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6 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Stories Of Greatness R’ Dovid Hoffman Finding Religion In A Reform Temple he renowned Yeshiva Ohr Somayach impossible it would be for a man like him fi nd this authentic-looking Jewish rabbi in Jerusalem is comprised of students to get off in a place like that. After further from Israel standing outside their temple. Tfrom all over the globe. Young men consultation with the captain, it was decid- They invited him in but he refused mightily, and women who wish to understand more ed that R’ Shachne would remain on board – stating that he could not walk into a sanctu- about Judaism come from many countries concealed, to be sure – until they made their ary that contained mixed seating. The locals to the hallowed halls of the yeshivah and third and fi nal stop in the distinctly un-Jew- were a sympathetic bunch and were eager learn to grow spiritually. But only two stu- ish city of Bangkok, Thailand. to show their hospitality to their dignifi ed dents have ever been known to come from Many hours later, R’ Shachne disem- guest. But all their convincing and cajoling an unlikely land: Thailand! barked into the balmy Bangkok air. It was had no effect. He absolutely refused to en- Amazingly, the Reform rabbi’s words had The story begins a few weeks before Erev Rosh HaShanah and there was no ter! the exact opposite effect! The people were Rosh HaShanah, when the famed rosh kollel, outraged at his insensitivity and kicked him R’ Shachne Zohn, shlit”a, came to America out of the temple! They then partitioned to collect money for his kollel. He planned How could he daven in a synagogue like this – themselves – men on one side and women to stay for a short time and leave on a on Rosh HaShanah no less! on the other – and asked the esteemed rabbi fl ight two days before Yom Tov. All went from Israel to not only join them, but in fact as planned, and R’ Shachne made his fl ight to lead them in prayer! A grateful R’ Shachne on time; however, when the fl ight made its chance of getting to Israel in time for Yom After consulting amongst themselves, led the davening and even delivered an im- scheduled stopover in Vienna and all the Is- Tov. R’ Shachne, in his Yerushalmi hat and they decided that if it meant so much to passioned speech about the meaning of rael-bound passengers disembarked in order garb, stood there for a moment, unsure of this rabbi to have separate seating, they Rosh HaShanah and the Yom HaDin. to catch their connecting fl ight to Tel Aviv, R’ his next move. Then, he hailed a cab and would accommodate him and create a par- Two medical students, local boys on Shachne, who doesn’t hear well in the fi rst told the driver to take him to the local Jew- tition. However, the Reform rabbi objected leave from their studies in London for the place, was deeply immersed in a sefer and ish synagogue. There was one, a Reform vehemently and told the people that he was High Holidays, had come to the temple for had no idea that the plane had even landed. Jewish temple, not far from the city center, the leader of this congregation and, for all the prayers. After hearing R’ Shachne daven Not even the fl ight attendants realized that and the amused driver headed there straight he cared, the black-hatted rabbi could stand and speak, they felt a spark of religion ignite he had failed to get off the plane. R’ Shachne away. outside or leave altogether. They were not inside and begin to burn bright. Soon after, just sat in his seat and continued learning R’ Shachne walked into the temple and going to change their style of prayer for they left Bangkok and traveled to Ohr So- while the plane refueled and prepared to shuddered. Like all Reform temples, it had some old-fashioned, antiquated, and unciv- mayach where they fl ourished in their new- take off for its next destination: Beirut In- no m’chitzah and the seating was mixed. ilized custom! found religious lifestyle. ternational Airport! How could he daven in a synagogue like It was only once the plane had already this – on Rosh HaShanah no less! He de- Rabbi Dovid Hoffman is the author of the popular “Torah Tavlin” book series, fi lled taken off that a stewardess realized what cided that he would remain outside during with stories, wit and hundreds of divrei Torah, including the brand new “Torah Tavlin had happened, and just as quickly grasped the prayer services and would only venture Yamim Noraim” in stores everywhere. You’ll love this popular series. Also look for his the dire implications. When she managed to near the windows to hear the shofar being book, “Heroes of Spirit,” containing one hundred fascinating stories on the Holocaust. rouse the white-bearded Jewish man from blown. They are fantastic gifts, available in all Judaica bookstores and online at http://israel- his studies and he fi nally looked up, she ex- A number of congregants arrived before bookshoppublications.com. To receive Rabbi Hoffman’s weekly “Torah Tavlin” sheet on plained where they were headed and how the evening prayers and were surprised to the parsha, e-mail [email protected]

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Silent Contemplation CONTINUED FROM P. 1 entire country to step back from all of its bustling busyness and self-consumed, ma- and tragic day. As I was talking to them, terialistic lives. In the quiet of the shock of it suddenly dawned on me that the boys what happened, Americans rediscovered sitting in front of me hadn’t been born be- latent patriotism and love for what their fore September 2001. When I shared that country stood for. thought with the class, one boy called out On Tish’ah B’Av morning, as we sit on without thinking, “I was pregnant at the the fl oor to recite the painful words of time.” When the boy behind him said that Kinos, we commence with a quote from he would have liked to see that, the fi rst Megillas Eichah, in fact a single word: “sha- boy replied, “Oh, you know what I meant.” This demonstrates that there is an inex- One of the things that stick out in my tricable connection between the painful mind from the days and weeks after the The unfortunate reality is that we become more reflective days of mourning and the days of repen- attacks was that everyone and everything and introspective in the shadow of tragedy and loss tance. Although, by now, Tish’ah B’Av may was consumed and completely focused on seem like it faded into the limelight, it ac- what had occurred. Not only was it a front- tually continues in a sense throughout the page story for quite some time, but even vas – everything came to a standstill!” memorated during that period of the year. month of Elul. As we are readying ourselves editions of business and sports magazines When the destruction of Yerushalay- During the Shabbasos of the Three Weeks for the great days of judgment, G-d is still spoke about the events. The front page of im and the Beis HaMikdash occurred, the of mourning between Shiv’ah Asar B’Tamuz consoling and comforting us for the de- a noted sports magazine had a quote on bustle of life and vibrancy in the spiritual and Tish’ah B’Av, we read three “haftaros of struction we recently mourned. its front cover, “The Day That Sports Stood capital came to an abrupt halt. Each year, punishment,” in which the prophets fore- This week, Hillary Clinton published a Still,” with a picture of an American fl ag on Tish’ah B’Av, we step back from the busy- warned the nation of the impending doom new book entitled What Happened, about draped over empty stadium seats. ness of our lives to refl ect upon the nation- that was imminent if they didn’t repent. her failed bid for the presidency last year. The events forced the nation to consider al tragedies that have occurred throughout The following seven weeks – from Tish’ah Her shocking loss was a deeply humbling and refl ect upon its own values and ideals. the millennia. B’Av until the Shabbos before Rosh HaSha- experience for her. The dress she had The freedoms that were taken for granted On Shabbos morning, following k’rias nah – we read shiv’ah di’n’chemta, seven planned to wear to her fi rst meeting as pres- were suddenly appreciated again. In the haTorah, we read the haftarah, a passage emotionally stirring haftaros of consola- face of heinous evil, the value of human from the N’viim. For most of the year, the tion from Yeshaya HaNavi. CONTINUED ON P. 24 life, unity, self-sacrifi ce, and compassion passage refl ects and parallels at least one took center stage. Political barriers were section of the parshah. However, for a Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is the Rabbi of Kehillat New Hempstead, as well as a rebbe cast aside as we all viewed ourselves simply period of about three months, the focus and the Guidance Counselor at Heichal HaTorah in Teaneck, New Jersey, and Principal at as Americans, proud of our identity, who of the haftarah is not primarily based on Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New Windsor. Rabbi Staum is a division head at Camp Dora Gold- would not cower in the face of evil. the parshah (though there are always sub- ing. He also presents parenting classes based on the acclaimed Love and Logic methods. His The shocking events compelled the tle connections), but on the events com- email address is [email protected]. His website is www.stamtorah.info.

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Yonah: Getting the Message “Hashem occasioned a large male fi sh Hashem. While it is true that Yonah was on Yonah to go to the Ninveh, the capital, assign him the mission, he wouldn’t have to to swallow Yonah, and Yonah was in the running to sea, it wasn’t because he was hid- to bring the people to repent, so that they deliver it. And so he ran. fi sh for three days and three nights. And he ing from Hashem; rather, something much could remain in existence and be the tool Nevertheless, Yonah understood that his prayed to Hashem, from the innards of the more complex was going on. that Hashem would use to expel the Jews. running away would cost him his life. But female fi sh.” Yonah’s reaction was: Hashem if you wish he was so dedicated to his people that noth- Yonah 2:1-2 Yonah’s mission to punish your people, you are the Master of ing mattered, not even his life. He was will- In this time period, The Jewish nation the Universe, you know best, but count me ing to die rather than be a part of hurting ccording to the simplistic reading of his nation. And so, he boarded a boat head- the Megilah, Hashem instructs Yo- ed anywhere. Anah to go to Ninveh, and tell the peo- What Yonah needed was suffering. When the boat set out to sea, an enor- ple there to do teshuvah. Yonah, for some Pain is powerful tool mous storm raged, threatening to destroy unknown reason, refuses to go, and instead the boat. Seeing no other choice, the cap- boards a ship setting out to sea, seemingly tain and crew threw Yonah overboard, and trying to run away from Hashem. had veered far off course. Hashem planned out. I want no part of this. And so Yonah’s instantly the sea was calm. Along came an The Mefarshim explain that nothing to exile them from the land of Israel, and plan was simple. Direct prophecy was no enormous fi sh that swallowed Yonah. In- could be further from the truth. Yonah was He intended to use the Assyrians to do the longer given outside of the land of Israel. side that fi sh Yonah did teshuvah. The fi sh a Navi Hashem (a prophet of G-d). A Navi is “dirty work.” The problem was that Assyri- Hashem hadn’t yet given him the formal spit him out. Hashem gave him the formal a man of astonishing piety and greatness, ans themselves were now so wicked that nevuah. So as long as he escaped the land nevuah, and he went on to Ninveh. who spends decades perfecting his avodas they deserved destruction. Hashem called of Israel before Hashem appeared to him to The Female Fish Rashi makes a critical observation: When Yonah was thrown over board the posuk says he was swallowed by a male fi sh. Yet, when he davened to Hashem, the posuk says that a female fi sh spit him out. Rashi explains that both are correct. When Yonah was fi rst thrown into the ocean he was swallowed by a male fi sh. He remained inside that fi sh for three days and didn’t repent. So Hashem had that fi sh spit him out and he was then swallowed by a female fi sh. This fi sh was pregnant, and Yonah was squished inside and uncomfortable. The discomfort caused him to do teshuvah. Then the female fi sh spit him out. This Rashi is very diffi cult to understand. We are dealing with an extremely idealis- tic man who is ready to give up everything because of his principles. He will run from his home, sacrifi ce his life, and stand up to Hashem Himself - all because he deeply be- lieves in the justice of his cause. How would a little discomfort change his mind? The answer to this is based on understanding of man. The Compound called Man We humans are a complex breed. One minute we can be tolerant, understanding, and accepting, and the next minute we can be hard-nosed, obstinate, and rigid. In one situation we can be generous, magnani- mous, and kind, and in the next situation we can be selfi sh, self-centered, and bratty. But it’s the same person. And making sense of our actions requires a fundamental understanding of Creation. To fashion man, Hashem took two op- posing elements and synthesized them. He took a brilliant, untarnished neshamah and put into a body. The neshamah only wants to do that which is noble, correct, and proper. Instinctively it knows exactly what is

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Born and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, R’ Ben Tzion Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim Yeshiva after high school. Shortly thereafter he got married and moved with his new family to Rochester, where he remained in for 12 years. R’ Shaﬁ er then moved to Monsey, NY, where he was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for three years. Upon the Rosh Yeshi- va’s request, he stopped teaching to devote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah. R” Shaﬁ er, a happily married father of six children, currently resides in Monsey.

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The Miracle Of T’shuvah an is a complex crea- broken tool can be put together As the prophet Isaiah describes tion, having two sides again, and so on. However, the it, “I shall erase your sins as Mto his being. On the result of a repair does not bring the clouds dissipate in the air” one hand, Man is connected to the object to the condition it (44:22). Rav Filber explains that the natural order and partakes was before it broke. A refur- a cloud obscures the light of the of all the aspects of the physical bished piece of equipment nev- sky and the sun is not visible, world. The accidents, defects, er functions as well as the one but when the clouds go away growth, and decay that accom- that never broke. On the other the light returns as before, as if pany all the natural order are hand, when a person does t’shu- the light had never been absent. Therefore, we can pray this again. As Rabbi Akiva exclaimed present in Man as well. On the vah, he returns to the condition The sinner who sincerely re- Yom Kippur, conﬁ dent that in wonder, “How lucky you are, other hand, Man is a spiritual he was before he sinned. It is pents is seen by G-d as someone however serious our mistakes Israel, that you can be cleansed being, endowed with powers as if the person never sinned; who is totally innocent, as if he were, there is always a chance to before G-d and that it is G-d that transcend nature and are his errors are erased entirely. never sinned. clean our slate and be cleansed Himself Who cleanses you!”

The Maharal actually writes that from a rational perspective, it should not be possible for t’shuvah (repentance) to exist absent in the physical realm. Due to his being part of nature, Man suffers the consequences of his actions as all physical creatures do. If someone puts his hand in a hot oven, his hand will suffer burns. His burn would last even if the person regretted his actions and decided he would not do it again. The burn would still be there, and whatever damage to the skin could be permanent. Similarly, when a person sins, we would expect that the per- petrator would suffer the consequences of his deed and that the damage to his person would be indelible. The Maharal actually writes that from a rational perspective, it should not be possible for t’shuvah (repentance) to exist. The Rabbis describe this in a very graphic manner. “They asked Wisdom, ‘What should be the punishment of a sinner?’ to which Wisdom answered, ‘Evil will pursue them.’ They asked the prophets, and prophecy answered, ‘The soul that sins shall die.’ They asked G-d, and He replied, ‘Let him do t’shuvah and he shall be forgiven’” (Je- rusalem Talmud, Makkot 2:6). From a natural perspective, errors committed would leave a permanent imprint and would precipitate inevitable consequences. T’shuvah, on the other hand, transcends the laws of the physical world and operates according to a very different set of laws. In the physical world, we also ﬁ nd corrections and re- pairs. A wound may be healed, a

Rabbi David Algaze is the founder and Rav of Havurat Yis- rael, Forest Hills. He is a noted public speaker and author and is the President of the international Committee for the Land of Israel.

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By Judah S. Harris guess he began it and maybe, just maybe, he meant it only homiletically, though that an one see the Hand of G-d in this doesn’t seem to be his indication. recent storm that pounded through I am not suggesting that calamities Cthe Caribbean and then headed force- don’t have meaning and message. They do, fully to Florida and other Southern states? though the exact message might not be The successive massive storms in recent clear. Noah was told to build an ark. The weeks that seem unprecedented? fl oods came and changed the world, puri- Certainly. Just as we can see it in the fi ed it. But to specify Irma, in this manner, morning mist, a light rainfall, and on a dry, even as an aside in a message of repentance sunny summer, fall, winter, or spring day. that is timely and legit, is misleading stuff. And perhaps the storms are, in fact, a great- It seems to cheapen the nature or method er exhibition or illustration of G-d’s might of instilling faith and panders to those who and engagement, given their uniqueness. need “amazing and inspiring stories of awe But maybe you read the recent Facebook and wonder” (even if lacking in truth), and posts or got an email forwarded to you that weakens our ability to be inspired by the the fi rst letters of the Hebrew words for subtle, which we more often contend with. earth, wind, water, fi re (afar/adamah, ru- It’s certainly an ongoing challenge to be ach, mayim, and aish) spell out “Irma.” moved by that which we consider rather This was sent to me on Sunday and I mundane (the challenge of faith). thought it was ridiculous. While G-d trans- I don’t agree with this approach of twist- mits messages, etc., and the big storms in ing facts or serving up unattributed novel succession may indeed be some of them, ideas and would encourage others to be to point to the fi rst letters and say that Can one see the Hand of G-d in this recent storm? more diligent in what they post or repost. “Irma” is clearly indicated is material best Outreach personalities and all educators consumed by those who are lacking in a each have their own method and style – certain level of intellectual approach – or cept those who do really know (and they even around the table. and many are very successful in their mis- have it in abundance but are into “cutesy” don’t likely speak). Generally, any novel or prophetic ideas sion – and we don’t need to speak negative- things that can be relished briefl y and may- When I questioned this, some suggested have to have a credible and respected ly about that, even if it doesn’t sit well with be shared with others as something cool. that the point is not about Irma references, source as their basis. This circulated text us (sometimes we do need to speak up). What about other storms of size with but rather G-d’s control of natural events. brings the Holy Ari, other greats, and Kab- But we should always vet carefully what different names? Is Irma the biggest that Then why mention the Irma wordplay? balists too, but also adds the “Irma” part, we repeat and not leave that responsibility will ever be and therefore the four ele- When we forward emails or post things which the Ari and others presumably didn’t solely to our readers. If it’s just meant to ments happen to provide the letters need- to our timelines we are putting our stamp mention. This is a very modern addition be cute, not taken literally, and you feel the ed to spell out I R M A? (Seemingly, only of approval on it. It affects our credibility and I saw a sole reference for this exposi- need to post, just add a short editorial com- the elements water and wind are actively to a degree, and even if not, determines tion on Rabbi Lazer Brody’s site (Sept. 8 en- ment at the start. at play with a hurricane.) No one can know how much attention people will pay to us try), aside from some reposts on Facebook. such a correlation with any certainty, ex- and what we say or post on social media, or Rabbi Brody doesn’t attribute, so I will CONTINUED ON P. 19

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Koala Survives 10-Mile Ride “The koala was taken into care and apparently it came out of all this very healthy, Clinging To Car Axle surprisingly so,” he said. koala in Australia survived a lengthy While rushing the koala to the vet, the trip while clinging to the axle of a rescuer discovered she was lactating and Afour-wheel drive vehicle. likely missing a joey, or infant. The driver was unaware of the koala “I searched that night and the next day, clinging to his wheel throughout the 10- and the next, but I never found it,” she said. mile journey until he stopped his car after After being fed in captivity for a few being ﬂ agged down by other motorists. days the mother koala was released back He then heard the animal’s cries coming into the wild. from underneath the vehicle and called the Koala Rescue Hotline, which sent a rescuer to the scene. Man Cracks Open Egg The rescuer then contacted the ﬁ re service to help remove the vehicles wheel to To Find Second, Smaller Egg free the koala. Chinese man cracked open an egg gawk at the small egg, complete with its “I could smell her burnt fur,” the rescuer that he purchased from a market own shell, that the man discovered when said. “It would have been hot in there.” Ato discover something unusual and he cracked open a larger egg he bought at A spokesperson for South Australia’s Ko- unexpected - a second egg. a local market. ala Hotline said the female koala was rela- A video recorded Monday shows the The man said his neighbors were fasci- tively unharmed. man’s neighbors gathered in his home to nated with the curious discovery and continued to stream into his home under late at night. Experts told him the curious egg-within- an-egg might have resulted from the hen being frightened or stressed at the time. He said the egg was edible. Realtor Advertises Home’s ‘Quiet Neighbors’: A Cemetery

realtor in Michigan had a custom sign made to advertise the house’s A“quiet neighbors” - a cemetery across the street. Shane Broyles posted a photo to Face- book showing the sign outside of the home he is listing. The sign includes all of the standard information his company posts outside homes for sale, along with one addition - a “quiet neighbors” placard with an arrow pointing to the cemetery across the street. Broyles’ post bears the hashtag “#accu- ratedescriptions.” “Growing up, my grandparents knew a man who lived next to a cemetery, and the only joke in his act was ‘Well, at least I’ve got quiet neighbors,’” Broyles said. “His voice was the ﬁ rst thing I heard in my head when I saw this property.” “If you can’t have a bit of fun, there’s not much point to life,” Broyles said. “I don’t know whether it will actually have an effect on people who may be interested in buying it.” $200,000 Lottery Winner Plays Same Numbers Again, Wins $100,000 man who won $200,000 playing the Connecticut Lottery’s Keno game Awon a second prize of $100,000 by playing the exact same numbers. Mark Roy, who became the largest Keno winner in the state’s history when he won

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Coleman F. Carroll High School pitching in by cutting trees to clear the neighbor- hood roadways,” the Facebook post said. “As we recover from #HurricaneIrma, these acts of kindness remind us all that we are #OneCommunity in #MiamiDadeCounty! Thank you Sister and all of our neighbors that are working together to get through this! #MiamiDadeStrong.”

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$200,000 from the game by matching Suspect’s Getaway Car all seven numbers with a 4X multiplier last year, said he played the exact same Runs Out Of Fuel numbers at the same retailer - and again matched all seven digits. Roy’s more recent game included a 2X multiplier, earning him $100,000. “The numbers - they all mean something to me. They’re all family birthday numbers. I’m just ecstatic,” Roy said. “I had a feeling - Thursday I got up and said, ‘Something good is going to happen today!’” Roy said he plans to use his latest win- uthorities say an Indiana man who nings to book a vacation. robbed a gas station made off with “I feel so happy! There’s money in the Afood, drinks and cigarettes. What he bank, I have a great job -- I feel blessed. didn’t steal was gas. Blessed with family and friends!” Roy said. A state trooper arrested the man after fi nding him stranded by the side of a two- lane highway with his vehicle out of fuel. Florida Nun Wields Chainsaw Police say the man’s blood alcohol level To Clear Downed Trees was above the legal limit. From Road German Beats His Own World Record For Carrying Beer Steins new world record has been set for carrying mugs of beer in southeast- Aern Germany. In Bavaria, which is also home to Ok- toberfest, the world’s biggest beer festival, Oliver Struempfel cradled 31 beer-fi lled tan- kards stacked up in two tiers, walked 40 meters and then set them down. But two tipped over at the last minute, so that the record is 29 jugs, or more than Florida nun is being praised online 152 lbs. of beer and glass. after video emerged showing her “I fi rst did 27, because I wanted to be Ausing a chainsaw to clear downed sure and then at the end I said, ‘Let’s add trees from roads while dressed in her habit. another one and get over 30’,” Struempfel Miami-Dade Police posted photos and said. “Unfortunately it didn’t quite work, video to Facebook showing Sister Margaret but having managed to put 29 down ... I Ann wielding a chainsaw to cut downed think it’s amazing.” trees into smaller parts so they could be re- To prepare for the attempt, Struempfel moved from roadways after Hurricane Irma has trained at the gym three to four times a swept through the area. week since February. The nun smiles for the camera while “When I think about it, it’s 200 hours for clad in her full religious regalia and holding about 40 seconds of walking,” he said after tight to the chainsaw. the feat. “One of our off duty offi cers was happy He had set the previous world record of to fi nd Sister Margaret Ann of Archbishop 25 jugs in 2014.

18 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 The Storm As Messenger CONTINUED FROM P. 14 pected during this season, which runs until the end of November. There could be Less than 24 hours after I heard about additional ones, but if the weather people the direct Irma reference in these four el- don’t know that, the TruNews engagers ements of nature, someone mentioned a can’t know it either and have to speak of notice sent around about all the different potential hurricanes, i.e., a tropical storm. things happening with weather and our So their news is partially true – but a planet: wildfi res in many counties, fl oods, bit off on the facts, including their men- record heat in San Francisco, earth- tion, in the Friday list of weather, planet, quakes... lots of global-warming-havoc and universe happenings, of the “highest and apocalyptic messages for those who recorded solar fl are ever!” (the fl are oc- have an eager appetite for such. curred on September 6). Factually, this This list of calamities originated as a is the largest observed in 12 years and Facebook post, written last Friday by the the eighth largest since modern records director of Millennial Media and Strategy started being kept in the mid-’60s. For at TruNews, a conservative Christian new TruNews, the biggest and greatest rings source that analyzes global and world more loudly and shows their followers events from their perspective – apocalyp- that the world is headed toward a major tic perspective. Well, there have been fi res change; it’s time to repent and prepare for in these places (at least the ones I checked) the second coming. and other weather occurrences have tak- It’s not easy at all to sift through the en place, but one of the last entries on the information that comes our way, but for list mentions the hurricanes: “Hurricanes those of us who wish for a stronger alle- Harvey, Irma (biggest ever recorded), Jose, giance to the truth, it’s prudent to identify and Katia are barreling around the Atlan- the most reliable sources that offer verifi - tic with eight more potentials forming.” able messages that we know we can fully Sounds serious, and these storms are trust. And don’t ever be hesitant to take serious for those in harm’s way. But the the time to do some of your own research. facts are that although experts forecast Fact-fi nding is a good skill to have. 2017 as a higher-than-average year for Judah S. Harris is a photographer, fi lm- storms (an average year has 11-12 tropical maker, speaker, and writer. His work is storms in the Atlantic, of which about six widely admired for its narrative quality, are classifi ed as hurricanes and about half distinct composition, and strong voice. For of those as major ones), there are only up photo workshops or event photography in to a few more actual major hurricanes ex- Israel or the US, view bitly.com/jsh-folio.

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 19 Financially Forward Gerald Harris Israel’s Weapons Of Tomorrow Are Here Today uring the wars it fought in the past, Israel before. The initial investment was Israel’s military leaders depended $100,000, but over the years this number Dheavily on the dedication, determi- increased. nation, and heroism of soldiers to be vic- However, the expense proved more than torious. However, if, chas v’shalom, a new worthwhile, as this product has become conflict erupts, those leaders are going to an important component in both the Iron introduce an additional strategy into their Done and David’s Sling missile defense arsenal: using super-advanced weapons systems, and it is also used in the Barak 8 that have never been seen in warfare be- air defense system, which has been sold fore. A hint of these futuristic systems can around the world and has generated bil- already be seen, and they’re showing up in lions in revenues. Dr. Gold says that there equipment geared toward ﬁ ghting on the are many more examples like this. ground, in the air, and below the sea. While it’s widely known that Israel and Many of the technologies these weap- the U.S. are working together to develop ons use are brand-new, while others, devel- missile defense systems and anti-tunnel oped for commercial markets, have been products, the two countries also cooperate adapted for the military. on many other defense and security proj- At least a few of them will look familiar. ects that are not as well known. “If we can have a driver-less car then we can Very sophisticated and emerging new develop an unmanned tank that will meet Very sophisticated and emerging new technologies and products technologies and products like facial recog- all of our operational needs virtually with- like facial recognition and drones nition and drones are going to play a grow- out any danger to human life,” says Briga- ing part in Israel’s new weapons. And so dier General (res.) Dr. Danny Gold, head of are going to play a growing part in Israel’s new weapons will satellites. Dr. Gold says that although the Administration for the Development of the pictures Israel gets from its Ofek 11 “are Weapons and Technological Infrastructure FAT has 25 departments, 500 employees, works to make money for investors. Our the best we’ve ever seen from a satellite,” Is- (MAFAT) at the Defense Ministry. has been awarded 14 Israeli security awards fund is designed to create security for the rael plans on launching new satellites and Dr. Gold, called the “father of the Iron and 19 creative innovation awards. It also State of Israel and to develop technologies introducing related products. Dome” missile defense system, added that has extensive ties overseas, and a huge for the IDF.” major innovations in weaponry are not base of talented researchers and assistants Tanks A Lot limited to tanks. They will also be used in working on a variety of projects, dozens of Small Investment Has Big Payoff One of those is the Carmel. A new ar- a new class of unmanned submarines, air- whom won commendations for their tech- Sometimes, those new technologies pay mored vehicle built in Israel, it is said to craft, and even in weapons that have been nological skills. off big time! For example, many years ago, be so advanced that it represents a quan- around for many decades. “MAFAT is like a large venture capital MAFAT was persuaded to invest in a certain fund that manages about 1,500 projects at product that had never been developed in CONTINUED ON P. 24 Talented And Innovative any given time,” says Dr. Gold. “The only According to Israel National News, MA- difference is that a venture capital fund Gerald Harris is a ﬁ nancial and feature writer. Gerald can be reached at [email protected]

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Viewing Columbus Differently

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 scholars have concluded that Columbus was a Marrano, whose survival depended Spaniards imposed on the natives that they on the suppression of all evidence of his found in America. Columbus is now being Jewish roots in order to survive. The Marra- severely criticized for enslaving and some- nos were Jews who were forced to convert times cruelly killing the Native Americans to Christianity but continued with their he encountered. His legacy has been mired Jewish practices clandestinely. Those who by charges of genocide and exploitation. were exposed for duplicity were harshly The Spaniards were after gold and would treated –they were often burned alive at do just about anything to achieve that goal. the stake and had their land and personal Furthermore, there are those who claim possessions confi scated. that Columbus was not the fi rst to discover Historians base their conclusion of Co- the New World. The natives were certainly lumbus’s Jewish roots on the fi ve revealing there hundreds of years before Columbus provisions in his will. Two of his wishes ever set foot in America and the Vikings stipulated to allocate a tithe of his income conquered lands in America before that, as to the poor and to provide dowries for in- well. There are those who do not want to digent girls, which was in accordance with give Columbus credit for anything. Jewish customs. He also decreed some There is a movement to literally wipe money to a Jew who lived at the entrance out Columbus’s name entirely, especially to the Lisbon Jewish quarter.

We Jews must view Christopher Columbus very differently

on the legal holiday, and to remove all ves- Furthermore, Columbus used a triangu- tiges of his prominence by tearing down lar signature of dots and letters on select- statutes that bear his likeness. ed documents that resembled inscriptions Following this approach is a dangerous found on the gravestones of Jewish ceme- slope. It is an attempt at revisionist history teries in Spain. He ordered his heirs to use and to deny the positive aspects of Colum- the signature in perpetuity. In British histo- bus’s voyages. Our history is both good and rian Cecil Roth’s A History of the Marranos, bad; we should celebrate the good and let he writes that the anagram was a cryptic the bad be a lesson to indicate that we can substitute for the kadish. This surreptitious and have done better. If we change histo- method allowed Columbus sons to say ry to suit our particular political point of kadish for their crypto-Jewish father. view, it will diminish and prevent us from Finally, Columbus left funds for a cru- having the ability to learn from the mis- sade to liberate the Holy Land. This was takes of the past in order to grow from it something that he had hoped to do per- for the betterment of our country. sonally but could not accomplish it in Columbus was a complex man. We must his lifetime. He hoped that his successors remember that he was a product of an evil, would take up the challenge. Carol Del- cruel culture in Spain that burned people aney, a cultural anthropologist at Stanford alive at the stake, amongst other things. He University, conﬁ rms this theory by saying, is also known to have been a religious man, “Columbus’s purpose was to sail to Asia to quoting passages from the Bible in his let- obtain gold in order to ﬁ nance a crusade to ters and in his ship’s log. take back Jerusalem and rebuild the Jewish We Jews must view Christopher Colum- bus very differently. A number of Spanish CONTINUED ON P. 24

Cynthia Zalisky is the Executive Director of the Queens Jewish Community. She can be contacted at [email protected]

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Israel’s Weapons Of Tomorrow Are Here Today

CONTINUED FROM P. 20 hits on intended targets while also reduc- ing collateral damage; it is also cost-ef- tum leap ahead of comparable products. fective. SMASH is expected to be used Carmel requires only a two-man crew extensively by the various Israeli security to operate the radar, and its next-gener- services. ation technologies make it effective in Israel has also developed a number of most kinds of terrain, even rocky. It has unmanned submarines with cutting-edge transparent armor – eliminating the need capabilities. One of them, a miniature sub for windows – uses voice and touch acti- that can dive both rapidly and almost ver- vation systems, and can even detect and tically, will be used in reconnaissance and neutralize missiles shot at it by enemies; mapping missions; it outperforms other that accomplished, it then neutralizes the subs in a variety of important criteria. enemies. The Kirson, another unmanned sub, will In the air, Duke is a new drone built be used for intelligence missions. Kirson with robotic stabilizers that enables it is said to be equipped with some of the to surprise and shoot snipers. While this most advanced technologies in the world. may sound like an obvious product that The systems noted here are certain- should have been made long ago, develop- ly just the tip of the iceberg of the new ing Duke required overcoming very com- weapons that will be used by Israel if a plicated technological obstacles, such as new war erupts. Without question, the stabilizing the drone while it is airborne most spectacular of these are being kept and incorporating remote fi re accuracy. under wraps. SMASH is an electro-optical system These technological marvels are cer- that makes an ordinary assault rifl e state tainly extraordinary, and one hopes they of the art. SMASH dramatically improves will make Israel’s enemies think very care- the odds of hitting a target in virtually any fully before starting any new confl ict. Nev- kind of shooting situation. As with any ri- ertheless, incredible as these weapons are, fl e, the user pulls the trigger, but SMASH let’s pray that sanity will prevail and that fi res only when the target appears in the there should never be a need to use them. crosshairs. Testing to date has shown that Sources: history.com; the system improved the percentage of israelnationalnews.com; wikipedia.com.

Viewing Columbus Differently CONTINUED FROM P. 22 Park. The words “Hate will not be tolerated” were scrawled with white paint on the Holy Temple.” pedestal of the seven-foot bronze statue. Columbus seemed very concerned This negativism has been incited and about the plight of the Jews who were condoned by our local elected ofﬁ cials. to be expelled in August in 1492. It is be- Instead of standing his ground on the lieved that Columbus was hopeful that matter, Mayor de Blasio - who’s of Italian his voyage would ﬁ nd a safe haven for descent and should know better - cow- Jews following the expulsion from Spain. ardly announced that he was appointing Columbus set sail the day after the Span- a panel of diverse ethnic representatives ish expulsion of Jews in 1492, taking many whose bias is obvious to make recom- Jews as crewmembers on his voyages. mendations that the mayor hopes will get For that, Columbus’s voyage was fund- him off the hook. City Council Speaker ed by prominent Jews, including Luis de Melissa Mark-Viverito is another one. She Santángel and Gabriel Sánchez. He also wants to get rid of the structure honoring took astronomic writings and charts Columbus at Columbus Circle. translated by rabbi and astronomer Abra- Enough is enough! Christopher Colum- ham Zacuto. Zacuto had also perfected bus should have a place of honor in the the astrolabe, which gave sailors precise history of the world. We have so many sun positions, helping them ascertain lati- problems to solve today that we don’t need tudes with greater accuracy. to be consumed messing with our past. But the antipathy to Columbus these On behalf of myself and my family, I days has become very violent, especial- wish our readers a Kiteevah v’Chateemah ly since Charlottesville. Just last week, a Tovah - a happy, healthy, and prosperous vandal painted blood on the hands of the New Year, and a year of peace for Klal Yis- Christopher Columbus statue in Central roel.

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Occasionally, we forget that our relationship to G-d is tied to our connection with each other seder or a pre-holiday review of the machzor became even more remote than it would have been, in any case. Upon reflection, however, the recent storms may have been a most effective introduction to the coming days. Prominent among the themes of the High Holidays is malchios, G-d’s Kingship. A focus on G-d’s Kingship requires not only recognition and exploration of the presence of G-d, but also an awareness of the nature of mankind. We remind ourselves that G-d is the Cre- ator, is Eternal, is Omnipotent, and loves and cares for each of us. Simultaneously, during the Ten Days of Repentance, we also remind ourselves that while we are extraor- dinarily gifted and empowered by G-d, we remain wholly dependent upon G-d for every breath we take, every item we possess, and every talent and blessing we enjoy. This focus on Kingship permeates Rosh Ha- Shanah, and is continued by the numerous additions to our prayers through and including the crescendo of the Ne’ela service concluding Yom Kippur. Yet, for many of us, and certainly for me, malchios is an idea easier to intellectual- ize than to internalize. First of all, the very concept of a king is unfamiliar. We do not experience a biblical-like monarchy, and contemporary Western governments may enjoy many powers, but they uniformly fail to inspire the awe and reverence suggested by the concept of malchios. Moreover, we tend to take ourselves really seriously, act- ing (or least pretending) as if we are pretty much in control. We frequently do not leave much room for G-d once we have taken our portion of the credit. And, in any event, it requires a lot of focus to remind ourselves of our human limitations and G-d’s omni- presence since G-d has adopted the elusive state of hester panim (hidden behind a veil). G-d surely hears our pleas to return to a relationship of gilui Shechinah (overt revela- tion), under which G-d’s Kingship would be so much easier to understand. And so the annual High Holiday focus on malchios is somewhat of a challenge. Now, however, recognition of malchios

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By Zisi Naimark and six chairs from Wayfair. My husband, being the primary bread- ith gratitude to Hashem, my winner, was even more appalled by the bill. husband and I welcomed Shain- In true lawyerly fashion, he wondered how Wdy Naimark to our family two the hospital could neglect to inform us of months ago. (And as I sat in the exact same this charge before admittance. But research room as I was in almost three years ago shows that it is the patient’s obligation to when Yosef Naimark was born, I remem- fi nd out the cost before any procedure. And bered Rabbi Berel Wein saying, “Hashem has really, if I had known about the fees, what the best sense of humor.” From hundreds of would I have done differently? Gone to a rooms, I was back in the very same one.) less-desirable hospital? Delivered at home Shaindy came into the world promptly, with a doula? Told the doctors to take a with minimal drama, in good health and kidney out along with the baby and call it something that was actually given. The larg- 3 • Ask for a discount. Many hospitals of- good spirits; may Hashem grant her a long even? No, thanks. er the bill, the more likely that extra items fer a fi nancial aid program, and others con- life with all these qualities. We elected to get over our consternation were accidentally included. sider bills to be just the opening of a nego- In a rose-colored haze of happiness, I sat and focus on thanking Hashem for a healthy 2 • Use the term “up-coding” when ques- tiation process. When I called the hospital gazing at the little wonder, feeling, as I’m baby. Like everyone else (I think), I have a tioning charges. Up-coding means that the and asked for a discount, I expected to be sure many mothers do at this point, like I fantasy plan of things to buy when I am hospital staff is giving the wrong code to the put on hold, transferred, and given opaque had invented the mother-daughter bond. able: art, furniture, art, a cool umbrella col- insurance company. The code tells the in- answers. Instead, the person I was speaking (Spoiler: I have not invented the moth- lection, art, a fancy handbag… but none of surance company what type of service was to (Alistair at Northwell) asked a series of er-daughter bond.) that is necessary. I have my Shaindy. given and what fee is charged. For example, simple questions about the household in- This dopey, smiley, and probably painkill- The very next week, a notice pinged on a visit to the emergency room for two stitch- come and expenses. He put all the numbers er-enhanced miasma was rudely interrupted into his algorithm and told me that I quali- by a hospital administrator presenting my fi ed for a discount. My new bill is 75 percent insurance copay and asking how I’d like to Many hospitals offer a financial aid program, and others consider lower than the original! Instead of costing pay. The number on the page was more so- bills to be just the opening of a negotiation process the amount of a small Vladimir Kagan sofa, bering than a bucket of ice water over the my new bill is the amount of a large section- head. I’m not specifying numbers, but it al from Overstock; not pennies, but a whole was less than a Boca do Lobo armoire and my news app, with an article about negoti- es on a fi nger might be Code B (quick mi- lot less. The entire process took under fi ve more than an Edra rose chair. The years be- ating hospital fees. I gleaned, and used, the nor surgery), while a visit to the emergency minutes, less time than I spent on hold wait- tween Yosef and Shaindy’s respective births following valuable tips. room requiring immediate cardiac surgery ing to be connected to a human in the fi rst saw the infl uence of Obamacare and a new 1 • Request an itemized list of charges. would be Code H (major surgery, and there- place. insurance plan for the family. I was blind- The bill that I saw showed me that my insur- fore more expensive). Up-coding will give a It is worth noting that my news app is set sided. ance covered a large chunk of the fee, with hospital undeserved payment from the in- to notify me on political items and design The administrator kindly explained that I the remaining copay due to the hospital. surance company and from the patient. It is articles. Receiving a notice about bill negoti- could pay a relatively small hospital fee be- But it did not show what exactly was being obviously illegal, but many times it is done ation is far outside of the regular genre and fore being discharged, and then I could call charged: hospital staff including housekeep- accidentally. When you use this term, you certainly not within the limitations that I the hospital billing department to work out ing, nights in the nursery, medications, etc. let the administration staff know that you set when programming the app settings. a payment plan for the balance. This fee was It’s important to request this because there are informed. They are much more likely Hashem clearly wanted me to see the infor- only small in relation to the total. It was still are often mistakes in the billing. Make sure to be helpful and willing to revise the bill mation at the right time – information that enough money to buy a nice dining table that every medication and service listed was if needed. is far too valuable to keep to myself.

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Shema 18 Enter and Exit with Care U’ch’savtam al mezuzos beisecha 3. As we place our hand on the mezu- Let us contemplate the reality that only u’vish’arecha zah, we are reminded that we are guests Hashem lives forever and that we need to And write them on the doorposts of in Hashem’s world. We may call this “our” make use of every minute that He grants your house and upon your gates. home, “our” furniture, and “our” family, us in this world for what He deems import- ***** but in truth it all belongs to Hashem and ant. Let us contemplate how much Hash- mezuzah contains within it the He, in His loving kindness, grants us these em loves each and every one of us. The me- pasuk of Shema and its fi rst two par- gifts. The mezuzah reminds us to recognize zuzah is one of the signs that Hashem has Ashiyos , which contain what we have that Hashem gave me all that I have in this gifted to us to remind us of these truths. It discussed over the last many segments, world. is up to us to derive the maximum benefi t including the Oneness of Hashem and the As we leave our homes in the morning of this sign. Pause, refl ect, reorient, and live love of Hashem. and as we reenter for the last time that day, a happier and more meaningful life. Let us begin by quoting what the Ram- let us place our hand lovingly on our mezu- To access Audio, Video, and Archives of bam and the Sefer Chareidim have to say zah and contemplate the gifts that Hashem previous Tefi lah segments, please visit www. about the mitzvah of mezuzah. has bestowed upon us for yet another day. WeeklyTefi lahFocus.com.

It is up to us to derive the maximum benefit of the mezuzah. Pause, reflect, reorient, and live a happier and more meaningful life

The Rambam’s Mishneh Torah, in Hilchos Mezuzah 6:13, states as follows: “…and remember his love for Him. Thus, he will awake from his sleep and his obses- sion with the vanities of time, and recognize that there is nothing that lasts for eter- nity except the knowledge of the Creator of the world. This will motivate him to regain full awareness and follow the paths of the upright.” The Sefer Chareidim (The Chofetz Chaim gave shiurim from this sefer and praised the sefer highly, as did the Chayei Adam, who wrote a brief summary of it) states: “And a person should place his hand on the mezuzah always when entering the home and when he leaves; and he should remember that Hashem is the homeowner and the man and his family are guests, and all of his property belongs to Hashem while he is watching all of it in the home and in the fi eld, and by so doing, the fulfi lling of the mitzvah of mezuzah is considered for him all day before Hashem as the [perform- ing of the] mitzvos of tzitzis and t’fi lin.” Before addressing the specifi c lessons that they discuss, it appears that the mitzvah of mezuzah is meant for us to pause – albeit slightly – before entering our homes to our family life, and upon leaving our homes to enter our work life (or the so-called “real world”) and reorient ourselves to the absolute truths, to the true meaning of life, and to the purpose of why we are here. Combining these two sources, it seems that there are three (amongst others, to be sure) primary thoughts or focus points that we should contemplate while entering and exiting our homes daily: 1. Hashem is One and He loves me. 2. As we go about our daily activities, we must wake up and remember what is real and what is not. The reality is that Hash- em runs the world and we need to focus on what He deems important and why He has put us here – what our particular mission is. The world that we live in is a temporary illusion and meant to be a means to the eventual end – of the true life in Olam HaBa. The mezuzah reminds us to live it ac- cordingly.

You can direct any questions or comments to Eliezer Szrolovits at 917-551-0150.

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 33 34 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 35 This Week In History Yakov Merkin September 17 - 23 Before we begin, I want to dedicate this week’s column to the memory of my uncle, David Merkin, who passed away suddenly last week. He was completely devoted to family, and his loss leaves a hole in all our lives. It was only about a year ago when, after the passing of my grandfather, David went with my father and sister to France, where they represented the family at a ceremony in which the farmers who saved my grandfather and his parents during the Holocaust were honored with the ofﬁ cial designation of Righteous Among the Nations. It’s inconceivable to have lost him so soon. Baruch Dayan HaEmes.

t is said that those who do not know their history are condemned to repeat it and, as we have discussed before, this applies to events both large and small, though what Ican be learned from them is not always readily apparent. This week, we have a few events whose potential lessons are of a less obvious sort, but we can most certainly ﬁ nd something of use, or at least of relevance to something more contemporary. chine. They failed to inform local authorities of the existence of the device, and it sat in the abandoned building for over a year before two enterprising criminals removed it and sold it to a local junkyard. A few days later, workers at the junkyard dismantled it, and re- September 17, 1923: Major fire strikes northern California moved the cesium-137. Fascinated by the glowing blue stone, and unaware of its dangers, they distributed pieces of it to their friends, relatives, and neighbors. It eventually spread so far that contamination from it was found as far as 100 miles away. A few days after the cesium was shared around, the wife of the junkyard’s owner noticed that many of her friends and relatives were getting sick. She sought medical assistance, and the doctors found that they were suffering from acute radiation poisoning. Four people, including a child, would eventually die from the exposure. Dozens were hospitalized, and more than 100,000 people in the city had to be monitored for contamination. More than 40 homes were so badly contaminated that they had to be demolished, and there were severe after- effects. Many people suffered psychologically out of fear of contamination, a fear that became so widespread that other cities shunned the people and products of Goiânia afterward. In the aftermath of this disaster, Brazil overhauled its laws regarding the storage of radiation sources to ensure that something like this would not happen again. September 19, 1862: Union forces defeat Confederate force at Battle of Iuka

We begin this week on September 17, 1923. On this date, a major fi re struck northern California, killing two, causing $10 million in damage, and came very close to overtak- ing the University of California at Berkeley. The precise cause of the confl agration has never been conclusively determined, but it is known to have begun in dry forests to the northeast of the city of Berkeley. The fi re spread rapidly, due to strong winds that blew cinders into the air, starting more blazes, which quickly spread to houses. The strong winds also caused the red-hot cinders to jump from house to house unpre- dictably. Local homeowners tried to fi ght the fi res with buckets and garden hoses, but the fi re was far too large for them to effectively combat. Hundreds of University of California students also joined the effort, as the fl ames came right up to the campus gates. Firefi ghters were dispatched from Oakland and San Francisco, but a lack of available water badly hampered even their efforts. Almost 1,000 houses in the area suc- cumbed to the fi re, including half of the fra- ternity and sorority houses nearby. Fortunately for the campus, however, the wind shifted just before it was engulfed, sparing it from damage. In the aftermath of the fi re, however, there was extensive looting, and the National Guard had to be called in to put a stop to it. We next go to September 19, 1862, the date on which Union forces defeated a Confeder- ate force at the Battle of Iuka. That fall, Confederate General Braxton Bragg had invaded Kentucky in an attempt to prevent the Confederacy from losing additional territory in the September 18, 1987: Radioactive material West. They hoped to keep Union troops in western Tennessee and northern Mississippi occupied so that they could not reinforce Union General Don Carlos Buell, who was at poisons hundreds in Brazil the time in central Tennessee and moving to stop the invasion of Kentucky. The battle, Our next event took place on September 18, 1987. On that date, a piece of radioactive which took place at Iuka, Mississippi, involved forces commanded by Confederate Gener- cesium-137 was removed from an abandoned cancer therapy machine in Brazil. Hundreds als Sterling Price and Earl van Dorn, and the Union force was led by General Ulysses S. of people would eventually be poisoned by it, highlighting the potential danger of even Grant. While the Confederates’ main goal was to prevent the Union from reinforcing its small amounts of radioactive material. Two years earlier, the Goiânia Institute of Radio- troops in Kentucky, they also hoped to in- therapy had moved to a new location and left behind an obsolete cesium-137 therapy ma- vade western Tennessee. Grant managed to CONTINUED ON P. 37

36 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 This Week In History thwart both of these aims by dispatching troops under General William Rosecrans to ad- September 22, 1828: vance on Price’s army at Iuka from the south, and sent a force led by General Edward Ord to attack them from the west. However, poor communication between the Union groups Shaka Zulu is assassinated and numerous delays prevented a coordinated attack, which gave Price the opportunity We go back a century for our next event, to preemptively launch an assault on Rosecrans on September 19. Amid intense fi ghting, the assassination of Shaka Zulu on Septem- Rosecrans managed to hold Price’s attacking force at bay, and infl icted heavy damage on ber 22, 1828. Shaka, who was the founder of the Rebels, who lost 1,500 of their 14,000 engaged troops, while Union losses amount- the Zulu Kingdom in southern Africa, was ed to only 790 out of 17,000. General Price, realizing that another force under General murdered by his two half-brothers, Dingane Ord was nearby, and that there was a danger of becoming trapped, abandoned Iuka that and Mhlangana, after his mental illness evening. Ord would have actually joined in the battle, which would have resulted in an threatened to destroy the Zulu tribe. When even greater defeat for the Confederates, but a strange natural phenomenon known as an Shaka became chief of the Zulus 12 years acoustic shadow prevented him from hearing the sounds of the battle taking place only earlier, the tribe had fewer than 1,500 mem- a few miles away. Acoustic shadows are formed when sound is unable to reach certain bers, making it one of hundreds of smaller locations due to terrain features or atmospheric conditions. Not hearing the sounds, Ord tribes in southern Africa. Shaka proved to simply assumed that smoke that he saw was Rosecrans burning excess captured supplies. be a brilliant military organizer, however, and formed well-organized and commanded regiments and armed his warriors with assegais, a new type of long-bladed short spear September 20, 2002: that was both deadly and easy to use. The Zulus then began to conquer neighboring tribes, and incorporated survivors of those conquests into the Zulu ranks. By 1823, Shaka Massive glacial avalanche kills over 100 in Russia controlled nearly all of modern-day Natal. A side effect of the Zulu conquests, however, Our next event takes us closer to the pre- was a great destabilization of the region, prompting a large wave of migration by tribes sent, to September 20, 2002. On this date, uprooted by the conquests. In 1827, after his mother, Nandi, died, Shaka lost his mind. a massive glacial avalanche slammed into In his grief, the Zulu leader had hundreds of his fellow Zulus killed, and outlawed both and buried a Russian village, killing over 100 the planting of crops and the use of milk for a year. He ordered the murder of all women people. Earlier that year, the North Ossetia found pregnant, along with their husbands, and sent his army out on an extensive mili- region of Russia was hit hard by fl oods. This, tary operation – then immediately sent them out again upon their return. This was the along with a hot, early summer, precluded last straw for the other Zulu chiefs, and his half-brothers had him murdered, after which the September disaster. Large glaciers that Dingane, one of the brothers, took Shaka’s place as king of the Zulus. sit above the town of Vladikavkaz had great- ly increased water runoff due to the higher temperature, which caused the glaciers to September 23, 1779: US ship Bonhomme Richard start to melt and weaken. On September 20, a 400-foot-tall chunk of ice broke off from is victorious over two British warships one of the glaciers and plunged down the mountain. The avalanche picked up speed as it descended, peaking at nearly 100 miles per hour, and traveled for an unprecedented 20 miles, destroying all in its path. The village of Karmadon, directly in its path, was completely buried by many tons of ice and stone. Rescue efforts started immediately and continued for weeks, but only 27 people were pulled out alive. Finding the remains of victims proved just as diffi cult, and even weeks later, only half of the 150 people reported missing had been recov- ered. All in all, this avalanche caused $20 million in damages. Had it continued just a few miles farther, however, and hit the larger town of Vladikavkaz, the death and damage toll would have been far worse.

September 21, 1942: We conclude this week on September 23, 1779, the date of the monumental victory of the US ship Bonhomme Richard, commanded by John Paul Jones, over the British warships US B-29 Superfortress makes debut flight in Seattle Serapis and Countess of Scarborough, off of England’s east coast. John Paul Jones, born in We next come to September 21, 1942, the Scotland, fi rst sailed to America as a cabin boy and lived for a time in Virginia, where his date on which the US B-29 Superfortress, brother had a business. Later, he served on slave and merchant ships, proving himself an the largest bomber used in World War II able seaman. After he killed a sailor while suppressing a mutiny, however, he moved to by any nation, made its debut fl ight in Se- the American colonies to expect possible British prosecution. When the Revolutionary attle, Washington. The concept of the B-29 War broke out in 1775, he traveled to Philadelphia and was commissioned as a lieutenant was fi rst conceived in 1939 by General Hap in the new Continental Navy, where he quickly distinguished himself in battles against Arnold, who was concerned that a German the British in the Bahamas, the Atlantic Ocean, and the English Channel. In August 1779, victory in Europe would mean that the he assumed command of the Bonhomme Richard, and sailed around the British Isles. On United States wouldn’t have any bases on September 23, he engaged the Serapis and the Countess of Scarborough, which were escort- the eastern side of the Atlantic from which ing the Baltic merchant fl eet. Early in the battle, the Bonhomme Richard sustained heavy to counterattack if the need arose. Thus, the damage, at which point the captain of the Serapis asked Jones if he intended to surrender. United States needed a plane that could travel faster, farther, and higher than any other Jones famously replied, “I have not yet begun to fi ght,” from his disabled ship. After sev- plane available, and Boeing began designing a large, four-engine bomber. The plane was eral more hours of furious fi ghting, it was the British ships that surrendered. Afterward, extraordinary, able to carry loads almost equal to its own weight, at altitudes of 30,000- the Americans transferred over to the Serapis from the Bonhomme Richard, which sank 40,000 feet. It also sported a pilot’s console in the rear of the plane, in the event that the the next day from the damage it sustained. Following this, Jones was hailed as a great hero front pilot was taken out of commission, and it had the fi rst radar bombing system of any in France, but recognition in the United States took longer. He served the United States American bomber plane. While it made its test run on September 21, it wouldn’t make until 1787, then briefl y in the Russian navy, before he moved to France, where he died at its fi rst actual bombing run until June 5, 1944, over Bangkok, in preparation for the Allied age 45 in 1792, amidst the chaotic French Revolution. He was buried in an unmarked grave, liberation of Burma from the Japanese. Just over a week later, the B-29 made its fi rst bomb- but in 1905 his remains were located and escorted back to the United States by American ing run against the Japanese mainland, and this, along with its later missions, served to warships, then enshrined in a crypt at the US Naval Academy in Annapolis, Maryland. boost the morale of the Americans, who were now on the offensive. At around this time, ======the Mariana Islands in the South Pacifi c were recaptured by the United States to use as That’s all for this week; I hope you found these events as interesting as I did. Hopefully air bases for the B-29s, and provided a perfect place from which to strike at Japan on a next week will be better than this past one, and I hope you will join me again next week... regular basis. Once it was ready, B-29s carried out many bombing runs on Japan, and while in history. capable of high-altitude precision bombing, they often dropped incendiary bombs from a mere 5,000 feet, setting Tokyo ablaze in an effort to break the will of the country. In one Yakov Merkin was a lifelong resident of Forest Hills, prior to making aliyah in August 2016. He of these raids, in March of 1945, 80,000 people were killed. The B-29 is more famous – and holds a Bachelor’s Degree with Honors in History from Queens College, as well as a Master’s Degree infamous – however, for its use in carrying and dropping the atomic bombs on Hiroshima in History, also from Queens College. He is a writer of science fi ction, fantasy, and historical fantasy and Nagasaki (it was the only plane capable of carrying the massive bombs). These actions novels, and discusses writing and history, among other things, on Twitter @yakovmerkin. His fi rst ensured that, for better or for worse, the B-29 would always have a place in history. science fi ction novel, A Greater Duty, is available on Amazon.

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 37 38 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Hooked On Healing Caroline Schumsky, LCSW, MS Aspire To Inspire…Before You Expire ould you like some chia seeds Let us count the ways. Pollyanna anyone? If you fi nd yourself becoming a one-man sprinkled on that gluten-free Do you know anyone who tries to appear so judge and jury, looking down at others for Wsalad with a few drops of my su- “spiritually aligned,” spouting affi rmations not being as “spiritually” evolved as you per overpriced coconut oil? Indeed, it takes constantly, while posting “inspirational” imagine yourself to be, then you may need a a gutload (quite literally) of self-discipline quotes on Facebook daily? They then pro- crash course in humility. to eat only raw or natural foods, but what ceed to tell you that everything is always This ole world can sometimes feel like about that sneer you caught out of the cor- sunny and positive no matter what. Grant- a mess of chaos and darkness. But you are ner of her eye when you crunched into your ed, it is awesome to feel so much gratitude, stronger than you know. Keep your chin up, juicy hamburger? Hmmm. Did your yoga but if you hear that automated reply, “Every- sweet friends. Otherwise you’re tion, a dinner, or even a title. teacher instruct you not to judge, compete, thing’s great” every time you ask how that just looking at your toes all day. They are patient and under- or compare yourself to others and then someone is, you may fi nd that underneath You can rise up and face your standing of others words, proceed to do a showy headstand for three the bravado lurks some pain or even unad- feelings. If you need to pause actions, and even reactions. minutes straight followed by what felt like dressed heartache. and press that reset button, go How do you feel after being a marathon meditation session? Then there are the perennial advice giv- right ahead. You are a work in with someone? When you are How do you suppose those FBI dudes ers, who will dole out their band-aid solu- progress, just like everything in the company of someone know a counterfeit bill when they see one? tions to your woes, whether you asked for it else in the universe. truly refi ned, you will most Simple: By spending hours upon hours or not. Some of them seem to know all the What does being spiritual mean to you? likely feel uplifted, inspired, calmer - even studying real ones. To know a phony, we right lingo and feel things “vibrationally.” Are you kind to everyone, to your mind, at peace. You may feel lighter and brighter must fi rst know what is real. We, too, must They are convinced that they are offering body, and soul, and to the earth you live on? about your life altogether. Trust your soul. know our own personal truth before we can support and nurturance to the needy souls Are you still competing - trying to be the Enough blaming the outside world. Let us reject what we perceive as fake. of humanity, but oftentimes they are simply kindest or wisest of them all? Okay, this is build our inner world instead. But do we? Who is the real you and how avoiding their own inner emptiness or con- going to sound new-age-y, but each one of The L-rd has no iPhone but you can still are you judged? By your money, status in fusion. If your emotional and spiritual bat- us has been given unique soul gifts to share talk to Him. He has no Facebook, but He is the community, or how many Instagram tery feels drained after being with someone, with the world. And it is truly impossible to still your friend. He has no Twitter but you followers you have? How about we measure you may need to remove yourself from their judge others, because everyone’s growth and can still follow Him - anytime. This is my how much patience, peace, kindness, and “orbit.” If, however, you truly feel heard and life lessons are incomparable. So is it real or prayer for this time of year: “L-rd, please let goodness you have in your life? How much sense that person is wise and present with is it Memorex? (Wow…how dated is that...) them see You in me…” joy do you spread? you, then by all means - allow your soul to How do we know the real deal? Blessings to you all, sweet friends. Anoth- We humans all put on a show. Indeed, we be stirred. You will know if they truly try to True spiritual folk do not need recogni- er chance for us to get it right. would do anything to hide our wounds. True help connect you with your inner divinity. self-acceptance and self-love are not easy to Spirituality is not designed to be studied Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an offi ce in Queens. She come by. And we will go to any lengths not as if it were outside of ourselves. Learning works with individuals, couples, and families. Appointments are available throughout the week to let them see that “I simply don’t feel good concepts without applying them directly to and weekends. She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at [email protected] or at face- enough” deep inside of me. Raise your hand ourselves or to our everyday lives can make book.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing. if you can easily ask others for help. How us feel morally superior to others. We may about showing vulnerability or intimacy become addicted to dogma in such a way when it’s called for? that we do not grow or heal. Do you know Is it possible to be spiritually arrogant? the path or do you walk the path?

Yonah: Getting the Message

CONTINUED FROM P. 10 template that he has embarked on a wrong course? right and wrong, and it only wants to do What Yonah needed was suffering. Pain exactly that. The body, on the other hand, is powerful tool; it can cause a person to is very different. It is imprinted with ap- introspect, to reconsider, to think things petites and cravings, needs, and desires. It through, and view them in a different was formed with all of the instincts need- light. And it caused him to reweigh the ed for its preservation. It only knows these issue and recognize his mistake. Hashem passions and is solely focused on one agen- put Yonah into the female fi sh so that the da: staying alive. distress would allow him to rethink things The conscious “I”, which thinks and and recognize his mistake. He knew it all feels, is made up of both of these parts. along, but had pushed it down. The dis- Deep within me is desire to accomplish comfort caused him to revisit the issue and great things, to help others - to serve Hash- confront the truth. em exactly as He wishes I should. And there This concept is very applicable to our is another part of me that just couldn’t care lives. less. There is a full half of me that only Hashem is more kindly, giving, and knows and experiences physical desires. I generous than any human we could ever am in caught right in the middle of these imagine. And everything that Hashem does competing voices, and I have the free will is for the best. Yet, there are times when to choose which side I will listen to. Hashem will put us into circumstances that are “not comfortable,” situations of Understanding Yonah pain and distress, and it was all orches- This seems to be the answer to the trated for one reason: so that we rethink question on Rashi. As great as Yonah was, things, that we look deep within ourselves, he erred. While his motivation was pure, and we do that which deep down we know he took a stand against Hashem. And, as is the right thing. righteous, and virtuous as his motivations When a human being experiences pain were, he was wrong, and on some level he the fi rst question he should ask himself knew it. Deep within him, he knew the is why? Why am I suffering? Why is life right thing to. But that was the problem. hard? There may be times when we don’t Because of his devotion, he was willing know the answer. And there also may be to pay any price, endure any hardship to times when the answer is right there with- keep his commitment. He had made his in us, but we aren’t listening. Sometimes decision and was willing to sacrifi ce all for the pain of the situation itself is just what it - but it was wrong. How do you get him we need to tap into that inner truth and to reconsider? How do you get him to con- accept that which is ultimately best for us.

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 39 40 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Dating Today Goldy Krantz That’s What You Get For Snooping CONTINUED FROM P. 1 practice a couple of times. Be prepared for Rachel to be a bit I’ve been dating a girl named Rachel for shocked by your actions and even a bit an- a few months. At fi rst it was casual and we gry that you read her text. When someone said that wherever it leads, it leads. Well, is angry they may have selective hearing for the last few weeks it has gotten serious and so she may not have understood that for me. I really like spending time with her it was an accidental snoop. and fi nd myself thinking about her when You mentioned that your feelings have we aren’t together. changed for Rachel and while it started The other night when we were out, Ra- out as causal dating (whatever that means), chel left her phone on the table when she your feelings for her have grown. You also went to use the bathroom. During the time wrote, “I thought it was understood that she was gone, the phone lit up with a text. the relationship has gotten serious and my I did not read the text. But the phone kept feelings have changed for her. I basically lighting up every minute or so to announce have told her as much.” Barry, I have come this new text. I won’t lie; after the phone Be prepared for Rachel to be a bit shocked by your actions to fi nd out that unless you specifi cally tell lit up a couple of times, my eye did catch and even a bit angry that you read her text someone something, they may not know some of the message. It was from anoth- it or be able to pick up on your hints. If er guy and the text said something to the you truly like Rachel and want to date her effect of it was great seeing her the other feelings have evolved for her in the past intentionally saw the text or if you should exclusively, come straight out and tell her night and she should give him a call some- few weeks. I’m not sure if you should bring mention the text fi rst and then your feel- this. time. When Rachel came back to the table, up your feelings fi rst and then how you un- ings. This may be a speech that you want to Hatzlachah to you and to all! she did look at her phone, but didn’t mention the text or anything and we continued on with our night. I don’t know what to do. I didn’t look on purpose; the light and phone caught my eye after lighting up. Like I said, at fi rst we were dating casually. It was a date here and there. But like I said before, I really like her and I think I can see her in my future. I thought it was understood that the relationship has gotten serious and my feelings have changed for her. I basically have told her as much. I don’t know if I should mention anything about the text because she may think I was snooping. We have been spending more time together. If not for this text, I wouldn’t think I had anything to worry about. We’ve gone out a couple more times since then and I can’t get the text out of my head. I’m worried. Is she dating another guy? Could it have just been a friend of hers? What do you think I should do? Barry

Thank you for the email, Barry. Yes, this is quite the conundrum you’ve gotten yourself into. I understand that you didn’t snoop on purpose, but then again, you did look at the message when it popped up. Yes, I know that you didn’t intend to look, but you did. I am not sure what you (or others) consider “casual dating.” Does that mean not dating each other exclusively? Does that mean just going out when you’re bored? I remember that I dated for one reason and one reason only: marriage. Since you didn’t deﬁ ne what you meant by casual dating, I will interpret it to mean that you were “hanging out” with each other, and while you may have gone out to dinners or the movies or had a picnic or taken a cooking class together or have gone rock climbing…. you were also “hanging out” with other girls on the nights that you weren’t with Rachel. And can I imagine that she was “hanging out” with other fellows besides you when you weren’t together? It may be an awkward conversation, but I think you should tell Rachel what happened. But you should include how your

Goldy Krantz is an LMSW and a lifelong Queens resident, guest lecturer, and author of the shidduch dating book, The Best of My Worst and children’s book Where Has Zaidy Gone? She can be contacted at [email protected].

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 41 Frontlines Joseph M. Frager Time For Reform To Get With The Program resident Trump made the that are dependent on the Chief much-anticipated call to Rabbinate, nor with the practice of Pwish the Jews a Happy New their ritual.” This mainly related to Year. He stated that the tradition of the Western Wall. This particular Judaism “strengthens our nation “fi rman” was upheld again in 1889, and inspires us all.” 1893, and 1909. Unfortunately, the Reform When the British took over, Movement boycotted the call. The they made it clear that the courts President made sure to say, “We had no business being involved in forcefully condemn those who Israel’s holy sites. During the Brit- seek to promote anti-Semitism.” ish Mandate, “No cause or matter The Reform have not yet fi gured in connection with the holy places out that President Trump is one or religious buildings or sites in of the Jewish People’s best friends Palestine or the rights or claims ever in the White House. relating to the different religious I saw this happen in New York communities in Palestine shall be City when Rudy Giuliani was elect- heard or determined by any court ed Mayor with about 40 percent of in Palestine.” the Jewish vote in 1993 and rose to Rabbi Cyrus Adler’s acceptance over 70 percent of the Jewish vote, of Orthodox control over the Kosel including many in the Reform should lead to an open-and-shut and Conservative Movements, in case. We Jews have too many ene- 1997. In the meantime, the Reform mies trying to destroy us. Igniting leaders continue to pressure and a controversy over the Kosel only harass the prime minister of Israel feeds fuel to our enemies’ fi re. to allow egalitarian prayer services It is time to stop the shenan- at the main section of the West- We Jews have too many enemies trying to destroy us. igans and get with the program. ern Wall. The Reform leaders have Igniting a controversy over the Kosel only feeds fuel to our enemies’ fire The status quo has served the ma- gone to Israel’s Supreme Court to jority of Jews around the world change the status quo that has quite well. The Reform have many served Israel well since the expan- by none other than the Conserva- trol. stating that “there shall be no in- problems to address. The Western sion of the Western Wall Plaza tive Movement! Rabbi Cyrus Ad- One could go back even fur- terference with the Jews’ places of Wall should not be one of them. soon after the Six-Day War of 1967. ler, who took over after Solomon ther in time and understand that devotional visits and pilgrimage, A happy and blessed New Year As it turns out, the control of Schechter to lead the Conservative the Western Wall was given to the which are situated in the localities to all! the Western Wall was granted to Movement, was indeed fully in fa- Orthodox to administer. In 1889, the Orthodox as far back as 1924 vor of the Orthodox being in con- Abdul Hamid II issued a “fi rman” Joseph M. Frager is a physician and lifelong activist.

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t’s a common misconception that all your fi nances any longer? Planning early sions, manage investments, fi le tax returns, your efforts to create a comprehensive with a comprehensive, trust-based estate mortgage and sell real estate, and address Iestate plan are focused on what hap- plan will include the necessary documents other fi nancial matters that are described pens after your death. That is very much to make sure your wishes are carried out in the document. Powers of Attorney come not the case, and it’s a dangerous miscon- while you’re alive and well, or, if you’re in two forms: “durable” and “springing.” A ception to plan by. alive, but not so well — even if you aren’t durable power of attorney goes into effect Estate planning does not equate to death able to express those wishes at the time, as soon as it is signed, while a springing planning. There are several ways in which and, after you’re gone. power of attorney only goes into effect af- your estate plan can drastically impact you You need a plan that will protect your ter you have been determined to be men- and your loved ones’ quality of life well privacy, free you from court interference, tally incapacitated. Keep in mind that med- before you pass away. That is why it’s also help you protect and manage your assets, ical powers of attorney can also be called crucial that your plan includes up-to-date save you money on taxes, and enable you health a care proxy or advance directive. provisions for what will take place if you to name the people you trust the most to Living Will: This legal document me- don’t die. HIPAA Authorization: Federal and state laws dictate who can receive medical in- The relationship There are several ways in which your estate plan formation, without the written consent of between incapacity and your estate plan can drastically impact you and your loved ones’ quality of life the patient. This legal document gives your Many people become legally incapaci- doctor, or other health care provider, the tated, where they lose the ability to make well before you pass away authority to disclose your health informa- their own legal decisions on either a tem- tion to the agent selected by you. porary or permanent basis. This legal inca- Nomination of Guardians: You can pacity is not the same as being disabled for act on your behalf. Without a comprehen- morializes your medical decisions about nominate guardians for yourself as well as social security or workers compensation sive incapacity plan in place, a judge can end of life care. You can make your goals for minor children. You may also want to purposes. Rather, it is the result of coma, appoint someone to take control of your clear to address issues such as keeping you create a legal pet trust if you have strong cognitive impairment caused by degenera- assets and make all personal and medical as comfortable as possible, or not extend- feelings about who you’d like to care for tive illnesses, or other situations in which decisions for you through a court-super- ing your life with useless medical heroics. your animals, should you become incapaci- a person is no longer able to make their vised guardianship or conservatorship. You And, if you are Jewish and observant, you tated. wishes known due to loss of physical or and your loved ones could lose valuable can designate a reliable Rabbinic Authority The information in this article is intend- mental function. time, money, and control, until you either in a Halachic Healthcare Proxy/Living Will. ed solely for your information. It does not As an estate planning lawyer, I often fi nd regain capacity or die. All of these legal documents are designed constitute legal advice, and it should not be myself advising my clients, who are adults to provide a meaningful sharing of your relied on without a discussion of your spe- and children of elderly parents, about man- The components of your plan wishes, to help guide your decision makers. cifi c situation with an attorney. aging their parents’ fi nances and medical that impact incapacity decisions. A Revocable Living Trust: In the typi- Let’s consider Ira, struggling with mem- cal situation, you will be the trustmaker, ory loss - so prevalent among the elderly - the trustee (to manage the trust), and the one of the primary reasons adult children benefi ciary of your revocable living trust. are called to take over fi nances. Ira’s situ- But, if you ever become incapacitated, your ation was particularly diffi cult, and com- designated successor trustee will step in to pounded because he couldn’t remember manage the trust assets for your benefi t. things, such as how much he owned, what Powers of Attorney: Whether medical or or who he owed, or when a bill was due. fi nancial (you should have both in place), So, what if you don’t die and are instead powers of attorney give your agent the in need of help because you can’t manage authority to pay bills, make fi nancial deci-

Monet Binder, ESQ., has a practice in Queens, New York, dedicated to protecting families, their legacies and values. All halachic documents are approved by the Bais Havaad Halacha Center in Lakewood, under the direction of Rabbi Dovid Grossman and the guidance of Harav Shmuel Kaminetsky, shlita, as well as other leading halachic authorities. She can be reached by email at [email protected] or by phone at 718-514-7575.

The information in this article is intended solely for your information. It does not constitute legal advice, and it should not be relied on without a discussion of your speciﬁ c situation with an attorney.

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Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld acts as “victim” to “aggressor” Rabbi Hayim Schwartz as they practice maneuvers at the Synagogue Security program, Under Attack—Every Second Counts. Community leaders at the Synagogue Security program: (L-R): David Reich, President, Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills; Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld, Mara D’asra, Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills; Eilon Even-esh, Shom- Photo credit: Dennis Shore er360; Yehuda Friedman, Orthodox Union Regional Director of Queens and Long Island; Rebbetzin Judi Steinig, nizations typically go into detail to demystify the weapons by ex- Associate Director, Community Services, Orthodox Union; Cynthia Zalisky, Executive Director, Queen Jewish on running, hiding, and locking plaining the mechanics of the pis- Community Council; Rabbi David Keehn, Former President, QJCC; Rabbi Hayim Schwartz, Executive Director, down, fi ghting remains a vague tol and revolver. He showed how Rabbinical Seminary of America concept. Therefore, the focus of a gun operates using a demonstra- this particular program was on tion gun. He showed the audience By Susie Garber dinated the event. pated. Captain Eilon Even-Esh exactly how to fi ght, should that how to disarm a gunman through While no one wants to be con- (USMC), Staff Sergeant (IDF), become necessary. Specifi cally, he many frightening scenarios: gun n Monday evening, Sep- fronted with this type of situa- demonstrated various strategies explained how to disarm and neu- to the torso, gun to the back of tember 11, at the Young Is- tion, Mr. Friedman explained the and tactics for how to fi ght off tralize an attacker. the head, and gun to the face from Orael of Kew Gardens Hills, necessity of this program, saying, a shooter entering a shul. He be- Captain Even-Esh had a system- a distance. Participants practiced the OU and the Queens Jewish “It is critically important for shuls gan by explaining that, currently, atic approach to the training. He these techniques with a partner Community Council hosted an in- to think ahead and be adequately most security organizations teach started with a common wrist-grab until they felt comfortable. formative and hands-on program prepared. With heightened secu- the common three-fold strategy escape and extended that con- Next, he applied these con- on how to deal with an active rity awareness and threats facing in case of an active shooter: run, cept to weapon-disarms. He ex- cepts to an active shooter scenar- shooter in a shul setting. Mr. Yehu- our community, we feel this type hide, and fi ght. The fi rst prefer- plained that if you are grabbed io where the attacker is running da Friedman, OU regional director of program is essential.” ence is to run. If this isn’t possi- by someone, you circle around through an area and shooting. for Queens and Long Island, and Representatives from many ble, the next best tactic is to hide his wrist through the thumb. He He explained that while we are Mrs. Judi Steinig, associate direc- shuls in Kew Gardens Hills and and lock down. The last defense then showed step-by-step how to taught to be non-violent, this is tor of community services, coor- some from Long Island partici- is to fi ght. While security orga- gain control of a gun. He went on a rodef situation. In other words, this is a situation where your life is in danger, and the focus is to get the gun out of the attacker’s hand. As with CPR, these techniques require practice and review. Al- though we all hope to never need to put this into practice, it is of ut- most importance to be prepared. All shuls are encouraged to offer this type of program. To contact the OU to set up a program like this at your shul, please email Mr. Friedman at Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld getting hands-on training from Eilon Even-esh [email protected]. YU And Tel Aviv University Launch Landmark Cooperating English Degree Program In Electrical Engineering ew partnership program expands YU’s “Our unique program will allow stu- program accessible to all, the classes at of Israel to YU’s values.” global impact and commitment to Is- dents to begin their undergraduate studies TAU will be conducted in English. Students In order to give students a leg up, pro- Nraeli institutions in a warm, Torah environment and help enrolled in the program will not only ben- gram organizers have developed a curricu- Yeshiva University (www.yu.edu) has ex- them make an easy transition to Israel to efi t from studying with TAU’s world-class lum that provides invaluable real-world extended its global connections by formaliz- complete their degree. The program will teaching staff but will also have full access perience that matches student with either ing a partnership with Tel Aviv University also provide students with invaluable con- to the robust network of YU alumni across an Israeli company or an Israeli academic (TAU) that would allow YU students in- nections in the fi eld of engineering,” said the globe, including those in academia and institution for a two-semester project, al- tent on moving to Israel to complete their Dr. Edward Berliner, Director of Science the business world. lowing students to network with profes- bachelor’s degree at TAU’s world-renowned Management and a Clinical Professor of “This partnership refl ects YU’s commit- sionals and forge connections that will School of Electrical Engineering. Physics at Yeshiva University. “Instead of ment to serving as a portal to the wider prove critically important for securing fu- Set to launch this fall, the landmark having to start from scratch after making world,” said YU President Rabbi Dr. Ari ture employment. program provides a solution for students aliyah, students can continue their stud- Berman. “We are a globally focused institu- “Tel Aviv University constantly strives to who decide to make aliyah prior to com- ies and move seamlessly over to Tel Aviv tion with much to teach to, and much to expand its international research ties by es- pleting their studies at Yeshiva University, University and, by extension, to the Israeli learn from, the broader world of humanity. tablishing joint degree programs with lead- setting the stage for a smooth absorption work force.” Partnering with a renowned institution in ing institutions. This new engineering pro- process by removing the hassles associat- To earn a degree from Tel Aviv Universi- one of the world’s premier start-up nations gram with Yeshiva University will further ed with transferring academic credits to ty, students must fulfi ll TAU prerequisites is a step in the right direction for the YU expand our reach and set new standards Israeli colleges and helping them establish at Yeshiva University for at least two years of tomorrow. In addition, this refl ects our for joint degree programming,” said Prof. important academic and industry con- before transitioning to TAU’s Electrical En- commitment to collaboration with Israeli Raanan Rein, Vice President of Tel Aviv Uni- tacts. gineering program. In order to make the institutions and the centrality of the State versity.

44 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Recent Happenings Agudath Israel Hosts NY Assembly Members To Explore Relief For Tuition Paying Parents

Agudath Israel staff and advocates conferring on strategies for tuition relief. (L-R): Isaac Assembly member Joe Lentol (Williamsburg), Chair of the event, speaking. Sofer, CEO Rabbi Shia Markowitz, Director of NY Government Relations Rabbi Yeruchim On his right, Assembly member David Weprin (Queens). Silber, Executive Vice President Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel, Vice President for Community To his left, Assembly member Steve Cymbrowitz (Brooklyn). Affairs Rabbi Shmuel Lefkowitz, Board of Trustees Member, Chaskel Bennett and Rabbi Josh Mehlman, Chair of the Flatbush Jewish Community Coalition. ew York Assembly Members from choose not to avail themselves of the public around the city met with Agudah school system, save the state and municipal- Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel, the Agudah’s by phone, by Yveline Dalmacy of her staff), Nactivists and community leaders to ities over $7 billion. This is more than the executive Vice President, Rabbi Shmuel chair of the group Joe Lentol (Williams- explore options for relief for tuition paying state spends on public health, other edu- Lefkowitz, Vice President for Community burg), Stacey Pheffer Amato (Far Rockaway, parents and plan strategically for how best cation, local government assistance, parks, Services; Rabbi Yeruchim Silber, director Howard Beach), Hudy Rosenberg of Nily to accomplish this in the upcoming legisla- environment, economic development, and of NY Government Relations; and Chaskel Rozic’s offi ce (Queens), Aravella Simotas tive session. public safety. Bennett, member of the Agudah’s Board of (Queens), Helene Weinstein (Flatbush), and As the group explained, New York State Over 30 states now have some sort of Trustees and passionate advocate, presented David Weprin (Queens) approached the situ- will spend over $28 billion on kindergarten school choice or education scholarship pro- their concerns to the elected offi cials. ation from a practical perspective and spoke to grade 12 public education in FY 2018. This grams, with the latest being Illinois, which As Rabbi Lefkowitz explained, “while at of the need to work together to serve their is, by far, the single most signifi cant New just last month passed a $100 million educa- the same time supporting public schools, it constituents. York State budget item. tion Scholarship Tax Credit. is high time that something be done to help As the legislative season starts, Agudath Tuition payments are also, by far, the sin- Those in the room agreed: It is high time parents who send their children to private Israel will be doing everything possible to gle largest item in the budgets of many frum for the State of New York to join those ranks. and parochial schools.” achieve relief for tuition-paying parents. families. They discussed the impact that various Assembly members Michael Cusick (Stat- If you are interested in getting involved, At the same time, New York State’s 410,451 forms of relief would have on the families en Island), Steven Cymbrowitz (Brooklyn), please email Rabbi Yeruchim Silber at ysil- nonpublic school students, whose parents who send their children to private school. Pamela Harris (Coney Island – represented [email protected].

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By Manny Behar Thought at the Hebrew University in Jerusa- lem. He would go on to become an instruc- s the Jewish world prepares to greet tor of Jewish Thought at Midreshet Moriah the New Year, America’s fl agship and lecturer of Rabbinic Literature at Her- AJewish institution, Yeshiva Univer- zog College’s Jewish Studies Department. In sity, began a new era with the investiture 2015, Rabbi Berman took on a major chal- of Queens’ own, Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman, as its lenge when he became Rosh HaMerkaz at fi fth President. Heichal Shlomo – Center of Jewish Heritage Rabbi Berman’s parents, Tobias and Ro- in Jerusalem. The historic building that had salie Berman, met as presidents of the stu- once been the seat of Israel’s Chief Rabbin- dent councils of Yeshiva College and Stern ate had been largely unused. Rabbi Berman College for Women. They would go on to transformed it into an international center become pillars of the Young Israel of Forest for Jewish life, learning, and leadership. Hills, where Mr. Berman served as presi- Faced with major challenges, Yeshiva dent. Ari was born in 1970 and was active University has turned to Rabbi Berman to in the Young Israel of Forest Hills Youth De- bring his talents for restoring institutions partment. His uncle, Julius Berman, is a ma- to greatness to one of the world’s most re- jor fi gure in the Queens Jewish community spected Jewish institutions. Dr. Berman’s who has served as Chairman of the Con- Investiture address focused on fi ve toros, ference of Presidents of Major American core values, that shape the mission of the Jewish Organizations, President of the Or- University and, according to Dr. Berman, thodox Union and Chairman of the Board “position YU to be the educational and in- Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman at the celebration of his investiture of the YU-affi liated Rabbi Isaac Elchanan tellectual epicenter of a large global move- Theological Seminary (RIETS). ment.” When the time came for young Ari to He described these values as toras emes, attend high school, he followed the family the pursuit of truth; toras chayim, the re- tradition by attending Yeshiva University sponsibility to be guided by those truths High School for Boys (MTA), where he met as we actively engage with the world; toras his future wife Anita, through the school’s adam, the drive to actualize our potential blind date event. He would go on to gradu- as individuals; toras chesed, the moral and ate from four YU schools, earning a BA from ethical imperative of compassion and kind- Yeshiva College, an MA in Medieval Jewish ness; and toras tikun, the charge to move Philosophy from the Bernard Revel School history forward toward redemption and a of Jewish Studies, and s’michah from RIETS. better world. He also studied at Yeshiva Har Etzion in Is- To propel YU toward this vision, Dr. Ber- rael. After s’michah, Rabbi Berman became man outlined three areas in which YU will a RIETS fellow in a program designed to expand its focus during his tenure. First, he prepare those with the potential to become noted that while the University already has top-fl ight talmidei chachamim and commu- a celebrated reputation in fi elds such as law, nity leaders. medicine, accounting, fi nance, psychology, In 2000, Rabbi Berman became the spiri- and education, the University will create even more partnerships between YU and tual leader of the Jewish Center of New York new opportunities to match growing global institutions in Israel and around the globe, following in the footsteps of such luminar- demand for graduates in science, technolo- in addition to more international students ies as Rabbi Dr. Leo Jung and Rabbi Dr. Nor- gy, engineering, and mathematics, as well enrolled in the University’s brick and mor- man Lamm, the third President of Yeshiva as the health industries. The University will tar programs as well as its online offerings. University. The venerable congregation was also take advantage of technological inno- Rabbi Berman concluded his investiture restored to glory under his leadership. At vations to reach out to new markets of stu- address by telling a story of how he spent the same time, Rabbi Berman served as a dents with ever more diverse offerings, par- Shabbos at the Beren Campus for under- magid shiur at Yeshiva College. ticularly by creating new programming that graduate women and told the students that Aliyah to Israel in 2008 was the next allows high school students to earn college he was rooting for each and every one of step for Rabbi Berman. He completed his credit for online courses during their senior them. One of the women called out “Rabbi, higher education, earning a PhD in Jewish year or over the summer, which will defray we are rooting for you!” costs while giving students a head start on We in the Queens Jewish community are their college education. rooting for our native son, Rabbi Dr. Ari Ber- Finally, YU will focus on creating new man, to succeed in his sacred and historic educational pathways between existing mission – l’hachzir es ha’ateres l’yoshnah – Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman giving his investiture programs to create a richer experience for to restore Yeshiva University to its rightful address its students. Students can also expect to see place as the crown jewel of American Jewry.

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n Sunday, September 10, Rabbi Eli Mansour spoke on behalf of Chazaq Oat the Beth Gavriel Center in Forest Hills. Rabbi Mansour began by posing a seemingly simple question, but one that will no doubt have a tremendous impact on our Rosh HaShanah davening this year: What is chayim? He explained that there are great mis- conceptions concerning the meaning of life. Chayim is not physical life. According to the Gemara, an evil person is considered dead. Another Gemara teaches that a tzadik is considered alive even after he is dead. Rabbi Mansour then shared a teaching of Rabbi Mordechai Gifter. There is a mashal that a Jew removed from Torah is compared to a fi sh out of water. Jews cannot exist without Torah and mitzvos. Rabbi which is our spiritual essence, is dead. On on the anniversary of his birth. The shofar Mansour elaborated by describing how a the other hand, a tzadik is considered alive reminds us of the essence of man. It wakes fi sh fl ails as the rod is pulling him in. Al- even after he is physically dead, because us up to remember that we are more than though it may seem that the fi sh is alive, it the physical body is temporary but the soul physical beings. G-d gave us real chayim, is actually fl ailing because of its imminent lives on. The way to sustain all parts of the the ability to build our soul and essence. death. So, too, in our world, we may see explained all the parts of the soul and soul is by doing mitzvos. The more we at- Let us overcome our laziness and our sur- people enjoying and living carefree lives, when each becomes activated in a person’s tach ourselves to mitzvos, the more we are rounding culture, so we can sustain the but their lives without Torah are like a fi sh life. The soul is more a part of us than our attached to Hashem. main part of us, our soul. out of water. body is. The body can’t live for more than He then connected these ideas to the Rabbi Mansour concluded with a bra- Rabbi Mansour continued by quoting a 120 years, but the soul is a piece of G-d. It is shofar. G-d blew the breath of life into chah that we will be able to take this advice pasuk: “Life to all of you today. You need eternal, and we need to feed it spiritually. Adam HaRishon on Rosh HaShanah. When and perform the mitzvos with joy. to cling onto G-d.” How can we cling to The evil person is alive physically, but the chazan blows into the shofar, Hashem The lecture can be viewed on Torahany- something we can’t see? Rabbi Mansour he is considered dead, because his soul, in shamayim recreates blowing into Adam time.com.

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Teach NYS Praises Appointment Of Assembly Member Helene Weinstein As Chair Of New York State Assembly Ways And Means Committee

each NYS, a project of the Orthodox Union, issued the following state- Tment on the appointment of Assem- bly Member Helene Weinstein as the Chair of the Assembly Ways and Means committee: “Assembly Member Weinstein has demonstrated herself to be a tremendous advocate for our community and has been a driving force in the Assembly on the issues that matter most to our families. We applaud Speaker Heastie for his decision and look forward to continuing our work on behalf of New York’s nonpublic schools with the Speaker, Chair Weinstein and the entire Assembly.” Teach NYS, a project of the Orthodox Un- funding to ensure that nonpublic schools ion, is dedicated to securing government are safe and fairly funded. Met Council/Chazaq Distributes Food For Rosh HaShanah

ast Tuesday in Kew Gardens Hills. (L-R) Yaniv Meirov, Operations Manager of Chazaq; Aaron Cyperstein, Esq., Met Council; NYS Assemblywoman Nily Rozic; Rabbi Daniel LPollack, Special Assistant to Congresswoman Grace Meng; Ben Zaientz, Met Coun- cil; Tehila Nissanian, Chazaq; and Chazaq volunteers Netanel Goal and Pinchas Flamer.

Rabbi Dovid Miller Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman

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Yeshiva Of Central Queens S’lichos Program

CQ kicked off its Parent-Child Learn- entire community was in the shul praying. ing Program this past Motza’ei Shab- However, they were still forced to leave. Ybos with an evening of learning with Before boarding the bus, the soldier buried Rabbi Shmuel Marcus, Rabbi of the Young his siddur in the ground with the hope that Israel of Queens Valley, followed by S’lichos one day, maybe 50 years from now, some- led by Rabbi Moshe Hamel and Rabbi Chaim one would dig up his siddur and remem- Pearl. The shul was fi lled to capacity with ber that a Jewish community once existed students and their parents learning about here. the importance of t’fi lah and the signifi - About a year later, this same soldier was cance of never giving up on prayer, even if sent back into Gaza at night. As they were you do not get exactly what you are daven- setting up base, it became light out and all ing for at the moment. around he could see the ruins of what was Rabbi Marcus conveyed a story of a once a vibrant community. He just began young chayal who was sent into Gaza with digging in the ground, not knowing where his troop to escort a community of Jews he was or why he was doing it. Then he dug from their home. Traveling on the bus, he up his own siddur that he had buried a year just before you buried your siddur and why davened fervently that the plan would be prior. He felt there must be a reason, so he did you bury it?” The soldier’s response was, averted and the Jews would not be forced went to Rav Kanievsky and told him the sto- “I was davening that we wouldn’t have to re- to leave their homes. When he arrived, the ry. The rav asked him, “What were you doing move the community members from their homes. When the t’fi lah were unanswered, I stopped praying and buried my siddur.” Rav Kanievsky pointed out a pasuk in Ge- mara that says, “If one prays and it was not answered, he should pray again,” that even if you pray for something and you do not get what you want, you should not give up. Rabbi Marcus explained that the most essential lesson is that t’fi lah is not just when we pray for what we want. T’fi lah means connection. We are davening in order to connect with Hashem. In this world we are vulnerable and, whether we get the answers we want or not, we must continue davening to keep our connection with Hashem. The students spent time discussing several aspects of the idea of t’fi lah with their parents to gain a deeper understanding of the importance of davening. Several graduates of YCQ and Rebbeim attended the program as well. It was a signifi cant learning experience for all the attendees, strengthening the connections between children and their parents, students and their yeshivah and the most important connection, the one they build with Hashem through their t’fi lah.

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Alumnae Learning At SKA or the past 15 years, gradu- high school and seminary, and ates of the Stella K. Abra- the graduates themselves are Fham High School for Girls wonderful role models. The shi- have found a spiritual home ur gives the alumnae an oppor- away from home on Friday after- tunity to maintain a connection noons! Rabbi Daniel Eisenbach, to Rabbi Eisenbach, their alma SKA’s Mashgiach Ruchani and mater, the other faculty and ad- the rav of the Avenue N Jewish ministration members and each Center in Brooklyn, has offered other, in addition to extending a weekly Parshah and Yom Tov some of their Israel experience. shiur to SKA alumnae who look Since the Friday alumnae class forward to joining their beloved began, SKA’s past and present former teacher and fellow gradu- students even attend Rabbi ates in a warm and supportive Eisenbach’s shiurim in his shul setting. in Brooklyn! How did this shiur come In addition to the Friday pro- about? Rabbi Eisenbach ex- gram for our graduates, evening plains that two former students, lectures are given by Mrs. Elishe- Lonnie Mayer Zoldan and Mikki va Kaminetsky, Director of Reli- Septimus Hackel, urged him to gious Guidance and head of the start this class, feeling the need Tanach Department. Pre-Yom to continue the spiritual high Tov lectures are coordinated by they had attained throughout Rabbi Isaac Rice, head of the their years at SKA and then in on that day, and the alumnae The alumnae shiur has prov- still interested in Jewish studies Torah She’b’al Peh Department, seminary in Israel. Fridays were quickly learned to make arrange- en beneﬁ cial for the graduates as has had a positive effect on the and feature SKA faculty mem- convenient for most girls, since ments to be able to join Rabbi well as the current SKA students. teenagers in the school. Learn- bers. Being part of the SKA fam- they usually took fewer classes Eisenbach in the school. Seeing girls who have graduated ing, they see, does not end after ily doesn’t end after graduation!

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YCQ Welcome Back And New Student Mentoring Program

he faculty of the Yeshiva of Central escorted them around the school, showing Queens welcomed back all students them where the different specialty class- Tfor another exciting, learning-fi lled rooms, labs, administrative offi ces, and the academic year. Following a short week, gym were. They then participated together classes are in full swing as they prepare for with all the new students and mentors for the upcoming Yamim Nora’im. This year, a project and received a welcome gift. The almost 40 new students joined the YCQ social work interns met with each student family in grades 1 through 8. The YCQ social to assure that they were transitioning into work department welcomed them during their new school without any diffi culties, the Student Mentor Program. Each new following up with the students to assure student was introduced to a grade 8 men- that their needs were being met. tor chosen based on exemplary midos, who Photo credit: Maxine Lipshitz

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At BYQ, Each Girl Makes A “World” Of Difference he stellar Midos Program at the Bais Yaakov Acad- Temy of Queens has begun to work its magic on our girls! In two separate assemblies, one for the younger grades and one for the older grades, the theme of the year, as well as the Y’mei Ratzon Program, were introduced. Mrs. Jurkowitz, limudei kodesh principal, explained that the theme of this year, Taf Shin Ayin Ches, is “Olam Chesed Yibaneh,” pointing out the ayin in “olam” and change the world. The assembly the ches in “chesed.” Our motto culminated with the teaching of this year is “You Make a World of this year’s theme song. A group Difference!” Mrs. Jurkowitz ex- of 8th graders presented the song plained to the girls that Hashem, with fun and catchy motions. The in His ultimate kindness, created girls loved the song, and the gym the world and does chesed for us was pumping with ruach and sim- every single day. Since our job is chah! to emulate Hashem’s ways, we, In addition, each student re- too, must live our lives revolved ceived her own stand-up smiley around doing chesed for others. globe pen that she can suction to We must build a world of chesed, her desk. The pen states, “BYQ – just as Hashem built His world Olam Chesed Yibaneh – You Make based on chesed. Mrs. Jurkow- a World of Difference!” It will itz displayed the theme mascots and holding a globe of the world encourage the girls to choose Mrs. Taub explained to the girls serve as a constant and useful re- from the past two years, Tovy in her hand. She will be help- personal and class-wide goals to that once we attempt to change minder of this year’s theme. from ayin vav and Gabi from ing the girls work on this theme pinpoint their weaknesses and ourselves for the better, we will At BYQ, we look forward to ayin zayin. Then she introduced throughout the year. help them improve themselves as be surprised to see that we can a year ﬁ lled with change and the new mascot of ayin ches. The Mrs. Taub, midos program co- we approach the Yamim Nora’im. actually change the world around growth in our talmidos. We hope true-to-life doll mascot, Rivky, is ordinator, introduced the Y’mei The girls are actually evaluating us! Others are affected by our pos- to encourage them to reach their named after Rivkah Imeinu, who Ratzon Program to the girls. The themselves daily in their person- itive interactions, and inspired by full potential as we impress upon exempliﬁ ed the midah of chesed. program, entitled, “Change Your- al program booklets, as well as our mitzvos observance. When each individual that “You Make a Rivky is wearing the BYQ uniform self and Change the World,” will coloring in the classroom poster. we change ourselves, we really World of Difference!”

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Bnos Malka Shofar Presentation Retired FDNY Assistant Chief Of EMS Speaks To YTM Boys On 9/11

ven though every adult can share his cated to outside the towers. At that point, 9/11 experience with you, elemen- the rescue workers split into two groups Etary school students today were not and one group sadly perished as the towers even born at the time of the attacks. To came down. Mr. Gombo’s experience was give Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe boys a feel for an opportunity for the boys to hear a fi rst- the terrible experience of the day, Mr. Jerry hand report of that day. Z. Gombo, retired FDNY Assistant Chief of In Ms. Schulman’s third grade class, af- EMS Operations on 9/11 agreed to speak to ter engaging in a grade-appropriate lesson abbi Yerachmiel Zalmanov paid a and how a shofar is made. He explained the boys. He shared with the eighth grade about what happened on the tragic day in visit to Bnos Malka with some of which animals’ horns can qualify for a ko- boys his personal timeline of arriving at American history, Fireman Rob connected Rhis “friends.” Armed with a life- sher shofar and of course no presentation the World Trade Center and setting up an via Skype to speak with the boys and an- size ram and plenty of horns, Rabbi Zal- would be complete without a few rounds operations center in the lobby of the one of swer questions about the fi refi ghter’s role manov demonstrated to the pre-school of T’kiah, Sh’varim, and T’ruah, and of the towers after the fi rst plane struck. Very on 9/11. students at Bnos Malka exactly where course a really long t’kiah g’dolah. quickly the rescue workers present realized The Yeshiva thanks Michael Vatch for that they were in grave danger and relo- arranging Mr. Gombo’s visit to the Yeshiva. Rabbi Dr. Andrew Sicklick Joins Rambam Staff: T’fi lah In Focus

ne of the new enhancements to structure and content of those shiurim are Rambam Mesivta’s outstanding pro- important for all high-schoolers to learn, Ogram is the addition of Rabbi Dr. and Rabbi Sicklick has graciously offered Andrew Sicklick to the morning Limudei other schools across the Metropolitan Area Kodesh staff. Dr. Sicklick, a well-known or- access to those materials.” thodontist, has always expressed a passion Senior Yoni Grossman feels that, “Daven- for Torah learning and received s’michah ing is something that we do three times a from RIETS. day every day and is one of the main parts Aside from helping out administratively, of being a Jew – to focus on that is a noble Rabbi Sicklick will be giving special shi- endeavor.” urim focusing on t’fi lah, based upon a cur- Rambam Mesivta has traditionally been riculum that he developed. at the forefront of promoting involvement According to Rosh Mesivta Rabbi Zev in issues that concern the Jewish commu- Meir Friedman, “We are very excited that nity at large. It has dedicated itself to pro- Rabbi Dr. Sicklick has joined us. He is the viding its students with Torah, Midos, and ideal role model who personifi es our mis- Excellence in a warm nurturing environ- sion – an individual who is steeped in ment. It was awarded the coveted National Torah knowledge and values while con- Blue Ribbon Award for Excellence in Edu- comitantly succeeding in the professional cation in 2015 for its outstanding scores on world. The well-planned shiurim of t’fi lah nationally recognized exams and innova- that he has put together are important tions in education. To that end, Rabbi Sick- enrichments of our day-to-day davening – lick is a perfect fi t and a welcome addition which has become routine for so many. The to Rambam.

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SEPTEMBER 7j-0)&f$c$"j^[Queens Chapter of the Bi- And Rabbi Dovid Miller kur Cholim d’Satmar will hold its annual tea at At 4:15 p.m., Congrega- 9ed]h[]Wj_edI^WWh[JelW.(#))B[\\[hji8ek- To Deliver Annual NYC-Jerusalem tion Ahavas Yisroel levard, Kew Gardens). Buffet, Chinese Auction, (73rd Avenue & 147th valet parking. Kinus T’shuvah Lectures On September 26 Street, Kew Gardens Hills) will hold its an- 7j .0&& f$c$" Chazaq Shabbos 23 nual Shabbas Shuvah and Congregation Ner drashah for women. Mordecai (formerly HWXX_8[dJp_ed9^W_jm_bbif[Wa$ Congregation Shaare Tova) will host Rabbi

7j /0'+ W$c$ WdZ Ikd- Thursday 28 Jonathan Rietti at days following), 9ed]h[]Wj_ed D[h Chazaq will hold a CehZ[YW_ .(#)) B[\\[hji 8ekb[lWhZ" A[m =Wh- learning program in dens). Free admission. Men and women wel- understanding the come. For more information, please contact Sunday 24 depths behind each -'.#(.+#/')(eh_d\e6Y^WpWg$eh]$ halachah" given by HWXX_?bWdC[_helWjj^[Oekd]?ihW[be\_bbiJ_\[h[jI^WbecC_doWd"-'&&O[bbemijed[ Blvd., Forest Hills). For more information, OCTOBER Rabbi Dovid Miller Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman - fb[Wi[YWbbOed_Wj+',#(.(#+((.eh[cW_bjico abbi Dr. Ari Berman, Yeshiva Uni- York 10028, from 7:30 to 9:00 p.m. Rabbi [email protected].

Sunday rd C_Zh[i^[j Oec H_iêd m_bb fh[i[dj “Perspec- 22 natory Issues in Chil- ers at the 33 Annual Hausman/Stern me, the nearness of God is my good,” at tives on T’shuvah and the Yamim Nora’im” dren with Develop- Kinus T’shuvah Lectures. The lectures, the Heichal Azriel Beit Midrash on YU’s Is- featuring Rabbi Yaakov Neuburger and Profes- mental Issues” led by Leslie Faye Davis, at the given between Rosh HaShanah and Yom rael Campus, 40 Duvdevani Street in Bayit sor Smadar Rosensweig.7jO[i^_lWKd_l[hi_joÊi Oekd]?ihW[be\>_bbYh[ij',/#&-@[m[b7l[dk[" Kippur, will take place in Jerusalem and Vegan, Jerusalem, at 8:15 p.m. M_b\9WcfkiIYêjj[dij[_d9[dj[h"+,&M[ij Hillcrest). For more information and to register, New York City on Tuesday, September 26. The lectures are open to both men and '.+thIjh[[j"D[mOeha9_jo $Ef[djec[dWdZ fb[Wi[ l_i_j mmm$Y^Wbb[d][#[_$Yec eh YWbb -'.# Rabbi Berman will discuss “Sin, women and will be webcast live at YU- women. Complimentary parking available. For .+'#))&& n#)'+ eh [cW_b iêi^WdW$Y^Wbb[d][6 Self-Perception, and the Art of Living Torah.org. For more information, please more information, please email Rabbi Aryeh thejnet.com. Meaningfully” at Congregation Kehillath email Michael Kranzler at kranzler@ 9pWhaWWjaebb[boech_iêd6ok$[ZkehYWbb('(# Jeshurun, 125 East 85th St, New York, New yu.edu or call him at 212-960-0879. /,&#+*&&"[nj$,.(,$

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1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 59 Daf Yomi Classes Mincha Minyan List SUNDAY feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 6:05 am Congregation Nacha- SUNDAY 6:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 4:00 pm •Chazaq 141-24 Jewel 6:00 am Young Israel of Kew KGH las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- 1:30 pm •Ahavas Yisroel 147- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Avenue, KGH Gardens Hills, Youth Build- 6:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 02 73rd Avenue, KGH 7:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser Torah 4:00 pm •Safra 69-64 Main ing Library 150-05 70th 137-58 70th Avenue, KGH 7:45 am Congregation Nacha- 1:30 pm • Yeshiva Ohel Sim- 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Street, KGH Road, KGH 6:15 am Congregation Nachalas las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, 7:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 4:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 6:55 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141-39 39 73rd Avenue, KGH KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 73rd Avenue, KGH 73rd Avenue, KGH 9:00 am Queens Jewish Center, 1:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 4:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 7:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 7:45 am Congregation Nacha- 66-05 108th Street, Forest rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH TUESDAY rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 137-58 70th Avenue, KGH las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- Hills 1:45 pm •Aron’s Kissena 1:30 pm •Ahavas Yisroel 147- 5:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser Torah 7:00 am Young Israel of Queens 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 8:00 pm Congregation Nacha- Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- 02 73rd Avenue, KGH 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Valley 141-55 77th Avenue 9:00 am Queens Jewish Center, las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- vard, KGH 1:30 pm • Yeshiva Ohel Sim- 5:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- KGH 66-05 108th Street, Forest 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s Gro- cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 7:10 am Degel Israel(Sheinfeld), Hills 8:00 pm Agudath Israel of Kew cery 82-38 Lefferts Blvd, KGH 6:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 144-02 68th Drive, KGH 8:00 pm Congregation Nacha- Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Kew Gardens 1:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 7:30 am Congregation Nacha- las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- Road (YCQ Building), 1st 2:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 6:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- 39 73rd Avenue, KGH fl oor, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 1:45 pm •Aron’s Kissena rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 8:00 pm Agudath Israel of Kew 8:00 pm Young Israel of 2:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- 7:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser Torah 8:45 am Agudath Israel of Kew Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Queens Valley, 141-55 77th rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH vard, KGH 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 3:30 pm •Gift World 72- 20 1:45 pm •Seasons 66-18 Main 7:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Road (YCQ Building), 1st Avenue, KGH Main Street, KGH Street, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Road (YCQ Building), 1st fl oor, KGH 8:30 pm Degel Israel(Shein- 3:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s fl oor, KGH 8:00 pm Young Israel of feld), 144-02 68th Drive, rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Grocery 82-38 Lefferts THURSDAY 8:00 pm Young Israel of Queens Valley, 141-55 77th KGH 4:00 pm •Safra 69-64 Main Blvd,Kew Gardens 1:30 pm •Ahavas Yisroel 147- Queens Valley, 141-55 77th Avenue, KGH Street, KGH 2:00 pm •Jewish Heritage 02 73rd Avenue, KGH Avenue, KGH 8:30 pm Degel Israel(Shein- FRIDAY 4:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- Center 68-20 Main Street, 1:30 pm • Yeshiva Ohel Sim- 8:30 pm Degel Israel(Shein- feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 5:30 am Young Israel of Kew rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH KGH cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, feld), 144-02 68th Drive, KGH Gardens Hills, Youth Build- 4:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 2:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- KGH KGH ing Library 150-05 70th rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 1:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 9:30 am Queens Jewish Center, WEDNESDAY Road, KGH 5:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser Torah 2:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 66-05 108th Street, Forest 5:30 am Young Israel of Kew 5:30 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 1:45 pm •Aron’s Kissena Hills Gardens Hills, Youth Build- 73rd Avenue, KGH 5:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 3:30 pm •Gift World 72- 20 Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- ing Library 150-05 70th 5:40 am Degel Israel(Shein- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Main Street, KGH vard, KGH MONDAY Road, KGH feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 6:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 3:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 1:45 pm •Seasons 66-18 Main 5:30 am Young Israel of Kew 5:30 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Street, KGH Gardens Hills, Youth Build- 73rd Avenue, KGH 5:30 am Young Israel of Queens 6:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 4:00 pm •Chazaq 141-24 Jewel 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s ing Library 150-05 70th 5:30 am Young Israel of Queens Valley 141-55 77th Avenue rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Avenue, KGH Grocery 82-38 Lefferts Road, KGH Valley 141-55 77th Avenue KGH 7:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser Torah 4:00 pm •Safra 69-64 Main Blvd,Kew Gardens 5:30 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 KGH 6:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Street, KGH 2:00 pm •Jewish Heritage 73rd Avenue, KGH 5:40 am Degel Israel(Shein- 137-58 70th Avenue, KGH 7:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 4:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- Center 68-20 Main Street, 5:30 am Young Israel of Queens feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 6:15 am Congregation Nachalas rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH KGH Valley 141-55 77th Avenue KGH Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141-39 4:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 2:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- KGH 6:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 73rd Avenue, KGH MONDAY rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 5:40 am Degel Israel(Shein- 137-58 70th Avenue, KGH 7:45 am Congregation Nacha- 1:30 pm • Ahavas Yisroel 147- 5:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser Torah 2:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 6:15 am Congregation Nachalas las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- 02 73rd Avenue, KGH 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH KGH Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141-39 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 1:30 pm • Yeshiva Ohel Sim- 5:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 3:30 pm •Gift World 72- 20 6:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 73rd Avenue, KGH 9:00 am Queens Jewish Center, cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Main Street, KGH 137-58 70th Avenue, KGH 7:45 am Congregation Nacha- 66-05 108th Street, Forest KGH 6:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 3:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 6:05 am Congregation Nacha- las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- Hills 1:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 8:00 pm Agudath Israel of Kew rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 6:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 4:00 pm •Chazaq 141-24 Jewel 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 9:00 am Queens Jewish Center, Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th 1:45 pm •Aron’s Kissena rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Avenue, KGH 7:45 am Congregation Nacha- 66-05 108th Street, Forest Road (YCQ Building), 1st Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- 7:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser Torah 4:00 pm •Safra 69-64 Main las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- Hills fl oor, KGH vard, KGH 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Street, KGH 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 8:00 pm Congregation Nacha- 1:45 pm •Seasons 66-18 Main 7:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 4:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 9:00 am Queens Jewish Center, las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- SHABBOS Street, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s Gro- 4:45 pm •Yeshiva Kesser To- 66-05 108th Street, Forest 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 7:25 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 cery 82-38 Lefferts Blvd, WEDNESDAY rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Hills 8:00 pm Agudath Israel of Kew 73rd Avenue, KGH Kew Gardens 1:30 pm • Yeshiva Ohel Sim- 5:15 pm •Yeshiva Kesser Torah 8:00 pm Congregation Nacha- Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th 7:45 am Young Israel of Kew 2:00 pm •Jewish Heritage cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- Road (YCQ Building), 1st Gardens Hills, Youth Center 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60 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Chabad Rabbi In Key West Leads Relief Efforts After Hurricane

Rabbi Yaakov Zucker, seen here helping to build a mikvah in Key West, is at the forefront helping Jews affected by Hurricane Irma

By David Schneier A tornado hit the area during the hurricane. The roof of a hotel landed on a he Chabad rabbi for Key West and Chabad Jewish Center member’s car and the Florida Keys, Rabbi Yaakov Zuck- house. Ter, is now a fi rst responder to the vic- People from Israel and around the world tims of Hurricane Irma. have been calling the rabbi to check on The rabbi was leading his second convoy people. As such, the rabbi has quite a list of into the affected areas with a semi-truck people to visit. “full of provisions: food, clothing, drinks” An older woman did not have food, wa- on Friday morning when he spoke with the ter, electricity, or plumbing. The rabbi gave Supplies are brought into Key West after Irma’s destruction Queens Jewish Link. her ice and food, and he hooked her up to a After his fi rst convoy, Rabbi Zucker se- generator and a refrigerator. Along with the cured a plane for his provisions into Key truck of provisions from Chabad, the rabbi West, but when a semi-truck arrived fi rst, distributes deli sandwiches. the rabbi chose it. The only way into the A woman from San Diego, California, Keys is a single lane highway called US called Rabbi Zucker asking about her son. Route 1, which was swollen with traffi c. “It turns out, he lives across the street.” The “There have been looting and gun shots rabbi found each person on his list and in the Keys,” said Rabbi Zucker. The rabbi they are all alive. was checking on an older woman who did The Chabad Jewish Center’s basketball not want to live anymore because her home and playground courts “have been de- was fl ooded and had mold. The rabbi heard stroyed.” Trees fell on the Center’s roof and a gun battle going on while counseling her. there is a lot of debris. The gunman eventually surrendered. An- The only kosher restaurant in Key West, other person the rabbi knows also reported Mom’s Best Food, under Rabbi Zucker’s hearing gun shots in a different area. supervision, will eventually re-open. The The US Marines, the National Guard, restaurant is one block from the Earnest helicopters, and the US Air Force (trying to Hemingway Home and Museum. fi x their base in Key West) are all present The worst part of the Keys hit by the in the area. Cell-phone service “has been storm was 15 to 40 miles east of Key West, spotty,” so the US Army put up cell-phone said Rabbi Zucker. “It’s a wreck but not de- towers. People are still without electricity. stroyed. It’s mostly fi xable things – for the Hatzalah ambulances are also active there. most part.” “In my 22 years [as Rabbi in Key West], Those wishing to help should visit I never saw a wreck like this. There is so Chabad’s webpage for their Jewish Hurri- much destruction and there are some cane Relief Fund or visit www.chabadkeys. deaths. Trailer parks are messed up; proper- com. Rabbi Yaakov Zucker can be reached at ties are damaged.” 305-304-7113.

Rabbi Zucker at a menorah workshop celebration at Home Depot in 2016 Some of the destruction left behind in Irma’s wake

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 61 ALEH Pays Tribute To “Guardian Angel” Of Israel’s Disability Community ALEH Jerusalem Ladies Committee 25th Gala Event Honors The Legacy Of The Late Rivka Chervin-Weinberger, Champion Of Disability Care In Israel

ALEH supporters pose with mentalist Nimrod Harel at the ALEH Jerusalem Ladies Commit- tee 25th Gala Event at the King David Hotel in Jerusalem.

Veteran ALEH Jerusalem Ladies Committee member Susie Engel shares memories of her late friend, Rivka Chervin-Weinberger, at the ALEH Jerusalem Ladies Committee 25th Gala Event.

n Monday, September 11, the ALEH Shlomit Grayevsky, the director Jerusalem Ladies Committee host- of ALEH Jerusalem, expressed deep grati- Oed their 25th Gala Event at the King tude to Chervin-Weinberger for champion- David Hotel in Jerusalem, an incredible ing the support of quality disability care in evening featuring great food and lively en- Israel for more than three decades. tertainment to support ALEH (www.aleh. “Rivka was a beloved member of the org), Israel’s network of care for children ALEH family and the greatest proponent with severe complex disabilities, and honor of our mission to provide every child with the memory of Rivka Chervin-Weinberger, complex disabilities in Israel the opportu- founder and long-time chair of the ALEH nity to reach their fullest potentials. She Jerusalem Ladies Committee, who passed was a philanthropic powerhouse and the away in June 2016. guardian angel of our ALEH residents, and The event, which included live music her legacy lives on in the committee that and the mind-bending antics of mentalist she founded to change the lives of Israelis Nimrod Harel, drew more than 400 support- with disabilities and their families,” said ers from across Israel, including outgoing Grayevsky. Consul General in Toronto and Western ALEH was founded in 1982 by a group of Canada D.J. Schneeweiss and his wife, Jo; Israeli parents who were determined to give Koren Publishers Jerusalem owner Matthew their children with severe complex disabil- Miller and his wife, Renee; Senior Partner at ities the best available care and the oppor- Tel Aviv’s Herzog Fox & Neeman law ofﬁ ces tunity to develop to their fullest potentials. Alan Sacks and his wife, Judith; Fun in Je- After more than three decades of successful rusalem’s Joanna Shepson and her husband, growth and exciting advancements, ALEH Jonathan; committee member Sally Ann has become Israel’s foremost network of Thwaites and her husband, Tony; and veter- state-of-the-art facilities for children with an committee member Susie Engel and her severe complex disabilities, providing husband, Dr. Gabby Engel. over 700 children across the country with “When it came to ALEH, there was al- high-level medical and rehabilitative care in ways a sense of urgency for Rivka. She un- four residential facilities, located in Jerusa- derstood that ALEH is not only helping chil- lem, Bnei Brak, Gedera and the Negev. ALEH dren with disabilities but empowering their provides these residents with a continuum families and bolstering communities. She of loving care from infancy and childhood never slowed down in more than 30 years, through adulthood, allowing them to ad- always pushing herself harder to reach larg- vance, grow, and live happy, digniﬁ ed, and er and larger philanthropic goals for the meaningful lives. organization,” said Engel of her dear friend. Over the last 34 years, ALEH has become “Rivka was inspired by the children of ALEH a global community based on the principles and their families, and we were inspired by of sensitivity, commitment and kindness, her dedication to the cause. This joyous cel- making a difference in the lives of Israel’s ebration of her commitment to ALEH was most vulnerable children and building a the perfect tribute to her legacy of caring.” better, more caring world.

62 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 63 64 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Interior Design For The 99% A Note To My Readers Zisi Naimark In early July of this year, it occurred to me that some advance planning was called for. So I wrote around six arti- Beautiful Apples cles at once (of varying quality, but at least they existed) and sent them to round two years ago, I visited an Nor would I spend $2,299 on what is the Queens Jewish Link editor, with the elegant home in Flatbush in order essentially a large joke. This green apple intention of not thinking about my col- Ato measure the kitchen window would be cute in a waiting room or teen umn for the next month or so. for a valance. I found myself in the cold- playroom, but at that price, it’s just not One week later, chillin’ like a villain est-toned kitchen imaginable, short of in- worth it. It’s not exactly a versatile piece in Northshore’s maternity wing, I found dustrial steel. All cabinets were done in that you can enjoy well into your old age. myself referenced in another colum- ash-gray wood with a darker gray veining. nist’s article. So much for not thinking The far wall had blue Cole and Son graph- about my writing! Apparently, a name- ic wallpaper to match the blue metal is- less neighbor had taken offense to my land. All appliances and lighting were in calling the typical KGH house façade brushed steel. The fl ooring was 16” square ugly. tiles in charcoal gray. The 12-foot-high I have so many thoughts. ceilings and correspondingly high cabi- 1 • Thank you for reading. My writ- netry magnifi ed this coldness. The client ing process goes something as follows: had paid in the upper fi ve fi gures to cook I sit in front of a blank Word document. at the bottom of a well. I ask myself what to write. I draw a Situated on the kitchen island, in the Green Apple Furniture (which I dis- blank. I tell myself, “Eh, nobody’s read- exact center of this souless netherworld, covered in the course of writing this ing this anyway.” And then I write the was a 20” sculpture of a red lacquer apple. article; thank you, Google) sells this fi rst thing that comes to mind. The pro- With the contrast to its surroundings so stunning Bongo armoire. The item does cess feels a bit like writing a letter, fold- stark, the item seemed to pulse with color justice to the company name. I couldn’t ing it into a paper airplane, and tossing and life. The surrealism was overwhelm- fi nd a price, or even an offi cial company it out the window. So I am constantly ing. If it had been a photograph, and not Less offensive and expensive is this ap- website, so good luck trying to buy it. I delighted and bewildered by people a room that I had to actually stand in, I ple chair from AliExpress. It even comes would guess it at around $12,000, unless commenting on these articles. You are would have appreciated the aesthetic. In with a stem (albeit separated). The design it’s manufactured in Singapore, in which actually reading my words?! Thank any case, the client was perfectly happy of this chair is beautiful and sleek, but it case it’s around $30,000. (There’s an elite you! with her kitchen as it was, and no lasting is not comfortable at all. It’s best for cafes moneyed class on that island that just 2 • Aesthetics is opinion and not harm was done to anyone. and other places that look nice but do not loves spending on luxury furniture, espe- fact. Good design is scientifi c, defi ned But I was tickled pink to discover a want their customers lingering too long. cially gold-toned furniture.) as something that works the way it is nearly identical apple sculpture for $210 supposed to work. For example, a kitch- on zstatue.com. Firstly, I’m certain that en that is near the dining room is good the client paid around 10 times that design. A comfortable and durable mat- amount from a reputable gallery. But tress is designed well. The house that schadenfruede aside, the sculpture is adequately shelters your family is good delightful on its own. Please make sure design. In contrast, style and taste are you have a concept of what a 20” sphere objective. So any time you read me is before you buy this. It’s the size of an telling you that such-and-such is ugly, 18-month-old. you are reading my personal judgment. Please do not take it too seriously. I have some strong opinions, but I do not believe any harm befalls those who disagree with my taste. 3 • Aesthetic oblivion is not neces- sarily a fl aw. In the offending article, I mentioned that aesthetically oblivious people will not mind ugliness. This was not an insult! There is much to be said for people who can enjoy life without pursuing meaningless frills. And there is even more to be said for a husband who swears I look beautiful when I most certainly do not. (Hi, Simcha.) 4 • Chivalry is not dead. The col- umnist who pointed out my faux pas did not name names, for which I am grateful. Your gallantry did not go un- noticed. Appreciation for the lovely apple form For a smaller touch of apple beauty, 5 • Please contact me. My email is is not limited to art and sculpture. The I recommend this lovely sculpture from in that charming bio at the bottom famous midcentury designer George Nel- Ethan Allen. It comes in three sizes and right of every design page. I’d love to son created many chic paper lanterns, But the very best apple seating I have ranges from $80 to $112. The largest size is hear from people, even if it’s a critique. among them the Apple Bubble Pendant. found is this daybed, also from AliEx- considerably smaller than a child – even Nameless Neighbor, if you would point You’re welcome to spend $345 on this press. It’s long enough for an adult to a newborn. out to me the fl aw that I missed in from YLighting. I probably wouldn’t. It’s sprawl in, which means you probably my own article (namely, accidentally lovely, but it’s still a paper lantern. don’t have the storage space needed for insulting your home), I would be able winter. Somehow, in contrast to the pre- to avoid such a mistake in the future. vious chairs, this one is sophisticated. Your observations make my writing, The shape is balanced, the monochro- and me, better. matic rattan looks high quality, and the 6 • Please forgive me. Accidentally or stem and leaf are perfectly insouciant. not, I caused you pain, and I owe you The maker of this chair must have been an apology. While it feels as though I’m smiling during the design process, think- emailing articles into the black void of ing of us smiling upon seeing the result. the Internet, I need to remind myself that people are actually reading this. Zisi Naimark holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts You reminded me that what amuses from The New York School of Interior Design me on the fl at computer screen on my and has been working for professional design desk can be a barb to a neighbor once fi rms since 2012. She lives in Kew Gardens in print. So, to anyone and everyone Hills, where she is tolerated by her husband who was hurt by something I wrote, I and sons. She can be reached at zisinaimark@ am truly sorry. icloud.com. Sweet new year to everyone! Shanah tovah!

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 65 66 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Young Israel Of Fort Lee Attracts Young Families And Empty Nesters shuva lecture on Tuesday, Septem- By Bracha Schwartz ber 26, at 8:00 p.m. Long-time members and new- eople who move to Los An- comers credit Rabbi Goldberg with geles often stay long term, as bringing new energy and vision to Pthe weather is beautiful and the shul. “The rabbi and rebbetzin the kosher restaurants are numer- have done some amazing outreach, ous. However, after three years as not just limited to those who are the assistant rabbi at a large shul frum,” said Robert Oppenheimer, in LA, Rabbi Zev and Dr. Michal a realtor who has davened at the Goldberg moved back to New Jersey Young Israel for 37 years, and is ac- three years ago to serve as rabbi and tively assisting newcomers who rebbetzin of Young Israel of Fort want to move to Fort Lee. “The Lee. programs they have instituted and “We grew up in Teaneck and the warmth that they radiate are wanted to be closer to our families great attractions. Fort Lee used to and have our children close to their Rabbi Zev Goldberg be a place that empty nesters reluc- grandparents,” said Rabbi Gold- (Credit: Bracha Schwartz) tantly moved to when they weren’t berg. “I was the assistant rabbi at in Florida or their second homes. Young Israel of Century City when patchwork repair, the shul leaders Now it has a vibrancy that attracts we learned about the opening in embarked on a capital campaign to singles, young couples and young Fort Lee and we were intrigued. build a beautiful shul and lay the families in addition to empty nest- Young Israel of Fort Lee (Credit: Bracha Schwartz) We spent a Shabbos here in 2014 foundation for growth,” said Rabbi ers who are now choosing to be and were taken by the warmth and Goldberg. “People who see the shul here.” For example, Robert recently small-town feel of the shul. We also after having been away for many thodox in religious practice, it has with diverse events. Last month Dr. worked with a young couple who valued living in Bergen County with years are happily surprised by the become a magnet for Jews of all Michal Goldberg led a class on chal- moved to Fort Lee from the Upper its abundance of resources. The ko- transformation.” ages and backgrounds who are look- lah braiding. This month, Dr. Karen West Side after hearing about what sher markets deliver to our home Young Israel of Fort Lee is in ing for a welcoming environment Shawn, a new member who moved the shul and Fort Lee have to offer. and all the Jewish day schools are walking distance from six luxuri- where they can daven, learn and so- from Teaneck last year, will be giv- The prevalence of young fami- close by.” ous high-rise apartment buildings. cialize. “The Torah connects people ing a lecture entitled, “The Messen- lies also brings a new beneﬁ t to the The Goldbergs are not alone in Empty nesters are delighted to have from different denominations and ger of the Heart: Hearing the Voice empty nesters. “It’s great for me,” their appreciation of Fort Lee. Cou- a shul in close proximity while en- generations,” Rabbi Goldberg noted. in Jewish Texts.” said Oppenheimer. “Now when my ples just beginning their families, joying the amenities of high-rise liv- “We value participation. People are Rabbi Goldberg said that over grandson visits for Shabbos, it’s very who want to be close to New York ing including a doorman, concierge, embraced, no matter what kind of the past summer, the shul hosted comfortable to bring him to shul. City, are discovering Fort Lee. So are pool, exercise room and Shabbat Jewish background they have. Many an extraordinary lineup of speak- There are other little kids there for “empty nesters” who want to stay elevators in some buildings. They people who did not previously be- ers and lectures. Rabbi Hayyim him to play with.” in the area, close to their children, are happily saying goodbye to snow long to an Orthodox congregation Angel taught a three-part lecture Marty Epstein, president of the but no longer need a family-sized shoveling, leaf disposal and climb- feel at home at Young Israel of Fort series about the intersection of Ta- shul for the past three years, has home. “What you don’t realize from ing stairs. Young couples with busy Lee. That is something that makes nach and academic Bible study. Dr. been a member for 12 years since the highway is that Fort Lee is a very schedules appreciate the perks of us all very proud.” Steven Fine gave the lecture at the moving from Fair Lawn, and lauds pleasant place to live, very safe and high-rise living as well and ﬁ nd In addition to daily minyanim, shul’s monthly Lunch and Learn the enhancements Rabbi Goldberg clean,” commented Rabbi Goldberg. more value in Fort Lee for their the shul has weekly parsha, gemara about his research on the Arch of has brought to the community. Young Israel of Fort Lee began money than in New York. The com- and Shabbat afternoon classes. A Titus. One of the highlights of the “Rabbi Goldberg brought wonder- in the 1970s as the Fort Lee Syna- mute is easy with frequent buses to weekday men’s bait midrash pro- summer was a sold-out lecture with ful, creative ideas to the shul,” he gogue, becoming a Young Israel the city and the ferry a short drive gram following shachris has re- Rabbi Dr. Meir Soloveichik, entitled, said. “With the help of hardworking synagogue in 1980. In 2013 the shul away in Edgewater. cently started. There is a monthly “Rembrandt and the Rabbis.” Rabbi people in the community, he has was completely rebuilt. “Instead of Although the shul is strictly Or- women’s Rosh Chodesh program Paysach Krohn will be giving a Te- made Fort Lee the place to be.”

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 67 68 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 69 70 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 71 72 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Foodie Adventures Bracha Serle Healthy Dinner Options y foot is pressing the gas fi lled with oil and unhealthy fried having to go to the grocery every pedal at a steady pace chicken. Did that ever end up in day for your ingredients. Once Mas I’m driving down the a good place? After you fi nish you have your meals planned you Garden State Parkway on my way you feel bloated and grossly over- can do a shopping and be well- home from Lakewood. I take a stuffed. Yeah, not a great feeling! stocked for the week. Try to pre- slight glance at the clock, as not What if I said you don’t have to pare as much on Sunday as pos- to take my eyes off the road; I feel that way? You can feel full sible. That can be preparing the can see its 4:30 p.m. I do a little and free! It’s all about healthy main proteins on Sunday and just calculation in my head. Okay, choices and planning. leaving the side dish for the night so I just left Lakewood about Dinner is always a hard meal of. Or you can prepare the entire 10 minutes ago; that means I to have prepared that is both meal on Sunday and just reheat. should get home at about 6:00. healthy and ready to eat each day. This depends on your preference That gives me about 20 minutes It’s always the meal that is on our of how fresh you like everything to change and go to the event I minds. In most homes, it’s the to be. have tonight. I’m not going to meal that the family sits down to Now for the actual meal ideas have time to eat dinner at home? eat together. Or it’s a meal that at I wanted to share with you, here Let me pick up a quick sandwich least all the kids in the house eat are some options of mixing and from the fast food place. Oh, but together. If you’re an on-the-go matching. I don’t even need to worry about person, always going out at night 1. Grilled steak served with that because I brought my dinner to events, it’s the meal that you a side of steamed broccoli and with me on the road. Yay, amaz- want ready and prepared so you caulifl ower and some brown 6. One big salad with sweet All these dinner options can be ing! I am so happy I thought don’t have to pick up fast food. rice. potatoes, julienned beets, grilled prepared halfway or fully on Sun- ahead of the game and prepared So, let’s face it; no matter what 2. Seared tuna steaks served chicken strips, and a good dress- day and stored for the week. Next all my meals yesterday! I’m going stage in life, dinner is crucial! And with string beans almandine, ing. time you’re on the road or on your to eat dinner on the way home; if it’s crucial to eat its crucial to be sautéed zucchini, and a piece of I always fi nd that roasted vege- way home from work and can’t this way I can get dressed with healthy. toasted bread. tables last in the fridge for a week think of a healthy dinner option, no stress. Plus, I’m still being People are always looking for 3. Rice paper wrappers stuffed if stored in an airtight container. try one of these. healthy and don’t have to rely on easy, fast, nutritional, healthy, with chicken cutlets, spinach, unhealthy grabs. kid-friendly, and delicious din- carrots, red cabbage, and served Bracha Serle works as a private chef specializing in healthy cooking such How many times has this sce- ners. Here are some ways to make with a dipping sauce. as gluten-free, dairy-free, sugar-free, nut-free, and other dietary restrictions nario happened to you and you dinner every day much easier and 4. Meat sloppy joes served on or allergies. She also does end-product marketing for kosher food companies did not have the proper prepared healthier. First things fi rst: plan top of spiralized zucchini. and supermarkets, teaching consumers how to use new food products on a meal, and you had to rely on get- your dinners on Sunday and shop 5. Grilled salmon served with daily basis. Bracha gives clean-eating healthy cooking classes and demon- ting the most unhealthy replace- for all the ingredients then. This stir fry from a frozen bag of veg- strations. You can check out her work on Instagram @shesthechef and can ment? You bought a sandwich makes life so much easier by not etables. be reached via email at [email protected].

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 73 74 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 Real-Life Reflections Sarah Newcomb Transforming all/autumn has always been my ness” toward compromise and effort are ication. It made me think about judging favorite time of year. Something required. And the desire and ability to others favorably and how we never know Fabout the back-to school season, stay the course. Many times, third par- what anyone else is going through. And back-to-Yom Tov preparations, and the ties are required to assist and can make that we are never the only one, in any changing of the weather, leaves falling, all the difference. case. Just tonight I had a chat with an and subsequent crunching of the leaves Sometimes things turn upside-down old friend about teenagers and the strug- – which is one of my favorite things to instantly; something affects the value of gles people face. I reminded them that do – has always left me eager with an- a property out of nowhere and may lock no one is ever struggling alone. We all and loving presence and so grateful for ticipation. Seasonal transformation is up a property, rendering it unsaleable have to be honest with each other, offer the experience. These are the kinds of basically how I see it. Lots of new begin- currently – for example, a title problem support, and remember: We’re all in this experiences some may consider small nings and endings or a status question. At the same time, together. things, and yet to those of us who try to Transforming and evolving is a nev- I have seen these things resolve them- A rabbi told me recently that when really learn from and take everything in, er-ending process that starts each Elul selves just as quickly, or not. Recently, people are in crisis, it seems like the it was indeed quite signifi cant to con- and continues to the next. Last Elul we a property got tied up from closing and world “contracts,” leaving people feeling nect deeply. did not know what would occur pres- passing title, putting it into limbo sta- isolated. This is certainly true and I have Here is another timely ad I saw: “In ently. I saw an ad on a bus that read: tus. Sometimes, someone will purchase felt that at times. He offered support and a lifetime we meet thousands of people; “Along our journey fi nd moments to sa- a single-family home and successfully told me, “If you want it, I am/it is here.” all it takes is a stranger to change your vor.” Well, that’s for sure. Imagine going (and legally) turn it into a multi-family It meant a lot to hear that and I hope I life forever.” I have experienced this as through the daily grind without refl ec- status. I have also seen people do the op- just gave the same to the old friend. well recently. And yes, a stranger made tion or self-care. Practicing mindfulness posite. I had the pleasure of attending a fund- quite a difference in my life and evo- is the key to the “savor” piece. And it’s Another form of transformation can raising event run by a shul in Manhattan lution. Another person I had admired readily available to us and free; it simply be a physical one. If a person changes and hosted at the home of my old boss for many years told me that one of the requires practice. their appearance, their health habits, or and mentor. I met him and his wife 30 things that she admired about me was In the world of real estate, transfor- they undertake a total transformation – years ago. I have stayed in touch with my ability to “thrive” rather than “sur- mation takes on a different defi nition. I which is what I strived to do from the them even though I left that job in 2001. vive” in the face of adversity. The truth have seen relationships change, thereby inside out – there can be signifi cant ben- And when I stepped into their home, it is, I did not see any other choice. Some- affecting a transition either for better or efi ts overall. Many people do not recog- felt like old times all over again. I was worse. For example, if there was tension nize me, which I fi nd humorous because immediately comfortable in their warm CONTINUED ON P. 94 and a good real estate agent was able to I still feel like the same person at the bring all of the parties to the table in a essence, although an evolved one. If a Sarah Newcomb, Queens Realtor Team, and the Newcomb family have been New York State “team spirit,” an unstable transaction can property owner takes a distressed prop- licensed realtors for over 16 years. They specialize in Kew Gardens Hills and serve all areas in the be transformed into a successful, pros- erty and entirely renovates it, they have fi ve boroughs and Long Island. They hold several specialty certifi cations and are members of the perous situation for everyone involved. also transformed it from the inside out. Long Island Board of Realtors and the Multiple Listing Service of Queens and Long Island, and Cooperation can refl ect a changed de- I heard this on a commercial: “To most have won multiple awards from RE/Max NY and RE/Max International. They are proud members meanor instantly. As in any relationship, people I look like most people. Yet, I live of the Kew Gardens Hills community. You can reach them at 917-459-7549, Sarahnewcombtoppro- including dating relationships, “willing- with chronic pain.” It was an ad for med- [email protected], or Queensrealtorteam.com.

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 75 Secrets In Disguise: A historical fiction novel serial By Susie Garber Chapter 8: Frightened Recap: Miri went out with Daniel I gave him the number and was about Blaustein a few times and thought this to hang up when he said, “Miri, please lis- might be the one for her. Sadly, when he ten to me. I know you’re angry, but I need asked about her father, she found out that you to listen. I’m being let out soon. When he didn’t know the truth that her father was I come out I want to meet with you and in jail. This bombshell ended their relation- explain.” ship. She returns home devastated only to I felt a lump in my throat. What was discover that Aunt Bella was admitted to the there to explain? You ruined my life. Because hospital because of her leg. of you I can’t fi nd a shidduch. “Miri?” ver the next few days, I visited Aunt “Okay,” I heard myself whisper and I Bella in the hospital daily. I found hung up. I sat in the living room working Oher on the fi rst day lying in bed knit- on my column. The sun set in a gold-rose ting a sweater for one of the ladies in the splattering of color that was soon cur- nursing home. tained in black. The house was so quiet. I “How are you feeling?” heard the ticking of my aunt’s old cuckoo “Much better now that you’re here, Miri. clock in the den. I stood up and stretched How is everything at home?” and then I strode over to the front door and “The house is quiet.” checked the lock. I thought about calling “Sorry you’re left alone there. I hope to Leah. She wouldn’t mind if I slept over. No, get out soon.” I had three more articles to write. “What does the doctor say?” I felt a lump in my throat. What was there to explain? I heard a creaking noise upstairs. Houses “Oh, you know doctors can be pessimis- You ruined my life. Because of you I can’t find a shidduch creak. Still, I sprang up. I had to get a hold tic, but I am sure I’ll be home for Shabbos.” of myself. I made myself sit back down and “What did the doctor say?” I asked. work on the computer. At around 10 p.m., I “He said two weeks, but that’s ridicu- for each person. I had to write it all down. had been so close. That was before… I swal- stopped and went into the kitchen to make lous. I can’t stay here that long. Mrs. Mintz I kissed her. “Get well, and come home lowed the words that I wanted to say: How a cup of coffee. The phone rang. I assumed and all my ladies at the home need me.” soon.” do you think I am? I’m not getting married it was Leah or Aunt Bella. I didn’t say anything. Aunt Bella is a very She smiled and waved to me as I left the because of you and now Aunt Bella’s in the “Hello.” determined person. I hoped her determina- room. A heavy, sad feeling hit me as I strode hospital. Instead, I said, “Baruch Hashem, There was no response. tion would make this blood clot disappear. to the stairs. (I never like to take elevators fi ne. I can’t really talk now.” “Hello,” I said louder. “How is your column going?” when I can get the exercise). I hated leaving “Please don’t hang up. I haven’t heard Still no response. “Baruch Hashem, fi ne.” She didn’t ask her here in this sterile place. Mostly, I hat- from Bella. Is she all right?” Then the phone line went dead about my feature article. I knew she still ed going home to the empty house. A little “She’s in the hospital. Do you want the An icy chill crept up my spine. didn’t approve. voice whispered to me, You could be en- number?” To be continued… “How is it going with Daniel?” She asked. gaged right now. I had to push that thought I sighed and then I just said, “It wasn’t away. It was too painful. Daniel Blaustein bashert.” was long gone. Of course, it was all in Hash- Aunt Bella squeezed my shoulder. “Do em’s hands. He knew who my bashert was. I you want to talk about it?” had to keep telling myself that. Still, it was I shook my head. I didn’t want all the hard. bubbling anger inside to be expressed in On Thursday, I had just returned from words. It wasn’t fair to Aunt Bella to tell her visiting Aunt Bella and a quick trip to the that it was my father’s (her brother’s) fault. grocery store when the phone rang. I was Aunt Bella asked, “How is everything go- caught off guard by my father’s voice. “Miri, ing with Leah? I’m sure you’re helping her how are you?” with the wedding preparations.” My fi rst refl ex was to drop the phone. I didn’t say I was too busy between the I hadn’t heard his voice in over two years. hospital and my column. Aunt Bella gave I didn’t want to speak to him – not now. I me specifi c instructions of what fl owers was too angry. Yet, I struggled with my feel- and foods to bring to the nursing home ings. He was my father. I had to remember on Wednesday and her special messages kibud av va’eim. There was a time when we

Susie Garber is the author of Denver Dreams, a novel (Jerusalem Publications, 2009), Memora- ble Characters…Magnifi cent Stories (Scholastic, 2002), Befriend (Menucha Publishers, 2013), The Road Less Traveled (Feldheim, 2015), fi ction serials and features in various magazines including A Bridge in Time, historical fi ction serial (Binyan Magazine, 2017). She writes the community column for the Queens Jewish Link and she writes the Queens page for Hamodia. She works as a writing consultant in many yeshivos and she teaches creative writing to students of all ages.

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Age-Appropriate: The You Uniform, Part II Myth: Uniforms are a wonderful thing. Truth: As an adult, you should be wearing the “you” uniform.

ast week, I talked about uniforms on your personal style. Come up with on school children vs. uniforms adjectives and even sentences that you Lon adults. I feel that school uni- want to express about yourself. Smart, forms serve a lot of important purposes creative, edgy, romantic, and feminine and so I won’t argue with schools that are good examples. Maybe you want to have them. But I do feel that when think in sentences. For example, “I’m grown adults wear uniforms, it’s not a an artist” is good. Or “I love sports and I good look. need to dress practically for that.” From me, you get the truth. One important sentence for all moms: There are certain workplaces that “I’m the commander-in-chief of my demand that the employees wear a uni- child’s chinuch team and I need you to form. And again, they serve important work with me, but I’m approachable and purposes, so I won’t argue. But unless willing to work with you.” This sentence you have to wear a uniform for work, is where color comes in; you’ll want to you should only be wearing your you wear a color found in your irises. That uniform. And even if you have to wear color is soft and not aggressive, so it fos- a work uniform, you should stick with ters cooperation, but it also directs peo- your you uniform outside of work. ple to look you in the eye – hence com- What do I mean by a you uniform? I manding respect. mean that you’re wearing the colors and Your you uniform is likely to have a styles that ﬂ atter you and that reﬂ ect lot of the same things without a whole your personal style, and avoiding every- lot of variety in terms of style and color.

Since you’re not a fat, old schlump, you should be dressing as the person you really are thing else. Sounds simple, but if it was, And you might be thinking, “What if this there wouldn’t be so many women wear- just gets boring?” But variety is overrat- ing uniform looks based on demograph- ed. You do not want to clutter up your ic. However, it’s not actually diffi cult. wardrobe with any styles or colors that Step one is to fi nd the colors and don’t fl atter or that don’t express your styles that fl atter your unique body and style. And you certainly don’t want to do coloring. Carefully analyze your body that just for the sake of variety. For ex- and know what you have and don’t have. ample, you won’t see any turtlenecks in And don’t be judgmental; there’s nothing my wardrobe because they don’t fl atter wrong with your body. For example, you me. And you won’t see any classic suits might have broad shoulders or narrow or blazers because they make me feel old shoulders. You might have a short neck and stodgy. My cousin, however, looks or a long one. You might have a large der- smart and classy in her classic items, so riere or a fl at one. You might have a wide she has them and looks great. waist or a small waist. Then, consider One thing that you must avoid like styles that fl atter what you have and that the plague, especially as you get older, don’t play up anything you don’t like. If is “fat, old schlump.” This one actually you have a short neck, avoid turtlenecks. showed up on my Facebook feed recent- If you have a larger bottom half, A-line ly and it left me cringing. No one – and skirts are a good bet. If you have narrow I mean no one – is innately a fat, old shoulders, you’ll want strong shoulder schlump. You may be plus-sized or older seams that hit right at the tip of your or you may have unconventional fea- shoulders. tures. Or you may have any combination Try on different colors, one color fam- of those. Nothing wrong with any of it. ily at a time. Do this in natural light with But dressing in a way that says “fat, old no makeup, glasses, or jewelry. Find the schlump” is not only unattractive, it’s colors that make you look awake and false. Since you’re not a fat, old schlump, healthy. If a color doesn’t fl atter you, you should be dressing as the person either leave it out of your wardrobe en- you really are. tirely or keep it on your bottom half. If Once you have your you uniform set, a color does fl atter you, keep it around you’re free to deal with whatever is going and wear it. on that really matters to you. But you’ll Once you know the styles and colors be able to do it with the confi dence that that work best for you, start working comes from looking like the real you.

Meira E. Schneider-Atik is a wardrobe organizer, personal shopper, jewelry designer, and fashion writer and speaker. She helps women look great while saving time, effort, and money, all within tzniut. Her jewelry pieces can be seen on Facebook (just look up Rena Mei) or in person. She also has the YouTube channel “Look your best in mitpachot,” where she does head- wrapping tutorials, and she is available for private demonstrations. She can be reached at (718) 644-6135 or at [email protected].

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Risselle Naimark is a Professional Freelance Makeup Artist and Skincare Consultant. She carries an extensive line of personalized skincare, cosmetics, and anti-aging products. Risselle is also available for weddings, Bar Mitzvahs, makeup lessons, and all of your beauty needs. She can be reached at 718 263-5517. Moisturize your lips well with a vitamin E stick or lip balm

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 89 Makeup Tips For A Three-Day Yom Tov oily foods, which tend to break down even satin pillowcase to sleep on. This also long-lasting lipstick formulas. helps makeup endure and prevents wrin- CONTINUED FROM P. 89 terproof gel liner in a dark color, which If color on your lips is a must, then use kles, especially since you won’t be allowed usually stays put until you wash it off. either a long-last lipstick or quality lip-seal- to use a moisturizer for three days. ger than the brush method. Besides, the layer of powder from the eye er like Lipchic. If you don’t have one, try What really gives makeup its longevity 6. Apply a powder blush on top of the shadow underneath will help keep it in lining your lips and fi ll them in complete- is the process of light layering – the more cheekbones, after the translucent powder. place. You need not bother using bottom ly. Then apply your regular lipstick and the merrier. Plan in advance to schedule This is now your second layer of blush and eyeliner, as it will probably smear or run blot well. Now, place a 1-ply tissue on the yourself some well-deserved extra time to will give you a healthy glow. over the course of a three-day Yom Tov. lips and apply loose powder onto the lips get ready Erev Yom Tov in order to look 7. Apply eye shadows heavily with a 9. Moisturize your lips well with a vi- through the tissue. Reapply the lipstick beautiful. You will feel good about your- wand instead of a brush, since they will tamin E stick or lip balm, since chapped and blot again. This will also set the lip- self, thus putting you in a better mood and last longer. You can use your brush to lips are not a pretty sight, no matter what stick to endure. Do not apply regular gloss giving you the ability to focus on t’shuvah seamlessly blend them. Please note that lipstick you wear. If you have full lips and over the lipstick, as the oils will break it and t’fi lah during the holidays. Wishing metallic shadows, which are very popular are content with playing up your eyes and down and defeat the purpose. Instead, you all our readers a k’sivah v’chasimah tovah, these days, outlast mattes, as the shim- cheeks, you can skip this step, as it proba- can use a silicone-based gloss that’s de- a beautiful year fi lled with good health, mery particles adhere better to skin. bly won’t last for three days, especially if signed for longevity. happiness, peace, prosperity, much na- 8. Line your upper eyelids with a wa- you will be eating chicken soup or other 10. Last but not least, invest in a silk or chas, and besuros tovos.

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Going To Shul

The hardest part about shofar is the two hours when you’re not supposed to talk and comment about how bad the shofar blowing is

he High Holidays are a time for this year? It’s the Year of the Ram. Al- people to come together in unity ways. It’s the only one we have. Tand then pray silently in seats And yet, even though we have the their in-laws bought for them. We pray same year again and again, we somehow for peace, success, forgiveness, and for manage to have four New Year’s Days the air conditioner to work properly each year. One in Tishrei for the calen- while we’re in shul. It’s the time of year dar, sh’mitah, and yovel. One in Sh’vat when synagogues all over the world are for the trees. One in Nisan for kings and packed to the brim with Jews complain- festivals. One in Elul for ma’aser of ani- ing about how long the davening is. mals. You’d think that by now, everyone Everyone comes to shul on the most would have managed to get together and solemn days of the year, humbling them- synchronize their calendars. selves in their most expensive suits or Donations are an integral part of the dresses and their cheapest canvas shoes. High Holidays. That’s mostly because it’s Aside from being the holiest time of when the biggest crowds come. The rab- the year, it is also the time that many bi will often say that it does not matter newcomers come to shul to see what how much you give as long as you give the hype is all about. We should wel- something, but the truth is, the more come them with open arms and be extra you give, the less guilt you’ll feel for friendly so that they will hopefully not only showing up twice a year. Shuls have sit next to us. (Then again, knowing our a few types of members: daily, weekly, in-laws, they probably purposely bought annual, centennial. If you come daily, us the seat next to the newcomers.) you’re in good shape and don’t need to On Rosh HaShanah night, there’s a join the building fund. If you’re someone greeting where we wish people a good who doesn’t know who the guy with the judgment, which is appropriate, since beard who’s speaking is, then you need Jews are usually judging each other. to sponsor a new social hall. “L’shanah tovah tikaseiv v’seichaseim to Rabbis will also use this time to tack you and yours, with one nation, under on extra guilt about how bad we’ve been G-d, indivisible, with liberty and justice over the year, which is just overkill, con- for all.” sidering that’s what we get from our par- Many coworkers and friends will still ents anyway. Are we supposed to make a be wishing us “Happy New Year” well special brachah on the extra guilt? In any into November while they’re setting up case, some people avoid the whole issue their Chanukah menorah. of guilt. They pay extra in advance to It always takes a little while to re- get the good seats – the ones next to the member what the current Jewish year wall – so that they can lean their heads is. It is not something the average Jew on the wall while they sleep through the knows. You need to take the current sec- rabbi’s speech. ular year, multiply it by three and sub- This time in the calendar has the lon- tract 4.5 percent for annual interest... It’s gest davening of the year. It’s no won- complicated. The Chinese New Year is der some people only show up twice a easier. Chinese years always have a dif- year. For all they know, shul is always a ferent animal: Year of the Monkey, Year full day of praying and prostrating, and of the Horse. I’m sure some non-Jews want to know, what’s the Jewish animal CONTINUED ON P. 94

Eli Lebowicz is a standup comedian who performs at Jewish events all over the country. Some may ﬁ nd his material too Jewish, but with a name like Lebowicz, he isn’t really trying to hide that. Website: EliComedy.com Elisha Wiesel is a comedy writer and performs standup comedy around NYC. He also does emceeing at business events. Email: wieseleli- [email protected]

1 Tishrei 5777 • Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 93 Transforming CONTINUED FROM P. 75 out that we can never live fully. Guilt can keep us “stuck,” even for a lifetime, times, it’s either we sink or swim. sadly. And then, let’s forgive those New beginnings in real estate, in- around us. Thus, we open up the chan- cluding a move, sale, or purchase for nels for Hashem to forgive us. We can any reason, including because of a all begin again at any moment in time. change in familial status, a reloca- We can help ourselves. We can then tion, upsizing, or downsizing, are all help others. When we make an open- situations of transformation. I heard ing like the eye of a needle, Hashem someone say recently in a courthouse, opens the rest. “Welcome to the world you have cre- Thank you all so much for the kind ated.” Interesting observation. And words regarding my writing. Over true to the core. And yet we can choose Shabbos, on my way to a shiur at the our reaction/action. I saw another ad Jewish Heritage Center, I was literally from AARP that said simply: “Action stopped by two dozen people compli- required.” Indeed. And that I think is menting me on my articles and saying I the essence of t’shuvah as we approach have inspired them. That is besides all Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur. Tak- those who email, text, call, WhatsApp, ing action. Even when we are afraid. and otherwise and let me know that I Even when we do not want to. Even have affected them positively through when we are stuck. A rabbi said that my writing. You must all know this: You we must heed messages in small doses have given me more than I have given and internalize and contemplate daily, you by your acknowledgement. I love even if we just “start.” Then Hashem writing and sharing my life genuinely! will view us as “in-process,” even if the And I take this opportunity to thank process is not complete and even if it the Queens Jewish Link for giving me is never complete. If we start, just try, the opportunity to do so and for pro- we will be judged with our intentions ducing an excellent and important pub- at that moment. What a motivating lication benefi ting our communities. thought! I have made so many chang- Wishing all a good, sweet, successful, es in my life under the premise of “one healthy new year fi lled with simchos, day at a time,” which fi ts perfectly with prosperity, peace in our hearts, peace in the rabbi’s eternal message. Let’s begin our homes, and peace in Eretz Yisrael with forgiving ourselves fi rst, for with- and the world.

Going To Shul CONTINUED FROM P. 93 the day, and to create a hefsek and wonder if the Yankees won last night. there’s not even a Kiddush-club break. Some people don’t like to take a nap Since they only show up twice a year, on Rosh HaShanah. These people obvi- they think that davening always takes ously don’t have children. They say that this long. Since the davening takes so there is an idea that if someone sleeps long, it makes sense that they only on Rosh HaShanah, then they’ll have a show up twice a year. This is yet anoth- sleepy year. But if you’re falling asleep er case of Jews talking in circles. on the Day of Judgment, it’s probably a Then there’s the shofar blowing. The sign that you’re tired to begin with. hardest part about shofar is the two When it comes to repentance, some hours when you’re not supposed to talk religions offer confession, prayer, fast- and comment about how bad the sho- ing, or charity, but only the High Holi- far blowing is. (If you didn’t know that, days offer all four at one time. Call now please add $20 to your shul donation.) to book your seats! Our operators are Even in the desert, the Jews couldn’t standing by, waiting to assist with sales make it two hours without complain- donations. For the price of a really ex- ing. To speed up the davening, some pensive cup of coffee, you can pray in shuls blow shofar during the silent shul for the High Holidays. While some Shemoneh Esrei, but then you have the people believe you can atone for sins issue of waiting for the chazan at cer- with confession, Jews believe that it tain points. That leaves a lot of time for takes a Tishrei to do whatever you want introspection about the seriousness of the rest of the year.

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Hillary Clinton’s book “What Happened” came out today, and I heard that it’s almost 500 pages long. Unfortunately, the only person with enough time to read it is Hillary Clinton. - Jimmy Fallon

The U.S. government has announced a deal to sell 18 fighter jets to Canada. The jets will help Canada protect itself from its most hated enemy: bad manners. - Conan O’Brien

Ivanka Trump said that she doesn’t speak out against her dad publicly because “when you’re part of a team, you’re part of a team.” I think what she meant to say is “when you’re part– Jimmyof a will, Fallon you’re part of a will.”

Target announced that it willwill hihirere swornsw in, he has personally fl own to 100,0000,000 seseasonalasonal eemployeesm l during the Florida to make sure there were no holidays. Ten of them will be on the hurricanes there. Sometimes he even register; the rest will wander around carries a golf club to fend them off. saying, “I don’t work in this depart- – Jimmy Kimmel ment.” - Jimmy Fallon A video was just posted of a giant python in the New York City subway After meeting with Democratic lead- wrapped around a handrail. Passengers ers, it seems like Trump changed his were like, “Eww! He’s TOUCHING the mind on DACA. Democrats were like, handrail!” “Yeah, we told him it stood for Dough- - Jimmy Fallon nuts Across America.” - Jimmy Fallon Apple is working with medical pro- fessionals to see if Apple Watches can President Trump now says he wants detect heart problems. Here’s how it the wealthy to pay more taxes and un- works. If the Apple Watch doesn’t fi t documented minors to be allowed to around your wrist, you have a heart stay in the country. Then, this morn- problem. ing, Trump accused himself of being – Conan O’Brien born in Kenya. – Conan O’Brien The new iPhone 10 was released and Samsung, not to be left out, they Facebook is under fi re because, announced that they are hoping to re- during last year’s election, Facebook lease a bendable version of the Galaxy sold lots of ad space to Russia. Face- Note that folds in half. Now here’s my book said the problem has been fi xed. question, can it bend into an iPhone Now they’re selling that ad space to a 10? If not, I don’t care. really nice lady named Isis. - James Corden – Conan O’Brien The new iPhone is pretty incredible. The president and his wife were in Experts say it’s going to revolutionize Florida today to look at the damage the way we ignore the person standing caused by Hurricane Irma. Trump cares right next to us. It’s called the iPhone very deeply about the state of Florida. 10. Almost every weekend since he was – James Corden

96 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VI No. 37 (#229) • September 21, 2017 See solution in this issue By: Yoni Glatt, [email protected] Down “A Healthier New Year” Difficulty Level: Challenging 1. Derech 30. John, to Ringo 2. Garten of “Barefoot Contessa” 33. Ken, to Hook 3. It tends to be full of what this puzzle 35. Israel’s 12th, for short is missing 37. Stadium walking distance from 4. “...is fear ___.” Forest Hills Jewish Center 5. What a sacrifice must be 38. “Evil Woman” band, for short 6. Test for one planning to attend 39. The worst of what is missing from Cardozo this puzzle’s theme answers 7. Puppet suffix for Shari Lewis 43. Arm of Israel 8. Estee Lauder after shave 44. Unwanted Sukkah guest 9. Make like a groom under the 45. Trick in an Abrams film chuppah 46. Israel’s most popular sport 10. “Cool” amount 47. Lovable TV racist 11. Analyzes, but not like Freud 49. Jong and Hill 12. Challah knife holder 50. Seleucid country 13. Rabbi Yehuda ___ 52. “For though ___ cast me into the 18. Mother of 68-Across deep” (Jonah) 22. “You’ve enraged me!” 53. Biblical verb ending 24. Engine speed, for short 56. Leave in, to an editor 25. Author Levin 57. Baruch follower 26. Eaters of stolen ham on 36-Across, 59. King preceder? e.g. 61. Treat like a schnook 27. What a Bar Mitzvah boy will often 62. Bibliophile’s suffix do 63. Sons of Haman 29. Holy ___

Across 1. It connects people? 26. Hasidic band from Israel 51. Abraham, Isaac and Jacob 5. Cry from Jeremiah 28. Abbr. at YU 53. NBA General Manager Grunfeld 9. Make like Moses, to a famous pair 29. Garden of Eden feeling, perhaps 54. Org. that watches “The 14. Biol. subject or a girl’s name in 31. Talmudic Rav Goldbergs”? Hebrew 32. Zedong that honored Israel Epstein 55. Singer Goldwag 15. JDate swiper, e.g. 33. Elvis Presley’s middle name 56. Fills up 16. B’Av preceder 34. Wan that’s a sort of cosmic rabbi 58. Number for Hashem? 17. Terrorist who died in 2004 36. Yom Kippur 60. One way to eat healthier..or a 19. Elizabeth who plays Lee & Kirby’s 40. Prepare the Shabbat table, e.g. hint to solving 17, 26, 36, and Scarlet Witch 41. “Tree” name for a boy 51-Across 20. Month that’s a palindrome 42. Apply some Ahava products 64. Puts a roof on 21. Mad Madam in “The Sword in the 45. ___ Einai 65. On the Galilee Stone” 48. Controversial builder in Jewish 66. Prop for Wilder’s Wonka 23. Org. with an “Essential Guide to history 67. Shabbat snack at youth groups Israel” 50. What one shouldn’t do during 68. Early man 24. Many an IDF soldier carries one Birchat Kohanim 69. Writer-Director Cohen DIFFERENCES? 10 CAN YOU SPOT

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