine (December 5, 1984), pp. 152-153. 11. Robert Windeler, "Diana Ross 'Mahogany' Star & Bob Silberstein Have a Marriage That's Ok," People Magazine Oanuary 26, 1976), pp.23-26. 12. Ira L. Reiss, The Family System in America (New York: Holt, Rine- hart, and Winston, Inc., 1971), pp. 90-95. 13. Mayer, Jewish-Gentile Courtship, p. 89. 14. Ibid., p. 90. 15. Ibid., p. 91. 16. Philip Blumstein and Pepper Schwartz, American Couples (New York: William Morrow and Company, 1983), p. 307. 17. Alberoni, Falling in Love, p. 30. Chapter 5 1. Andrew M. Greeley, Why Can't They Be Like Us? (New York: E. P. Dutton & Company, 1971). 2. Evelyn Kaye, Crosscurrents: Children, Families and Religion (New York: Clarkson N. Potter, Inc., 1980), pp. 15-30. 3. Ibid., p. 18. 4. Ibid., p. 19. 5. Ibid., p. 20. 6. Ibid., p. 24. 7. Ibid., p. 27. 8. Ibid., p. 28. 9. Harold T. Christensen and Kenneth E. Barber, "Interfaith versus Intrafaith Marriages in Indiana," Journal of Marriage and the Family 29:3 (August 1967), pp. 461-469. lO. Alberoni, Falling in Love, p. 35. 298 NOTES 11. Edward Shils, Tradition (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1981), p. 34. 12. Ibid., p. 96. Chapter 6 1. Gordon, Assimilation in American Life, p. 80. 2. Will Herberg, Protestant-Catholic-Jew (New York: Doubleday and Company, Inc., 1955). Chapter 7 1. Alberoni, Falling in Love, p. 97. 2. Letha D. Scanzoni and John Scanzoni, Men, Women, and Change (New York: McGraw-Hill, Inc., 1981), pp. 437-463. 3. Ibid., p. 453. 4. Kephart, The Family, p. 399. 5. Jerold S. Heiss, "Premarital Characteristics of the Religiously Inter­ married in an Urban Area," American Sociological Review 25:1 (Feb­ ruary 1960). 6. David Caplovitz and Fred Sherrow, The Religious Drop-Outs: Apostasy among College Graduates (Beverly Hills, CA: Sage Publications, Inc., 1977). Chapter 8 1. The Holy Scriptures, "The Book of Ruth" (Philadelphia, P A: The Jewish Publication Society, 1955), p. 1087. 2. Eichhorn, Conversion to Judaism, pp. 63-65. 3. Universal Jewish Encyclopedia, s.v. "Proselytes." 4. Shlomo Eidelberg, The Jews and the Crusaders (Madison, WI: The University of Wisconsin Press, 1977), p. 37. 5. Waxman, America's Jews in Transition, pp. 19-20. 6. Universal Jewish Encyclopedia, s.v. "Converts." 7. Dean R. Hoge et al., Converts, Dropouts, and Returnees (New York: The Pilgrim Press, 1981), pp.