Editor-Manager Among Friends Vinton Deming Associate Editor Melissa Kay Elliott Art Director Barbara Benton New Semesters Advertising Manager Catherine Frost number of our articles this month are written on the themes of Circulation and Promotion Nagendran Gulendran education, youth, and nonviolence-our recognition, in part, TrPesettlng Services A of autumn's arrival and the reopening of schools. We include James Rice and Susan Jordhamo a report, for instance, on the summer's centennial celebration at Secretarial Services Jeanne G. Beisel Scattergood Friends School in Iowa (and don't overlook Leonard Bookk-per Kenworthy's review of the school's wonderful centennial volume in James Neveil our books section). Carolina Friends School this past year engaged in Volunt-rs a unique decision-making process on the issue of smoking. Quaker Jane Burgess, Eileen Coan, Anders Hansen, Emily Conlon, Catherine McCulley, Becky Young, process and consensus worked, and Connie Toverud shares this Karyn Robinson experience with us. Other articles explore such subjects as Education Board of Managers 1988-1991: Nancy Cocks Culleton, Barbara for Parenting, U.N. efforts on behalf of the world's children, the Dinhofer, Sam Legg (Clerk), Parry Jones, value to young people of Friends worship, a Quaker approach to Richard Moses (Treasurer) , Harry Scott, Larry Spears, Judith Randall, Alan Walker, Ellie working with nursery school children-and more. White As the threat of war in the Mideast escalates, and world leaders 1989-1992: Jennie Allen (Secretary), Richard Eldridge (Assistant Clerk), Bernard Haviland, increasingly hold up violence as the most suitable way to settle Eric Larsen, Marcia Mason, Janet Norton, international disputes, George Lakey's article on Peace Brigades David Samuel, Carolyn Sprogell, Wilmer International seems particularly timely. Small teams of PBI volunteers Tjossem, Elizabeth S. Williams, Alice Wiser 1990-1993: Clement Alexandre, Marguerite have affirmed the value of human life in Sri Lanka, Guatemala, and Clark, Peter Eccles, Leonard Kenworthy, Lee other dangerous places in the world, and lives have been saved. Neff, Mary Ellen Singsen Honorary Managers Likewise, Phil Esmonde's description of the role of observers at Eleanor Stabler Clarke, Mildred Binns Young Akwesasne shows that Friends can play a helpful role at times of FRIENDS JOURNAL (lSSN 0016-1322) was tension and potential violence. established in 1955 as the successor to The Friend (1827- 1955) and Friends Intelligencer We welcome in particular a number of new readers of the magazine (1844-1955). It is associated with the Religious this month. Many meetings have given subscriptions to students away Society of Friends, and is a member of the Associated Church Press. at colleges and boarding schools. We are making copies of the October • FRIENDS JOURNAL is published monthly by issue available as well to a number of Friends schools to share with Friends Publishing Corporation, 1501 Cherry parents, staff, and students alike. To each of you we say welcome. We St., Philadelphia, PA 19102-1497. Telephone (2 15) 241-7277. 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Write or call: FRIENDS JouRNAL, 1501 Cherry St., Philadelphia, PA 19102-1497 (215) 241 -7277 2 October 1990 FRIENDS JoURNAL October 1990 FRIENDS Volume 36, No. 10 JOURNAL Features Departments 7 Scattergood's Centennial 2 Among Friends David Rhodes Back on the farm, reunion is sweet. 4 Forum 9 A New Smoking Polllcy 5 VIewpoint Connie Toverud 20 Friendly Funnies Disagreement can lead to deeper unity. 30 Reports 11 A Student View 32 Witness Consensus in practice. 34 News of Friends 12 Children Attending Meeting Herb Lape 34 Young Friends Requiring attendance reflects the value we place on worship. 37 Bulletin Board 14 The Organization Gathers 38 Books Paul Blanshard Is this how our children see us? 39 Milestones 41 Calendar 16 From the Mouths of Quaker Children Jhan Robbins 41 ClassHieds Funny and profound, here's what they really think! 42 Meetings 17 The Best Things In LHe Are Free Althea Postlethwaite Poetry But moms and dads like roses better than dandelions. 16 Silence For Our Youth 18 Education for Parenting by Ruth Hultman Sara Park Scattergood The realities of parenthood become clear. 21 First Call for Children lngeborg Jack It's time to address the needs ofthe world's youngest citizens. 23 Thinking Locally, Acting Globally George Lakey PBI volunteers find ways to overcome fear and protect lives. 26 Witness at Akwesasne Phil Esmonde Friends have a role to play during conflict situations. Front and back covers: Chore crew heading for the farm at Scattergood School, 1960, courtesy ofLean ore Goodenow F'RIENDS JouRNAL October 1990 3 was a letter emphasizing how the death was reminded of Quakers-by Steiner's penalty is unfair and unjust. experiential, deep understanding of How can we tolerate in utero violence Christianity and his practical approaches and out of the same mouths decry the in many fields. His lectures, writings, and injustice of capital punishment? work led to biodynamic gardening, We believe the soul of a person is holy Waldorf schooling, the Camphill and sacred.and worth saving from the movement for the mentally retarded, and electric chair, or whatever death machine anthroposophic medicine, which treats the the state chooses: a soul who may have social and spiritual dimensions as well as raped, murdered, kidnapped, treasoned, the physical. abused, and otherwise molested other Steiner founded the Anthroposophical humans. We believe he/she can be Society, which, though modest in " reformed, if given the opportunity. We numbers, is still very active with hospitals, ~ don't believe the violent sins he/ she may clinics, farms, and schools worldwide. ~ have committed justify violence in return. Anthroposophism promotes the evolution ~ At the same time, a soul who did of one's whole being with a deep ~ nothing except begin living, a marvelous awareness of individual freedom. embryo of potentiality, a fetus full of life Has anyone explored Rudolf Steiner's and grace, is up to the knife and whim of work from a Quaker perspective? On Punctuality his/ her mother. Would a Friend help me .understand Lynn Bornholdt I'm sure other meetings also have the this? By our very nature, Friends must be P.O. Box 62 problem of persuading people to arrive on pro-life. All of life. Springdale, UT 84767 time for meeting for worship. This photo Brian Daniels [above] might be a helpful reminder. Portland, Ind. Yours in the nick of time, Not out of step Joseph Levenson Upon viewing RCA/Columbia Pictures' New York, N.Y. movie Listen to Me, I was compelled to In response to Richard Counihan write this letter. The movie pointed out (Forum FJ July): You do not need some extremely important thoughts counseling, nor should you beat your head Skepticism toward power concerning abortion. against the wall. (There is enough pain in Roe v. Wade granted women the much­ the world already.) The system is overdue In an admirably balanced article by deserved right to have full control over for change. If your " loving Friend" feels Phillips P. Moulton on the Nicaraguan their bodies. However, this right put upon the larger society is correct, however, you situation (FJ July) there appeared this women's and men's shoulders a much too may want to hold that Friend in the Light. statement: "Naturally, we tend to idealize burdensome cross, because they were Please do insist you "ain't going to those our government opposes (in this given the Creator's power to destroy life. take it anymore," especially to elected case, the Sandinistas) and to denigrate the According to the movie, abortion is officials. Just first pray for peace in your other side. biologically the woman's responsibility but own heart. After all, those who support Phil Moulton is quite right. That's the is ethically the responsibility of both men the war system are in a delusion and way we Friends do tend to behave. So and women. require care, which they will only be open customary is this behavior that his use of One of the hardest obstacles in the to accepting when it is offered by someone the word "naturally" is well chosen. But abortion issue is the fact men prefer to clearly better situated than they are. is it not possible such automatic side­ ignore the problem of abortion and Remember, however, that those in taking can lead us into unfortunate women shy from the responsibility of the powerful places have a vested interest in associations? Early Friends were careful to actions they are taking.