-97- October 1999 ISSN 0146-0269 Volume 22, Number 131 THE GRAVES FAMILY NEWSLETTER Official Publication of the Graves Family Association For all families of Graves, Greaves, Grave, and other spelling variations everywhere now. Renewing now will prevent any delay in CONTENTS receiving your newsletter issues. Membership Renewals Due................97 If you are not sure of the status of your Graves Family News...........................97 membership, you can tell by the date at the Graves Boy Shot at Columbine High top of the address label on the newsletter School.............................................98 envelope. If it says "Exp. Dec. 1999", that Celebration of the 400th Anniversary of means it is time to renew. Jamestown, VA & the Arrival of Capt. Anyone who wants to renew for more than Thomas Graves ............................100 one year can do so by paying the regular Address Changes .............................100 annual rate times the number of years desired. Membership Directory Updates ........101 Checks should be made payable to Graves Additions to Quaker Family of Thomas Family Association. Graves of New Castle Co., DE......101 Questions and Information................102 Descendants of George Graves and GRAVES FAMILY NEWS Mary Ann Roach of South Australia..........................102 Mr. Donald Graves Meyer, 2918 Lexham Descendants of George Washington Rd., Louisville, KY 40220, descended from Graves and Eliza A. ------ JOHN GRAVES and Sarah Noble of MD & of IN & OH.....................................109 KY, wrote: "I am sorry to inform you that my Descendants of William Graves and aunt, Mary Kathryn Graves, passed away on Betsey Holt of Skowhegan, Somerset Sept. 8, 1999. She was born Oct. 18, 1915 in Co., ME.........................................113 Louisville, KY. Her parents were John Cecil Descendants of Betsey E. Graves and Graves and Mable Ludlow. She never Joseph S. Pooler of Maine............114 married. She had two sisters, Dorothy Ann Descendants of Parents of John Graves Meyer and Martha Cecil Graves Goetz. Thomas Graves of VA & TX..........117 My mother is living here in Louisville. Martha passed away in Jan. 1999. Mary Kathryn was very proud of her Graves MEMBERSHIP RENEWALS DUE ancestry. Services will be tomorrow, Sept. 11, 1999, from St. Agnes Catholic Church, with The next issue of the newsletter will be the burial in St. Louis Cemetery, Louisville, KY." last for 1999. Since all Association memberships and newsletter subscriptions are Dr. Wallace J. Graves, 3802 Lucena Court, by calendar year, if you have not already Grand Prairie, TX 75052 ([email protected]), joined for 2000, you should send your renewal descended from Capt. THOMAS GRAVES of -98- VA, wrote: "It is with great sadness that I Nancy Graves, "Jeri", died Sept. 14, 1999 in write to tell you that my Mom, Dr. Geraldine Littleton, Colorado. She was 67 years young (Dec. 9, 1931). She was diagnosed with cancer in her lung in August and went quickly. Memberships: She was Director of the Medical Library at Regular (U.S. & Canada) $20/year St. George Medical School in Grenada, British Other countries (air mail) $30/year West Indies. They will be dedicating the new Sustaining (U.S. & Canada) $40/year library there in January 2000 and naming it in Other countries (air mail) $50/year her honor. That had been her consuming Life (U.S./Canada, 62 and older) $600 one time Foreign memberships must be paid by money passion for the past 3 years, getting it designed order in U.S. dollars. All back issues (1976- and built." present) are available at current price. He previously lost his Dad, Wallace Dewitt Graves, Oct. 10, 1996, and misses them both Newsletter only available to individuals as part of Graves Family Association membership. No very much. charge for queries. Published by: GRAVES BOY SHOT AT COLUMBINE THE GRAVES FAMILY ASSOCIATION HIGH SCHOOL 20 Binney Circle, Wrentham, MA 02093 Internet Home Page: http://www.gravesfa.org Mrs. Karen R. Buffum-Knutson Baker, Newsletter Editor: Kenneth Vance Graves 3885 Meade St., Denver, CO 80211-1948 20 Binney Circle, Wrentham, MA 02093 ([email protected]), sent information (508)384-8084 about an article in the Denver Rocky Mountain [email protected] News, June 20, 1999. It is available online at http://www.insidedenver.com/shooting/ Treasurer: Elaine Tobias, Overland Park, KS [email protected] 0620grav2.shtml. An abridged version of the Director, On-line Computer Help: H. W. (“Bud”) article follows. Graves, Veradale, WA [email protected] Director (Temporary), Internet Home Page: Injured Columbine student takes first Kenneth Vance Graves painful steps Graves Online List Manager: Marjorie Ferris, Sean Graves, shot in abdomen and nicked in Rialto, CA [email protected] the spine, finally regaining feeling in his legs Research Coordinators Graves of Cambridgeshire, England: Nedra By Rebecca Jones Dickman Brill, CG, 2410 NE 58th Ave., Portland, OR 97213-4002 Denver Rocky Mountain News Staff Writer [email protected] Rear Admiral Thomas Graves of Charlestown, MA and his Greaves family of Stepney, LITTLETON -- Sean Graves got out of his London, England: Raymond C. Flesher, 313 wheelchair for the first time and walked last West Lehow Ave., #24, Englewood, CO week. 80110-6744 [email protected] The 15-year-old wore leg braces, and he Charles Newton Graves (Descended from Rear couldn't go far before pain stopped him. But he Admiral Thomas Graves of Charlestown, counts those few steps as his greatest victory MA): Janet Craw, HC 4, Box 23B, Payson, since a bullet nicked his spine during the April AZ 85541-9531 20 shootings at Columbine High School. [email protected] © Graves Family Association, 1999 -99- He may never be able to walk unassisted. Natalie has also returned to work, but she His goal is to walk with no more than a crutch devotes her afternoons to Seth before returning for support. to the hospital for the evening. How long that might take is anybody's "I was counting it up," Randy Graves told guess. his wife, "and since April 20, I've only spent "That's the toughest part," says Randy eight nights at home with you." Graves, 38, Sean's father. "We don't know if it They have shunned the media until now, will be six months or six years before he can preferring to focus their attention on their walk again. We don't know how to prepare for family. what's next. But we're hopeful that by this time "It was just too much," Natalie Graves said, next year, we'll be doing everything we used to referring to the media bombardment they've do as a family." faced. "We just needed to be with Sean, not Such as fishing. Sean loves fishing. He and worry about who'd be going on Oprah." his best friend, Lance Kirklin, spent just about Sean has been able to leave the hospital for every day last summer fishing at Chatfield brief periods for about a month. He's been Reservoir. spending his weekend days at home since He and Lance haven't seen much of each Memorial Day, though he must return to the other since the shooting. They were together, hospital at night. Doctors estimate he may be with Dan Rohrbough, when it happened. They able to leave the hospital for good in about were heading out the front door when they three weeks, though he must return for daily were shot, just outside the school door. therapy. Sean had remained alert throughout most of Having Sean home will present challenges. his ordeal. Despite being hit in the abdomen Their home is not accessible to wheelchairs. by three bullets -- one of which nicked his Doors will need to be widened, ramps spine as it exited his body -- and grazed on the installed, the garage widened, the bathroom neck by a fourth, he began crawling back into refitted to accommodate Sean's needs and his the school, a liter bottle of Cherry Coke in his bedroom moved from the basement to the first hand. floor. He was alert when firefighters pulled him Then there's the kitchen. and Lance to safety, despite the gunfire that "When Sean was younger and he was a bad rained down on them from the library above boy, we'd have to ground him from cooking," them. And he knew that Dan hadn't survived… his mother said. "We'd come home from work It's been a difficult two months for the and he wouldn't have done his homework, but Graves family -- ever since the moment he'd have these elaborate meals prepared."… Natalie Graves, 38, a secretary at Lockheed On the hearth by the living room fireplace is Martin, strolled through the lobby at her office the bottle of Cherry Coke Sean was clutching and overheard the guard's police scanner when rescuers reached him. It had lain just reporting gunshots at Columbine… inside the door at the school until one day Since the shooting, the Graveses have earlier this month when Sean and his parents juggled Sean's needs with work returned to Columbine to tour the crime scene. responsibilities and caring for Seth, Sean's 13- A police officer reached for the bottle to prop year-old brother. Randy Graves returned to open the door. work part time about three weeks ago, but he Sean recognized it as his, and now the continues to spend most nights at Craig. He family keeps it as a reminder of how much also spends afternoons there to help Sean with worse things could have been. his therapy. -100- "I think, overall, this will just draw us closer as a family," Randy Graves said. "Tragedy Dr. Allen E. Gamble, descended from Capt. brings you closer. We know because we've THOMAS GRAVES of VA, has moved from been through tragedy before."… Nikayuna, NY to 311 Nature Trail Dr., Greer, Donations to help the Graves family may be SC 29651.