bg news An independent student press serving the campus and surrounding community, ESTABLISHED 1920 Bowling Green State University Monday, September 30, 2019 Volume 99, Issue 7 How to date on a college budget | Page 3 Tips on how to be a good kisser | Page 4 College-aged people don’t use condoms | Page 12 A COLLEGE STUDENT’S GUIDE TO LOVE BG NEWS September 30, 2019 | PAGE 2 How to end a relationship respectfully AnnaLynn Smith as difficult of a process. If one or both partners When one person decides they no longer blame or trying to soften a blow; just be Reporter are unhappy, however, the end is inevitable; want the relationship to continue, there honest,” Reed said. Juggling college coursework alongside a it is necessary to be upfront with the other is no benefit to waiting. The longer it has Overall, the key to a healthy breakup is open relationship can be difficult, especially when person if you want the intentions to be clear. only one-sided affection, the longer restless communication and honesty, and putting off romantic emotions start to fade. Breaking The more the reasons are sugar coated or the or frustrated emotions could fester. While the breakup can cause emotional harm to up with somebody is never an easy feat. Not conversation is put off, the more likely that the there is not a definitive moment to leave, the yourself and your partner. If you no longer get everyone knows how to do so with complete wrong signals will be sent. sooner it is, the healthier it will be for both a sense of fulfillment from your relationship, it respect of the other person while still staying “I would put it off because they were having parties involved. might be time to have the conversation. true to their own feelings. a good day and I didn’t want to ruin it, or I “I believe sitting down and talking it “The hardest part is feeling as if time would put it off because they were having a bad through calmly and in-person works best. is wasted, like you’re just somewhere you day and I didn’t want to make it worse. It never Be 100% honest and respectful about their shouldn’t be anymore. It’s time to end it when really felt like a good time,” Kiarra Reynolds, a feelings,” Reynolds said. you no longer enjoy the company of the other sophomore digital arts major, said. Reed agreed that honesty is important when person,” Ethan Reed, a junior physics When it comes to finding a way to approach keeping the breakup respectful. major, said. the other person, how do you decide when the “You end a relationship respectfully by Giving or receiving bad news can be equally “right time” really is? just explaining how you feel, without placing Relationship via smartphone Good ways to make long love distance work using technology according to experts, students “It was different seeing each other on a up, be willing to do fun things every now and with or what they’re doing — if they’re usually Marianne Vanderbeke more regular basis all the time, but in a good again so you’re not just being stagnant,” she very detailed in what they report they’re Reporter way. Seeing each other every day we don’t advises to those looking to make the switch. doing, you begin to question it. You begin to value the time as much as we did before, when Coger feels trust can be one of the biggest get these questions; the questions fester and “I exist in two places, here and where we first started dating, but it’s still good to be challenges couples face when they are apart. that doesn’t help the relationship. Ambiguity you are.” – Margaret Atwood together,” Thompson said. “There are communication techniques in communication is a no-no,” he added. College students are not strangers to long Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist who that help and/or hurt. Any time a person is Thompson also feels communication is key. distance relationships. The rise of two-income specializes in relationships, explained the ambiguous about who they’re hanging out “I felt like communication was different long families and global business practices have led distance could be a good thing in an article for distance. When you get to see each other, you to increasing numbers of relationships being Time Magazine. get to talk about the big things instead of just conducted from a distance, but for college “One of the greatest benefits is that you do moving through your day. Communication is students, they have been a common feature of a lot more talking and learning about each more meaningful. When you’re long-distance, the relationship landscape for many years. other, since you spend more time having you’re more excited to see the person,” she said. Laura Stafford, director for the School of conversations than you might if you were Coger also believes being in a LDR at some Media and Communication, has studied LDR sitting side-by-side watching Netflix, or out point during the relationship can actually be challenges throughout her career. She defines running errands or doing activities together,” better for a couple. the concepts and offers working solutions in she said. “(Success) depends on the maturity of each her writing. Adam Coger, a senior data science major, participant. When you have immature, young “(Couples are in an LDR) based on feels the same way. He is currently in an LDR, lovers they kind of form into one being early relational participants’ reports of the miles but has had others. into the relationship. That can make or break between them, of their residence in different “It was successful that we both knew it was a relationship. If you’re in a long-distance cities, of the number of nights a week they going to be a portion of our lives — where we relationship, things are thought out, things are spend apart, their inability to see each other were attending far away colleges. I feel like a planned out. It’s almost a safety net to prevent every day if they so desire, or simply if they lot of phone calls and video chatting made it a relationship from burning too hot, too fast consider themselves to be in an LDR,” she work,” he said. and burning out,” he said. explains in her book, “Maintaining Long- Both Coger and Nelson offered tips for The likelihood of having an LDR is growing. Distance and Cross-Residential Relationships.” making an LDR successful. They felt making Statistics show that nearly 75% of college Mickayla Thompson, senior human time to be together is important whenever students have already been in one — and development and family studies major, has possible. Nelson, however, was more focused many are open to the idea. Learning skills been in a LDR with her boyfriend for five on the struggles after the relationship to survive the challenges could be key to a years. She said making the change to college becomes more proximal. version of “happily ever after” including a life from high school helped their relationship “I feel like you have to not get stuck in a smartphone as a partner in the relationship. by bringing them closer together. routine. You have to be willing to switch stuff FORUM September 30, 2019 | PAGE 3 PEOPLEON Best cheap date ideas for BGSU students THESTREET Mary Ross Forum Editor 5. Build a fort and have a movie night lots of different fun things to do on your What would your response Hear me out: forts are extremely fun. What Friday nights. Coming up with date ideas that don’t cost be if a guy said he didn’t have could be more fun than building a sheet Price: Free. a ton of money can be difficult for college a condom? fort with your significant other or date with students. Below are a few cheap date ideas passwords required to get in and lots of food 9. 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