SACRED UNION Awakening to the Consciousness of Eden Also by Tanishka The Inner Goddess Makeover Sacred Union: Awakening to the Consciousness of Eden, Volume One: Creating Sacred Union Within Coming Soon Sacred Union: Awakening to the Consciousness of Eden, Volume Three: Creating Sacred Union in Community SACRED UNION Awakening to the Consciousness of Eden By TANISHKA Volume Two: Red Tantra Creating Sacred Union in Partnership Copyright © 2014 by Tanishka All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced by any mechanical, photographic or electronic process, or in the form of a phonographic recording; nor may it be stored in a retrieval system, transmitted, or otherwise copied for public or private use—other than 'fair use' as brief quotations embodied in articles and reviews— without the prior written permission of the publisher. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to assist in personal growth and self-awareness. In the event you use any of the information contained within this book, as is your legal right, no responsibility will be assumed by the publisher for your actions. First Printing: 2014 ISBN: 978-0-9874263-3-8 Published by Star of Ishtar Publishing P.O. Box 101, Olinda VIC 3788 Australia www.starofishtar.com Dedication To those who are dedicated to restoring the sacred balance of opposites here on Earth. Acknowledgements I would like to thank the Christ, the Magdalene, Ishtar, Gaia, Luna and Sol for pouring their teachings through me as a channel, as well as their patience and faith in me to birth this book. I am also deeply grateful to all my clients who have entrusted me with their vulnerability enabling me to midwife this information from Source. Endless love and gratitude to my Beloved, Michael for his willingness to process and move into deeper states of intimacy and ecstasy with me, as well as the incredible humility he instills in me through his acts of kindness and humor we see in our shared shadow selves. I would also like to acknowledge the opportunity he gifted me in embracing these practices wholeheartedly and his assistance editing these teachings. I would also like to acknowledge a heartfelt thanks to my parents for teaching me so much about relationships, all my partners who schooled me through my apprenticeship in dancing with my shadow and a huge outpouring of gratitude to my daughter, Ariella who is ‘steady, slow and wise’ to coin her self-appraisal at age six! An ancient Tantrika, at eleven, she continues to be one of my greatest teachers. I would also like to thank my beloved mentors, Kermit the Frog (my first ‘Green Man’), Alice Bailey (for decoding the archetypal hero’s journey), Stephen Robinson (my teenage poetry and drama coach), Jen Powell (who initiated me into Women’s Mysteries), Warwick Sayer (my Astrology teacher) Evelynne Joffe (my Kabbalah teacher) and Osho (for making Zen and Kundalini Practices accessible through his legacy). A deep gratitude to my Red Tent sisters, Annie and Elinor, for loving me through all my life transitions, Barbara and Tereza for their service as dream holders and the village who helped me balance parenthood with service to the greater good during my years as a sole parent: Deb, Karen, Bronwen, Wilma, Charity, Dani, Michelle, Evgenia, Kirsten, Echo, China and Lael - thank-you. A huge thanks to you too, Nick for your beautiful love as a brother in addition to your sound alchemy and graphic design. To Bel, for always making my work shine in Technicolor with your design wizardry, to Jane for her web support and good humor, and to Anne for being a total gun and the best VA anyone could wish for - thank-you for lifting the burden of endless admin off my shoulders and helping me get my message out to the world. A huge thank-you to Luanne for formatting my book so well and getting it print ready with such grace. Table of Contents ☤The Path of Red Tantra ............................................. 1 Creating Sacred Union in Partnership .....................................1 ☤Relationship Revolution ............................................ 9 Why Relationships Are Evolving or Dissolving ..........................9 ☤Transcending Co-dependent Gender Roles ............. 27 From Wedlock to Empowered Inter-dependence .................... 27 ☤The Key to True Love .............................................. 39 Healing the Brother / Sister Connection ................................ 39 ☤How Porn Disempowers and Addicts ...................... 51 The Truth about the Shadow Side of Sex .............................. 51 ☤Understanding the Power of Attraction .................. 73 The Ebb and Flow of the Mating Dance ................................. 73 ☤The Ego Versus Soul in Relationships ................... 101 Transcending ‘Can’t Live With You, Can’t Live Without You’ ... 101 ☤Soul Mates, Twin Flames and the Beloved ............ 115 The Purpose and Role of Our Intimate Connections .............. 115 ☤Words Of Wisdom from the Holy Couple ............... 135 Riddles to Ask a Prospective Lover to Ensure a Sacred Union ............................................................................. 135 ☤Reclaiming the Hieros Gamos ............................... 143 The Sacred Wedding Between the God and Goddess ............ 143 ☤Becoming a Sexual Activist ................................... 165 How Sexuality Holds the Key to Our Liberation and Evolution ........................................................................ 165 ☤The Seven Stages of the Conscious Courtship ...... 173 ‘Surrendering to’ Rather Than ‘Falling in’ Love ..................... 173 ☤Lovemaking with a Woman’s Cycle ....................... 183 Understanding the Phases of Feminine Sexuality ................. 183 ☤Lovemaking with a Man’s Cycle ............................ 191 Understanding the Phases of Masculine Sexuality ................ 191 ☤The True Power of Oral Sex .................................. 197 Worshipping the Temple Gates ......................................... 197 ☤The Seven Languages of Lovemaking ................... 211 Expressing the Archetypal Light Body ................................ 211 ☤Sampling the Dark Fruits of Your Lover at the Seven Gates ............................................................ 255 Connecting Soul to Soul in the Shadowlands of Autumn / Winter ........................................................................... 255 ☤Sensual and Sacred Rituals for Lovers .................. 279 How to Keep the Spark Alive! ........................................... 279 ☤The Seven Year Itch ............................................. 289 Climbing Jacob’s Ladder in Conscious Union ....................... 289 ☤Resources by Tanishka ......................................... 297 ☤Bibliography ......................................................... 299 ☤About the Author .................................................. 301 SACRED UNION by Tanishka A Meeting A Knowing between kindred souls that the time has come... ...for light to meet dark for day to kiss night for summer to know winter... ...so each may be student and teacher aware of both strengths and weaknesses willing to share all to become what they are not but promise to be with a single intent... ...to illuminate all when moon reflects sun and sun shines on moon... ...to dance around the seasonal wheel and surrender their fate to the knowing of the ages accepting only one who’s true spouse is the Great Beyond having made the vow to serve so that their journey through the cups is offered up to all of humanity... ...drinking all that they have scryed and distilled as a gesture of thanks for all that they have known in the presence of the other ☤The Path of Red Tantra Creating Sacred Union in Partnership The path of Red Tantra is the journey of the inner Queen / King - a phase which, chronologically, is activated in our life path during the ages thirty through sixty. This path of creating Sacred Union externally with another is only truly possible when we have learnt to balance our inner opposites. (This is the foundation work covered in the first volume of this series, ‘Creating Sacred Union Within’.) Given that we have been blindly navigating the terrain of relationships without the guidance of ancient wisdom to steer our ships, the majority of modern day relationships have not matured past the stage of falling in love with a projected ideal. This is illustrated in the Tarot as the coupling of the inner maiden and knight in the ‘Three of Cups’ card. This card depicts a level of relationship where we feel ‘in love’ with our own unexpressed aspects, which we project externally onto another. So we feel incomplete without them, hence the old relationship paradigm term: ‘my other half’. This relationship model is known as co-dependency, a dynamic where we rely upon ‘the other’ to do that which we think we are unable to do for ourselves. Understandably, this status quo eventually creates feelings of neediness, disempowerment, suffocation and resentment until we individuate from the other in order to grow into a fuller version of ourselves. If we don't use this time on our own to embrace the White Path of Tantra: Creating Sacred Union Within, we simply fall in love again with our projection of the 1 Sacred Union perfect partner and then reject them when we realize they too, are human and incomplete. Unconscious Partnerships Play Out in Three Stages 1. The Honeymoon Phase. This is when we fall in love with our opposite or disowned self externally in someone else.