THE JUNE 2004 COVER STORY: ROLLING OVER CHALLENGES, P. 20 DON’T LET DATING DRIVE YOU CRAZY, P. 4 WHAT TO DO ABOUT A BULLY, P. 3 4 WORK ON SUNDAYS? P. 1 6 The New Era Magazine Volume 34, Number 6 hen one June 2004 way Official monthly publication doesn’t for youth of WW The Church of Jesus Christ work, Kacey has of Latter-day Saints learned to try The New Era can be found another. See in the Gospel Library at www.lds.org. “Standing on Faith” on p. 20. Editorial Offices: New Era 50 E. North Temple Salt Lake City, UT 84150-3225 E-mail address: cur-editorial-newera @ldschurch.org Please e-mail or send stories, articles, photos, poems, and ideas to the address above. Unsolicited material is wel- come. For return, include a self-addressed, stamped envelope. To Subscribe: By phone: Call 1-800-537- 5971 to order using Visa, MasterCard, Discover Card, or American Express. Online: Go to www.ldscatalog.com. By mail: Send $8 U.S. check or money order to Distribution Services, P.O. Box 26368, Salt Lake City, UT 84126-0368. To change address: Send old and new address information to Distribution Services at the address above. Please allow 60 days for changes to take effect. Cover: Kacey McCallister of Keizer, Oregon, knows the Lord has a plan for his life. See “Standing on Faith” on p. 20. Cover photography: Courtesy of the McCallister family (front) and Christina Smith (back) I Chose the Sabbath, p. 26 How to Beat Bullying, p. 34 2 C ONTENTS The First Presidency: Gordon B. Hinckley, Thomas S. Monson, James E. Faust Quorum of the Twelve: Boyd K. Packer, L. Tom Perry, David B. Haight, Neal A. The Message: Idea List: Maxwell, Russell M. Nelson, You’re in the Driver’s Seat 4 Scripture Study Tips 33 Dallin H. Oaks, M. Russell Ballard, Joseph B. Wirthlin, President Boyd K. Packer Here are some ways to make scripture Richard G. Scott, Robert D. How would you like to lend your new reading into a positive and regular habit. Hales, Jeffrey R. Holland, Henry B. Eyring car to a complete stranger? That’s how Editor: your parents feel when you begin to date. How to Beat Bullying 34 Jay E. Jensen Rebecca M. Taylor Advisers: E. Ray Bateman, Monte J. Brough, Finding a Gem 10 With fists or words, bullying is just Stephen A. West Managing Director: Gilbert Ndala Mingotyi plain wrong. Some advice on how David Frischknecht We found a marvelous book, and studying to escape and forgive. Planning and Editorial Director: Victor D. Cave it together was a wonder. Graphics Director: The Extra Smile 39 Allan R. Loyborg Mission Made Possible 12 Magazines Editorial Director: Richard M. Romney Shanna Butler Of All Things 40 Managing Editor: Start early, work diligently, save, and R. Val Johnson Editorial Staff: the money will come for a mission. Soapbox Convert 42 Collette Nebeker Aune, Susan Barrett, Shanna Butler, Elder W. Rolfe Kerr Ryan Carr, Marvin K. Gardner, Q&A: I never dreamed that in that crowd was Jenifer L. Greenwood, Carrie Kasten, Sally J. Odekirk, Adam Questions and Answers 16 one person who listened to what I said. C. Olson, Roger Terry, Janet I need to earn money for a mission Thomas, Paul VanDenBerghe and college. The Church teaches that we Instant Messages 46 Managing Art Director: M. M. Kawasaki shouldn’t work on the Sabbath, but Planting a seed; a smile for eternity; Art Director: Brent Christison almost all the jobs I am qualified for learning to pray; two scriptures for Senior Designer: Fay P. Andrus require Sunday work. What should I do? comfort; family prayer is the best. Marketing Manager: Larry Hiller Printing Director: New Era Poster: What’s in It for You 49 Craig K. Sedgwick Distribution Director: Super! 19 Kris T Christensen We’ve Got Mail 50 © 2004 by Intellectual Standing on Faith 20 Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved. Periodicals Postage Adam C. Olson Poem: Paid at Salt Lake City, Utah, and Kacey McCallister stands out in Colorblind 51 at additional mailing offices. 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Ryan Carr Lake City, UT 84150; telephone: 801-240-3959; e-mail: [email protected]. Teens in Danville, California, have made missionary work a matter of friendship. NEW ERA JUNE 2004 3 4 YYOOUU’’RREE IN THE DRIVER’S SEASEATT BY PRESIDENT BOYD K. PACKER Acting President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles everal years ago I visited a large will come to me. automobile dealership and looked How you will enjoy that car! Think of SS at many new automobiles. One in driving it to school tomorrow. Think of all particular caught my eye—a convertible the new friends you will suddenly acquire. sports model with all of the fancy equipment Your parents may be hesitant to let you you could imagine. It had push-button every- use this car freely, so I will visit with them. I Imagine that I have thing and more horsepower than a division am sure they will be reluctant, but because decided to give you of cavalry. How I would have enjoyed a car of my position as one of the leaders of the a convertible sports like that when I was in high school! It Church, they will consent. car. I’ll pay for the occurred to me that you of high school age Let us imagine, then, that you have your gas, oil, tires, may be interested in owning such a car. car, everything to run it, and freedom to maintenance, use it. anything your car Lending Your Treasure Suppose that one evening you are invited will use. Will you imagine something with me? to attend a Church social. “There are just Imagine that I have decided to present to a enough of you to ride in my station wagon,” typical teenager a car such as this, and you your teacher says. “You may leave your car are the one who has been chosen. On the home.” When they come to take you to the evening of the presentation, I see that you party, you suddenly remember your new are not quite financially able to run such a convertible, with the top down, parked at car, so I generously include free gas, oil, the curb. You run back in the house and give maintenance, tires, anything your car will the car keys to your father, asking that he ILLUSTRATED BY GREGG THORKELSON BY ILLUSTRATED use. I’ll give you all of this, and the bills put it in the garage, for it looks as if it may LIAHONANEW ERA JANUARYJUNE 2004 2003 5 our parents rain. Your father, of course, obediently car that belonged to you. love you agrees. YY so deeply. Later you come home and notice your car Parents Lend Their Treasures They may become is not at the curb. “Dear old Dad,” you muse, I am sure that you have anticipated the vigorous as they “always willing to help out.” But as the sta- moral of this little illustration, you of high set their guidelines tion wagon pulls into the driveway and the school age. It is in these years that dating for you to follow. lights flash into the garage, you see it stands begins—this custom of two sets of parents But such discipline empty. lending their teenagers to one another for may set you on the You rush into the house, find Father, and the necessary and the important purpose path to greatness. ask where your car is. of their finding their way into maturity and “Oh, I loaned it to someone,” he eventually into marriage. Perhaps for the first responds. time you notice and begin to resent the Then imagine a conversation such as this. interest of your parents in and their “Well, who was it?” you ask. supervision of your activities. “Oh, that boy who comes by here regularly,” Dating leads to marriage. Marriage is a Dad says. sacred religious covenant and in its most “What boy?” exalted expression may be an eternal “Oh, that . well, I have seen him pass covenant. Whatever preparation relates to here several times on his bicycle.” marriage, whether it be personal or social, “What is his name?” concerns us as members of the Church. “Well, I’m afraid I didn’t find out.” If you are old enough to date, you are old “Where did he take the car?” enough to know that your parents have not “That really wasn’t made clear.” only the right but the sacred obligation, and “When will he bring it back?” they are under counsel from the leaders of “Well, there really wasn’t any agreement the Church, to concern themselves with on that.” your dating habits.