Sexual Consent Form (Who needs it and why use it?) Superstar athletes, actors, rock stars, politicians, even entrepreneurs have groupies that will do just about anything to have sex with them, but can they be trusted? Will they lie about the act being consensual? Could they threaten to sue or worse still, make an accusation about sexual assault? You bet they can! So how can these people who are regularly out of town and away from home, which can lead to loneliness and result in temptation, protect themselves? Condoms can protect from STD’s and unwanted pregnancy. Another form of protection is to have a signed Sexual Consent Form before having any sex as I described on TV’s Celebrity Justice, CNN with Anderson Cooper , ABC News, NBC News, Fox News and Good Morning America right after Kobe Bryant was accused of sexual misconduct. Even Jay Leno talked about my Sexual Consent Form in his monologue on The Tonight Show. If you think that a sexual consent form is only for the rich and famous, think again. Even if you have no assets, you need to protect yourself from false accusations because you can lose everything including your personal property, freedom and reputation. There are many other benefits to signing a sexual consent form, including the fact that you literally open up a form of intimate communication prior to rushing into sex. And, ladies the sexual consent form can protect you from being taken advantage of sexually because there is an “out clause” that stipulates that if you say the words “CODE RED,” your partner must stop immediately. I chose this phrase because the words “NO” and “STOP” have been used all too frivolously in our society and unfortunately, they are not always taken seriously. By using the Sexual Consent Form with an FDA approved condom, you could protect yourself legally and sexually. So to summarize why I created The Sexual Consent Form, here are 10 good reasons to use one before engaging in sex. 1. The Sexual Consent form is a cautionary way for one person to ask permission to have sex with another. 2. There will be no confusion or miscommunication as far as sexual consent is concerned by both parties. 3. Nobody is obligated to sign the Sexual Consent Form if they are not ready for sexual intimacy. 4. The Sexual Consent Form can be a form of foreplay since you get to talk about safer sex and sexual behavior before rushing into it. This can create open communication and lead to mutual trust and respect. 5. You and your partner get to choose which sexual activities you want to indulge in and list special requests in writing so there are no unrealistic expectations or misunderstandings. 6. Women can benefit by signing The Sexual Consent Form even if they change there minds in the middle of the sex act. However, instead of using the words “NO” or “STOP” which have been used frivolously, playfully and teasingly in the past and are not always taken seriously, I created the phrase CODE RED which will not be mistaken for anything other than “HIGH ALERT” hands off, you’ve gone too far. You may be interested to know that non-sexual “Code Words” are often used as an ‘Out Clause’ in consensual B & D/Bondage and Domination and S & M/ Sado Masochism activities so that people don’t get carried away. 7. The Sexual Consent Form can protect men from manipulative women who may bring false charges of sexual misconduct for financial gain. Remember that even men who have no assets need to protect themselves from false accusations because they can lose everything including their property, freedom and their reputation until found innocent. 8. The Sexual Consent form is NOT a rape tool. On the contrary, I believe that it could prevent rapes because most rapists attack total strangers and they are not likely to use a Sexual Consent Form to coerce a victim. 9. As for the argument that a woman can be forced into signing it, I contend that a handwriting expert could probably identify a forced signature. 10. Of course any contract is contestable, including a surgery consent form, prenuptial or Will. But if I were accused, I would rather go to court with a signed Sexual Consent Form than without one. The Sexual Consent Form would be admissible and relevant as evidence of consent if signed by the alleged victim. Sexual Consent Form & Right of Privacy Agreement I, ________________________________, hereby declare under penalty of perjury that I am over 18 years old. I further declare that this agreement is of my own free will and that neither I nor anyone near or dear to me has been threatened with harm or embarrassment. Both parties agree that this is a private agreement not to be disclosed to third parties except in case of accusation of sexual misconduct by the agreeing party. If he/she shows or makes public this agreement without accusation of sexual misconduct, it is agreed that he/she will be liable for damages for invasion of privacy. By initialing ______ I agree to engage in all or some of the following consensual acts. Sexual fondling and kissing _____ Oral copulation (mutual) ______ Oral copulation (unilateral) by _____________________only Sexual intercourse _____ with an FDA approved condom at all times Other consensual sexual conduct to be specified: ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________ I further declare that I am at this time not under the influence of alcohol, drugs or medication and agree to engage in consensual with: __________________________________ At this time I do not intend to change my mind before the sex act or acts are over. However, if I do, it is further understood that when I say the words “CODE RED” my partner agrees to STOP INSTANTLY! Signed: _________________________ Date: __________________________ Signed: _________________________ Date: ____________________________ Disclaimer: Check with your attorney before entering into any agreement. © Dr. Ava Cadell www.avacadell.com .