ETERNAL MARRIAGE STUDENT MANUAL Religion 234 and 235 ETERNAL MARRIAGE STUDENT MANUAL Preparing for an Eternal Marriage, Religion 234 Building an Eternal Marriage, Religion 235 Prepared by the Church Educational System Published by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Salt Lake City, Utah Send comments and corrections, including typographic errors, to CES Editing, 50 E. North Temple Street, Floor 8, Salt Lake City, UT 84150-2772 USA. E-mail: [email protected] © 2001, 2003 by Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved Printed in the United States of America English approval: 6/03 CONTENTS Preface Communication Using the Student Manual . viii Related Scriptures . 31 Purpose of the Manual . viii Selected Teachings . 31 Organization of the Manual . viii Family Communications, Living by Gospel Principles . viii Elder Marvin J. Ashton . 32 Abortion Listen to Learn, Elder Russell M. Nelson . 35 Selected Teachings . 1 Covenants and Ordinances Abuse Selected Teachings . 38 Selected Teachings . 3 Keeping Our Covenants . 38 Abuse Defined . 3 Our Covenant-Based Relationship with the Lord . 40 Policy toward Abuse . 3 Wayward Children Born under Causes of Abuse . 3 the Covenant . 47 Avoiding Abuse . 4 Covenant Marriage, Elder Bruce C. Hafen . 47 Healing the Tragic Scars of Abuse, Dating Standards Elder Richard G. Scott . 5 Selected Teachings . 51 Adjustments in Marriage For the Strength of Youth: Fulfilling Selected Teachings . 9 Our Duty to God, booklet . 52 Adjusting to In-Laws . 9 Debt Financial Adjustments . 9 Related Scriptures . 59 Adjusting to an Intimate Relationship . 9 Selected Teachings . 59 Related Scriptures . .10 To the Boys and to the Men, Atonement and Eternal Marriage President Gordon B. Hinckley . 60 “The Peaceable Things of the Kingdom,” Differences Inherent between Elder Jeffrey R. Holland . 11 Men and Women Birth Control Selected Teachings . 63 Selected Teachings . 14 For Time and All Eternity, I Have a Question, Dr. Homer Ellsworth . 17 Elder Boyd K. Packer . 66 Charity The Joy of Womanhood, Sister Margaret D. Nadauld . 70 Selected Teachings . 19 Divorce Related Scriptures . 19 Selected Teachings . 73 Becoming Partakers of the Divine Nature . 20 Related Scriptures . 73 Commitment Concern for Family Life . 73 Selected Teachings . 21 Growing Plague of Divorce Is Not of God . 73 Our Solemn Responsibilities, President Gordon B. Hinckley . 22 Marriage and Divorce, Elder David B. Haight . 74 Endure and Be Lifted Up, Education Elder Russell M. Nelson . 26 Selected Teachings . 77 Prepare for the Future . 77 iv CONTENTS Importance of Education for Women . 78 Cornerstones of a Happy Home, Equality of Men and Women President Gordon B. Hinckley . 127 Selected Teachings . 79 Cultivating Divine Attributes, Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin . 130 Eternal Perspective Selected Teachings . 81 Happiness in Marriage Selected Teachings . 133 The Family: A Proclamation to the World Marriage Brings Happiness and Joy . 133 The Family: A Proclamation to the World, First Presidency and Quorum of the Satan Tries to Destroy Happiness . 134 Twelve Apostles . 83 Holy Spirit of Promise Selected Teachings . 84 Selected Teachings . 136 Principle of Faith . 84 Independence Principle of Prayer . 85 Selected Teachings . 137 Principle of Repentance . 86 Intimacy in Marriage Principle of Forgiveness in Marriage . 88 Selected Teachings . 139 Forgiveness: The Ultimate Form of Love, Related Scripture . 139 Elder Marion D. Hanks . 89 Physical Intimacy Ordained of God . 139 Principle of Mutual Respect . 90 Physical Intimacy Only in Marriage . 140 Principle of Compassion . 91 Purposes of Intimacy . 140 Principle of Work . 93 Misused Physical Intimacy . 140 “Put Your Shoulder to the Wheel,” The Fountain of Life, Elder Boyd K. Packer . 141 Elder Neal A. Maxwell . 95 Jesus Christ Principle of Wholesome Recreational The Living Christ: The Testimony of Activities . 97 the Apostles . 147 The Eternal Family, Elder Robert D. Hales . 100 Knowledge of Spiritual Things The Family, Elder Henry B. Eyring . 104 Acquiring Spiritual Knowledge, Fidelity in Marriage Elder Richard G. Scott . 148 Selected Teachings . 111 Living Together without Marriage Doctrine of Fidelity . 111 Related Scripture . 152 Costs of Infidelity . 112 Selected Teachings . 152 Precautions That Help Prevent Infidelity . 113 Love Finances Selected Teachings . 154 Selected Teachings . 115 Related Scriptures . 154 One for the Money: Guide to Family Finance, What Is True Love? . 154 Elder Marvin J. Ashton . 115 What Are Some of the Counterfeits Greed, Selfishness, and Overindulgence, of True Love? . 156 Elder Joe J. Christensen . 120 How Does Our Love for God Influence Foundations for Eternal Marriage Our Ability to Love Others? . 157 Selected Teachings . 124 What Types of Conduct Help Develop The Constitution for a Perfect Life, True Love in Relationships? . 157 President Harold B. Lee . 124 “How Do I Love Thee?” Elder Jeffrey R. Holland . 158 CONTENTS v A Union of Love and Understanding, To the Fathers in Israel, Elder Marlin K. Jensen . 162 President Ezra Taft Benson . 203 Marriage for Eternity Being a Righteous Husband and Father, Selected Teachings . 167 President Howard W. Hunter . 206 Eternal Increase . 167 Living Worthy of the Girl You Will Someday Marry, President Gordon B. Hinckley . 209 The New and Everlasting Covenant of Marriage . 167 Our Sacred Duty to Honor Women, Elder Russell M. Nelson . 212 Those Who Do Not Marry . 168 The Hands of the Fathers, Marriage and Divorce, Elder Jeffrey R. Holland . 215 President Spencer W. Kimball . 168 Morality and Modesty What God Hath Joined Together, President Gordon B. Hinckley . 174 Selected Teachings . 219 Why Marry in the Temple? Consequences of Obedience or Elder John A. Widtsoe . 178 Disobedience . 221 Marriage, Elder Boyd K. Packer . 180 Modesty . 221 Marriage throughout the Years Modesty in Thought . 222 Selected Teachings . 184 Modesty in Language . 222 The Enriching of Marriage, Modesty in Dress . 222 Elder James E. Faust . 184 Modest Behavior . 223 Hinckleys to Note 60th Anniversary, Put on the Whole Armor of God, Dell Van Orden . 186 President Harold B. Lee . 223 Mate Selection The Law of Chastity, Selected Teachings . 188 President Ezra Taft Benson . 227 Importance of Choosing Wisely . 188 Office of the First Presidency, letter to all members of the Church . 230 Background Factors . 188 Our Moral Environment, The Right Person . 188 Elder Boyd K. Packer . 230 Outer Appearance and Inner Beauty . 189 Personal Purity, Elder Jeffrey R. Holland . 233 Counsel for Single Sisters . 189 Mothers’ Employment outside Counsel for Single Brethren . 190 the Home The Role of Prayer and Personal Revelation . 191 Selected Teachings . 237 Finding the Right One . 191 Parenthood: Creating a Gospel- Mission or Marriage? . 192 Centered Home Selected Teachings . 241 Making the Decision at the Appropriate Time . 192 Parental Success . 241 Agency or Inspiration? Family Home Evening . 243 Elder Bruce R. McConkie . 193 Family Council Processes . 244 Maturity Good Marriages Bless Children . 245 Selected Teachings . 198 Parenting: An Eternal Perspective . 246 Men’s Divine Roles and Responsibilities The Joy of Parenthood . 247 Selected Teachings . 200 Teaching Children the Gospel . 248 Father, Consider Your Ways, pamphlet.