New thoughts on an old problem: (Cyber)bullying Let´s talk about porn Study material for schools and youth services Adolescent sexuality, the internet and pornography Title: The LMK (www.lmk-online.de) and the Me- Let’s talk about porn dia Authority of North Rhine-Westphalia Adolescent sexuality, the internet (LfM) (www.lfm-nrw.de) are members of the and pornography consortium. Study material for schools and youth services Coordinator at klicksafe: Peter Behrens, LMK Authors: Birgit Kimmel and Stefanie Rack – The assignment is co-funded by the Euro- klicksafe pean Union, Constantin Schnell and Franziska Hahn – http://ec.europa.eu/saferinternet Landesmedienzentrum Baden-Württemberg [Media Author- Addresses: ity of Baden-Württemberg] (LMZ) Johann Hartl – pro familia Landes- klicksafe verband Bayern e.V. c/o Landeszentrale für Medien und (pro familia Association of the Fed- Kommunikation (LMK) Rheinland-Pfalz eral State of Bavaria) Turmstrasse 10 D - 67059 Ludwigshafen In cooperation with: Phone: +49(0)621/52 02-271 Birgit Echtler – pro familia Landes- Email: [email protected] verband Bayern e.V. URL: www.klicksafe.de Sebastian Kempf – pro familia Orts- verband München e.V. (the pro fa- pro familia Landesverband Bayern e.V. milia Local Association Munich) Rumfordstrasse 10 Ingrid Bounin – Landesmediumzentrum D - 80469 Munich Baden-Württemberg (LMZ) (Media authority Phone.: +49(0)89/290 840 47 of Baden-Württemberg) Fax: +49(0)89/290 840 50 Email: [email protected] Cartoons/Cover art: URL: www.profamilia.de Sarah Burrini Landesmedienzentrum Baden-Württemberg With the kind support of: (LMZ) Gudrun Melzer and Marco Fileccia Rotenbergstrasse 111 as well as the German Federal Cen- D - 70190 Stuttgart tre for Health Education who pro- Phone.: +49(0)711/2850-6 vided graphics Fax: +49(0)711/2850-780 Email: [email protected] Proofreading and corrections: URL: www.mediaculture-online.de Vanessa Buffy www.lmz-bw.de, www.medien-aber-sicher.de st 1 edition, February 2011 Non-commecial reproduction and distribution Cooperation partners: is permitted with reference to klicksafe and This booklet was written in collabo- the website www.klicksafe.de. ration with pro familia Landesver- See: http://de.creativecommons.org band Bayern e.v., the Baden- Württemberg Media Authority (LMZ) Despite careful preparation, no responsibility and the EU klicksafe initiative. can be taken good-looking for the correct- ness of the information and any liability of the authors is expressly excluded. Publisher: The EU initiative “klicksafe” (www.klicksafe.de) is the German partner for the European Union’s Safer Internet Programme. klicksafe is supported by a consortium under the leadership of the Media Authority of Rhineland-Palatinate (LMK). Let’s talk about porn Adolescent sexuality, the internet and pornography Study material for schools and youth services Authors: Birgit Kimmel, Stefanie Rack, Constantin Schnell, Franziska Hahn, Johann Hartl In cooperation with: Ingrid Bounin, Birgit Echtler, Sebastian Kempf Cartoons/Cover art: Sarah Burrini 3 Let´s talk about porn Preface Everyday life for adolescents is no longer This booklet has been developed by the EU imaginable without the internet – it is also bound to initiative klicksafe, pro familia Bavaria and the play an essential role in their professional future. Media Authority of Baden-Württemberg to To them the web is a source of information, a meet the aforementioned need. The EU initia- communication platform and an adviser. Besides tive klicksafe, in enacting the European the manifold opportunities the web has in store for Commission’s mandate to promote internet them, however, it also harbours risks that did not and new media skills in Germany, draws on exist in pre-internet times. These arise from the many years of experience in authoring mate- simple, free-of-charge and virtually limitless rials for pedagogic practice. As a leading ser- availability of sexualised advertising content and vice provider for family planning, sexuality and pornography. Young adults can be exposed to Sexuality and Relationships Education (SRE), influences and situations that unsettle and at times pro familia shares its expertise and experi- overburden them. Adult supervisors, whether ence in sex education. And the Baden- parents or teachers, are also pushed to their limits Württemberg Media Authority, drawing on when dealing with the topic of pornography, still a many years of experience in media education taboo subject. When teachers, youth workers, or work at schools, has contributed practical education welfare workers set out to discuss educational material. sexualised media content with adolescents in class or in out-of-school youth work, there is still almost Whether or not we condone pornography, it is no didactic material to support them. Yet it is part of adolescents’ reality today. Not taking precisely when one confronts sexualised media up the topics of sexuality in the media and content that the importance of media education pornography would mean leaving young peo- and the related inculcation of values in adolescents ple to tackle these issues alone. The intention becomes apparent; important, that is, if we are to behind this booklet is to offer them guidance instil in young people a capacity for self- and the opportunity for an exchange of determined and responsible behaviour – with thoughts. respect to their own sexuality, within relationships, and with partners. Renate Pepper Director Media Authority of Rhineland-Palatinate (LMK) Coordination, EU klicksafe initiative Birgit Echtler Director pro familia Landesverband Bayern e.V. Wolfgang Kraft Director Media Authority of Baden-Württemberg 4 Let´s talk about porn Contents Introduction: Let´s talk about porn ...................................... 6 Before you talk to youths ................................................ 8 Self-assessment questionnaire – a first step for teachers and youth workers ................................................................. 12 Key Element 1 mean? – Life during puberty .......................... 15 Some facts .............................................................. 16 Summary ................................................................. 22 Further information ..................................................... 23 Practical assignments 1 to 5 ............................................ 24 Key Element 2 Am I good-looking? Am I sexy? – Ideals of beauty in our society ......... 37 Some facts .............................................................. 38 Summary ................................................................. 42 Further information ..................................................... 43 Practical assignments 6 to 10 ........................................... 44 Key Element 3 Is it all porn? – Pornography on the web ................................ 62 Some facts .............................................................. 63 Summary ................................................................. 72 Further information ..................................................... 73 Practical assignments 11 to 17 .......................................... 74 Interviews with experts ................................................. 91 Sources / Bibliography .................................................. 99 5 Let´s talk about porn Introduction: Let´s talk about porn Porn – the word alone is polarising. To some, Anonymity. But adolescents generally take porn is a discrete aspect of popular culture, media, including pornography, on board in while others perceive a total pornographisation a far more competent way than concerned of our society. One thing we can be sure of is teachers, neuroscientists and politicians that the internet makes it possible for anyone to assume. easily obtain porn, without attracting attention and basically without restrictions. Keywords A risk identified such as ‘promiscuity’ or ‘generation porn’ may be used in reference to the new dangers. Quite Nonetheless, the field of action for media dispassionately, we can say that the sexual educators as well as SRE professionals is development of adolescents today takes place very broad. Depending on the psychological under entirely different conditions to those of just and social background of adolescents, a ten years ago. Media are ever-present (98% of more or less negative influence on sexual households have internet access); media and development is exerted through the sexuali- sexual development are more closely linked sation of advertising and pop culture and the than ever. This is doubly true because on the mechanical, performance-minded, deroga- one hand, the increasing sexualisation of our tory sexuality of pornographic films. And (media) world influences the sexual develop- since the discrepancy between viewed con- ment of young people: through advertising, pop tent and personal experience is tremendous, music or at porn portals on the internet, they are this voluntarily or involuntarily consumed exposed to an explicit and performance-oriented nudity, eroticism and pornography has to be presentation of sexuality, with oftentimes processed. Hence, it is all the more impor- questionable role attributions. On the other tant that we offer opportunities for discussion hand, the media, and principally the ever- and reflection on the subject. present internet, is more than ever the preferred vehicle for sexual education. Naked before millions? A promiscuous generation? – not true After a hunger for knowledge about every- thing