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I Love Thee to the Depth, Breadth and Height My Soul Can Reach WHAT’S INSIDE ew things are as beautiful, or as moving as a , where a man and a woman pledge ■ Unique Filipino Traditions Make More Meaningful S2 their eternal love for each other. It is a day they ■ Celebrating Weddings, The American Way S4 F will remember for the rest of their lives. ■ Love Is Worth It! S5 For couples, June has always been the most ■ Here Comes the S6 popular month of the year for weddings—hence ■ Bridal Showers and Other Wedding Festivities S7 the term “June .” For -to-be looking for ■ Casablanca Bridal & Formals: Reaching the Pinnacle of Success S8 helpful advice and information on planning for ■ Timeless Advice For Making Last S9 their big day, look no further than our special Wed- ■ Bridal Gowns Fashion Collections for 2015 S10 ding & Bridal Supplement. May you have an ab- ■ Wedding Pulse S11 solutely perfect wedding day and fulfilling ■ Before And After the Wedding: Preparation Helps..... S12 marriage! ■ The Perfect / Wedding Traditions From Around the World S13 ■ Bridal Beauty 101 S15 ►COVER STORY, S2 S2  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT COVER STORY WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 Unique Filipino Traditions Make Weddings More Meaningful By Edna Bautista, Ed.D., C.W.S. s engaged couples begin their future together, many are hon- oring the past by incorporating cultural customs in their weddings. While Western ways are the norm nowadays, A adding some Filipino traditions would make the marriage celebration more meaningful and memorable.

Invitations candle, arrhae (13 coins), nickname, Perlas ng Silan- The is cord and veil (read more ganan, or Pearls of the Ori- the official document that about kasalan customs in ent Seas). announces when and where later paragraphs). Tuxedos and are the couple is planning to Choosing whom to in- classic attire for grooms and marry. The design also indi- clude as principal and sec- the male members of the cates the color scheme, ondary sponsors may be entourage. But in tropical theme and style of the motivated by socio-econom- weather, they can keep event. ics, as some couples seek cooler by wearing a barong Because Filipinos are to elevate their status in the tagalog, a thin and transpar- very family-oriented, the community by being associ- ent, delicately woven shirt names of the couple’s ni- ated with successful people. with intricate embroidery, nongs and ninangs (godpar- Parental pressure in picking sometimes made from jusi ents/sponsors) are included the participants ensures that (pineapple fiber). with those of the parents, family friendships are main- , groomsmen, tained. Flowers symbolizes Jesus Christ, The veil ceremony sym- flower girls, ring/coin/bible The Philippines’ national the Light of the World, and bolizes humility and that the bearers, officiant, etc., mak- Wedding Wear flower, sampaguita (or His presence in their mar- groom promises to protect ing the stationery ensemble A gown is pikake in Hawaiian), is a riage. The candle sponsors his bride and that God a very informative listing of standard, but a cream-col- natural choice for Filipino (sometimes the couple’s promises to help them “who’s who” in the entire en- ored terno with its notable weddings. With its intoxicat- parents, if not a ninong/ni- shoulder any burdens the tourage. butterfly-style sleeves is a ing fragrance, the bud and nang or family representa- couple may have in their traditional alternative. Fash- blooms of the white jasmine tive), light the bride and marriage. The veil sponsors, Entourage ionable Filipiñana brides can be made into beautiful groom’s candles. Then the who help clothe the couple Several sets of ninongs may also wear a Maria bouquets, boutonnieres, couple takes the respective as one, drape a veil on the and ninangs are chosen as Clara with panuelo or corsages and local-style leis candles and lights a larger, shoulders of the groom and marriage role models for the alampay (shawls) or ki- (neck garlands) and haku third middle candle as a on the bride’s head. couple, while others are se- mona. Appropriate acces- (head wreaths). sign of unity. Three can- The yugal (nuptial cord) lected to sponsor ceremo- sories include pearls (from Other favorite flowers in- dles, like the Holy Trinity, ceremony symbolizes the nial symbols, such as the the Philippines’ national clude rosal (gardenia), are a reminder that “mar- bride and groom “tying the camia (ginger) and azahar riage takes three” to be knot.” The cord sponsors, (orange blossoms). complete—bride, groom who help bind the couple to- The rose continues to be and God. gether forever, place the popular as well. Some Filip- The coin ceremony loops of the cord (silken ina Catholic brides present symbolizes the sharing of lasso, strands of flowers or an extra bouquet to the all thy worldly goods for special rosary) over the cou- statue of the Blessed Virgin richer or poorer between ple’s heads. The loops are Mary, also titled as Rosa husband and wife. The coin tied in a figure eight, which Mystica (Mystical Rose), sponsors, who carry the is also the mathematical with the hope that they couple’s treasure, present sign for infinity. could follow her example of the officiant with arrhae (a being a virtuous wife and word derived from the Transportation good mother. Spanish word arras, mean- With a caravan of cars ing “earnest money”). The transporting the entourage, Kasalan Customs officiant blesses the 13 the ride off after Spanish colonization coins (the number repre- the ceremony to the recep- has influenced the Filipino senting Jesus Christ and tion in limousines or luxury faith and culture, and some His apostles) and trickles vehicles with horns loudly of the kasalan (wedding) them into the groom’s beeping for joy, the sounds customs are manifested in cupped hands and in turn reminiscent of the noisy various rituals during a trickles them into his bride’s jeepneys in the Philippines. Catholic-Christian cere- cupped hands. The coins A simpler yet romantic mony. are saved later as a me- wedding transportation is a The candle ceremony mento of the occasion. (continued on page S3) SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S3 COVER STORY WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014

FILIPINO... (from page S2) it is a staple (“may the new or dollar dance. Guests may kalesa or caromata (horse- family unit never go hun- opt to donate a little extra drawn carriage) for the “king gry”) and is also considered cash to help the couple de- and queen of the day”. a symbol of fertility because fray honeymoon costs or the crop produces many build their savings account. Handaan grains. When they come forward to Handaan (wedding re- pin the bills on the newly- ception) is the finest fiesta in “Mabuhay” TOAST weds’ attire, it gives the honor of the newlyweds. Le- During handaan, a toast guests an opportunity to chon (roast pig) is tradition- is given in honor of the greet the couple in person ally included in the buffet, newlyweds. Champagne and offer their personal con- along with other favorite Fil- and wine are popular gratulations once more. ipino foods (lumpia, adobo, drinks, but lambanóg (co- word “Mabuhay!” is an all- fully symbolic lovebirds’ For this reason, the Fil- seafood, fresh fruit and veg- conut liquor) or tuba (fer- purpose greeting; the num- flight toward heaven is a ipino is a very etables). mented palm juice) can ber three, again, is a sacred lucky omen. popular custom and other Some reception venues give guests a spirited taste number representing the ethnic groups in Hawaii have strict policies about of the Philippines. Holy Trinity. Dancing have adapted and incorpo- bringing in additional menu Multilingual toasts (Eng- Dancing provides a rated it in their weddings as items, so check whether lish and in the families’ ver- Favors and Love Birds form of entertainment dur- well. they allow at least some nacular) may be proposed Capiz (pearlized, flat ing the reception. Guests specialty desserts as a sup- and led by the best man, fa- shells) favors are distinctive always enjoy watching tra- Heritage Honeymoon plement to the wedding thers of the newlyweds or mementos at Filipino wed- ditional folk dances, such The newlyweds could cake (a symbol of the sweet ninongs. ding receptions, again as the tinikling (bamboo consider going on a her- life of marriage). A popular and participa- showcasing the craftsman- dance), salakot and subli itage honeymoon to the If extra sweets can be tive tradition entails the ship from the Pearl of the (hat dances), sakuting Philippines to relax with rel- served, offer guests leche leader raising his glass and Orient Seas. (stick dance), binasuan atives who were unable to flan (custard), ube (purple shouting “Mabuhay!” three Another unique Filipino (balancing candle act) or attend the wedding in yam) or coconut-flavored times. Everyone responds wedding tradition is the re- other tribal-inspired per- Hawaii, take tours to his- rice cakes (bibingka, “Mabuhay!” each time, then leasing of two white doves formances. toric and vacation sites or suman, puto, etc.). Rice toasts each other and (a male and female pair) by The newlyweds them- simply rediscover their represents prosperity since drinks their beverages. The the newlyweds. The peace- selves might do the money roots. LIFESTYLE motifs). the “Send Us Your Wish” 1,001 Wedding Ideas at the All online pre-registrants module of their wedding web- to the PWS are automatically site. They may also upload Philippine Wedding Summit issued a wedding website with photos of the members of their Facebook integration, which entourage to the “Our En- Jewelry offers discounts on they can customize to contain tourage” page to help break wedding and their very own albums of pho- the ice among them even be- rings on top of raffle prizes tos, videos, and blog. fore the wedding date. worth more than P150,000. Soon-to-weds can accept The free admission ticket Free career enhancement Say I do: There are well wishes and greetings to PWS can be downloaded seminars will be held for wed- over 300 exhibitors from their family and friends from a registrant’s wedding at the Philippine ding suppliers. Speakers in- Wedding Summit, on- from all over world through website. (www.philstar.com) going until June 29, clude Rita Neri (wedding at the ground floor, planning); Henry Pascual SMX Mall of Asia. (event styling); Mary Kay ex- pert (corporate image and skin care); and Chinkee Tan (fi- ANILA, Philip- sical art cake? Must the bou- nancial success planning). pines - Themes quet be made of the traditional Every P1,000 booked dur- & Motifs brings fresh roses or calla lilies? How ing the Philippine Wedding together wed- about the novel idea of succu- Summit entitles one to a raffle M ding profession- lents for a bouquet. coupon for a honeymoon trip als not only More than 300 exhibitors to Boracay. All non-winning from the Philippines, but also will satisfy every whim and entries will automatically from the US, Malaysia, In- fancy of the bride-and-groom qualify for the grand draw of donesia, Dubai and Australia to be, their parents and anyone the Paris & Diamonds Promo at the 9th Philippine Wedding else who has a say in the wed- to be held at the 25th Grand Summit (PWS) ongoing until ding. Celebration of Wedding Expo June 29 at the ground floor, Highlights this year are Philippines in September. SMX, Mall of Asia. food-tasting event presented Hourly raffle prizes donated At the PWS, 1,001 ideas by Hizon’s Catering with its by exhibitors will also be for planning weddings are of- new culinary experts concoct- given away throughout the fered. Should the bride’s gown ing wedding menus. Smart event with the announcement be white or ecru? Will it be a Shot Studio offers special bun- of winners to be done via white fondant cake with dainty dled rates for photo and video Twitter (#themesandmotifs) gumpaste flowers or a whim- packages, while Goldenhills and Facebook (/themesand- S4  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE FILIPINOS... (from page S2) FEATURE WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014

Besides the bride and Celebrating Weddings, groom, the wedding party in a traditional U.S. wedding in- time when it was more com- cludes: The American Way mon for marriages to be • The Best Man—usually arranged by families. the best or closest male By Teresita Bernales, Ed.D. Until recently, there was friend or a relative of the very little romance involved groom is given this place merican wed- with weddings which were of honor. dings are as di- usually business contracts be- • Maid of honor —usually verse as the tween the bride’s father and the the best or closest female couples who family of the groom. The bride friend of the bride is given A come together to and groom had very little to this place of honor. If mar- forever share say. Women were considered ried, she is called a “ma- their lives. Most traditional their fathers’ property and tron of honor.” American weddings take place would be “given away” by • Groomsmen—one or more in churches with family and White bread that was broken over the their fathers to the groom’s males who support the friends who join in the joyous In the U.S., the traditional bride’s head. Guests would family during the wedding cer- groom. occasion. Other couples opt to custom of the bride wearing a then scramble for the crumbs emony. • Bridesmaids—one or more hold their wedding ceremony white-colored dress began due to superstitious beliefs Because it would be em- females who support the on a beach or in a garden. during the Victorian era when about good luck for those for- barrassing if the groom backed bride. Most U.S. wedding tradi- Queen Victoria broke conven- tunate enough to bring home out before the ceremony if he • —a young girl tionally follow the “white wed- tion and wore a white wedding the crumbs which were then didn’t like what he saw, the pair who will scatter flowers in dings” type which originates dress for her royal wedding. placed under one’s pillow to was kept separate. Today, cou- front of the bridal party. from the white color of the Prior to that, white was con- enhance fertility. ples interpret this tradition in • Ringbearer—usually a bride's wedding dress, but sidered inappropriate for a Saving a portion of the their own way—some honor it, young boy, who carries the refers to an entire wedding rou- royal wedding but the queen’s is an old tradi- while others prefer to shake off wedding rings. tine. Listed below are common dress popularized white wed- tion that some U.S. couples still their pre-ceremony nerves to- • Ushers—usually males, wedding traditions and cus- ding gowns and the tradition practice. Couples freeze the top gether. Besides, it’s also a good who help with the seating toms in the U.S. caught on. portion of their wedding cake time to take photos. and organization. Brides back then wore the and thaw it out on their first an- • Junior Bridesmaids—a June Brides best clothes they had or would niversary to share with one an- Invitations and Gifts young girl (usually be- In 2012, there were more buy the most expensive new other. Invitations are sent to guests tween 8 and 18 years old) than 2.1 million weddings in the clothes they could afford. After usually several months before who the bride wants to be U.S. Of that amount, 17 percent Victoria’s wedding, gold Old, New, Borrowed, Blue the wedding. Receiving an invi- in the ceremony, but is too were held in June, making it the or gold threaded “Something old, something tation does not impose obliga- old to be a flower girl. most popular month of the year dresses also became popular new, something borrowed, tions on the invitee other than for couples to tie the knot. The with the royals while other something blue ... and a silver promptly accepting or declining When guests arrive, they month of June is named after brides would wear white or sixpence in your shoe.” the invitation, and offering con- are greeted by ushers who will Juno, the Roman goddess of also pastel dresses that usually This Victorian rhyme lists gratulations to the couple. seat them. Usually the family marriage and childbirth. The reflected their social status. traditions that are thought to The purpose of inviting and friends of the bride will sit Romans believed that Juno The color white was in- bring good luck to the bride. guests is to have them witness on one side of the church and would bring prosperity and hap- tended to symbolize purity and No one is really sure when the a couple’s marriage ceremony the family and friends of the piness to all who were wedded a white face veil was worn with custom started but it has sur- and vows. Gifts for the wed- groom on the other. in her month. the dress to symbolize virgin- vived the centuries and cou- ding couple are optional, al- The bride and her en- In ancient times, it was ity. Following strict “White p l e s t o d a y a r e s t i l l though most guests give at tourage will arrive at the practical for brides to marry in Wedding” tradition, a white incorporating this custom into least some small gift as a ges- church in elegant cars, limos, June, since they would most dress and veil are not worn for their weddings. ture of appreciation for being or even sometimes horse- likely give birth to their first the second or third wedding “Something old” represents invited and good wishes for drawn carriages hired for the children in spring, which gave after becoming a widow or a guests at the ceremony who are the newlyweds. Wedding gifts ceremony. The bridal en- them enough time to physically divorcee. already married, while “some- are typically not brought to tourage typically consists of the recover before the fall harvest. thing new” represents the new- ceremonies or receptions, and bride and her father, all the var- It also meant that children born Wedding Cake lyweds and the beginning of any that are will not be ious bridesmaids, the maids of in spring would have an in- A gorgeous wedding cake their new life together. “Some- opened, but rather placed honor and the flower girls and creased chance of surviving the is often the centerpiece of a thing borrowed” is usually an aside for later delivery to the page boys that are to attend her. long and often lean winter wedding and is usually situated item borrowed from a happily newlyweds’ home. The typical processional months. in a place of honor. The wed- married wife such as her veil or Nowadays, a couple often order goes like this: For Christians, June is also ding cake is not just dessert to her mother’s own wedding registers for gifts at a favorite • The ushers and/or grooms- the end of Lent and the arrival be served to guests during the dress. The “something blue” store well in advance of their men first escort the grand- of warmer weather. It signaled reception. The cake is cut to- represents love and fidelity. And wedding, allowing them to cre- parents of the bride and a time to remove winter cloth- gether by the couple who then a “silver sixpence in your shoe” ate a list of household items, groom and seat them. ing and partake in one’s annual exchanges bites. This is con- is usually a silver coin tucked usually including china, silver- • The ushers and/or grooms- bath. During the 1400s and sidered the first act that the into her wedding slipper. ware, linens or other fabrics, men then escort the mother 1500s, June was considered the couple does together as hus- small appliances and similar of groom and the mother of time to come outdoors after a band and wife. No Peeking gifts. Registries are also meant the bride and seat them. long winter and bath commu- Wedding cakes are also The superstitious belief to help guests select gifts for • Next, the bridesmaids nally. Marrying when one was usually white to symbolize pu- that it’s bad luck for the groom the newlyweds. enter, being escorted by the clean was considered a sign of rity. In ancient Rome, the typi- to see his bride before the wed- groomsmen. a good beginning. cal wedding cake was a loaf of ding can be traced back to the The Big Day (continued on page S15) SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S5 POINT OF VIEW WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014

Skype. It was one of the toughest but most exciting LOVE IS WORTH IT! seasons in our lives. And the wedding day By Seneca Moraleda-Puguan beach dress made in Divisoria came, it was not perfect but it and we picked out cheap but was everything we wanted. room: lasting rings made of titanium There were so many glitches, A s S e n e c a carbide. We didn't even hire some of what we planned did- walked down the wedding coordinators but in- n’t transpire but they didn’t aisle, tears rolled stead took advantage of our matter. What mattered was we G down my face. I gifted friends. What carried said “I do” before a minister couldn't believe that me through the tough and and it was witnessed by our the woman I've prayed for and stressful season of planning closest family and friends. And pursued with all my heart and was the encouragement of most importantly, the Author of strength is marrying me. On the girlfriends, especially the mar- our love story graced the event 12th of February, 2014, the one ried ones. They shared their with His presence. It was glo- who captured my heart even notes and precious experi- rious! before I saw her face became ences with me, and they Truly, love is worth wait- my wife. The day she bore my prayed for me. The prayers of ing for. name was one of the happiest friends and family were truly days in my life. With all our effective. We made it through! Husband and Wife: family and friends there, the The wedding planning was fell when I saw my teary-eyed Our wedding was our first We have now been happily weather so fine, the beach so difficult but what I’ve braved groom eagerly waiting for me project together as a couple. married for four months. We serene and the sunset so beau- just to have her was tougher. at the end of the aisle. Finally, We had a lot of arguments and are still in our honeymoon tiful...it was such a perfect day! Winning her heart was not the day every girl dreams had misunderstandings because of stage and still learning about However, what led to that easy. I endured one rejection arrived. After waiting patiently differences in preferences. marriage. All we know is that perfect day was everything but after another. Despite what she for 28 years, I was about to Most of the times, they were it’s more than just a union be- perfect. Our six months of had put me through, I didn’t marry John Marc, the man I very simple like the texture tween two people. It is a re- preparation and planning tested give up because I saw her love. and color of the sand in the flection of a greater love—the the strength of our relationship. value. She is a precious gem But the man I exchanged wedding venue or the design love of the Father for His chil- It was a season of sleepless worth having and a princess vows with was someone I of my wedding dress. But at dren, the love of the Bride- nights, tear-jerking moments like no other. She was no su- never imagined I would spend the end of the day, we re- groom for His bride. and prayer-filled days. I knew permodel but her simplicity, forever with. I didn’t like him, minded ourselves what mar- Understanding that He showed that it was the right time to perfect smile and beautiful not even had a crush on him. riage is all about and how His love by laying down his marry her but I didn't know heart let her shine brightly. He wasn’t my type and I valuable we are to each other. life for us, we are learning each where to get all the money I knew that the reward far thought he would never be. We may have different opin- day to lay down our lives for from. I was able to save some outweighed the hardships I had I’ve always wanted someone ions but we chose to compro- each other as husband and money I got from a scholarship to overcome. True enough, who looked like an actor or a mise and put the other person wife. Our love story reminds grant but not enough to cover every time I look at her, my model and JM was very simple above oneself. In the end, he us how faithful our Father is. all the expenses. And I was heart would say “it was worth and geeky. I gave him three got the sand color he wanted He is really good. Just as He just, and still am, a PhD scholar it!...She is worth it!.’ Waking firm “NOs” during our and I got the wedding dress made our love story worth and she was then a student at a up at the sight of her and retir- courtship. Amazingly, after design I liked. We always telling, He will make yours missions school preparing to ing at night with her in my more than three years of per- prayed over every detail of the too. become a missionary. And arms for four months now and sistent pursuit, he captured my wedding and encouraged each Because you see, love is what made things more chal- for the rest of my life is truly a entire heart. His godly charac- other every time we met on worth it! lenging was I was staying in glorious reward! ter and pure heart won me over. Korea and she was in the Indeed, love is worth fight- He made me realize what really Philippines. Skype and Face- ing for! mattered—the heart. book became our best friends. After two years of being in But I had faith that God would Bride: a long-distance relationship, on provide. As I marched down the the 12th of August, 2013, he It was hard for me to see aisle on the sandy beach of boldly proposed and I whole- my bride doing all the ground- Laiya, Batangas wearing a sim- heartedly said “yes.” I was ex- work. It would have been much ple beach dress and holding a cited but anxious at the same better if I was with her when bouquet of blue and green time because I’d be the one to she tried on her gown and went flowers with the song “Turning take care of all the planning shopping in Divisoria for all Pages” playing in the back- since he was away. In prepar- the decorations in the venue, ground, I could hear my heart ing for my own wedding, I but I couldn’t. As hard as it beat and feel the gentle breeze wanted it to be perfect but I was, I continued to encourage touch my skin. It was so sur- wasn’t an organized person. and help her the best I could in real…it seemed like I was With the help of amazing and organizing the details of the floating. From afar, I saw my generous friends, we survived. wedding. It was tough but I had teary-eyed father and my anx- We first decided what to prior- my eyes set on the day when ious but smiling mother. My itize which included venue she would become mine. I en- family and close friends were and food; and photography dured the homesickness, the expectantly waiting for me. and videography. We invested doubts of not having enough, Some of them were smiling much in these and allotted lit- and late night Skype dates even while some were in tears. But tle on minor details. Unlike after a long day in the lab. my eyes brightened and tears other brides, I chose a simple S6  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT CAREER PROFILE WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 Here Comes the Wedding Planner: Consider a Career as a Professional in the Bridal Business By Edna Bautista, Ed.D., C.W.S. bachelor/bachelorette par- ties, rehearsal dinners and he Wedding dings annually by U.S. couples, other nuptial-related get- Planner,” the according to a Maui’d Forever togethers 2001 movie study (data from Japan and • Directing the rehearsal starring Jen- other countries are excluded). • Overseeing the decorations “T nifer Lopez, un- The Bureau of Labor Sta- and set-up at the ceremony d o u b t e d l y tistics also indicates a steady and reception popularized the profession, growth for this profession. • Coordinating the day-of glamorizing it as a real, viable With so many people getting events according to the career option. married, there will always be a timeline Traditionally, it has been need for someone to plan their • Dealing with wedding ding vendors operate and inter- available to them so I started the bride’s family, specifically wedding. crashers and disorderly connect. my own wedding planning her mother, who planned the guests Mona Hirata of Neu Events company.” wedding. Royal and rich fami- What Wedding Planners Do • Collecting payments for (http://www.neuevents.com), lies hired extra help in organiz- Wedding planners work on vendors formerly of Weddings by Grace Certification Adds Credibility ing the big social event, and the behalf of the couple to make • Ensuring that no damage is and Mona, got her start spear- While experience and role of the wedding planner their wedding ideas a reality. done to the venues after the heading the catering department skills are important qualities of was only associated with the The bride and groom chooses wedding of a Waikiki boutique hotel be- a wedding planner, certification wealthy. Couples considering a how much—or how little— • Delivering the couple’s fore transitioning to a job as a does add credibility to his/her destination wedding to Hawaii they would like to be involved gifts to a designated resi- wedding planner. resume because it shows that and elsewhere must rely on a in the entire process, leaving dence She said, “Working in a he/she had formal training in local expert to handle arrange- the wedding planner to take • Arranging the honeymoon hotel catering department was topics, such as business prac- ments of their special day care of the rest of the responsi- plans where I gained much of my ini- tices, contracts, marketing, abroad. bilities. These duties include • Solving problems to mini- tial hands-on, professional ex- budgeting, time management, Now, a wedding planner* but are not limited to: mize the couple’s stress perience with weddings. vendor relations, etiquette and is no longer a luxury but re- • Setting up a budget and • Following up on photo al- Collaborating with the execu- wedding traditions and trends. garded as a necessity, espe- timetable bums and videos, thank- tive chef on menu planning for Tuition varies, depending cially for busy brides and • Designing and carrying out you notes, gown clients, marketing the hotel at on the certifying and accredit- grooms. the theme, color schemes dry-cleaning/preservation, bridal expos and with the hotel’s ing organization. “Most [couples] don't real- and style etc. public relations agency, work- In 2009, Kapiolani Com- ize how much they need a wed- • Suggesting ideas for fa- • Keeping the couple updat- ing with couples and vendors in munity College (KCC) was the ding planner until their vors, decorations, tradi- edthroughout the entire preparation for weddings at the first in Hawaii to offer a wed- wedding day. And by then it's tions and trends planning process hotel and executing the wed- ding planning certification pro- too late,” said Keri Shepherd, • Visiting/booking venues dings on-site served as the foun- gram on campus through author of “Hawaii Weddings within the budget and size For additional information dation of my know-how with Lovegevity’s Wedding Planning Made Simple” and co-owner of of the event and specific breakdown of du- weddings. My work at the hotel Institute (http://www.wedding- The Wedding Planners • Assembling and working ties, read the following articles provided me with an under- planninginstitute.com). Hirata, (http://www.wedding-plan- with a team of vendors online. standing of the venue’s very sig- who has an MBA, served as one ners.net/). “A good wedding (florists, photographers, • “What Do Wedding Plan- nificant role in weddings, a solid the faculty members. planner can help you save videographers, caterers, ners Do?” by Nina Call- introduction into the wedding Although the course is no money on a wedding by re- DJs, transportation, etc.) a w a y industry and the very valuable longer available at KCC, Maui viewing contracts, letting you • Reviewing and negotiating (http://weddings.about.co experience of carefully tending College currently has an on- know what areas you can save contracts m/od/gettingstarted/a/wed- to couples’ needs for their very line wedding planning certifi- money and suggest the best • Assisting with invitation dingplanners.htm) special day.” cation program as part of its vendors based on your budget. wording, ordering and • “What Does a Wedding Tammy Ash Perkins of A continuing education division, If you're willing to spend tens mailing Planner Do?” by Debbie First Class Weddings E d V e n t u r e of thousands of dollars on your • Managing the guest list, Quain (http://weddings- (http://afirstclasswedding.com) (http://maui.hawaii.edu/ed- wedding, a wedding planner is RSVPs, seating charts and foraliving.com/what-does- and author of “The Best of venture/). a small investment in ensuring accommodations for out- a-wedding-planner-do) Hawaii Wedding Book: A Besides on-campus semi- your day will run smoothly of-towners Guide to Maui, Lanai and nars and online learning, self- without the bride, groom or • Acting as the couple’s con- Kauai—Top Locations, Serv- paced home-study courses are family members stressing out fidante when there are con- Breaking Into the Business ices and Resources for Your another option to earning certi- and trying to coordinate it flicts with families, friends Many wedding planners get Destination Wedding,” re- fication as a wedding planner. themselves.” and vendors their start in affiliated fields, like called, “I did video production There are several certifying or- Despite the economy, the • Helping with fashion catering, public relations event in Maui and was able to meet ganizations, but the two estab- occupational outlook is posi- choices for the wedding management, floral and crafts, and work with others in the lished and most popular ones tive for those who are consid- entourage photography/videography, party wedding business. But I was are the Association of Bridal ering a career as a professional • Reminding the couple of rentals and retail. The exposure disheartened by the services Consultants (ABC) and Wed- wedding planner, especially appointments (fittings, tast- to the bridal industry through that were being offered to cou- dings Beautiful Worldwide since Hawaii accounts for more ings, etc.) and deadlines these fields gives them the ad- ples at the time. I knew some- (WBW). than 20,000 destination wed- • Planning bridal showers, vantage of knowing how wed- thing much better could be (continued on page S14) SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S7

BRIDAL SHOWERS WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 Bridal Showers and Other Wedding Festivities

By Honey Jarque Loop ● Everyone who is invited to the shower must be invited is wedding shower, if it is a very to the wedding. a practical and small or very casual party, it is ● A thank-you note is re- attractive way acceptable to invite guests by quired , even if thanks to help a bride phone or even email. From an were expressed personally details about things you ● Don't invite people your- set up house- etiquette standpoint, there are to the shower giver during really want, but do so po- self. If there is someone A keeping. Guests really only a few things to re- the party, as well as for litely and with considera- you want to include, ask can give utilitarian things such member about a shower. gifts from people who did- tion. the hostess if it is possible as kitchen supplies, linens, The bride is usually con- n't attend the shower. ● Be a considerate honoree. and provide contact infor- cooking equipment and bath sulted before the shower about ● If bride is to receive things Remember to thank the mation. accessories to form a little nest what she really needs so that to wear, exact sizes should host of any and every spe- egg of needed items with the gifts are appropriate. be ascertained. cial event with a personal Pre-wedding parties and which to start off her new life. ● The host must provide re- note and a small gift of showers can be gay and excit- It is typically an informal af- freshments. Celebration Do's and Don'ts thanks. ing, and certainly express the fair and the objective is to so- ● The bride must open all her Do joy and happiness surrounding cialize, enjoy refreshments gifts at the party. ● Even though you are busy Don't the upcoming event. However, and watch the bride open gifts. ● Registry information shall with work and planning a ● Do not take over the plan- if there are too many parties Often there are activities or not be put out on the wedding, take the time to ning of your celebration. preceding the wedding, or par- games. These fun parties can shower invitation. If it's a enjoy these special parties Let yourself be surprised ties are closely scheduled, it be "ladies only" or co-ed themed shower, say bath, with your close friends and and delighted by what can be exhausting to everyone events. Bridesmaids might co- kitchen, linen or lingerie, families as these are the your loved ones come up concerned. If many people host, or a group of close it is okay to note color moments you will treasure. with for you. suggest parties, the wise bride friends or even work col- preference or sizes; if the ● Express your wishes re- ● Don't make demands. If may urge them to join forces. leagues might take on the re- host wishes, she can in- garding the size of each of you have a request or an A sensible program of enter- sponsibility. clude a separate note with your parties, special peo- important priority, just let taining can make this time Although it is lovely to the invitation specifying ple you would like to in- the hosts know politely and m e m o r a b l e f o r a l l . send a printed invitation to a the bridal registry. clude and any important discreetly. (www.philstar.com) S8  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT BUSINESS PROFILE WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 Casablanca Bridal & Formals: Reaching the Pinnacle of Success By Chona Montesines-Sonido

s a little girl growing up in the Philippines, Gladys Agsalud, would often dream of the perfect wedding. At A age 9, she was designing wedding garments for her dolls. Little did she know that wedding gowns would be her life’s calling.

Agsalud is the owner of entrepreneurial spirit, Agsalud early 2000s, forcing Agsalud to nearly $1 million sales annu- inspires her to give her ab- Casablanca Bridal and For- was not only studying but also close shop and relocate to Ma- ally. solute best each day and for mals, Hawaii’s premiere wed- running her own t-shirt busi- punapuna. To offset the loss Agsalud is the exclusive each client. ding salon. Located in Moiliili, ness from her college dorm from Japanese couples, she ex- representative for Pronovias, a “They’re my priority and Casablanca Bridal and Formals room. It was during this time panded her customer base by Spanish bridal-wear manufac- my work revolves around offers hundreds of formal and that she began formulating a catering to a wider market and turer and the largest in the them,” she says. “I feel informal wedding gowns that plan to open a bridal shop. more budget-conscious brides. world. This past May, she was blessed and grateful to be able reflect the latest in bridal fash- After college, Agsalud set Her gowns ranged in price awarded the “Platinum to have a job I love and be a ion trends. Prices range from out to pursue her dreams. $200 to as high as $4,000. But Dealer” and “Outstanding hands-on mom at the same $300 to well over $6,000. After numerous attempts to se- no matter the wedding gown’s Dealer” by Pronovias during time.” For Agsalud, success cure a bank loan, she decided price tag, Agsalud provided the its 50th anniversary in Agsalud brought her son started with humble begin- to use the equity in her condo- same personalized service and Barcelona, Spain. She also of- Matthew to work with her nings. She comes from a fam- minium for a small loan from attention to detail for each fers gowns from European de- when he was small. In fact, all ily of six who were raised by Hawaii National Bank. In client. It was this unparalleled signers like St. Patrick and La of her business moves were re- their grandmother Albina 1992, she opened Casablanca customer service that allowed Sposa, and carries American lated to her son’s educational Lozares. She traces her busi- Bridal and Florals, which ini- her to build a strong base of designs by Monique LHuil- and extracurricular needs. She ness savvy to her grandmother tially catered to Japanese cou- local and loyal customers. lier—a celebrity designer who wanted a “stay-at-home” feel whom she describes as a very ples and offered high-end In 2007, she moved yet uses a lot of rosettes in her cre- at her bridal salon, so she cre- good small business owner and wedding gowns from Chris- again, this time to South Bere- ations. In addition, Agsalud ated a little office for him inspired Agsalud to pursue her tian Dior, Helen Morley and tania Street where she bought a has her own fashion line fea- equipped with books, com- dreams. other designers. 5,000 square foot corner prop- turing dresses under the label puter and desk. Matthew is She attended the Univer- Business boomed during erty and converted it into a Alba, which was named in now a college sophomore sity of Hawaii-Manoa, where the 1990s as Japanese brides chic, three-story bridal salon. tribute to her late grandmother. studying on the mainland. she majored in psychology. To typically spent up to $70,000 The shop offers clients a luxu- With Hawaii’s picture per- In addition to her running gain more insight into the on weddings and $3,000 for a rious feel with crystal chande- fect weather, Agsalud’s busiest her business, Agsalud is an ac- business world, she decided to designer gown. The Japanese liers, an elegant spiral staircase months of the year are usually tive volunteer with Honolulu pursue an MBA. True to her market began to decline in the and cathedral-style windows. March through August. She Community College, the Fil- The second and third floors advises brides-to-be to start ipino Chamber of Commerce feature residential quarters, a shopping for their gown and the Oahu Filipino Com- full-size kitchen, master bath- early—at least nine months in munity Council. She often do- room and a rooftop with gor- advance. Some gowns take up nates dresses and her personal geous city views that are to three months to arrive after resources to local charity perfect for wedding photogra- ordering, while custom-made groups. phy. gowns could take as long as Agsalud also takes time to eight months. mentor UH students. She ad- Premiere Wedding Salon Agsalud says that each vises aspiring entrepreneurs to There’s no denying that wedding gown is as unique as be passionate about their Hawaii is an ideal location for the bride herself and is limited work, be willing to start small brides and grooms to say their only by her imagination. But and build their business for- “I Do’s.” In fact, Hawaii’s ultimately, the gown is less ward, remain focused and ex- wedding rate is second in the important than the emotions pect to put in many long nation with 20,000 weddings and romance associated with hours. each year—not just by local the big day. “Be positive and keep couples but also visitors. “If a bride feels beautiful, your values at heart,” she says. Casablanca Bridal and she’ll be beautiful no matter “When difficulties arise, know Florals is a key player in the what she wears,” Agsalud that there's always a workable local wedding scene, thanks to says. solution to every problem. Al- Agsalud’s commitment to cus- ways use your smarts and give tomer service and business in- Family First it the best you’ve got,” she tegrity. Her business generates For Agsalud, her family says. SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S9

MARRIAGE INSIGHTS WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 TImElESS ADvIcE For mAkINg mArrIAgES lAST By Edna Bautista, Ed.D., C.W.S. "The key is to respect each other and listen to “We live life, joke around and enjoy each each other regardless.” other's company. We are soul mates." wedding is just for a day; a marriage is RAChEl and ARIEl MARAMbA, for a lifetime! With this declaration in lEOlAnI and PITOnE lEAO, Salt lake mind, the Hawaii Filipino Chronicle Kapolei Wed on April 15, 1992 (22 years) asked couples who have been married 20 Wed on Jan. 18, 1984 (30 years) A years or longer to share their advice for making their marriages last. Congratu- lations! “Faith in God, commitment to each other and “Commitment, love and family above all else. open communication are the factors that make our “Marriage is not a 50/50 arrangement. It's got to be 100/100! And yes, GOLF helps!" marriage work.” But neither one can ever appear to know, or think, that they are doing more. And if you really love each other enough or eventu- MYRnA and TJ JuRADO, MARIA and ChARlES bOhE ally come to love each other that much, you don't even notice how Mililani Waianae easy it is." Wed on Dec. 22, 1979 (34 years) Wed Dec. 8, 1981 (32 years)

FlORA and JOhn SIgnOR, Iroquois Pt. Wed March 1, 1951 (63 years)

“Have a date night at least once a month, whether it’s going to the movies or trying a new restaurant.”

MARY Ann and RAul bAYbAYAn, Ewa beach Wed on June 14, 1992 (22 years)

“Try to understand how your partner feels and how not to push the ‘negative buttons’.” nORA and KEn KAMAI, honolulu Wed on Dec. 1, 1989 (25 years)

"Do as I say or else I'll get the remote and put you on happy mode." nEnA and STAn FInCh, Salt lake Wed on July 2, 1991 (23 years)

“Never fail at loving each other. Be patient, be kind. Have faith, have hope and have fun.”

ElISA and DOMIngO bAuTISTA, Ewa beach Wed on Oct. 9, 1965 (48 years) S10  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT BRIDAL GOWNS WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 Pronovias Wedding Dresses riginating from Barcelona in Spain, Pronovias brings a European sense of time- less elegance and affordable luxury to brides the world over. Crafting bridal gowns from the finest fabrics and down to the most O minute and lovely detail, Pronovias design- ers create bridal gowns in a wide range of styles and silhouettes, from formal to informal, to please even the most discerning fashionista bride. As the leading wedding dress company in the world, Pronovias’ gowns are known for a spectacular fit and style. Its elegance, however, begins in the most basic ele- ment of all wedding dresses—the fabric. Pronovias prides itself on offering gowns that stand out in sumptuous high- quality fabrics such as shantung Mikado silk, royal satin, silk chiffon, chantilly lace and morbido tulle. Then there is attention to detail. For Pronovias, atten- tion to detail is second-to-none. Current Pronovias wed- ding dress styles are characterized by exquisite hand-sewn white, silver and clear beading in intricate patterns, deli- cately crafted illusion overlays and beautifully precise pleating and draping. The gowns pictured here are from the 2015 Bridal Gowns Fashion collections from Pronovias. For brides-to- be, Casablanca Bridal and Formals—the main local dis- tributor for Pronovias bridal gowns—would be an ideal place to begin selecting the wedding gown of their dreams. SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S11

WEDDING PULSE WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 Chris & Jeribie Tanouye What were some exciting Chris: For me, it was the anticipation that I was going moments of your wedding to marry the woman who I love. day? What were the Jeribie: Marriage prepa- ration was more than just biggest challenges of your planning the wedding itself. It required us to mentally marriage preparation? prepare for this next en- deavor that we were about to By HFC Staff take together. We sat down and really communicated to one another about what we ultimately wanted in our marriage and how we were going to grow together. rhoDeriCk anD rom esTraDa We prepared spiritually by making sure we were one in our faith The most exciting part in preparation of my wedding was and beliefs. Once we achieved this, we were able to take the next having my husband help me throughout the whole process. step to ensure that we would be married in a Catholic church. We both were very involved in making all the decisions. It Lastly, we had to meet the physicality of marriage preparation. We was fun choosing the linens, cake, lighting, flowers and dedicated many hours to ensuring that my dream wedding came to music together. It was also nice having both of our families fruition. If it wasn’t for the support of my husband and he physi- meet for the first time. cally being there for me during the decision making process and all The most stressful parts in the preparation were the small other aspects and issues that we encountered while planning the details and having a destination wedding. It was hard trying wedding, I would have been burnt out and overcome with disap- to fly back and forth to make sure everything was going okay. pointment. But I had his 100 percent physical support throughout On our big day, everything turned out amazing! I loved our the planning process, which I am so blessed and thankful for. wedding and wouldn’t change anything. Marriage preparation requires that two couples be committed to the process and to each other. My husband and I not only love James & sonia LuTian makizuru one another, but we support each other. This is what makes the chal- James: Checking all that you need before the magic date lenges of marriage preparation an easier task to tackle together. like the venue, food and the wedding entourage. Also mak- ing sure that everything was ready, meeting new members of DwighT & gJ yorke the family on both sides and having to “check and balance” Dwight: The most ex- everything. citing part about planning a Sonia: Selecting the members of the wedding entourage, wedding is planning it with making sure to accommodate our closest friends and rela- your wife. And also having tives, choosing the wedding gown and the motif color, pick- family and friends gather ing up the godparents and most of all, making sure that both together to celebrate your sides were satisfied with and their expectations met as new love for each other. family interactions began. GJ: The difficulties with planning the wedding kurT & mary rose nino included trying to make Kurt Nino: This may sound cliche, but the most exciting everyone happy (your hus- moment of our wedding day was when I saw my wife in her band, family, in-laws and yourself) with the whole event. And beautiful wedding dress walking down the aisle. I still have of course, having the wedding of your dreams on a budget takes vivid recollections of seeing her bright smile and at that mo- a lot of planning, prioritizing, patience and pizzazz. ment I knew my dreams had finally come true...I was marry- ing the love of my life. Mary Rose: My biggest challenge was planning a wed- ding while in medical school studying to become a doctor. I would have to go to meetings with our vendors after school and use my study breaks to make things such as our invita- tions, favors, and decorations. It required a lot of time management, but seeing how beautifully everything came together on our wedding day made all the stress worth it . ranDy & karen orDonio Randy: For most people, the most exciting part is starting a family. But for us, we were blessed to have two beautiful children before we got married and the opportunity for us to grow and add more children as a married couple is a very im- portant and exciting chapter in our lives. Karen: The biggest challenge in preparing for our mar- riage was determining a budget that would fulfill a wedding ceremony and reception of my dreams. We envisioned a wed- ding that we could share with our closest family and friends at an affordable price. With the help of wedding expos and re- searching bridal magazines, we were able to reserve vendors at a reasonable price that fit our budget and made it a day we’ll never forget. S12  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT

WEDDING GUIDE WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 MIND YOUR BODY Before AND After the Wedding: by Willie T. Ong, M.D. Marriage Preparation Helps Couples Vow to Be Together “For Better and For Ever” By Edna Bautista, Ed.D., C.W.S. slightly different approach in their marriage preparation pro- ouples spend their own marriage in the early gram. Some do more, some several months and formative stages by study- less. But the goal is the same— planning for the ing the topics, doing the home- to provide the couple with nec- day of their work, talking with each other essary tools and techniques so C wedding. But and finding what works for they can maintain a healthy and what about them,” explained Father vibrant relationship in their preparing for a lifetime of mar- Ruhnke. marriage,” said Deacon Pagli- riage? As the national divorce This is good practice in nawan. rate still averages between 40- taking time out for each other Dr. Edna Bautista (center) directing the rehearsals of the couples they At OLPH (and some other 50 percent, according to the and communicating, which can sponsored to be married at their church churches), engaged couples National Center for Health Sta- become a great habit in their take a pre-marriage inventory tistics, Father Robert A. marriage. called “Facilitating Open Cou- Ruhnke, C.SS.R., D.Min., has The workbooks are often MARRIAGE PREPARATION / ple Communication, Under- made it his mission and min- used with help from a marriage “FOR BETTER AND FOR EVER” standing and Study” istry to help couples vow to be sponsor couple who is trained TOPICS (FOCCUS). The results pro- together “For Better and For to guide the engaged couple vide a snapshot of where the • Wedding ceremony logistics Ever”. during the wedding planning couple’s relationship stands • Family of origin, traditions “Preparing for marriage process. [Note that their roles based on their views about var- • Decisions of conscience, morality should be part of the wedding are not the same as ninongs/ni- ious marriage topics. This gives • Commitment, sacrament of marriage planning process,” he said. nangs (godparents) or primary both the engaged and sponsor • Cohabitation, pre-marital sex “Love helps, but it’s not always and secondary sponsors in a couples discussion points and • Remarriage, blended families enough.” Filipino wedding entourage.] areas they can focus on when • Intimacy, sexuality, family planning, parenthood Determined to save mar- “The word ‘guide’ instead going through the “For Better • Finances, money riages before they start, Father of ‘mentor’ is a more appropri- and For Ever” workbook. • Careers Ruhnke wrote “For Better and ate term for the role of the Like Father Ruhnke, Dea- • Communication, problem solving, forgiveness For Ever”, a workbook he de- ‘sponsor couple’. ‘Mentor’ im- con Paglinawan believes that • Spirituality, mixed religion, prayer, church community veloped while working in mar- plies that the sponsors are ex- sponsor couples are an integral riage preparation programs perts and that their marriage is part of the marriage preparation during the 1970s. better than the engaged cou- follow-up study questions in are the ones in charge of their program because they are like First published in 1981, the ple’s relationship. All mar- the chapters. marriage and future,” he said. a support group. Not only do workbook is now being used in riages are different…marriage Sponsor couples are also Our Lady of Perpetual they help busy priests and pas- several churches (both Catholic is a work in progress,” said Fa- encouraged to touch base with Help Church (OLPH) in Ewa tors with the marriage prepara- and Protestant) in Hawaii and ther Ruhnke. the couple after the wedding. Beach is one of the first few tion process, but also sponsor throughout the United States, Sponsor couples invite and “Following up with the churches in Hawaii to adopt couples “have gone through Canada, Latin America and meet engaged couples in the newlyweds is an important Father Ruhnke’s book for use many of the marriage issues Guam as part of marriage privacy of their own homes for component of the ‘For Better in their local marriage prepara- themselves and can share with preparation and formation pro- at least five sessions to discuss and For Ever’ program and tion program. the engaged couples their ex- grams. Although the workbook the marriage topics in the marriage formation. As a com- “We started using Father periences,” said Deacon Pagli- is not yet available in Pilipino, workbook. This couple-to- munity, we must help others Rob’s book when my wife Eu- nawan. the Catholic edition is available couple session is confidential succeed in their marriages,” he nice and I were a sponsor cou- “When they meet together in English, Spanish, French and more intimate and person- emphasized. ple at another parish’s marriage at the sponsor couple’s homes and Vietnamese (the Protestant alized than the larger lecture- Engaged couples can use preparation program a long to discuss the chosen chapters edition has an English and style Engaged Encounter, the “For Better and For Ever” time ago, before I was even or- in ‘For Better and For Ever’, Spanish version only and a Pre-Cana or other group retreat workbook on their own without dained a deacon. We liked how especially when there are chil- Covenant edition in English is workshops. meeting with marriage spon- thorough it was in addressing dren around, the engaged cou- also available for secular cou- “Many couples are re- sors, attending retreats or even various marriage topics so we ple can see the reality of ples). The workbook is suitable quired by their parishes to at- belonging to a church. continued to use it at our marriage and family life,” he for interfaith and intercultural tend Engaged Encounter or “Couples have that choice parish,” said Ron Paglinawan added. “They can also see that couples. Pre-Cana. They go through the of going through the workbook of OLPH. their sponsors are in love, sen- The Texas-based priest, retreats to satisfy the require- themselves and not feel they Before setting their wed- sitive to each other’s needs and who has traveled internation- ments to get married in the have to be required to prepare ding date, engaged couples committed to their marriages.” ally to train those working in church. And then after the wed- for their marriage,” said Father should plan to devote at least Sponsor couples can build marriage programs, said “For ding, there is no other obliga- Ruhnke. “For Better and For six months to complete prepa- lasting friendships with their Better and For Ever” is an im- tion. A follow-up is necessary,” Ever” is designed to help en- rations set forth by the Catholic engaged couples as well. Dea- portant workbook because “it noted Father Ruhnke. gaged couples take responsibil- Diocese of Honolulu (atten- con Paglinawan said they are is one of the most comprehen- With “For Better and For ity for learning the skills that dance to Engaged Encounter instrumental in helping the en- sive resources that thoroughly Ever,” couples take the initia- will help them establish and retreats) and their local church gaged couple in their spiritual covers several aspects of mar- tive to continue doing self- sustain a healthy and success- at which their ceremony will journey by encouraging them riage topics. It enables the cou- checks on their marriage, as ful marriage. “They are ac- take place. to go to church and strengthen ple to take a proactive role in there are three- and six-month countable to each other. They “Each clergy may have a (continued on page S14) SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S13

WEDDING HIGHLIGHT WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 THE PERFECT HONEYMOON By Seneca Moraleda-Puguan surprise dinner on a raft in the middle of the sea while being sere- A naded with our favorite love songs. I will never forget what my husband did for me after our wedding day. It was four Sunbathing and strolling along the beach Snorkeling in a Philippine island Drinking a glass of wine together on a boat ride days and three nights of mari- life. Mead, a honey-based al- where the pair traveled to visit adventure together. Go sky- eymoon. The presence of each tal bliss. We were brought to cohol, is believed to have family and friends who were diving in New Zealand, skiing other and the love you share is an island in Palawan and left aphrodisiac properties. unable to attend the wedding. in Switzerland or bungee what makes it perfect. alone for half a day and were Samuel Johnson, an Eng- This custom was borrowed by jumping in the Himalayas. Try The honeymoon season given a massage in the after- lish writer, wrote in 1542: the British and it spread across snorkeling in the Philippine is- may have some of life’s sweet- noon. We also went kayaking, “The first month after mar- Europe and France in the early lands, kayaking in Hawaii or est memories but it doesn’t snorkeling, island hopping and riage, when there is nothing 19th century. scuba diving in the Maldives. have to end after the first few sunbathing. It was a time of but tenderness and pleasure; A honeymoon, as we all Visit romantic destinations days or months of married life. being together and enjoying originally having no reference know it today, is a time for like Paris or Vienna. Indulge As husband and wife, you each other. to the period of a month, but newly married couples to have in relaxing activities like sit- have to work out your mar- After months of stressful comparing mutual affection of physical intimacy, a time to ting together in a Jacuzzi or riage to make each day a hon- preparation and the hustle and newly-married persons to the plan and talk about having having a massage on a gon- eymoon. bustle of the wedding day, we changing moon which is no children and get to know each dola in Venice. To find out more about had each other all to ourselves. sooner full that it begins to other intimately; a time to Or simply stroll along a beautiful honeymoon es- Finally, we were on our hon- wane; now, usually, the holi- know more of each other’s pristine white sand beach, capades and packages, visit eymoon. day spent together by a newly family roots. It is also a time watch a sunrise or sunset to- the Hawaii World Class Wed- But what is a honeymoon married couple, before settling to relax and enjoy doing things gether, enjoy a candlelight ding Expo on October 3 to 4, and how did it originate? The down at home.” This was one together. dinner, laze around and sleep 2014 at the Hawaii Conven- term “honeymoon” dates back of the earliest descriptions of What are some things you together on a hammock or tion Center sponsored by the to the 5th century AD, when honeymoon. can do on your honeymoon? rock each other’s world inside Hawaii Weddings & Honey- the calendar was represented Today, couples go on a Depending on the season of your room. moon Escapes Magazine. You by cycles of the moon in many honeymoon to be alone but it your wedding, you can ex- It really doesn’t matter can also go online to: cultures. It was a common wasn’t always this way. In the plore an exotic destination or what you choose to do as long www.hawaiiweddings- practice for couples early 1800s, it was a custom one of your favorite places. as you’re having fun together. magazine.com or www.face- to drink plenty of mead during for members of India’s upper Do things you’ve never done You don’t even have to spend book.com/hawaiiworldclassw their first month of married class to take a “bridal tour” before as a couple. Go on an much to have an amazing hon- eddingexpo. OTHER WEDDING TRADITIONS Wedding Traditions from Around the World the couple will kneel while lationship is and must be treated pouring the tea. The tea set itself with special care. By Deborah T. Manog newly married couple as they tom is rooted in Africa and the is usually kept as a keepsake of begin their new life together. sticks are supposed to symbol- the wedding and sometimes is Mehndi ne of the most This traditional dance is not ize a new home together. How- passed down as a family heir- Mehndi, or henna, is one of iconic scenes of a strictly Filipino but is also prac- ever, this ritual took on deeper loom. the major celebrations leading traditional Filipino ticed in the Hispanic and Polish meaning during the days of up to an Indian wedding. Dur- wedding would be cultures. There are many other slavery in the United States Breaking Glass ing a lively party of food, O that moment when cultural wedding traditions when African-American cou- The shattering of glass is music and dance, mehndi is everyone whips around the world as well. ples were not allowed to marry. mandatory at Jewish weddings. carefully applied to the bride’s out their dollar bills and rushes Nowadays, it is popular to have However, they used this “jump- Traditionally, the groom will hands and feet. The bride’s pat- towards the bride and groom a modern, westernized wed- ing of the broom” to publicly break a glass, wrapped up in tern is usually very elaborate during their of the ding, but keeping true to a cou- symbolize their love and com- thin cloth, with his foot. Every- and time-consuming. The fe- night. Guests of all ages line up ple’s cultural traditions mitment towards each other. one cheers and shouts “Mazel male members of the family to take turns inserting a rolled celebrates both families’ origins Tov,” which is Yiddish for can also choose to have mehndi up bill into the bride’s mouth and faith. Many people opt to Tea Ceremony “good fortune.” There are sev- applied on their bodies but the and the groom must retrieve it incorporate old-age traditions The tea ceremony is con- eral interpretations of this tradi- pattern won’t be as intricate. It using only his lips, or vice that celebrate their history and sidered the most sacred ritual of tion. Some believe it is the hope is believed that the darker the versa. Other modifications in- honors their roots. Chinese nuptials. The act of that the couple’s happiness to- color that the mehndi leaves on clude pinning the money di- serving tea shows deep respect gether will be as plentiful as the the bride, the more she will be rectly to the newlyweds’ and honors both the bride and many shards of broken glass. loved by her husband and her garments as they dance. The After the couple is pro- groom’s families. The order of Others believe that it is a re- in-laws. Mehndi also is be- idea behind the money dance, nounced “man and wife” they who is served tea is critical as minder of their faith, tying back lieved to have medicinal prop- or sayaw ng pera,” is for the hold hands and while facing well, starting with the parents to the destruction of temples in erties and is believed to take guests to contribute to the their guests, jump over a and then proceeding from the Jerusalem. It is also thought to some of the wedding-planning wealth and prosperity of the broomstick together. This cus- eldest to youngest. Traditionally, be symbolic of how fragile a re- stress away from the bride. S14  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT

WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 HERE COMES... (from page S6) ABC (www.bridalassn.com), as a board member of the Oahu and $36,402 (Maui County). ding planner, she advised, experience and knowledge as the oldest and largest organi- Wedding Association. In a wedding budget, usu- “Stay out of the drama. There possible, by becoming certified zation exclusively serving “Hiring an event planner ally 10-15 percent is allocated is a lot of it in this industry that in wedding planning, interning wedding professionals, has who works side by side with for wedding planning services. you don’t see. There is fa- with other planners or ho- been training wedding coordi- other businesses with like- In-demand and celebrity wed- voritism and people trying to tels/wedding venues and even nators since 1955. minded goals can make your ding planners command higher get rich off their clients but planning events for friends and WBW (http://www.wed- event run smoothly and keep percentages. For exceptional don’t really care about them. family. I also suggest meeting dingsbeautiful.com), estab- the trouble-shooting to a mini- service, some even receive Focus on your job as a wedding and networking with other ven- lished in 1968, is a division of mum. Businesses within the extra tips. planner, do it well, be the best dors in the industry and keep- the National Bridal Service and Oahu Wedding Association Most wedding planners human being you can be and ing abreast of trends in the offers certifications for wedding work together to keep informed also charge an hourly rate for help people live their dreams. industry.” specialists and planners. In on industry standards, trends, consultations and meetings If you love what you do as a Despite stressful condi- 2000, WBW became a licensed state law/regulations/permit- and a flat fee for packages wedding planner, like I do, it tions, long hours and weekend program in the Philippines ting so that we can maintain ranging from “day-of coordi- will shine through your work.” workdays, wedding planners (http://www.weddingsbeautiful- current industry standards,” she nation only” to “full–scale There is also a lot of pres- absolutely enjoy what they do philippines.net/). Bernalyn said. service”. sure to plan the perfect wed- and find their job very reward- (Berlyn) Salvador-Yap, the cur- There are several groups to Wedding planners can sup- ding and event, and those who ing! rent president of WBW-Philip- which wedding planners may plement their income by plan- do it admit their job has many “I love that wedding plan- pines, received her Certified belong, such as the Association ning other events (anniversaries, challenges. But professionals ning enables me to truly help Wedding Specialist title in 2004. of Bridal Consultants, the As- birthdays, retirements, corporate suggested some of their tips for and serve couples to the best sociation of Certified Profes- functions, etc.), though most this trade. of my ability,” said Hirata. “It Membership Has Its Benefits sional Wedding Consultants, prefer to focus on weddings as “It seems like a glamorous involves creativity and style; it Membership to wedding Association for Wedding Pro- their specialty only. They, like job,” said O’Donnell. “How- provides me with the opportu- associations, like certification, fessionals International and celebrity wedding planners ever, this person must be de- nity to mentor interns and is not required, but there are American Association of Cer- Colin Cowie, David Tutera, tailed-oriented, organized, able members of our team and to benefits to belonging to profes- tified Wedding Planners, to Preston Bailey and Sasha to think fast and problem-solve see them grow professionally; sional groups. Wedding plan- name a few. Souza, can also earn more at a moment's notice. Educa- it allows me to be involved ners are able to interact with In Hawaii, wedding profes- money through television ap- tion can help…[but] on-the-job with a very special and joyous others like them and exchange sionals may join the Oahu pearances, book deals, speaking training is also important be- time in a couple’s life. I also ideas, network with vendors Wedding Association, Maui engagements and designer col- fore considering starting your value the fact that I can craft and prospective partners, get Wedding Association and lections in their product lines. own business as a wedding and define the direction of our leads on clients through their Kauai Wedding Professionals planner. Having experience in company based on my values business listing in the associa- Association. Surviving and Thriving As A handling and arranging food and belief-system; I get to tion’s website/directory and Wedding Planner and beverage services is also enjoy seeing several months of participate in workshops and Money Matters The wedding industry is necessary. Some of this is only planning and preparation seminars to learn more about The average wedding cost very competitive and one must learned by working in job-re- come to fruition on the wed- trends and practices in the in- in the United States is $25,200, work very hard to succeed as a lated positions before becom- ding day…but I suppose what dustry. according to the Cost of Wed- wedding planner. ing a 'planner'.” I find most rewarding is seeing Also, “members of associ- ding website “When I started out in Hirata added, “It is impor- the couple truly enjoy them- ations generally abide by (http://www.costofwedding.co 1993, there were only a hand- tant that aspiring wedding plan- selves at their wedding, and guidelines of conduct that the m). In Hawaii, where the cost ful of wedding planners. But ners also possess an hearing how much they en- business(es) will follow, in ad- of living is higher than on the now there are so many!” noted entrepreneurial spirit, as one of joyed their special day. If they dition to their own in-house mainland, the average wedding Perkins. She has witnessed the best ways to enjoy a career loved their wedding day—and business practices,” said Susan expenditures are $38,246 some questionable practices in wedding planning is to actu- the process of getting there, O’Donnell of Aloha Wedding (Honolulu County), $34,850 from some vendors who are in ally start one’s own business. too—then I know that we have Planners (www.alohawedding- (Kauai County), $30, 917 the business just to make big In preparation for doing so, I succeeded in what we set out planners.com) who also serves (Hawaii/Big Island County) bucks. To succeed as a wed- recommend getting as much to do.”

MARRIAGE PREPARATION... (from page S12) “Couples get caught up and receive constructive com- (210) 534-1129 or rob@mar- their faith, reflecting the belief to serve as sponsors should be with their jobs, children and ments about the marriage riagepreparation.com and that “the couple that prays to- open to sharing and establishing homes that they need to recon- preparation program. Father Deacon Paglinawan may be gether stays together”. trust with their engaged cou- nect with each other on a con- Ruhnke may be reached at reached at (808) 368-3250. Volunteers are welcome to ple,” said Deacon Paglinawan. tinuing basis,” he said. serve in their church’s respec- “They should be devoted to vol- “Making time to go to Mar- tive marriage preparation pro- unteering their time to be effec- riage Encounter or one of the gram as an optional ministry. tive in this ministry. They also marriage retreats presented by Donating time as a sponsor go through training work- the Diocese’s faith formation couple is a meaningful wed- shops.” (Father Ruhnke some- program can keep their rela- ding gift for the engaged cou- times travels to Hawaii to train tionship healthy and satisfy- ple. Being involved in the sponsor couples in the “For Bet- ing.” ministry also enriches the mar- ter and For Ever” marriage Just as it takes ongoing riage of those who volunteer. preparation program.) work in a marriage, Father Some couples are still in touch After the wedding, and Ruhnke wants to keep improv- with their own sponsor couples when the honeymoon is over, ing “For Better and For Ever” long after the wedding and Deacon Paglinawan encour- also. He and his resource have now become sponsor cou- ages couples to keep working team—and Deacon Pagli- ples themselves. on their marriage to make it nawan at the local level—are “Married couples who want better forever. available to answer questions SUPPLEMENT  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  S15

BRIDAL BEAUTY TIPS WEDDING & BRIDAL SUPPLEMENT 2014 Bridal Beauty 101 flected in the hair and make- following tips for an afternoon looking sophisticated? up. The ceremony also tends wedding: • Since evening make-up is to be less formal, so you have • Pick a foundation with a all about drama, you can an excuse to forego heavy lay- longer staying power. The experiment with eye shad- ering. sun is at its hottest in the ows. Try out a bolder • Pick a light to medium afternoon, so make sure color than usual or metal- coverage foundation. The the foundation won’t melt lic shades to emphasize point is for skin to look on you. your eyes. dewy and fresh, not cakey. • Get inspired with the sun- • Highlight your eyes by ap- • For your blush, pick a set capping off your nup- plying an extra coat of ANILA, Philip- pink shade that suits your tials and pick either earth mascara and liner. You can you pluck them on the day pines - Many skin tone. Remember to tones or warm corals for even wing out your eye itself, they may end up people call June keep it light to match the lips and eyes. liner to create a cat-like, looking red and swollen. the Marry breezy feel of your wed- • Keep blush light, but don’t dramatic effect. • If you’re working with a M Month. Indeed, ding. Light berries and forget to contour and high- • Try out a darker or bolder make-up artist and hair brides are most pinks work well with to light with bronzer or con- lip color to match the dra- stylist, it would be a good likely now trying to perfect match the fresh feel of the tour and highlight matic feel of the event. idea to conduct a trial ses- everything in their long to-do make-up. powders. The afternoon Wines, plums, or even true sion so you would have a list. One important considera- • Since a morning wedding sun will pick up these reds would help you stand general idea of how it tion when picking out hair and is less formal, you can ac- areas, and your face will out elegantly. would look like before the make-up looks is the time your tually opt to keep your end up looking more de- • A gorgeous up-do would big day and tweak the look nuptials will take place. Will hair down(with soft curls fined. look best in an evening if needed. you swap “I dos” the first or waves) or a half-pony- • Hair will look best looking wedding. A French twist • It would be a good idea to thing in the morning or is your tail with waves. elegant yet still relaxed. A or a sleek up-do would be choose waterproof prod- wedding an evening affair? • Small hair ornaments or side-swept twist or a loose perfect to crown your ucts for your wedding Remember to match your look flowers are the perfect ad- up-do would do the trick. wedding look, but make make-up. It would less with the overall feel of the ditions to morning wed- You can even finish off the sure the hairstyle wouldn’t likely wash off from the time of day. ding hair. look with a gold or bronze look too severe or else elements (unexpected Gandang Ricky Reyes hair ornament. you’d look dated. rain, heat and sweat, etc.) gives brides these helpful Afternoon Weddings or run-off when you start pointers to remember in creat- These are great for both Evening Weddings General Make-Up Tips tearing up. ing a beautiful look. the couple and the guests be- These usually have a more Here are some more tips cause they don’t have to formal and stately feel. As from Ricky Reyes to consider The most important tip, Morning Weddings wakeup too early. Another such, you can opt for a more in picking the right hair and though, to look gorgeous on Morning weddings cele- bonus is being able to include dramatic look with your hair make-up for walking down the your wedding day is to enjoy brate the newness of the life one of nature’s wonders as you and make-up. aisle. every moment and smile. the bride and groom will now celebrate starting a wonderful • Why not try bold colors to • Before the wedding, make After all, you are marrying the undertake. It’s usually all life together: a sunset followed stand out in the dimmer sure your eyebrows have l o v e o f y o u r l i f e . about freshness, and that’s re- by a romantic dinner. Try the lighting, but still keep it been shaped or plucked. If (www.philstar.com)

CELEBRATING... (from page S4) confetti over the newlyweds as will cut in halfway through, to • The maid or matron of they leave the church. In re- symbolize the bride leaving honor then enters, either by cent years, rice has been re- her father and joining her hus- herself or escorted by the placed with items such as band. In America, dances be- best man. birdseed and blowing bubbles. tween the groom and his • The ringbearer enters next. A photographic session is also mother are also becoming • The flower girl then enters. usually held as the couple popular. • Finally, the bride enters and leaves the church and gets into The newlyweds are then takes her walk down the the car to go to the reception. ready to set out on their hon- aisle, escorted by her father The reception is typically eymoon, which is usually a to the accompaniment of a catered course meal with special and romantic place. In music, typically Wagner’s drinks, numerous toasts, ancient Scandinavia, many “The ,” com- speeches, throwing of the bou- brides were kidnapped by their monly known as “Here quet, catching of the and grooms and hidden away for Comes the Bride.” the cutting of the wedding months, until either their fam- cake by the bride and groom. ily stopped looking for them After the ceremony ends, Dancing is usually started or they became pregnant. the bride and groom will go to by the bride and groom who Today, the honeymoon is a side room with the officiate commonly get the first dance much more pleasant and is a and two witnesses and sign the called the “bridal waltz.” After brief period of time for the state-issued . the first dance, a dance be- newlyweds to avoid distrac- The guests will then throw tween the bride and her father tions and spend quality time flower petals, rice, birdseed or is traditional. Often the groom alone with each other. S16  HAWAII FILIPINO CHRONICLE  SUPPLEMENT

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