Ep #23: Insights from a Seasoned Coach with Maggie Reyes Full Episode Transcript With Your Host Lindsay Dotzlaf Mastering Coaching Skills with Lindsay Dotzlaf Ep #23: Insights from a Seasoned Coach with Maggie Reyes Hi, this is Lindsay Dotzlaf and you are listening to Mastering Coaching Skills, episode 23. To really compete in the coaching industry, you have to be great at coaching. That’s why every week, I will be answering your questions, sharing my stories, and offering tips and advice so you can be the best at what you do. Let’s get to work. Hello, love. I’m so glad you’re here today. You are in for a treat because I am talking to one of my colleagues, a coach that I have worked with, one of the best coaches in the industry, who has been doing it for longer than any coach that I know, that I am friends with. She has so much energy. Her love and energy are contagious. She is brilliant. I could go on and on and on all day. She’s also so fun and a good friend of mine. Her name is Maggie Reyes. If you don’t know her, she is a marriage mentor and life coach. She helps women change their marriages and loves to say she’s changing the world one marriage at a time, which is one of my favorite things. So, I’m going to let her introduce herself. And I hope that you have so much fun listening to this. We drop some major truth bombs while having a lot of fun. So, what’s better than that? Here we go. -- Lindsay: Hello. How are you today? Maggie: I’m so happy to be here. Lindsay: Yay, I am so happy you are here. I have been looking forward to this. This is going to be so fun. First, I want you to introduce yourself. Maggie: Hello, everyone. my name is Maggie Reyes. Lindsay: And tell them what you do. Mastering Coaching Skills with Lindsay Dotzlaf Ep #23: Insights from a Seasoned Coach with Maggie Reyes Maggie: I am a life coach, and the marriage life coach, to be precise. Lindsay: I love it. And you’re my coach. I have been working with you for about six months. Maggie: Yeah, just coming into seven months now. It’s amazing. Lindsay: So, we are colleagues. I have also been working with you. You are one of the best coaches I know. And when I thought about who do I want to have on my podcast, because I love talking to coaches that I think are just great examples of really great coaching in the industry, because you know that’s what I love to focus on, I thought of you, so I’m so glad you’re here. Maggie: I have to say, it’s a sacred honor to be your coach. It’s a sacred honor to be a coach and help people in a pivotal moment of their lives, always. And it’s an extra special honor, like with a cherry on top, when someone who studies the craft of coaching for a living and teaches the craft of coaching for a living says I’m one of the best coaches you know. In my heart, in a special sort of next to Oprah little trophy case in my heart, that sentence is there. Lindsay: Well, I always say that I don’t think any coaching is bad. I think just having someone to listen to you and having someone to just give you perspective of your mind that you don’t already have, that can never be a bad thing. But when you come across a great coach, there is just something so magical about it. I am like, I just want to hire you forever. I’m just going to put you on retainer and just have you forever. Let’s just make that deal now so that everybody hears it and you can’t ever go back. Maggie: I was too busy laughing to answer but we’ll talk about that offline. Lindsay: Perfect, just let me know what the price is. I’ll make it, whatever it is. Okay, so, I just have so many questions. And I do also want to say, you have a podcast. Tell them what it’s called because I always mess up… Mastering Coaching Skills with Lindsay Dotzlaf Ep #23: Insights from a Seasoned Coach with Maggie Reyes Maggie: Yes, it’s called The Marriage Life Coach Podcast. Lindsay: Okay, I did an interview on your podcast where we talked all about marriages and relationships and all of that. So, if they want to hear us talk about marriages, they should go there and listen. Maggie: And I’ll send you the link in the show notes. So, it might not be on when this show airs, but if you go to Lindsay’s website, we’ll update it as soon as that show airs. I’m all about show notes. Lindsay: Oh yes, you plan things a lot further ahead than I do, so I forgot that it’s not actually out yet. So, they might actually come out around the same time. Anyway, I just want to say, today we’re going to talk mostly about coaching, also some about your program. So, there’ll be a little marriage mixed in. But if anybody wants to hear us talk about marriages, go to your podcast, and just go to her podcast in general… Maggie: Yeah, if you’re curious and you want to hear what Lindsay is like as a client, like a behind the scenes. The best. First of all, she’s equally as awesome as a client as she is as a teacher and as a coach. No surprise. But if you want to hear that, you’ll have a lot of fun listening to that episode too. Lindsay: That’s funny. Okay, so one thing I said before we hopped on here and we were chatting is I said I don’t actually know how you got into coaching. And I want you to tell me now so that we can all know. Maggie: So, this is what happened. I got married. It all comes back to that for me. When I met my husband, I was working in HR. I had a job that was very sexy. A lot of my friends liked it, I travelled all over the world hiring people for a cruise line. Part of it was a little bit sexy and part of it was just like schlepping to places to hire people, right? But things were fine. And I met my husband and I had this experience that was the most incredible sense of rightness. Some people have that with their partners. Mastering Coaching Skills with Lindsay Dotzlaf Ep #23: Insights from a Seasoned Coach with Maggie Reyes Some people have that with their kids, with a pet, with a hobby, when you’re in the flow and you’re like, this is what life is all about… Lindsay: With a business… Maggie: With a business. Some people have it in a coaching session, that can happen very often, where you just feel like, “This is what I was on earth to do,” or that feeling. And for me, I’d had it before with hobbies and things. But when I met my husband, I really understood that incredible sense of rightness in a deeper, deeper way. And what it revealed to me was everything that didn’t feel that way. Once I had an anchor for it, I was like, “Oh, all these other things are not that.” And so, as we developed a relationship and then we got married, I went through this stage where it was really like, “What do I want to be when I grow up…” kind of stage. I was like, I think there’s more to life than this. I’m not quite sure what it is. What does that look like? And I took all the aptitude tests. I took the strengths, all of those quizzes. I’m like, how will I figure this out, was really part of it. And during that time, I worked with my very first coach. Her name is Christine Kane. I love her very much to this day. But it’s so beautiful to think about, for all of you coaches listening, the clients you have today like five years from now, six years from now, 10 years from now, they’ll say, “Oh she was my coach in this really important chapter in my life.” And that will always be part of your legacy. It’s just a beautiful thing to think about. Lindsay: I love that. Maggie: Isn’t that cool? So, working with her, I went back to school as an adult. So, still working in HR. I went back to school. I got my little community college degree. At the time, Barack Obama was president and he was the commencement speaker at my graduation. And I just thought, “Wait, when I go back to school, the universe organizes itself so that I can Mastering Coaching Skills with Lindsay Dotzlaf Ep #23: Insights from a Seasoned Coach with Maggie Reyes have Obama as my commencement speaker.” I was like, Harvard probably has the secretary of the treasury. I got the president. Lindsay: That is incredible. And I’m like, “What? How did that happen?” But that’s for another day.