If you have issues viewing or accessing this file, please contact us at NCJRS.gov. • .- ~ 11 .. ·1·--~ .",,,, -~." ~ --.... "l~-~ A NON·VIOLENT ..", :,' ~ VALUES CURRICULUM '~': .,~ . ' ,! I'" , . , •rf . FOR K- 6TH GRADE t ., . STUDIES '~. ...,. .';"""1 l' ..... • . '>.' . I L= ... (.;J ~ .oJ , -':~,', '--f, . .,- . I I ., ,J , " . '.,--­ t . i" .', I ~"' ! .. .,~...l. tr • t ,'upported by ~gran.·t from the Hawaii Chamber of Commerce _1 III r [ f III tiM 1 i r .. 12JLlLfl. PEACE BESI"' WITH I' ANon-Violent Values Curriculum for K - 6th Grade Students 'I I, I i 1 by I: Ronaele Whittington Laura Crites I Gail Moran Nand Kreidman I Betsy Beck l Family Violence Center - Honolulu' Supported by a grant from the Chamber of Commerce of H~.waii ( r I I 121442 U.S. Department of Justice I National Institute of Justice This document has been reproduced exactly as received from the person or organization originating it. Points of view or opinions stated in this document are those of the authors and do not necessarily 1 represent the official position or policies of the National Institute of Justice. Permission to reproduce this copyrighted material in mi­ crol/che only has been granted by I Family Peace Center to the National Criminal Justice Reference Service (NCJRS). I Further reproduction outside of the NCJRS system requires permis· sion of the copyright owner. I Copyright © 1989 Family Violence Program All rights reserved. No portion of this material may be reproduced without the written pennission of the publisher. Published by Smith Somerset Corporation 150 Hamakua Rd. #328 Kailua} HI 96734 (808) 254-5778 I ' To a Peaceful World ... INTRODUCTION Peace Begins With Me /1 TABLE OF CONTENTS . lN1'RODUcrION .................................................................................................................................................................... II PREFACE ................................................................................................................................................................................ IV ACKNOWLEIX:;EMENTS .................................................................................................................................................... V CURRICULUM GUIDE ...................................................................................................................................................... VI CURRICULUM INTRODUcrION What 'Is Peace? ...................................................................................... 1 LESSON 1 What Is Self Esteem? ............................................................................ 3 LESSON 2 What Is Self. Control and Tune Out? ...... ,.......................................... 17 LESSON 3 What Is Positive Self Talk? ................................................................ 27 LESSON 4 Everyone Has Feelings ...................................................................... 37 LESSON 5 Say What You Mean Out Loud ........................................................ .47 LESSON 6 Walk In Someone Else's Shoes~ ......................................................... 63 I LESSON 7 Parents .Are People Too ....................................................................... 71 J LESSONS Beware of Prejudice .................................................................................. 83 LESSON 9 WalkAway from Trouble .................................................... : ............. 91 . Lesson 10 Follow People Who .Are Positive ................................................... 1,01 . JI I J LESSON 11 Make Careful Choices and Decisions ............................................ 111 LESSON 12 Oops, I Made a Mistake ................................................................... 119 I LESSON 13 Behavior Has Consequences .. ,........................................................ 129 Lesson 14 Both Sides Cart Win ............................................................................ 145 J LESSON 15 Take Care of Yourself and Your World .......................................... 155 I LESSON 16 Celebration and Conclusion ........................................................... 165 t II / Peace Begins With Me INTRODUCTION INTRODUCTION J Peace Begins With Me is an outgrowth of Spouse and child abuse arise from social and concern by the Family Violence Program that, as personal values and beliefs. Throughout this we worked to stop the violent abuse of women by curriculum, we would like to address the follow­ I their husbands a.l1d boyfriends, we were failing to ing issues, characteristics and behaviors which we reach the next generation who had witnessed the hope will lessen violence and promote peace. abuse or are growing up in a society which seems to condone it. Spouse abuse (95% of the victims SELF ESTEEM are women) occurs in up to one-third of all rela­ tionships. The FBI estimates that beatings of People who are violent against others, are women in their homes take place on the average people who are bruised inside. They move of every 18 seconds. In many hospital emergency through their world feeling inadequate, unloved, rooms around the country, injuries from wife and undeserving of love. They are often victims beating head all other types of women's injuries of physical or psychological abuse from ,their seen by doctQrs and hospital staff. early years and they carry the untended scars of this abuse in their psyches and into their adult The effects of wife abuse include not only relationships. immediate injuries to the victim but also injuries to children who suffer both physical and psycho­ The abuse occurs not only in their homes, logical trauma. Children from such homes but often in the school yard as well. The victim frequently develop learning disabilities, violent may have been an unusual, different or excep­ values and aggressive or withdrawn behavior. tional child who suffered torment at the hands of They are also at high risk for becoming abusive as classmates who had little or no empathy for the adults. painful effects of their abuse. This book represents our effort to reach Curriculum Goal: children from violent homes as well as all Help children learn to value and feel good children who are developing values and beliefs about themselves. which would make them vulnerable to becoming future victims and abusers. EMPATHY The Family Violence Program is staffed by a The individualistic; aggressive, competitive very dedicated group of people who are commit­ values of our society often fail to instill in us an ted to stopping violence against women in par­ empathetic understanding of those who are ticular and in society in general. Some staff different or less fortunate. For people who are members come from abusive relationships as abusive, there is often an inability to understand either victim or perpetrator. Others come from a the impact of their behavior on the victim. non-violent philosophy which abhors all forms of violence. Under contracts with the Hawaii State Children, in particular, could benefit from Judiciary and Department of Health the program understanding at an early age:the importance of provides counseling for up ,to 700 victims and caring about and being sensitive to others. Many perpetrators of domestic violence each year. We of the wounds they experience in growing up are find our work eXciting and rewarding as we inflicted by their peers. These wounds can have a watch significant changes taking place in the men long lasting, detriment~J effect on their self and women who come to our weekly sessions. esteem and on their ability to be non-violent and But, touching their lives is only the beginning. caring in their future relationships as adults. -------.~~~- - INTllODUCTlON Peace Begins With Me- 1m Curriculum Goal: ATTITUDES TOWARD WOMEN Help children learn to walk in the shoes of others and to care about the impact of their Studies continue to show that children of behavior on others. both sexes develop negative attitudes toward women and girls at an early age. The effect for NON-VIOLENCE boys is that they strive to avoid the gentle and sensitive aspects of the female personality to There are many messages in society which avoid being labeled a "wimp." They also develop tend to reinforce violence and the use of force as a a belief that men are superior to women and means to an end. These are seldom accompanied entitled to dominate them. For girls, the effect is by an attempt to understand the negative effects low self esteem and low expectations for them­ of violence. Children begin to receive such selves in particular and other girls and women in messages early with cartoons which have an general. exceedingly high number of violent incidents per segment. To many children, these messages are Stereotyped sex role attitudes among boys reinforced within their homes by parents who use and girls, if carried into their adult relationships, physical pUnishment to discipline the children put them at risk for developing abusive relation­ andlor use physical abuse against their partners, ships. most often the mother. Curriculum Goal: Studies have found that children who are Develop in both sexes an appreciation for the exposed to violent, abusive modeling are at high skills and capabilities of women. risk for developing aggresSive and abusive behavior. Because of the abundance of such In offering the Peace Begins With Me cur­ violent and aggressive modeling not only in our riculum to teachers, we enlist your support in homes, but throughout