MEET MYSELF TO CONNECT WITH OTHERS OBJECTIVES • Understand myself and what drives my decisions • Get a glimpse of and appreciate all the different personality types • Handle challenging situations with clients skillfully and calmly WHAT IS NLP? • Richard Bandler and John Grinder (70s) • Virginia Satir – Magic – Family Therapy – Words • Fritz Perls– Gestalt Therapy • Milton Ericson – Hypnosis • The Structure of Magic – 1st NLP Book MERCEDES MODEL Feelings and Values Thoughts and Beliefs • Outcome Responses and Behavior • Wyatt Woodsmall, the key for permanent change is change in beliefs NLP PRESUPPOSITIONS • The MAP is not the reality • Meet people in their model of the world • Refuse • Listen • Accept and Understand / not agree • Agree NLP PRESUPPOSITIONS • There is a positive intention behind every human communication • Smaller tasks are easier to manage • The meaning of your communication is the response you get • You can not not communicate • No failure only feedback NLP PRESUPPOSITIONS • People make the best choice at any given moment • Process is more important than the content • Seek the benefit out of any context • Possible for others possible for me • All people have all the needed resources in an area or 2 (butterfly circus) NLP PRESUPPOSITIONS • The mind builds on the last experience • Mind and body affect each other • The most flexible people are the ones with better chances of success VALUES AND BELIEFS • Values: What’s Important for you • Beliefs: What’s true for you • People have a set of beliefs under each value • Different people will probably have different beliefs for the same value VALUES – PICK 5 VALUES FROM THIS LIST Family Success Achievement Passion Empowerment Excitement Adventure Learning Spirituality Peace Achievement Teamwork Engagement Accomplishment Accountability Gratitude Decisiveness Dedication Commitment Security Risk Taking Creativity Persistence Structure Support Productivity Energy Fun Quality Efficiency Empathy Challenge Respect Loyalty Uniqueness Legacy VALUES – PICK 5 VALUES FROM THIS LIST Flexibility Enjoyment Making a Difference Balance Discipline Control Self Confidence Leadership Knowledge Comfort Results Oriented Trust Harmony Dependability Imagination Talent Potential Self Reliance Responsibility Security Risk Taking Creativity Persistence Structure Exploration Professionalism Purpose Friendship Vitality Vision Wealth Justice Compassion Strength Resourcefulness Openness TOP 3 VALUES • Pick top 3 values and write down 3 beliefs under each. • Responsibility: • Employees need to deliver their work on time. • Responsible people show commitment to help and support their friends and team. • We tend to rely on responsible people / or leaders. ENNEAGRAM HISTORY OF ENNEAGRAM • The Enneagram of Personality, or simply the Enneagram (from the Greek words ἐννέα [ennéa, meaning "nine"] and γράμμα [grámma, meaning something "written" or "drawn"[1]]) • Nine interconnected personality types. • Contemporary Enneagram claims are principally derived from the teachings of Oscar Ichazo and Claudio Naranjo. Naranjo's theories were partly influenced by some earlier teachings of George Gurdjieff. ENNEAGRAM ASSESSMENT THE 9 PASSIONS • Type 1: Anger • Type 2: Pride • Type 3: Deceit • Type 4: Envy • Type 5: Avarice • Type 6: Fear • Type 7: Gluttony • Type 8: Lust • Type 9: Sloth CLIENT’S SENTENCES VS. POSITIVE INTENTIONS • You’re very late • I don’t like the design • This is not what we agreed on • It’s not my responsibility • I want this done ASAP PERCEPTUAL POSITIONING • Learning the detach ourselves • The Wise Man position • How to do it on the fly.