CHOSEN CHILDREN 2012 BillionDollarBabiesinAmerica’s FailedFosterCare,AdoptionandPrisonSystems byLoriCarangelo fromthefilesof AMERICANSFOROPENRECORDS(AmFOR) AccessPress PalmDesert,California Copyright©2011andforward,byLoriCarangelo PublishedbyAccessPress POBox401,PalmDesert,CA92261-0401 CHOSENCHILDREN-firsteditionPublishedbySchenkmanBooksInc. SchenkmanBooksIncOriginalISBN–0-87047-124-4 LibraryofCongressCataloging-in-PublicationData Carangelo,Lori. Chosenchildren:billiondollarbabiesinAmerica'sfostercare, adoption,andprisonsystems/LoriCarangelo. p.cm. Includesbibliographicalreferencesandindex ISBN0-87047-124-4 1.Fosterchildren—UnitedStates.2.Adoptedchildren—United States.3.Fosterhomecare—UnitedStates.4.Adoption—United States.5.Juveniledelinquents—UnitedStates.6.Problemyouth UnitedStates.I.Title. HV875.55.C3752001 362.73'3'0973—dc212001044679 AlsobyLoriCarangelo: THEULTIMATESEARCHBOOKWorldwideAdoption,Genealogy&OtherSearchSecrets 1997and2000editionspublishedbyAccessPress,POBox401,PalmDesert,CA92261-0401 ©1998and1999editionspublishedbyHeritageQuest,POBox329,Bountiful,Utah84011-0329 2002editionpublishedbySchenkmanBooksInc,118MainSt.,Rochester,VT05768 2011editionpublishedbyClearfieldBooks/GenealogicalPublishing,3600ClipperMillRd#260,Baltimore,MD21211 ADOPTIONUNCENSORED,E-book(AccessPress,2008), http://AmFOR.net/uncensored STATISTICSOFADOPTION-E-book(AccessPress,2005) http://AmFOR.net/statistics.html INFERTILITYCURES-E-Book(AccessPress,2005) http://AmFOR.net/InfertilityCures.com ALLATRATTORIA,(TheCrossingPress,1991) HOMESTYLEITALIANCOOKING(TheCrossingPress,2000derivativeof1991) FROMITALYWITHLOVE(GarlicPress,1987) FROMITALIANAMERICAWITHLOVE(GarlicPress,1987) FROMITALIANSOFALLNATIONSWITHLOVE(GarlicPress,1987) ITALIANTONIGHT!ChefsWorldwideShareTheirItalianRecipeSecrets-E-book(AccessPress,2010), http://LoriCarangelo.com/ItalianTonight Allrightsreserved.Nopartofthisbookmaybereproducedinanyform withoutpermissioninwritingfromthepublisher,exceptbyareviewer whowishestoquotebriefpassagesinconnectionwitha reviewinamagazineornewspaper. PrintedintheUnitedStatesofAmerica ISBN:0-942605-25-X Dedicated inmemoryofJEANPATON,MA,MSW(1909-2002) SocialWorker,Adopteeand“Mother”oftheOpenRecordsandAnti-AdoptionMovements and tothedisenfranchisedandincarceratedadopteeswhoriskedsharing theirpersonalstoriesandtheirfeelingsforthefirsttimeintheirlives. Contents PROLOGUE ________________________________________________ 1 PARTI-FOSTERCARE ____________________________________ 3 1.FollowingtheDollars______________________________________ 3 2.FosterKids’Outcomes______________________________________ 5 TraffickingofFosterKids._______________________________ 8 Fostered,Orphaned,Abandoned,InstitutionalizedKidsWhoKill_ 9 3.AlternativestoFosterCare___________________________________ 18 ModelProgramsThatWork______________________________ 19 WhatYouCanDo______________________________________ 24 PARTII-ADOPTION _______________________________________ 25 1.FollowingtheDollars.______________________________________ 25 ThreeDegreesofSecrecy:Closed,Semi-Open,OpenAdoption__ 31 CommercializationofAdoption,CommodifyingChildren_______ 32 2.AdoptSpeakandCensorship__________________________________ 34 3.Church,StateandAdoption__________________________________ 36 TheChristianRight,CatholicsandAdoption_________________ 36 ProtestantsandAdoption.________________________________ 38 MormonsandAdoption__________________________________ 39 JewsandAdoption______________________________________ 40 MuslimsandAdoption___________________________________ 41 4.RaceandAdoption_________________________________________ 43 5.GeopoliticalMassChildStealing_____________________________ 46 ABriefChronologyofGovernmentProtectedChildStealing____ 51 6.HumanRightsandAdoption_________________________________ 57 RightToPersonhoodandtheDegradationofPersonhood_______ 60 7.Gay,Lesbian,TransgenderandAdopted:DoubleIdentityDilemmas._60 8.MorePitfallsofAdoption-TheData___________________________ 64 Who’sCounting?_______________________________________ 64 Who’sRelinquishing?___________________________________ 65 Who’sAdopting?_______________________________________ 65 HowDoTheyFare?_____________________________________ 65 9.DeathByAdoption:________________________________________ 68 SuicideandAttemptedSuicidebyAdoptees__________________ 68 SuicidebyMothersDuetoLossofaChildbyAdoption_________70 DeathfromWithholdingAdoptees’FamilyMedicalInformation__70 ChronologyontheFightforAccesstoMedicalInformation_____ 74 TheRoleofDoctors_____________________________________77 AdoptersWhoAbuseandKill_____________________________ 78 AbuseandDeathsofRussianAdopteesbyAmericanAdopters___ 82 AbuseofIntercountryAdopteesbySendingCountry___________ 88 AdoptersWhoAbuseandKillinDomesticAdoption___________89 AttachmentTherapyandRe-birthingDeaths__________________110 10.DonorOffspringAdoption__________________________________ 113 11.ConflictsofInterest:Attorneys,ACLU,Adoptees_______________ 114 NationalAcademyofAdoptionAttorneys(NAAA),and NationalConferenceofCommissionersonUniformStateLaws__ 115 AmericanCivilLibertiesUnion(ACLU)____________________ 116 NationalRightToLife(NRTL)andAdoptees________________ 117 InsuranceCompaniesandAdoptees _______________________ 118 12.America’sDirtyLittleSecret:Adoptees’Outcomes______________ 119 Adoptees’OutcomesMiredinPolitics______________________ 120 Adoptees’BehaviorsSpeakLouderThanWords_____________. 120 AttachmentandRe-BirthingTherapiesare“Out”_____________ 123 AdoptedChildSyndrome-“In,’Then“Out,”Now“In”________ 124 ChoosingaTherapistAccordingtoEvidenceBasedPractices___ 125 13.Adoptees,Abuse,AddictionandMentalIllness_________________ 126 14.AdopteesWhoLie,CheatandSteal__________________________ 132 AdopteesIncarceratedforTheftorFraud___________________ 132 15.AdopteesWhoAreSexOffenders____________________________ 138 TypesofSexOffendersandTheirVictims___________________ 138 TheAdoptedSexOffenders_______________________________ 142 16.AdoptedKillers__________________________________________ 147 SerialMurder-CrimeofRage,CrimeofPossession___________ 147 WhySoManySerialKillersAreAdoptees.__________________148 TheAdoptedSerialKillers_______________________________150 MassMurderingAdoptees_______________________________ 163 AdopteesWhoKilledTheirAdoptersorAdoptiveRelatives____166 AdopteesWhoKilledTheirBiologicalParents--WhyIt’sRare__ 193 AdopteesWhoKilledStrangers.___________________________195 SpecialCases,SpecialVictims-FetusAbductionsbyAdoptees.__ 211 Adoptaphobia._________________________________________ 212 17.AlternativesToAdoption___________________________________ 213 KinshipCareandCustody________________________________ 213 Accountability_________________________________________ 214 Guardianshipvs.Adoption_______________________________ 215 GuardianshipCostsandSubsidies__________________________ 215 Gay,Lesbian,TransgenderParenting________________________215 AdoptAFamily________________________________________ 216 18.TheOpenRecordsandAnti-AdoptionMovements_______________ 217 WhoWeAre.__________________________________________ 218 OpenRecordsMovementOrganizations_____________________ 218 Anti-AdoptionOrganizations______________________________ 219 AdoptersAgainstAdoption_______________________________ 219 ABriefChronologyofAdopters’Issues_____________________ 219 Adopters’LawsuitsHighlightWrongfulAdoptions____________ 220 WhatAdoptersCanDo__________________________________ 222 PARTIII-PRISONS_ _______________________________________ 223 1.FollowingtheDollars_______________________________________ 223 Privatization,ADoubleEdgedSword______________________ 224 DataCollection________________________________________ 227 2.FosterKidsandAdopteesinPrison____________________________ 227 TryingaChild“AsAnAdult”Doesn’tMakeHimOne_________ 231 PrisonMarriages_______________________________________ 231 3.PlayingthePrisonRaceCard_________________________________ 232 4.AbuseofPrisoners_________________________________________ 232 AbuseofFemalePrisoners_______________________________ 232 AbuseofMalePrisoners_________________________________ 233 AbuseofGay/LesbianandTransgenderPrisoners_____________ 234 5.StolenLives______________________________________________ 235 ThreeStrikesandYou’reWrongfullySentenced______________ 235 WrongfullyConvictedAdoptees:FalseConfessionPhenomenon_ 237 CivilCommitmentofSexOffenders________________________ 241 TheDeathPenalty-WorksinElectionCampaignsNotinReality_ 242 6.AlternativesToPrisons______________________________________ 243 RighttoAdequateRepresentationandTrialbyJury____________ 244 BootCampsforFirstTimeOffenders_______________________ 245 JuvenileJusticeReformandDe-Institutionalization____________ 245 SentencingLaws-StrikingOutThreeStrikesLaws____________ 246 GunControlLaws______________________________________ 247 Rehabilitation-DrugLawsandTreatment___________________248 Prevention-EducationandSkillsTraining,InandOutofPrison__249 CommunitySupport_____________________________________ 250 SeparatingChildSupportfromVisitation____________________ 250 Restitution____________________________________________ 251 AnOpenPrisonSystem__________________________________ 251 EPILOGUE ________________________________________________ 253 BIBLIOGRAPHY ___________________________________________ 255 ChronologyofAdopteePsychopathologyStudies 1941-1995____ 258 RESOURCESDIRECTORY __________________________________ 257 INDEX____________________________________________________ 261 ABOUTTHEAUTHOR ______________________________________