Today: Our annual spring fashions section The Daily Register VOL. 99 NO.223 SHREWSBURY, N. J. TUESDAY, MARCH 29, 1977 15 CENTS Facing death, they meet to lift their spirits By LINDA ELMS At a CAP meeting last night, a psychiatric nurse, a so- seem to have passed the anger and the depression stages derstand his fears for his family's financial future. They are facing death. cial worker and American Cancer Society volunteers met and are coming into the acceptance phase. A woman who had a brain tumor removed related that Everyone Is, of course, but few of us know when, where with the four. There is a professional at all meetings. Any anger that surfaced was directed at unsympathetic she had shaken her feelings of anger at herself and fixed a or how. CAP is a project of the Monmouth County unit of the physicians and/or relatives, friends who will not grasp the fancy meal recently, something she has not done for years. Terminal cancer patients have the edge there. They American Cancer Society* The county is the second in the reality of the death that the patient wants desperately to She said it is Important to be valuable to her family while know the parameters of their lives. The details of death for state to form such groups and hopes to include Ocean Coun- talk about. she lives. them are not totally predictable, but there Is a pattern of ty residents in Us plans. "Cancer that has spread precipitates a crisis that can de- " Why mer I asked myself at first," Mr. B said. events, a common thread of crises. One floor above last night, spouses of cancer victims stroy even a well-functioning family . psychological sup- " 'Why not me' is the answer I got. I am trying to do things to Do these patients with carcinoma as a constant in their were letting feelings How with the only people who under- port is vital," Maureen Johnson, a CAP founder said. help the family. I didn't want to be buried, but my eldest lives, take a world cruise, curl up with all the good books stand those feelings: each other. Crisis Intervention and one-to-one counseling are avail- daughter made me agree. they never had time to read, crawl into bed and shut out the • Last week, parents of children with cancer met in able through the group. All services are free. • " 'Dad,' she said, 'I need to know that you were here' " world? Shrewsbury. In April, parents whose children died of Cancer "Until I started coming here there was no one I could Mr. B recounted. Not often, according to cancer specialists and psy- will begin meeting, also in Shrewsbury. CAP groups meet talk to," Mrs. A, a wife and mother of three children, said. CAP members telephone each other if there is a need to chiatrists who deal with- the disease daily. once every two weeks. "I recall helping with a child's birthday party. I was start- talk. The (our cancer victims who met to lift each others spir- Penny Rowland, who lost her husband to Hodgkin's dis- ing to blow up balloons. The mother snatched the balloon Each patient spoke of the comfort that CAP has brought its last night at the Colts Neck Reformed Church are prime ease, is coordinator of the CAP project. The program was away. She knew I had cancer. I guess she thought the air into his or her life. examples of the primal urge to squeeze every ounce out of established to provide guidance and counseling to Individuals would carry the cancer to the children. And she was a "A faith healer told me to go to Lourdes," Mr. B said. life's Juices while they can. and families to help ease the emotional shock that comes friend. No one, no one but the people here tonight can under- "If I had the money I guess I would. But I don't and even at The Cancer Adjustment Program (CAP) Is helping. with a cancer diagnosis. stand how I feel." Lourdes there's no guarantee." The female patients pride themselves in fixing family There are clearly-defined reactions to a diagnosis of » One said it seems to burden others if cancer and death It's not Lourdes at the Colts Neck church, but CAP Is meals; the men in teaching their wives how to manage fi- death, Dr. Martin Chesloek, of Long Branch, a cancer speci- come Into conversation. providing the next best thing to a miracle: total emotional nances. alist, said in a February Interview. The patients last night A man with a swiftly spreading melanoma said few un- support. Carter seen giving thought to*delay on base transfers By JIM OSTROFF members were very upset on all such transfers would be has asked for the face-to-face within SO miles of Capitol WASHINGTON- President about his opposition to vari- in order. session to detail an alterna- mi. Carter Is reportedly "giving ous water bills," the aide "The speaker then told the tive for reorganizing ECOM. Two of the three sites all consideration" to a six- said, "but there would be President that he hoped (the This plan, dubbed "B-3", is dated to receive ECOM jobs month moratorium on mili- even a larger problem if mili- military) wouldn't go ahead one of 10 studied by the Army, under the Army's plan art tary base transfers like the tary bases started closings with the closings and trans- would locate headquarters of within this tone, while a third - one at Ft. Monmouth, N.J and huge cutbacks." fers based on evidence gath- the new Electronics Research is just outside It. The President's pledge was ered by the previous adminis- and Development Command Meanwhile, action Is afoot Specifically, the speaker tration." the aide said. (ERADCOM) at Ft. Mon- made to House Speaker noted the "uproar" that fol- by the National Federation of President Carter reportedly mouth and bring about 104 Thomas P. O'Neill Jr. at an lowed an Army announce- Federal Employes (NFFE) te told the speaker he would civilian employes from small Informal White House dinner ment on March 18 that it block any ECOM transfers. "give these suggestions all Capital-area laboratories with last Thursday, according to planned to eliminate 756 jobs Michael O'Reilly, a West consideration." it. the speaker's executive assis- at Ft. Monmouth In a plan to Long Branch attorney, said tant. reorganize the huge Elec- However, a check by The The New Jersey delegation yesterday that he would seek, "The speaker and Mrs. tronics Command (ECOM) Dally Register with the White contends that this plan will an injunction against any ' O'Neill had come to the din- there at three Capital-area House congressional liaison save the Army $1.1 million ECOM transfers Thursday fci : ner when the President asked laboratories. office revealed that President more annually than the U.S. District Court In Trait- "' him about the furor (in the Carter has still to accede or Army's own "preferred al- ton. House) about a plan to cut- Mr. O'Neill, who hours be- even acknowledge a,request ternative." An attorney for the-KFFE, back on water projects na- fore the White House dinner by the Garden State's entire Mr. Howard has particu- Mr. O'Reilly said he was tionwide," reported the aide, talked with Rep. James J congressional delegation and larly hit the preferred al- awaiting written confirmation who asked not to be identi- Howard, D-N.J., In whose dis- several local mayors for a ternative as violating a 1MJ of a verbal agreement with fied. trict the fort is located, re- meeting with him. Defense Department mandate Assistant U.S. Attorney Wil- liam Staehle yesterday that "Speaker O'Neill told the portedly told the President Mr. Howard, acting as against moving any new mili- See transfer, page 2 Wf-RR President that some (House) that a six-month moratorium spokesman for the delegation. tary missions into any area TOUGH DAY — Mrs. Anne Klein, state human services commissioner, ap- pears delected as she passes welfare pickets In front of the Storehouse In Dead star steals the show Trenton yesterday. The demonstrators were calling for an Increase-In wel- fare appropriations/ which Mrs. Klein has also requested. By PETER J. BOVER fort to produce a more digni- from two presenters to one. Stallone's "Rocky" took three appointment he may have felt fied show. Unlike last year, when Oscars. at losing in the Best Actor LOS ANGELES (AP) - A What he got was a more "One Flew Over the Cuck- "It was a classic case of category. scathing satire on the tele- dignified show that dragged oo's Nest" swept all the ma- timing, man and material," Asked If it was true that he vision industry, a Cinderella In parts. jor categories, this year's Stallone said in a backstage wrote the enormously popular tale of a second-rate boxer's "It looks like we could have homage by the film industry assessment of the film that at film in three days, the 10- Benefit hike sought to Itself lacked a big winner reach for the top and a Wa- used some of that mean- one time nobody wanted if he year-old actor replied, "I tergate detective story took ingless Interchange," one "Network" and "All the Pres- was to be part of the deal. wrote it In two'days, but I ident's Men," each with four most of the Oscars at the 41th Academy official mumbled In Stallone, who wrote "Rocky," didn't want to seem like a statuettes, won the most.