GESTALT ASSOCIATES TRAINING LOS ANGELES 38 th Annual European Summer Residential Training Programs for Therapists 2009 in Niagara Falls area, New York USA Couples Therapy Training Gestalt Therapy Training July 5 — 11, 2009 July 12 — 24, 2009 Gestalt Elders joining our Program in ‘09 | Child & Adolescent Track continuing www.gatla.org | www.couplestherapytraining.com Couples Therapy Training July 5 -1 1, 2009 www.couplestherapytraining.com Workshop for Therapists & www.gatla.org “A Bird May Love a Fish but Where Would They Live ?” Faculty: Robert W. Resnick, Ph.D. & Rita F. Resnick, Ph.D. FROM A FUSION MODEL TO A CONNECTION MODEL FROM STENCILS AND TEMPLATES TO MOVEMENT & PROCESS MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS TODAY (straight and gay) are, to a large extent, based on the assumption This model of coupling enthusiastically supports marriage and other committed long term relationships. that two individuals fuse into one. More than 50% of all first marriages end in divorce as do approximately 70% Only with a long-term primary relationship, can couples build a shared ground of mutual support and of second marriages. Add to this the remaining secretly “miserably married” – those living lives of quiet (or not so understanding. quiet) desperation based on fear of being alone, fear of damaging the children, financial insecurity, religious doctrine, The Resnicks are, however, fundamentally questioning how people historically and currently attempt to social stigma, etc. – and we begin to see the magnitude of the problem. Simply put, we are either all seriously do this. Clearly, current models of marriage and other committed long-term relationships do not work very disturbed (pathologizing all of us) or there is something fundamentally flawed with our traditional model of rela - well for most people. Trying harder at that which doesn’t work simply leads to more frustration and blaming tionships and marriage. Traditional models of marriage and coupling evolved within contexts that met the needs of of self or other. These programs are aimed at helping people have more nourishing, enduring and successful the situation (environment and people) at the time – FORM following FUNCTION. Unfortunately, when FORM marriages and other long-term primary relationships. becomes rigid while FUNCTION changes, our models become outdated and obsolete – vestiges and remnants Doing therapy with couples is more than embracing a theoretical orientation, a methodology or an eclectic of another time wreaking havoc on today’s attempts for mutually nourishing, long term , primary relationships. bag of tricks and techniques. It is more than coming up with “deep understandings ” from childhood, Dealing with differences is the second fundamental dynamic that is at the root of almost all couples issues. brokering behavioral “deals ” that usually only postpone the explosion and subsequent withdrawal, or Most people are acculturated to view difference as dangerous (as threats to their autonomy, criticisms, unhooking couples from their old narratives and trying to get them to buy the therapist ’s new story. In order attacks, betrayals, etc.) and therefore try to eradicate difference by either becoming like the other (fusion) or to do effective couples therapy, therapists need to look beyond trying to help “make the relationship work ” trying to make the other like them (conflict). In reality all contact (and connection) can only happen through within a coupling model that doesn ’t work and to widen their perspective and the clinical work to a process difference. Difference is connective tissue. The Resnicks, respectful and appreciative of difference, have approach. Relationships and marriage are difficult, rhythmical and not for the faint of heart. Most impor - evolved new ways to collaborate, engage, compromise, trade and even celebrate differences. tantly, ongoing primary relationships are worth the effort. Couples Therapy Training July 5 -1 1, 2009 COUPLES THERAPY TRAINING WORKSHOP WILL INCLUDE: www.couplestherapytraining.com Workshop for Therapists & www.gatla.org •Moving from trying to fix an outmoded “content” model of relationships and couples therapy to •Love, Intimacy, Boundaries, Power. an exciting “process” model of relationships and couples therapy — from fusion to connection. •The Resnicks’ “Circle of Relating .” •The ultimate and complex human dilemma: How to be connected with another and maintain •Intrapsychic, interpersonal, gender/societal/cultural/ ethnic/ religious (larger field) issues. a self... (Modulating the life long rhythm of separation and connection. This is a process and •Phenomenology: Meaning, meaning making systems and how we construct meaning. not a problem to be solved.) •A fresh look at society’s rules about, and models for, marriage - many of which are anachronistic. •Dealing with differences versus differences in dealing. •Being respectful of the individuals, the couple, the family as well as the ecosystem. •Individual and Societal Character Structures. •Topics include but are not limited to: models of marriage, dealing with differences, communication, •The coupling/uncoupling process. commitment, trust, contact, intimacy, love, power, assumptions, gender, differences and more. WORKSHOP DESCRIPTION A FIVE DAY SIX NIGHT RESIDENTIAL COUPLES THERAPY TRAINING WORKSHOP (Basic and Advanced the program. Therapists and Model Couples come together to explore personal reactions to the theory and levels) for therapists and allied professionals who work with couples and those interested in learning to work the clinical work in a warm, international, professional community of therapists and couples. with couples. You need not be part of a couple to attend. The Resnicks clearly and simply present their model of coupling and couples therapy and they compare Each day, the Resnicks work live (and perhaps some video) with real Model Couples to illustrate their their model to contemporary psychoanalytic, systemic, cognitive behavioral and postmodern approaches. way of encouraging couples to authentically represent themselves – hopefully with grace and discrimination. They are interested in integrative similarities as well as differences that separate and define. By having each member of a couple fully and authentically engage with his/her partner, each can discover MODEL COUPLES NEEDED The Resnicks are inviting 3 or 4 demonstration “Model Couples” to join this the degree of compatibility – by being who they are rather than who they and/or others believe they should workshop. Model couples participate in all discussions of the clinical work. The workshop is inclusive and be. Managed and postured relationships, while “working” temporarily, are fundamentally flawed and lead transparent. Please check our websites for additional information: www.couplestherapytraining.com and either to explosions and subsequent withdrawal, or they collapse into quiet desperation. Tragically, most www.gatla.org. For information about location, costs and dates, please see the Gestalt workshop relationships “fail” without the couple truly ever finding out whether or not they are compatible since they Components and the Information Pages in this brochure. simply don’t fully “show up”, because of fears, rules, expectations, habits and “shoulds .” This will be a practical, “hands – on” workshop with daily supervised practice for all therapists. All For information about location, costs and dates, please see the Gestalt workshop clinical work will be related to theory – to clarify and to make both more meaningful and practical. The Compents and the Information Pages in this brochure. Resnicks are real therapists working with real couples on real issues. Daily small process groups are part of 38th Annual Gestalt Therapy Training Program Program For 2009 July 12-24, 2009 | Niagara Falls area, New York USA 2009 MARKS THE 38TH YEAR of GATLA ’s Summer Residential Gestalt Therapy Training Program. This is STRONG COMMUNITY – International in scope – participants from 20-25 different countries. Internationally probably the oldest annual psychotherapy training program worldwide. The purpose of this program is to trained faculty. provide the highest quality training available for psychotherapists in Gestalt and Experiential psychotherapy FIVE LEVELS OF TRAINING Basic – MasterClass. Interdependent groups, interweaving theory, supervision, while retaining the flexibility to be adaptable to practitioners of Cognitive Behavior Therapy and other group work and personal therapy. relational models of therapy. All faculty will do clinical demonstrations and all work will be related to theory. Participants in the Clinical Practicum and MasterClass groups work with clients from lower groups SUPPORTIVE ENVIRONMENT – Therapists and consultants can do their own personal therapy and training in individual therapy under supervision of faculty, Gestalt Elders and/or Group Leaders. Our successful away from their home community. Master Class will continue in 2009 – a group for very experienced Gestalt Therapists . CLINICAL PRACTICUM – Participants have an individual therapy client whom they see daily with live super - There are many aspects of GATLA ’s Summer Residential Training Program that distinguish it from other vision. This offers an ongoing experience both with therapy and intensive supervision over time. Additional training programs in Gestalt Therapy and make it a cutting edge training opportunitiy as well as a bench - information on page 4. mark for Gestalt Therapy Training Programs worldwide: MASTERCLASS