Denver Catholic Resiste m Vol. LXVm No. 41 October 14, 1992 Colorado's Largest Weekly 36 Pages 35 cents Boy with AIDS He did not learn the truth for three years
By MEG SANDOVAL PHILLIPS
The reality of being infected with AIDS has robbed an 11-year old Denver boy of much of his childhood. Ryan is a shy, but keen observer with a noncha lance and bearing beyond his years. Although he smiles mischievously as he snuggles Ryan is an 11- up to his mother, Denise, and playfully holds her tight with a swift wrestling move — AIDS has year-old who was stripped away many of the vestiges of childhood infected with the HIV virus at age that should be his by rights. two from a blood But they have discovered the hard way that in transfusion. some instances, there are no rights in this world. Ryan was infected with the HIV virus at the age of two after receiving a blood transfusion during open heart surgery.
'When school started up again the next year, a letter went out to all the parents saying that there would be an AIDS child in James Baca/TX'R P^oto school that year. 'I didn’t know it was me... and destroys the immune system. and Ryan know of others who would benefit from When I went home and told Ryan does not attend school anymore. A tutor the support PAC has to offer, but because of their mom about it, that’s when she comes to his home twice a week to teach him. He has firm belief in confidentiality for families affected by not eaten solid food for three years, instead he re AIDS, they cannot make initial contact. told me that I was the AIDS ceives liquid sustenance from a parenteral nutrient “It is important for people to know that we device that he wears like a backpack. respect their privacy,” Denise said. “We do not child.' Most of all, what Ryan would like everyone to share information with any one else.” know is that “you just can’t get AIDS from touching Last year, PAC, with technical assistance from somebody, or being in the same room or drinking out the People of Color Con.sortium Against AIDS Denise, now a single parent with another son who of the same glass.” (POCCAA), initiated a program called Operation is five years old, learned about Ryan’s disease in “We thought we were the only ones for a long Santa Claus. 1986. She managed to keep the heart-wrenching time,” Denise .said. ‘There is really nothing out there Donations of gifts, primarily new toys and cloth truth from her son for three years. for families dealing with AIDS. It is so hard knowing ing, were sought for approximately 20 children As Ryan tells the story, he was getting sick a lot that someone you love is dying and being afraid to either affected or infected by AIDS. and his mom felt that his principal and the school talk about it. New items are requested simply because PAC's nurse should know what was going on. “I know a lot of people who would like to be able main concern is improving the quality of life for “For a while, he [the principal) said there was no to say it and talk about it, but they are afraid. They families coping with AIDS. need for anyone else to know,” Ryan explained. worry about what people will say and that their “These kids are used to ‘second best’ anyway." “Then, when .school started up again the next year, employers will fire them.” Denise said. “We want something better for them." a letter went out to all the p;uents saying that there Ryan and Denise received hate mail after they Each child participating in the program will be would be an AEDS child in school that year. decided to talk openly about Ryan’s disease. How asked to fill out a form indicating their age, sex, “I didn’t know it was me. The media showed up ever, it did not deter them from forming their own clothing sizes and their top five gift choices. at school [on the first day). It was just real crazy. support group “Parents and Children with AfDS” From there, PAC and POCCAA will solicit When I went home and told mom about it, that’s (PAC) to help other families trying to come to grips donations and specific gifts from the community. when she told me that I was the AIDS child.” with the disease. Last year, gifts were provided for Operation “It was easier when it didn't have a name,” he The only requirement for membership in PAC is that Santa Claus participant.s by kKal radio station KQ.Xl said. the affected or infected family have a child under die and a Washington D.C.-based group. Americ.tns for AfDS not only has a name, but a reputation that age of 18 living in the household. The child does not a Sound AIDS Project (ASAP). makes life lonely and very difficult for families necessarily have to be the person suffering from AIDS. Infomiation about Operation Santa Claus and loining “affected” and “infected" with the virus that attacLs PAC is made up of 14 families at present. Denise P.'\C IS available by calling POCCA.A, 894-903.''. Page 2 — October 14, 1992 — Denver Catholic Register Beyond the Baroque dome Recently I was part of an informal gathering of It is a reform being spearheaded by women. Two- about twenty-five Evangelical Protestant and Roman thirds of the forty million Evangelical converts from Catholics held in New York City. Dr. Peter Berger Roman Catholicism in Latin America have been Inside the DCR who described himself as “a sociologist and women. “Moral conservatism” is the description umeconstructed Lutheran” was present, together with the Martins give to this movement. “Women and two colleagues from his Center for the Study of family are absolutely essential to understanding this Economic Cultme. The two researchers, Drs. David world-wide phenomenon.” and Bernice Martin, shared with us some insights Dr. Bernice Martin stressed that the single family from their studies on “the explosion of evangelical has been the experience for poor Latins for the past Christianity in the world.” Their particular focus was three hundred years. “Informal marriage” is the norm with very high breakdown rates. Tradition ally, the man has demonstrated a high level of ARCHBISHOPS instability as father and husband in the Catholic COLUMN culture. Martin said that for poor Latino women in family life, “the Catholic check had boimced.” on Latin America, especially Guatemala, Chile and Upon conversion, what was promised under B razi 1. Their previous studies on the same general subject Catholic doctrine in family and mturiage life is includes the acclaimed book, ‘Tongues of Fire.” really delivered by evangelical Christianity. Women In the past Dr. Berger had maintained that moder pull their men “into a feminized world” of marital nity meant the increasing secularization of culture . I fidelity. “Men have the leadership in evangelical still basically agree with that insight. Particularly in churches but the values are women’s.” the First World people are taught only to respect the It is hard for men. It runs totally counter to St. Catherine's School empirical: observe data, analyze data, report on data “machismo.” But men have some real authority in and base your life on nothing other than concrete, “the house churches” in compensation for giving up New principal makes a difference. always tentative conclusions drawn from data. There machismo. Besides, because ofthe desire to read the appears little room left in modernity for the One bible, the illiteracy rate is dropping in those regions whose name is Jesus Christ and who is described as of mass conversions. Family stability and increas “full of grace and truth.” Beauty, goodness and truth ing literacy, needless to say, have immense implica revealed in Christ are too suspect—too abstract--loo tions for the lessening of the dreadful poverty in subjective—too vulnerable to historical criticism, for Latin America. Because their Center concentrates us any longer to entrust life and its meaning. In this on the study of economic culture, Berger and the kind of environment people no longer seem capable Martins were particularly interested in an aspect of of asking the most fundamental question, “Why is the religious revolution which they labelled “entre there anything at all and not simply nothing?” preneurial churches.” For many years I have been convinced of the Much more was discussed during this rich two- phenomenon of secularization and continue to be day gathering, including the decline of “folk-Ca- lieve it about the First World. But Dr. Berger, tholicism” in Latin America with the ascendancy of reversing his own previous judgement, now insists liberation theology, but time and space are lacking. that “the modem world is moving into a furiously What is a Roman Catholic view of this “fragmen religious world.” And this new religious revolution tation of the Catholic world” in Latin America and is basically evangelical and pentecostal. He cites elsewhere? Peter Berger said that “pluralism is evidence not only in Latin America, but also in incompatible with Catholicism. The baroque dome 13-24 Africa, Eastern Europe and the Pacific rim. of the Catholic faith is cracking under the strain.” A critic of modem religion, Harold Bloom, claims This was a striking image, the key part of which is somethingsimilarforNorth America. There seems to the word “baroque.” I shared with the group one of Fall/Winter Bridal be a consensus developing among sociologists and my own deepest convictions about Catholicism. critics of religion that mainline Protestantism is mov The Second Vatican Council has called us to reach Special section for Catholic couples. ing more and more to the margins of world culture. back beyond the baroque manifestations of our Whatever may be the future of religious faith in the history, back to the first thousand years, to the period First World, there is no doubt from the Martins ’ report in which our churches had “many domes” in the that there is an “absolutely volcanic dynamism in patristic and byzantine periods and Catholicism was Latin American society, especially Brazil.” The most true to its name—its unity manifested its trinitarian obvious indication of this astonishing dynamism is origin in the diversity of orthodoxy. In the United the rapid increase of Pentecostal Christianity in Latin States, the Catholic Church has only begun this America. It is moving entirely outside the agenda of the “ressourcement,” this recovery of the patristic and World Council of Churches. It caimot be called early medieval theologies with their strong emphasis “fundamentalistic” because “fundamentalism is a western on personalism, history and ecclesial commimion. phenomenon in its origin” and this revival is basically + J. Francis Stafford indigenous to the Third World. Archbishop of Denver Denver OFFICIAL Catholic Register I ARCHBISHOP'S OFTFICI2 Robert H. F^mnmy 200 Josephine Street Ganaral Manager Denver. CO 80206 Chariana Scott Appointm ents E d H o r 25-28 Frank Vacchlaralll Rev. James Spahn, O.P. granted Presbyteral Advatilairtg DIractor Faculties. He will be in residence at St. Dominic Tho Donvor Catholic Ragislor (USPS 667-020) la pobllehod waakty axcapt tha last waak o# D acam bar by tha ArctxJlocasa El Pueblo Catolico Priory, Denver, Colorado, effective Oct. 5, 1992 ot Danvar and prbtad by Clamants Printng. Sacond-class poataga paid In Danvar. CO. Subscriptions; *18.75 par yaar until assignment in Denver is completed. h Colorado: *27 par yaar out erf stats. Foralgn countrlas: %29 ■urtaca. all countrlas. 6-8 waaka delivery; *136 air. all other Minorities share view on Columbus. Deacon John McKeown reappointed to serve on cocnlrtaa {average). Mexico *48 air Canada *55 air. the Permanent Diaconate Personnel Board for a 200 Josophlne St. Phon«: period of three years. Donver, CO 80206 388-4411 Denver Catholic Register — O ctober 14, 1992 -- Page 3 Seminarians for the Archdiocese of Denver
Rev. Mr. Jim Baird Chad Bock Tom Boh John Brooks Greg Bryant
V / v Thomas Burkett Rev. Mr. Tim Evans Bob Gallegos Jim Goggins
David Good John Kraus Travis McManigal Michael Mullen Dan Norick
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(Editor's note: Ken Voiles is not pictured.)
Photos by James Baca David Schreck James Spahn Michael Wasinger Jeff Wilborn Dan Zimmerschied Page 4 — October 14, 1992 — Denver Catholic Register
Grief support group
A grief support group for adults experiencing the loss of a significant person in their lives will begin Wednesday, Oct. 21, and continue con secutive Wednesdays and one Monday for eight weeks. Each session, facilitated and sponsored by Catholic Charities and Community Services’ Hospice of Peace, will be from 7 to 9 p.m. at the Catholic Pastoral Center, 200 Josephine St. The sessions, entitled “Returning to Life,” will be facilitated by counselors familiar with the grief experience. Participants are asked to make a com mitment to anend all eight weekly meetings.
Topics for each session are: Oct. 21: “Introductions and Telling the Story of Your Loss.” Oct. 28: “Understanding the Mourning Process.” Nov. 4: “Feelings Associated with Mourning.” Nov. 11: “Remembering the Deceased on Special Days.” Nov. 18: “Coping Strategies.” Nov. 23: “Changes in Identity and Self-Identity.” Dec. 2: “Finding Timer and Outer Resources.” THE NEW BOARD of the Jeanne Jugan Auxiliary of the Little Sisters of the Poor of Mullen Home for the Dec. 9: “Going Forward with Your Life.” elderly in Denver met recently with chaplain Father Robert M. Syrianey and with Mother Gonzague de St. Cluintel (standing). The annual auxiliary holiday boutique will be held Oct. 23-24 at Most Precious Blood To register or for more information, call Elaine Church, 2250 S. Harrison. JaiiM* Baca/DCR Photo Feldhaus at 388-4491, ext. 261.
ROCKY MOUNTAIN MARIAN CONFERENCE "YOUR MOTHER IS CALLING YOU HOME”
The New Colorado ROCKY MOUNTAIN MARIAN CONFERENCE REGISTRATION Convention Center
PL’dse [yrmt >our ruime as you would like it to PRIESTS AND DEACONS: DENVER, COLORADO df>pt'dr on -vour ruimc Wc cnctiurn^e Pnest.s to concelehnuc Mass and hear confessions. Deacons are encouraged to DECEMBER 4-5-6, 1992 N’.inu-; (1) assist at Mas.s. Please indicate your availahiiiry. .A JJrt-NN; FRl SAT SUN SPECIAL YOUTH PROGRAMS 1 W i l l concelehrate □ □ □ KINDERGARTEN - tlTH GRADE I w i l l hear confessions □ □ □ 7TH GRADE - I2TH GRADE r one N( 1-. ( I w i l l assist at Mass □ □ □
# ALluir^ Nj S N u m b t-r SPEAKERS AND GUESTS # M .irn e d (^tupleN ''t/ 5 Special Needs Impaired Hearing J. FRANCIS STAFFORD, Archbishop of Denver # F :im ilv 'ft S80 5 Impaired Sight # Youth under 't/ $20 $ In Wheelchair FR. SYLVESTER CATALLO # Priest*.'Relti»ious $ FR. SVETOZAR KRALJEVIC T.ix exempt don.uion to defray costs $ I Make checks payable to: Center for Peace ~ Demter FR. GERARD MC GINNITY OPTK^NAL MEALS f( (ItCTi'ri Sn S ertkf ArrU'n
JIM JENNINGS Person Registering Mt ALS Card # ______Sal Sal Sur^ N a m e { I ) RITA KLAUS N,«,n Fvr N.a.n Expiratum Date. JERRY MORIN ; s.r.. S,.T,r. □ □ □ Signature. _ MICHAEL O'BRIEN Others Attending JOSYP TERELYA □ □ □ WAYNE WEIBLE □ □ □ Covered parking is now available for the □ □ □ entire conference. Send an additional CENTER FOR PEACE - DENVER □ □ □ $10.00 for your Parking Permit. Parking □ □ will be at the Tremont Parking Facility, 400 (303)333-5392 FAX(303)329-6785 □ 15th Street. Denver Catholic Register — October 14, 1992 — Page 5
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Missionaries from the Archdiocese of Denver 10. MEXICO: Sister Mary Anne Hays, Sisters of South Africa. serve in nations throughout the world. They need the St. Francis, Apartado 114, Ixmiquilpan, Hidalgo, 20. TAIWAN: Sister Mary Ellen Kerrigan, Oue<^n prayerful support and letters from the people of the Mexico 42300; Brother Rory O’Toole, Legion of of All Saints Convent, 42 Kwei Ho Street, Taichung, archdiocese. Christ, Rosedal 50, Lomas, 11000, Mexico D.F., Taiwan 403. The following is a list of those from the archdio Mexico. 21. TANZANIA: Sister Marian Scena, Makiungu cese serving in the missions: 11. MICRONESIA: Mr. Mark Kovacik, Jesuit Hospital, P.O. Box 56, Singida,Tanz.ania; Mr.Daniel 1. ARGENTINA: Sister Jean Burghardt, Avenida International Volunteers, The Catholic Church, P.O. Becker, St. Pius The Tenth Seminary, P.O. Box 283, Musoma, Tanzania. San Martin 3773, 1847 Rafael Calzada, VS.AS., Box 250, Moen Chuuk, F.S.M. 96942. 22. THAILAND: Sister Margaret Loehr, Thera Argentina. 12. NICARAGUA: Mr. Brendan Shea, Lista de 2. BELIZE: Father Sherwood T. Boian, Deodato Correos, Managua, Nicaragua; Mr. Joe Sloan, Casa peutic Community, 96 Mu 4, Chombung District, Ratchaburi 70150 Thailand. Bum Jesuit Residence, P.O. Box 548, Belize City, Cural, Esquipulas, Matagalpa, Nicaragua; Sister Eliza 23. VENEZUELA: Mr. Abraham J. De Herrera, Belize; Father Robert Simms, Jesuit Fathers, St. beth Salmon, Hermanas de Maryknoll, Apartado Caritas, Casa de Cursillos, Apartado 31, Av. Peter Claver Parish, P.O. Box 25, Punta Gorda, Postal 248, Leon, Nicaragua. Libertador, Barquisimeto, Venezuela. Belize; Father Leo Weber, Jesuit Fathers, St. John’s 13. PAKISTAN: Father Gregory Rice, Caritas 24. ZAMBIA: Father Pat Gitzen, Santa Maria College, Landivar, PO. Box 548, Belize City, Belize. Pakistan, 3-A Park Avenue, University Town, Mission, P.O. Box 950020, Lukulu, Western Prov 3. BOLIVIA: Father Michael Dooling, Convento Peshawar, Pakistan. ince, Zambia, Africa; Father Brian Wallace, St. San Antonio, Casilla 337, Santa Cruz, Bolivia. 14. PAPUA NEW GUINEA: Father Malachy Michael’s Catholic Church, P.O. Box 930009, 4. CHILE: Jose & Jo Acevedo, Rio Janeiro 921, McBride, Capuchin Fathers, Sts. Peter & Paul Church, Kalabo, Western Province, Zambia, Africa. Santiago, Chile; Ms. Sarah Johnson, Asociados de Det. (P.O. Mendi, Box 106), S.H.P., Papua New Santa Cruz, Casilla 1271, Correo Central, Santiago, Guinea; Father David Songy, St. Clare’s Priory, P.O. Chile. Box 238, Mt. Hagen, W.H.P., Papua New Guinea. National Campaign for 5. COLOMBIA: Father Ron Weissbeck, Equipo 15. PERU: Father Philip Devlin, Holy Cross Fa Pastoral, San Nicolas, A.A. 1393, Monteria, Cordoba, thers, Apartado 5195, Canto Grande, Lima, Peru; Human Development Colombia; Ms. Kathy McGrane, Equipo Pastoral, Sister Elizabeth Conrad, Parroquia de San Ignacio, funding applications San Nicolas, A.A. 1393, Monteria, Cordoba, Co Via Chiclayo, Cajamarca, Peru; Sister Joan Kilker, lombia; Sister Judith Justinger, Equipo Pastoral, Negrito Community, Apartado 4A, Talara, Peru; Pre-applications for National Campaign for Hu Espiritu Santo, A.A. 1393, Monteria, Cordoba, Co Sister Ruth Reischman, Santa Julia Community, man Development funding are available at this time. lombia; Father Bemie Schmitz, Equipo Pastoral, Apartado 192, Piura, Peru; Sister Mary Kay The source of revenue for both national and local Espiritu Santo, A.A. 1393, Monteria, Cordoba, Co Kottenstette, Apartado 46, Sicuani, Cuzco, Peru; Mr. funding is derived from an annual collection in all lombia. John P. Wagner, Misioneros de Maryknoll, Casilla dioceses in the U.U. and Puerto Rico, 75 percent of 6. EL SALVADOR: Patricia Lawless-Avelar, 295, Puno, Peru. which is available for funding national proposals Apartado 1111, Centro de Gobiemo, San Salvador, 16. PHILIPPINES: Father Daniel Joseph and the remaining 25 percent is retained by each McNamara, Loyola House of Studies, P.O. Box 4082, El Salvador. diocese for funding local proposals. 7. HAITI: Mr. Mark V. Egan, American Univ. of Manila 2800, Phillippines. The collection will be taken up this year Nov. 22. Les Cayes, C/O Lynx Air, P.O. Box 407139, Fort 17. PUERTO RICO: Father Vincent A. The pre-application form is the required first step Pasqualetto, Calle Girasol E. 189, Urb. Loiza Valley, Lauderdale, FL 33340. in applying to National Campaign for Human De 8. GHANA: Sister Marie Ego, Holy Family Canovanas, Puerto Rico 00629. velopment for a grant, all pre-applications must Hospital, Box 21, Berekum, B/A, Ghana. 18. SIERRA LEONNE: Ms. Anita Kennedy, c/o meet CHD criteria before a full application is filed. 9. HONDURAS: Father Raymond A. Pease, Je Xaverian Fathers, P.O. Box 1335, Freetown, Sierra Pre-applications must be postmarked by Nov. 2, suit Fathers, Casa Cural, Morazon, Yoro, Honduras; Leonne. 1992. Father Robert D. Voss, Jesuit Fathers, Casa Cural, . 19. SOUTH AFRICA: Mr. Michael St. Peter, For further information, call Deacon Bill Linton House of Mercy, P.O. Box 1900, Boksburg 1460, Sulaco, Yoro, Honduras. at 985-7976. Page 6 — October 14, 1992 — Denver Catholic Register s';
THE PH.GRIMAGE OF PEACE was held in Denver for the sixth time Oct. 4, drawing more than 300 participants. Here Archbishop J. Francis Staf ford leads the procession to several homes of the elderly, assisted by Sister Peggy Maloney • ■>> - of the Archdioc iu-.-,v; — esan Peace and .' * '^'t ', " •• 'V «C» 4 ' V' Justice Office.
James Baca/DCR Photo
C'E-LE • T - l - N ' G
A HEALING SERVICE WITH FATHER RON ROTH
Fr. Ron Roth, a Catholic priest, will conduct eight healing services and two healing workshops in the Denver-Ft. Collins area October 16-23. C^chdiocesan Charismatic Ministries Fr. Roth states, “My whole purpose in this work is to use all that the Catholic Church has available, and to present it in a Information call: 940-8770 way that the people can use to great advantage to find new hope and joy within the Catholic Church instead of looking elsewhere.’’
HEALING MASSES BY FR. RON ROTH
Oct. 16: 7:30pm - Holy Cross Church, 9371 Wigham St., Thornton
Oct. 18: 7:00pm - Shrine of ST. Anne, West 58th Ave. & Webster St., Arvada
Oct. 20: 7:30pm - John X X III University Parish, 1220 University Ave., Ft. Collins
Oct. 21: 7:00pm - Holy Ghost Parish, 1900 California St., Denver
Oct. 22: 7:00pm - St. Michael the Archangel, 19099 E. Floyd Ave., Aurora
Oct. 23: 7:00pm - St. Louis Parish, 3310 S. Sherman, Englewood
HEALING SERVICE/WORKSHOP
Oct. 17: Si. Mary’s Church, 6853 S. Prince St. Littleton - 9am til 3pm
Oct. 18: Shrine of St. Anne, West 58th & Webster St., Arvada - 3pm til 6pm
Love offerings will he taken at Events
I Denver Catholic Register — October 14, 1992 — Page 7 BOOK REVIEW euthanasia look like?” He succeeds brilliantly in his goal. studies were almost more than I could bear as a REGULATING DEATH The book is basically divided into three parts. In physician. I literally could not read them in one By Carlos Gomez, M.D. the first part. Dr. Gomez traces the historical develop sitting because of the negative psychological impact Reviewed by Walter R. Hunter. M.D. ment of euthanasia in the Netherlands through land they had upon me. The debate surrounding euthanasia continues to mark court cases and the reaction of the medical This book should be ‘required’ reading for any intensify in the United States and in western Europe. profession to these cases. physician, nurse, health care provider or lay person The citizens of California will vote in November He shows how the practice has come to be tolerated who has the least bit of interest in this controversial upon a referendum which would allow “physician- even though it is still technically illegal. In the middle subject. As Catholics we have sound theological and assisted” suicide in that state. section of the book he details twenty-six case studies philosophical reasons to oppose this trend toward Increasingly, the medical profession is being called of the practice. In the final chapters he looks at the euthanasia. Unfortunately, our arguments receive upon to assist patients in ending their lives. To that Dutch experience and draws some very disturbing little credence for those who do not shtu'e our par end the practice of euthanasia in the Netherlands is conclusions about the practice of euthanasia if it ticular views of God, life and death. Therefore, this often cited as evidence that the practice can be becomes legalized in the United States and elsewhere. book provides solid and irrefutable practical details regulated and controlled by the state so as to avoid As a physician who is opposed to euthanasia 1 which we must incorporate into our discussions abuse while guaranteeing this option for those pa found this book extremely helpful in developing with our pluralistic society. tients for whom it might be acceptable. strong arguments against the Dutch example. Too Dr. Gomez has provided a powerful, well-docu In a new book, “Regulating Death” (The Free often the Dutch experience is held up to be a model for mented study of an evil practice. He has done a great Press, New York, 1991) Carlos Gomez, M.D. gives American and western European physicians to accept service to those of us who oppose this practice. This us a detailed — and frightening — look at the practice and incorporate into our professional ethics. The case book breaks new ground and should not be ignored. of euthanasia in the Netherlands. A medical resident at the University of Virginia with a doctorate in public policy studies from the University of Chi cago, Dr. Gomez took a sabbatical, went to the Sponsor a Child for Netherlands and studied this practice first-hand. His book is the best look at this practice to date. Only $12 a Month. Dr. Gomez prefaces his book with the goals of his At la.st! Here is a $12 sponsorship program for Americans smdy by stating, “Were I to develop these objections who are unable to send $20, $21, or $22 a month to [i.e. his personal objections to the practice of eutha help a needy child. And yet, this is a full sponsorship program becau.se for $12 nasia] more fully, this would be a rather different sort a month you will receive: of study, focusing on matters more philosophical • a 3Vi” X 5” photograph of the child you are helping. • two personal letters from your child each year. and theological. I leave that important task to others • a complete Sponsorship Kit with your child’s ca.se and instead concentrate here on a more specific history and a special report about the country where worry: what will this newly codified practice of your child lives. • issues of our newsletter. “Sponsorship News.” All this for only $12 a month? COMMUNITY OF SAINT MARY MAGDALENE Yes- because Children International believes that many Americans would like to help a needy child. And so we searched for ways to reduce the cost without reducing "OUR JOURNEY TOGETHER" the help that goes to the child you sponsor. For example, unlike some of the other organizations, your child does not write each month, but two letters a PARISH MISSION year from your child keep you in contact and, of course, October 25-29,1992 you can write to the child just as often as you wish. Also, to keep down administrative costs, we do not offer the so-called “trial child” that the other organizations Redemptorist Mission Team mail to prosptective sponsors before the sponsors send any money. Reverend Edgar M. Gastaldi, C.Ss.R. We do not feel that it is fair to the child for a spKin.sor Reverend Warren Drinkwater, C.Ss.R. to decide whether or not to help a child based on a child’s photograph or the case history. Every child who comes to Children International for All Are Welcome help is equally needy! And to minimize overseas costs, our field workers are citizens of the countries where they serve. Many volunteer their time, working directly with families, orphanages and schools. October 25 C arlos lives in a one-room \huck with a dm floor and no furniture He needs nulnnous /(hkL medieine. clothing and an education H an 't \t>u Salvation You can make a difference! help a c hild like C arlos'.* $12 a month may not seem like much help to many God's plan for our happiness and our response Americans, but to a poor family living on an income of $1.50 or $2.00 a day, your sponsorship can help make October 26 all the difference in the world. Sponsorship AppUcation " Jesus as Savior Will you sponsor a child? Your $12 a month will help Yes, 1 wi.sh to sponsor a child. Enclosed is rr^ first provide so much: payment of $12. Plea.se as.sign me a ! 1 B
-w V be held as follows: ■ ! • Oct. 17, St. Mary Church, 6853 S. Prince St., Littleton - 9 a.m. - 3 p.m. Oct. 18, Shrine of St. Anne, W. 58th Ave. and 1 Webster St., Arvada - 3 p.m. - 6 p.m. . 1 ^ M !
S.in Ni^btdas deTolenlinop.inshlc.Kler and Father Ron WeissIx'cK share a concern in tfoni ol the new vluir^h In ibe World l*j>li>rjl l<> ilii I od' ol ib< I jrih the Ki'hop-. ol lli« t mit d '*ljl. ' wrole I hoM- «h.. I»j m nol h.-.ifd ih. t .o-.p. l jrr ilonhh poof doiihh hmi Distinctive ;;fx doiihlx opprfNM’d I h«-\ jn- m jie fijllx poof. Ij«king po%M«.Mon> Ibex jf» %pirmi
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By MEG SAP^OVAL PH n,LIPS introduced at St. Catherine’s this year. The sign on the office door reads, “We’re back” This is Taylor’s first post as principal. She taught and that is the way many of the parents of St. most recently at Notre Dame for 15 years and put in Catherine’s Elementary School students feel since 12 years in the Denver Public School system at Dilia Mapelli Taylor came on board as school prin Smiley Junior High. cipal this year. She is a Eucharistic Minister and has taught Con According to Laura Gabriel, one of nine parents fraternity of Christian Doctrine (CCD) classes at St. serving on the education commission, in the two Francis Cabrini Parish for a number of years. months that school has been in session, Taylor been “I’m a firm believer in Catholic Education,” Tay a source of encouragement and hope. lor said. “Not just for myself, but my kids too.” “We feel like we’ve been blessed. She’s a dream Her son, Anthony, attended Notre Dame Elemen come true for us and that is coming from my heart,” tary School, Regis High School and is a senior at Gabriel said. “I’m not just speaking for myself Loyola University in St. Louis. Daughter Lisa is a either. Other parents feel the same way. graduate of Regis University and teaches third grade “In the past, parents didn’t know and were not told at Our Lady of Fatima. that they could be involved. A lot of parents are very Accepting the principal ’ s position at St. Catherine’s tied to their children ’ s education,” observed Gabriel. holds special meaning for Taylor. She attended school “It is good for them to know that if they have there herself and was married there 25 years ago. problems that they can come to Di.” “What is going to make me a good principal is that “The blessings go both ways,” said Taylor, who is I’ve been there — as a student, parent and as a teacher,” equally impressed with the commitment of St. Taylor said. Catherine’s parents to the school. “I’m over Taylor’s plans for this year include establishing a whelmed,” she said. student cotmcil, the designation of a student yearbook Enrollment at the elementary school has increased photographer and publication of a yearbook, a May from 176 students last spring to 197, five students crowning event and a Holy Thursday retreat for the shy of maximum eiu-ollment. eighth graders. There is a waiting list for the sixth grade. A “One of the focuses this year will be increasing standing room only crowd heralded “Back-to-School” global and cultural awareness,” she said. Dilia Mapelli Taylor Jamca Baca/DCR Photo night. Also, there are three new teachers and a new social studies and math textbook series has been
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For God and country—vote Deliver us By DOLORE^URRAN Growing wetiry of grtindstanding, muckxacking tice and a moral obligation to vote. In “A Century of Social Teaching,” the Catholic and mudslinging? I didn't know the man, but he met my plane and bishops of the United States wrote, “As believers, we You’re not alone. announced he was my driver to the diocesan reli are called to bring our values into the marketplace and A telling statistic: this year, less than 20 percent gious education convention an hour away. We the political arena, into community and family life, of American taxpayers checked the box on the made small talk until we hit the freeway and then using our everyday opportunities and responsibities, Federal Income Tax Form to contribute $1 to the he turned to me and asked, "Are you a Christian?" our voices and votes to defend human life, human presidential election. Obviously, many Americans Startled, I replied, believe presidential campaigns have grown too long, dignity, and human rights. We are called to be a "Yes, I'm Catholic. I leaven, applying Christian values and virtues in every too costly, too dirty and self-defeating. thought you knew that." aspect of our lives.” Commenting on the national spectacle of the "I do know that, but approval hearings for his replacement, retired United are you a Christian?" States Supreme Court Justice TThurgood Marshall EDITORIAL "Most Catholics are," said, “...our best people wouldn’t put themselves I replied a bit too lightly, through that.’’ dreading tfie miles and Judging from media reports about voter apathy, With 100 years of Catholic social teaching behind scenario to come. us, now is no time to remain silent. A people so incited that detachment seems to have trickled down to "I disagree," he said. by injustice should be a people vigilant of the current voters to establish a Catch-22. For many citizens, the "I knew that," I mut state of the nation has declined so much that they three-way race for the White House. tered inside my head, but don’t want to put themselves through responsible Now—perhaps more than ever before in this cen he went on to explain that while most Catholics are citizenship. News of the House Banking Scandal, tury—we must participate in the American way. We baptized in Christ, they aren’t Christian until they Iranscam and Tailhook, coupled with the healthcare bear the political responsibility of continuing the come to accept Jesus in the same way my driver crisis, rampant poverty and homelessness, the flail Catholic Church’s long standing moral tradition of did. I attempted to change the subject, but he held ing economy, ubiquitous violence and other woes, promoting and protecting the dignity of each person me captive and wasn't going to waste any driving add up to slim hopes that the prevailing wrongs will and demanding that our elected officials do likewise. time chatting when he could spend it converting me be righted. As we count down the weeks to Election Day, study to his brand of Christianity. Consequently, throwing up one’s hands and shuf the issues. Study the candidates. Study the amend fling into the fog of voter apathy seems to be a ments. growing tendency. And for the sake of God and country, vote. Voting TALKS WITH We must, however, resist attitudes of apathy. As is more than our right—it’s our responsibility and our Catholics, we have a moral obligation to fight injus only hope for a better day. PARENTS It happened to be an evangelistic brand promis ing, along with daily joy and eternal life, worldly success, financial security and power. He recoimted Living wills his climb up the ladder of affluence since he discovered Jesus a few years back. "Before I accepted Jesus as my personal savior," he said, "we had a hard time paying the rent. Now I own four homes, two businesses, three cars and a By FATHER JOHN DEETZEN boat, praise Jesus." The words of — was it George Bernard Shaw, — "It is doubtful that Jesus would be a Christian today," leaped into my mind, but I clamped my teeth to my tongue, smiled and decided to offer up Q. Newspapers in our state print many stories First, all human life is a gift from God that must be the remaining miles as a preface to Lent. about living wills and other documents people can treated with respect and reverence in every circum His is one brand of Christianity, but there are sign to prepare for a serious illness. The more I think stance. Second, death is for us not an absolute evil, to others: political agenda Christians (on the right and about it, the more concerned I am. Do you think it is be frantically delayed as long as possible at all costs. the left,) theological supremists, obligation meeters wise for a person to have such a "will?” (Florida) We believe that death is the begirming of eternal life, and so on. A. The subject you raise is an intricate one. As not the end of existence. I'm weary of those. Catholic or otherwise, who will become clear, it is possible to deal with only a And third, each of us has the right and obligation determine others' membership in Christianity by few relevant points here. to be in charge of the health care we receive, whether asking for and judging their stands on the right to Uiving wills arc one form of advance directives, we make the decisions ourselves or arrange for others affluence, free enterprise, political candidates, various methods of determining which types of to make them in our stead. women, Sunday Mass attendance, abortion/capital medical technology imd treatment should not be punishment, peace, school vouchers, patriotism, used if a person suffers a critical, perhaps terminal, protests, higher taxes, lower taxes, the Elvis stamp illness but is unable to make neccs.sary health-care QUESTION CORNER and Murphy Brown. decisions himself or herself. All these factors need to be prayerfully and care I envision an ultimate checklist entitled "The A living will is a personal document indicating to fully pondered in each life-and-death decision. Christian Litmus Test," which lists 500 for/against the physician, family or health-care institution which The complexity of all this is multiplied by the fact items which are the scored like self-help articles: if life-sustaining or life-prolonging treatments should that most states now have some legal guidelines to you marked 400 or more "fors," youareSaved-Like- be withdrawn in a terminal illness. determine who has what rights and obligations in Me; 200-400: Can-Still-Be-Saved-If-You-Change- It needs to be said that there is no universal critical health decisions. These legal guidelines differ Your-Attitude; under 200: Beyond-Salvation. agreement on the value, appropriateness or necessity from state to state. Asking people if they are Christian is not only an of these advance directives. State Catholic conferences in many parts of the invasion of privacy, it's contempt for a God who Under any such arrangement the patient and oth country have prepared, or are preparing, explanations has warned us over and over that He alone is the ers designated are of course morally obliged to base of these questions in light of moral concerns and judge. their decisions on several truths. individual state laws. Continued on page 33 Denver Catholic Register — October 14, 1992 — Page 11 VIEWPOINTS Therese of Lisieux
By MARY ANN VAN BUSKIRK the vestibule. She had a very special relationship with center was enormous as God became more and she her father in much the same way as Therese had with became less. Her ambition in life was to become a I consider Therese of Lisieux my “soul sister.” hers. In fact, my mother told the story how she asked saint. That is an ambition all of us should seriously This was not always the case. I thought she lived a St. Therese for a sign that her father was in heaven. entertain. Therese said it best when she wrote: long time ago like all those people included in the This prayer followed his funeral which was in the “You know. Mother, that I have always wanted to “Lives of the Saints.” Over the years, I have grown dead of winter. My mother was too pregnant to travel become a saint. Unfortunately when 1 have com in my knowledge and love for this young woman for it. That night she prayed and the next morning she pared myself with the saints, 1 have always found whose feast was Oct. 1, and who seemed so unlike woke to the smell of roses in her room. that there is the same difference between the saints me in so many ways. i( and me as there is between a mountain whose Therese’s “Little Way,” as she called it, is a form summit is lost in the clouds and a humble grain of of spirituality concerned with everyday events. She sand trodden underfoot by passers-by. believed that true glory is eternal and that there is no “Instead of being discouraged, 1 told myself: God need to perform outstanding deeds. Instead, one would not make me wish for something impossible keeps hidden and does good deeds in such a way that and so, in spite of my littleness I can aim at being a the left hand does not know what the right does. saint. It is impossible for me to grow bigger, so 1 put To stay poor in spirit was her way of demonstrat up with myself as I am, with all my countless faults. ing great love. Therese believed the old nun in the “But I will look for some means of going to convent who said, “The nearer one gets to God, the heaven by a little way which is very short and very simpler one becomes.” straight, a little way which is quite new. We live in However, Therese was not a simple woman. She an age of inventions. We no longer climb laboriously was intelligent and ambitious, in spite of being a up flights of stains; in well-to-do houses there are product of her time (1873-1897). lifts...So I sought in Holy Scripture some idea of Monica Furlong, in a recent book, “Therese of what this life I wanted would be, and I read these Lisieux” (1987), says that Therese “might be seen, words form the very mouth of eternal wisdom: paradoxically, as a model for the power, endurance ‘Whoever is a little one, let her come to me.’ (From and resourcefulness of women. A power which, even Story of a Soul.)” when intolerably constricted, crushed and punished Therese, the wise mystic around 22 years of age by circumstances, reasserts itself with the tenacity of Therese’s path and mine manage to cross in some less than 100 years ago, recognized that there was no a weed (or little flower) growing on a wall.” notable ways. In her autobiography, she recounts the need to grow up, but to stay “little” to be in God. Oh yes, Therese and I are sisters! time her sister offers a basket with some doll things in Encountering “childlikeness” is a gift which keeps Her influence on my spiritual life began with an it. Therese’s other sister carefully picked one item, us open to the daily wonders of God in this world. early family devotion to her. My mother had a very but Therese took the whole basket in her arms want Everything is an opportunity to experience God. It is special connection to Therese. Perhaps they had ing it all. I feel like that at times. God puts much at my the daily and ordinary that becomes extraordinary something in common in that they both lost their disposal to see God’s glory. Many gifts are given to when practicing the “little way.” mothers at very early ages. be used for God’s purpose. (Mary Ann Van Buskirk is Director of the Mother donated a large statue of the Little Flower Therese was limited to a certain extent in a socio/ Pastoral Counseling Center at St. Patrick’s Par to Annunciation Church in Denver which stands in cultural/economic sense. I am, too. Yet, Therese’s ish, Denver.) An answer to Father Meik's attack on seminaries
Editor: some very good priests, but obviously Christian family. Today, we are wit grateful for the tribute you gave him. Father TTiomas Meik in his article. when we look at the numbers who have nessing a crisis in family life, the char While I am in this mellow mood, j Vocation Crisis, Oct. 7, 1992, pre left the active ministry that system was acteristics are well known: a pre-emi may I add that I am encouraged by the | sents a very negative viewpoint. Fa not perfect as Father Meik would have nence given to comfort and the refusal Vol. LXVIII No. 38 issue of the Den- : ther asked many valid questions in the us believe. of the gift of life, instability and sepa ver Catholic Register, because it has | first part of the article and then an Not allowing seminarians to smoke, ration of parents, the lack of authority more news articles about our local j swered them all by stating: "Today to have a car and to drink will increase and a weak parental image. Church than 1 have seen in a long ! our seminaries are the number one vocations and stability — I think not. I wonder what criteria The Denver while. I hope that the Register will ' problem in the Catholic Church." Catholic Register used for accepting again be the newspaper for the Arch- ; Father Meik attacks the seminaries this article from Father Meik. Father diocese of Denver. and the programs offered today. I READERS Meik has never been on a seminary Msgr. Roy Figlino would ask Father: When was the last faculty (Major or Minor) and he is not Denver time he visited a seminary? He says, FORUM a member of the DePaul University "Seminarians are being taught heresy Faculty as the credit after his name and false doctrine." What does he As a former full-time (three years) would lead you to believe. AIDS awareness base this statement on? When did and part-time (five years) Vocation Father Lawrence Christensen Editor: Father last sit in on a theology class? Director, I think the vocation crisis is Denver As a member of the Archdiocesan Father Meik asks, "Why so many not a problem of our seminaries and AIDS Task Force, I want to thank and priests have left the priesthood?" He seminary education. The problem, I T rib u te commend you for the excellent edito blames the seminary training of to believe, lies within our families and Editor: rial "AIDS: Don't judge, love" in the day. If you examine the statistics, you the lack of formation of children in the Please accept my sincere thanks for Sept. 30 issue of the Register. find that the majority of priests who home. the tribute paid to the Late Msgr. Gre October being AIDS awareness have left were trained in pre-Vatican The family is the primary commu gory Smith. It was an honor richly month,your editorial was very timely. II seminaries. The "Hot House Sys nity for formation. Priestly/Religious deserved by a priest who spent his life Mary Leisring tem" of pre-Vatican days produced vocations are generally bom in the in the service of the Church. I am most Denver Page 12 — October 14, 1992 — Denver Catholic Register YOUTH TODAY What's God's answer? By MIKE B. HUGHES
Once I questioned coming aware of the fact 'It is insulting myself. "Did God re that we are destroying this to God that we ally create this world?" miracle, it is almost too would want to 1 took a short trip to late. We continue to de the mountains the next stroy what is left. Why do destroy such a day. As I hiked deeper wecreatefulure problems? w onderful into the forest, perhaps I think it is insulting creation,'______where nobody has to God that we would stepped before, my want to destroy such a "Lord, thank you for thoughtless question wonderful creation. We such a wonderful place was answered. must take care of the to live. I apologize for When I looked around, earth. It nurtures us, but our mistakes. 1 wa.s swtillowed into the it won’t take care of us if "Pray for us, and help unconditional beauty of this ma.ssacre continues. everyone to do their part, the green phuiLs,conquer As I absorb the beauty so they too can enjoy ing trees and bright flow of nature, I wonder if the such beauty!" SKETCH by Michael and Mathew Zamora. ers of the forest, which is place where I stood that (Mike B. Hughes is filled witli so many wan cool summer day will 14 years old and a stu ‘J f i i s y e a r , CeCeBrate m . c C v e n t ! dering animals. still be a forest in the dent in eighth grade at Only God could cre future. Euclid Middle School. Start a tradition of faith in your home. ate such a stimulating Will there still be His ambition is to be a Celebrate the anticipation of Christmas with a decorative and enduring symbol of this Holy atmosphere. many animals? Will the writer like J.R.R. Tolkien Season - the Advent Wreath. The richly carved designs of this classic Advent wreath represent Did He know that animals be dead or cry author of "Lord of the the meaning of this special time of year. Especially appealing for children, the Advent wreath man would destroy ing for a home? Rings," or T. E. ceremony involves your whole family! most of this never end I kneel down into the Lawrence, author of ing wonderhuid? bark and grass, put my "Seven Pillars of Wis This handcast sculptured wreath is available in two finishes - Wheat (shown) and dark brown, 12" in diameter. Candles and ceremony booklet included. Greenery not included. Replacement Just when we are bc- hands together and say: dom.") candles available. -Cut out today- YES! PLEASE SEND MY WREATH IN TIME TO CELEBRATE AOVENTl
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From page 14 Christ raised the natural reality of human marriage if and how the sacrament of marriage can be admin the mutual gift of themselves which is properly to the level of a Christian sacrament. The wonderful, istered. theirs and exclusive to them alone, develop that natural reality that is the result of God’s creation was Since these laws touch the sacramental life of the union of two persons in which they perfect one now, as a result of Christ’s redemption, made a Church — her core reality — they ;u-e not taken another, in order to cooperate with God in the supernatural reality. lightly. The couple -- the bride and groom — are the generation and education of new lives” (Humanae Marriage for the Christian remains a covenant ministers of the sacrament of marriage. Their con Vitae, 8). between a man and a woman, committing them to live sent brings about their wedding. The sacred nature of marriage has found many with each other in a bond of married love whose In the human love that brings a woman and man expressions within the history of humanity and charter was established by God. to marriage we already hear God speaking to us of particularly through the revelation in the Old Testa However, this natural covenant is also now a the beauty and fidelity of love, its transforming ment. symbol and life-giving sign of the undying covenant power, and its creative energy. In the sacrament of The climax of the long saga of love, covenant and love established by Christ within his Church in the matrimony God speaks to us of the fullness of marriage, and the point at which the sacramentality paschal mystery. human love. of marriage is wimessed in the New Testament, is Sacraments not only signify what they speak of but Our limited experience of love is only a sign and noted in St. Paul’s Letter to the Ephesians: actually help to bring it about. Hence, the sacrament the beginning of a love that changes us into children “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the of marriage is not only a personal bond between two of God who share God’s own wondrous and unend church and gave himself up for her, that he might people, but is alsoa living force that helps to create the ing life of love. Christ’s love for the Church is the sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of love and unity that is Christ with his Church today, pattern for married life: “Love one another as I have water with the word, that he might present the among all who believe. loved you” (Jn. 15:12). church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle Marriage is thus not just a personal event but an or any such thing, that she might be holy and without intensely ecclesial reality. (Bishop Donald W. Wuerl is ordinary of the blemish. Even so, husbands should love their wives Since marriage is a sacrament and one that has Diocese of Pittsburgh. as they do their own bodies. ..This is a great mystery, important and highly visible social and ecclesial Reprinted with permission from “Columbia”. and I mean in reference to Christ and the Church” implications, it is carefully regulated by Church law. Article printed in the Sept. 1992 magazine, pub (Eph. 5:25-32). Church law guards the married state and determines lished monthly by Knights of Columbus.)
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Marriage preparation weekend Each year, the Office of Marriage Ministry of “Marriage preparation is parish-based. Couples three to four “rap” groups. There is also a large group Catholic Charities and Community Services offers need to contact the priest, deacon or lay minister in question and answer session. marriage preparation weekends for engaged couples their parish at least six months before the desired “Catholic Engaged Encounter” weekends are two planning marriage in the Catholic Church. wedding date to begin their preparation for marriage.” days and two nights, starting Friday night at 7:30 According to Carol Gaumond, director, there are Attendance at a preparation weekend is part of the p.m. and concluding Sunday at 4 p.m. three separate formats, including one for couples “Initial Preparation” as defined in the Archdiocese of “This is a full weekend for couples. They’re in which one or both parties have been for Denver Marriage Norms (Walking with God), and offered time and opportunity to challenge, explore merly married. should be completed three months prior to the wed and deepen their relationship with each other,” she “The weekends are Catholic in orientation, ding date, Gaumond said. explained. but are open to all engaged couples desiring a richer, Tdie Office of Marriage Ministry offers “Engaged TTu-oughout the weekend, talks are presented by fuller life Urgelhcr,” she said. Weekends,” “Catholic Engaged Encounter Week team members who share personal experiences and ' It's a time away from the distractions of busy ends,” and ‘To Trust Again” (for marriage after a “tools” for growth in marriage. lilestyles, and an opportunity for couples to talk previous union). Each is structured differently. All After each presentation, a series of questions is honestly tuid intensely about all aspects of their are held at Eront Range retreat facilities. given to each couple to answer individually. prospective marriage.” “Engaged Weekends” are scheduled for two days “They do this by writing a letter to their future At a marriage preparation weekend, a series of and one night, beginning on a Saturday morning at 8 spouse,” Gaumond said. “What they have written is ideas are presented by a team of married couples and a.m. and concluding Sunday evening at 5 p.m. read only by their fiance. Then the couple has time a priest or deacon. Engaged couples are encouraged Team presentations are on family backgrounds, to discuss their letters together.” to talk to each other about aspects of married life personhood, communication, sex and sexuality, fi Topics at the Catholic Engaged encounter in from the viewpoint of their own relationship. nances, moral decision-making, sharing faith, “Let’s clude self-awareness, expectations, communications, “Couples will look at their strengths and weak Be Real,” and Sacrament. sexuality, careers, planning, mixed faiths, children, nesses, desires, hopes and ambitions. They’ll dis “The team raises issues which are important to all decision-making, the wedding as a sacrament, and cuss their values about money, sex, children, and marriages,” Gaumond said. the Church. The weekend also features a group family, and explore their role as a married couple in “They present a balance of personal experiences, discussion of common experiences and questions. the Church and society,” Gaumond said. tips and skills, and Church teaching and tradition.” The ‘To Trust Again” (Marriage after a previous Gaumond emphasized that the marriage prepara Each presentation is followed by workshop exercises Union) weekend is designed for formerly married tion weekends are not retreats, sensitivity groups, and couple discussion. The group also divides into Continued on page 17 lecture series or Bible studies. ,She also pointed out that attending a marriage INSTA — FUNK preparation weekend is not the only preparation "CELEBRATE GOOD TIMES" DO WE DO WEDDINGS? 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Also addressed are communications, conflict man marriage preparation weekends for the 1993 calen “This includes couples in which at least one agement, finances, sexuality, individual and marital dar year will be established in November and pub person is widowed or divorced,” Gaumond said. spirituality and sacrament. lished in leaflet form. The weekend begins on Saturday at 8 a.m. and Each of the weekends are $175 per couple. 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The rest of the time they’re dealing with etich other's parents, with things that happened to them ;is children, with their fears. \'iscott: When you admit what you are, you stop Photo bj B«ttingcr fighting about it and start getting down to the busi ness of how you treat each other and how you feel expect to get hurt, you feel anxious; if you resent conflict. This never works. Even when the other about each other. being hurt, you feel angry. It’s critical to express the person does love you, you think. Yeah, but if he The problem with most relationships is that each hurt when it occurs, so it doesn’t develop into anger knew the real me, he wouldn’t. The problem is, of partner takes personally the other’s baggage from or live in you as constant anxiety. The work of a course, that a lot of people don’t know who they are. the past.TTiis is especially difficult when partners do relationship is telling truth about hou you feel. Getting into a relationship when you're emotionally not accept the responsibility for bringing unre.solved De Angelis: Making time for romantic gestures is empty is like going shopping for food when you’re pains into the relationship. very important, because when you put your attention hungry: you buy junk. 2. Recognize that being in love fades, and you on something, it grows. You need to create moments Viscott: If you sacrifice yourself to be in a rela must then work at love. together in which you can see each other as lovers and tionship, the person your partner fell in love with is Scarf: TTie euphoria in a good relationship passes not Just as husband and wife. the first casualty. So whatever love was there disap into attachment, and you separate the fantasies and 3. Be yourself; don’t remake yourself to fit the pears. And since your love of yourself disappears, visions in your head from the realities of the other other person. you have less capacity to love another person. person. One of the hardest things is to be respectful De Angelis: Women especially try to become what Continued on page 21 of your parmer’s otherness, because during romance our partners want us to be, to remove parts of our you feel that you’ll always be as one. selves that are controversial or that might create The example of a good relationship 1 give is two Weddlnfj towns, like Minneapolis and St. Paul, joined by a Photo^raphy^^ bridge. The separateness and the togetherness are by 1/ ^ ^ C O tB Y ’S both maintained. 10135 W. Kentucky Dr. Viscott: In order to keep love alive, you have to Lakewood, CO 80226 dandiA^, tend to the hurt that gets in the way of love. If you anA cJ^ornnjilic “ELEGANCE AT A PRICE YOU CAN AFFORD” 0\UXL^. 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It keeps tension from getting out of hand, but you It’s so essential to learn about the differences. I know don’t resolve anything. that men are solution-oriented in conversation, so if 6. Realize that sex indicates the state of the I’m complaining about my day, I will add, “I don’t entire relationship. really need a solution, honey, I just want you to hold Viscott: Sex tells you how free a couple feel to be me.” If I don’t, he may start giving me solutions, and themselves and love themselves. When sex is good, I may get angry that he’s not being loving and it’s a very small part of a marriage. When sex is bad, attentive, and now we’re in a fight.... it’s a very big part of a marriage. Scarf: When a woman brings up a problem, often De Angelis: If you feel you have sexual problems she wants to talk it over, to learn what it means. A in your marriage, and sex was normal, healthy, and man hears the problem and wants to do something exciting at the start of the relationship, your problems about it. To most women, this is so outrageous. They most likely have little to do with sex. feel that “Do this; the discussion is over” is his way Scarf: I’ve encountered couples who tme enraged saying “Shut-up.” with each other, and their sex live has ended as a 5. Recognize that what you’re fighting about result. It’s a cycle: they won’t have sex because isn’t necessarily the real issue. they’re too angry, and they’re angry because they 1*11010 by (»«orj{y M cHendr Viscott: Many arguments are complicated be don’t have sex. cause what is seen on the surface only dimly reflects 7. Don’t let the ups and downs of life come what is really going on. A husband may complain between you. sharing the joys, to double them.” that a wife is ungiving, but he really feels Scarf: It doesn’t serve you or your partner when (The Marriage and Family Therapists are: Psy unappreciated at work and resentful of his parents for you start beating each other up about things that are chologist Barbara De Angelis, executive director of the way he was raised. happening in your life. If you come home and start a the Los Angeles Personal Growth Center: Maggie De Angelis: We’re fighting because we don’t feel fight because you’re upset about something at work, Scarf, senior fellow at Yale University's Bush Cen loved, because we don’t feel understood, because we you lose the chance to tell your parmer how bad you ter in Child Development and Social Policy: and are afraid — not because of who didn’t put the toilet feel about what happened and to get support and Psychiatrist David Viscott, founder of the Viscott paper on the holder the right way or feed the dog or sympathy and caring. Center for Natural Therapy in Los Angeles. The whatever. When you’re feeling upset over some small Viscott: The idea of a relationship is to have a article was first published in “Special Report" thing, ask yourself what emotion you’re feeling un parmer who cares enough about you, as the old MarchlApril, 1992 by Whittle Communications, derneath the anger. There’s always hurt and fear. 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She was sidered dropping our last names alto confident that tlnough the process a gether and going through life as just new identity would emerge for both of Jo :md Ravi, which is howmost people them — they would no longer be two think of us anyway. separate individuals but a couple with But in the end, I stuck with one name and one future. McGowan and he stuck with Chopra. There is a righmess to this tradi When our children were bom, they tional approach—even I have to admit got stuck with Chopra-McGowan. it. Symbolically, it makes sense for The question we are often asked husband, wife, andchildren to all go by (jmd everyone always thinks they’re the same name. And for simplicity’s so clever asking it) is what happens sake, one name is better than two. That one name, even if it starts out when one of our kids marries on of Photo by Dennis W nik John and Betsy Cavanaugh-O’Keefe’s being the man’s, ends up being kids? What names do they ttike, and everyone’s. When people in my city coin could be tossed; and in the pres ence. It is now theirs. what on earth do they call their own think of the McGowans, they don’t ence of the assembled guests, the couple My husband is out of town right children? think of my father and all his append would learn what name they would now, so the coin I am about to toss is Some of my friends (including my ages in spite of the fact that in the share for the of their lives. strictly unofficial, just for the fun of own sister) have sidestepped this prob begirming it was his name. They think The very arbitrariness of it reveals it...hmm...Ravi McGowan. It’s got a lem by keeping their own names while of the whole lot of us. the inessential nature of the thing—a nice ring to it. giving their children their fathers’ My father is not the same McGowan name is simply a name. His name, her (This article was reprinted from names. In a few radical families, the he was when he married my mother. name; it matters little. It could (it really the June, 1992 issue of'U.S. Catholic children take on their mothers’ names. She, by taking on his name, has changed could) be either. It makes no differ- Magazine.") But either way, it seems to me, one its meaiting. Now when people meet parent is left in the curious position of him, they are also meeting her—to say the unrelated bystander. nothing of the seven children they raised. My friend Joanne (who kept her Each one of us has helped to shape and own name and whose children have reshape the meaning of McGowan. The Our Wedding the hyphen) refuses to discuss it at all. name belongs to all of us. She is my feminist reference point It is precisely this fact, of course, and says we are in a time of transition. that makes it so difficult to consider She believes the hyphen is the best changing it. I was Jo McGowan for 21 Made in ““ solution we’ve been able to come up years before I married my husband.’ with, and our children will have to Why on earth should I suddenly take come up with their own. “his” name? In the end, it is not a I am begirming to wonder. My question of practicality but of inherent oldest child is only 8 :uid has not sexism. It must be one name, why is it registered a complaint yet (unlike my always the mtm’s? niece Erin, who is IbandaMcGowan- Turning it around would not solve Moniz tmd quite uncharmed with her the problem for diehards, who would role as a feminist standard-bearer); simply charge reverse sexism (although but it’s only a matter of time, espe given the state of women in the world, cially considering that we live in In one could make a case for affirmative "It w a s a d a y m a d e in made us feel as if our day was as heaven. Everything was special to them as it was to us. dia where nobody understands why action, at least for the 200 years). 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After vows are exchanged, the them. And that’s important. They Denver, Colorado 80216 Denver Catholic Register — O ctober 14, 1992 -- Page 25 El Pueblo Catolico A bilingual, bimonthly section of the Denver Catholic Register La parroquia de San Cayetano La misa de la Hispanidad THEATE^fE Father Jaime Prohens is the pastor at St. Cajetan's Parish. El pasado 4 de octubre, la iglesia San Cayetano celebrd Lii Misa de Li Hispanidad como introduccidn al 9no. Festival de Las Amdricas, evento que realza las culturas hispanas e indfgenas de Latinoamdrica. La Misa, como el festival, fue coordinada por La Fratemidad Hispana y presents a miembros de la St. Cajetan's Parish celebrates Hispanic Mass w m ie dc la Vega / I>CR folM organizacidn vistiendo los autdnticos y coloridos LAST October 4, St. Cajetan's Church celebrated La Misa de la Hispanidad as an introduction to the 9th trajes de varios pafses, asf como un desfile de Annual Fiesta de Las Americas, a day-long festival highlighting the Hispanic and native cultures of Latin banderas. America. Las festividades culminaron el pasado sdbado en The Mass and the festival were coordinated by La Fratemidad Hispana, and featured members of the los salones del Mammoth Events Center. organization wearing the colorful authentic dresses from various countries and a parade of flags. En la fotograffa arriba, aparecen algunos de los The festivities culminated Oct. 9 at the Mammoth Events Center.Above are some of the organizers of the organizadores de la misa y el festival, de izquierda Mass and festival, from left to right, Jaime Rizo, Magola Rizo, and Delio Tamayo, accompanied by Father aderecha, Jaime Rizo, Magola Rizo y Delio Tamayo, Tomis Fraile. acompanados por el Padre Tomds Fraile. The 500th anniversary of the evangelization of the Americas By REV. PRUDENCIO RODGRIUEZ, C.M. before, with the history of the native people of America. evangelization should make the gospel part of the While remembering this process of evangelization peoples’s tradition. Today, like yesterday, our people On October 12th, the western hemisphere re within the conditions of that time, it would be more are very religious; today, like yesterday our people members Christopher Columbus as the discoverer of convenient for the Church to do this in a context of know the way to God. The Church’s evangelizing America; however, much of the "new world" honors reflection and reconciliation. responsibility is to discover the presence of God’s this day as “El Dia de la Raza” (The Day of Our love in our people and feed its needs of communion. Race). 'There is no worse sin than rac To remember Christopher Columbus on this 500th anniversary we tend to fall in today’s popular During this month of October and during this ism, the exclusion and the lack of 500th year, controversies abound about the man's and extremist temptation to classify him as a “great image. Is Columbus a hero or a villain? Discoverer respect. There is no worse sin than visionary explorer” who made possible the unifica or murderer? Christian or conqueror? the failure to recognize that God's tion of two continents; or conversely, the “conquer To understand fully the image of this complex presence is in our people.' ors’ accomplice” who enslaved and oppressed the man, he has to be studied within the historic, politi indigenous people. cal, and religious parameters existing between the Christopher Columbus is only one part of a process that started with the encounter and the end of the 15 th Century and the beginning of the Within this context the Church remembers past evangelization of the native peoples of America. 16th. Christopher Columbus is a product of his events in the words of John Paul II, “with the humble Aside from Columbus, we have to remember the times, of a colonizing-starving Europe, of a counter ness of the truth, without so-called victories or false lives of the untiring missionaries, like Dominican reformist Spain, and of an imperial Catholic Church. modesty.” In this search, the evangelization must be Friar Bartolome de las Casas, Franciscan Brother This October 12thprovided us a great opportimity attached to the drama of God’s search for humanity. Pedro de Gante, Jesuit priest Eusebio Kino, and to search our conscience, not only about Columbus' In that drama, there are stories of liberating evangeli many others who understood the gospel's message image, but also about the whole colonization process cal promises and stories of injustice and oppression. in the lives of the natives. that took place in the Americas. The thought of that drama should push us toward These men of the 16lh and 17th Century never This search should makes us recognize that the a genuine commitment of evangelization — where understood the gospel’s message to be an imported “history of faith” on our continent should start not faith would find its expression in those specific values simply with Columbus’ arrival, but many years and customs of the peoples of America. The new Continued on page 28 Page 26 — October 14, 1992 — Denver Catholic Register Las minorias ofrecen sus sobre Colon Por WILLIE DE LA VEGA la resistencia de parte de aquellos afectados por la Rocki Rodriguez, directora ejecutiva del Concilio llegada de Coldn”, cit6 Castillo de una declaracidn de Nacional Para los Derechos Humanos de los Chicanos, Guerra, genocidio, imperios, esclavitud, la organizacidn International Funding Initiative la activista y autora eliminacidn cultural, durante su comentario de apertura del almuerzo asiitica Peggy Lore; el Dr. devastacidn ccoldgica y mensual de la organizacidn Hispanos de Colorado el Gil Horn, director explotacidn econdmica... pasado 2 de octubre. ejecutivo del Concilio de cste es el legado de Cristdbal El foro enfocd sobre la oposicidn lanzada por Iglesias; y el Dr. Wazir Coldn, segrin Ramdn del varies segmentos minoritarios contra la celebracidn Ali Muhammed, de la Castillo. del Dta de Coldn, la que ha sido sancionada por el organizacidn Nacidn “Los ultimos 500 anos gobiemo. Isl^ ica. han visto mucho saqueo y El evento presentd una discusidn por un panel Morris explied que subyugacidn.Estos que incluyd al activista indfgena Russell Means; las demostraciones tambidn han visto un fuerte Morris Glen Morris, codirector del capftulo de Colorado de indfgenas durante el Muhammed movimiento por la lucha y la organizacidn American Indian Movement (AIM); Continuado en p. 27 Minorities offer views on Columbus By WILLIE DE LA VEGA an International Funding Initiative’s statement in his the Italian Federation of Denver asking for a change War, genocide, empires, slavery, cultural oblit opening remarks of the Hispanics of Colorado (HOC) of name regarding the parade and celebration to eration, environmental devastation, and economic monthly luncheon forum Oct. 2. Italian Heritage Day or something similar. exploitation... this is the legacy of Columbus, ac The forum focused on the opposition launched According to Morris, the Italians have refused cording to Riundn del Castillo. by several minority segments to the celebration of a to make any compromises and have gone as far as “The last 500 years have seen much plunder and goverrunent-sanctioned Columbus Day. personally telling him, “You better get something subjugation. TTiey also have seen a strong movement The event featured a panel discussion that in straight, this is not your country any more. This is of struggle and resistance by people adversely af cluded Native American activist Russell Means, Glen our country now, and you better learn to get along.” fected by Columbus’ arrival,” Castillo quoted from Morris, Co-director of the American Indian Move Mohammed concentrated his presentation on ment (AIM) in Colo the ambivalence in the image of Christopher Colum I rado; Rocki Rodriguez, bus and on the lack of analysis on the part of Italians Executive Director of and the government when honoring the navigator. the National Chicano On the positive side of Columbus, Mohammed Human Rights Council, cited his courage, vision and entrepreneurship as Asian activist and au hallmarks of human excellence, but he also pointed thor Peggy Lore; the to the negative facts about the discoverer, that Rev. Gil Horn, Execu included personally overseeing the mass murder and tive Director of the torture of Natives in the Americas in the name of the ______//ym'iK ______Council of Churches, Church and motivation of personal wealth. r^.***,^'*^ __— - ..I ^ ______and Wazir Ali In his opinion, Mayor Webb erred in granting Muhammed of the Na the use of the city’s resources to foster tlie celebra tion of Islam. tion of a day honoring such an unscrupulous person. Morris explained In a brief talk, the Rev. Gil Horn presented the Archdiocese of Denver Mortuary that the Indian demon religious aspects of the Columbus affair. Amidst the M i s s i o n strations during the Ital attacks the Church has endured because of the inhu ian Federation’s parade man acts perpetrated by some Spanish explorers, he S t a t e m e n t Oct. 10 were neither tar emphasized the story of Fray Bartolom^ de las Casas, the famed Dominican defender of Indian rights. From the time of Christ geted against the sym the Church has actively participated bolism of Columbus as After reading aloud various historic documents in the preparation for and the actual burial of her beloved dead. a person nor the Italian —including some churches other than Catholic— Horn It is of paramount importance to the Church people. Morris, an at said that most churches have recognized their past and part of her sacred tradition torney practicing Indian faults and have begun to show signs of repentance. that proper reverence be accorded the human body, law at all levels within “All of us related to religious bodies need to both in life and in death, the judicial system, said call on the government for repentance,” Horn said. as the manifestation of God’s creative power. that their protest was ' Russell Means, who prefers to be called “an The Archdiocese of Denver Mortuary against the legacy and Oglala Lakota patriot,” also spoke about the plight at Mount Olivet Cemetery imposition of European of all Indian nations. Means explained that the root has been established as a modern instrument of this sacred ministry. laws and standards over of the all problems related to natives lies in the W E O FFER the native habitants of choices governments have made throughout history COMPLETE FUNERAL SERVICES the Americas. to ignore the Indians’ claims and to dismiss them as Please Feel Free To Contact Us Regarding “Every legal deci unimportant. •PRE-NEED FUNERAL INFORMATION sion made against Indi Locally, Means blames the Italian Federation •PRE-ARRANGED FUNERAL INFORMATION ans in this country, be it for the impasse in the Columbus Day parade nego •FUNERAL COSTS about treaty rights, land tiations, citing broken promises, breached agree •FUNERAL GUIDANCE COUNSELING rights, water rights, or ments, and lack of respect for Indian culture by the SERVING THE ENTIRE DENVER AREA freedom of religion, can Italians. He also blamed the media for an alleged Located hi Beautiful Mt. Olivet Cemetery be traced to Oct. 12, bias in covering events involving Native Ameri CALLS RECEIVED 24 HOURS 1492,” he said. cans, resulting in a negative image of them. 12801 W. 44th AVE., WHEAT RIDGE Morris said the con Other perspectives about the Columbus Day flict with the Italian celebration also were offered. Rocki Rodriguez spoke 425-9511 community stems from about the views of the Chicano community and AIM’s petition before ' Peggy Lore focused on the Asian counterparts. Denver Catholic Register — October 14, 1992 — Page 27 Denver : October 10. 1992 1 TEARS of thanksgiving welled up in Russell Means' eyes as he spoke about the cancelled parade. BROTHERHOOD — Russell Means and A.J. DeAndrea of the Italian-American Federation embrace after the cancellation of the controversial Columbus Day Parade Oct. 10 in Civic Center Park. Although both the Italian-American Federation and the American Indian Movement (AIM) claimed victory, peace was the real victor Oct. 10 when the Columbus Day Parade was cancelled minutes before it was to have begun. The federation marched to the steps of the capitol building where a rally and speeches took place. AIM members remained at the Greek Ampitheatre and celebrated the parade’s cancellation. Denver Mayor 'Wellington Webb spoke to both groups and congratulated them for a non-violent solution to the controversy. Aunque ambos, la Federacidn Italiana de Denver y la organizacidn American Indian Movement (AIM) se autodeclararon victoriosos, la paz fue la verdadera ganadora el pasado 10 de octubre, cuando el desfile del Dfa THE Italian-American Federation opted for peace de Col6n fue cancelado justo a unos minutos de su comienzo. rather than a parade. A disappointed Maria Allen Los miembros de la federacidn caminaron hasta las escalinatas del capitolio, donde se reunieron y recitaron after her aimouncement that the parade had been sus discursos. La organizacidn AIM se manmvo en el Anfiteatro Griego del Centro Cfvico y celebrd la cancelled. cancelacidn del desfile. El alcalde Wellington Webb se dirigid a ambos grupos y les felicitd por su solucidn pacffica a la controversia. Photos by James Baca Las minon'as ofrecen sus opiniones sobre Colon Continuado p. 26 honrar al navegante. sus faltas pasadas y comenzado a mostrar .scnales de desfile de la Federacidn Italiana el pasado 10 de En el lado positivo de Col6n, Mohammed cit6 su arrepentimiento. “Todos los que estamos octubre no fueron llevadas a cabo en contra del valor, visidn y empeno como pilares de excelencia relacionados a cuerpos religiosos debemos pedir el simbolismo de Coldn como individuo, ni contra los humana; pero 6\ tambidn senald los datos negativos arrepentimiento del gobiemo”, dijo Horn. italianos como grupo. Morris, abogado que practica sobre el descubridor, los que incluyeron su supervisidn Russell Means, quien prefiere ser llamado “un ley indfgena a todos los niveles del sistema judicial, en la masacre y tortura de indfgenas bajo el nombre de patriota Oglala Lakota”, tambidn habld sobre la dijo que la protesta era contra el legado e imposicidn la Iglesia y su motivacidn de lucro personal. En lucha de todas las naciones indfgenas. Means explicd de las leyes y normas europeas sobre los habitantes su opinidn, el alcalde Webb cometid un error al que todos los problemas relacionados a los nativos indfgenas de las Americas. autorizar los recursos del son cl resultado de las decisiones tomadas por los “La base de todo fallo contra los indfgenas en gobierno municipal para gobiemos a travtis de la historia de ignorar los este pafs, sea sobre tratados, derechos de propiedad, apoyar la celebracidn reclamos indfgenas o de descartarlos como poco ' derechos sobre agua o de libertad de religidn, puede honrando a una persona sin import antes. ser trazada hasta el 12 de octubre de 1492”, dijo 6\. escrupulos como Coldn. A nivel local. Means culpa a la Fedcracidn Morris dijo que el conflicto con la comunidad En una charla corta, el Italiana por el estanqueen las negociacioncs sobre el italiana se basa en la peticidn que AIM presents a la Reverendo Gil Horn desfile del Dfa de Col6n, citando promesas rotas, Federacidn Italiana de Denver pidiendo que se presentd los aspectos acuerdos violados y la falta de respeto por la cultura cambiara el nombre del desfile a “Dfa de Herencia religiosos del asunto de indfgena por los italianos. Cristdbal Coldn. En medio El tambi^n culp6 a los medios de comunicaci6n Italiana”, o algo similar. Horn De acuerdo a Morris, los italianos se han de los ataques que la Iglesia por su alegada parcialidad al cubrir eventos rehusado a tratar de llegar a un acuerdo y han llegado ha recibido por los actos inhumanos perpetrados por relacionados a los nativos americanos.resultandoen a decide personalmente, “Hay algo que debes algtmos exploradores espafioles, 6\ enfatizd el relato una imagen negativa de estos. entender, ya 6ste no es tu pafs. Este pafs es nuestro de Fray Bartolomd de las Casas, el afamado dominico Otras perspectivas sobre la celebracidn del Dfa ahora y debes aprender a llevarte bien con los demis”. defensor de los derechos indfgenas. de Coldn fueron ofrecidas durante el almuerzo. Mohammed concentrd su presentacidn en la Despuds de leer en voz alta varios documentos Rocki Rodrfguez habld sobre el punto de vista de la ambivalencia en la imagen de Coldn y en la falta de histdricos -incluyendo algunos de otras iglesias— comunidad chicana sobre el asunto y Peggy Lore anllisis de parte de los italianos y del gobiemo al Horn dijo que la mayorfa de las iglesias han reconocido enfoed sobre la perspectiva asifitica. Page 28 — O ctober 14, 1992 — Denver Catholic Register La evangelizacion de la Americas Por el REV. PRUDENCIO RODRIGUEZ, C.M. Estos hombres de los siglos XVI y XVTI nunca sirvidndole. Los mdxicoamericanos del suroeste El dfa 12 de octubre el mundo occidental recuerda entendieron el mensaje evangdlico como una saben muy bien cual es su relacidn con Dios, pero no a Cristdbal Col6n como el descubridor de America; comodidad europea importada al Nuevo Mundo; estdn muy seguros de “su lugar” en la iglesia; no sin embargo, una gran parte de ese nuevo mundo estos misioneros reconocieron que su misidn tienen ningun problema con la iglesia institucional, rccucrda este dfa como “El Dfa de la Raza”. evangelizadora era desvelar la imagen de Dios presente pero no saben si pertenecen a ella. En este mes de octubre y en este quingent6simo en la cultura e historia de los pueblos nativos de Los hispanos del suroeste de Estados Unidos aniversario, no faltan las controversias sobre la America. seguirdn siendo vecinos nuestros y su ntimero figura de este hombre. ^Es Col6n hdroe o villano? A tratar de inculturar el evangelio en las culturas de incrementard a pasos agigantados. Muchos de ellos <;,Descubridor o genocida? ^Cristiano o conquista los pueblos no podremos evitar las pol^micas que esta seguirdn confundidos en cuanto a su relacidn con la dor? inculturacidn pueda ocasionar. La Iglesia, en el Iglesia pero sabrdn que Dios les quiere y les perdona. Para comprender plenamente la figrura de este transcurso de la historia, siempre ha sido conflictiva Nosotros, los Ifderes de las instituciones, seguiremos hombre complejo hay que cstudiarlo dentro del en buscar equidad en el anuncio del Evangelio y la debatiendo lacontroversia del pasado; incluso, Dios enclave histdrico, politico, y religiose a finales del denuncia de las injusticias sociales. Es irdnico que no peimita, en nuestro afdn de tomar posiciones siglo XV y comienzos del XVI. Cristdbal Coldn es ahora, quinientos anos mds tarde esta misma poldmica fdciles y no controversiales, podemos manipular a producio de su tiempo; de una Europa con ansias surja en nuestro hemisferio. este pueblo promoviendo una evangelizacidn colonizadoras; de una Espaha contrarreformista, y Sin embargo, me parece importante que al patemalista y proselitista. Sin embargo, el pueblo de una Iglesia Catdlica imperial. conmemorar quinientos anos de evangelizacidn, hispano de hoy, como el de ayer, seguird creyendo Este 12 de octubre de 1992 nos ofrecid una gran seamos conscientes de nuestro compromiso futuro en Dios, la Virgen y los Santos. oportunidad para hacer un examen de conciencia; no aprendiendo de aquellos relatos de fe genuina, y Al conmemorar quinientos anos de solamente sobre la figura de Cristdbal Coldn, sino rechazando aquellos de opresidn e injusticia. evangelizacidn, las instituciones polfticas y Uunbidn debemos examinar todo ese proce.so de Al echar una mirada a nuestro alrededor, aquf eclesidsticas pueden “pedir perddn” por los pecados evangelizacidn que tuvo lugar en las Americas. mismo en el suroeste de Estados Unidos, veamos que del pasado, pero eso no serd suficiente, si en ese acto Este examen de conciencia nos debe llevar a el pueblo mestizo de Norte Amdrica es joven, pobre, de reconciliacidn no se reconoce que todo reconocer que la“historia de fe”en nuestrocontinente sin medios de educacidn y muy religioso. Es este un arrepentimiento implica la resolucidn de no volver debe comenzar no .simplemente con la llegada de pueblo que quiere aprender, si nosotros los Ifderes a pecar con la gracia de Dios. No hay mayor Cristdbal Coldn, sino muchos anos antes con la cristianos le queremos ensenar; quiere volver a la pecado que el racismo, la exclusidn y la falta de historia de los pueblos nativos de America. iglesia, si nosotros le invitamos de nuevo, y respeto; no hay mayor pecado que el no reconocer la A1 recordar todo ese proceso de evangelizacidn permanecerd en la Iglesia, si nosotros continuamos presencia de Dios en nuestro pueblo. dentro de las condiciones histdricas, polfticas y religiosas dc aquel tiempo, serfa m^s conveniente ptua la iglesia recordar el quinto centenario del The evangelization of the Americas encuentro dentro de un contexto de reflexidn y reconciliacidn. Continued from page 25 sure about “their place” within the Chmeh. They do En este contexto, la Iglesia recuerda los eventos European commodity; they realized that theirevange- not have a problem with the institutional church, but pasados en las palabras del Papa Juan Pablo II, “con lizing mission was to unveil God’s image, which was they don’t know whether they really belong. la humildad de la verdad, sin triunfalismosni modestia present in the culture and history of America’s native Southwestern Hispanics will continue to be our falsa”. En este examen de conciencia, la peoples. neighbors, and their numbers will increase in giant evangelizacidn debe emplazarse en el drama de la While trying to attach the gospel to the cultures of steps. Many of them will continue to be confused busqueda de la humanidad por Dios. the natives, we carmot avoid the controversies that about their relationship with the Church, but they En ese drama hay historias de compromiso might arise. The Church, throughout history, has will know that God loves and forgives them. We, the evangdlico liberador, e historias de injusticia y been in conflict in its search for equity between institutional leaders, will continue to debate the opresidn; cl recuerdo de aquel drama nos debe armouncing the gospel and denouncing social injus controversy of the past. We could even, God forbid, impulsar a un genuine compromiso evangelizador tice. Its ironic that now, 500 years later, this contro in our quest to take easy and non-controversial donde la fc encuentre su expresidn en aquellos versy should arise in our hemisphere. positions, manipulate these people to promote a valores y costumbres especfficas de los pueblos de However, I think it is important that, as we com paternalistic and proselyte evangelization. How America. La nueva cv:uigelizaci6n debe de inculturar memorate the 500th anniversary of the evangeliza ever, today’s Hispanics, like yesterday’s will con el evangelio en la tradicidn dc los pueblos. Hoy tion, we be more conscious about our future commit tinue to believe in God, Virgin Mary and the Saints. como ayer. nuestro pueblo cs muy rcligioso; hoy ment; learning from those stories of genuine faith and In the commemoration of the 500th anniversary como ayer, nuestro pueblo conoce cl camino hacia rejecting those of oppression and injustice. of the evangelization, political and ecclesiastic in Dios. La responsabilidad evangelizadora de la Iglesia When we look around, here in the Southwest, we stitutions could “ask for forgiveness” for past sins, es dcscubrir la prescncia del amor de Dios en nuestro must see that the mestizo people of North America are but that would not be enough if that act of reconcili pueblo y alimentar sus mas grandes ansias de young, poor, without means of education and very ation does not recognize that every act of repentance comunidn con Dios. religious. These are people who want to learn, if we, implies a resolution of not sinning again under I i recordar a Cnstdbal Col6n en este V centenario the Christian leaders are willing to teach them. They God’s grace. There is no worse sin than la i idencia cs caer en esa tentacidn popular y want to come back to the Church if we invite them; racism, the exclusion, and the lack of respect. There ext nista de hoy en dfa de clasificarlo como el and will remain with the Church if we continue to is no worse sin than failing to recognize that God’s “gi I visionario explorador” que hizo posible la serve them. Southwestern Mexican-Americans know presence is in our people. union de dos continentes, o por el contrario, el very well their relationship with God, but are not too “cdmplicc conquistador” que en nombre de Dios c.sclaviz6 y oprimid a los pueblos indfgenas. Cristdbal Coldn es una parte de un proceso que comienza con el encuentro y la evangelizacidn de los pueblos nativos de Amdrica. Ademls de Cristdbal Coldn tenemos que recordar las vidas de aquellos Misa Solemne y fiesta CbiTio subscribirse misioneros incansables, como por ejemplo la del Oct. 18, Prdximo Domingo, a las doce del medio El Denver Catholic Register se distribuye todas fraile dominico, Bartolomd de las Casas, el hermano dfa en San Cayetano, 299 S. Stuart, Fiesta del Sefior las semanas a mis de 80,000 personas o familias franciscano Pedrode Gante, el padre jesuita Eusebio de Los Milagros, con participacidn especial de la registradas en las 112 parroquias y 38 misiones de Kinoy muchos otros que entendieron el mensaje del comunidad peruana, de Denver. la archidideesis de Denver. Si ud. quiere recibir una Evangelio encamado en las vidas y costumbres de Misa solemne y procesidn; y, a continuacidn, copia y esti registrado en su parroquia, dfgale a su los )ueblos nativos. refrigerio fraternal. pirroco. Denver Catholic Register — October 14, 1992 — Page 29 DCR HAPPENINGS Life Issues Assisted suicide Rosary for Life The Respect Life Committee of St. Mary's Parish, A conference addressing "assisted suicide" will be Ro.sary of Life is Oct. 17,7:30a.m. ;md every third Littleton, presents the third in a series of four "Life Nov. 4, from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. at the downtown Samrday of the month at Planned Parenthood, 20tli Issues" presentations, Wednesday, Oct. 21, 7:30 Radisson Hotel. Resources and care available to and Vine, Denver. Join St. Jude's Pro-life Committee, p.m., lower level of the Church, 6835 S. Prince. patients and their families will be presented. CEU's All Saints, St. Francis Cabrini, Light of the World and Topic is "AIDS from a Christian Perspective" — are available. Speakers are trained experts in the fields others as they pray to save the lives of the unborn. For motivation for making moral choices in the face of of medicine, law and ethics. For information and information, call 985-8638 or 934-5267. AIDS with emphasis on facts surrounding the dis registration, call 388-4411, ext. 210. Parish mission ease and the importance of compassionate treatment Healing anger Church of the Ascension - Montbello Catholic of those afflicted. Presented by Dr. Walter Hunter of "Healing the House of Anger," is presented by the Parish will have a Parish Mission by the Redempto- the Archdiocesan AIDS Task Force, the talk is Mercy Center, at St. Thomas Seminary, 1300 S. rist Mission Team, Oct. 17 to 22. Services are from appropriate for those in their teens on up. There is no Steele St., Denver, Tuesdays, Oct. 20 and 27, from 7 7 to 8:15 p.m. For information, call 373-4950. charge. For information, call 798-3119. to 9 p.m. Explore the rooms of the past that hold Project Rachel Life stewardship unresolved anger, memories of trauma and A program on Project Rachel is Sunday, Oct. 25, Parish Resource Center of Colorado presents a unreconciled pain. Cost is $10 per session. Advance 7 to 9 p.m. at St. Joseph's Church, 300 W. Mountain ’ mini-workshop, "Whole Life Stewardship," by Bill registration is suggested. Call (719) 633-2302. Ave., Ft. Collins. Speakers are Father Bob Amundsen, 1 Royster, Oct. 21, from 7 to 9 p.m. at Bonfils Hall, St. Anger workout pastor, John XXIII University Parish; Father Phil Thomas Seminary, 1300 S. Steele St., Denver. Father Bill Jarema, Director of the Mercy Center, Meredith, pastor, St. Jo.seph's Parish, who speaks on Tickets are $25 for the general public or $15 for Colorado Springs presents an Anger Workout Clinic, the healing work through the sacrament of reconcili j members of congregations which subscribe to the Saturday, Oct. 24, 9 a.m. to noon at St. Thomas ation; Karen Martin who gives testimony of her own Center. For information, call 744-3433. Seminary, 1300 S. Steele St., Denver. post abortion healing; and Mimi Eckstein, Director, Mother/Son brunch Designed to integrate anger, develop skills in Respect Life Office, who gives ;m overv'icw of The Raider Club of Regis Jesuit High School host coping with angry people and to move beyond anger Project Rachel. For information, call 482-4148. the annual Mother/Son Brunch for all past, present into the depth of feelings, the cost is $15 pre-regis- AIDS support group and future mothers and their sons, Sunday, Nov. 8 at tered, or $20 at the door. Call (719) 633-2302. The Shrine of St. Anne Parish, Arvada, sponsors a Scanticon Conference Center. Mass begins at 9 a.m. Catholic Support Group for people affected with HIV/ followed by breakfast and a speaker. For infomia- AIDS. "A Gathering of Strength" is open to all who tion, call 773-0858, 756-5071 or 781-2760. Spiritual motherhood are either HIV positive, living with AIDS or have lost Garage sale someone to HfV/AIDS. The first meeting is Oct. 19, A Gigantic Garage Sale Fundraiser for youth James Kelleher, a doctoral candidate at the 7 p.m. in the Parish Center, 58th and Webster. For programs will be at Sacred Heart of Jesus School, Angelicum University in Rome, is convinced deep information, call Father Sean McGrath, 420-1280. 14th and Mapleton, Oct. 24, from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. insights into the Blessed Virgin's spiritual mother Parenting series Tim e ou t hood stand behind the Pontiffs actions. Kelleher will Notre Dame School sponsors a free parenting Time Out for Moms presents "Unplug the Christ endeavor to give a deeper appreciation for this spiri series presented by Dr. Gary Borgeson, Ph.D., Oct. mas Machine," a workshop based on the book to help tual motherhood during his lecbjres at the Church of 15,22 and 29, from 7 to 9 p.m. in the Family Center, reduce stress and increase enjoyment of Christmas. the Good Shepherd, Denver, Friday, Oct. 23, 7:30 to 2165 S. Zenoiba. For information, call 935-3549. The workshop is Saturday, Oct. 17, from 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. and Saturday, Oct. 24, 9 to 11:30 a.m. Czech and Slovak festival 3 p.m. St. Joseph's Catholic Church parish hall. During Friday's presentation, he will recount how Mile-Hi Czechs #432 host the annual fall festival, Pre-registration is $10 or $12 at the door and the Holy Father developed a personal relationship with Saturday,Oct. 17,noonto4;30p.m.,St. Bernadette's includes handouts. The book will be available at a Mary as a youth in war-tom Poland and how this Catholic Church, 7240 W. 12th Ave., Lakewood. discount. For information, call 493-7588. relationship took on historical significance when, as Czechoslovak arts tmd crafts, imported products, ; Paroke alumni dance Bishop of Rome, he survived an assassination attempt. cookbooks, oil paintings and pastries will be offered. ' Paroke Alumni Association will hold a Generic The conference concludes with a vigil, Oct. 24, A pork roast, dumpling and sauerkraut dinner will be Dance, Friday, Nov. 13, from 7 p.m. to midnight, at 7:30 to 9:30 p.m. in the Middle School Gym, for those served starting at 12:30 p.m. Admission is free. For Spirit of Christ Church, 7400 W. 80th Ave., Arvada. who desire to prepare for World Youth Day by information, call Irma Drahota Farrell, 233-3221. Dress casual - black and white. Music is provided by entrusting themselves to Jesus through Mary. Celebration Mass the Northglenn H.S. Jazz One band. Kelleherand Father Michael Glenn speak on World All members of the Catholic Daughters of the Cost is $8 per person. There will be a cash bar. For Youth Day '93 and how Mary is on the pilgrimage Americas, Court St. Rita and Court Madonna of the information, call Sister LaVorme, 458-7220. with us. The session ends with a candlelight prayer Mountains, will join for the National Catholic Daugh service followed by refreshments and a sing-along. ters' Day of Celebration of Mass at St. Jude's Church. The event is sponsored by the Department of Lakewood, 9:15 a.m., Sunday, Oct. 18. Guests arc NOW AVAILABLE *• Religious Education of the Catholic Education Secre invited to the Hotel Brunch at a cost of $ 11. FR. KEN ROBERTS tariat and the Church of the Good Shepherd. For Basement sale information, call 322-7706. St. Dominic's Parish, 3005 W. 29th Ave., Denver TJUKS TO TOOTH will have a basement sale, Oct. 23 and 24, in the MISSION AT CHURCH OF THE RISEN CHRIST Church basement. Booth rental is $5 per day plus a Please send me: Video Audio baked item. Call 455-3613 for information. $25 ea. $5 ea. Abortion program "God Believers" ------Father J. Anthony McDaid will give a talk on "Purpose of Ufe" ------"Abortion; Catholic Teaching and Responsibility," Tuesday, Oct. 20,7:30 to9 p.m. at Immaculate Heart "Morality for the 90's" ------"THE WORD TODAY" of Mary Parish, 11385 Grant Dr., Northglenn. Spon An inspiratioDal IS-minute sored by the Respect Life Office of the Archdiocese Enclosed Is my check or money order for $ . radio program featuring Archbishop J. Francis Stafford of Denver. For information, call 388-4411, ext. 210. N am e______-—- Costume dance TUNE IN EACH SUNDAY: A Halloween Costume Dance will be Oct. 31,8 KQXI, 1550 AM 10:45 a.m. a.m. to 1 p.m. at Guadalupe Hall, 36th and Lipan. State- Zip and KNAB, 1140 AM 9:00 a.m. Music is provided by Tex Mex Band. Cost of $5 per iteU to: "THE CATHOLIC HOUR" Hosted by Michael Keller 1300 South Steele Street, Denver, CO 80210 person includes beer. Sponsored by the Fraternity of Office of Television and Radio St. Cajetan, Our Lady of Guadalupe Men's Club. (303) 744-2797 Archdiocese of Denver Page 30 -- O ctober, 14, 1992 — Denver Catholic Register r' »99 Packase for tw o includes: Aster Aweke to perform GOtnCErANHI • Aft omoddf'CKis fu# ? days 4 1? nights • Two ccrTthitnentarv wekome cocMdiK • Iwo ComDhmentdfV dinners Ethiopian singer will work her vocal magic at the Arvada Center 2 Days 2 Nishts • Complete bieaktast lor two . unlimited use ol tnr ffoo-td' tub for tw o garderts. neated ootcJoor txioi, rugrtty entertainment m the lounge Aster Aweke, the Ethiopian singer who's voice has $ / I plus tax . Onir V90 00 tof suite uD^dOe • Coupons tor area attractions been described as having the kick of a desert-bred Certificates OiAde E ip ir r s ► ♦ ♦ m=m Aretha Franklin, will work her vocal magic, Samr- A vailable April 15. 1993 day, Oct. 17, 8 p.m. at the new Arvada Center of the Call Now For Reservations' Arts and Humanities, 6901 Wadsworth Blvd. Tickets 1-800-525-7727 Canon Inn are $ 15. Seniors and students receive a discount of $ 1 719-275-8676 3075 E Hwy 50. Canon City. CO 81212 per ticket. Groups of 15 or more and Arvada Center members receive a $2 discount. When Aweke left her native Ethiopia in 1981, a female vocalist was beyond the cultural pale in her Abesha (Abyssinian ) community. And although she Fall began singing in Ethiopia's capital city, Addis Ababa, as a teenager, she found herself in a cultural crunch. She often sang Western pop hits in English for I nto tourists in local hotels and was criticized, mostly by more traditional elders, for being too Western. Her A dventure! frustration led her to leave Ethiopia in 1981. For information and to place ticket orders on VISA ,|OIN US FOR: Aztec Family Fun at the Denver or MasterCard, call the Arvada Center Box Office, Museum of Natural History; Wildlights. a vs inter 431-3939. Tickets are also available at all Ticket- wonderland at the Denver Zoo; Make it Natural, a Master centers. To charge TicketMaster by phone, hands-on workshop at Denver Botanic Ciardens; tree Aster Aweke call 290-8497. Saturday workshops at the Denver .Art .Museum. For information on these and other lam ily events call: Abbey of St. Walburga benefit concert • Denver Art Museum, 640-2793 • Denver Botanic (iardens, 370-8019 Billed as "the only two-man quartet in the West," efforts, will be the sale of homemade Abbey bread • Denver Museum of Natural Justin Bishop and John Nielson of Horse Sense will and cookies available at both concerts. These items give a benefit concert for the Abbey of St. Walburga are also available during weekend hours at the Abbey History, 322-7009 at Denver’s Teikyo-Loretto Heights Theater, Satur Gift Shop, 6717 S. Boulder Rd. • Denver Zoo. 331-4100 day, Oct. 24 and Sunday, Oct. 25. Concert times are 8 p.m., Oct. 24 and 2 p.m., Oct. Originally from Colorado, Horse Sense has per 25. Tickets will be sold at the Teikyo-Loretto Heights formed throughout the United States and has also Theater Box Office, 3001 S. Federal Blvd., Denver, served as cultural ambassadors, taking cowboy mu or call 937-4205. Advance tickets are $10 or $12.50 Programs supporteil. in pan. with Scientitie & sic to Central and South America, Africa, Indonesia at the door. Senior tickets are $6 (55 and older), Cultural Facilities Disiricl (SC'FD) funds. and Southeast Asia through the State Department’s children, $4(12 and under.) cultural program. Arts America. The concert cel Partial concert funding provided by the Anschutz ebrates the duos' return to Colorado with an ex Family Foundations. In-kind support with publicity, "THE CATHOLIC HOUR" panded program of new and traditional cowboy ticket sales and stage props donated by the Catholic WEEK OF OCTOBER 18TH songs, including old familiars like "Ghost Riders in Archdiocese of Denver, the Art Students League of the .Sky" ami "the Streets of Laredo." Songs are Denver and the Oblates of the Abbey of St. Walburga. interspersed with cowboy poetry and humor. The Abbey of St. Walburga is acloistered monas tery of Benedictine nuns, dedicated to a community SINGLES' EVENTS life of prayer and work. The nuns support themselves Friends in the Spirit support group rap sessions for • Archbishop J. Francis Stafford "Weekly Reflection - St. Luke 18:1-8" by ministering to retreat groups and to individuals separated, divorced and widowed are Thursdays, 7:30 • The Way Home seeking spiritual refreshment in a place of quiet and p.m.. Spirit of Christ Church, 7400 W. 80th Ave., "Redemption in Christ" prayer. In January of 1993, the Abbey begins its own Arvada. Herb Weinert speaks Oct. 15 on "Friendship." • Catholic Update program of monastic retreats for lay people which Mary Flanigan speaks Oct. 22 on "Letting Go." Lee "AIDS Awareness" •The Good News will focus on the Benedictine life of balance between John Droege speaks Oct. 29 on "Freedom and Left The Gospel of St. Mark - Part 'VII" prayer, work and recreation. Overs." For information, call Kathy Sauer, 696-0238 SUNDAYS Channel 12 KBDI, 10:00-11:00 a.m An added dimension to the October fund-raising or Barbara Deard, 424-5652. Channel 11 In Boulder, 10TX5-11 X)0 a.m. Channel 42 United Cable, 10:00-11:00 a.m. Channel 58 Mile High Cable, 7:30-8:30 p.m. There's only one way Channel 4 Cablevislon of Colorado Springs, 7:00 p.m. to come out ahead fin ftdvGntiirG Inlo Vour Worst HiaW'tnare of the pack. MONDAYS Channel 10 American Cable of Littleton, 12:30 p.m. ’’fridhtmarf; ’ 1992 Thornton, 8fl0 p.m. TUESDAYS flflUDHTEOBOUSE Channel 10 American Cable of Thornton, 7:00 p.m. Channel 4 American Cable of Littleton, 7:00 p.m. CftMPflltK OF TERROR Channel 25 Mile High Cable, 5:30-6:30 p.m. WEDNESDAYS Channel 10 American Cable of Wheal Ridge, 7:00 p.m. October 22nd - 31st, 1992 THURSDAYS Channel 4 American Cable of Littleton, 7 .0 0 p.m. !?neal( P i’r v ir w Channel 12 KBDI, 4:00-5:00 p.m. 108tb & Old Wadsworth Channel 38 CTVB-UHF, 8:30-9:30 p.m. SATURDAYS (}alGs open af 7:00 P.H. October16tb &17tb Channel 58 Mile High Cable, 6:00-7:00 p.m. American Heart Produced by Melissa A. Pierson Association Croup discount availobls 50«0FF Department of Communications CQnaral fldinission Office of Television & Radio for mors liiFormalinn Call 465-2745 Will) TF)Is Coupon Archdiocese of Denver Denver Catholic Register — October 14, 1992 — Page 31 Treasures and Hear Now hosts auction trivia sale Hear Now, a national non-profit organization based in Denver, will hold a fashion show featuring Descente The Denver Art Museum's Eighth Annual Trea skiwear, Thursday, Oct. 15,6 p.m. at Player's Restau sures and Trivia sale will be on Friday, Oct. 23, rant at the Athletic Club at Inverness. The event Saturday, Oct. 24 and Sunday, Oct. 25, at 2700 S. includes a wine tasting and silent auction. Colorado Blvd., at the comer of Yale and S. Colo All proceeds will help Hear Now provided co rado Blvd. chlear implants and hearing aids to the deaf and hard Included in the sale are antique furniture, sterling of hearing who are unable to afford them. silver, porcelain pieces, 1940's and 1950's col Silent auction items include a free race car lesson lectibles, designer clothing, housewares, televisions, in an Alfa Romeo, a specialized Rock Hopper Comp 4 radios, office supplies, linens, crystal, books, col mountain bike, a week's stay in Beaver Creek and lectibles, records, tapes, luggage and many other personal fitness training. interesting items. Tickets are $15 in advance or $20 at the door. This sale is staffed by volunteers of the Denver Ticket price includes the fashion show, wine tasting Art Museum and is a major fundraising project as and hors d'oeuvres. For information on the event or on well as a truly recyclable event. The Museum will Hear Now, call 758-4919. also accept donations. HEAR NOW volunteers, RodTekowitz, Paul Wash ington, Denise lman.sepahi and founder Bernice Dinner show skiwear that will be auctioned. Benefit polo match A host of celebrities were on hand as the Audemars Piguet/Hyde Park Jewelers team captured the Per kins Shearer Polo Cup. The match, held recently at Highlands Ranch, benefited the Children's Diabetes Foundation of Denver and the Denver Art Museum. Featured on the Audemars Piguet/Hyde Park Jew elers team was Tommy Lee Jones, well known movie star, and veteran rider Charles Smith, who took home the Most Valuable Player Award in helping the team notch at 7-4 victory. According to Steve Ro.sdal, co-owner of Hyde Park Jewelers, the event, now in its 12th year, was a success in more ways than one. "We were able to provide several important causes with financial help. And we were able to put on a high quality polo event for the many enthusiasts that follow the sport. We expect that this will now set the standard for future polo matches in the Denver area." ST. MALO It pickint^ up packages was an C^lympic Games event, “When the Holidays Hurt” weekend is Nov. 20 to Call l'800-222-1811 guess who would come in first. Express Mail'* service 22. Prepare positively for the holidays. Examine and we’ll pick up as many from your post office. religious, historical, cultural and personal aspects of packages as you have-even We’ll deliver overnight any package you have that this important time. Father George Schroeder is the weighs up to 70 pounds. And for just $4-50, we’ll pick retreat master. ones weighing up to them up, too. Thar’s $4.50 per pickup, not per package. ❖ ❖ ❖ 70 pounds-for just $4.50. W h at’s ntore, Expre.ss Mail servace offers some of the low A One Day at aTime Seminar“Changes for Life’s est rates around, starring at just $9.95 for guaranteed Journey” will be held Oct. 24 and Nov. 7, from 9 a.m. next morning delivery* of an 8-ounce Express to 5 p.m. The seminar focuses on those who are involved in the 12-steps program of Alcoholics Mail package. W hen you have a day to spare, send your Anonymous. Deacon Bill Lee. Head of the Archdiocese of package hy Priority Mail " service and enjoy the Denver Alcoholics Consultation Ministry is the re lowest nites in the husiness. just $2.90 gets you treat leader. two-day delivery* for up to two pounds. ♦ ♦ •*» ♦ So when you have a heavy package to sent.!, A One Day at a Time weekend retreat is Dec. 4 to C 1991 United States Postal Service just pick up the phone. Call 1-800-222-1811 and we’ll he !b JSC 3ft0 6. This retreat is for those dealing with addictions to over to pick up your Express Mail .ind Priority Mail drugs and/or alcohol. packages for yi >u. Deacon Bill Lee, Head of the Archdi(x:e.se Alco USA holism Consultation Ministry is the retreat leader. ❖ OPPiciAi ocyMPK: SPONSOO EXPRESS MAIL For information on these events, contact the St. UNITED STATES POSTAL SFRVICf Malo Retreat and Conference Center. 10758 Hwy, 7, 'Beivvppn m a|0' busm ess P j '' p <<‘=iM q p ■ Allenspark, CO 80510, (3031 444-5177. Page 32 — October, 14, 1992 — Denver Catholic Register VATICAN CEREMONY — Pope John Paul II . beatification Mass, Sept. 27. The Mass was Pope John Paul's first public event at the Vatican since he Mount Olivet underwent surgery in mid-July Cemetery is a P lace for to remove a colon Solitude and B eauty tumor and his gallbladder. tK.itcil ru'.ir tiu ’ toothills west ot iluw nrow n 1 Iriivtr, I()() year old g ro u n d s kalure lount.iiiis, ponds aiul uardeiis iirosidinu a t|uiet place lor solitude Land heaut \ . MIS SI <) N S LA r I; M L N I CNS photo from Reuters 1 rom the earliest times, the (..ithohc f.hiinh has jsarticipated in the htirial ol her heloved dead Hc-c.uise ot the Judaic rcAcreiue for the body ot the deceased, separate sp.ii es were set aside in sacred erouiid tor interm ent. C.emeteries are rooted 111 ancient reh.uioiis rituals and customs ot reverence for the dead. this VATICAN BRIEFS mimstrs etnhraces the reaht\ ot the human |xrson as an emhcKlied s|nrit. This cinhcKliment is sacred, lor it locales the hum.in s|nrit in history and m ,i sacred Santo Domingo conference Document on refugees pi,ice \\ c ser\e .is .i symbol ol the extended community of the (duirch, a Vatican City, Oct. 7 — The Pope Vatican City, Oct. 2 — During a (ommimitc unbroken by de.itli, .ind, like the s.ic r.iment ot the luicharist, asked for prayers for the conference of conference Cardinal Roger Etchega- celebr.itc the de.ith .incl resurrection of the Lord which otters to us the promise ol the Latin American Episcopate in Santo ray and Archbishop Giovanni Cheli etern.il hie. M (H in t (Ihvet Cemetery has Domingo, which opened Oct. 12. presented the document "Refugees: A siockI for o\er lOO years as an instrument "I ask your prayers," he said to challenge to solidarity," jointly pro of this s.ic red mimstrv'. Portuguese-speaking faithful, "and es duced by their two councils. rRi.-.\i i:n Ii^c, pecially the daily prayer of the rosary, Cardinal Etchegaray, president of K >!'/u I hi I'u/ii III m ind thill inmi'\ jrnm for the Assembly of the Latin Ameri the Pontifical Coimcil "Cor Unum," lulling nutdi pi'm t\iinn tndii', fur thi can Episcopate." stressed the document's "new aspect: liillilhiunt nj a dn'pl^ pa'inihil tihlipitluni In French, Pope John Paul greeted the sign of a strict collaboration be thill u ill m int mi't \omi- da). "the numerous Vietnamese of differ tween two discasteries." Its dual aims ent religious confessions present at are, he added, to put "a finger on the this audience in the framework of the wound of refugees to show its breadth M.iss IS celebr.ited m rhe ch.ipel located m the Mount Olivet Cemetery every Day of Prayer for Peace in Vietnam...! and depth as to study the roots of the hirst hrid.iy ol the month .it p.m for .ill those buried in Mount Olivet hope that dialogue and collaboration problem so as to treat it at the very ( emeterc In Monsiunor H.irley Schmitt among believers of different religions level of its causes." in Viemam develops for the material Archbishop Cheli, president of the .Mount ()hvet ( emeterv erounds are o |h i i d.iily from sunup to sundown and spiritual good of all." Pontifical Council for the Pastoral Care Reminding a group of Czech pil of Migrants and Itinerant People, spoke MOUNT grims that October is dedicated to Our of the Church's millennia-old concern OLIVET Lady of the Rosary, he urged them to for refugees. C f me t f r \4 A s < ( i « f i o n pray the rosary for the future of their He said that currently "about 80 ion'iff rated country as they did "when it was for episcopal conferences have a commis you a source of strength in recent years sion or bishop in charge of answering of non-freedom." the needs of refugees." 1-or m iirc inf• T m .iti« »n — .it no <»hli^.ith »n — rcg.irtiing M ount ( )li\ ct <.cmctcTN PILGRIM STATUES I clcphotic Pilgrim Statues of Our Lady of Fa ver; ST. VINCENT de PAUL, Den tima, sponsored by the Ambassadors ver, Kate Cuscak, 1250 S. Monaco /.ip of Mary, will be at the following homes Pkwy. #54, Denver; NOTRE DAME, the week of Oct. 10 to 17. Denver; Barbara & Eric Lobato, 1321 .Vl.nl to: Ian Parsons. D ir o tor ST. BERNADETTE, Lakewood: S. Bryant St., Denver; ST. MICHAEL Mount ( >li\i f ( t nu ft r\ IJcSO) Wtsr ♦ uh A\tnuc Mary Ellen Murray, 9937 W. 66th PI., THE ARCHANGEL, Aurora: Gus W hf.lt H iilL't f olor.ldo S(KH)'' Arvada; MT. CARMEL, Denver: John & Cinia Cruz, 3157 S. Sedalia Way, & Lilli Dipentini, 3335 Stuart St., Den Aurora; DIVINE REDEEMER, ( ) r ( .ill ( 2 1 -” S S ver; ST. LOUIS, Louisville: Schedule Colorado Springs: Mr. and Mrs. Rob ______I not available; OUR LADY, MOTHER ert Reed, 4412 Hopeful Way, Colo OFTHE CHURCH, CommerceCity: rado Springs. Margaret Kohler, 3324 Quivas, Den For information, call 322-6009 Denver Catholic Register -- October 14, 1992 -- Page 33 SUNDAY'S GOSPEL PEOPLE INTHE NEWS John Switzer, account manager for America in June 1989, and is cur 29th Sunday of the year Sony Business and Professional Group, rently account manager for broadcast, southwest region, has received Sony's cable and production accounts in Luke 18:1-8 Samurai award for sales excellence. Colo., N. Mex. and Wyo. He is a Switzer joined Sony Corporation of graduate of Notre Dame, Denver. By FATHER JOHN KRENZKE m ^ G L A D One often hears the question, "Does Patience has as its power the truth miALWAYS God really answer all my prayers?" that we must rely on others and not Jesus give several teachings on prayers merely on ourselves. God may seem in St. Luke's gospel and this parable is slow in coming to our assistance, but ff for our consolation. His love is never deaf to our cries for If God put our patience to the test help. If an unjust judge finally gives (V.7) he will see to it that we get our the widow her due, how much more rights (v.8). The parable is intended to will a just God give justice to His own strengthen our conviction that when sons and daughters? we pray we are certain of gaining a We are at times at the mercy of our IP AWAK Ttjousur f o u m i hearing that is favorable to us. adversaries. There are those who would In the story the judge is a man who harm us physically and spiritually, and allows himself to be bribed. Obvi escape or deliverance by our own power ously, a poor widow has no bribe to seems impossible. ■ offer and is scarcely deserving of his The promise of verse 7 is that the time. The widow persists in seeking just God will speedily vindicate those J^E I REAU7FJ) justice in the only way available to her. who trust in Him. Jesus gives a simple argument to There is a paradox here. Jesus speaks His listeners. If an unjust judge can be of God delaying as well as speedily pressed into responding to a poor answering His children. The paradox widow, how much more can we trust is resolved thus: What seems delay to God who shows us how gracious and us is the Lord's generosity and our forgiving He is in so many ways? daily willingness to wait upon that There are other parables in which generosity. The generosity is well- viHb DdNt a s in q r Jesus exhorts us to patience and perse known to us from past experience. VETA]i! verance in prayer. Patience is the virtue Waiting for this in patience does, in by which we hold on to the Lord in fact, bring the continuing experience spite of difficulties. Frequendy a great that the "speedy" response is our own good — as yet unseen — lies behind a accepting anew the Lord's assistance IS Te UBR. How ^ I Kh c yj problem we endure or put up with. and gratitude for His continuing gifts. Curran: Deliver us From page 10 not making me like everyone else — I need answer only to Him and my grasping, unjust, adulterous and par PEOPLE WHO M O W YOU, answer today would be, "Yes, God, I ticularly like the Publican here." PEOPLE TOUCMRELYOL.TODAYAM) TOMORROW. am a Christian because I love and How can we nod in agreement to believe in your Holy Trinity and what those words in Luke while righteously i You teach. I don't always live and proclaiming who is and who is not a love like a Christian, though. Like the Christian? HORANc y McCONATY Publican, I pray, 'God, be merciful to 1 thought about asking my driver for : me, a sinner.'I want to be better. Make his interpretation for this .scripture pas FUNERAL SERVICE ♦ CREMATION haste to help me." sage, but just as 1 was releasing my N. Federal Boulevard S. Colorado Boulevard teeth from bondage, he turned and A priest once remarked in a ser at Speer at Mississippi mon, "If you choose to be God, you asked, "If you are a Christian, have you I mustlivewithwhatyoucreate."When been saved?" 477-1625 757-1238 I looked up and saw the convention we judge others' spirituality by com- Irivitatton, Nat onal Selected Mortioans I paring it to our own and finding them hotel in front of me. "Yes," 1 replied as lacking, we stoop to the level of the honestly as 1 have ever been in my Pharisee who said, "Thanks, God, for entire life. "I've been saved." I Yes! 1 Nam e Old fashioned Christmas I / would like 1 more information 1 The Friends of Nursing's Old Fash Enjoy Holiday decor, music, food I Address ioned Christmas at the Phipps Man and a gift bazaar. I on funeral 1 Code sion and Tennis Pavilion, 3400 Admission is $8 and proceeds will I options and City 1 Belcaro Dr., Denver, will be Thurs go to nursing scholarships. I your services. 1 For information, call 922-3466. Telephone day, Nov. 19 to Saturday, Nov. 21. 1— ______1 Page 34 - October, 14, 1992 - Denver Catholic Register CAmOLIC CHARITIES AND SERVICE DIRECTORY COMMUNITY SERVICES WEDDING SERVICES WEDDING SERVICES Reflection day aged to bring questions and concerns A special reflection day for Parish around their loss and will look at atti secretaries, administrative assistants, tudes, motivators and feelings that aid receptionists and volunteer office as the healing process. For information, sistants, sponsored by Parish Social call Elaine Feldhaus, 388-4435. Ministry, is Wednesday, Oct. 21, 9 Foster families needed a.m. to 2 p.m. at the Loretto Center, Catholic Charities’ Department of 4000 S. Wadsworth, Littleton. Cost is Family and Children's Services is seek .$10 per person, which incudes lunch. ing foster homes to care for abused and With the theme of "Abundant Life: neglected infants and children. Touching God Through Our Work," Qualifications include a stable, ma Clean up as we the day features keynote speaker Mtu^ ture , two-parent family with a non-work Marlin, director of the Coun.seling ing mother. The family should live in clear out! Center at Most Precious Blood Par the Denver metro area and have a car Sweep up the savings ish, a certified tet^cher and profes available during the day to take thechild sional counselor. to medical and other appointments. on our entire inventory For information or registration, call Parenting experience is necessary, Mary Lies, 360-9686. and other children in the home should with an incredible Widow(er)s’ round table be at least three years old. Parents need up to Father Lyle Schossow will facili to have patience and an abundance of tate the next bereavement education love. 70% OFF session sponsored by Hospice of Foster families receive training, sup Peace. "Widow(er)s' RoundTable will port, supervision, financial reimburse Everything must go! be Wednesday, Oct. 21, from 7 to ment and the rewards of knowing they 8:30 p.m. at 200 Josephine St. TTie have made a significant difference in a event is open to any person who has child’s life. 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