May/June SPECIAL: FOOD & DINING2013 our lives Experts Share Current Trends | Authentically Madison May/June SUPREME COURT OUTCOMES 2013 Attorney Michele Perreault examines what the Prop 8 and ol DOMA rulings could mean for equality in Wisconsin. Madison’s LGBT&XYZ Magazine by Tami Lax plus Linda Ketcham on how educational justice Tami Lax Owner, Harvest & and LGBT equality are The Old Fashioned connected. OURLIVESMADISON.COM >> Connect Our Community >> FaceBOOK.COM/OURLIVESMAGAZINE MAY / JUNE 2013 3 contents publisher 10 18 recruiting our lives Thank You! …And a New Voice new paddlers. Last month I saw a community snap to action unlike anything I’d even seen before. A HyVee manager had made the decision to remove this publication from their East Washington store after our January/February Love issue. We had been distributing there for two years. He ol claimed he’d gotten complaints, but never given any details on what they were about. When the news hit Madison’s LGBT&XYZ Magazine Facebook, I saw floodgates open with e-mails and posts Patrick Farabaugh to HyVee Corporate. The Facebook status reporting the news was shared a Publisher / Editor-in-Chief couple hundred times. Because of your action, HyVee very quickly reversed Emily Mills course and store management contacted me to welcome the magazine back. Editor I am also thrilled to report that beginning in our next issue Congressman 28 Kelly Murray Copy Editor Mark Pocan has accepted our offer to write an occasional column about no experience necessary. LGBTQ issues when they come before him both locally and in Washington. Contributing Writers Christian Alejandro Real Merino I’ve known our congressman both professionally and as a friend since start- Jeanne Benink ing the Madison Gay Hockey Association in 2006. I couldn’t be more hon- Rolando Cruz ored to welcome his leadership and voice to our pages. Both he and Senator Abbi Hill Alison Kennedy Baldwin are two of my personal heroes that I often look to for vision and leadership. I’m proud to Linda Ketcham be able to help him bring his voice on issues that affect our community directly to you, our readers. 40 16 48 Tami Lax One of the critical roles I consider this magazine playing in the lives of our readers is to elevate Dino Maniaci a vision for LGBTQ leadership—and to make those leaders accessible. I believe we’ve done that Michele Perreault FOOD & DINING MAY / JUNE 2013 Michael Ramsey-Musolf here. This issue features a strong focus on people from our community who are leaders in the Marcelle Richards Greater Madison food community. Connecting with them and learning more about their work and Sue Gill values have certainly helped educate and diversify my own understanding of—and connection DEPARtmENTS COMMUNITY QUALITY OF LIFE Richard Wagner to—what Madison has to offer. My wish is that through this we are able to do the same for you. Karin Wolf 5 PUBLISHER’S LEttER 10 OUR ORGANIZERS 40 OUR PETS Editorial Facilitators With Love, 8 CONTRIBUtoRS The origins and aspirations of the Dino Maniaci tells the story of Kristina Kosnick Patrick Farabaugh 220 WEST BROADWAY, MONONA, WI. 53716 608-223-9300 city’s newest Pride celebration — how his partner, Jason Hoke, Linda Lenzke 9 OUR KItchENS and Publisher Mon-Fri 10am-8pm Saturday 10am-6pm Sunday 11pm-5pm THE IMPORTANCE OF FruitFest. became a judge at the most Tim Lom prestigious dog show in the Ryan Petty GIVING BACK 12 OUR AthlETES world. Contributing Photographers From Mexico to America, Rolando Roberto Amezcua FEATURES 42 OUR INTERSEctIONS Cruz found passion and purpose Eric Baillies 28 SoIL & SOUL in a pair of running shoes. Linda Ketcham on how ensuring Lois Bielefeld better educational opportunities Rolando Cruz Owner of Harvest and the Old 16 OUR ARTISTS for everyone also improves Amber Sowards Fashioned, Tami Lax brings A Madison photographer looks support for LGBTQ issues. her passion and a family farm through a new lens after an Business Manager Matt Jelinek tradition to Madison tables. accident changes everything. 44 OUR ISSUES National Advertising Sales 30 WHAT’S TRENDING: Dr. Sue Gill on learning to focus 18 OUR ADVOCATES Rivendell Media Inc. FOOD & DINING on the positive, even in the face Theoretical physicist and priest, of the terrible. Area chefs, producers, and Webmaster Michael Ramsey-Musolf shows Josh Meyers foodies talk what’s next for the builds a beautiful life in a paradox. 46 OUR RIGHTS Madison culinary scene. 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This summer, Marcelle and Claire will make like LEGAL PARENTAGE • CHILD CUSTODY Financial Advisor & Certified Financial Planner professional tumbleweeds and ramble out west, to the wild and wonderful unknown. with the practice of Sharon Brantmeier, CRPC. COMMITMENT & CO-PARENTING AGREEMENTS Lois Bielefeld grew up in Milwaukee, WI. She graduated AMERIPRISEADVISORS.com/SHANNON.M.ANDERSON DISSOLUTION • GUARDIANSHIPS from Rochester Institute of Technology in 2002, One of my goals in life is to attempt to make a differ- receiving her BFA in Advertising Photography. LIFE AND ESTATE PLANNING ence in the world. That mission compelled me to change Soon after that she migrated to Brooklyn, NY, which careers from cost accountant to financial advisor and motivated me to get became home for seven years. Recently she returned involved in the LGBTQ community and volunteer with LGBTQ nonprofits. to Milwaukee with her daughter where Lois shoots commercial, editorial and fine art work. She is currently a Nohl fellow My work with the LGBTQ community started when I lived in Buffalo, NY, and recipient and is working on Conceal Carry portraits in Wisconsin as was involved with Pride Buffalo and Empire State Pride Agenda. In my move home to Madison, I jumped right in here and worked on the boards of well as a documentary film onLadies Night Out. OutReach and OPEN. I currently serve as board treasurer for Fair Wisconsin.