The Goodland Star-News / Tuesday, January 10 , 2006 5 Woman content being childless DEAR ABBY: I am a female who is I don’t know who to talk to. Some- abigail times I feel it’s pointless to try because This space could be yours almost 38 years old. Most of my adult life has been spent in school, working or van buren talking won’t change the situation. But traveling. It is only in the last two years my feelings are becoming overwhelm- that I have met someone and settled ing, and I need to let them out. Can you help me? — OVERWHELMED IN down somewhat — although we are not dear abby married. We are both artists, so much of • ARIZONA Let advertising in the our time is filled doing the things that we ready know the answer to that question. DEAR OVERWHELMED: I’m The love and believe in. Neither of us feels a Please don’t ask me again!” sorry your mother isn’t doing well. giant void in our relationship or our lives DEAR ABBY: My mother was diag- However, I’m sure your presence is a Goodland Star-News that needs to be filled by a baby. nosed with colorectal cancer that spread great comfort to both of your parents. In the past year or so, several of my to her liver. Over the last five years, she It is very important that both you and co-workers and other people I barely has put up a brave fight, smiling through your father find an outlet where it’s safe help your business. know keep asking, “When are you go- her surgeries, years of chemo and con- to talk about your feelings because they ing to have a baby?” or, “You only have stant pain. The doctors now say there’s are normal. Although it may be painful, Call us 785-899-2338 a couple more years — aren’t you go- nothing more they can do. Basically, and probably tearful, tears can be heal- ing to have a baby?” or, “Don’t you want Mom is at home waiting to die. ing. The American Cancer Society has kids?” I recently moved back with my par- programs for people with cancer and Abby, my family doesn’t even ask me ents so I can help Dad with Mother’s their families, including excellent sup- these questions! I think they are ex- care. I’m glad I can take time off and port groups. You do not have to go tremely rude and intrusive, and I resent spend quality time with them. I am 23 through this difficult time alone, so the simple-minded assumption that just and love them both. please don’t wait to make contact. Find because a person has a uterus and ova- My concern is, my father rarely a program in your area by visiting ries she must make a baby. How should speaks about Mother’s illness. We joke www.cancer.org and typing in your ZIP I respond to these questions? — about it, mostly to avoid a sad, uncom- code. There is also an online community CHILDLESS AND HAPPY IN fortable situation. I’m dealing with this where people can chat anytime they feel TEXAS like my dad does. I rarely talk about it, the need 24/7. Although it’s a cancer sur- DEAR CHILDLESS AND HAPPY: and when I do, I make a joke. I have tried vivors’ network, families are welcome, There are several ways to handle ques- discussing how I feel with friends, but too. You’re in my prayers. tions that are nobody’s business. One is most of the time they stop me because Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van to deflect the question by asking an- it’s hard for them to hear. I have also tried Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, other: “Why do you ask?” Or, “Why do talking about things with Dad, but I don’t and was founded by her mother, Pauline you think that’s any of your business?” want to make him sad. I start to lose it Phillips. Write Dear Abby at Alternatively, if you really want the per- every time he tears up, so now I avoid www.DearAbby.com or P.O. 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