8A / TEMPLE DAILY TELEGRAM LIFE MONDAY, May 24, 2021 HINTS FROM HELOISE MUSIC Uninvited guests How do I keep people from Dear Heloise: Three years just inviting themselves with- ago we bought a nice home out making them enemies? on a lake so we could retire — Joyce K., Petoskey, Mich. and relax. Unfortunately, Joyce, you took the first step everyone we know thinks by writing to people to let they are welcome to drop in them know that they needed uninvited. They bring their to be invited rather than just kids, use our towels and dropping in. Our homes generally make themselves should be our sanctuary, and at home. No one ever seems no one has the right to abuse to volunteer to help clean your privacy or disrespect up, take out the trash or do your husband’s need for anything. peace and quiet. When peo- This past Christmas I sent ple show up unannounced out a Christmas letter ex- and uninvited, remind them plaining that while we love of the Christmas letter and do having company, we would not invite them inside. Most prefer that everyone wait people will understand, and until they are invited and that those who don’t were never we could no longer entertain really friends anyway. uninvited guests due to my — Heloise husband’s need for rest after Save that cotton his open-heart surgery. This past weekend, my Dear Heloise: In the spring, stepson and his family I always put out cotton — the showed up, uninvited, with kind you find in medicine their three children and an bottles. I put them out for assortment of friends. He the birds to make a nest out said he was insulted by my of this material. The birds go letter, but he and his wife crazy over this soft cotton for decided to “forgive” us and their nests. I also cut up come anyway. I threw every- pieces of yarn into small Peter Dejong/Associated Press lengths for them. — Carol D., one out! Maneskin from Italy performs Zitti E Buoni on Saturday at the Grand Final of the Eurovision Song Contest at Ahoy arena in Bethesda, Md. Rotterdam, Netherlands. DEAR ANNIE Friend in a stuff, but I don’t want to get into an argument with her Rock band Maneskin wins the problematic about it, either. How can I relationship help her see things clearly? Dear Annie: Last fall, my — Wanting to Be a Good Eurovision Song Contest for Italy friend “Olive” and her Friend boyfriend of five years, Dear Wanting to Be a Good Friend: Olive and John’s rela- BY MIKE CORDER votes but were propelled to vic- For lovers of kitsch, German ered hats and draped in Italian “John,” broke up. Of course, ASSOCIATED PRESS tory by votes from the viewing singer Jendrik played a flags, came from Italy for the I wasn’t happy to see her tionship sounds unhealthy at best and abusive at public. sparkling ukulele and danced show and were hoping for a going through the tough ROTTERDAM, Netherlands “The audience is the most im- with a woman dressed in a Maneskin victory since that emotions that come with any worst. I completely under- stand your frustration, but — A four-piece band of Italian portant thing, of course,” said giant hand costume optimisti- would bring next year’s contest breakup, but man, I sure rockers won the Eurovision bassist Victoria De Angelis. cally showing the victory sign. to Italy. was happy to see that guy try your best to be patient. If Song Contest in the early hours “So the fact that so many peo- He finished close to last. “If we win, it will be very, out of the picture. He was a this is an abusive relation- of Sunday, giving one of the jerk. He cheated on her mul- ship, then it’s important for ple vote for us, it’s the most Lithuanian band The Roop very nice, because the next year tiple times and hardly let her her to know she’s got a countries hit hardest in Europe meaningful, because that danced in bright yellow cos- will be in Italy. That’s very see her friends. The rare friend standing by to offer by the coronavirus pandemic means that those people are tumes in a tongue-in-cheek good. Let’s hope. Fingers times she got to see any of support when she finally is reason to cheer. coming to our gigs, they are lis- homage to 1980s synth pop. crossed,” Mateo said as he her friends, John would text ready to leave. You might try Maneskin’s win was only tening to our music. And this Pravi’s song. “Voilà,” was a waited to get into the arena. her after an hour (some- inviting her to more group Italy’s third victory in the im- has much more value than a restrained ballad that built to a The popular Icelandic band times less), saying it was outings instead of making mensely popular contest and jury” swirling crescendo on a largely Dadi og Gagnamagnid, known getting late and she should one-on-one plans. That way, the first since Toto Cutugno A crowd of 3,500 fans, who darkened stage, but there was for its kitsch dance moves and come home. He would even you won’t be too put out if took the honor in 1990. all tested negative for the coro- still plenty of the over-the-top green leisurewear costumes, come pick her up some- she cancels, and she’ll know The music festival was can- navirus, watched the finalists spectacle that has become Eu- could not perform live because times if she didn’t respond. she’s still part of the group. celled last year amid the pan- perform live. rovision’s trademark. one member tested positive for For more information on Anyway, I was practically demic but this year’s event in Maneskin is Danish for Norwegian singer Andreas the virus earlier in the week. In- doing Snoopy dances when helping friends in abusive relationships, visit Rotterdam’s Ahoy arena with moonlight, a tribute to De An- Haukeland, whose stage name stead, viewers saw a recording they ended things in Novem- its regime of testing and strict gelis’ home country. The band, TIX is a reference to growing of one of the band’s dress re- ber, and our mutual friends http://www.thehotline.org. Click the “Get Help” tab, and hygiene protocols was seen as which honed its musical style up with Tourette syndrome, hearsals. felt the same way. a step toward a post-COVID- busking in Rome, won with a sang “Fallen Angel” in a pair of “The point was to go and ac- For about six months after- view the page “Help for Friends and Family.” 19 return to live entertainment. total of 529 points from sec- giant white wings while tually experience how it was to ward, Olive was way more “We think that the whole ond-placed France. Switzer- chained to four prancing devils. compete in Eurovision, and social than she had been. Body odor event was a relief. We think land, which led after national At the other end of the spec- that’s just really not happen- She spent more time with that we were really thankful ... friends and started taking a Dear Annie: You recently juries had voted, finished third. trum — Finland’s hard-rocking ing,” lead singer Dadi Freyr class at the local community published two letters from to have had the chance to be United Kingdom singer Blind Channel played their said from isolation in Rotter- college. In short, she office workers who asked for part of this huge event,” Mane- James Newman’s song, “Em- song “Dark Side” amid bursts dam. seemed to be living her best assistance in approaching a skin lead singer Damiano bers,” failed to ignite any love of pyrotechnics and Ukraine’s Maneskin lead singer David life. She even started seeing co-worker with objectionable David said. at all and did not score a single Go_A performed surrounded said the victory was a vindica- another guy about three body odors. Your sugges- “This Eurovision means a lot, point, finishing last, just as the by skeletal white trees. tion of the band’s career trajec- months ago. He was incredi- tions were valid, and the ad- I think, to the whole of Europe. U.K. did at the previous Euro- Ahead of the show, crowds tory that started with them bly sweet and head over monition to shower before It’s going to be a lighthouse. So vision two years ago. gathered outside the arena in busking on the streets of Rome. heels for her. work was good, but that may thank you, everybody. Really,” U.S. rapper Flo Rida didn’t the Dutch city of Rotterdam. “We feel like everything we I think you can guess by not be enough. Body odor he added. manage to translate his star Drag queens mingled with did since the day we met and now where this letter is isn’t always caused by a lack Italy, the bookmakers’ fa- power into points for tiny San families as a man in a gold suit since the day we started play- headed. About a month ago, of hygiene. Some medica- vorite, trailed Switzerland, Marino’s entry that was sung waited to get into the venue. ing and playing on the streets is Olive started flaking on our tions, some medical condi- France and Malta after the na- by Senhit.