Good Beginnings Alliance ❉ INPEACE ❉ HPIRC-PACT ❉ GEAR UP Hawaii ❉ Hawaii Covering Kids ❉ Hawaiian Electric Co. ❉ Children’s Trust Fund ❉ DOE–Coordinated School Health ❉ Kokua Hawaii Foundation – AINA IS ❉ Center for Civic Education ❋ ❋ WELCOME ❋ alohaalohaarents! Welcome to the 1st Annual discuss school activities and assignments with Hawaii Parent Guide, A Resource for your child, show interest, and, monitor and Families. Hold on to this one! This supervise their out of school activities. guide contains valuable information In the teenage years, parent involvement Pfor all parents regardless of the age of your child. tends to dwindle. Our teenage children often Often times when parents are asked to times present themselves to be independent, “get involved” in their child’s education or sophisticated and “mature for their age,” extra curricular activities, ❋an initial response however we all need to remind ourselves they is a feeling of guilt on the part of the parent are still children that require guidance and thinking they aren’t involved enough. Being our involvement even through adulthood. involved in your child’s education doesn’t nec- Keep this Parent Guide handy. It connects essarily mean you run the school fundraiser our community, our schools and our families. every year. Other parent involvement activities that benefit your child’s ed- ucational development are simpler things you can do each day: commu- nicate with the teacher and school, Pizza Hut supports literacy. You can, too. Just stop by any participating Pizza Hut and pick up your Carryout For Literacy Card.The cost is $10 and proceeds go to literacy programs throughout Hawaii. Each time you order carryout pizza at regular price, show us your card and you’ll get a second carryout pizza free. (Yes,you read that right.) Your card is good for a whole year’s worth of free piz- zas. It’s a great deal that makes you feel great about yourself. www.pizzahuthawaii.com [2] 1ST ANNUAL HAWAI‘I PARENT GUIDE: A RESOURCE FOR FAMILIES CONTENTS mahalomahalo contentscontents toto our our sponsors sponsors❋ INFANT5 ohanaohana sponsorssponsors DOE – Family TODDLER Support Section 10 DOE – SPMS SCHOOL-AGED malamamalama sponsorssponsors 21 39ADOLESCENT Additional copies are available for pur- chase at The Honolulu Advertiser's infor- DOE – Coordinated School Health mation desk. For more information contact INPEACE Jennifer Dang at 525-7660 or jdang@ DOE – SPMS honolulu.gannett.com. kokokkuaua sponsorssponsors www.familysupport.k12.hi.us HTTP://FAMILYSUPPORT.K12.HI.US [3] eficial in finding solutions. The dynamic of living in a demo- cratic society is in finding the bal- ChildrenChildren ance between personal self-interest and “the common good.” Parents, as the first and most important teach- ers, can help children explore that balance, but parents must be in bal- ance, themselves, in order to guide learnlearn their children by example. One of the ways that parents can assist themselves, and therefore whatwhat their children, to learn how to live in a civil society is to share the “pow- er.” It is possible to have a child rec- theythey ognize the greater knowledge and livelive experience of a parent without sacri- representative democracy ficing the dignity or worth of a is dependent on its people child. Viewing children as partners having the knowledge, in some family decisions and deliber- dispositions, and skills to ately soliciting their viewpoints on Atake an active role in self-govern- certain issues can develop the ability ment. Participation in such a society of each young person to become is a learned behavior. Since children more self-disciplined. will imitate and follow what they see By listening and engaging chil- their parents do, parents have an es- dren in ways to effectively be part of sential role in establishing the way a Lyla and son the family, rather than remaining re- child will interact with the world. Ka‘ohu in 1989. cipients of “other’s” decisions, also Parents are, after all, a child’s first – builds parent-child partnerships. and most influential – teachers, and able that child to find his or her way Communicating in such ways not significantly influence how a young to thrive in society. Civic responsi- only expands the role of the child in person demonstrates his or her abil- bility is the expression of learning the family setting, but also influ- ity to live responsibly in a society. how to be part of a civilization. ences how that child sees him/her- As parents model how to get along Learning to be a civic-minded per- self in situations with other people. with society, children will follow. The son is really no more than learning Becoming a parent who knows how purpose of schools is to enable our how to participate, confidently and to effectively interact with a young young to learn and practice the atti- competently, with a group of people person, communicate boundaries, tudes and behaviors necessary to so that everyone can contribute to and enable a child to become part of live interdependently with others in the success of the group. ‘the solution process’ takes learning order to perpetuate a civil society. Children learn what they live. and skill. The outcomes will be well Act 51: Reinventing Education Act If children feel understood and live worth the learning process for both (2004) was hallmark legislation that with acceptance, they will learn to child and parent, as ultimately what articulated the civic mission of speak up and share the “truth” as we all want for our children is to be schools and the responsibilities of they see it. They will have the capac- able to enjoy each other, have adults to prepare children for living ity to articulate what they think and stronger bonds, and for them to peacefully in a democratic society: a willingness to enter into dialogues walk more confidently in the world. with others who have different We must decide, as parents, to be Although many responsibilities points of view. stewards of our children’s develop- are laid upon education, ulti- If children feel ‘heard’ and live with ment and guide them accordingly, to mately education must do no less respect, they will learn to act fairly interact with us, each other and the than advance the endowment of and be concerned about the rights world in civil, loving ways. human culture, itself, so that and welfare of others. They will have We need to be the parent that we each succeeding generation finds the capacity to be socially responsi- want to be and the parent that chil- itself further along the road to- ble and personally succeed without dren need us to be. wards peace, social justice, and hurting or hindering others. As Gandhi said: “We need to be the environmental sustainability in If children feel appreciated and change we wish to see in the world.” a society guided by creativity, live with aloha, they will learn to compassion, and curiosity. have good will toward others and Lyla Berg, Ph.D., is Vice-Chair of the Education find ways to contribute to a more Committee in the Hawaii House of Representatives Parents are recipients of the gift of peaceful, loving world. They will and State Coordinator for Project Citizen with the a child’s life and with that privilege have the capacity to build friend- Center for Civic Education. She is a single mom and also comes the responsibility to en- ships and alliances that can be ben- has a 20-year old son in college. [4] 1ST ANNUAL HAWAI‘I PARENT GUIDE: A RESOURCE FOR FAMILIES INFANT HTTP://FAMILYSUPPORT.K12.HI.US [5] wood as splints. Support the affected arm with a sling using scarves, cloth diapers, towels or pillowcases. Place cold compress or ice packs on the in- jured part. DO NOT give your child KeikiKeiki anything to eat or drink. Burns ■ Call 911 if your child: ■ Has bad widespread burns caused by heat, chemicals, or electricity. first-aidfirst-aid ■ Becomes very pale, has cold and sweaty skin, and fast heartbeat What to do when your child is hurt and breathing. ■ This checklist explains what to do bites unless instructed by your doctor. Do not give your child anything in the event of an emergency for ■ Watch your child carefully for to eat or drink. ■ your keiki. Your doctor is the best any reaction after the bite. Call your Keep your child warm until source of advice for your child’s care. doctor if you have any questions. help arrives. Call 911 when you need IMMEDI- Ocean Animal Stings: Electrical and Heat burns: ■ ATE medical help. Be prepared to Ocean animals that sting and are Remove your child from the give your name, address, and a brief common in Hawaii are Box jellyfish source of electricity or heat. explanation of what happened. and Portuguese Man-of-War: Protect yourself. ■ Some emergencies are when your child: ■ Remove tentacles carefully with Remove affected clothing unless ■ Does not respond, talk or wake up a stick or other tool. it sticks to the burned area. ■ ■ Stops breathing or has a very ■ Do not rub area with sand or Do not put any cream, grease, hard time breathing anything else. butter, or medicine on a burn unless ■ Is in shock (pale, cold and sweaty ■ Do not use urine or alcohol, instructed by your doctor. ■ skin, fast heartbeat and breathing). which makes the burning worse. Do not touch affected skin area. ■ ■ Apply ice packs for pain relief. Cover the burned area with a Allergies ■ For Box jellyfish only, pour clean dry cloth. CALL 911 if your child has a se- household vinegar on the stings Wet chemical burns: ■ vere allergic reaction, like: (this does not relieve pain but pre- Flush off the wet chemical with ■ Difficulty breathing, or stops vents additional stings).