Erica Worthington [email protected] Patent Counsel 650-533-6008
I Transitioned at Qualcomm: A Lesson in Trans* Self-Advocacy
1 The path from Eric to Erica Ð the beginning 1961 Ð 2007 “big hetero dude” Engineer, MBA, Patent Lawyer
Everything’s great, so why was I so unhappy?
…in 2007 first thought to myself: “maybe I’m gay?”
Lots of learning & self-introspection followed
Got involved with QCOM LGBT group in 2008
February 2009 2 The path from Eric to Erica - exploring My first boyfriend was a makeup artist!
Began occasional crossdressing & exploring my femininity in 2009
…and started counseling to unravel the confusion, self- doubt, self-loathing, and stress that resulted March 2009 from not being whole… 3 The path from Eric to Erica Ð first time out!
1st Light of Day, after being paralyzed by fear for months by the thought of going out “en femme”
Trans* support group (and my GF) helped me handle the fear
June 2011
4 The path from Eric to Erica Ð the middle years?
March ’12 Ð Androgynous - Oct 2011 TG Week confusing to most people, and to me too
5 Eric to Erica Ð coming out at work
March 2012 Ð “heads up” email to Senior Execs & HR re upcoming transition ¥ Thanks for positive, supportive comments regarding diversity ¥ Advance notice of a significant personal change …. my appearance will continue changing, I am transitioning from male to female, a long process ¥ People have treated me wonderfully so far ¥ HR has been fully supportive and very helpful ¥ I offer myself as a resource on transgender or LGBT issues ¥ I am glad to share my story, provide support, help others understand, engage other resources, etc ¥ I’m open to talk about this and answer any questions 11/10/15 Qualcomm Confidential and Proprietary 6 Eric to Erica Ð coming out at work April 2012 Ð email to workgroup re upcoming transition I’ll be out on medical leave A further evolution in my appearance—facial feminization surgery as part of my ongoing transition to female My gender transition will be gradual Eventually I will legally change my name to Erica, until then feel free to refer to me as Eric or Erica (or my gender-neutral nickname, Ricky/Ricki) I won’t care if you refer to me as “he” or “she”—pronouns can be challenging, I still confuse myself sometimes I appreciate that my transition affects those around me, and I will gladly give you space to grow with me. Transition is not the kind of thing most of us encounter and I can understand if you may want to know more. I’m open to talk and would be delighted to answer any questions you might have, share my story, provide links to resources, etc
11/10/15 Qualcomm Confidential and Proprietary 7 Eric to Erica Ð coming out
Responses to “coming out” email were fabulous & congratulatory! ¥ “you have my complete support“ ¥ “I come from an extremely conservative background and have grown so much from people here. You have silently been a part of that growth for me. When I first saw your changes, I told myself that I would get the courage to ask you about it. What I’ve learned is that we are all very different people and it takes a tremendous amount of courage to be who we are. I wish you the best of luck, and would love to hear your story” ¥ “hoping for no bigotry or other such challenges, and most important Ð happiness and a sense of fulfillment knowing that you have chosen what is best for you. For whatever it’s worth, my support is guaranteed” ¥ “What a courageous step you are taking! I wish you all the best for your surgery, a fast recovery, and a smooth transition into your new gender.”
11/10/15¥ “in the UK I worked withQualcomm someone Confidential who and Proprietary went on to be the UKs first 8 transgender mayor. I was very happy to see her flourish in her new identity.” Eric to Erica Hair transplants (Dec ‘12) Scalp Face lift, advancement neck lift Upper & lower Brow bone blepharoplasty re-contour Cheek Nose job & implants deviated septum fix Chin re-contour
Trachea shave
April ’12: 13 hours of Facial Feminization Surgery
(started hormones & t-blockers too) 9 A very happy Erica Happier than ever!
November 2015 September 2013 10 Erica - from then to now
Facial Feminization Surgery $35k Hair transplant surgery $12k Electrolysis (700+ hours) $35k Body hair removal (several years) $10k Total ~$92k
Covered by insurance - Mental health counseling - Hormone replacement therapy - Breast Augmentation ~$7k
11/10/15 Qualcomm Confidential and Proprietary 11 Lessons Learned What went well - Open communication, being open to explaining something that many are oblivious to - Working closely with HR really helped - Making myself available as a resource in the company - Giving a heads-up to coworkers with guidance on how to transition along with me What could have been better - 1 or 2 people needed to be told after 1-2 years to get with the program on name/pronoun - HR/Benefits could have been more proactive on transition healthcare (I did much of the work)
11/10/15 Qualcomm Confidential and Proprietary 12 2013 QCOM transgender exclusion
QC PPO: Section 2: What’s Not Covered Ð Exclusions R. All Other Exclusions 15. Sex transformation operations.
Kaiser: General Exclusions, General Limitations, Coordination of Benefits, and Reductions 58. Sexual reassignment surgery
11/10/15 Qualcomm Confidential and Proprietary 13 Why provide TG-inclusive healthcare? It’s medically necessary It’s cost effective It’s the right thing to do.
11/10/15 Qualcomm Confidential and Proprietary 14 Is TG healthcare medically necessary?