“Why Isn’t It the Same as Any Other Family?”: Understanding Emergent Family Narratives and Early Education Experiences Among LGBTQ+ Parents The Harvard community has made this article openly available. Please share how this access benefits you. Your story matters Citation Matthews, Timothy Joseph. 2020. “Why Isn’t It the Same as Any Other Family?”: Understanding Emergent Family Narratives and Early Education Experiences Among LGBTQ+ Parents. Doctoral dissertation, Harvard Graduate School of Education. Citable link https://nrs.harvard.edu/URN-3:HUL.INSTREPOS:37364535 Terms of Use This article was downloaded from Harvard University’s DASH repository, and is made available under the terms and conditions applicable to Other Posted Material, as set forth at http:// nrs.harvard.edu/urn-3:HUL.InstRepos:dash.current.terms-of- use#LAA ! !! ! "#$%!&'()*!&*!*$+!',-+!,'!,(%!.*$+/!0,-&1%234!5(6+/'*,(6&(7!8-+/7+(*!9,-&1%! :,//,*&;+'!,(6!8,/1%!86<=,*&.(!8>?+/&+(=+'!@-.(7!ABCDEF!G,/+(*'! ! ! ! ! ! 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