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ARI reaches out to educate, counsel, and support gay men By Steven M. Paige AIDS Roctiester Ckry Outteach Coordinator "I have thc inf<)rmatk)n. I kncjw all V' ab( JUT safer sex versus safc sex. I lavcn't wc all attended a handful of sex education seminars where we chuckled thrtn^ the condom dcm- onstnitk>ns and scratched our heads 'A as the mechanics ofthe virus were explained? IVe soaked up all ofthe i IIV/AIDS infomrjation available mid am luiahle to absorl:) any moiv. I bive rhe infomiation... so w/jy n plagues a k>t ofus. We have iisketl why ixpeaccdly and made At the U.R law school copttmemement on May 13. Photo by Doug Messier. promises th;it it won't happen again... ()nly to find (ourselves in a similar place weeks later. ^\)u are n< >t alc^ne. There are many men whe:) find themselves cauglit in U.B. gay law stxidents, supporters protest the same cycle. 'Ilie Men's CXitruach l^x^xt of Attomey General Vacco at commencement AIDS RtKhester is here to offer men who have sex with men sup­ By Susan Jordan tection) allows the Depanment of Law messages on the sidewalk in front of die portive and creative ways to move Around 60 people walked out or to discriminate against workers on the Fine Ans Center. The protestor finally toward safer-sex maintenance. This turned their backs on New York Attor­ basis of their sexual orientation. No walked away without being arrested. project has Ixxn in development ney General Dennis Vacco, when he longer will workers be evaluated solely Connie Bums ofthe Stonewall Demo­ with meml>crs of Rcxrhester^s gpy began his address at the University of on merit or ability.- We cannot stomadi craric Qub addressed the rally, sayir^that communit)' since J une 1994. Our mis­ Buffalo law school's commencement the hypocrisy of this man as he addresses the BuflMo community is si^Jportive of sion is thnxlold: to cxlucate men exercises on May 13. agroi45 of future lawyers to bc zealous in die Out Law protest She said, 'We must alxxjt s;\fer sex, counsel nxTi alxiut Thirty gay law gradviates and their sup­ their advocacy, while he personally jcMn to ^^t discrimination and hatred... behavior change, and support men porters walked out ofthe auditorium in tramples on bask dvil rights and human Come out whenever and however you in rdationship with sdf and others. the Fine Arts Gaiter on U.B.'s Amherst dignity." can'' Bums noted that, for the first time, Tlie cxlucational component ofour Campus, some shouting "End employ­ The Out Law group and other U.B. an open lesbian, Barbara Cavanai^i, is program is well underway. You ment discriminatiorL'* Another 35 peofie students were joined by si.q3porters fi?am running for decrion to Buffalo City may have seen mcmilxrs ofour Out­ stood and turned their backs on Vacco, New York NOW (Natiorial Or^niza- Council. reach team distributing condoms in who last winter terminated his office's tion of Women), ACT UP Buf&to, the Sheiri Jo Rice, a Bufeb attorney, qxAe the bars or ddivcringsafcty kits to longstanding protection against discrimi­ Stonewall Democratic Qub of Wcstem about the l^al issues involved in em- men in parks and rest areas. The kuge nation in hiring based on sexual orien­ New York, Nurses United, and inter­ pJoynient discrirniiiatiQa **When clients van that n:ads 111 *:AI TTI OLIT- tation, national Socialists Organization, Paul call about sexual orientation discrimi­ RliAQ I mOjrrrS is our mobile Beforc thc graduation ceremonies bc- Severance, a U.B. business school sm­ nation," she said, "and they have a wit­ clinic, where free and confidential g^n, another grou? of 30 people mardied dent; said, "I'm here because it's in^xff- ness who saw die boss say, 'You're a I nv and sjphiBs testify and other through the Fine Arts Center*s hall, tant to take a stard against discrirninatior^ fi^got and you're fired,'how do you tdl 1 llV-rdatcd infeMrmation are frtOvidedL chanting, "Hey hey, ho ho, Dennis eqjedafly because it afects me person­ that person that, no, they don't have a You wQl be seeir^ it paiiied at bars Vacco's gpt to go," and carrying signs ally. Vacco is pandering to the mr^es ctfi gpcxl case?... That's one reason we're and other events throughout the with messages like, ''Vacco lies," '^Wc the rig^ He woukln't get away with tWs yxar. The MuhiocMB BuBetin Boatd Sys­ won't go back—send Vacco bade," and with any other group." VACCO continued on p. 3 tem is yet another tool our Out­ **Repeai Vacco, not sexual odentationu" Joe FEB of thc Seneca Nation, a UB. reach team uses to disseminate infix­ Lou Swartz, a &culty member in ttte law student, said that he was present to mation to system users. law school, stood in his academic robes i^iow support. Commenting on tfae srYial Rfiectivc June 5, thc Men's Outieadi at the gxy students* information table out­ turnout for tfae caBy, whicfa was hekl at CON 1 I N J> IV^jca wiD offer individual counsdbng side the Rne Am Center befixe the oom- Baird Pbtnt, a considerable distance from anc^/or anonymous telephone ooun- menoement started He said,'Tm part of tfae Hne Arts Cettter; he said,'This whole scb^ to men wantir^ to discuss cxMV the protest here. I kd that Vacco's be­ cart^ius was designed wttfaout a oentzal cems about sexual activity, sescual iden­ havior with respea to thc issue of dis­ g^ui^iit^ place. It's iK> ooirKkknoe tfaat tity, and behavior change. These ctimination is disgraceful It^s vety tcgtet- tfae UB. canfius is so isolated j&om tfae services arc fifeean d avaMie wedc- taUe that when the ^ and lesbian stu­ city, k was rnovcd here in 1977, afier the days at (716) 244-5473 or 1-80(M37- dents asked that the invitation be wMi- tiots." 0157 (ask fi^r the Nfen's Outreach) drawti, tfaose \nhoparticyattd in the Stu­ HiB saki tfaat anri-gay graffitti is nodiing dent B^ Association dedned todo sa" new on campus. '*A number of years andcvcnif^ at (716)244-5473 or 1- Ni^coflMSiatt: 15.Pboco 800-716-5473. CaBs wffl bc handled Swattz said that the invitation had been s^," he saki, "diere was graffitd on by men Gomfixtabfe with issues of issued befote Vacco toc^ his and-gay campus. Sample was presidef)t at diat fa^ElaiMaliatfy. sexmiity and tcained in counseling action. "As I told my colleagues at a 1^ time, and wc went to ootifix)nt him. The and behavior chat^. school fiKuky meetitig I tfaink tfaat the rranuee we wsfloed ki» he was flpne, arid The final piece crfthe Men's Out­ law feculty should havegiven serious Public Safiety was i«^ befaind u&" The reach Piofea is sifspoct Tiakied Bud- consideration to wididrawing die invi* atudeois ended up expccBstt^ tfaeir oofv cfies wl suppoit tnen who ate fisarfiil tation. So here I am." oems to a bwer-cankiiig mcn4ser (3f tfae of getting HIV testing or ate un­ Thegay student'sgtoitf). Out Law, administraticxi. sure about ^otxtk%ef^^ Support en yt'tisgcd cmpioyfuont uBCUtniHaiM m A Public SaAiy offidal ^hieaicned to issues in the flyer ifaey handed QK2 at die arrest a pcote8ter.oa]M^)r4V|^^ OLTIKEACH oondnuedonpi 3 ir^bcmadon tabic. The flyer staee8,"Ef- ptocestcr^ a member of ACTXJP Buf-' fixtivcly (Vacco's termination of pro­ &Io, was chalking and-Vacco, pn>gay -., *., vr^ *»**ftc. y' .•^•:ytfc.*-= • ^•^r^?^'«?s^''f'>^ .i' iiuurawr'-to' . - ••..•.i"--- • "V," --!«•.;"'*••*':?- •-

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2 TbeEit^Chset JUXM 1995

-T--"" LOCAL & STATE NEWS OlTTREACIf continued filt^ ^^ ^ dkl nd^ die ^x^ wodd havb 16. Wchoffcyou \i^ beable to «ijay awarded ftill ci^tody to Bar^ diat event After tius year'^ picnx^we In Celebration... EDITORL^L p.l ^ - Under die settlement,'wWch ends a will seek ccwnmunity input as to \^iat y* r:^ gto^^ wiH lie available to men experi- year-icx^ court batde, tiie diikhen win day best meets peoples' needs." K^Spcingett encb^ anxiety around issues such as live at Bartd's Bu£E;di> hQiW, and wiB ^*If onfythey had realised di^ were slaves^^ awairirig HTV test tesuhs, or makir^ die spend altemate weekends and some Garden tdur to benefit (11/24/48- 4/12/9S) By Suaan Jocdan whose stubborn ooun^ kq>t her tctuov \(4iich ace clestroyit^ cxjtr lives and CHir races arid bttdUjItouDd^ we can firid dedaon to be tested for HTV antibodies. evenir^, vac^dcxis and holiciays with Oixis^jeous. Unique. %j6ciaL Lov- ha£i^ in dbe j^ioe(^'wfc^ A g^txjp for dK>se se^ck^ safer sex CHN women^s pcograni What is tfae first requireiDcnt for fib- jog feo tfiedbve<>«ningSoi ^ ao^ society. Hennessy, who lives in Cheektows^ Thie fi^ annual "Gardens of Roch­ ir^. Distinctively individuaL Pddiir^ most wounded, if ^1^ can use pur pain niaitifieriaripe wiQ cxplorc jssiies iderid- eration? That the enslaved recognize ing her peopk txxtfa to fieedom on tfie Resson said that when we wake if> "MI ever wsttited to tie was a paterit,'' ester'' ttxir lias been set for June 24, fitxn die edge. InGtedibly gifted dicrajMst fijr tiansfbmuaion, fty godd and pet- fieclas important by peucdcipKuits. Outscuixjk^ kifluence ffltii e fives of ciearly that tfaey ate, in fiact, sbvcs. undei]g^ound railroad She quoted in ffae moBiif^ ani fed ffae pain c^our Hemessy saki'txtt diey tocA: ditttt aws^ 10 ajTi. to 4 pjti. Fot die first time, aH dci- sonal change, tather dian turning It in- Recent stat^tks reveal tl^ HIV ff)fec- coundess people. Bemice Johnson Resson gave ttl Tttfsman as ss^iii^ *T ootid have saved fives, at least tt tneans that we ate sdB fttxn rne because Fm a liomoaexuaL Be­ lars raised fitxn diis event wiD be donated watd upon cxttselves. To do that we tion is CXI the rise a^^ among g^ and dcxpient md movitig talk on Apd 20 mote, if orily tfieyha d tealiaed tfiey wete flivc; arxi we Ittve arxTdier ving friend and counselor to lic»nof^lMa, arid tfaat tiomcjphobic sexusdity and seioial safety between men Reagon is a dsdngui^iBd historian and That statement resonates wnh mean- our pain tneans diat we ate feeliiig our mydiikkcn." fitrir^ women widi HIV. Codiairs fix many in tiie Rexrhester area — Kip bigotry, vicdence and disctiminatk>n need to be revisited The Men's Out­ longtime African American civil rights itig Any ofus can be in denial aixxit fedings, instead of pretending tiiey do The boys, s^jEs six to rune, werc con­ tiiis year's tour arc Nancy De I^anccy Sprir^ett; wfao unfortunatdy cfied dus are meant to destroy us (ta^of us.) Then readi Boject wiD kad tiiat movement in activist in adcfition to beir^ a singer arxi our soaai o[^>ression or our petsonal not exist This puts us in a better posi­ ceived timxj^ artifidal kisermiation by and Ray Breslin. past Aprfl of oompfications rdated to we cam start workitig for fteedom, Rodiester and in cxir surroutidiiig seven AIDS. founder of tfae women's a ca{^>ella problems. A woman who has never tion fbr survival (and iJdmate^ for joy) Nfidiefle Herxiessy fiom 1983 until die Each garden wfl offer a theme, 2^3pro- group Sweet Honey in thc Rock (as been harassed, raped or battered may than if we ate drugged on Prozac or \idietfacrwe take tfae toad of activism, coundes. If ycu wcxid fike to l)e a pent of ooupie broke up in 1990. After her deadl, Kf> was very open about his iHness or seek **l>alm in GilouL" the advisory group tiiat siu^^es diis priate lefieslunents and entertainment wdl as mother of rock musician Toshi ckny dvu: she is oppressed as a woman, akoiiol or TV or die pretense diat we Parneb Hennessy took tlie cMkkcn for Garden sculptures and accessories do­ and used k as a tool to not only edu­ And when we realize tfaat radsm, project, or arc intetested in volunteeiiiig Reagon.) Her basic theme was "using and further, that any woman is op­ are feeling no pain, diat we are tKX slaves two mondis, until tiiey werc placed widi nated by local artists and businesses wiH cate odiers about remainir^ sexudly sexism arid hcxtiophobia arc oontiected in any crdpadty, please call 442-2220 trouble for transformation." pressed Gay men and lesbians ^o to cjpptesskxi, addicrion CM: sdf-destruc- Bartd because police said tfaat Pamela be auctionfid off at die dosing party by safer, but to teacfa a profixmd lesson oppressions, wc can start to see tfae and ask for our volunteer coordinator. oflifc. The lesson he taught was An audiority pn 19th century sacred arc doseted to tfae extent diat tfaey have tivc patterns. Hennessy was a sjq^ect The case remaitis Gannett columnist Carol Ritter. links in the disuns of patriardial enslave- LOVE. He reminds all ofus how music of African American p>eople, never experienced iiarassment or dis- ReBgon also sakl that even the people VACCO cxintinued from p. 1 unsolved; the pofice have never ptxxluced The ciosif^ party win be heki fitxn 4 ment^and start to Iram fiom diose, Hke special we are, itidusive of cxir idksyn- Reagon referred to the sfMritual that goes, criiniiiaticm rnay cleny tiiat hornophobia who were tcx) fiightened to go widi here, to tdl Vacco tii£U scxne time therc evidenoe to link Pamela Hennessy widi to 7 p.m. at die Porter Perliam's Rose Benik£ Resfgon arid Piarriet Tubmaii, crades. He always had a vaUdating "wade in tfae water, God's going to affecrts thettt. If we cieny our pain and Tubman CXI die dat^ierous fl^t to fiee­ will be a remedy." tiic murder. Court Garden at die rear of die cid Spen­ wiio werc strugg^ir^ for fteedom long wcxd for everyone, and ackno\^4ec^ed trouble the water." By going diroi:^ iiide our heads in the sand (orin thc dom, arxl chose to remain on tiie pianta- Sharon I. Fawley, president ofNew Hermess/s lawyer Neil Beniiob saki cer estate on East Ave. The entrance befi^rcus. allasecpaL troubled waters, Reagon said, by using doset), we can avoid responsibility for rions, sometimes found what the cJd York NOW, saki diat NOW has put tliat slie codd liave won tiie case on ap­ is behind the plaza at 600 Park Ave. our scxjal cippresskxi arxl personal pain, dealtng in therapy with our persotial qxntual calk''balm in Gtbad.''Ileagon anti-g^discritTiinatkxi in its list of five peal if Eric County Surrogate Court Momit^g^ens: 1395 EastAve., Kip, in his often "embarrassing wsty^' rather than denying them, we can cre­ problems, not to mention respcwisibil- said tliat tfaey "found healing in die ccxe issues. Fawley said diat she had lob­ Juc^Josq^h Mbttina had ruled ^^nst 1209 East Ave. and 25-35 Far View His (usually in pubfic), reminded us to ate social and personal change, ity for endifig homophobia, radsm, sex­ place wherc they were most wounded." bied in Albany cxi May 8 for passage of her. The attorney liad advised lier not to Gardens, Afiemcxxi g^adens: 34 Wood­ lau^ at life. His was a fbcus CXI &«g; until he died. The lesson was one Reagon spoke abcxit Harriet Tutwnan, ism, dassism or any of die oppressions As lesbians, gays and bisexuals of all tiie kxig-staOed state g^ dvil x^its 1x0, accept the seokiTient Mattina said fitxn land Road, Httsfixd; 64 Monteroy Road, taught in the advanced curriculum ^A^iich has cxxx ag^ passed tike Assem- tiie start of tlic custcxly dispurc tiiat Brighton and 195 Whitewocxl Lane, diat HIV provides. He shared his iify and is beir^ loqx fitxn a floor vcxe t^ Hennessy shouki have a kuger tcie in die Brighton. experience, strengdi and hope with LETTERS tfaie Reputdican caucus in the Senate. She boys' upbringing, because she paid for Tx^QCts arc $25 at tfae dcx>r, $20 in ad­ us all Vflth grace and cfignity ICip copy of 7& fi?^ Gto I was itnptessed said, **Widi one sdt^ ofa pen, Vacco die arti&ial insemination procedures, and r^ts issue.^ This may be in ddxite few vance. They arc available by phone by leaves us, to continue his work in Local police officer widi ycxjr magazine's commitment to die Thanks for he^ with cjbfiteraicd a 15-ycar state cornrnitmerit remained invcived in die children's fives eternity. Am I attracted to men because I c^ii^ CHN at 244-9000; or at Paridei^ anodier place. His is a spirit that con­ community—and its poative portrayals not to discriminate on tifce basis of sexual after die break-up. feels trapped by the want to be, no. I have tried to be what AIDS benefit show Pharmacy, Arena's Florist, and Villagp tinues to live on. Ifyou lcK>k inside of die gay experience. oricntatkxi« This is discrirnination, {Jain -Asscxiated Press the hecerosexual wodd wcxJd ccMisider To tlie Editor Green Book Stores. yoursdfi you may be pleasandy sur­ strai^t, but i am ^y. Do I have a part­ With that in mind, I fed it is my ob- and sin^ilc, based CXI bigotry, plain and closet, homophobia I wodd Kke to thak all tiiose who made GAGVPicnk: scheduled National Christian prised to &id that K5> is sdll very much ner, no. %ation to call to your readers'attention die To the Editon die April 5 Benefit Slow at Oub Marcella simple." alive, not only in you, but in everyone positive g^ roie nrxxld diatTVs "NYPD for Saturday, July 15 As I am awarc, ^xxir editorial page does Consider this, it tcx>k from 1776 to an outstanding job. I thank Joey and Fawiey saki that to ^it tiie R^it, we lesbian group to meet he rouched.' 1964 for the Gvfl R^ts Act to come to Blue'' has bttx^t to prime time tliis sea­ aH must l)e gpssroots activists and Ixiild not print anonymous Jcfters, but 1 feel J Wendy for letting me put on the event It This year the Gay Affiance Picnk CLOITT (Oiristian Leshians Out To­ Know that yau are trussed an this it^Jatkyl:\. This was ta ensure equal rights son The producers have pioved that they coaHticxis witfa odier opptessed grcx^is. must rcspond to thc Speaking Our pkaoe was vety er^yable. \Xherc dse couki I Corntnittee tried scMTiediiiigriew; sched- gedier) witt hoki ics Third National Gath- pftysical pJanc^ my fiiend and mentor. under tfae Constitution for all citizens re­ really att% "cutting edge'* pc&e drama by •*We all need eadi otliet;" she s£ud'ljes­ C'Reqxxt is aD gays ask") by Susan Jor­ start cdebrating my 15 years, btit at the ultt^ tfae Ccxnmuriity Rank fix" a Satur­ cringAi^ 10-13, at SUNYBrodcport But mcxe impcxtant^, know tiiat you gardless of race. The Americans with adding an c^xnly gay reoeptiCMiist to the bians and gays must be an active and dan in die April 17 Dettiocnat <^ CJmtmk. pbce wherc I hsA my first show 15 years day instead of a Sunday — Saturday, The dicme is "CLOUT Our One intfiaxxably toudied very profixindly Disabrtlities Act, whidi gves equal r^ts show's gritty Manhattan squad room. visible part of grot^s working for dvil Am 1 ^y, yes. Am 1 a local police of­ ago? And we raised $800, wiiich was July 15, following tfae Pride Parade. Fcxmdation: Cddxating Our Herstory, the bves of many, induding myself. to employment and access for the dis­ They arc to be oorigRttulated for having die r^its and equality, and for reproductive ficer, yes. Dcx^s the public care, no. All handed over to Jeff and Lany of AIDS Lastyear, the cxxTirtiittEe received corri- Diversity aixi Riti^" Organizers say die In sadness over our loss, may we all abled to puUic {daces, was passed almost courage to go beyond stereotypes and to rights, and must make stirc diat our they want when they call 911 is some- Rcxiiester, Inc. Qn a weekn^it diat was ments fitxn pknk-goers whidi suggested thrcc-ds^ event wiD "expkxe and cddirare be strengdiened by die fond memo­ 20 years after die Civil Ri^ Act wm create a diaracter die Queer Conimunity issues arc visible to those groups." bcxly in a uruform and pcAce crtdser to greari thatif tiie GAGV scheduled die picnk our lives as lesbians and Christians." ries you kft us. We wiH Hsten "to die there ever be a''Sexual Oricntaticxi Act," can be proud of It's about time! show i^ and handle their problem. Therc iiave been tumors that ARI dkl CXI a Saturday, peopk would en joy them­ The g^rfierii^ wiD featurc ritual,work ­ wind" for your continued presence. not in my lifetime. The new g^y character is c^xxi about Have I saved lives, yes. Does ttie public not receive the money. Well, whoever Bufifalo lesbian wins sdves late into the evening wirixxx hav- shops, tehaan Christian vicleo cicxiirncn- We arc all **Safonda" you Kip! Remember folks, we (gays, lesbians his sexual odentatian and makes no 2^1o- 1 serve ask me if I am a gay cop or a sakl this is very wror^ Every penny that ir^ to get 141 eail>'tiie next mcwiiing fbr taries and mcxe. For morc information Your friend, and bisexuals) arc everywhere. We are gies about it to anyone, induciing tfae joint custody of sons strait cop when I knock on their door, is raised, of all liencfits in the past, has work. However, organizers have re­ call- (415) 487-5427 or write: CLOUT, Tom Fronczak your cops, firefighters, meter readers, gruff and vagudy horrio^^hotMC police cle- no. Do I arrest the ^'bad guys," yes, when always been handed over to ARI In feet, A Buffalo lesbian has been awarded cently received phone calls informing PO Box 460808, San Francisco, CA rid^ibors, fiiends, co-workers, arid fem- tective |dayed by Dennis Franz. How I can. joint custody of die three sons bom to tiiem diat therc arc servke providers wfc) 94146. Catering following the performance. refic^iir^ He is not oniy d^iified and I would not put CXI a benefit, unless die Does my employer (munidpality) fly. You may not see us in the gay pa­ lier ex-kw^r, who was murdered in 1994. need to woik on Saturdays. See tte artick abour die j^y on p^ craring but also damn good at iiis job. persons fitxn tiie o^^inization arc ptesent know I am gay, no. Wodd I be ridinind, rades, but we <3nr here. WQl we go away, The settfcment was readied May 10. Organizers say dicy deeply regtet if tfiis Blackfiiars "Falsettos" 13. For morc informarion or to order na >X1D Gcxl damn us to hefl on die final *TSI.YPD. Blue" has once 9^ pravcd A few years ago, I found out I have definite^ yes. Would nxy job be in jeop­ HIV. Well, today, I have many gcxxl Under tiie agreement, Pamda Hctincssy, change in tfae picnk cky means tiiat some tickets, caD die HPA Informarion Line at ardy, mc3st likdy. Do I go to gs^ txus, na judgement day, I don't know. I guess tiiat stereotypes are meant to be IxcJcea I 38, will sliarc ciostoc^ of thc boys with longtime fricnk-gocrs wiD t)e unaUc to to benefit HPA 987-1853. well just have to wait and see. Kudos utgp aD of your readers to watdi tiie ^low, fiiends, a job, arxl a roof over my head I Would I like to, yes. Am I attracted to tiiank God But like your readers, I too tfaeir grandmother, Patricia Bartd, thc attetid tiiis year. The committee said, FJsettos]& ocxnir^ to cown! Onjune 9, Softball tournament Susan. Thanks. arid to let ABC know that we si^^XMt mother of Hennessy's former lover, "That was certainly not die intenticxi of at 7:30 p.m- at the School ofthe Arts, little boys, most definitdy/«t Arc there liavc fiiends who arc suferif^ widi ADDS The Special Friends Prt^ram and Ancmymous tiieir efiforts in pcxttayir^ a ^^ chatsbcter NfidicBc Hennessy, who was stabbed to tiie picnk committee or of tiie GAGV. Blackfiiars Theatre will present a spe­ other gay police officers in the metro­ or HIV. I pray for them every day. My Canalside Realty are sponsoring their in a healdiy and realist l^it Write your death at age 29 in her Buffialo home in For diose wiio ^A^ Ise unable to attend cial performance of Fahtttos to benefit politan Rochester area, 1 wodd have to educadon isn't die greatest, so I really Annual Benefit Women's SofftjaH Tour­ ••NYPD Blue*' adds comments to Steven Bocfaco Prcxluc- April 1994. diis year because of wcxk commitments, Hdping People witfa AIDS, Inc. say, yes. Are diey out of thc doset, most can't see mysdfiid^xr^ ARI or He^xr^ nament onjune 17. arc noc Why, wc wcxild then not meet openly gay character ricxis, 10201 W.Pfco Blvd., Los AtMlcs, People widi AIDS in ways others can. ftunda Hennessy sakl diat she agreed please accept our apology. Gay Day at The ricket price of $20 win induck an CA 90035. to die setdement because she befieved Seabreeze is sdieduled for Sunday, July hor d'oeuvres recreprion by Black Tie LOCAL continued on p. 27 the stereotypkral role modd and image of To the Editor: So I tiy to do tiie liest I can, \ihat I can a police officer. Sincerdy, Recendy while viatii^ fiiends in Roch­ do. Put CXI AIDS benefits, make people is gay rights a moral issue or a civil Brad Foster estei; I iiad tfae gocxi fortune to pidc up a W. Hollywood, Calif LETTERS condnued cm p. 26 YES^ I WANT TO SUPPORT GAY ALLIANCE PROGRAMS 'I'he t'JH^ C h>urt if.puHi»hcd 11 tmw« a year (December ntvs d()cs it print advercsti^ dtat states that thc person 4nd JantMr>- comlniKJ) h) (lit: l-jnfH) Onirnct Pnru AK ihc pictured in the ad tt for safe, or thac you wid "ger thu < lay AHiance <»f ihc (^c-ncKv VaUc). Inc. 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( - • » Jvaticl99BTkeBitf0jtC7mft5 ATkeEt$tpiyC^otei}miti\99B NEWSFRONTS NFAXSFRONTS .... . ,«^ tou^xMcd anti4xxnosexu- nioudi, as tliousands of ledoian and gay dwner arnetidment, known as Issue ^ allowed to assume tiie lease ofhis de­ Horidians and cxjt of stateis par^ at die nied making tiie statement, and CBS has "Wright's comments deariy idenrify infected bkxxl and used condcxns duritig D.C. court rules lesbian afity laws in 1935, after which Gemian does rxx mfiir^ upon the ccxistiturional ceased mak panner. The state's hi^iest Magic KjngdcMTi, this year onjune 3. said he wiH continue to oover the Ladies' the connection between homophobia protests, tfae New Yodc Zia^A^aKf re­ courts sentenced about 50,000 giy men, 1^^ of ksbians and g?y men, ncx does is lover^s next of kin court nied that gE^ coupks arc "equally Rtofesskxial Golf Assodation (LPGA.) and sexism that woman athletes face." ported on May 15. it violate constitutional guarantees of vafid" as fiimity as "sodet/s tradidcxial morc dian 5,000 of whom wcrc salt to The NewsJottttkt/ofWinmffon also Locafly, SaHy Borate of Rodiester, who The Center forConstitutiona l R^ts A juc^ on tiie District of Columbia's die'day, gamcni^im«iiysii:v.macreaas fteeckxn of ejpressicxi arid due process. concept of die fiunily." Nazi camps, 'vx^iere an csdmatcd 3,UUU quoted Wti^t as saying "Wi^ it gets is a friend of some ofthe LPGA tour has obtained 22 pages of FBI files on Si^serior Court g^ve a victoty to g^y and Casde at 3 pm. to dieer the daily parade Issue 3 is deeped torepea l aH laws pro­ Suz^me GcMsetg of Lambda L^ cfied to the corporate kvd, that's ncx goir^ to members, said, 'Tt was very shocking. New York gay groups, induding ACT lesbian couples on April 26 when lie of die oostinod castcjfESsncy ciiacactErs. hibiting cfiscriminaticxi based on sexiwl Defisnse and Educadon Fund said,'It's Lesbians were sent to camps as fly. They're going to a butch game and It cat^it me off guard tfaat in 1995 sudi UP (die AIDS Coafition to Unleash • ruled tiiat a ksbian's psutner is her k^ TTiis year, tiie Genesis Gtovp, a gay- orientation. It will amend Cincinnati's ittfKXtant diat the court reoogpized die "asodals," die name given to womai tlW fiirifacrstfa e iMd kiK^ of the gputie." statemerxs codd be made. The women Power), the Gay Men's Health Crisis, "next of kin." owned business, has rented half the charter to forbid l^slators ftom ever Victoria Lane was IdHcd when a tree reality that a lesbian couple is a fiunily. >xdio refused to bear children for "die Wi^t wentcxi to state diat wcxnen golfers should find out \(^iat reafly hap­ die Coafition forLesbia n and Gay R^^ Aryan race," radier dian as homoseacuals. Orlando/Orar^ Countj' Ccxivention passff^ any measures whicfa prohibk dis­ on city property fiaDcxitohe r car. Her What's also important is tiiat tfae court golfeis arc hancficapped because thek pened. and SAGE (Senior Acrion in a Gay ^JheWasbit^ttttBlatk Center for a weekend of events. cnmination (or give "preferential treat- k>ver, Laura Sokxncxi, tiieir two chikiten recognized diat marriage is not a prc- •*bcx>bs" get in die way, preventing tfaem "I thought Ben Wrigjit was trying to Environment.) The radkai tight has adadcod die Disney tnem to') leshaans, gay men or bisexuals. and Lane's estate filed suit against the reqdstte to beii^ dose fitftiHymember s fix)m keeping tfaek left arms sttSg^t oover his own butt The ccxnmentators The fiks diow FBI activity sg3inst diose Btitain^s Labour Party company foraUowiri g gays to be present The nding reverses die 1994 dedsian District of CcJumbia fbr ncg^^ence, and or for having mutual responsibiUty fbr CBS is^ied a statement daimkig tiiat say mcxe negative tfaings alxxtt women groips in 1990 and 1991. The ^lency rc- "dunng normal operatoig hcxirs \^^en by U.S. District Judge Ardiur Spicgd, tlie dty's attomeys tried to have their one another^. It's the first case Fm awarc will end military ban tten about mak golfers. They arc morc fijsed tordeas e 177 p£gps of tl^ fik CXI thousands of unsuspecting, r^;ular pa­ >^*x> struck down die arxieridrnent on tiie Wt^jht never made the comments, and daim cfismissed. of diat recognizes a lesbian coi^ile as verbal about the women, always have ACT UP, daiming "ongoing law en­ Britain's Labour Party announced in trons and dxldten" arc present The hate grounds tfaat it violates cotisriturional tiiat he and CBS have been dcxie "a Judge Frederick Dcxsey rukd in Janu­ fiimily members cx as next of Idn fi>r die April diatk wiHKft die ban ongsQ^ in die grave injustice." Many of tfae LPGA to comment on how tfaey look, etc, forcement activity." ptuposes of a wrongful deadi claim." group American FamSy Association has guarantees indudk^ fise eaprcssion, due ary tiiat tiie chiklren's daim ccxild pro­ mifitary if dected to a m^cxity in die next protested tiie Gay Day in the past, de­ golfers said that diey stpport Wr^t 'Tt's like die military," Bcxate said, in -Dmfy News An attorney fortii e D.C Ccxporation prcx:css and the fundamental ri^t to ceed, and cxi April 26 he signed an otder general decticxi. manding diat k be hdd at n^^ after padc partidpate in the polirical process. and CBS. reference to the reacrtions of women stating that Solomon's daim oouki also Council saki that a decisicxi on whedier The Newsjomuil^sx&d^ "Our respcxise golfers. "Keep your mouth shut and After a sturming vkttxy in local dec­ dosing. The Disney management has * This decisicxi should give pause toaf l proceed. or not to appeal wifi come after the dcxi't taflc about ycxjr sexuality and ycxi Let Pizza Hut know tions ki May, die Labour I^ttty is fevoted denied thc request, stating, "Our posi­ Americans who value tfaek dvil i^ts,'' is quite sinple; we stand by die accuracy Dorsey wrote in his nine-page ckcision entirc ne^^gsncc lawsuit is complete. won't be put ckxvn. In die'90s we shodd towin tiie nextgenecal decticxi in 1997. rion has ahvays been tiiat we don't dis­ saki Patrida M. Logue of Lambda De­ of Valerie Helnibreck's story." we're sick of Rush: call diat Washington D.C "docs not recog­ -lisa Keen, Tbe Washitt^ttn Bkuk be abk to be morc open and free in our Labour spokesperscxi Davkl dark sakl criminate in any way. The gates arc open fense arxi L^ BcScarion Rind, whkli is Wcgfat was brie^puHed finxn cover­ sodety. ill be writing and talking to nize tliat a spousal rdationshqi can exist tliat his party win remove the ban CXI g^ toalL" co-counsd in the case.' *Anti-gay baflot age of die McDonaW's LPGA Cham- them at 800-358-2222 between same sex partners»." In spite of Gays among camp women golf ers and asking fortfaei r view­ widun a nxxidi of comir^ to oflBce. He The ccxporaticm has, however, put lp initiatiivcs like... Issue 3 seek to cfcny ksbi­ picxishp at tlie DuPont Country ebb in Rush Limbaugh eats pizza while that, he continued, 'The rdaticxishp be­ points. A lot won't dare to talk about it survivors at celebration said tfaat tiie party wiH set vp a commis­ signs in past years infomiir^ patrons that ans and g^ men tfae bask dvil liberties Wilmingtcxi, but was back cxi die ak the commenting on his knack for "always tween Ms. Solomon and Ms. Lane ccxi- whik tiie/rc on tour. They had to work skxi toka m Iww odier ccxttitries have "members ofthe gay community have guaranteed toaf l dtizens under our de­ next day. being rig^t'* in a new series of TV and tained aD the attributes ofa married oocfsk Survivors of die Nazi concentration so hard to get TV coverage for the handled the issue. chosen to visit die Magic Kingdom..." mocracy." Robin Kane, spokesperscxi for the Na­ radio commercials for Pizza Hut. but for tiie het diat it is a same sex unkxi camps in Ravensbruck and Sachscn- LPGA, and if tfaey alienate CBS, they "Wc have seen in the United States The Genesis Group says thatit findsth e I-ambda wifl try to afpeal tiie case to tional Gay and Lesbian Task Force, said, According to the Washingoti Femitiist that cannot be recc^nized with a mar­ hausen, Germany, including ^y survi­ may lose it" tiiat k has ncx been handled tcxi deveify, sgns "offensive." Disney has not dedded die Supreme Court "Lesbians don't hurt women's golf— Faxjiet, limbai^h recently commented riage license. Althcxj^ dicy were barred vors, cdebrated the 50th anniversary of and we want to avcMd tfaese sorts of diffi­ whetiier to post tiie sigr^ again diis year. Ben Wr^t hurts women's gcifi suid his -Some infcxmation fsxym Assodated on a rural meeting oflesbian oiganizets from being ccxisicfcted 1<^ spouses, tfais thdr fiberaticxi on April 23, aocotdSng to -Lambda Le^ Defense and Educa- Press, National Gay and Lesbian Task culties," Clark said own profession as wdL Sucfa outrageous saying they were "mating with pigs" dose tdaricxish^, ccxfJcd with the &ct Reuter News Service, -Peter Frdlierj^ The Washittgott Blatk ticxi Fund Force Oppositkxi to lifiir^ tfae ban is as wide­ and demeaning comments certainl}^ raise to "perpetuate thc species," that they werc both legally reccjgnized Gays werc amcxig die 2,700 survivors spread amcx^ British miHtary fcadecs as it Court rules for anti-gay CBS commentator denies questicxis about Wright's abifity to cover RiE^^ster your distaste for homophobk pan^ts of die same two children, leads who atDended the ceremonies at Ravens­ women's sports fairiy." FBI spied on gay bruck, a camp for women. Historian is among die top brass in the United and anti-woman radio. Call the Pizza thc Court to conducfc tiiat Ms. Scrfomon initiative in Cincinnati slurs of lesbian golfers "This is just cxie morc examine ofhow Hut comment Une: (800) 358-2222. Gunthcr Grau said that it was time to States. rights, AIDS groups is the next of kin of Ms. I.ane." A federal court of appeals ruled on homopholxa in ^>orts hurts aH wcxnan -National Gay and Lesbian Task acknowledge the murders of gays by tiie -Darice Cbrk, The Washin^n Blade Gay Icg^ activists toid die Witsti/^on May 12 tiiat Cincinnati's 1993 anri-gay CBS spcxts commentator Ben Wrig^ athletes, whether ksbian or heterosexual," The FBI has sped on AIDS activists Force BIdtk diat as fer as tfiey kncnv the ruling is Nazis, and diat since it is stiD easy to mo­ Disney World Gay Day charter amendment is constiturional. was cjuoted by a local Delaware news- said Dr. Dee Mosbacher, producer of and gay rights organizations for years, bilize violence against gay peopJe, pcJitical pqier on May 12 as saying tfiat 'lesbians die first ofits kind in tfieU5. forales- The 3-0 decision departs from every the documentary film Out fir a Chatty ard is stiB q^ying cxi ACT UP, sqiposedly t bian or gay mak coipk. The only similar parties should commit themsdves to pro­ angers radical right j>revious ruUng on die case. Judge in tfae sport hurt women's grff." He cfc- AtUnsssit^HottttpMtiaitt Watttett's^xttts: due to a feartliargay s m^t throw ITIV case was in New York City in 1989y tecting human dignity, /ustice and G^ and Lesbian Day at Disney Worid Krtpanski wrote fbr tiie U5. Court of w'hcn a g^y man, Miguel Braschi, was freedom. has the rdigious r^t foaming at the Appeals for tfae Sixth Circuit that the r* WORRIED

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Perry), in addition to showing how gjlad tohave cnitsidepressure to stay people had no informatiexi, was to en­ tc^etiier. If we're argusng wc just say, America courage readers to send gay Ixioks to * We'd better make i^ so we wcxi't let "And Say Hi to Networic co-mcxierator for advocacy, die library—and hundreds arrived everybcxiy down." Ifae fibcatian, instead of rcactir^ ar^rily, By Susan Jordan deariy hostile to gays, and was going and Icxigtime si^porter of die Rev. Peofde reach out and touch us as a wdccxned title books and pxit diem in Famed lesbian columnist Deb Price to caned his subscrqstion to his local Janie SJMAIT^S stru^e to lie called as a coi^k. We're die first gay 0014^ alot die library, and otiier libraries \^4icrc ''The book was written for two basic and her parmer Joyce Murdcx:h, who pcqper because of tfae column. Then he pastor to Downtown United Ptesby­ of people have ever known, even g^ tfaerc wasn't any material That was a ccJlabcxates CXI the column, have written read in tiie oolumn diat Bany Gciklwacer terian Church.) She's a remarkable people. Pecple enjoy rcJating to us as reasons: first, to cdaim and celebrate realcoi^—itgotmodktattBntkxi,and a book. And Say Hi tojqyu: Amerka's stf3ports gay qgjhts, arxl he deckled tiiat if person. a ccn^k, am we're enjoying opening was a wirc story, and a TV story in this moment in history, and second, First GtTf Colttmi Cotttes Out, which is Goldwater codd do diat, he would Anodier everyday hero is Christine xxp our lives. People write and say, "I Georgia. It was even on tfae cover of now available frcxn Doubleday. The rctiiink liis views. Burton of Golcfen Threads, a woman feid I know you so wdl, and I want you to talk atiout how people have useci Joyce's faometown paper in Macoa to know mc," and that's really special Etttpty Clo^t recendy talked witfa Deb Thc book discusses heterosexual who was hurt hersdf when she went to us. about the book, which deals with the parents and their gay kids — how par­ thfougt^ a conventional dating service That was an increaUe stocy because this cxilumn to change their lives.'' genesis of her history-making column ents have used the column. There is a for lesbians, and was told she was too leaders responded to die column. Thc A h^ in keeping our lives private is and the responses it has evoked fi"om wonderful couple in Washington state old. She dicki't become bitter, but cre­ moral is, you can b^^ to chat^ the tfaat tlie column doesn't tun in CUT town. bodi gay and heterosexual pcojJe around who have two gay kids and who came ated her own dating service for older world by an act as simple as donating PeofJe recc^nize me m Washmgton, thc country. The book's tide is an ex- out in tiieir kx:al ps^per to defend tfae col­ people, which also includes f)eople of a Ubrary bcx>k. D.C, but less in Taccxna Psurk At dbie Spiirigfidd, Ma wpon tiiere was a amfJe of that response: many letters Deb umn. Therc is an incredible range of cvcty age. Fve been tryir^ to find peofJe EC: So ycxi and Joyce travd around tfae country findir^ niaterial for tiic woman selfing tickets, and she saw my receives end, "and say hi to Joyce." heterosexual people who are already \dio arc doirg incredilJe things in diar publisher and executive editor of the leagues, at dieir place of worsfaip. name and sai^ **What arc you doing EC: One ofthe central goals ofthe gay-fiiendly or arc moving in tfaat direc- column? Detroit NewSy andj. Ford Huffinan, They've mack the column their own own IKnes, and in tfae process arc facing here. Deb Price?" Things like tliat column seems to bc to put a human fece tk?n. There's a huge moveable middle DPi We travd a trcmerxkxis amount manag^ editor of tfae Gannett News and broL^t it into tfaeir lives. We see all of us. I find tfaese people through hsfipen an tfae time: I fed vafidated that on thc stereotj-pe ofthe lesbian or gay class in diis country who haven't had because we've done so many speeches Service. AD were in Rcxiicster togetfaer as tfae bcxik as telling an incredible story my travds, or tfarough letters people tiie message is getting out and people this infomiation. These are some of about die column. I've done speeches colleagues, and became fiiends. Two diat we didn't want to see lost, like so person, and to build bridges between write me. arc paying attention. It's been nice for the people I'm trying to write for — JhyceMurdoch emdDeb Pnc& for tiiree years now, and Jcjyce was dcxr^ arc straight and one is gay. The two many stories ofour lives. die g^y/lesbian and heterosexual worlds. EC: Can you tell a stor}^ from the Joyce to be cast as "tfae wife of" She fair-minded, decent people who haven't Photo by Mioyljni Foy interviews for die book. Tve also dcxie a strait editors became gay-fiierxDy be­ Also, we wanted to teU it eariy and DP: Absolutdy. One ofthe main bcxik — like about the "avalanche of lot of traveling because tfaerc was an doesn't have a last name in die ccJumn, things thc book ftxruscs on is to take a had die opportunity to get informatioa cause of tiie gay editor. It was Rochester have it firesh. If we had written tfae wkiow of Dr. Martin Ludier King), who gay bcxiks'' whk:h arrived at the libraty in interesting stoty, and I went to check and when we go to conferences and cross section of rhe readers ofthe col­ EC: One major theme of die column diat created the authority to give me a bcxik three years later, it wouldn't has sv^ported us on a variety of issues, Sen. Sam Nutin's hometown.^ How did it out. thii^ like tliat, my name tag says *T)eb umn, including heterosexual readers, is ribeachievement s of people wc sddom rcd li^t or a green light to go ahead have been fi-esh. The book was writ­ but die public is more focused cm Gen. that come about? Price," and hers says, "Joyce." with the column. ancl their reactions xo thc column. Two hear about in the media. How do you EO Has being wdl-known and hav­ ten fix* two bask teascxis: first, to daim Colin Powdl and his opposirion to gay's DP: That's one of thc things (in the ing your lives exposed iti tfae column ofthe people IVc focused on arc a find your "cvcr\'day heroes?" EC: Rochester plays a big part in In addition, my speedi at Rochester's and celebrate diis moment in history, in rhe militaty... A ga\' person who knew book) tiiat's probably most talked about been intrusive in any way, and has it the book; could you talk about that? hctcroscxiia] woman from (California DP: l])oing thc column is challenging, (Downtown United) Presbyterian and second, to talk about how people Mrs. King asked her to get involved in In l^enys Ga., Sam Nunn's homctow-n, been difficult to go from being fxivate Why do you call Rexrhester "die spiri­ who sent fovcc and mc our first anni- and e\^cT\- week wc liax'e to go dirougli a Church plays a central role. That was have used this column to char^ their die gay movement, and she did. everybody had an opinion on gays in people to what Judy Grahn calls tual home of die column?" vcrsar\' card, iind an 8l)-)'car-old guy in lot of ideas and find the best, and also an increcSbk, powerfiil weekend for us. lives. the rnilitaty, which was tfaat Sam Nunn "America's best-kwed fcsbian ooi^ile.^' DP: The bcxik talks about how in­ EC: Do you fJan to continue writing Michigan who has seen an incredible do a variety of columns, not always Or Bishop Spong of Newark, N.J., EC: Anydiing to add? was ri^t So Joyce and I walked around DPi I guess tiierc arc a cotple of an­ credibly important the role was that the column for the forseeable fiiture? amount of chanj^^ in /Vmcrican culturc. write about the same thing — that's who is fighting for gay indusion witiiin DP: I diink the bcxik itself has a the town and tried to find information swers. We've loved tfae attention we've Rochester played in tfae column. The DP: Sure do! 1 plan to keep doing 1 ie has become my weekly pen pal; he challenging. die Episcopal denomination. He's an message not often heard around the abcxit gay peofJe — none was available gotten. One thing Joyce talks about in people who played key roles arc all the column as long as I have an op­ writes me consrand\ alx>ur die column, Everyday hero^ are evetywherc, and everyday hero. It's not just gay people community — a success story. The at die newspaper, the loCal bookstore, thc book is that most gay coi^les ckxi't fiom Rochester. Therc arc diree editors column has been an enormous success portunity — and having the opportu­ i Ic's reading i7(>oks I've written about, you have to dig» but therc arc so many, — heterosexuals roo are heroes in this the Christian bookstore, the pubbc li­ get pressurc to stay togedier. In gay who werc in Rexrhester together — because ofthe peopie who've used it nity is a great privUege. asid he roiUy makes an effort to support including heterosexuaJ pcopJc, who are battie, which is a batde of education. brary, tfae county courthouse. culturc, the only person who cares if Christy Bradford, now managing edi­ to transform their lives, through inter­ what Fnn doing. doing things for us that no one knows Right in your backyard, there's Viiginia One tfaing I did in tfae ccJumn (about you stay in a relationship is you. We're tor ofthe Detroit News', Bob Giles, actions witfa femily, fiiends, work col­ /Vnother example is a man who was about. 1 jkc Coretta Scott King (the Davidson (the More Light Churches

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it Rirt erf'our Strategy now is to gpt tfae always able to get tiie Civil R^xs Bureau 31 public commitments we need We or Attomey General's office to get in­ hasn't been a place wherc die Ri^t has on sodety's vigorous opposirion to wfaedier and whom to marry, just as Visibility now more than ever: Paula Ettelbrick of volved in cases. Abrams and KoppeU been visibk That is definitdy diar^ir^ have 28 and need tiiree morc — fixir same-sex marriage and use it as a non-gay peopk do. werc very ccxnmitted to fiirtfaering the and die community needs to start moni­ ESPA on the Right's assault on gay New Yorkers or five morc to be safe, ftindraising and political organizing . What isjwwrrok in tiie same-sex toring diat One start is to gp to tfaek weapon to strcngdien tfadr "tradi- marriage batde? Therc arc many ways arc exhausted and will pass tihe budget wm we get it passed tfab sesskxi—na reccxd of civil tights fi>rgEtysan d lesbians By Susan Jordan in tfae state. They dki everytfaing they meetings and hear what tfaey say, tfaen TheCmaBigktsBuitmuis rional fomilty values" agenda. Expect for everyone to get invcrfved. Hdp get and go home widxxit taking on matters Do west* need pubfc advocacy—yes. Paula Ettelbtick, i^islative counsd fix- make tte connection widi \(hy we need wi0tm the Attomey GmtsmPs morc attacks on not otily same-sex tfae word out Educarc die public. of substance. EC Thc demonsttadon ^^k^Deiinis ccxid do, arxl wcrc gcruneiy committed die En^»rc State Pti& Agenda (ESPA), to stay visiUe widi the civil r^^ bilL If i^ke, mtdVaccohoB dismamtt^ marriage but also gay, lesbian, bi­ Hold a forum. Tdl your ftmiily, The question is, do we do a genuine Vacco at tihe Univetsity of Bufl&lo isw That's an encxmcxis k)ss, and it^s hard tD and fixmetiy k^ director fix Lamtxb diey don't see us out tihere, tlieyTl have it aU MMcanHmetfidt^ it sexual and transgender ftunilies, in­ friends and coworkers about our ri^t Lc^ Defense and Education Furid, ad­ push to get tfae bin passed, or do we do a ccxnmencement on May 13 was oxn- convey diat to pet^ifc. I thitik we need to do some major educarion in our com­ all tfaeir own way. aUegethm; hohecanpareit duding foster parenting, adoption to marry. Sign on to die Lambda Le­ dressed die l^^tical Caucus's May meet­ visibility can^ia^ to make tiiem realize pararivdy smaD but made die issues vis­ ibk. Do you think even small actions munity. EG Is tfaerc pendir^ legislation wlifcfa domn to when Wsmq^cAm. and chikl cjustcxly. gal Defense and Educarion Fund ing. She ako ^xike widi die Ett^ Closet we won't go away? will affect tfae gay community? EO Is die Pride Agenda f^mnkig dvil make an impression? EO Tiw? mag^izine said CXI May 15 that And he deddes what auesi^^ Incked, tfae subject of same-sex Marriage Resohirion. Write letters to about current gay and lesbian issues in PE: Therc is a biD wlikfa has been ki- mUpHTsae. marriage offers many political chal­ tiie editor and get tfae press to cover disobedience acrions? PE: Anywherc m die state wherc he's Robert Reed of tiie Christian Coalition New Ycxic State, rangng fiom die civil was in Rcxiiester a few montiis ago to troduced into botfa the Senate and As- 'RudaEttelhwk lenges and organizing c^Tportunities die subject PE: We'rc riiinkir^ abcxit many kinds ^jpearing. pec^k should go. It doesn't ri^ts biD, to Dennis Vacco's dismandirg meet witfa tihe local chapter, which is semhty^ to define "femil/'as baskalfy rc- — and numerous questions — ftir To have and to hold It's about hav- of die stato Qvil Rights Bureau, to apro- of strategies. have to be a lot of people. Five or 10 peoffe can be a presence. This guy has to headed by Kodak executive Tcxn J essip, cfdrir^akg^rdatkinship—tliebi&fisis g^/ksbian/bisexual/tcansgender ac­ it^ tfae ri^ts and responsibilities of jX)sed measure which would define Sue CoweU (chak of die ESPA aild die rneetir^ tocJc {Jace at BetM FUD' ^xxises, paierit-dtuk], etc. kxaddidan to tivists. It^s time for diat dialogue to l<^al and societal recognition ofour '*femil/' as tequiringa legal rdationship board): One thing we did was not civil get that what he did by revoking that pmtecrion reaD>'aflfects g?y and fcsbian Gospd Church, the pastor of which is definite g^ fiimiKesa s nor real» tltis bfl begin. It's tkne fot everyone to find lovii^ unkms. It's about hoklir^ dose — and of ccxirsc gays and lesbians can­ disobedience, but leafleting to protest "wctdd al» affect adopdon. I elon't tinrdt Hawaii inamage New Yorkers' lives. We're embarras^ invoh^ in tfae attempt to overturn thc thra-rok in dds battfe. not only our loved ones, but ako tlie not legally marry. (Senate Majority Leader Josqih) Bruno die hS iias mudi cfa»iC3c of passing but him, and we can begin to orginize to ^ dty^s domestic partnerrfip benefits. That's ciedffikm wffl a£fect us We may ask, ft>r exanqdc, do we rc- demcKtatk pr!nc^>ks of £umess and %. EC: Pcf^e arc so discxxiraged about at a dinner he attended (Bruno, an oppo­ itf s someddr^ to watcfa. *z * rid ofhim in four years. a pretty sinister connection, between sdly need or want die rig^t to msury?. ecpiality often djerucd us because of thc state civii rights bill, which is being nent of gay rights, recendy cut health in­ By nextyear wcH be in a fejB-fledged The subject of same-sex marriage is A lot of peopk don't know that one of v^ite'^profi^sskxid'' u{^5er tniddledass We arc asking for our cqujd ri^tt to who we arc and wiuHn wc love. And kept off thc Senate floor by the Republi­ surance benefits for die domestic part­ \v9f aroisid tiie state and country on two c^akll^ ti^ir^ into tfae consdouaiess of die Attomey General's jobs is to enforce rigjit-wingers and Bkck churches, and marty tiie one we love and carc for, most of all, it's about creating and can Caucus, and doesn't seem to have a ners ofhis staff, saying that gay people issues. One is tfae anti-gay initiative many Ametkans, and has already made dvil r^its protection in die state. Whedier Tisa? said ifaat this was "oneof 12down- fost as non-gay Ametkans do. Many strengdiening diverse ftimilies and chance unril things change in Albany. "chcKise" an "abnormal lifestyle.") (Amendment 2 ^tdiicfa would ban aU naticxial headlines and fixHit^>age news it invcJves government or industty, it's Ikik sites in what is sniposed to be a lib­ same-sex couples sharc the same re­ fbnrnng rdationships free of discrimi­ Do you see die bill as bekigcxi die back PE: It was a memo in die form ofa forms of pro-gay l^isktion) in Colo­ around tiie countty. And it's cfarify in tiie sponsibilities as married cot^ks. nation and prejudice. burner, and if so, what should people tfae Attorney General who should be out eral state." Do ycxa agree diat die lUdical cross-sig^ of the Radkai Ri^t Already menu—the q^petizer was "pass die dvil rado A)rfiicfa is now bcfi^rc tfae Svpreme However, nowherc in tfae United (As part of its grassroots organizing focus on? tfaerc enforcing the civii rights laws. Right is on tiic rise in New York, and an aggressive pre-emptive strike against rights biD,'' and so on, going thrcx^ our Court If we win, it will be the biggest State do they receive die same recog­ efforts around marriage, NGLTF is PE: That's a vcrj^ gpod cjuestion. I stiD During the campaign he talked about vhat is ESPA doing to mcxiitcx that^ I same-sex marriage has been launched agenda. We were tryingto send a mes­ dvil r^its victoty ever fiur lesbians and nition or benefits, not even in com­ preparing an organizing kit and otfaer see the bifl as a finnt burner issue. I don't nodiing but "endu^ crime in die streets," kiow tfae National Gay and ljesbian Task in Alaska, Utah and Soudi Dakota, witfa sage to Bruno, A) tfaat you can't get away giys. If we kise, k's baskaDy going to give munities with domestic parmership materials for activists. CaO Betfa say that with thc thought that it will be which has nothing to do witfa the At­ Force has African American activist morc attacks expected. with that kind of comments, and B), tfae stamp of approval to anti-gay ini­ laws. Barrctt at (202)332-6483, ext 3215; passed diis year, but as a need to remain tomey General posirion. Mand)'Carter traveling around the ooun­ we're here and we're not going away. tiatives around tiie countty. The R^t A Congressktt^ direat maybe fortfa- Of course, gay, ksbian and bisexual babn^[email protected] \isiblc and vigilant. The Civil Rigjhts Bureau is witiiin the tty doing cxxreach to Black diurches and By our count we have enough votes to wiH declassify us as dtizens. coming» too. These attacks are designed people are as diverse as non-gay -National Gay and Lesbian Task Now more than ever wc need to push get the bill passed. There's a couple of Attomey General's office, and Vacco has communities, but we need more than to head off a positive ruling expected one Mandy Carter. The second issue is the Hawaii mar­ people. Many would not choose to Force for thc bill. \X^e need to bombard the Republican senatois who have been de­ dismantled it He has cut some staff and riage diaDenge. Constitutionally, marriage kter tfais year or in eari>^ 19% on a pend­ marry even if they could. However, FE: We need a dx)usind Mand\^ Cart- Senate. Wc need to push and push, and cently vocal about the need to pass the re-structured, putting an end to what was in one state is fcgal inaD, butNew York ing same-sex marriage case in Hawaii. virtually all gay people prcfer that they ers! It's so exploitative, because you know not just on I^)bby Day. We should do biD, Iflce Sen. Goodman (a co-sponsor.) a vety \ibrant and activ^e bureau over the (or any otfaer state) can say, *Tt violate It's time to sound the alarm. — and not the state — dedde these peofJe (white ri^t-wingers) don't sit-ins in diosc scTiators' offices. For die And there's been a handfol of vocal anti­ past 15 years. He can't get rid ofit p^tri- our public policy." ^^ The Radical Right plans to capitalize Pride /\gcnda and other groups doing gay senators. The majority arc silent and gether, but he can parc it down to wherc carc about die Aftican American com­ statewide advcxracv' in Albany, &ie rcality unknown — diey wx>n't teD us what their it's ineffective And he decides what cases munity. has set in that n

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pizza and kcKieam establsh some sexual (xxisickDQd a woman fibnrnaker; afier aD, fi^atured in Rochester's 1994 fest Chris Rocfaester's most expansive cuhuiad tenska Hike to create diis tenskn of de­ I talk about tfae fismak expetience ex­ now vc^bnteets as a curator fbr tiic events^ The Rcxhcsttr LesbisH^Gajr fSm sire bttween wonien ki nty vkkcK, but it dusivdy. filmfest—coc^ratuIatk>ns, Chrisi aridVidoo Festival 1995kg^iriingattBqg^ ckiesn't have tobe made expfidt Iniean, Tl: If you werc topbo e your films in a JO: The main tlikig we want to sixess and sinpoct from scxKces tieyood die Chiis Russo: inaking ivomen's eiq^eiience visible Fm not maldr^ pom. But I am eaDrir^ certain section of a vkko store, ^sidierc tins mc3ndi is the ongoitig *n[htid Coast LesBiGay community. about die ^saoe m \(4ttdi dne same-sex ivould you shelve tiiem? CaU fisr Enttks." One of the most ex­ PedidBG the most subatandal cxKfi of desircs exist I'm concerned abcxit de- By Tony IttiiTri ums is so tiiat I can make visibk some of CR: I dittdcifs tcaBjrescddi^tiattlie citing tiiifigs about our festhral is the tiiis years festival has been made poasbfe finkigdus ciesirc as an a^Krience, not tiie Perhsps one of tiie greatest honors a tiie ima^ut anistSy SB wefl as those finm tlie test of Pfeochicets David Emert and Susan use in my films arc ofien pfayfiil, not an reoog^iition of one of hs kxal artists. how wcjrnen feel, and diat isn't Ear. Only same-sex desire. But I tiiink k^s |u8t as die'Ohkd Coast''n^on: :< of die Untted SoleS have cxpnsssed a marked entiiu­ "in your fece" sort of diing Humor is Chris J. Russo, an MFA candickte at tiie in recent years have wotnen begun to es­ irnpcictarit diat die fcdgercoeatnuiutyse e States and Canada within 200 miles of siasm abcsut tl^ recent devckpmcnt, as Visual Studks Workshop in Rocfaester, tablisfa a vcHce about tfadr own ickntities.'' impottant in my woric as weDy fbr k my wodc Because I want to ftach a wide tiic Great Lakes, an area stretching M&T is die fesdvaTs firstooqxxat e ^xxi- has had one of her films. That'sAtttore^ In addition toRusso' s academk studies, allows me to avoki diat^xHhc^ didactk audience, I txy toinoorpocateoonimo n fixxn New Bnsiswkic aB die way topart s sor. hi ackfition to M&Ts finandal sup­ accqited for induskxi in San Frandsco's sfae currendy teacfaes an undergraduate seriousness I ofien see ki ahetrative fibtK rcfiaerioes m rt^ wodc. In answer todii s of Iowa. Ifyou arc kurrcsteLl in entcritig port, tiiek donation rqxesents the kx^ J. 1995 Lesbian/Gay Film and Video course in pfaotogre^ihy at Visual Studies, IX: What odier fibns arc you woddc^ cjuestkin, I wcnid say, I would bc ^ad if fibns and videos for oonskkratkxi, coo- communit/sinacaskigteyectfordie Festival. and is a regular contributor to.r'^/jbs^tt^ on? audknces otiier dian gays and ksbians tacrt Dave Hofifend carc of tiie Gay fisstiva} itself. In Soldl's words, tiie do­ Given tfae increasing interest and rec­ a public:ation devoted to critkal theory CR: A fibn caBod VMr CravT wittdi saw n^ wodc, because it's knpoctant fix AOknce, at (716)244-8640. nation carties a considetafak "symbolk ogrution Rochescer's own Lesbian and of tiie media arts. For tfae last two years, uses popular music rcferences to chal­ tliem to understand diat sudi desires SR: We abo want to kt you know value.'* As a gesture, k signifies M&Ts she has been involved in a number of accepcanoe of tiie LesBiGay communiiy, Gay Film and Video Fesrival has been From 'Ihat'sAnwre'' lenge tiie hetero-kkntified readir^ in die exist about an ifKOcnbig furidraiser, a show­ earning locally and narionally, Russo's curatorial pro jects in the Rodiescer com­ fyri^ of sot^ Fm puttir^ tlie lyiks b a TL: If dierc was a feminist scctkn in ing of **Wigstocfc Thc Movk" at The and its eagerness to reach out to a di­ achievement is aD tfae more pertinent In munity. This year, she is volunteering as a TL: You do all tfae scrccnwriting? kgkd reference The narrator meets a new oontQct of a womarv'woman toman- tiie vkko store; wotdd you shdve your Ijtik Theatrc on Jufy 13 at 7 pjTt This verse popularion. film curator for tfae Lesbian and Gay feet, her first fikn, Sbe'sNoS^t^^ was CR: Yes. BaskaSy, I write personal nar- sttariger in a pizsetia, which prompts her tic foendsi^ A^in, Tm using references work tfaerc? film shows die wiki and crazy antics Rqxesentirig M&T in publk and fi­ Film Fesrival. She explains riiat volun­ one of the featured independent entries rarives. A lot of tfaought goes into tfae seardi forlov e and understanding of the a mass audtence can rdate to. This pkce CR: Probably. I don't even drink my wfaicfa take place every fiiU in New York nancial rdaticms witfa tfae festival com­ in Rochester's 1994 Film Fesrival. teer work has aiabded her to "researdi writing. It's another opportunity to naturc ofher desirc fordii s wcxnan. She is a road trip. The narrator is flipping films attempt to define "feminist," bm Qty at the W^tock festival—coififures mittee are John Ganshaw and Carole That fikn, whkfa was also accepoad for contsmporary film and video makers.'' express myself. undergoes a humorous, sdf-rcflective tifirou^ radki starions... Who tesn't tiien because I am taOdng about the fe­ like you wouldn't believe! Tickets cost Fazacketly. Fazackerly is assistant vice screcnir^ in Washington's "One in 10" Ste has also been abk to ddve into thc TL: How has film been morc con­ quest for defining diis sexual attraction. done this? mak experienoe I don't see how diey can't $10 at tfae dcxir, and you cannot buy preskknt mortgE^ consultant at M&T, I jEsbian and Gay I%n Festival, periisps Eastman House film and video ardiives, ducive to your needs in ea^wessir^ one of The horoscopes act as her guidance in TL: Do you identify yourseif as a be fertimist Tm ckir^ pro-woman stufiL advance tickets, so get therc early! wl^ Ganshaw is an assistant mans^er at t}pifies many of Russo's ideoiqgkal con­ which aDows her tog^ a substantial his­ your greatest concerns—**tfac femak tiiis cjucst Fcxxl is anotfaer important lesbian filrnmaker or a filmmaker\di o JO: Rnally, just to dear up any con- tiie Pittsford branch. Despite tiiek ex- cerns. At once profound and humorous. torical per^xctivc about'Sviiat's some­ experience?" ckmcnt of tiic fflm.Becaus e tiie fihni s crcatses fikns wirii ksbian subject matter? Film Fest Fever, a fusicxi, note thtat die correct dates feH* tfae tcrisive ccjrnrriitinenis to M&T, bodi have She's No i/>2//gKrcxamines tiie fanafc ex­ what current and what has been done CR: Hkn is a widdy accessibk medium. embedded m Italian Guhuce, piz2a plays CR: I reaDy have a hard time with tiiis monthly i^pdate filmfest arc from Friday, Oct 20 to offered tfaeir services to tfae fesrival in perience, specificaUy the space vdierc in the past" It readies a potential^ mucfa wkkr audi­ an important visual role. In fact, it's cjuestion because I don't like to be pi- Satutday, Oct 28. (Ihc dates printed subcommittBes. Fazackerl)' is currendy By J. O'Neill and Steve RandaU same-sex desirc co-exists between two TL: So &r you've had two films ac- ence tiian photogcai^. I try to iirit^ a appTcfiriate diat we'rc in tfae Coliseum geonfacJed I reaDy don't want tob e de­ in tfae last issue were incxxaect Just fewgct working on devdopment, especially in JO: We'rc back! And exdted about women. cqitod in naticxial festivals; ck) you plan lot of fiunSarity to tfae images I use in my Cafe ri^t now, because tfaat's wherc I fined by my sexuality. I see myself as a tfaem.) die area of grant writit^ and Ganshaw new devdopments r^^uxling the film in a recent intervkw, Russo eqircssod on making morc films? fflms, so diat an audienoe can find entry filmed portions of Thafs Amore. filmmaker who wants to talk about JO & SR: That's tfae scoop for tliis wiB be assisting Emert \wdi finance. Cer­ CR: It's a direction Fm gCMng in. I have same-sex deske. Ifl werc topubBdz e my festivaL For one thing M & T Bank has a deep concem for her craft both as a into diem. I intentk)nally use reoogniz- TL: What is tiie significance of food as mondi, boys and ^tls, but wel bc back tainly tiieir wiDir^tiess tovcJuntee r time filmmaker, and as a woman working been doing photc^?^hy-bascd work own sexual orientation in die process, just announced that tfaey will donate abk references so tiiat audienoes can ac­ a common tefexenoc in your wcxic? How real soon to inform you of furdier fe­ to the festival sonifies a strong com­ witfain an artistk medium that has been since I was an undergraduate and in my I would be bringir^ an entirdy dififerent $1,000 to tfae festival It's great to see mitment. In a rccent interview, both cess dicm casSy, even if Fm taUdr^ about does fbod rcflect tiie fetnak eiqperience? verish developments. Ciao! historicaDy dominated by men. She said, graduate career. Then I began to oqieri- agenda to the film ksdf. I can't simply sucfa pubfic SL^Tport fixxn a kxxd buskiess. Fazackerly and Ganshaw insisted riiat somcdiir^ diat is not direct^ ^ip&sdie CR: For ThafsAmotty thc story rc- "I've been livir^ witfa rmxfia images and tnent widi odier mediums, sudi as vkko. .., 1, ' cafi mysdf a ksl^an fibtimaker because SSL Also exdting is tfae featiia t Chris Support for Festival tlieir interests in targeting the LesBiGay to everyone, such as same-sex desirc vcives around tiie pi22a pador, so fcxxi popular musk l>rics tiiat ckfine wcxnen's I've been shooririg mosdy fflms and edk- I've tnade films tfaat I conader rd^jous, Russo's film ThttfsAtttore jtist got ac­ cxxTitnunity arc rncitivated first arid fbrc- between women. faas to play an in^xittant tok But I diink - / ->i-); from M&T Bank cjgxriences thrcx^ a mak perspective. I ir^on video ft)r a year now. It's real^an and I don'tkkntify mysdf as a rdigkxis cepted by tiie San Frandsoo fibn festival TL: What arc some of tiiese "reoog- tiiat food as a reference can be made vexy By Tony Leuzzi TCsBy don't think theft's much exit tfaere exciting medium, wherc I am able to filmmaker. I guess I would like to be Her previous film She's No sSStmger^vBs FESnVAL ocmdnued onp. 26 nizable references" in ThafsAjttor^ sexuaHzed, a useful metaphor fbr talkk^ Entering its third season as one of tfaat neprcsems die uray 16xL One of tiie bring my photcgr^ihy Q^ierienoe into tjftiu.'? ffyy;Mn^*f"''ii I S^—t- -t—trr—n-*' CR: The sttucturc of the film is buik about desire. It isn't a sex -explidt friece, dfc reasons I'm workir^ in fibn-vicko medi­ play, as well as my writing abiliries. on the teadir^ of liotoscopcs and astro- but the images of the woman eating ?5 jl • IHlUMI. ••• -•hill. I... II • I.. .11 ,..11 •——II ^ - r..i I I l[ .....M..—^—»....— I - T...I, I. , *.

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sort of common cultural background Pride in our families: a wkh my chikl I dkhi't become mterested in adopting a non-white child until I gay man adopts a baby 'falsettos*' shows tiie pk)t; accordk^ to John i-ialdcH^jis, F^i^aEfof is cxily the latest in a number started kamif^ tfae economks of adop- Bladdriars' arrisric director. of pkys with gay diemes or tnajor gay By Joel Gteenbei^ tioiL This is a "powerfid, beautifully written When tfae voices started, I knew I was humans eatings loving cfaaracters which have been mounted by IV: Which arc? woric," said Haldon3is, tiiat is'*bodi hi- Rocfaester community tfaeater groi4>s, a parent An tiie doubts, fears,excitement , JG: First, heahhy white infiuits usually By Darren Lance larjcxisly funriy arid stiotigjly crnotkriaL'' aild k)ve contributed to what I affection­ i^sE^nOiv, tfae Broaclway muskal abcxit e^:>ecially in reoent years. Keidi Hersfa- go totwo-paren t femiHcs. And tiie cost is Ahhougji dierc arc two gay men and two b«ger was a pkmeer in tiiis area in tfae ately caU MULTIPLE PARENTAL skewed To piivately adc^ a viHhite infiuit gay life and love which won two Tony lesbians amor^ tfae seven diaracters, tfais bte 1970B and eady "SOs, when his Co­ DISORDER, a form of multiple per­ Awards, win condude tfae current season can cost in excess of $22,000, whereas is esenriaBy a stcxy about ocdktfty peopk, nundrum Players preseiited gay-themed sonality disotdcr wliich, to the best of my of Blackfiiars Thcatrc, opening with a gay and strai^t, racing around eadi adopting Joshua cost me $12,000. pk^^ like **Bent''arid Hershberger's own researdi, is an incuratJe afflktion lastir^ benefit ftir Hc^MT^ Ptopk widi AIDS o^ ki a time of ilkess ^ crisis. The IV: That's a htJge difference in cost ot^M pkoe, "The Watdied Pbt" Cfose for tfae rest ofyour parental life. onjxine 9, and rurmk^ diroi^ June 24. pky faas "a great deal of laug^iter and a . JG: Yes! Agencies defend diis diflfcr­ behind was Barbara Biddy at Shqiping IVfy inner voice started ^leaking tom e Not presented befeirc in Rodiester ki a great deal of sacfaiess tiiat is stiD positive ence by sayk^ tfaat wiiite birth modiers DockTheacte. Kdd^ has a reputatkxi ftx: wdl beforc I adopted my son Joshua, major prcxluction, Fttisettos by William because you realize faow pecjpk need usually enter tiie adoptkm process early cfacxxsir^ plays of h^ quality, but wfakfa so it seemed only right that my inner Hrm and James I^^tne pkyed bodi c^ otfaer pec^e in didr lives," he said in the pregnancy and arc marched up deal widi sut^ect matter tfaat odier groif3S voice shouki be the one to interview and on Broadway togrowin g revkws. witfa adoptive fiuTiiBes tfaat mucfa earfier. Joelandjashua Accoiriff^ to Hakkx^)!s,dlispbyc^if- in town consider tcx> controversiaL In mc about tfae adoption process. The ackiptive fimiilies erid i^ paji^ fix A^sae;^ caDed k *'a treasiirc''7&a^iiim What problems did you run mto? JG: Fortunatdy, na It wasn't actually fe3:s finmman y current wcirks tiiat d^ TkeF4amttms4uL'Jrom, Tim O, MamsoHti 1984 die produced tfae gs^-themed com­ Inner Voice: First, kt me tdl you what rocxn, board, and scxnetincs even edu- saki k was ^"tfac most vitalty etitertattikg DmmiEfhmtttur, QmAOmtaUm^ ChMtes JG: You'rc r^ that from a timeper ­ even a He of omission because no one widi ksbian or g^ diemes because it cbcs edy it^Fo^/wK^ and as die AIDS crisis a handsome son you have. catiorual aqienses if die birdi modier is in musical in many a Broadway season." Bany, GeuyCmmci^oto ity JtrntesP^sfOton spective we'rc not talking about much ever asked specificiaBy "Arc you gay?" not focus on die gsQ/ness of tiie diaracters. grew faas done pkys like The Raft <^tbe Jod Greenbetg: I'm rdieved tohea r school, whereas Bkck or bi-racial birdi But still, not ss^it^ anydik^ was an issue According to Tittte^ it was "die richest When tiie ksiaan kosher caterers arrive, troubk But die efifort of trying to adopt IMharnxjnia AcccMxfing to Hakkx^is, Meeitsa^sydljaanjKxaxT^s The Normal that you agree. moms usually enter die process around for me. emotional experience offered by any they sing, "Look, Icxik, Icxik, it's the caused a hi^ d^^ree of stress. I worked Danid has tfae actir^ and skigir^ abiK^ Heart, IV: When I firstme t you, you had just thdr sevendi or ei^di inontii, allowing IV: What werc scmie of the otiier ob­ musical on Broadway." lesbians fixim next door," arid no one, on adopting full-time, 24 hours a day, of someone ferbeyw d his years. Odiers There have been a coi^ of atten^xs Ix^un your joumey into adcfitioa Ycxi the adoptive family to avoid much of stades you overcame? Fiiteter is tiie final versKMi of a wodc straigjitorgay, bats an eye. Sexual ori­ ahnost getting myself fired frorn my job. in the cast arc Charles Barry, Cyndi to ftxmksbia n cx-g^y dieaters HI Rexh­ were very confused. tfaose expenses. JG: After cotnt^eting my hcmiestudy, I wfakii was kng in tiie makk^ PataSeling entation is simply a feet of life for the Not countiy die mental anguish, I had Donaklson, Gristy Kbsko, arid Merica ester. Most recently Jod Greenberg JG: Yes, I didn't even know if I could IV: Tlirc is a cynical tcxie ki your vcMoe. staled toinvestig ^ tfae different avenues tfae liistory of Harvey Rerstem's Totth characters, says Haldov^is, not an "is­ adopt 1 had known of ksbians who had to make the dedsion whedier to come Si»gTt^,FaiiettoskihGCT)dpPod!Ltcto£ sue." Radicr^ie pkce is about ^hutnan Paris. fialdoifMs says he has never seen a ftxmed a Rodiester G^ Summer Theatre JG: Adoption throu^ agendes is a of adoption: fttivate, independent, inter- cast come toother so intensely and so and presetited sudi fjays as 7^22^ jQuASf? adc^iccd or gone tiiroi^ in-vitro fertili­ out or not dirce one-acts which have been com­ bdngs caring for otfaer fauman beings business, in which, in our racist sodety, natiorual, and state. I ruled out interna­ dosdy in rchearsal for a production. ofPtovincetottm-xnA The Vattspire Lesbians zation tohav e children, or gay men who IV: You weren't out ofthe closet? bined into a sing^ work The best known and, devastatingly, how AIDS daims non v^^te children arc valued kss than tional adoption because I wanted to bond Staging a productkin like Falsettos is grji3i(i*w: Thus fertfaes e brave atternpts had custcxly of tfaeir biological children, JG: Oh, I was out — in my com­ of tfae eaiiier segments srcMttth^/he tiiese human beings we love." white chikken. Peopk shouki know tiiat witfa an irW&nt Often by die time you get particdarly diaflcngk^ because tiie ac­ faave not had staying power. Percr but no one like mc. munity, my town, but not in the new /SaAoSftv (Iprockiced here a ntirribcr of upfi-ont I was blessed with a wonder­ tlitoi^i all ttie red t^ witfa intemationai Haldoupis says tfaat he was aUe to ticxi fiows c^skSy widiin botfa space and Scribner, the impresario ofthe new rV: And who were you? ful son, who brightens my life — but adoptive worid. I had so many strikes adoptkins the diikl could be two to tiirce years s^ by Center Sc^ at tiie Jewisfa assemUe an utiusuaDy sttong cast &>r this agamst me. I had to wdg^ wiiicfa desirc time. It takes place "ki a landscape of tlie Shakespeare Pkyers, has expressed in­ JG: Ajewish gay white male prospec­ I had to work hard to get him. years cJd State adoptions looked attrac­ Community Center) and Falsettoitttti production. The part of Marvki is played mind,'' Haldoujxs says. A sir^ soc^ will terest in estabfishing a g^ dieater in Rodi­ tive adoptive parent, who was looking was stronger, to be tme to myself, my ^xWch togetfaer make up most of tfae by Gary Grana, wfao faas appearcd in IV: But you got ycxir son very cjuickly. tive because they don't cost anything. irivcihre two peoffc wiio arc in diflSsrent ester cxice his current project is stabilized community and friends, or to become two acts oi Falsettos, to adopt an infant transradally. JG: Yes, from die time I found the But I gave up on them after sending m\' many recent kcal productions and has pbces and at cliferent moments in time. Snce tfae hst coupk of seasons on Broad­ IV: I sec \ou have had practice saying agency to the day he was in my house a parent. The two goals are often mu­ homestudy totw o or diree different so­ On die surfece, tfae story is simpk and ako woriced profesaonaDy. Tirn Nturis tually exclusive. Thus scetie diaries are occurring con­ way have been dominated by gpy play- thar sentence. was otily two montiis, and tlic whc^e pro­ dal wcMters a cky for two months straii^t one femiliari n die g£^ experience: Marvin, (yes, the Tim Mains) pdays Marvin's stantly. All tiie stage fumisliin^ arc on wt^its and g^-^faerned shows, B;e Tony IV: And which did you decide...? afi^r marrying Trina and faaving a son, sttaight psychiatrist, ^xho fells in fovewhf a JG: I have, though to bc honest, I cess fiom tlie day 1 calkd the social worker None of them returned my phonc calk. I v^ieds tokee p up witfa tfae tapd pace of KxjAn^sAt^inAttxtiat^iyiTecterKe JG: Not tooffe r die infbrmation tfaat I Marvin's ex-wife, flakiotpas was particu- didn't start out planning to look for a to the day Joshua was legally finalized finally had a conversadon with a social Jason, realizes tiiat he is gay and finds tiie acrion As in the Broadway stagk^ McNall/s DH^I Vahttri Cotttpassiott!^ was gay. I didn't fed tiiat it was rdevant bffy^ ooooaned about tfae castir^ ofjason, child of another race. as my son was 10 months total. love witfa Whi22cr. And ance tfae story die action takes place on a ^ossy red tiierc wiD be no Jack of materMl for such to whetfaer 1 should be a parcnt or not ADOPTION continued on p. M^vin's littk-League-^ed son, and saki rV: Why not? IV: That doesn't sound too bad — condudes ki 1981, the shadow of AIDS ffoor, a featurc which Hakkxpis dedded a theater, should it materialize. rV: So you lied. he was delated to findDani d Effion, JG: Wdi idcalisticaUy, 1 wanted some some adoptions take two ro five years. 27 inevitably feUsacros s tfae scene. Such a to retain because for him it represented The perftirmance o{Falsettos for the tfae son of David Effion, Eastman pro­ summary, however, does nor b^;in to tlie common btood which flows tfirougfa fessor and conductor of tfae Eastman convey the tidiness and complexity of aD hunian beings and makes us all cxie. 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Jtme 1995 The Btttpty Closet 17 16 T6r&i^ Okie! June 1995 ONGOING SUNDAY Business meetitte/lunch, thiid ^^j^ Cai B*, 442-7185. 8:30pnL aWe channd 15 (dt)^; 630*30 pm, MCC Chapd, 179 Adanric Ave 271^1482. Out and About walking tour quaneriy fire festival celebrat­ Mote liglit Suppatt Group 8975 E ivfiki St 473-73ffir St. Maiy's Cotitiecdon Out and About tr^ to for eav sra lesfannpeqcle and SUNDAY 4 of Mt Hope Cemetery. Cafl ing the sun. Tlntdl _ _ hna^nacions Gay Alliance of tfae Goiesee Fbr g^ and lesbians, £imflies THURSDAY 1 Genesee County Museum. $10. fikn^ 1215 pm, &c Sundays. AIDSWaBc '95, Rc^stra- Gatdens crfRochester lour Davc359-3L.. Poetiy fflcoitt), firsTMotxW 7 Vaficy boaid of dttectocB and mends. Third Thursdays, COAP bildi^. Fbwdennill Fbr time and mcedt^ pboe caB Dave, 224-9067. Downttsrvm Unted Rcsbyte- pm, GAGV Community Cen­ Meetff^ second Wedn^days, 7 730-9 pm, 15 St Mary's Plaoe Park, 7 pm. Steve, 654-5004. rion 9 am, Cobbs Hill Park Rochester Gay Men's to benefit T^scstty Program dan ChurdL 121N. Hdhudi Sex and Love Addicts ter, 179 Adantic Ave. Bob, 473-9384. Anonymous pm, 179Ariantic Ave 244«4a (near GEVA) 271-4241. WiB Walk 10 am, fcJfcnwcd by patty fiiMTWcttnen with HTV at St271-ie0i ^^ not meet July or August AIDS Medicine and SUNDAY 11 Chonis. "I Will CaB Them 7:3MaO pm. Write PO Box TUESDAY Gay Akoholics Anonymous MiraKJes Sth annual confer­ at Q*bs MBL For infotmation My Pecpk." 8 pm, Monroe OOTimunity Health Network. 7 pm, Lfciitarian Churdi, 220 H^ Tedmolt^y Gtoup Dignity Int^nty t^curdon. bfattw and Gam (P-FLA€^ 10366, Rochester NY 14610- Rpcfaester Gay Meni^ Chorus ence, Omc^ hisritutc, can AIDS Rochescer, 442-2220. Community Coll^ Theater, 10 am-4pm. Co-chairs Nancy Dcwncitown Lttted Ptesbyterian WintonRd Thud Fridays, dimet: Cal Dave, Eucharist, St Luke and St 2:30 ^:30 giLl^icnds Meettt^ 0366. Also Thursdays. Poobdvdy Sober 359-3337. 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Ave. TUESDAY 6 WEDNESDAY 14 Ave. Tickets $25 at door, $20 Cyrene Churd\ 17 S Rtahu^ sodal, 7:15 meetings GAGV 830 pra Write SCA PO Box I%n Festival treatment issues, acupuncture, Qty Choir. StEvery Sund^. Potluck din­ FRIDAY COAP vofleybaDL Durand COAP rollerblading, Ca­ Communtty CentET, 179 Atfan­ 13801 Rochester NY 14613. Third Wednesdays, 7 pm, for Finger Lakes Gay-Lrabian stoiyteflir^ reooveiy and harm ljesbian Writets Gtoi^. advance CaD CHN, 244-9000, ner afier Mass every dikd Sun­ tic Ave. 234-5050. Sff\ inter- Gsry Alcoholics Anonymous committee dairs: every other reduction. CaU 800-944-1001; Eastman Park, 7 ptn. CaD Russ, nal, 6:30 pm. Michelle. or buy tickets at Parklei^, Sociai Group Party instead of usual monthty day. 32a-975a ^eter availaUe on request 8 txn, Genesee HoaMtal, 244 nionth. third Wedriesc&vs, fufl Hrst Fridays and third Tuesdays. fex 914-266-3769. 473-6407. TmjRSDAYlS meeting. For time and |dacc, Arena's Fkmst, Village Green QpenAcmsNtorogoiitan Gay and Lesbian Support AlexanderSt Fesrival Committee^ 730 pm. Can (315)536-5573 and ask fii- BcKikstores. RnS* GAGV Commumty Center, Nadonal Women's Musk FRIDAY9 Etnpty Ooset deadline cafl Shelly, 768-4633. Sam Edwards, or write PO Box FestivaL Indianapolis, IncL, COAP frisbee footbalL 7 for arrides, ktters to editor, MONDAY 26 875 E Main St OPonce St en­ Presbyterian CJiurch, 4 Professional sodal erotp, second 179 Adantic Ave. 941, Geneva NY 14456. Tt)ESDAY20 trance crf"Audito«ium Center.) Megs St Hrst and third Mon- Tuesdays, 530-7:%m, cash Ftidby Nifiht Cofifeehouse June 1-4. (317)927-9355. pm. Can Russ, 473-6407. classified ads, non-camera- Triat^ TaBc 'The Gay 1030 am. 271-S478. THURSDAY Sununer solstice. da^ 7£30'9 jm, 271-6513. bar, Galtey Cafe, Memorial Art Presbyterians forLesUa n Third'Fridays^7-9 pm, GAGV SATURDAYS Falsettos. %xxdal benefit per­ ready ads. 244-9030. Mlitant" by DonnTeal. 7 pm, Rodiester Ksexual Women's basketball Empty Closet deadline. Gallery, 500 Univers^ Ave. and Gay Cotioetns Conimunity Cjenter, 179 Ariaritic Syracuse Lesbian/Gay formance for Hdping People FRIDAY 16 Borders Books &c Music. Co- Wotneff8 Netwnk Finger Lakes Gay/Lesbian Ave. Performers can be tapoi Photographs, camera-ready Meets periodkaft^ at GAGV 630 pm, first Thursday. For lo­ Film FestivaL June 5,12 arid widi AIDS, Inc. 7:30 pm, $20 Bufifalo PrildeWeekend. sponsored by GAGV. 7-9 pm. Downtown United Support Gtoup cation cafl R%>h, Z71-7649« for Wotd Is Out; can 2447159. includes hcttsd'ocuvrestecqv ads. 244-9030. Comniunity Cenier, 179 Atlan­ Ptesbvlerian Chutdi, 121N. Tlurd Tuesdays, first Fridays. EAGLE 19. Tickets $6 per evening, Pride show and party, June 16; THURSDAY 29 tic Ave. 436-7409 or 244-7845. Gsy Akxdimcs Anotq^mous tioti. Hackfiaars i heater. School COAP volleybalL Durand Rtrfii^ St 7-8 half court, 8-9 Write PO Box 941 Gene^^ NY Clewed meeting. St Luke's/St Evangdjcal Assoc for Gays $15 for series available from Pride Parade and rally, post **I8 the Closet a Safe Place GgyMerfsAfaohoBcs full court Ramona, 244-1640. 14456, or can (315)536-7753, ask My Sister's Words Bookstore of die Arts. Odier perftxmances Eastman, 7 pm. 473-6407. Simon Cyrene Cliurch, 17 S. and Lesbians. First axid durd parade part}% June 17; Inter­ to Hide?** The GAGV pre­ Out and About tncycfing. ftjr Sam Edwards. Fitzhi^ St 830 pm. 232-6720. Fridays. Can 436-0275. or by mail: 304 N, McBride, June 10,16,17,23,24 ar 7:30 faith Servke, Queen City WEDNiESDAY21 sents a pride festivities work­ St Lute's/St Smon Cyrene aiox^ canal path. Meet Lode 33, COAP Rochester Freeootn Singets SATURDAY Syracuse NY 13203. Checks pm; June 18 and 24,2 pm. Box Softball, June 18. For infor­ Service of Hope, Head­ shop with Chuck Collins and ChuirfT, 17 S, Fferfu^ St 830 Edfiewood Ave. 7 pm. Call N&ced chorus. Rehearsals 7 ptn. Gay/Leslnan Al-Anon pm,^i6720. Bob, 473-9384. payable to Thc Stonewall office; 454-1260. mation call 883-5105. ing and Remernbrance, Kitty Moran, 7 pm. Commu­ Downtown United Presbyte­ First Unitarian Church, 220 S. Committee. For information Syracuse New Visions Rocfaester Ratters Cqcpus Christi Gary/Lesbian Communitv Center, 179 At antic rian Qnjtdi, 121N. Fitdii^ St WintcwiRd7pm, COAP nKwk idg^t James. AIDS Remembrance Garden, nity Center, 179 Adanric Ave. monthty business meeting;, first Ave. Can Rijss, 473-6407. Rociiester Rams bar nig^ cail Mary Bllcn Kavanaugh, Roundiq>. Gay 12-step pro­ Metcy S[rifitu£d Companion SATURDAY 17 Highland Park at comer of FRIDAY30 Sundays. 4 pm, Badidor rorum, Fourth Mondays, 730 ptn. Cor­ Bassica^TieUemakers Pcc^fam Third Saturday. 8 pm-2 am, (315)428-0227. grams weekend, June 9-11. Hospice volunteer train­ Soudi and Highland, at top Empty Qoset mailing 670 University Ave, pus Christi Rectory, 80 Prince St CoTKett/marchine barxL Re­ Evening of refiection for those Badidor Forturi, 470 Univer­ aty Ax-e. 271-6930. COAP trip to Ontario Bo­ ^15)476-1125. ing. Call Lindsay Brown or of hill next to Comdl Ccx)p- party. 7-9 pm \^stairs at the Rocfaester Lesbian and Gay Open to a!L 325-2424. hearsals each Tuesds^, 7 pm, impacted by HIV/AIDS. 7-9 tanical Gardens, 9 am. Steve, SATURDAY 10 Youth GttN^ Bereavement Siqiport Rodiester Qty School *^12 mu­ ^ Can 671-6070 or 473-6893. Lilac Rainbow AlHance for Kadiken Cfeky, Genesee Rc- erative Extension. 7:30 pm, GAGV Community Center, theDeaf 654-5004. Hospice vohmteer training. Ages 14-21. first, second and Seoondfourth Mondays, 4-530 ae dmartmcnt, 999 Soudi Ave, Women's basketball ^on Home Caic/Hospke of presented by GRAIN. 179 Adantic Ave. 244-9030. thial Suncfcys^24 i»n50 Monroe Ave. 251- Rochester Women^s Conn Rambow^ Bootipgr Qub I\»|]fe in the Heahfa Sciences <%s. FttSt Sunday: EMce TV. 2175. muntQr Chotus Sbcth Satuniays, dinrier/meietiri& Lainbda AypajCTtf Radio The Word Is Oi^ Rdiearsais each Wednesday, ter. CaB Steve, 271-8719. -103- ^*J 4. SOLDIERHEART PRODUCTIONS PRESENTS 1^ IKHI.US li Mil (i\^ AM I\\( I TinCiw .MifiTWK ^^ U] nil (ij MM I T Vvi \\ \ PM MM Mn\(>\\ JIM. 26 SINGER/SONGWRITERS at the •• tv a r {-[pr'-' > , r^:r K MARQUEE AT THE TRALF • 100 Theater P\. • Buffalo i^i-%Ac PLEASE PRESENT TIIIS -'•' 7 SATURDAY JUNE 17,1995 • 8 P.M. 4D WlflSN PURCHAiaNG (Doors open at 6:30 p.in.) JIOOKSORMI^K: ANYTIME TICKETS: $15 In advance; $17 at the door. DURING JUNE (GAV/ LESNAN RUDE MoNni). 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who nondialandy paw outrageously less one is into dogs. The small shops talk about k witfa a fiiend As I wander (.KOW ixc; I r priced dodiing (tfae Bar^adeshi hack ad­ along Christc^her seem now only to tfae n^Tt afier tfae performance, some­ vises me that Brazilians have been here ofifer ^3eedos, obscene greetirig cards or thing unsettling creeps into my good sitKe Christmas and now outnumber the off-season HaBoween V(faps ard diains. cheer. Fm alone. Fbr certain stretdies of BY Japanese.) My pace is wrong. I'm too Mudi wiser to pass time in the open air a Ufetime New Yotk is a perfect pboe to BRIC BELLMANN kisurely. Even with an ^enda folded in market ki Utikxi Scpare CM* d^ throi^ be alone. Remember Garbo? Alone in IT* rny pocket lisdrig niovie tirnes, esdiibics, tfae Strand's stadcs. There's a street ^ in New York was her career. Did she ever I CD store addresses, I have no urgetxy. Fm Chdsea. Six blocks on 8di are dosed grow bored widi diose rdentless days I want your life floating. Everyone else — diose lean, Street shopping has become a great of walking, walking Wd, I don't want mine. Not after four black-dbid,wc]l-g^oomed pedestrians— Mardiattan evoit G^ T*s, two ^ 112, Like an okl man feeing the skiewaflc CO days in Manhattan. These jaunts each strides past rn^ detennined, pucposefii 100 percent cotton sheets for $27 a set feirprecarkxis cracks, I cross Manhattan a sptiiig arxl fifl ate desietied to rquveriate A certain numbness takes over and Fm Fm so loaded down I have to take a taxi with increasit^ kss confidence. Eacfa me tfatoi^ a renewed sense of wonder not sure it's just that it takes awhik for me back to 52nd St The day has passed handsome couple unhif^es me. Shouki I derived fiom getting close to cuttirig- to adjust to so much walking. At tfae Into the nig^t have st^«l here? (Wdl, na f^ I scyed, o e^ cidture, street fiishion and tfae Whitney, my fedirig^at e jutnUed The In LovelVahr! Cott^kusionl, dgjht men Fd be dead I have to remind mysdf of dd etidless evkknce of liberated gay life. Iffiiennial is so wretched tfaat I am con­ g^tthcr over summer hoKday wedoends diat often.) Should I have worked out I (D I tfaiivc on thc cross-cultural etfanic sumed wondeting why anyone would and we witness the rdatkxidips between mor^ Q^ep) Shoidd I have taken moce swirL M^ most dttering oonversatiQns create Att atyrnote. The cavcixious iziu- ficiends, kvets, and affies. It's a wonderfol, risks? (Pray teO, how and when?) thb vistt were widi two fidafd vendors seum is jamrned witfa iTTttnense, poindess mature piay, ^ed with ^sarkiitig humor, Fm heacfir^ fix a downer. It's not the or fiom Eftypt ^es, muscular moi) and a canvases. The few g^^iectfic wodcs are scarred widi diose sootows we aD know. &uk of g^fieries or diops or pkys. The o dashy, sex-heavy, did. The aowd seems The actots are not ody talented—otie fiiult must be me. Not a fiiidt really, a g I no lof^^ flq> into shock over prices bored I subiect each one c^tfaem has a expects tfaat—but several are, fahnti^, conditkxi. Fm afflkted with die creepiiig (people ped oflf twcntys the way they Hst, fioo, witfa "see Whitney Biennial" hucdcs.Thehunkiest—not; by die way, invisibjfiy that comes wkh s^ No one o onoe oouniBiSl^^^dolar isn't even C cfaecked of£ Tfaey ped out of diete as otdy die young - dfipfay dftfad r tnudy cruises rne atyrnoce. If the arxxyirigrTien (C Q an adequate ^ these dsys.) I can tuncie fi»t as I, some to race oflFto RockefeOer virtues. So mudi nakecfaessl The bodes that pbgue tfae subw^ soxi streets ordy p 0> CD the scieedi and gtirne of tfae subways. Center, otfaers to Saks or Sc Pat's. I am are remaricdie, enviaUe. How ever dki knew enou^ to wink when diey jk^ed rVe 9vcn up ^'ghost c^stnuia^ tfaey cast this pb)^ Does ^db audidonir^ to CD sipeikx! I atnbk down Fii^ to Ceritral their paper cups in the &ce, I for one 9 I don't tiy to gi^ arymore: I wear dd, I^ttk, pass Jackie O's buSding and float aoor ki New Yotk have eiglht kidies soft? would fill those cups to overflowing. very comfottable ^loes. Fm ised to die down to MOMA, stnd^bit^ die tourists Normafy I like my Hfe just fine. Fl ad­ Let me travd this back What tossed 3 dty. wfao flodctoTakidiihaca . MOMA is ex­ mit k lacks a certain c:urrcncy, ^y-^3vise. me into deiq> ^sace was a ooupie I saw at CD This weekend tfae weadier is sunny, actiy like tfae Whitney, only more Part of the problem is that Fm a snob, anodier diesHter Saturday n^x, at a tta^ cfcai; tfae tcmpeiamremfldi set oitt to crowded Were escalators ever mcjre ^ too chic to be amused by home-town at- revue. One was white-haired, lean, wear­ is I g. seethes^jhts—plays and esdiiUts widi propriate? They shouki have them i5irwg& tractkxis. Onoe I fek a part ofNew Yodc- ing the most suUime of Manhattan cos­ ^ plenty of time for wixKlow shofi^ing tfae exhitms! People are dudfoBy payir^ ness and I go there widi a fedir^ of re­ tumes, an cdd white T-shirt. His friend caDs on tfae noteworthy si^ts. I must turning home. It's important to me to could have been half his age and was CA (Barneys' windows are as de rigeur as I 00 S" MOMA.)Foran[ii7fianiiiarity—Ino escape. find the best plays, movies that won't draped pas^onatdy around Dadfs ned^ I kx^er look kft and tj^ before crossing On to tfae VJfc^ bastion of my people! make k to Rodiester, tfae best strcet pa­ tfacR:^it they wcrc ridculous.S o in k>ve. one-wsy streets (an outof-towner dead^ Of course one must avoid Washing­ rade. QuaHty is there and that's a rdie^ iwf So open and ttllove , I want his, tdl, their CD give-awsq^—Fm stffl a tourist, less afflu­ ton Square (does anyone here think of still produce top-of-the-line product. lives. Henry James or **The Heiress?") un­ Fm dmBed widi Z.1>C"I wish I coukl CP CD ent tfaan d^ padss of Ftendi and Italians HI CO

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Court's seven fustkes fourid that trial Sharon Bottoms* attomeys are currendy New York's h^iest court; die Court of half years has aDowed this coiumn to court's decision was correct. preparing to ask the "Virginia Supreme Appeals, has agreed to review Matter if evcdve to its present state: an In a decision written by Justice A Coiart to reconsider its dedsion. The Dana, the appellate court dedsion diat acknoiAdedgement ofthe many chal­ mother, Pamda Kay Bottoms, who lives ^3ite tfae "naturaT'parent pesun^pdon Qiostw (rio Iddcfingjf) Cori^^ton, ti^ chances of succeeding are, however, denied a lesbian's petition to adopt the lenger^ issues that gay individuals and THE LAW AND Iiear RidiiTK>rKi Shstton's tnother often of custody, awarded custody of Tyler oxirt moudied tfae general rule about die doubtfii An ^3pcal to Ae Siqwrne Court biological child of her lesbian parmer, ^aedficaly g^ men live with on a daSy IS took care of Tyler forday s or weekends. to his grandmother. pi^surx^3tk3D of a pQaens^s ri^ to cus- ofthe United States mig^t bc possible simultaneously with its review oiMt^tertf basis. I have atten^5ted to **put a voke" Because ofthe decision's dangerous tocfyover a non-parent Without repu- afterwarck, but the StpreiTie Court tradi­ facob, the appellate court decision that to the unspoken in our community BY ELLEN YACKNIN Injanuary 1993, ShaSron told her motfaer that she had &]len in love with impfications fbr gay and ksbian parents diatir^ this pdrx^de in theory, however, tionally does not intervene in chiki cus- denied an uritnariied heterosexual riian's ("'anonymous sex," ''Nb^ietk Cot^Jes," April Wade and was in a committed rda­ around the coumtry, many nadonal the court proceeded to repudiate it in tocfy matters. Siaron is permitted to visit petition to adopt die tnobg^ diikJ of "HTV n^ative issues.") The majority The Bottoms case tionship with her. This sing^ act of dis­ gcoifis taDied atound Siaron Bottoms ptacdoe as k tektted to Siarcxi Bottoms, a Tyler on Mondays and Tuesdays, so his live-in feinale partner. The Court's oftimes this has been well recdved lesbian iiiom Svipg widi her paroier. The fctfig as it is not ki her home or in April Last month's column discussed the dosure alienated her modier fiom Siaron and ofifered her support. Several otga- dedsion to hear both cases at once is At other times, however, some of you forever. Two mcMiths later, Kay Bottoms » riisatkxis, irxkidir^ tl% Arnencan Acad- four |udgp nas^ontypoirioed first to die Wade's presence. encoura^ng because it means that the have let me know, very appropriatdy, possiUe limitation of diild adc^xions by ttBricirpotemiafyack?ersemddent5iTieri- the gay or lesbian partner of a Uc^pgkal filed a petition to take Tyler away fiom erny of CMd arid Adolescent Psydiiatry, The iriqslk^ttkxis of die 5MttwKf dedr Court cannot evade die issue of g^'and that you have a difibrent perspective on a die Ariierican Psydidc^jfcd Assodatiori, tianed flbcpvea s fictDCSdia t woukl tend sk3n are not necessarily dear. Puttii^ out tofMc. I ap(daud you fixputtit ^ a ""voKe" parent in New York State. This month's her dai^iter and to obtain custody her­ jurisprudence." In New York, for ex- lesbians' rig^t to adopt on die ground the National Association of Social toibow das ^vas not the best of modi- the best spin, Virguiia £^pears to have to your Sd^ and lettir^ your sdf emerge column deals with an even more ni^t- sdf of her grandson. an^^ the ^fjpikabk 1^1 dextrine is that that onty the heterosexual oxfle's issue Wotkers, the National Center for Les­ eis. As tfae dnee-fustke dissent ^tidudir^ joined die d^ odier states whose h^ and *l3e known." I oqiect that individu­ marish situatioa' the abili^ ofa 'jodgzt o To understand the horror ofwha t hs^ '"pMKntal custody of a diiki rnay riot be is befixe it This rnonurrierital dedskxi is bian Ri^ts, Lambda Leg^ Defense and bodi women on the Virginia Svq>reme est courts have hdd that a parent's ho­ als w9 have dfoent vkws and opinkxis. str^ a gay or lesl«»n bidqajcal parent of p>ened next, it is hdpful to understand displaced absent grievous cause or ne­ expected by autumn. Let^s hear it for Education Fund, and the NOW Legal Oxut) noted, however, was that ind­ mosexuality akme is no reason to ckr^ What impresses me is that you have his or her parentir^ r^ts, and hand cus­ some basic pnnc^sks of ch3d custody law cessity." In Virginia, die qapJkable l^al tlie grinding cc^ of justice! Defisnse and Education Fund,,filed dents sudi as these had never befote been custody, in ootitcast to die five^ate s \(^iere found die cour^ to come fixward and tody over to a non-parent, simply be­ diat virtually every state applies. Gen­ docttine is that absent dear and a^wiiK- "fiiend ofthe court" f'amkxis curiae'^ used as a tsMionale to find agiinst a parent the h^ courts have heW the opposite. let those differences (read here, your cause ofthe parent's homosexuality. Un­ erally, in cxKtcxfy disputes between bio­ ing evidence proving diat the parent is btiefe in the intermediate £f>peals court £^lyir^ a ''best interests of die child" (For your iriforrnatkxi. New YcMifs high­ THE ALTHEX "Self) be known. It is ftom diis point fortunately, as the h^^icst court ofVir- logical parents, a staoe judge wiD attempt unfit, "the child's best interests will be on Sharon Bottoms* behalf. test, let alone to find a parent unfit. est court is among the 37 that have not TIC SELF diat we can be^ to have a dialogue and ginia just graphically demonstrated, k can to look at all die rdevant &ctrtfs and de­ served w^ien in the custody of its parcnt » squarely ruled on this question.) On the come to an understanding of eadi other be done. termine the resuk that is "in the best in­ Following the trial, the state court Onjune 21,1994, the three juc^jes on The mi^oaty then went on to reveal its BY THOMAS FRONCZAK, odier hatid, the dedskxi also c^^ a Uue- and the important issues involved. The case of Pmttda Kay Botttttrts v. Sharon terests of the diild" TheoreticaBy, both judge verbally announced his decision Virgjttiia's intermediate appeals court prqudioes: "And, we shall not oveikx>k print to judges around the countty—in- ASCW,CAC Bottottts, decided by the Virgnia Si^ireme biological parents are on an equal foot­ fitJm the bendi The juc^ g^tve %> ser- unanimously reversed the trial judge's die modier's tdationshp with Wade, and This mondi, however, afi:er consid- dudir^ New York juc^es—who want eral4e growth, fxompted in part by re­ Court on April 21,1995, b<^an with the ing, and the court will not give any ad­ vkr to Virginia's fcgalpresumptio n that dedsbn. The sfipeflate bendi wrote that die environment in whkii the diikl wodd to deny custody to a gay or kstaan par­ All in a name cent muh^^ kisses of dgnificant fiiends birth of Tjter Doustou to Sharon Bot­ ditional automatic presurrq^tion to either the "naiuraT'parent should iiorriiaDy be de^Mte some evidenoe that Slmron had be raised if custody is awarded die mcrther. ent just find a specious reason to do so. This month's column puts to rest a to AIDS, and experience in living and toms in July 1991. Sharon had married parent simply because he is the father entided to custody. However, he then pro­ spanked Tyler hard on two occasions, We have prevkjusly said that living daity Ironically, fewer l^^l obstades are im­ piece of work that has been very near, learning about this thing we call "life,'' I Tyler's cfcfcd in December 1989, but sepa­ or because she is the mother. ceeded to point out that Sharon Bcrttoms' cfid not always change his diajser ri^t under conditkins stemming frcxn active posed on gays and lesbian adults with re­ dear, and personal to me for die past suggest a "death" of sorts for "In Seardi rated fiiom him e^it months later. Tyler's When a noo-parent asks forcustod y lesbian conduct is "ill^al" and consti­ away, and sometimes swore in his pres­ lesbianism piactiDed in thc txjme msty im­ elect to adoptirig children than in terms several years. of Sdf," and a "rebirth" ofthis ccJumn in father never expressed an interest in his over a child, however, virtually every state tutes a 6k»^ utider the Cotnrnonweahh's ence, the overwhdmir^ buDc of evidence pose a burden ifscxi a diikl by reason of of retaining custody over their own dd­ My column, "In Search of Sd^" was an updated form called' The Authentic son, and Sharon was awarded custody wiD ^){^ a presumption diat k is better criminal laws, and that her conduct is reveakd diat she was a lovir^ and carit^ the ^social condemnation' attached to dren. Only two states. New Hampshire created in August 1992. Its intent has Self." of Tyler upon dieir divorce. iot the child to be in the custody of his or immoral. parent, and that T)4er was happy and such an arrar^ment, which will inevi­ tably afflict the chiU's rdationshqjs with and Florida, spedficaDy prohibit gays and been to educate tfae gay communit>^ and I wish to suggest that tfae "search for After a coi^Jc of casual rdationsh^ her kg^ parent than it is to be in die cus­ The judge, unable to disguise his re­ wdl-ac^usted in his living situation. The its "peers and with community at large.'" lesbians fiom adopting children. In fiict e^qJore issues of intimacy wmh Self and self' need not go any furtfaer tfaan witirni. with men, Sharon fell in love with a tody ofa non-patent This presumption appeals oourt also pointed out that \^- pugnance, stated: "Sharon Bottoms is — so far, anyway — gays and lesbians other, and the effects of HW on our It is society that has tau^t gay men to woman named April Wade in May 19S)Z recognizes the special ri^ts and reqx)n- ginia I^^ dcxtdne dkl not pomit a juc^ Disturbir^', the oniy "social condem­ sharing her bed with her female lover. are legally permitted to adopt children IK^es, in hope to address issues of affirma­ "search" to bc other than what we truly In September 1992, having committed sibiKtks that biobgkal or adoptive par­ to dqwive a parent of custody ampJy be­ nation" in the Record that would stig- Exan^ides g^en were kissing patdng. afi even in Virginial Isn't the law simple tive gay identity and continued HIV in­ are. Nonsense! I rerrund cvcr\'onc that themselves to a lifetime parmership, ents have with reqject to thdr diikiten, cause of a penent's ptivate sexual ccM^duct; mati2e Tjfer's diiklhood was die Courtis. of this in the presence of the diild I \wD and fun?! fection rates and relapse to unsafe sex we are all tfaat we need to bc ri^t here Sharon, April and Tyler moved in to­ and promotes the interests ofthe states tdl you first diat the mother^s CQTiduct is even if iD^al, sudi as aduhery. Thus, ac- So vdiat happens now, and what does (33-50 percent of gay men still report­ And speaking of adc^tions, herc's an and now. And yes, this includes our gether. Inuring this time, Tykr devdoped to ericourage &rniiial relatioriships with iD^aL I win teD you that it is the opinkxi cordir^ to the court, Kay Bottoms had the Bottotttsc3ssc have to say about lesbaan ing unsafe sexual experiences). iqxkfie on thegay partner adoption cases strengtfas and limitations, as well as the a strong attachment for Aprd^ who legal parents. Indeed, most states reopg- of the cotirt that her conduct is immoral no ri^t to snatdi Tyfcr frcxn his mother. and gay custcxly in New York and dse­ Your feedback over the past two and a discussed in last month's column. polished and the outright rawaspect s o( hccamc an impansunt parent figure in nize, as the Virginia Si^werne Court has And it is the ofAnkxi ofthis court that the But then Kay Bottoms appealed the where? T\ lcr*s lifc. stated, that "thc reiaticmsh^ between a conductof Sharon Bottoms renders her decision to \^rgnia's highest court On Ffx>m the time he was bom, Tyler had child and its parent is one ofthe most an unfit parent" Given his kriguage, it April 21,1S^5, in a stunning and shock­ spent a ^eat deal of time with his grand­ j ealously protected r^ts in Ar^o-Saxon shouki be no surprise that the juf^je, de- ing decision, four ofthe Virgnia Supreme ^1 ''-ii''''ii 'ii r Spirituahty TARA presents TARA 9 • GOLDWEAR Psychology PIANO BAR Affordable Rne Jewellery Tapes, CDs & T-shirts JUNE ENTERTAINMENT Specializing in 14K Gold Recovery (716) 482-9087 JA22 UNDERTHE STARS featurtng: Jewelry & Medallions FRI. 3nd Jerry Fingers • Bracelets 12-Step books & cards Skee^er • Chains DALE L. 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Colorado, Oc^oo, and yes, even New oursdves. The goal then, is not any qie- Wttl die leocnt deaths of my fiiends ThotttasFfOtKss^ ACSW, CAQ isa Yotk) have been chaDer^jitig the laws ctfie diange. The goal is siRifity to oxm fiom AIDS, I am painfuUy zencmicbd NYS cert^ sodal wttrker itt tite fidds ef wcxnen during this challenging time to book m whidi g^ men described tiieir that protect our tights. In practice, the back into rdation with who you are— that the tJme to tve ti% 15 now. No one rebtiottsbip attd se>3tality concerns, HIV ckmonsoate to the work! how tfae ksbian firsr homosexual encounters. I had your AUTHENnCSELF. When dm is guaranteed a fijture or another ds^ fbr irfetAttt^attddteffdcdd^endeng^Hecattbe federal {government and scxne ccxnpa- experience can serve as an affirmative never submitted anydiit^ to a publidicr AIDS DIRECTORY occurs, the specific bdiaraxd diatiges that matter. The onty durig diat is ted is contacted tbroe^ bis pmak practice at rnocld c^non-traciiacxial lifistj^ Nc9w is befiire, but I dedded k would be a come naturally. the pcescnt moment in whkh we Mve. I Wbite ^tntce Assodates, 272-7210. naiioci jtt^ttist hotnosexuals, but lesbians thc time to seek ways to patticipate in good experierKc and I fdt that my Free testb^fifrHIVexpctsurc is available fixxn New York State Depart­ can bed^scbuged fixim the FBI, die the shs^Mfl^ ofour futute. ment of Healdi: can RochesterArea R^cxial Hodine at (716)423-8081, or All too fiie^jcntly I hear ^ty men in believe we aO have a gpeat rcsponsibfli^ story was wordiy of consideration. to oursdves, and a choioe as to how wc CIA and the tx^taiy. Patda d^idfy, PhD. isapsychotbettpist Bang a pjxxxasdnator by nature, I bst 1-800-962-5063 fiat pay phones or calk outside Rexhester. D^ cx hearing pain about their mi^ierceived idendfi- W ()\1 ANSPIRI 1 unpaired people should call (716)423-8120 (IDD.) Stacewkle kiformarion w3 five diat moment WS you be some­ In other Gc^mtxies tfaere is also great itiprittakprmim, trade of die project and remembered catkxis of who diey are. *Tm too oU," can bc obtamed by callkig 1-800-541-AIDS. Odier organizarions whkh pro­ cxie who in the end will say, "If only I vadahili^ in the legpl status csfkstiaritstn. k die dsy before die deacffiric. Not r^ *Tm ovcrwc^" Tm too drin." ''My vide AIDS-rdated services are as follows: dk^is too srruiH,"''Nfydkkis too b^' had..?" BY PAUIA DECHELLY A1984 survey of 55 oountdesoa whkh UN \N[) expecting my essay to be accqxed, I i^' AIDS Rochester, Inc, 1350 University Ave., provicfes educaticxi, referrals (though I dont hear that one as ofien!), The time is now. If there k someotie stBdsdcs were avaUak tevealed 18 cowh llIV cfwily wrote one (and only one) ciraft to appropriate servic^ agendes, client and £atTi% sc^rvices, acivcxra^ "Why wouU he like me?," "Why is he you wish CO toudi—toudi now! If there tdes where ksbianian is 1^ and 15 iBer c>f my story and &xed k to die puUisher. Woman identification peofde fedng HIV-Unked discriminaticxi, and ottier services, incdudir^ finan­ rdce to me?," "What does he want?," is someone you care about—teB tton gal; the rest condder lesbianism an of­ By LASHARON HASKINS "At kast I dkl it," I told mysdfi I im^- For hite fottnd there is a reasott, fitr htte fense s^^unst publk morality. Where cfees ined tiiat sudi prominent gay writers as dal assistance and a public education speaker buirau, (716>M2^22aO V/IDD "I'm ordy 28 years cJd and my hair is now! If diere is a card to buy or a ^ to (business line) or (716)442-2200 V/TDD (hodkie). turning gray, or "I'm beginning to lose gtye—g^ rt today. Who cfid you com- missed tbere is a raasottstit Wearefittndhereto the Ikiited States stand? In this oountty, The safer sex party RcJbert Rodi, David Leavitt, atid He^ngP^u;ithAIDS,Inc(HPA) P.O. Box 1543 Rochester NY my hair," *T can't get rt up fike I iBcd toi," pltment today? (Arid if you cfid, cfid you become beftmd ottr ttnlde^ dreams. Forsome the k^^tfity of ksbiariism is dktcrmitied Annistead Mai^sm would sulxxik J9^ The next meeting of die Women Who 14603-1543 is a ncxi-profit, volunteer cxganization. HPA raises and distnV "Why would anyone want to date me notice die smile cxi didr £ace? ar»i the dtcdmeatts^m^tobeatmebefondtmrtvUdest on a state by state basis. Obvkxisty, k^ fiarst time experiences and thus I'd bc Ffave Sex Widi Women Adviscxy Com- utes fiinds to su{^xxt programs diat provkle services to people living with — I'm HIV positive." feding of kwe inside you?) What i^ when fiars, status does not always correlate with hidy if anyone even ma/mitie, let akme practioe cx tcdenuKe. At the tirne of diis mtttee wiE be hdd CXI May 31 at 7-8 pjTi. HIV and AIDS. Funding is provided to agencies kxrated in the counties of The nii^)eroeption comes in part fiom you sit at dinner widi your parmer to­ —^erwn^ShadtmfS on a LKttie (jxcord chose it fcx publicaticxi. survey,rt was iBeg^ fix any lesbian fitxn at GAGV Community Center, 179 At­ Monroe, Ontario, Schujier, Seneca, Livingston, Chemur^ Steuben, Wayne the intcniali2ation of homof^iobia and night, this wouki be tlie last meal you album cover), 1984 lantic Ave. NaturaUy sevetal nKXiriis passed be­ In our sodety at large, rti s cxxnmoo- another country to enter the United and Yates. Hodine (716)987-1853. the identification with the vdiide. Ifyou would share togedier? How woukl you The Safia-Sex Home Patty fix wcxnen fixe I heard fixxn die puUidier. Then I place to fi>tg^ tfae normality of hetero­ States, even cm a tourist visa. Geg Alliance tf the Gmesee P^% peer fecilitators can provide referrals to identify yoursdf with your hair ^Tm the want that dinner to bc shared? who have scat witfa women was hdd on lecdved a letter fiom tlie ecfitor saying sexuality. Adrienne Ridi has termed tte physicians and service agendes. Person cxi duty Monday/Friday 6:30-9:30 guy with tfae fiiDhea d of dark wavy hair^^ Gay men cxrt of necesaty and survival In l^t of the current conservative and May 6 at the home of LaSharon and Otissa. that he very much liked my story and process thc "bias of compulsory het­ pjn. Message machine odier times. (716)244-8640. and then b^;in to lose it» who are you have had to play the rok of chameleon in rel^;kxis r^it rnovernerits in cxx couritry, The first ofits Idnd in the Rochester hoped to induck it in dhe bocJs. Hcjw- erosexuality." our state and locally, it is an extremdy ever, my piece still had to survive one HIV/STD Coordination Profect tf Monroe County, 855 W. Main St, run now? Ifyou kientify with your heahfa and thek lives fer too often. The time is now area> k was a wonderfiil success, widi a tiirou^ Monroe Ccxinty Department of Healtii, provides information, edu­ Her argument is that hc^tosexuality important time to stay awake around more "cut" He'd let me know m a you become HIV poative». who are you to take charge ofyour Ufe, and live as total c^l9watnai in attendance!! The fes­ caticxi and training, and maintains a resource libriy. Sue Cowdl, (716)274- needs to be understood as a political in­ thrae issues. The potential of cxx losing now? fiiOy as was {banned for you. What Idnd tivities actually began before the party month's time ifl made it 6114 (V/TTY). I am tryirig to si^gest tfaat you are mudi oflifc do you want to take re^xxisibility stitution. Rich believes that *Svomen ground in terms of our human ri^ts and \dien Caycee, Emily, and Hden, tiiree Weil, I made it On tfae one hand, I identification is a source of energy, a fireedom of dioice is very real and poses was cjuite pleased that tfae first tfaiiig I Cottttttttnity Health Network, Inc, (CHN). 758 Soudi Ave. HIV testing more than your hair, vehide, personaKty for creating? youtig wcxnen fixim SUNY Geneseo, medical, experimental and pentamidine treatments; John Washbum library, traits, or HTV status. While ourphysical I acknowledge that this may bc among potential springhead of female power, rrany tiireats. Fear is beiing prelected hy ever sent to a puUisher was accepted viokntty curtailed and wasted utKler tiie society and rd^ons onto hcxnosexuafity, flowed i(> earty to he^ prepare tfae hqge stfTport groups; social work and case management services. Emphasis cxi make-up will continue to change, the thc most difficndt work you will do in spread of focxl and drinks. Qn the odier hand, I also *1dcfcecr'my­ instimticMi of heterosexuality." and negative reactions to lesbianism and sdf fix sending a first drafi; and I identi­ cariy intervcnticMi fcx all aspects of HIV and AIDS. (716)244-9000. spirit and soul remain constant your life, to live for yourself whik with Upcxi arrival each guest was given a In oonsidetir^ issues which are vital to advice to adopt a hetcrosexuai lifestyle fied about 20 flaws in tfae piece tliat I RxbesterAna Task Force on AIDS (RATFA) is a coUection of agendes pro­ I often hear individuals say, "Ifl realty an awareness of odiers you are in rdatkxi **nunbofW candle" as a symbol of com­ the leshian experience k is impcxtant to reflect these fears. wished oodd be fixed But overall I was viding a multiplidty of resources arul services to thc upstate New Ycxk com­ told him what I was feclir^ he would with, and to live authcnticaDy. If you don't rnuriity. After about 45 rninixcs c^socialr understand the scxiopcJickal ccxitext of pcetty happy and kxikod fixward to die munity. Thek offices arc located throi:^ tiie Fh^r Lakes Health Systems run," or, "The rdationship would end," live your life, whose are you living? It is iniportant to remember that ks­ idrig jBid earsng we started the i^g^ off compulsory heterosexuality. pidibcation c)f tfae bocdc arid tlie rooe^ ' A^cy, which ako provides medical literature and newspaper dippings, as or "Wc rn^t have a figfit-" So mudi can For fiiture artides, I invite your input bian women have always been in the van­ widi iritxodiictions, teOir^ our riariies artd wdl as demog^ra{4ik and statistical ckta fix use in devdoping hcsddi care ser­ It is kgal to be a lesbian in cxity 26 U5. of my $24 d^ck—until I went to then go unspoken and suppressed When­ (contacrt me at the phone number bdow) guard of social change. Lesbian feminists the body part we each found to be the vkes. Kdli McMahon, (716)461-3520. states. Forty states protect some dvil Flcxida in March ever any aspect of Self is suppressed, (or and I win also invite other professionals in wete reqxxiable ftx kiitiating aitemative most sexy... Next, each participant was Greater Roches^AIDS Itttetfidth Netittork (GRAIN) providta hy ^nd pro- tights of lesbians, sudi as em^doyment, Whik in Tan^x^ Tom and I visited a depressed), this can lead to a depression the fidd of Self authenticity and devd- health care, feminist tfaerapy ccdlectives, gpra a *Womcn's Hot Sex Kit," indud­ fisssional care tiiroi^ healirig and mexnorkl services; trainiiig offrienSy that thc individual experiences, and c^xnent to assist in oollaborarion as well housirigand educatkxi. Many states, in­ battered women's shdters and grassroots g^/ksbian bcx^cstore and there I saw ing a htcx gjbve, a clerital darn, a non-lubri- visitors fot visiting homes, hospitals, hospices and priscxis; infcxmation ..^r. duding some of the most liberal and (i^ anotfaer book cx>mpiled by thc same reiarionally tins can play itself out in a Wdcome to die birth of THE AU­ pcditical cxg^uiizaricxis. It is. inr^jbrcant to cated oonclorn, a tube of lubricarit, and in- about pastoral resources and advocacy on behalf of pecple affecrted by to ncrw) protective ofksbian d^ts fi.e. editor who was doing "my" book. It distancing of the two partners. THENTIC SELF! stay connected with odier like-minded fi:yrmaticm abcxit tfae usage of the kems. AIDS. (716)889-8050. was the same fixmat as tfae (xie I sub­ Mottroe Cotttttittrtity CoUeff maintains an AIDS Resource library in tiie The kits spurred lots of discaission, mitted to. It was a ocJlectiQn of true ex­ LeroyV. Good Ubrary, 1000 E, Henrietta Rd. 424-5200. cpesticxis and answers. We played ^imes periences. This one was called My Monroe Cotmty Heakh D^tirttttent, at 111 Westfidl Road in Henrietta, of­ for prizes, Kfce *dam the dyke," a fim ver­ B^ "O". BaskaDy k was a dassy $10 fers testing and counseling for HTV and other sexuaUy transtnitted diseases. sion of'^rin tfae tail on tiie dcxikey," and a version oi Forbidden Letters. '*What have OHN. G,RG> Enterprises modiifed version of tfae game Scatter- (716)2746146. I gotten myself into," I diought I fdt Strong Metttohal Hospital provides a complete range ofHIV medical c:are, gories. We watcfaed safer sex videos, dis^ipointdi and ^pptd^ensive. I had General Contrairtlng including accress to experimental treatment protocols, and HW testing. Also lau^iod, tsdkcd and realty er^oy^ break- not pulled off the literary cotp that I provides individual and gtotp psychotherapy. Training of health care pro­ ommunity Health Network offers a full ronge of ir^ the ioe in terms of hot sex talk amcx^ tfaougjit I had. I was ^ad tiiat Yd told fessionals also available. Infecrious Disease Ciiiuc, (716) 275-0526. Depsat- women who have sex with women. almost no one about the book and I medicol and support services in one convenient Specializing in Windows and Doors ment of Psychiatry, (716) 275-3379. AIDS Training Project, (716) 275-5693. C On bdialf of AIDS Rochester, Ino vowed to keep it tiiat way—at least Planned PtmndxiodtfRoches^ attd Genesee Valley off ers testing and informa­ locotion. We provide this core regardless of your and the Women Who Have Sex Witfa until I saw tfae book for mysdf. Wcxnen Advisory Committee, I would tion (716)546 2595. insurance eoveroge or your ability to pay for Sales and Service • Quality Products Last Saturday my two cxMi^slimentary Threshold Yottth Centerptovides confidential testing for young pecple ages like to extend a spedal tiiank you to The cxjpes arrived in the inaiL Stioe Ftotida, services. 20 Years Experience • Fair Prices Pride Connection, 728 South Ave., fcx 12-25. Fees on sliding scale, no one denied service. Threshold Center for Al­ I had been hoping tiiat maybe tiiis bcx)k ternative Ypudi Services, 80 St Paul St 454-7530. tlidr generous deviation of ^fis diat were WCXJU be cliflfererit fitxn i^.fig5£tf "O*' If you hove HIV, or think you might, coll us. Moke used as prizes, and anodier spedal diank New York AIDS Institttte Experimental Treattttent Itfbkne, Up to date informa­ A cjuick skim ofthe book seemed to tion on clinical trials and expanded access programs. Touchtone phone. 1- an appointment to meet our caring staff. You'll you to my partner, Otissa Vi2a, fix 2gpee- confirm my worst fears. I was so em­ ing to share our home. 800-MEDS-4-HIV; (212)239-5523. see why CHN is Rochester's HIV specialist. 454-1462 • George Garfield barrassed tiiu: I oouldn't even bring my­ Family Planning Sen^s ofthe Finger Lakes vt}il provide confidential or anony­ sdf to kxik at my piece and I flinched mous free testing in Ontario/Wayne/Seneca Counties. (31^781-1749. IN Rl-LATION­ when I saw my name in the table of Support Your Community! A^on Front OwAr (Action for a Better Community.) Provides HFV pre­ CaH 244-fOOO for noro MsnMrtioik SHIP contents. vention educarion and case management services. HARC program for parol­ During thc week I have read some BY PETER HOUSE ees and families. Training and technical assistance to service providers. Re­ of tiie bot>k It is basically' erotica But I source library open to public. All services ftee and confidential. Multiculmral have examined my feelings and I feel and bilingual staff Rixly Rivera, program manager. 15f) N. Clinton Ave. Erotica vs. pom a hit better about tlie \^^icJe diirig now. Hours 8:30-5 pm, Monday-Friday. 546-6180; fax 546-5669. Richanl D. Sevcrsd mondis £^, I saw an ad in the To some extent, I have been buying Catholic Charities AIDS Services. Provides linkage witfa other service provid­ dassified section of the Empty Closet COLUMNS cxintinued on p. ers, transportaticxi and financial assistance for housing. Monday-Friday 8:30 The ad was requestirrequc ^ submissicxis fcx a am- 4:40 pm. 1150 Bufifalo Rd 328-3210. Fenwick bcxikentided Afr/m^7jo>s>sr. Itwas tobe a 30 _^

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9 I II 24 tbe Etnpty Ottset June 1995 June 1995 Tbe Empty Closet GAY GROUPS ^9^pm^mbx^Sdttciaitipm from either We tried to encourage a healthy way the dieme **Sounds crfRqokir^'* a phrase town United Presbyterian Church. Downtown United Presbyterian High Technology EastHmdcttaRd orBtig^Ttot>-Hcnrietta of meeting other gay, lesbian, bisexual wedcend ofjune 16-18. Bonnie Abrams Dignity-Integiity Church, 121 N, Fitzhugh St, 14614 fiom a speech delivered m Rodiester on Tofwhfine Sd and fislbw the signs to the The theme of die performance was and Allen Ho[ddns continued with Juty 4,1852, by Frederick Doi^^ass. It is and non-gjy supportive fiiends to walk Dig^iity/biti^pty Rodiester cdebrated Emmanud Churdi of the Deaf (Ro­ If you're interested in tedincakagy (com­ llie^Cte. IIK dosest paridng area is area "Songs of Life," and induded the folk several songs, includirig some original fitrir^ dierrfbne, riiat our final concert in and run wMi, and to accomodate mem­ its 20th anniversary as a joint worship­ man CadioKc), 75 Ernestine St, 14619 puters, audio, video, iiam radio, radio F. lile thcatte i?ri!di its cfisdnc^ duo, Bonnie Abrams and ABen Hopkins, compositions by Ms. Abrams inspired the series fcatujre music fiom thc Afii­ bers' schedules. Tlie Rochester com- ping oommunity on Easter Sunday, .^xil First Unitarian Churdi (Unitarian Uni­ monitoring etc), tfae H^TechrK>k)gy for fa&ng sbenay is in Buflcfii^ 4 \*^ the Twdve Comers Klcznier Barid arid by her parents, \(^ are bodi Hokxaust can and Afiican-American tradition. niutiity has been vety entfiitBiastk: about 16. To honor this occasion the faidi versalist), 220 Sourii Winton Rd, 14610 Group is fcx you. is Dcotnihentfy marked by a huge "4." the Rochester Women's Community survivors. The chorus had Bonnie We are a dynamk new social group of the idea of thfe Rodiester Area Front Chorus. The program b^an with diM2 community will be holding a series of First Universalist Church (Unitarian Enritled • T WiB CaB Them My People," _^_ #: $10(^-50 for senbrs and Abrams'dynamic alto voice as soloist gay men and lesbians interested in tiie Runners, I^ut the portkfsadon in weekly Klezmer band playing a rousing intro­ events diroughout thc coming year. Universalist), 150 Clinton Ave. Soudi, another piirase taken fiom Doughs' fi*lfcrie ^udents.) Tidcets ni^ be pur-^ during several numbers, induding meetings or mofidily bruiKi^es has beoi ductory piece to get the audience in a Onjune 11, Dignity/Int^pty Rodies­ 14604 many aspects of technology. Many in- qjccdi, the concert will targe fiom fit- diMed atTWcetEq)ress, 100 East Avc^ "Harriet Tubman," '^Schindler's List" almost non-existent celebratory mood (Klezmer musk: be­ ter wiU be hciklirig a reuriicxi. The corri- Joim Calvin Presbyterian Church, terestinggroi4> and individual prefects miliar spirituak like "Steal Away" and or QldfiBed jSom Tidtct Ex^^ (which featured gorgeous violin inter­ The gtoi4> is encoucsgii^ Ftont Run­ gan in Eastem Europe during die 1800s. )) munity invites anyone who has ever at­ 50 Ward Hifl Rd, Henrietta 14467 are planned for the fiature. *«ush! Somcbod/s Calfin'NfyNamfi/'' 5000, or Tldcctmaster at 232-1900. pretation) and "Azanian Freedom ners members to join Out and About The instrumentation indudes cdlo, ac- tended a service over the past 20 years to We meet mcMitfaly ftx dinner and an to fieedom songs fiom tfae American Song," a song performed by Sweet Lutheran Church of Concord, 485 They have various walks and lake rides in cotdkwi, violin, darinet, guitar, and man­ jcjin us fix Eucharist at St Luke and St occasicxial activity. Our meettt^ alter­ civil r^ts movement and the stn:ig^ OutandAbout Honey in the Rock. All die musicians Holmes Rd, 14626 addition to their other activities. H^q^py dolin or banjo. The band's members Simon Cyrene Church, 17 S. Fitzhugh nate between die tiiird Frid^ ftx dinner agaunst apartheid in South Africa. One MoiKbyri^ l^cydir^ along the canal collaborated for a rousing rendition of Lutheran Church of die Incarnate Trails! span duee generations.) The diorus then St, at 5 pjm. Fbflowing the liturgy there arid die tiiiiri Surids^ ftx tmxKfa. Jc»n us scx^ the eet^beautiEid "Breatiis," fiom padi b£^ JvffK 5 and tuns throi^ the "Hava Nagilah" to close the show. Word, 597 East Ave., 14607 end of July. encered fixwn the three entrances ofthe will be a picnic at Genesee Valley Park 19th Ward Roman Cadiolic Ouster fbr good fixd, fdbwsh^ and intevestkig the repertoire of Sweet Honey in the Bassica% TteUemakets RWCC is havir^ its summer recruit­ WeV meet Mondays at 7 p.m. at Lodi church carrying candles and singing a fix an c^3pcxtunity to reminisoe and to St Augustine's, St Monka's, Our Lacfy c^onversatkxi. ContaaDavc at 359-3337. Rock, reflects Afiican culture, namdy, The band is about to embark on a very ment drive. The group would like to 33 on Edgewood Ave. (across from die Russian lullaby. RWCCs rich and varied catch up widi old fiiends. of Gocxi Counsd the b^dFki tiie oontirumigpicserioe of busy season, including local and away add at least 10 new voices to the ros­ Men^s Chorus Jewi^ QMtmumity Center.) We bike at a first set induded Afiican-American On April 30,1995 die ^liscopal BiAop Open Arms Metrc^xditan Commu­ tlie qairks cftiie ancestors:''thc^fie v(to parades and stage performances. We wfll ter, espedally sopranos. Prior singing fcisuiKfypaoe, but fer enoi^ to indude spirituals and traditional Jewish music. of Rochester, die Rig^ Reverend Wliam nity Church, 875 East Main St, 14605 There are two big reasons to make a havcriAed have never lefi;.. Tis die ances­ be stardr^ with the AIDSWalk on June 4. or music experience is not necessary. tor's breadi in die voicre of die water." ice cieanrrf For nxJTC infiDtmation, con­ Burrill, was thc pxcsickr and homilist, Rdigious Scxiety of Ftiends (Quaker), special effixt to attend diis yearns feifll ccxi- Those of us vi^o can are Inarming to Bonnie Abrams and Allen Hopkins The group is also looking for p)eople tact Bob Stear at 473-9384. acoqxit^tiic invitaticxi fiom Dignity/ 41 Westminster Rd, 14607 cert of tiie Rodiester Gay Men's Chcxus ft is tfae fireednm 9or^ iiowcver,'^rfiidi go to other gay pride parades: Boston on are local recording artists and members to help with non-singing tasks, such Join us for a day at Genesee County Intc^ty to help commemorate its an- St Mar/s Churdi (Roman CadK^), Juiie 17 at Monnx: Conxiiuriity CoBcge. wiB rir^ beDs in this montfa of g^ ptide. June 10, BuflSdo onjune 17, Washii^- of the Gciden Link Folk Sing^ Society, as development, fiondraising, and pro­ Museum onjune 10. This week's theme nivcrrsary. 15 St Mar/s Place, 14604 One is the guest s^>pearance of 75 They come firxn anotfaer fieedom tradi­ ton, D.C on June 18 and New York City They performed a trilogy of songs by the duction. Upcoming events indude a folk legend Odetta and some music fix>m Ten^ B'ridi Kodesh ^leftxm Jewish), members of tiie Rcnaa^ancc Qty Cho­ tion, but speak powerfiilly to the e^qieri- is g^idensof the vfll^ Admissiofi is $!{>, onjune 25, In Jufy we will be perftwtning joint performance with the Washing­ Interfaith Advocates the Jewish traditbn. RWCC continued 2131 Elmwood Ave., 14618 rale, thegay men's dicmjs of Rttsbui]^ ence of lesbians and gay men of aB back­ for time^id meeting place call Bob at in Toronto on July 2 and at our own ton D.C. Gay Men's Chorus, "Anna 473-9384. with a wonderfid arrangement ofthe A spiritual home is often lacking for Temple Sin^ (Reform Jewish), 363 They invited us to HttsbuT]^ Metnorial grounds. *Thc stri^^es are similar and pride parade and picnic onjuly 15. Cruss" (Philade^ihia's Women's ChoriB), spiritual, "Go Down Moses," an arrange­ lesbian, gay and bisexual persons, and Penfield Rd, 14625 Day weekend, along with the gay men's tfae words are similar,^' says chorus di­ Our newest member, Dave, is guiding We StiH need bariner holders, cymbal and "Bread and Roses" (Washington though often thc one where you wor­ chcxuses fiom Cleveland and CcAjmbus, rcctor Nick Williams. us on a walking tour of Mt Hope Cem­ players, trombones and corps of twiifets. ment of the Jewish song "Lo Yisa Goy," D.Cs feminist diorus) onjune 16; the Third Presbyterian Church, 4 Meigs with part of the chorus singing fix)m the shipped as a child is no longer available to cdebrate tiidr lOdi anniversary, and Here are snippets from some of tfae etery onjune 17. For information, call You don't have co do ali or any away pa­ annual GAGV picnic in July; and a St,14607 balcony, and *T Sdll Have a Dream," a or of comfort, there are many "gay- now tiiey will be paying a retum call to songs: "It will be hard we know... but Dave at 224-9067. rades, but you still have the time to pre­ cdebration of Susan B. Anthony's birth Union Congrc^tional United Church song written for the Lincoln Memorial friendly" feith communities in tiie area, sing ftx Rochester's g3y conimunity. Al- we'U get there." 'Though trials mount RcJlerblading begins in July. Call Teff at pare for our local Rochester parade on and contributions to be held in Seneca of Christ, 14 N. Main St, Churchville, Servioe hdd at tte 1993 IVfardi on Wash­ Falls on August 26. The group has a interfaith Advocates for Lesbian, Gay tfaoug^ their membership tends to be on every hand, I feel like going on." 271-1017 for details- July 15. Contact Tim or Gerry at 242- Westminster Presbyterian Church, ington. The Klezmer band brought performing slot in the fifth CiALA per­ and Bisexual People, a group tiiat seeks your^er and less tnature tlian tiie RGMQ 'You can deddb to tum your fece awa^^, Our tecent excursion to Sonnenbetg 0237 for more information, or just come 330 Wellington Ave., 14619 the audience up to intermission. formance festival in July of '96, when increased awarcness, understanding tfaey sing widi great energy and styk and no matter, *cause there's something in^de Gardens proved to be a lot of fian and to rehearsal Tuesday n^ts at Sdiool 12 Zen Center ^ixUhist), 7 AmcJd Park, over 4,000 choristers throu^out the and inclusion, lists thc following: are not to be missed. so strof^. You thot^t tiiat my pride was without a doubt we'll run it again next at 7 p.m. The second half began with an ar­ 14607 U.S. and Canada will join together to Calvary St Andrew's Parish (Pitsbyte- year. See you out and aboud rangement of Cariy Simon's "Let thc If other feith ccMnmunities would like The second rcason to matkjune 17 on gone, oh no, there's sometiiir^ inside so Women^s Chonis sii^ and play in Tampa, Florida. For rian/I {piscopalian), 95 Averill Ave, 14620 River Run," which will also be per­ to be inciudod in fijture listings, a repre­ your calendar is tliat June is tlie montfa of sbotig.'' TTiose VAK) attend this coticert Ftont Runners more infcwmation, or ifyou would like to Cotpus Qiristi C>iurch (Roman Catho­ ^y pride, and we have a special treat in wiB come away with heads a litde higjher The audienoe was siiiging and dancing fomied by Washington D.Cs '*Bread sentative should ccxitact Interfeith Advo­ The Rochester Area Front Runners join the RWCC family, cal/ 473-7365. lic), 80 Prince St. \4605 store: a concert onjune 17 at Monroe and backs a litde straighter. in the aisles by die dose ofthe Roch­ and Roses Chorus," PhiJaddphia's cates. For more information about this shouki have been celebtatir^ its second "Anna Cnisis" chorus 2knd KWCC l^i^^ty/lntjcgnry (Ramsai Cadiolic/ Community College. The concert will take place in the ester Women's Community Chorus' gnon? you can cafl Kevin E^:>hick at 529- year anniversary this month. performance on May 6 at the Down­ during their visit to Washifigcon on the I episcopalian), 17 South Fitzhugh St, 5504 or Nancy Eckerson Fitts at 381- All tiuee conoetts of tiie Rodiester Gay Theatre at Monroe Community CoOege, 14620 4846. Men's Chorus this year have followed 1000 East Henrietta Rd, onjune 17,

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Once s^?in, I wouU Kke to invite your oflifc; one involving no concealment, the issue four years ago when I started and that we do have infliiential people FESTIVAL continued firom p. or straight, arc very ooriservativc." Odier any gay men who had adopted And don't You gain it That baby is attached readers to two benefit shows for the trickery or dishonesty." dierapy. I told my dierapist diat I dki positive resdts of this venture have been working for us in sodety making a dif­ ^^len I did hear about men who had to you and loves to cuddk. Josh's &vocie 11 month ofjune. Onjune 3 at 8 p.m., Historically, criminal American sub- not want to be gay because I did not ference. I do know diat I see very few more personal* Ganshaw is now proud adopted, they typically adopted oWer ffaingis to stt on my tummy and squish "Cirde of Friends," at 522 E. Main St cultutcs at the tum of the centuty created want to be a martyr. Since then I have most by their concem for that com­ to be a fiilly out gay man at work; Faz- s^ of activity in die media. I don't hear dddren, and g?y men diat adopted cfid popoom in my l»rd Anothern^ih is All proceeds wiQ go to die AIDS Walk a (fidiotomy useful among themsdves, come to realize that I don*t have to munity. ackedy is feaming mudi about tfae com­ pe<^ discussirigg^y and lesbian i^ts. I so as a Goifsle. I wanted to find anodier datir^—overweig^menhaveahard ift^ they kbded the hones^'laW'flUcfing die because ofthe "cause" of homo­ Exdted about the prospect of tnoor- munity throu^ her interaction wtdi the onjune 4. Onjune 17, *?^fakc a Wish," doo't see this community tryir^ to unify sin^ gay man who had adopted, but in time dating to b^;tn with in our com­ dtizenry "the straigjits" to distinguish sexuality. I can even live a happy fid- porating IjesBiGay concems into his festival volunteers. 10:30 to lZ-30 showtime. All proceeds politically to ask for and make change. n^ atea there weren't even many g^ male munity. Overwent and with a child? d:«se peopfc fiom diernsdves, "the wise filling life. But, even widiin my own daily work, Ganshaw oqslained how he Ganshaw's invdKrement with the fissti- will go to die Make a Wish, H.P A. Please correct me if I am wrong. Let couples who had adopted. There is a Forget it!! first initiated the project. When M&T val is not his first tarigible efifort to veadi So many people have asked why we guys," the really smart ones who knew femily and fnends, I must work fbr me kiTOw if you think diat rrgr youth arid myth in our community that we cannot better than to toA in Bctoiies or on fiuins change in their attitudes and miscon­ inesqseiienoc are making me blind to the IV: Is therc a part of you diat resents \' corporate offices iriforrned their en^sloy- the LesBiGay popd^ion. Last year, he never do baiefit shows on a Saturday adopt. I run into gay men all the time that you adopted? ces that diversity outreadi was one of its or^uiized M&T participation in ADDS n^ Wefl, here arc two of theml Please to "make an honest Hving." The desig­ ceptions about mysdf, and who or fact that there is change occurring, and who say bluntly,' T always thoi^t about nated bwfiii ddzens, the stra^^ were what I am, and >^4iat the community leadersh^i of the caliber of Nfertin Luther JG: No, 1 knew when getting into this goals, Ganshaw fdt that it was time to Rodiestet^s AIDS Walk. The festivali s come out, and give your $i4>port, and adopting and just thoi^t it would be that diere might be a choice between taiget the LesKGay population, p>erhsqas the first msqor step Ganshaw has taken enjoy! Most of all, keep the faith aini "„.on die up-and-vp, on the level, on IS. King. Hease let me know if someone is impossible or ill^." the square" ^loget's IntemaHonal The- havii^ a lover and havirig Josh But, be­ tealizitigthat—amor^ other thmgs—a in outreach; but he and Fazackerly are keep fitting. I do this to make my life better and leading. If diere is no one, dien who win IV: That's sad With afl die good tole lieve me, there is no question which I sattrtts^ lead our people? considerable market was there to be brainstorming on fiirther outreach God bless all! happier. In many way^ I identify with modds out there, it's too b^ that so wodd rather have. Josh is the best thing I reached In addition to maldr^ a sound projects fior die near fiiture. Falexis To pfcdudc the si^jport of padiofagy- the dvil rights movement ofthe '60s. Sincerdy and eamesdy yours, many gay men don't look into adopricMi have ever done. ciesttir^ tnyths s^airist norrnsd, heddiy, Drewlrvin finarxnal move, Ganshaw's hopes were From a proficssional standpoint, (Paul Fancher) I see diat just because things have al­ because they diink it is impossible. Do IV: Anything else you'd like to add? to crcate a pul:4ic statement of support contclDUtir^ntiembets of our sodety who ways been done sodety's way does Fazackerly has been observing kurger you hope to change that? JG Yes, Inrier Voice, aren't you ever go- for lesbians, bisexuals arxl g^ men, while have a same-sex intimacy/sexual orienta­ not mean that it is right I look at die businesses in their recent support of The word "straight'* is JG: I hc^ to try. I am currently using ir^ to go away? cducatir^ M&T employees about non- tion (the too-neurcJag^ial base) and pref­ change that happened and the hard ADOPTION continued from LesBiGays; however, she stresscs,"If resources fixMnTh e Center, part of the IV: VWH you ever stcy bdnga parent? traditional clientele, as well. nothing monetary comes fit>m this, I demeaning to gays erence (the personal free choice to ac­ work many p)eople did in that era for p. 12 Gay arid Lesbian brents Coalition Iriter- tivate onesdf in a fiilfiUing manner), I It was because ofhis humanistic in- StiD believe my efforts will make me a To the Editon minorities. Then I look at gays and worker which gave me a lot of insight. nari(wial (GLPC^, in New Yorit City, Joel Greenberg isfountier ofAltemaHt^ t«ests that Ganshaw soug^ Fazadceily as better person, e^jedally sirx3e now Fm In recent issues of The Etttpty Closet vdienriendy befieve diat diose orntif)Oter)t lesbians today and wonder why are He told me how the state adoption pro­ and my own researdi to find kxai and Family Network (AFN). Yott can reach a partner. Thc two share a unique work­ learning about all kinds of issues. For there is the pervasive use of the cdtkral "arbitiaiy symbols" known as **wcwds" we not doing the same. We still are cess works: "A diild firstgoe s to an adop­ national adc^on resources that are him for more infotmation aboutgty/kslna n ing rdatior\ship based on an appredation example, fix»n a k^ aspect, Fm learning word "straig^^* as being equivalent to and "conc^Jts" must be wisdy diosen to second dass dtizens and many seem tive cot^de of the same race or an interra­ gay-oriented or at least gay-friendly. adoption at 251 7098. of similar values and mutual respect about domestic partnershp benefits and **heterosexuaL" Unfi^rtunatd}', this us£^ refbct individual and ofg^iriizatiorial posi­ happy to remain that way. dal coi^e Nextthechild woddgo to a IV: Do you plan to give Joshua ac­ Ganshaw admits that he wouldn*t have joint mortgages between same-sex continues to unneoessanty and insidiously tions of full acceptance of any person, Where are our Nfertin Luther Kings couple ofthe opposite race or a single cess to his African American heritage? taken on the project with anyone else. couples." demean individuals of the g^ community. r^;ardless of that person's sexual ori­ and other of that ilk? We do have mom of the same race. After that, die JG: Definitely. I have rdied more on LOCAL continued from p. 3 Fazackcriy fcds the same way, and even Ganshaw bdieves, **Ifw e can broaden Ahhot^ the wotd'hctetoscxuaT'con­ entation and preference. people who are leaders, but not to the child would go to a single mom of the my African Arnerican friends to make The format for this year's toumament as she nfKJves into a rKw position at M&T, the community's spectrum by just an tains 50 percent nxsre fetterstha n the word ODrdially, degree that other minorities have. We <^3posite race, then to a Black male, and sure that Josh isn't totally surrounded by wiD depend on the number of teams en­ which removes her directly fix>m mar­ inch, then 111 fed I have achieved "stra^^" it would be prudent to use the Fred Pastor, D.S.W., BCD must get organized: move for change, then, finally, the child could be placed people \k^o are white. VC'e get involved tered. Thc toumament will bc Round keting concerns, she wiD continue to work something." lor^er word whidi doesn't leinfiwce our Where are the leaders fbr laws, for berter treatment from so­ with you.*' in things as they happen; for instance Robin with an upper and lower division. with Ganshaw on LesBiGay outreach. culture's pervasive homophobia. cict}'. Who will lead us? Who will IV: Wow, that must have thrown you this year will be Josh's first Kwanj^aa The entry fce is 5^5 per team. The tour­ Both Fazackerly and Ganshaw arc Relevant definitions ofthe word of the gay movement? unify us? Who will come out? for a loop. (Afiican American winter cdebration.) nament wffl follow USSSA nJcs Sl^TSZ^^v rJETTERS continued ftom p. 2 pleased to find that the^' have experienced "strait" &x3m Wdtstet^s VMNmbiter- To the Editon Supposedly, we are 10 percent of JG: Actually, I was gcatefiaL 1 stopped Well make a k>t of Bbck history month, an 11" ball. Trophies will bc given for no internal obstades in doing such out­ lai^ and have a great time. I am so ^ad natiorudDictionary, Unabri^d, *'Candid; I am a 23 year old white male student thc population. We should be able to wasting my time in the state system and and I make sure that his children's books the top two teams from each division. reach. They originally expected to en­ there are bars that let me put on such in an honest or honorable manner, ex- at Eastman. I have been "ouf for about make a diflFerence. I know it won't be went to a private adoption agency. indude books by African Americans, The deadline for rc^stration is June 5. coun ter problems vAdn funding but werc events. Like Tara's, Qub Marcella, 522, Ijtbitit^ no (kmation (N.B., italics added by 14 months. My family and fHends are overnight, and that some good things IV: Were you able to get siq3port from and books that show non-white diildrea Special Friends is an agpncy in Albion <.urpmcd to he automaticaUy granted and Gommon Grounds. But I also have author) fiom what \s established or ac­ rdativdy si4^x>rrive. I think I am lucky. have already started. But is it enough? your community? IV: You talked about "rr^ths" in acfcp- thar matdies at-risk youth with adult vol­ fbc'ir ck>nation hy AIScT's Charitable all the performers to thank as -well; for cepced as usual, normal, or proper; con­ Recently a question has fe)rmcd in my I don't think so. If anyone has any in­ JG: Not a lot Like I said, I knew gay rion. What others have you found? unteers to work one on one. The Pro­ Concributions Q>mmittee. As Ganshaw believing in me arxl starKfing beside me forming to justice; virtuous; fi^ee fi-om mind. It concems leadership in the Les/ formarion on this piease let me know. parents and I knew ofa few g^ men vtho JG; The parentir^ books Ue when ihey gram is in desperate need of maturc vol­ admits, "Bankers, whether they be gay to fight. irregularity or confusion; an honest way Bi/Gav community. I firsttouche d on I would love to know 1 am mistaken had hiotogical diiklren. But I didn't know say that you k>se we^t after a baby. You unteers; caD Spedal Friends at 589-7409. Fabrics & ^^dw^ all your 'T^rinting jh^eeds Fred Remus

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Call 865^863. ntattben Neither tviU bepttb&dtedy btttwe I*ns. A master^s d^pec in a CDunscfe^ ing firom anyone ^i4io win wri^: 19th Watd — GWM, 42, needs fieedtobeabktocot^rmadpkcement, >Vith... lehtcd fidd and two years'dinksd ei^ieti- Black bisexual male, 5'9", 175 lbs. housemate to share three bedroom, Weaec^pertontdtttls, htt the atktertiser etKe are essential Forward your resume I enjoy reading, writing drawing and one badi house. Quiet home with lots mttst ttse bis ttr her ottm box ntattber or per- to AIDS Rodiester Inc, 1350 Urdvetsity sports. Seeking a sensuous and pas­ of wood, laundry, garage, porch, yard. THE PRIDE CONNECTION ffmal address. Weptddishpersonal ads from Ave., Rochester NY 14607; attention sionate person for correspondance or Ptefer non-smokirig quiec professkxial prisotms on a ^ktse-availabk basis, ffjou Steven Price, Men's Outreadi Pro-am. lastir^ relationshp. I am 35, win answer or student $425 indudes aH. Deposit have aprobkm wiA apenpai, ktttsktttm. SERVICES an letters. Lewis D. Bytd, Jr., #188-302, and references. Available June 1. Call The^mip^ Ooset cattma ite held rejpon- Body/Muscle Rubs. The first and PO Box 45699, Lucasville OH 45699- Jim at 527-9017. at Jones Pond sibkfar atty finatKial loss orphysicai irfttry still thc besd Fm a youthful, in-shape 0001. FORRENT ihat tttay fesfdtfivtri tmy amtjptmdame. GWM, 5'8", 150 lbs., experienced and Youtt^^K^ute male sedcs ^)ccial rda­ Southwedge double: Two bed­ energetic My strot^ skiBed hands win tionship widi older men. I'm incarcer­ room 24>artment with modem conve­ ANNOUNCEME^f^S leave you refreshed and invigorated ated but soon to be released. Walt niences, and waU to wall carpeting and Volunteer fiir the Einpty Qosec Serving the Rodiester and Wcstem Harmon #215-052, WCI, PO Box dishwasher. Laundry in basement. On Ifyou can hc^ widi word processing, New York community for over fi^ur 120, SR. 63, Lebanon OH 45036. gay fiiendly street Available on or be­ (Microsoft Worc^, layout/ad design years. Appointments available at my GWM, 24, ff, 200 lbs., blond hair, fore JiJy 1. $550 plus. Smilar lower unit tmoA"* (Pagemakcr), or bulk mailings and dis- home or yours. Reasonable rates. Call green eyes, in great health. Seeking availaUe on Ai^ 1, No dc«;5. Can 546- SAT AssOW mli^ion, or if you want to write (report­ (716)235-6688. others for correspondance, maybe 7808. ing filn0Tiusk:/bool^theatcr tcviews) Bed and bteak&st Escape to a more. Will answer all! Brad Evans, Southwedge: Three bedroom .Dance vour or take photographs, please call Susan unique 1920s restored motel cabin. #108460, Ky. State Penitentiary, PO house widi modem conveniences. at 244-9030. Moved and set alongside a historical Bk 128, EddyviUe KY 42038^128. 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Available June 1. 654-5584, downtown, Monroe Ave. location. *«»* i5^^®^"^f^KEM TTiree Rivers or Blanche Jackson, Art Housedeantng, pet sitting. Fkase leave message. Near major expressways, abundant m> cl«- for Land, Maat Dompim Womyn of call 271-7712 fordetaib ; ask fbr Dawn or Looking Ibc someone to share large parkir^ maid service, gas and electric 0t3 «fre«« [Prize Color Land Project, Auto Rd., Auto so*" Fran. three bedroom house in Pinnade Hill induded. Perfect for your individual f Creative '^^^^i^ WV 24917; (703)992-0248 voice mail Relaxing full body rubs given by area, Male or female. Must like cats. office needs. For information call «ites Leathetdykes wanted for social wdl-built man. Call 265-432Z Leave Washer and dryer, off-street parking, 263-6598. f Coior/ul groif). An wekome for poducks, poker, message if no answer. $300 plus. Garage ^>ace $350 plus. No FOR SALE • Origina/ J various non-PC get tpgediets, whafiever, PERSONALS calls riU June 12 473-7846. 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30 Tht Empty C/oset June 1995 ""Confidential Connection sm diidrca Therc are diosc who teadi diil- diat I just received sortie of diaft vital FALSETTOS condimed from tized to hearing about hemiosexual sex niotkeretietgy^or tha&a p^f^ about arxl a book like i^/i^ 72w oouU prove drei^ And diere are diose ofus who ftochester's effective • private • eosy moy tomee t ncuj people p, 13 a useful tool. naturaBy become modiers to peofJe we LF, coMctc itudefM. IH. very ma­ Atlractivc, well buih, dominant Bt-curiow M, 19. 145 lbs., discreet. Inexpericitced MWM, 40-5, Bi-cu- CWM 23, brown/'grrcn. 60", IW) UJOA/ieN ture, loves musit. conventions and SWM- littc 3Cs. 6'4". !«eeking younger meet At a conference recentty Wtth my M€N very straight actmg. ISO same.#l3>2 rious.lSOyoungcrG/BiM(I«-25)of lbs. ISO OWM (2K..15) for fricnd- benefit of HPA will He at 7:30 p.m. pn TTiis entire column could be construed walks: looking for rricnthhip. pos M (2t-K)| for good (imcs and dis­ MESSAGE wc ISO F to fulfitt hustWMTs nntis •(ibic rotiuuHc. Age unimportant. Straight metitm BIM. blontVbluc- SBIWM.S'IO'. leoibs. sccks BiWM *"* ^*^c. with slim buiW, for mom- ship. possi''le relationship. Beards a best fiiend, I got up fitim a taiale when I -who|iaw^lgagantthcMho^>*^ «nd fantasies. BiPs wekome. Age. creet cncounicrs. #114] June 9. Tickets are $20 and indude an »3t70 green. 5*K". 175 «».. rfirti. French/ r-wMj >« •» u i " ', FREE RETRIEVAL (60-75) for discreet daytime encoun- '"g- learning experiences. #3 must, blue eyes a pius. Must bc d A d as a rationalization for why my essay ^ nice unimponant. #4041 ^T%, #IJ4» CWPM 30, 5'*", I.K) lbs., brown/ free, masculine and fit. #2059 hors d'oeuvres teceptiofvGan^7-^l853 ^ saw hiih i^jproadiingarid offord tp get to receive gcxxJmodiefirg » a chBd, or loves outdoon and ijuict times lo- pears in a book that I am not conqpietdy |B^*uri«F,2A«archmgfoftull hair, who lj£« to have fun. #JI36 "^f!^ »»7'« *...,--..» gcihcr looking for friendship, pos- WWM.CMrioia, looking fordiscrcct. brown, smooth, imo working out and WTV.slaveandWmasierscckindi- those who hstoCiieerrfejitCted in.^^ [figured F for some tun. #3«t% clcaft. d & d free M for fun limes, """ing^ loofcingforGWM (30-somc- victual to tape their training cntoun- for reservations. Regular perfbrmaices his dinner. He laughed ahd teased me F24,5'4-. I 45 lbs.. S mom of one Bi^M l9.secttwgvcT%atilcOC(3 abotrt:**mothetir% him." Why not> I cn^ !^"«^'if;i^?''-l"^*^°*'''*°*^- l^**"!? ^«' A^^ *•»«>'» ^Ican. at- «Hngs aitaehcd. #36J« VfWMiccfcs Mfor dayiime miimatc MieeUinM(I«-30)for fun limes. GWM 30, 5'11'. 185 lbs., brown/ with anyone who. made that chaj^. !!>0 ¥ With Similar chaiaacfiWK-.. rn*.iiv*. J * ,( fr^ ifimui v-« iu-»..4«- 5'9". !?«fbs.,cxccItenthcalth.dAd rrm.ti_vc.dAdfrec- #30IW VeryIli.ciirfo«WM.6tr.230lbs.. free:'seek;;.i'Bi^M to wii^irhjVn^i;^* fun. #843 PO«'*>lc relationship. #3390 green, submissive, seeking M for 16,17,23 and24;andat 2pjn. onjune jcy rnddlent^. He er^ bdr^mcdictcd seertiVvit^ ; '' »27»| On die dd^ hand, I reaDy bc&^ Attractive WC seeking Bi-cunousF ^'gj^^ overweight, tookmg for G/ experiences arHl fulfill his fantasies. HOURS A DAY S«yVVTV,Woi«Vgrccn.smooth.ISO GWM,d & d frw,caring. sincere, pawionatc encounters and more Adt^trifig tfie need fbr something [•»-«Msubfn.tlo• #3IW dtscrcct. Hurry and cal). he's waiting. IKS ft^.. muscular. Syracuse area; Hi:ART PRINTS ,«,^-^ 2f^.^iS!l? fooking fcr F<.T«).44) ofany race, for Very nr^wiwiv Bi WM, Mr&, seeks . #Ma can call master. Hes ready to obey. BiWM ofany age. Studems wcfcome. SPf^^tJii^rha??^ Z%Sl!^ seckinV'big:"h^;;^c;:ri:^ WM taatO D & d free. DMcrciioo assured. No fomis and tfiat your modier(s) can diat^ sorb the needed sustenance. We need to iwtnore.pvc!KtacaH!#9fc7 fun. travel, shopping, dinrng and WC with BiM. #3150 MBiWM 42, tooking ror~Bl^GM _. ,„ . ^' '^^ *«*^ ^ ***?£* ^29!E: ^320 SuliHiMlw BiWM, 24. ISO oWcr. pctitc. for daytime cncountcrs.#2ll9 GWM foMr ctubbm| 23, brown/green. hangmg .ou 6tyt #240. la4o YQforM dis[-rect wont b. esaf disappoiiitedc f\m. He ca. n #409travel5 . BiWM 34, 6'0", 165 lbs., brown/ *^ "'#*" «"Hfa. #1403 COLUMNS conrinued from form and shs^jc every dff^. Dutir^ a te­ know that we have lost something, we ineerwDces. «67l Attract*** PF, 24. slcndct. 115 lbs., dominani WM (45-60) for fantaiy WM,5*OM50lb«..laK2(rs brown/ '•"«" - 'S"''^'-™""^O GWM (2K-35" ")— fo r friend- - SWM27.ss, and then wc ncod who likes tfuict times, dining out. curious F for good times and new Bi-cwtowWM.mid4(Ts vcrveood fncndshipandiaorc.Mustbemascu- must|.,„ blu .te. eye, s, a ,plus. . Musi be mas MC wW-W's, good (ooking, d & d hairy M a pJus. #1473 p. 23 #2399 to leam to recognize when die loss is pfcmcs. candlehgh. and the simpte experiences. #1%^ ^h^^^,C-Sng, Ko2^ line, sincere ^STgo^ ,^vcM7t ^•"'•»^- ^^'"- ^-^ ^ ^"-:^: Good tDoUac «v tookinc for TV/ 'J"' '****'"« ^" '"""'*' ^^^JP' WM. 6'2-, 210 lbs.. .W. tookingfo r into the messages that an extremdy sex- Mothering natural mother and I were not on good ihmp m life. AgeunimpgrnniJ^lj WF,li«tpeHeiic«l,curious.lSOBt' ^ ^ ' #3071 MWM, wy OiacrwL scekhTg very ^"^ ^^ '^ '^^WM for late fs "'**"* •"'' *****'"« ^^11;' discreet encounters. #3006 F/C. Looking forward to your call. Bi-cwioua. »g>BMl F looking for Bi curious F (25-.^)) for fantasy fuJ- GoodlooUatGWM.5-6'* I.V)lbs curious. Bi/OM (under 25). ImUct "'g^t dtscreet encoumerv #223_4 SWM 33, very fUtractivc. slim, ISO terms, I came to realize diat mothaing beir^con^sensated By acknowlec^p^ Waated! Hairy, well built, dominani ne^rivecukure gives aH ofus—sexis Fm writirg this on Modier's D^. Mote new expcrtciK-cs and fun. #4660 rillmcni. frKmdship and fun. #1637 well buik. scSw wcUbuih M for fti l«0 lbs. Prefer M into (Hi. Race ^WMM, 185 lbs..6r^btoodrt)iuc. Mfr^^r:^'?^;;^^;;^^ SWM 25, *:countan(. coilcge edu- (both gKnrig and receivir^ is vital to my each time wc have a need met, we are YMMM BiF ISO relaiiortship with M/ WC«arl>40%secksBiFforf«itasy liincv #3064 unimportant. Inexperienced wel- very hot-anxious 10 gcnogethcr with encounters W mid^-TanachS. you*"-r" ™""-"^""-'"'mutual fantasies ' into realitie'^•^~s- caied--.' S"?"*'^". brown/hazel" , work^ s out a dirty. And any book that has sex as its long distance tdephone caUs are made Fwhoswiltingtobccreaiivc.andtry fumilmcnt. Musi bc ctean and div H«CWM,40.6'2".240lbs..hcard, ^5!!!£:^ 51*^ ^1 _J^!H HIV(+),youioo.behopcs.you(undcr #3003 tot; looking for wonderful, curious well-being and can be obtained fix>m a biakfc^ a bank account for the futi:ffe. [ticw experiences. #4641 infect. Smofccnt wcfeomc. #431 moustache, seeking M's 120-45) for Bt-mrtoaa MWM, 42. seeks domi- WM.i«rartivg. very slim, looking n>id-4(ys). #3900 GWM 28. btood/grccn. into camp- relattonship. #1291 primary theme is sleazy. that day dian on any odier day of die year. BiWCdJaeaat l^n, smokers drink Ha«rpily MC loolUiic for BiF/C for hot encouniers and mote. #2969 "W" C for mid-day. early mo»niB| for BiWMTrV/TS for totally unique. BiWM. 132 1^.. aiiraciive «•« •"f''''i'"JP-™»»c««*'''c: very gcn MBiWM 40. handsome, fit. sensual. variety of sources. Icrs. seeks F. #4550 dark, lulian. ST'. 145 lbs.: seeks In thc past I have condemned pornog­ Ifs die bvisiest day most restaurants see TTiere win inevitaHy be lean rimes,whe n fantasy fulfillment"* #550> CWM 37, y7M60 tes.. iacx-i;;r. '^ 'J^ ^"^T^" ^^^ ^^fLTI^i'f^'Zm^^S^ Kic^'^'^*"'"****»SSr WPC nM lO'a, with BtF and M. CF36,togW«» for two lo three Bi/ cnccd.ci«er.seekssfkmoooencoun- •»-«i«*o« MWM looking for femi- MBiWM 31, 5'9'. 150 lbs., hand-f»nt«y. #3023 ""'"-"^'?^- *»*« mav-ulinc MM only, for fricnddiip to draw upon that account of spedal seek same for playtime and fantasies. GFs (25-45) for fantasy ftilfillnMit. icrv #23H «"»c Bi/GM for good timci.r soaie. hcaWiy. aihletic. dark/dark. sWM 25, 5'7 YoMm, iMbwiiMlvt Mf alway V sensual, discreci times occa­ raphy in this column and discussed its all year. While many women are being My thcKpist is probably thc most ob­ sionally. #1226 94527 O A d free. No M's. *^l BM 24. , 15..„0 lbs._, . ver_y , slim, , vct.y, *iW f,?fiSfn'".:^"^T''^''r ^^-^ j-^ingforhcit'ci^inint^ftj memories may be aH we have. Funny SWM 35, into mutual fantasv and negative effect on us. I haven't changed honored ard are criebcarir^ odier women vious and strongest mother %ure in my Vcty aMraetiv. MBiF looking Ibr «-c«rW WF, 19. and BM. 21. frttf^:t>ve^loqkil.g for feminine f^ ?!!iM,39,-VS", ttark/dwfc. glas^^ JJlJ^S!^ 'JTiw'^"^"^^ *J^^S^,_ #2936 Fs for rriendship md more. #4407 seeking Bi-curious F (19-25). kind. W/AM (IH-25). Musi be under 150 moustache. scnsKivc. toving. seek- 3~ --,"^-^— JJIZS 9341D S«dHilintv«.str^KMat:tingGWPM. "»^- »"«3 life, but die is also usuaHy the most un- how the giving and receiving start to get Iwr^w- t^if\J,ffu.^^f^<.J.,^ discreet, dcsirabte, for new cxpcri- lbs. #2300 «« Bi-curious WM (19-25) for new Really good looldnc SWM. 21. -,~ 2H. 5'H'*.btondartuc. ISO attractive. Very good looUi^ MWM. 511". my mind about that But I also acknowd- are gpcvif^ the kiss of modiers, die loss of WC 30'». ISO WOBi WF for fantasy CXpCTI- ences. #ISS6 experiences. Prefer short M. #90t 5•lO'^ 165 lbs., lookine for same for f«-Z..i 7^ V_!./7!^^'^' 19 0 lbs.. 41. d A d free, clean, dis­ ava^Babde. Arid rny dau^iter is die rnost all mbced up, to blend And don\ tdl fulfillment. #4420 liaBan M gcmteman. ^tractive, look- creet; sccks WC fortUscroct (un. Musi ec^ that not every book or movie with children, or the lack ofany children. LtMUaS ior M (30-3S). who's inie) jBt-carioo* WF 20 5'4" 145 Ibs **-curioiMi WC seeks C for adult ing for same, for good limes. #2210 be disease tree- #1149 Icctual. business oriemed, and has it BM 24. 150 lbs., looking for M (IH- BUurtom WM n™^ mind«i « CD late 30;«, very submissive, seeks obvious object ofmy mothering. But anyone, but sometimes thc mothering blood/blue. aiirL-tiCc. feminine. S ^'^"'asy tulftUmcnt. #1791^ SWM25,5'«M60»bs..collegesiu- nudity or strong sexual content is por­ When I firstmuse d (XI the subject of -JLSete ^M*K ?l!:J''^i^i:'!'Je:.!*i^i:.'LP^"- ^t;C.^!iS?yZS^g*i ^er^inantM(55.)forg«ge. BiWM 32,5'5-. 135 lbs., v^orks out. Imothcrot one' seeking WF(!9-25j. SWF 32, very romantic, sick of dcni. smooth, muscular, anrvc-tivc: tw-Althy.discrect.]good looking; sccks then oomes our quBt of rdationships in even comes from a man. lattractive. feminine, clean, n/s. no games, jooking for someone ofany into working oot and summer, ath- LooUac *»r M to have a good time '^'^' «°*"^ °"' "^ ^*'"S f"?!^ afternoon get togethers and mutual nographic — even if the intent of die Mother's Day form y ocrfumn, I hesitated WcMtanned BiWM looking forsum M (l)t-2K) for hot times. #1014 Idrugs for tin;! friendship. #4.^0 n^J^- who's good with conversations. letK activities: seeking same (lH-25) with. #4675 . *'^^ enjoyment. #2861 mer beach partner. Must be d A d Saboiiscivc MWM, Bi-curious. ull. generaL TTiere is an array of people in my So Happj^ Mother's Day, any day, to She likes lo think < #1000 for hanging out and whatever -—else. . Bi<«rto«i M seeking Bi-curious/ 1*J?!!l?!..!l^ '^^ Bt/GMTV for MBiWM3»>atttaciiye.athlctic.voy- material is to eroticize sex. Erotica be­ for reasons rangif^ fixxn a disgusted dis­ Bi-eariowSWF ISO BiFfor a rela- free. #2630 ^im. smooth. ISO C who wants lo tttm GM for new experiences for fantasy ^t^'"*^ '""^ *15«Z cur. CD. sccks M/F/C for disc-rect. tionship and fun times. #4360 F tooidnt for Bi-curious F. #1505 . ^ Newly Bi-curtooB. scmi P, MWM. •^*=** »^ *'"'"« 'o train. Discrcc^ comes pornography when coi^Jed with missal of the hdklay by a woman I con­ life who have mother enetgy or child anyorie wto ever bcudied that fitdepiec e Bor«dtotcars.(jood looking GWM <^lcanar»deu'tting.fanta.syfuirmmcnt. WF20, 5'2", bfown/grcen. search­ Altr*etive1iP. 35. took ing l^T;.;^! ^eo-«<*«*«(« WM, c^y 30's. fulfillment. Must have patience^ 511". 165 lbs.. 38. looking for new ^nccre. d A d free. tW37 #4656 35. btond/Muc. lircd of meeting Ms #2*54 eneigy to oflEer me, depenc&ig ' P-^^'^P »' i'^^ Attractire GM. 21. 5'11 GWM 36,m,clean.sccks Bi/MWM '«»lc.daytimc fun with Bi-cunous M WTS. very pretty, very passable, younger G/BIWMVOT fun and good '^^^'^^'y #1029 dark/dark. ISO G/Bi-curious M (IH- radation/objectification of die irxlividuaL diat many women yearn pairAifly, but do needs v^iat at the time. As loi^ as a rda- tear-^cakiod shoiider, or hdd a head over a Attractive BiBF, 25. feminine. ISO Voyeuristic WC sccks WC/F who's (20 40) for discreel encouniers and gentleman in same situation. #020 ICiFforfunandfriendship.N/s.andiJ looking for an open minded C.#993 tonghairandleg.s.seeksWM(24-12) *J!Ws- #4655 GM2l,atlr»ctiv«,sccksWPM(\H- 35) to share fun and discreet times. more al his placx. Discretion assmed. MBiWM, 6*2", 2!() lbs., looking for Yet not aB erotica is pornography and by not have diikken. TVien I mused further tionshqi is not defined or aH-consumed tofle^ or ofifered a tissue, or fixed a dinner for concern, going out, fun times. BiWM 26, well built 5'6" 165 lbs. ^'- ^''''^•'*^^- '" '^"Pc- who wears friendship, good times. #2626 #2427 daytime pleasures with gentleman I* ^ '^ »^*5 AfHcan American SF, enjoys out- friendship, possibic rclationship. seeks M with good b^y. swimmer^ suits. Race unimponani. #1022 8i-eartow MWM. cariy 30's. d A d itsdf, erotica is a natural, healthy part of and began to realize that cdebrating by modier/diikUikc interactions, it seems plate, or carried a skk petson to thc couch, Bi-cuHous BF, late 2ftd evening cwcounteffs. #4564 MMWMa-> isriG/piM'C'^"T''irly »wt weekend get togcthcnt. #2036 [MWF. pctifc, anractive, inexperi inio movKsand romance. #21'^'fe''^ ttt/e v« r««*.i K7-« 'SO. «trac.ivc. fo"r discreet' —, •safe , J!!hot" enco^U;:! ^••^*~"--'>^ - N'-.«:*.».,>-.*-^.».To strings anachST* anddisc^i^w.. . #S63 muscular buikt looking for G/BtM [nilmcnt. MUSI bc tit. attractive, dis 25), prcfer under 165 lbs., for new. Paiaivc M looking for good tooking planted a feadiery light kiss on a cheek #4531 is important for us to bc able to view perkncod ptc^iaricy arid diildbinh, sonie PersonaHy, thoi^ I find it important lease free. #i^ M^^ iTatS^sSip ^"*^****'^r7?r7 *^"^^'P- __-: *'^ for fmtasy .,fuir.llment„ .- . . #175. 0 very discrcet experiences. Student's M for safe, anything and everything BiWF30.seeksBiFfor«Kvi«liimes A — »*^i.7irT~; 7~~Tr WWM late 30% enjoys a lot seeks Attractive MWC seckingctean.dis- 5*»", seek. .s tall^,. dar.^.k BiW, M for pri-MawWa. f (18+)forquicttimcs wekome. #I7J| encounters, flcanb a plus. #767 and said, "Pll be back" vale relationship. Uniforms wekome. *nd pany times. Hairy chest a phis. -^ ., • , .„ .^ , ~—r" ---. . .:—; "^—-—;::^r^ sexual relarions between members ofthe throi^ artificial inseminatioa There are to point out the mothering episodes to jvery discreet. Smoker *cico«^ meet someone Special? Into parties mic^^m^tuion: #1540 #4450 #300 #1720 ^'^ ^ ^ '^ • '^^ ">^' tooking for GBM tooldag fCM- masculine GBM same sex as beautiful and natural. To rriyself The iTiodierirg takes on its breath- #2673 anJhavinga good time.call hcr.#70S6 >.».»ir. .^ T r-r— older gentteman who would liie pri- (25-3!) wfio enjoys sports, hanging diose who have gone through the ar­ A ^rt'«Ki-m frLin-f u 111 JI -•.litnrtju.-i g «-*—...z..—— —: :: MBIWt»««»" Min 42^*, scck.itvMx suiniiiMivi.-submis.sive. uw- BJWM 39. ttiH. Ihin hcalthv. well BI-cwrio«i MWM tooking for othcr Young, liot MWM. 25. very good vaic limrs mt hi\ ol^c MlJsO out anO having lun. iPTQ ^*?.»**^_V*^5'l*i:^•*^.'fi^??**'• Sexy, yowif wc tookmg for sexy. 5ivcTV^rs»ormomingof«ftcn^ built. c(«m. nlScSiii^.ISoTfri^ Si-curious M*« /or mominx^r tot.*io«.cx«/teoishape.fSoi^^ vale itmcs ai n.splace some degnee; we firsr need to bc desensi­ of-fiesh air c^jality when I remind mysdf 1 will taa forever. F. 4*Hr. l(X)lbs.. young WF for newexperiences. Must 04453 together*. frrr G/B$WM wtWa i»twvr. for no Siiliwiliairr WCD, pas.saWc. sects BiWM CD teohing for C/F/TV for duous procedure of adoption to have ISO a new friCTHi. IIXSM fun. for jutmmcr fim. nwmf- Uimtrtviffigint F, 5'6". 14^ lbs . very tit. CWF. attrvrtlvc. athletk-. Itkes out lt*s.. incx pet tenced. likc^hongingout. untmpofuini. "SJS loolrtnt. tSO. slim, attractive TV tor •< tmimmMmse^i^BiKiMUMmem ^^^^~^^^-. ,ri. F~ auburn/green. KSO F for taniasy tui doors und enjoys family lilcsiylc: jogging and more; seeking M (19- sensual, exotic morning cncounicrs. experience* and fantasy fuinilmcnt. ^^^ ** ' > »«*» aommant **^Jor aged, wthlcttc M fov hot ctM:ouiticTS. GjDdlaoidfif CWM. attractive. 5-9^. IHIS #1242 interesting tanusy fulfi»mcnt.#300 I nilmcni with boyfriend. Must bc d A seeking GWF with same imeresis. 25r #30 ttS03 dfrce. #2417 #6690 14D lbs., early 4(Ts, ISO GWM-s (21- - - - — Bi-Cl»r*o«» MWM, slim. ISOTV for M late 30's, looking for M for good M, 5'»", 170 lbs., works out regu­ 45) interested in fun. friendshipand CWM 3^ ftafian. tooking for M Nc^ly Bi^cnrtoaa,MWl^t . :--o_~(.uous mominactwoutrtcfs. lime^hununK fishinttauimoreMOa Aitractivc.Bi-cvrioMa MWF.cariy F.5'4". 14516»^n/s. n/d.non drink lariy_ . seeking M for serious relaiion- fjniasv usn (2l-35)iodtarehot(2t-35)ioslMchottummcriogethcri . 172lbs..32waist.Iightskin.hairand inconspicuous.nuimingcncouwtetv «g£vtwmmv|Jisnm]^anumore.a^5 .VTs. ISO exciting rclationship with jng. mother of one; looking for SWF ;,hip. maybe mote. - . _ _ #4735 GWM1 ^20'* . .V6". 135 lbs., seeks al «..„K»i.«_ M364 eyes; looking for someone to experi- .—. *-"" MBiWC, attractive. 35 A 38. ctean. honesLsincere-aitivctivcFwiihsimi- for friendship and more. Must IK — /-•aa ,.^-a- »••. .,n ^H,'Tu:i;i cnce feelings wiih. Similar age and SWPM3S,5'ia",nk:ctooking,wort« disease free. ISO SBiWM (23 35), GM,6'0", 2 IO lbs., muscular. Hairy tractive M for friendship, possibly liar interests. #2163 ctean. d A d free. #4943 ^i^lfSJH^^ ^L^j "a: _^ #S>0 out. sport oriented. ISO good took- rfim. clean and disease free, for fan- chesi.clcanshavcn.d A dfrce: seek- more. #4249 attraCtlVCMWtmaCIUIg.SCTrkMgCjB- » , - / <^^- , ..^ .«.«.^,,^. , -~. -^^« _ .;- ^ ingin;«,«/«. n/siv« s. WM witwiih same qualitiesmi«iiti«"t , fofnr* tasyi««v fuirillmmifulfillment.. #466 Bi-CMrtow F tooking for sexy F lo Attractive,Bi-curio«M\VF, l9.look ing similarty buikl WM for di«reel ii:i^^Il^^M j< «^«,..Hi/r.M\ HM.straighiaciing.masculinc.rough SlraigX MWM, earty ^v ctean, "1^^' fuirill imimate fantasies. #2044 ,ng tw WC for new CKpcricnces. **^'. Uvii9«oacoMityCWM,32.sceks ..Jencounters: .„». M^«No string^ s «..--k~attachedi . IH-c«irtow»WM,25.scckmgBi/OMfbr discreet pteasures, no strings ats- n^x-i; type, for friendship. poMible discreel, attractive, sccks G/BiM fcr ""'"g- BiBF25.ISOsamc(25 .V))iorfriend *-**^ #4551 very mtimaic relationship. Nogames. discieet encounters. Must be disease Bi-curious MM, ..iid-3(fs. tooking GM (18-30) for friendship. pos.siMe VIDEO CHA.NNEL tachod. Look*: unimportani. #4233 f436| free. #405 forwcll built M('s)1orfanusy fulfill- retationship. Summer's coming, tets I ship, kick bat.k irmes and fun.#.1692 CWF3fl,5"2". I201bs..tovcsspring. Bi-curtotM., very submissive WM. DmadaaM WM, 38. seeks submis­ Boy, S'lO-. 155 lbs., brown/haicl. Wlmt'~ s wft ISO BirtjWM (18-28) ment and hot times. #6126 enjoyentov-. #450 WF 25, ISO Bimi-c urtous WF (25 lookingforsomeonctocnjoyitwith: 25. eager, open minded, atfraciivc, sive, younger M in good shape, for mid-.VI'sj tor frictviship fun and tan- ISO GWF. No drugs. #2923 trim.advcniurous;seeksokter.donii- scarehing for masa;r for tessons. for friendship. poa-saMy more. Must Very Bi-curioitt MM, 38. lookin; CWM. tood loolUnf, 30. 5*9", 125 fantasy fuinilmem. #4232 M3I0 be straighi acting and discreet. He's for fama-sy fulfillment. #5903 lbs., looking for African American lasy fuinilmcni. #.WW GWPF, pr«*ty. 30's. smart, fun. so- nam. snxl M (50) for fantasy fulfill -_^{ -—„ •' \ ^ ~ ^ 6'4''. 200 lbs., very straight aciing, 38, MBiWM.5'S M. No strings. #391 nal indc^ndVnr: emoiionaUy ment. Teach h,m. he's ready. #4179 ^S^S,^'^;'^*"*^*;"^^^^^^^^ Wr«ti-, into pro %vTC$- « •'--•••^— '"—^ •*' BMMWM. 3 »-, I«HDS.I40lbs. i^ucicanISOclcan.. -izii, -.mi.-.it- I Fr«»h F sMks new relalionship and #364 I getting to know someone in a special healthy, n/d. smoker, for friendship Good SonkintWC. with BiM, look- i!7J;f^ i^Bi/n\^^ tiing famaay cncounicrrss. One sided. ^* ***^. ^^ ^ ''*'*^- °"*KL7 discreet, disease free WM (20-30). GM aeefcs GM Uts talk* »455 #SSOi way. #3470 rVsTN^M^r^^lease, #20lf i„, for BiT for occasional^, ^S^^Zi^f^^^P-^^^ musckr nuds his specialty. #4092 Hot MM. 30, tooking for hot TV.TS/ MWC 33, looking for Ffor discreci lo^tncrtogetherss andu grcagreait iimcalimes. ••ii*?#4|*? bibly^.LcSulky n»are LCK Ulk. . ^416#41600 CWM 30'8. atttactive. seeks two or J^'^'^-^flL^^^SS-'^ ^SS' ©««'»«*'•• MWM,e-O". 190Hn.. CD for hot times. Nothing oui of (tic * Large SelecricMi of Falcon * fiige Selecrion for Sale Startitig at $9.95 SF lookine 'or F to guide her into _^_ »^_ f—..: • —. 5*8 . 160 lbs.. aditetK. good tookmg. 42. ctean. disease free, sccks M for imagination. #350 sensual evenings or daytinK* encoun­ gS"^**^.^ »^ Attrij«iveMWM^3. seeking new ;^42.recks'sjmitarforgooai.mes. more M's for di«rect encounjrv #3921 J*^'«'- d A d free: ISO ^m. thin discreet cncounicrs. !^^ Hawdanaii WM seeks feminine TS ters. #2094 BF 27. looking for f*ma.sy fulfill- fnends and experiences. __#3906 "^ ^ ^jj, #39E^±J. L BiM(tH4^)loradvcmurou&fun.Racc .„^^ ,, .—z—TZ and Fordgn Films * Box Office Hits Also Available Attractive F ISO F who loves Mary mcni. Musi bc disease free and scri- WM awks WM Ibr fantasy, feet and M 45, 155 5'6". very stender. unimportant. #171 WM 30, loves to bc dominated by ofany ap: or race. #275 IidcaiSnft. attractive GWM.25.6'2". phone conversations by F/M/C Very MBiWM, sadHniasivc. desires J Biy. #2405 ous. N/s. need noe apply. #101 more. #3112 to 175 lis.. hClthy. discira.-smooth ^L'^^'j^i^lJISr^^^^ ^^^^^t"cXj!^^^ bpen mimted. d A d free. #S5tf ^cM'F/Cs.Uthimcte«,upw^n * Area's Laigest Selecrion of Male Rims SWF.MondMMc, seeking F(25-35} .Attractive BiWFMVking BiWC/F/ MBtWManldi^BtCJSM/Fforfan' * Open 7 Days a Week I for interesting conversations and ful- M.Ctean.di^reet.dAd free. n/s. tasyfun.fricndshipandge.togedteri:gethers . SS?S^e'S^^S'''^*^*'"«iu ^'^^^'^^}^^'^^io^Myi{s J^ 'tl^^TlTfo^m^l^'^l >«r^«.«**:W?.?.^:^12^ ^fini^^^mgri^kda;?^ filling meeting*. #1269 #4500 #2332 WM3S,gnaidiape.wckit4gTV/CD icwcihers. #122 for fun and cxciiwg Umes. #5471 D A d frc* MM, 6fr\ brown hair. Attractive, Bt, generous. BtM. mid for good time*- #33^ GoodleokiacCWM, 19.5'l(r. 170 attractive, seeks M who's attractive Yoaat BIWF tooking for same. Fse*kinfGyBiF(21-3 Dot any race. Very fub«i«iv*BiWM. 25. eager, iCs, wcks attractive younger M or MWM, Bi-cariMK, seekmg younger * Daily Spedals (As Low as $2.50 * Magazines — 3fiM:$7.99 lbs., brown/brown, athletic, energetic: and likes to stay on lopof things.#145 #305V who hkes to have good timcs.#4035 open minded, adventurous. Uim. convincing TV for fun wdfrotK- BiWM,5*t'*,lSSft&»brown/brown, c with BiM for morning, exotic cn iu..<^»r4««. wr IX »tt».-iiu«> n^ «*>" okter. dominant M (50+) for #4101 verysiraightactia|:ISO«mifarWM counicg. #105 seeks sexy GW/HM for awesome ^WM 49. 5'«*, gray hair, average jSWF early 20'i, very ctean. very per Fikn for 3-Day Rental (18-25) whtfi aenoM*. honesty mas- cWM50.blaek.'brown.5«".re*lnice limes, famasy fulfillment and mtt- build.hcaitfiy.ctean.I(ke$((ui«iiincs; I i^Tcet. tonn dark/green. Bi-curious; BIWPM 40, seeks similar for tun * Novelties ready. CHUIK:. lit. #332? mate relationship. Tall MH make him jooking for friendship, possibte reb- jscelui Bi-curious F who's very ctean and adventure. #3746 limes and excitement- #3673 guy. l$OCVBiM(undef SOjforpteas- MWM, O'O", brown/bluc. beard, hOf- #5470 ttnnsJiitionshipn. #114 and diacreet. #2406 Fua lovlag SWPF who likes mov­ Bi-curiotM MWMt 42. tccks petite ant. dayttRK get together^. Sincere Priced $19.95 or More I moustache, seeking Bi^'^:^i ^^; c",T- ^ J^ M for discreet t.mes.^st bed Ad TV/CD(18-.3O).BIand'sapiu!Un074 more. #3610 .18. !75lbs..yir.lookinf forgood forsanKforgoodtimciandwhatever. 'J^^fJiV^^T****'-**^^*^" '"^ Cariow WF,40'a, full figured, very Attractive WPC.cast side, she's pc- loofcing WM Witt place for quiet. #3969 {24-.30U5O-190Jb»^ #4711 Monday-Friday 11 :CX)-9:00, Saturday 11:00-7:00, Sunday Noon-6:00 # o • o • o I atnactivc. kind. pattcM. family on- tite and Bi-curiou*. he's tail and shm: fcffied: lovet the aita. musk, qutci scckinj; atiraciive. Bi-curious ForC Jkely arranged lbs., broii^dartt ^r^i^f^V.'t^liS'h^T^O ili«'^««»f^*«^MS?^^' cwM 37, 5%\ 160 ttoa.. breww MWMtooU.tt«ByBj^pnss and LHscover Card Aasel^ i^H? green, seeks older GM (50*) for get of any age or race, for daytime fun walks, looking for diacreet triend *'* B>F. for discrcei. fun tiflftc~ s 5ST??'"*''^***.!!!I"!?^"*IJ2^ amocih.ma.sculinc.lcanOBiM(18 #3031 and fantasy fulfillment. 10274 ship with WF(35-.V)). Must bectean. ##y WM forromancc anduKimacy.#l9_l7 25). Race unimportant, honesty is. MWM 42. disease ftec. very ctean. loycthers. Can't call 971 or B/s. n/d. OOW GWF. iovw .porta, outdoor*, quiet CMattfciagGM. #1035 #353t very good Jookiag. aeeks M of any cwM 30's, 5*7', 140 lbs., btoww BiWM 27. 5*9". ICO lbs., trown/ race, for discieet etKomnett. 02303 brown, athtetic. n/s. tooking for ath- bhic.lSOBi/CWM(l8-27)for|ood 900 Numbers? IF 20h tooking for peo^ to have fun linw^. very honest, caring and n>-BlWM,ciuaBeMslM^vcryattrac- BiWM 20. tooking for BiWM (18- with. #3002 mantk". ISO same (32-48). #4413 UvctooliiniforBiC/Mforftintimcs. 25)farioodtimcfttft.countrycxcttc- Hot CWM.3»,6y. 240Iba.. black/ tetic GWC for fun times. #3022 'jgy* **„^ friendship.- ...... ^ W2I4 NalMkacxy F with boyfriend, look­ Bl-curioMS BF, 18. attractive, me­ #1027 recm. mellow times and sharing brown, bcani. moustache, seeking sWM 24. ISO targe buiU. well built CBM 27, S'lO", 188 lbs., passive We now accept alternate mg for BiF for new experiences and dium build. ISO B/WF for new. ex­ GWM14.m2Kulinc secksG'BtWM ihouglita wiOi. #2905 otfiers for daytime or evening en- M for discreet daytime cncoumcrs looking for fit GB^M for relation fantasy futfillment. #3240 citing experiences. Must bc very dis­ flA^SxilXftiTriiS^oun- ^J^^toakiaa. straight aumg counters. You,(2(M0).Seriou^hge «H1 good times. #3246 «h.p. romanta: nights, movie*. M«, forms of payment! creci. #4357 135lbs..darkMond^ bcnr^u''ncorhomeboytype.#2l32 Allnctivt WClSOattm: live, petite ters. #I4» Biw'SsSwucTwn: liks 6Xr. tS^f^J^ _- _S»I GWM30,5'0-. BiF (25-J15) fdr friendship, powtibly P«**eBiWF,.^2.«iwi«i»eWM( I ¥- good tooking, shv. relationship ori- verydiscicct.tSOM(l8-25)forfi*n. I ikca u ride and fceopa hcf *iad iQpen Vary any, feadidrt* BiWF tooking W naiir—a.totifcim ^or same, for tong latftng fantime c #2651 25)fortamasyfiin> #1079 emcdt tookiny for same. #3451 quiet, safie cncountcrv •2094 {716)262-2200 jfor adventupt. Bi-variom wcicome for fciaioiae-BiWF for txic on one. turiet t'W!!;^ wayfac more. #946 Ckaa. aaod ItaMiM MBIM, earty •3970 tiot cncouiHcrs with. #3432 Bi cMrt—WM,42.seeking Bi^M, 4tys. I90lba.. sccks £scaac free, at GWM 22. very good toofciitt. nice YOIH«. foud toofcii^ BM. 19. 5'7'. BiM atahanc G/BiM with experi for more mformation BiWF tadta domin«H WF for rela- Bi-cttrto

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1\ ^Ol K-> ! AKS LEO: JULY 23 - AUGUST 22 priority. You rxis^waiit to examine your LOCAL cxwii iniifrt noon pi 27 Your fn^ fire heats up. Be active and loots ID see how steady they ane. PcriitfNi pixsuepkanxe. Do what you kvvc best an cxptoratfan ofyour gencJogy would Mafdb widi a mask m I BY LAURIE TwnjGaEfT and youl be hd^ppy. In rnid-June yoa icvcsd ins^g^ oo whac youVe oome Pnde Pafacie Jufy 15 June hocosoope need to pittz. ra those broken arades ficom and suggest new directions to The dnae of diis yearns Piide Rode and tsdoe cate of your home andgMEdea aqdocc isTflloeFrick/CRaraac^lhePEide ARIES: MARCH ao - APRIL ao Or at least get socne ooodae* Ttsdae bog CAPRICORN: DECEMBER 22 Facade coRxnittDe has been enoouog^ Spdpgis akwiqgtkiie fisr ;oa You aic waMcs and bieadi in ffae g^cat oubdoocs. * JANUARY 19 tfaose ofyounrfio^roidd otherwise noc kre£istideand<^engtt3iourwfly.71ravd VIRGO; AUGUST 23- Agendec|iali^is dowlyertteriqgyout rnatdi, to ocxisider fiiardiing widi a tnask oc sotnanoe aie eaoq^nndfy favoiafafe SEPIEMBER22 bdng^ You are riioving awv^ fiom mun­ this year. £:»: you now. You ate on a tdL Take Buoyant ecieqgy bursts thioq^byJune. dane involvements and enteringa moic Is it possSik: to match with a mask and your pkk of adventures. Your enetgy Odiers are envious of your efficiency and phik>so[rfi]cal period Take some time sti''take pridd''* We dMk so Our neat­ has calmed down a bit, but there is ex­ oqxciency. Get tfiose ptofects worked sdone to examine your vsdues and befie&. est cfaalenge as a oommuni^ is our invis- citement in your {dancts. our ncyx^ ^v^iife youare in the woik mode. Then write them down or communicate ibifity. Heterosadsm and homophohb TAURUS: APRIL 21 - MAY 20 Rebtionships continue to require time them to a fiiend Qarifying your ideas keep many of us in die doset ITiis alows Your fife has been like a toBer ooastci: and attention as well. Be patient with wiB enridi your life, yiddttig mote bless­ society to ^pore our concems and need Aldiou^ it does calm drrsm by June. loved ones. Slower diem widi affertinn ings in *%. for equal treatment; and aUows tfae Radi­ Surcound yourself with beauty. Rc-ar- and it win be returned. AQUARIUS: JANUARY 20 - cal R^t to lie about us unchallenged. tai^ thit^ in your home. Make sute LIBRA: SEPTEMBER 23 - FEBRUARY 18 Yet, for many ofus, there is a real fear you and odieis are oamfbttaUe there. Fbr OCTOBER 22 Something has come over you. You that bdng seen wil threaten job securi^r, those bom the last week of your s^p, Be more dedsive. Take a stand Your have left the tanks of the Gonvoitional fiunily rdations, etc. take time to {dan a positive tna^ change no-atgue stance n^ have oost you. Too and are entoit^ your own teafity. Maybe It^s time to tum tfaat fearo f discrimina­ GEMINI: MAY 21 -JUNE 20 many compromises leave you angry at it's )^xir eccentric hobbies that have tal^ tion around Mardl wearir^ a mask Catty You are at the peak of activity tfais yoursdf Chat^ that situation b^ deady over. Or petheqis your unusual array of a s^ diat makes it dear thar we are ev- ^xing. Your mind and your moudi are oonrinuirucatit^ your dedres first before fiiends has persuaded you to join some erywhste fTm aTeadieif' *Tm Your Ixjth movitig really fest Ptaiiaps thinkirig any comptomises have talcen pJace. After offbeat activity. Don't firt, it was only Ne^iborf' are two examples of s^^) it tfarou^ before speaking would be aD, your passion for justicse needs to in- a passing fancy. and that our scri^gfe is an anti-discdmi­ best Bc careful when traveling until dvide yourself. PISCES: FEBRUARY 19 - nation struggle mid-June. You may be missing some SCORPIO: OCTOBER 22 - MARCH 20 Tfae Pnde Parade committee is hoping details you wish you'd caught NOVEMBER 22 Bring order to your lifc. One of tfae re­ for an even larger turnout than at last CANCER: JUNE 21-JULY 22 Your sensuality oozes out of every jxxe. sults couU be sharirg your work or in- year's parade. We stioi^'encourage ev­ In your quiet observations you are Venus will continue diis sensate journey, s^hts with the wotki You have accom­ eryone to askrxxvgay, non-lesl^an, and g^shmi^ a great de^ of infixniation. You enterir^ your rdaticxiship arena. You are plished mudi mote than you g^e your­ non-bisexual allies to march witfa us. stone and tfaen remember what you have a hot date. So find one if your interest sdf credit for.Other s are waitir^ foryou r Many of us have femily, ftiends, arxl co- learned, then put it to use later. In diis is tfaere. Youll surdy succeed. wisdom. Know tfaat you have come into workets who are supporters. Let's tum WE^ you are a gteat resource amidst tfae SAGriTARIUS: NOVEMBER your power. Now tali diarge of your Bfe. tfais from a 'Sve are all gay" march to a turmoil around you. Injune you may 23-DECEMBER 21 Lattrie TwiUght has a masters in psychol­ *Swe are all herc to ^Jit ^anst discrimina­ be tempted to jump into the chaos. For tfae next year and a half you need ogy whid) she cotttbittes mth as/toiqgf togtte tion of lesbians, gays and bisexuals" Stay away from perfectionist attitudes. to establish a sense of order arid solidit}' itts^ ott ^ptt^xseatfd other qttes/htts Cott- march. Share only your compassion. in your home. Emotional security is a iaaherat 383-2199forjitrtherittfotviatiott. For information call us at 244-8640.

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I\ ^Ol K ^ ! \R^ LEO: JULY 23 - AUGUST 22 piioriQr. You rxK^ want to examine your LOCAL ooptiimpd ftom p. 27 Your feiB^ fire heats ifx Be active atti toots ID see how steady tfaey are. Peifam Match ^diamaskm BY LAURIE TwDJGHT puesueplca8ixe.Doi)rfMtyoukyvcfaest an rxplnratinn of jrourgenodogy would and you's be happy. In mid-June you fcvcsd insig^ on whor youV e oome need to pittz. Fa those brofasi artides fiom and suggest new directions to Pdde Paiade Jufy 15 Jime horoscope and taioe cate of your home andgMtdea The dieme of this yearns Mde Pande ARIESc MARCH 2D-APRIL 20 Oratkflscget8aaieaBevcise.TaiDekx« CAPRICORN: DECEMBER 22 isT^dgeRidev^Ocafcaiaif^lliel^ Spritigisatovkig time far yoa You aee widaandfaieadtindiefipBaeoukloois. -JANUARY 19 Rttadc

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IX ^ ()i K - ] \!M**««w«.ww« TRIANGLE TALK The Lending Library offers the community free ilHiiiiiii^ :E Triangle Talk, which began in Januaxy of '95, is access to books in such diverse areas as history, the result of a collaborative effort with Borders sexuality, psychology, travel, literature, emd pulp Books & Music to present an Informal monthly classics. The library also Includes a number of layour discussion series on books that are relevant to the national magazines and newspapers such as the liililillillllil^^ aeeds. gay, lesbian and bl community. The first Triangle Advocate, Out TenPercent The WashingtonBtade, r finn. Talk drew nearty 150 people to Borders' Expresso and Outlines. This year new shelving was added to Bar and subsequent discussions have drawn ap­ the libraiy and we received a large number of p.w».*>»**»o**w»»**wwiWww.i ii..wn 11 n 11 > w 11 WT¥ proximately 50 people to each event. donations bringing the total number of books in our collection to over 1500.

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IN > Ol K >- j \R^ USO: JULY 23 - AUGUST 22 pnod^. You rnay watit to cxainirie your LOCAL* oontniued fiom pi 27 Your feisQr fine heats up. Be active and toots to see how Steady tfaey are Pemsms pursue plcasute. Do what you kwe best an csqakxatkn of your gcneibgy woiid Maich with a mask m t BY LAURIE TwiUGHTT | and vouH be hifjpy. In rxud-June you tcvctf insij^tts on whete youVe oome Pride Facade July 15 rieed to pucz. HSE those brcdom articles fiom and siiggcst new diirctions ID June horoscope IHe dieme of this yearns Ptide Paiade t isTdocRki^/XjBeafcaMgfc^lltt ABIES: MARCH 20-APRIL 20 Qr at least get aome eicrdse. Take kx^ CAPRIGORN: DECEMBER 22 Parade omiMmttPe has bcaen cnrouragyng t Spitigisalovicig time foryoa You aic waBcs and bccaifa in tfae gpcat ouedoocs. -JANUARY 19 tfaose ofyo u who woiid otherwise not inesistifale and ofimger your ws^. Ttsvd VIRGO: AUGUST 23- msKcfay to consider macdnr^ widi a mask t or comanoc are exoeptkmly fim3^^ $EFrEMBER22 tfais year. for you now. You ate on a rdL Take Buoyant enogjr bursts ditoqg^fayjune. dane mvolvemenis and cncedr^ a more Is it possflile to mardl witfa a mask and t your pick of adventures. Your energy Otfaers are errvious of ^xr efficiency and ph9k>sophical period Take some time stl'^t^gepude?'Wedwiksa Our^eat- has calmed down a Wt, but there is ex­ abne to ex»nitie your vabes sttid bdie& est dialexige as a community is ou: invis- t dtement in your pkinets. out now \(4iile );ou're in tfae wotk mode. Ihen write them down or communicate ibifi^. Heterosexism and homophobia t TAURUS: APRIL 21. MAY 20 Rdationships continue to require time tfaem to a fisend Clarifying your ideas keep rnary of lis in the doset lliis aOows Your life has been like a roBer coaster. and attention as wdL Be patient with wiB entich your life, yiek&ig more bless­ society to ^poce our concems and need t Althou^ it does calm down by June, lovod ones. Shower tfaem witfa afiection ings in "96. for e4^ treatment; and alows the Radi­ Surround yoursdf with beauty. Re-ar- and it win be returned. AQUARIUS: JANUARY 20 - cal R^t to Ke about us unchallenged. t rarige thit^ in ycxir hotne. Make sure LIBRA: SEPTEMBER 23- FEBRUARY 18 Yet, for many ofus, dicre is a real fear you arid otheis are QXTifiDrtable there. For OCTOBER 22 Something has come over you. You tfaat beif^ seen wffl tfareaten job security, t diose bom the last week ofyour sign, Be more decisive. Take a statid Your have left tfae tanks of the conventional fiimily rdatiotis, etc. take time to {dan a positive msqor ch^ge; rKMu^me stance ma^ luve cost you. Too atid are enteiit^ your own teali^. Mybe It's time to tum that fearo f discrimina- t GEMINI: MAY 21. JUNE 20 many compromises leave you ar^;ry at i^s your oocentoc hobbies that have taken tksn around Mardl wealing a mask. Carry You are at the peak of activity this yoursdIE Qhouige that atuatkin by cieatfy over. Or peih£^ your unusual arr^ of a s^ tfaat makes it dear tfaat we are ev­ qirir^. Your mind and your moutfa are coinrnutiicatit^ your desites first befbre ftiends has persuaded you to join some erywhere CTm aTeadierf' 'Tm Your t b^tfa rnovir^ reaBy fest Perhaps thifiking atiy cornprornises have taken {:Jaoe. After offbeat activity. Don't fret, it was only Nc^iborf' are two exan^ples of ^;ns) it through before speaking would be aO, your passion for justice needs to in­ a passing fancy. and that our stn^g^ is an anti-discrimi­ t best Be careful ^s^ien traveling until dude yourself. PISCES: FEBRUARY 19 - nation struggle. t mid-June, You may be missing somie SCORPIO: OCTOBER 22 - MARCH 20 The Pride Parade committee is hoping details you wish you'd caught NOVEMBER 22 Bring order to your Hfe. One of die re­ for an even latger turnout than at last t CANCER: JUNE 21 -JULY 22 Your sensuality oozes out of every pore. sults couid be shatir^ your work or in- yearns parade. We strongly encoun^ ev­ In your quiet observations you are Venus win continue this sensate joumey, ^hts with the wodd You liave aocom- eryone to ask non-gay, non-fcsbian, arKl t g^tfaeni^ a gteat deal of infotmation. You entering your rdatioosh^ arena. You are plidied mudi more than yoa give your­ non-bisexual allies to march widi us. store and then remember what you have a hot date. So find one if your interest self credit for. Otfaers are waitii^ for your Many of us have fiimil^', fiiends, and co­ learned, then put it to use later. In diis is there. YouTl surdy succeed. wisdom. Know that you have come inco workers who are supporters. Let's tum wsy you are a great tesource amidst the SAGriTARIUS: NOVEMBER your power. Now tate diarge of your Hfe. this from a "we are all gay" march to a turmoil around you. Injune you may 23-DECEMBER 21 Lattrie Twilight has a masters ittpychd- ^Sve are aD here to ^^ s^^inst discrimina­ be tempted to jump into die chaos. Fbr the next year and a half you need qg^ which she cotttinties mth a^roh^ togve rion of lesbians, gays and bisexuals" Stay away feom perfectionist atdtudes. to establish a sense of order arid solidity itts^ ott ^Jmtpose artd other ^tesSwtts. Cott- march- ^lare only your con^>assion. in your home. Emotional security is a Saa hera 383-2199forfitnherittjbrmaiiott. For infomiation call us at 244-8640.

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