They say old is a state of mind. If that’s true, any of those projects. But I suppose my back then my state of mine must be ancient. would feel better. I think I must be living that lost verse of “Cat’s In the Cradle” where Harry There was a time when I could stay out all Chapin was also doing some home remodeling night and I could do it every night. We’d close and had no time for entertainment. Granted, down East Dubuque. Heck, we’d close down that was a Sunday. But had it ben a Saturday, East Dubuque then go sit by Frentress Lake and I guarantee you there would not have been a keep going till the sun rose. When the band night on the town following that day. would play, I loved the shows at the Arena be- cause they were so easy. Yes, they went’ until 3 It’s also not that I can’t make it to 1 a.m. I do am., but these were still a cake gig. Now days, so most every night. I find the 10 p.m. - 1 the only way I’m out past 11p.m. is if the band a.m. hours a great time to get work done. is playing. Although, no matter my age, I have Work work, not house work. No one needs long had one specific rule. If I’m leaving town ten minutes of your time at midnight, so if I’m for a party, if I don’t have a bed or a couch, I’m designing a website, I can do so uninterrupted. not coming. And though I’m tired, I don’t have a problem plugging away for a while. But get me in a bar Where did I lose the drive? Was is Sept 29th, and I’m ready to pass out shortly after dinner. 2008? That’s the day I got married. Maybe. But That is, unless I’m playing. Something about if that’s a reason, it’s a good one. When I weigh performing live gives you the energy to get the benefits of going out and enjoying some through the night. And anyone who’s seen the nightlife or staying home with my wife and Rocket Surgeons live knows there’s no lack of watching a Deadliest Catch marathon, prob- drive on stage. But if I have no contractual rea- ably while she’s tuned out reading a book, I son to be there, I probably would not be. I’ve would likely choose the marathon most nights. just reached that age, I guess. I just prefer spending my precious little free time with my wife. Is that so bad? The pull to But when we do occasionally make it out on get up, get dressed up and go where a crowd the town, we se plenty of other couples out of people gather making it hard to talk is not having a good time. People far older than us that appealing, even if my wife comes with having a drink, watching a band, even dancing. me. It used to be when some great live mu- What’s wrong with us? Where do they find the sic was happening, I was there. And I do still spirit? I need an excuse so I’m going to make catch a few, but it’s a rate few. Maybe I’ve just up some possible reasons why we’re doing the seen them all. Maybe it’s because of the fact right thing and they’re the ones compensating that I play live myself that the draw is waning. for something. 1. Those couples don’t really Or maybe I just need festival season to get her like each other anymore and they’re both out and re-inspire me. looking for anything to do but talk to each oth- er. 2. They’ve already heard every story either I think a lot of it could be schedule. Is it just me one could possibly tell and they need some- or has 2009 been a killer of a year for things thing different. 3. American Idol is a repeat. 4. on the to-do list? Between work and having a Like us, this is also their one night out a month house to remodel, who’s got time for fun? No, and we’re just catching them by dumb luck. 5. i don’t man that. I mean who’s got time for fun Viagra. 6. They know the band and feel obli- that requires the expenditure of energy? Can gated to be there. 6. They’re from out of town you just bring the fun to me? That’d be great. and they had a bad hotel room. 7. The house is Or at least when I get there can I just have a being fumigated. 8. They are grasping at their chair and a cold beverage? You probably think youth. 9. Their own parents are visiting from I’m just getting fat and lazy. Not true. I’ve al- out of town and they needed a breather. 10. ways been fat, so that’s not it. And if I was lazy, They own the bar and have to be there. I would not have a 12 house remodeling jobs, a huge garden, and a wonderful business to Okay, so it comes back to blaming the wife. run that requires 60 hours a week or more. I But for me, it’s in a good way. Call me an old think there’s just too much “life” happening to softy, and not just because I’m fat. I just like leave room for “play.” So I guess I need more have her snuggled up against me watching a “play” and less “life”. But what if I prefer life? movie. I also like doing projects with her. So sue me. I don’t think marriage has taken the Yesterday we went shopping and planted life out of me. If just gave me a different set of Mom’s Garden for her, did laundry and hung values. I do love live music and we certainly it on the line. We came home and sanded the have great venues for seeing it. Perhaps I just plaster in the upstairs hallway. One coat of need to do a bit of re-prioritization and work paint done, then we had mom over for dinner. in some time for play. Or maybe the solu- Grilled kabobs. Mmmmm.... Then a second tion to the whole thing is far simpler that all coat of paint. Throw in a half-dozen more odd of that. It’s possible that I’m just at the age jobs and that’s a full day. My feet were killing where I have to start taking naps. me and so was my back. 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