be the change guide Creating the School of Your Dreams! Yvonne and Rich Dutra-St John, MFT Be the Change Movement & Challenge Day Co-Founders Revised Version 2014 Be the Change Guide: Creating the School of Your Dreams by Yvonne and Rich Dutra-St John, MFT Revised 2013 by Berenice Meza © 2014 Challenge Day 2520 Stanwell Drive, Suite 160 Concord, California 94520 www.challengeday.org Table of Contents Be the Change Movement & Challenge Day ............................................................1 Be the Change Team Goals .......................................................................................1 3 Must-Do Youth Follow Up Actions .......................................................................2 How to Empower Your BTCT to Take Leadership ..................................................3 The Recommended Be the Change Movement Flow ..............................................5 Be the Change Questionnaire Meeting .....................................................................7 Be the Change Questionnaire ...................................................................................8 Keeping it Real Challenge Meeting .......................................................................10 Keeping it Real Challenge ......................................................................................11 Planning your BTC Week Meeting .........................................................................13 Be the Change Week ...............................................................................................14 Be the Change Week Activity Options. ...................................................................15 Post “Be the Change Week” Meeting .....................................................................21 Meeting Flow/Topics and Activities .......................................................................22 Respect ................................................................................................................................. 23 Gratitude ............................................................................................................................... 24 Inclusion ................................................................................................................................ 26 Diversity ................................................................................................................................ 27 Self-Empowerment ............................................................................................................... 28 Acknowledgment .................................................................................................................. 29 Community ............................................................................................................................ 30 Friendship ............................................................................................................................. 31 Judgments ............................................................................................................................ 32 Honesty ................................................................................................................................. 33 Listening ................................................................................................................................ 34 Dreams .................................................................................................................................. 35 Kindness ............................................................................................................................... 36 Ask for Help .......................................................................................................................... 37 Compassion .......................................................................................................................... 38 Legacy ................................................................................................................................... 39 Pride ...................................................................................................................................... 40 Body Empowerment ............................................................................................................. 41 Bullying and Cyber Bullying ................................................................................................. 42 Special Needs ....................................................................................................................... 43 Vocabulary 101 ..................................................................................................................... 44 100% Fully Alive ................................................................................................................... 45 Acceptance ........................................................................................................................... 47 Take a stand .......................................................................................................................... 48 I Heart Myself ........................................................................................................................ 50 Play ........................................................................................................................................ 51 Amends ................................................................................................................................. 52 Emptying Your Emotional Balloon ....................................................................................... 54 Notice .................................................................................................................................... 55 (continues, see next page) CHALLENGE DAY i be the change guide Choose .................................................................................................................................. 56 Act ......................................................................................................................................... 57 Accountability ....................................................................................................................... 58 Affection ................................................................................................................................ 59 Influence................................................................................................................................ 61 Support System .................................................................................................................... 62 Anger ..................................................................................................................................... 63 Communication Process ...................................................................................................... 64 Plan “Be the Change Week” .............................................................................................. 65 Challenge Day Preparation .................................................................................................. 66 Be the Change Cards ..............................................................................................68 Recruiting Challenge Day Program Volunteers .....................................................69 Fundraising Ideas ...................................................................................................72 Alternative School Activity Suggestion List ..........................................................74 Thank You! ..............................................................................................................78 ii CHALLENGE DAY be the change guide “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, concerned citizensTM can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” - Margaret Mead Be the Change Movement & Challenge Day Welcome to the Be the Change Movement and Challenge Day! While it is true that no one program can be all things to all people, the seemingly universal appeal of Challenge Day appears to come down to one thing – “Our shared humanity.” Our vision is that every child lives in a world where they feel safe, loved, and celebrated. (This vision includes those who now live in grown up bodies). The primary focus of all our work is to end separation, isolation and loneliness, which we believe are at the root of most every destructive behavior. Imagine living in a world where everyone made a commitment to do these three things…. 1. Love and accept ourselves while continuing to grow. 2. See others through eyes of acceptance, love and compassion. 3. Be the Change by living life in service. With the ever growing increase of violence and oppression in our schools and on our planet, we believe a commitment to these simple principles can actually create peace on earth. We challenge people everywhere to commit to doing at least one intentional positive act of change each day to feed their heart and to add to the betterment of the planet by spreading love. Be the Change is about creating a culture of acceptance and compassion within your school. As you know, this kind of change can take time, so Be the Change is a series of activities and events that will support this change on campus. Challenge Day is just ONE event on your calendar of Be the Change activities.