Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Volume 33 No. 2 TEMPLE TOPiCS TISHREI/CHESHVAN/KISLEV/TEVET 5777 NOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2016
Friday, November 4 6:00 pm Shabbat Evening Family Service Oneg Shabbat Hosts: the Green and Lever families Birthdays in November will be celebrated 7:00 pm Congregational Dinner, by RSVP Saturday, November 5 10:00 am B’not Mitzvah of Ally Green and Samantha Lever
Friday, November 11 7:30 pm Shabbat Evening Service Oneg Shabbat Hosts: the Schwartz family Saturday, November 12 10:00 am Bat Mitzvah of Betsy Schwartz
Friday, November 18 7:30 pm Shabbat Evening Service BHSSTY Spaghetti Dinner before services, 6:30 pm. Oneg Shabbat Hosts: Moskowitz and Rostolder families Saturday, November 19 10:00 am B’nai Mitzvah of Jonathan Moskowitz and Eliya Rostolder
Friday, November 25 7:30 pm Shabbat Evening Service Saturday, November 26 No Shabbat Morning Service
Friday, December 2 6:00 pm Shabbat Evening Family Service Birthdays in December will be celebrated Saturday, December 3 10:00 am Shabbat Morning Service
Friday, December 9 7:30 pm Shabbat Evening Service Oneg Shabbat Hosts: the Katz family Saturday, December 10 10:00 am Bar Mitzvah of Jed Katz
Friday, December 16 7:30 pm Shabbat Evening Service Oneg Shabbat Hosts: the Moskovitz family Saturday, December 17 10:00 am Bar Mitzvah of Ethan Moskovitz
Tuesday, December 20 6:00 pm Community Menorah Lighting
Friday, December 23 7:30 pm Shabbat Evening Service Saturday, December 24 10:00 am Shabbat Morning Service
Friday, December 30 7:30 pm Shabbat Chanukah service - Bring your Menorahs! Saturday, December 31 No Shabbat Morning Service
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Our community connections can be the meal at the Suffern Soup Kitchen. casual or long-lasting. As adults, we may be seeking greater meaning i’ve also been known to carry my crocheting with me beyond just our daily lives. wherever i go. it has become another way to express my Community connections can help give you a sense of creativity for good. i make blankets to donate to Project purpose. The BHSS community helps give me a connection, Linus. Ask me about it. i’m happy to share the details and a sense of purpose. maybe we can crochet together.
Today many of our communities have migrated to online Find a creative outlet for yourself- cook, bake, paint, connections. How many friends do you have on Facebook? compose, photograph, draw; create new connections- perhaps who do you follow on Twitter? Do you have an app for that? you can reach out to one new person in the congregation and There are lots of Jewish apps, just Google it. share your gifts. Attend one of the adult learing sessions offered on Sundays and create a new friendship. Cook a we have an app that that predates the internet. it’s called the delicious Shabbat dinner and invite new friends from the Torah and teaches us all we need to know about community synagogue to join you. and living a good life. Care Rabbi Elazar said: whoever does acts of charity and i have been reading “God’s To-Do List: 103 Ways to be an justice is considered as having filled the world with loving Angel and Do God’s Work on Earth” by Dr. Ron wolfson. kindness, “He loves charity and justice; the earth is filled with the lovingkindness ( chesed ) of the Lord” it’s written as guidebook for doing good. in his book, he outlines big and small ways to make a difference everyday. Caring can be carried out in big and small ways. Find ways to when you do something on God’s to-do list…. you become do small acts of kindness everyday. Call an elderly neighbor an angel. You’re helping to do God’s work here on earth. it’s during a snow storm; make sure they have heat, some soup also a figure of speech, “be an angel and stop at the store on and snacks. Bring flowers to your child’s teacher. invite a the way here;” deliver a meal and “you’re such an angel to friend to lunch. Offer to babysit so your sister can go to yoga. think of me.” You are doing God’s work. A single act can make a big impact; you never know when someone needs a moment of kindness. wolfson identifies 10 categories of work on God’s to-do list - Create, Bless, Rest, Call, Comfort, Care, Repair, wrestle, we can gain strength by being part of a community especially Give, and Forgive. i would like to focus on three categories in times of sadness. The most important thing i do as a that i plan to work on and that we can work on as a member of this congregation is attend shivas. when you read community. the With Profound Sorrow announcements, consider attending one of the shivas. we learn so much at the shiva Create in the beginning God created heaven and earth… about the special people in our community. You might learn God is the Creator. But we too can be creators. we can all about their struggles and triumphs. i am always moved by the create something and you don’t have to be an artist to do so. stories, and sometimes think, “what they will say at my i find great pleasure in cooking and baking. i find it very shiva?” As i leave, i’m always glad i went. in the year ahead, relaxing to bake a cake or cookies and i’ve even been known consider attending a shiva even if you don’t know the family; to read cookbooks for fun. i channel this creativity for good it means so much to them. if you don’t want to go alone, call in the community as well; my family knows when there are me and we can go together. baked goods cooling on the counter, they are probably of their way out of the house! i’m very happy cooking for the These are the loving acts of kindness that can’t be repaid caring committee; i often include my signature pumpkin directly, but you can pay it forward for someone else. bread and snickerdoodles in with the meal. You, too, can use your creativity for the good of the community; think about Our celebrations are also meant to be shared. Attend a joining fellow BHSS congregants once a month to provide Saturday moring service and stand with the congregation on
2 Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Temple Topics the bima as we are the first to congratulate the B’nai Mitzah and supermarket line; invite someone new at the synagogue to sit their families. with you during services. These are small gestures, but are so meaningful. Comfort when you visit someone who is sick you are being God’s messenger. Each week we say the mi shebeirach for those when congregants come to your home as you mourn a loss and in our community in need of healing. it is a great comfort to stand with you as you say Kaddish, that is comfort. those on the list to receive a call. Just to check in to see how i’ve focused on three categories of God’s work we can do here they’re doing. You can comfort the family as well. and in the world. i plan to continue exploring the additional ways i can do other work this year. if you have a friend or family member who is sick—bring them How will you be an angel in the year ahead? chicken soup—it really does wonders to nourish the spirit. if someone is in the hospital visit; go to a senior center and share L’shalom Shabbat; let the mother with small children ahead of you on the Nancy Levene
Rabbi’s Message Rabbi Barry Diamond From the Rabbinic Intern Josh Fixler with the High Holidays behind us, our minds turn to our guitar to planning parties to an interest in foreign languages next set of secular and religious holidays. Thanksgiving and or a facility with numbers, we have skills and passions that Chanukah have a deep and hidden connection. The Pilgrims comprise our unique selves. Many people do not even realize viewed themselves as new israelites living in a new “promised that the gifts they possess may be valuable to our land.” They did not adopt all of the ceremonial or ritual laws congregation. That is why our temple leadership is interested of Judaism, but they clearly drew upon the importance of in informally meeting with you to get to know you and holding a harvest festival, the best known to them being explore the gifts you may have to offer. we are asking for no Sukkot, in the creation of their Thanksgiving celebration. commitment other than sitting and chatting. in fact, your sitting with us is a gift in and of itself. Meeting with our Almost 2200 years ago, the Maccabees were having their own leadership is a simple way for you to give thanks to our Sukkot difficulties to deal with. Because of the war with congregation and for us to give thanks to you. Perhaps you Assyria, they were unable to celebrate Sukkot in the ancient too will have gifts to offer, like Shelley Jaffe who uses her Temple, as prescribed. That year, they skipped this artistic talent to develop attractive teaching tools or Robin important holiday of thanksgiving and only celebrated it Falkow who use her cooking talent to bake challahs for months later, when they regained control of the Temple. members who are ill. They named the holiday Sukkot in (the Hebrew month of) Kislev. Today we call that holiday, Chanukah. Sukkot, As we see Sukkot in our rearview mirrors, know that Thanksgiving, and Chanukah are all holidays showing our Thanksgiving and Chanukah (Sukkot in Kislev) are perfect appreciation for what we have been given. opportunities for us to meet each other face to face, to learn about one another and give thanks. it was in that spirit of celebrating one’s gifts that i (Josh Fixler) offered a Rosh Hashanah sermon helping us to Rabbi Barry Diamond recognize that each one of us has unique gifts. From playing Student Rabbi Josh Fixler
32 From the Educator’s Office
“Are you sitting with anyone? Yes, with you!” chance it gives me to meet so many interesting people. Two extraordinary opportunities are coming up in the next two i have an open door policy; any time i can help with your months. child’s (and your family’s) hopes and dreams and the challenges that might make things more “interesting,” i’m The Eternal Lights Dinner, on November 17, is the only eager to do that. But another of my favorite things is when i major BHSS fundraiser of the year, and i have been get to talk to people who are not necessarily students, or privileged to attend for the last 9 years. it is an evening of related to students in our religious school. great food, fun company, and a chance to meet some other members in an informal atmosphere. if you can’t be there, i would love to talk to you about your own hobbies and you can donate (any amount) and the funds raised help interests, the news (maybe not so much politics,) why my EVERYTHiNG that goes on that you could possibly be beloved Red Sox are your least favorite team – all sorts of interested in: the school, the adult programming, the things. i’d love to pray next to you, or sing with you at amazing services, the social events. i would love to assemble services. i’m around quite a bit and i would LOVE to talk to a “school” table, so if you’d like to come but feel like you you and get to know you better. i love this place and the don’t want to be there “alone,” come and sit with me!
Sisterhood’s Goods and Services Auction, on December 10, What Price Safety? comes around just once every two years. (it’s a labor of love, but it’s A LOT of work, and Sisterhood does it gladly.) This The average car weighs approximately 4,000 pounds. is not just an opportunity to purchase jewelry, clothing, That’s two tons (a large SuV weighs a whopping THRee football tickets, mah jongg lessons, and dinners cooked by tons.) The average student in our school weighs about 100 pounds. If they should meet “accidentally” in the parking some of our members/amateur chefs; it’s an opportunity to lot ...... Well, they shouldn’t. schmooze, nosh, and laugh. (For a really good laugh, come to see parents bid against each other for babysitting!) it is, And they don’t, and they won’t, if everyone follows the like Eternal Lights, a genuinely good time for a good cause. school’s policy about picking up students. From the preschool to Kadimah’s 12th graders, eVeRY student who Sisterhood generously donates much of the proceeds to the leaves our building (except those who drive themselves) congregation in general, and to the school in particular, must be accompanied by an adult. This means rain, snow, which has enabled us to have, among other things, our own sleet, cold, hot, weather. It means if you’re in a hurry, or if copier and a supply of Tanach (Bible) books for each you’re in your pajamas, or you just came from the gym/salon/shower. If on a particular day, you simply can’t classroom. Again, come and sit with me…and feel free to bid come into the school building at dismissal, just call us and against me. explain the situation. Then park your car and someone will walk your child out to you. Don’t think you really know anyone? You know ME. Come Please understand that we have the blessing of a large and sit with me sometime. and vibrant religious school, with a total population of almost 300 terrific students. We are also blessed with big Rebecca Bernstein McVeigh cars, busy schedules and less than cooperative weather Congregational Educator and Religious School Principal patterns. much of the time dismissal occurs in the dark. our policy exists for a reason, and that reason is self- explanatory and self-evident.
4 Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Temple Topics Cantor’s Corner
Shalom, and Shanah Tova:)
we did it! we got through another busy but inspirational High Holiday season. Even though this one had the potential to be challenging due to our transition, it was all together great, due in no November small part to Rabbi Barry Diamond. He is a great interim clergy partner, and Birthdays someone who is also taking very good care of our members in need. Zachary Asher Aarons Hannah Altman we are also well into our 2016-2017 B’nei Mitzvah year. This past September we had Remi Begleiter a beautiful B’not Mitzvah service and i want to share with you an excerpt from a note Hailey Berwitz the parent of the B’not Mitzvah sent to me…. Jenna Bofford Breanna Bofford “i think i may finally be coming down from the high of that morning. People keep Avery Braunstein asking “was it amazing?” referring of course to the party. which was, it was super Eleanor Ehrlich fun. But nothing, not one moment of that party compares to 2 hours of watching my Alex Fisherman daughters chant, sing and read. i have belonged to a multitude of temples of every Zoey Gershengorn level from Reform to Orthodox. i have NEVER felt i belonged anywhere. i just Ally Green drifted along, no interest in being anything more than i needed to be. wanting to Jane Grossman raise Jewish children and make sure they knew all the Jewish stuff. And then we Reid Grossman landed at BHSS. And there it is. i belong." Aerin Grunstein Emma Grunstein it is so fulfilling each Shabbat Morning we have B’nei Mitzvah, how much they have Ari Hirshfield grown, how much the parents are kvelling , and how our visitors appreciate what we Hayley Hollander do here as well. i would like to say thank you to BHSS for allowing me to express my Dylan Hyman cantor-ness in the manner that i do, albeit in a bit of an “unorthodox” manner. Jed Katz Stay tuned for fun programming coming your way from the Music Committee as well Chase Kelman - Movie Night, BHSS GOT TALENT and of course, COFFEEHOUSE CANTORS. Scooter Kraft Madeline Leibman Samantha Lever Jonathan Moskowitz Eliana Panoff Alex Popowitz Eliya Rostolder Alex Schnelwar Ethan Schwartz Hunter Surgan Annabel Theodore
5 2016/2017 BOARD OF TRUSTEES interim Rabbi Barry Diamond 214-394-0421 [email protected] Cantor David Perper 201-934-1894 [email protected] Educator, Rebecca McVeigh 201-512-1983 [email protected] President, Nancy Levene 201-236-6059 [email protected] Past President, Jennifer Cole 201-891-2438 [email protected] Vice President, Corey Mitnick 201-529-5285 [email protected] Vice President, Doug wright 201-825-6265 [email protected] Treasurer, Mitchell Miller 201-337-4503 [email protected] Asst. Treasurer, Aldine Rostolder 201-252-2823 [email protected] December Secretary, Harvey weinberg 646-364-8417 [email protected] Trustee, Stacey Coyne 845-368-2830 [email protected] Birthdays Trustee, Debbie Falkow 201-327-4849 [email protected] Trustee, Deborah Klein 201-934-1623 [email protected] Alex Begleiter Trustee, Paul Lipson 201-934-7060 [email protected] Trustee, Lorriane Orlick 845-369-3896 [email protected] Jacob Berwitz Trustee, Linda Schwartz 845-504-0577 [email protected] Jillian Bruckner Sisterhood Co. Pres., Lisa Lamster 201-760-1935 [email protected] Sisterhood Co. Pres., Gail Spencer 201-818-0212 [email protected] Justin Fox Brotherhood Pres. Jonathan Theodore 845-357-5378 [email protected] Ellie Greenblatt Michelle Mitzvah Grp, Chair, ilyse Smith 201-995-1177 [email protected] Dir.of informal Youth Prog, Liza Fishman 201-994-5898 [email protected] Benjamin Grossman Youth Act. Co-ord. Gr. 3-5- Brittany Silverman 201-818-9577 [email protected] Harrison Haber SR. Youth Group Co-Pres. Samantha Lamster [email protected] Isabella Levine SR. Youth Group Co-Pres. Sarah Miller [email protected] Julia Mandler 2016/2017 COMMITTEE CHAIRS Life Long Learning, Leslie Sapienza 201-760-8972 [email protected] Benjamin Marder Life Long Learning, Beth Dubiel 201-684-0705 [email protected] Aiden Miller BUiLDiNG & GROUNDS, Jim Dubroff 201-327-7014 [email protected] BUiLDiNG & GROUNDS, Harris Reinstein 201-652-0898 [email protected] Natalie Morgan CARiNG, Co Chair, Candy Kassover 201-934-8229 [email protected] Ethan Moskovitz CARiNG, Co Chair, Laura Miller 201-337-4503 [email protected] COMMUNiCATiONS, Lisa Lamster 201-760-1935 [email protected] Max Myers ENDOwMENT, Chair, Harvey weinberg 646-364-8417 [email protected] Eva Myers EDUCATiON, Lauren Einhorn 201-447-7094 [email protected] Sydney Selman LiBRARY, Sheryl ives 201-794-1017 [email protected] LiBRARY, Ruth Turner 845-351-5732 [email protected] Benjamin Shamus MEMBERSHiP, Chair, Stacey Coyne 845-369-3896 [email protected] William Silver MUSiC, Chair, Nora Berger 201-703-0132 [email protected] OUTREACH, Jane Young 201-327-1281 [email protected] Drew Weiss RiTUAL, Co Chair, Debbie Royal 201-962-3103 [email protected] RiTUAL, Co Chair, Judy Teich 845-512-8506 [email protected] SOCiAL ACTiON, Chair, whitney Speer 201-825-2441 [email protected]
Candlelighting times:
November 4 – 5:30 pm Noach December 2 – 4:11 pm Toldot November 11 – 4:23 pm Lech L’cha December 9 – 4:10 pm Vayeitzei November 18 – 4:17 pm Vayera December 16 – 4:12 pm Vayishlach November 25 – 4:13 pm Chayei Sarah December 23 – 4:15 pm Vayeishev December 30 – 4:20 pm Miketz
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8 MEET, PRAY, LEARN At the 5th Annual BHSS Congregational Retreat!
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Cost (includes all meals and lodging for the weekend): $75.00 per adult ~ $60.00 per youth (ages 7-17) ~ $40.00 per child (ages 3-6) Children under 3 are free!
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Ally Green – November 5, 2016 Lives in Montvale, New Jersey. Mother, Carole, Father, Barry, Brothers, Noah, 16, and Ben, 18 ...... is a 7th grader at Feldstone Middle School ...... Her Jonathan Moskowitz – November 19, interests include soccer, basketball, 2016 lacrosse, camp and being with friends. Lives in Upper Saddle River, New “i want to do well in school and on the Jersey. Mother, Janet, Father Mark, soccer field. i’m very excited and i am Brother Matthew, 18…… is a 7th excited/nervous to be up on the bima. For my grader at Cavallini Middle community service i am collection used soccer gear School ……… His interests include and shipping it to a sports club for kids in playing soccer, basketball, baseball and Kingston, Jamaica.” football. “i am thinking about becoming an attorney as i enjoy helping people and love to debate. i have worked towards becoming a Bar Samantha Lever – November 5, 2016 Mitzvah for a long time so i can't wait to Lives in Upper Saddle River, New Jersey. celebrate this day with my family and friends. For Mother, Jill, Father, David, Brother, my community service i raised money for the Jason, 16 ...... is a 7th grader at American Kidney Association which holds a very Cavallini Middle School ...... Her special place in my heart.” interests include dance, reading, music and camp. “i would like to be an author. i look forward to celebrating this special Eliya Rostolder – November 19, 2016 day with my family and friends. For my Lives in Mahwah, New Jersey. Mother, community service i am collecting children’s books Aldine, Father, Jeff, Brother, Noah, 10 to be donated to the Bridge of Books Foundation, ...... is a 7th grader at Ramapo which then distributes books to New Jersey children Ridge Middle School ...... who need them. The goal of this organization is Her interests include singing, acting, that all children should have books to call their own. ” cooking, baking, watching Netflix and traveling. “i want to perform on Broadway in the show ‘wicked’ and be Elphaba. i am really excited for my Bat Mitzvah. i have been working really hard on my Torah Betsy Schwartz – November 12, 2016 portion. Combining my love of singing and Lives in Suffern, New York. Mother, acting with my community service, my project is Linda, Father, David, Brother, Owen, 14 performing for the residents of Van Dyk Park ...... is an 8th grader at Suffern Place, an assisted living facility.” Middle School ...... Her interests include baking, cooking, hanging out with friends and rowing crew. “when i Does your family have a get older i want to be a pediatric surgeon. Bar or Bat Mitzvah coming up? i am very excited about this next step in my Jewish life. For my community service i helped In order to be included in the next issue of Temple Topics, tutor kids who either had a hard time learning or your child’s brief “bio” and photo are due as follows: they have a rough home life and can’t get help on their homework. i also cooked meals for those who For a Jan/Feb date, by December1 can’t cook for themselves.” If you need a form, or have any questions, please call or email to the synagogue.
10 Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Temple Topics ...will be called to the Torah...
Jed Katz – December 10, 2016 Lives in Upper Saddle River, New Jersey. Mother, Robin, Father, Marc, Brother, Turner, 11, Sister, Averie, 8 ...... is a 7th grader at Ethan Moskovitz – December 17, 2016 Cavallini Middle School ...... Lives in Mahwah, New Jersey. Mother, His interests include basketball, Sheryl, Father, Gil, Brother, Kobi, 11 soccer and guitar. “i would like to be ...... is a 7th grader at Ramapo Ridge a sports commentator. i feel very excited Middle School ...... His interests and very nervous, but mostly excited! For my include soccer, basketball, skiing, tennis, community service i am assisting special needs cooking, baking and arts and crafts. children who participate in the Mahwah All- “i would like to be a lawyer because i like to Stars soccer program.” debate and also believe in justice. i want to defend the rights of others and make the world a better place. i feel excited because i finally become a Michelle Mitvah Group man and tell my friends that i am a man at 13. i also get the awesome feeling of it being over and seeing the Chanukah Candles rest of my friends have theirs. For my community service, i will be helping senior citizens with activities available for sale now and helping kids with special needs at Camp Acorn.” Contact Lisa Lamster or the office
COMMUNITY MENORAH LIGHTING! Tuesday, December 20, from 6 to 6:30
Join your congregational family as we officially light the beautiful chanukiyah (Chanukah menorah) that graces our front circle. We will gather with Rabbi Diamond, Cantor Perper, our choirs, and our fourth and fifth grade students to celebrate with song and some hot cocoa and jelly donuts.
11 Spaghetti Dinner 6:30 pm, Friday, November 18 Suggested Donation $5
Sponsored by the Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Senior Youth Group
All proceeds will go to the Oasis – A Haven for Women and Children
12 CHANUKAH MENORAH LIGHTING HINTS:
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Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha’olam, asher kidshanu bimitzvotav v’tzivanu l’hadlik ner shel Chanukah.
Blessed are you, Adonai our God, Ruler of the universe, who has sanctified us with commandments and commanded us to kindle the lights of Chanukah.
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Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha’olam, she’asa nissim la’avoteinu bayamim haheim ba-z’man hazeh.
Blessed are you, Adonai our God, Ruler of the universe, who performed wondrous deeds for our ancestors, in those days at this time of year.
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Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech ha’olam, shehecheyanu v’kiyemanu v’higiyanu la-z’man hazeh.
Blessed are you, Adonai our God, Ruler of the universe, for giving us life, for sustaining us, and for enabling us to reach this season of joy.
13 Ritual Committee
CHANUKAH!!! PURIM!!!
Get ready for Chanukah….because it just around the corner…. And so is Purim….. October The High Holidays 5777 are behind us and they were wonderful, brilliant, spiritual, inclusive, meaningful, uplifting, thought-provoking and joyful. Rabbi Diamond, Birthdays Cantor Perper, student rabbi Josh Fixler and the BHSS Adult Choir worked their magic leading us in song and prayer. Zack Barkan Leah Behar Not only is our congregation appreciative of our clergy, we are also grateful to our Miles Brickman staff, ritual committee members and congregants who helped with the preparation and the logistics during the holidays. i want to especially thank the Ritual Committee for Adam Buchalter the many hours spent coordinating English honors, ushers, learning session, gabbis , Chloe Caren babysitters, silver-polishing, shofar-blowing and gathering Hebrew names. Brad DeRosa The Ritual Committee began the High Holiday planning in June, and before the Justin DeRosa holidays were upon us we started thinking about and planning for Chanukah and Brooke Dylan Einhorn Purim. Jack Fein Mandy Fleischmann Chanukah is “late” this year and begins on Saturday December 24 (25th of Kislev ). Please join us Friday, December 30 for an evening of celebration and oil as we Harrison Flynn light the Shabbat and Chanukah candles . we will be collecting cooking oil for the Arden Flynn Center for Food Action. Please bring a bottle. Olivia Flynn Purim may seem far away, but it is never too early to prepare, and we would love your Jordan Gamburg help! Release your inner creativity. We are seeking script writers, lyricists, actors Benjamin Goldstein and stagehands. Please reach out to Cantor Perper if you would like to participate Ava Gottlieb in our Purim Spiel on Saturday, March 11 at 6 PM. Laila Graham-Bialer On Friday, January 6 at 6 pm we will honor families of college-aged children and Griffin Heit empty nesters. Join us for a very special Shabbat service and congregational dinner. Adriane Heit we encourage all to attend. Justine Kulick The ritual committee is open to all synagogue members who wish to participate. we Riley Nierenberg welcome members of all backgrounds and levels of knowledge of worship ritual. Our Skylie Prizel synagogue members have diverse feelings about what their ideal ritual experience Ayla Sachs should be; we strive to accommodate as broad a spectrum as possible within the Betsy Schwartz Reform tradition. Justin Silver we typically meet on the first Tuesday of every month at 7:30 p.m. Please join us! Miles Swerdloff Owen Weiner Shalom, Sydney Weiner Judy Teich, Co-Chair, Ritual Committee Leo Wunder Eli Wunder
14 Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Temple Topics Social Action/Garden Committee
As i ask for more involvement in Social Action at BHSS, i need to be a gardener extraordinaire to produce about 400 hope my abridging and marrying their sermons from Erev pounds of organic produce for the Suffern Soup Kitchen. Rosh Hashanah and the first day of Rosh Hashanah do not i just needed to be committed! offend Rabbi Diamond and our rabbinic intern Josh Fixler. imitation is the truest form of flattery, right? There’s Marla and my gift to BHSS, we are committed! we show up and the garden grows! we’ve made mistakes, and Student Rabbi Fixler asked us to find our true personal gifts learned from them. we learned you couldn’t be sloppy with that we can share with the BHSS community. Rabbi fence building because the groundhog will find your Diamond taught us that making mistakes is an acceptable sloppiness. we’ve planted vegetables that don’t produce (this form of learning. in my mind, those are the perfect messages year it was cauliflower). we’ve left items on the vine too for expanding Social Action at BHSS. what are your gifts? long. we have picked things too soon. in spite of all those Maybe you aren’t sure what they are; maybe you think you mistakes, our gift of commitment creates success. really don’t have any. it has been a wonderfully rewarding experience for me (and i i will share a little about how i got to the Community think Marla) to see our “gift” bear fruit (or vegetables.) what Garden. No one would ever tell you that i am knowledgeable, would your gift bear? what is your gift? Come, find a social passionate, or educated about gardening. i have some plants action activity that sparks your interest, bring your gifts, make that survive my care and i try every year to have some flowers some mistakes, and find that you have grown! in pots around my home - end of my skills. Yet somehow i am in charge of the garden, with the help of Marla Muni whitney Speer, Chair, Social Action Committee (who would say the same about herself). it turns out i didn’t
Michelle Mitzvah Group
with the High Holidays behind us, i hope the year 5777 is - Donate food to the Center for Food Action. The providing health, happiness, and a little luck. Speaking of collection bin is by the entrance to the religious school. luck, one lucky person will be able to win a mini-iPad 2, with the proceeds benefiting the Michelle Mitzvah Scholarship - Deliver produce to Oasis, located in Paterson, NJ, to help Fund. Tickets are $10 each, and limited to 100 tickets, with the Lunches for Love program. meaning you have a 1% chance of winning. The drawing will be held on Mitzvah Day, Sunday, November 6. - Volunteer to provide meals for the Sunday lunch program at the Christ Episcopal Church of Ramapo, located For Mitzvah Day, Beth Haverim Shir Shalom will once again in Suffern, NY. be a collection site. we will be sorting new and/or gently worn children’s clothing, sizes birth to size 8. we look Our next meeting will be Tuesday, November 15. forward to seeing you there. if you can’t be there to sort, if you have any questions, regarding meetings, events, please donate clothing! volunteering, please feel free to contact Steven Simon at [email protected] or ilyse Smith at Please remember, there are numerous ways to help our [email protected]. larger community in need: B’Shalom
15 Contributions
Life Fund: in commemoration of George Moss’ yahrzeit -Barbara & Phil Moss in commemoration of the yahrzeit of Sadie Lazar -Sandy & Newt Parks in commemoration of the yahrzeits of Jerome and Lee Johnson in commemoration of the yahrzeit of Myron Greenzweig -Sue-Ellen & Ron Johnson -Marilyn & Irwin Haberman in commemoration of Sol wexler’s yahrzeit in commemoration of the yahrzeit of Nancy Pivar -Linda & Ed Vogel -David Schwartz in commemoration of the yahrzeit of Max Miller to Nita Klaskow, in memory of Eddie Klaskow -Carole Goodman -Judy & Al Nagler -Trudi & Frank Gunsberg in commemoration of the yarhzeit of Adele Axelrod, mother of Norman Axelrod -Alison & Norman Axelrod to Lori Perlstein, in memory of Brad Perlstein -Helen Pine in commemoration of the yarhzeit of william Kaplan, to Sheila & Larry Groskin, in honor of their father of Alison Axelrod -Alison & Norman Axelrod grandson’s Bar Mitzvah -Lynn & Michael Zall in commemoration of the yarhzeit of Donald Leopold, in commemoration of the yahrzeit of Julius Schwartz uncle of Alison Axelrod -Alison & Norman Axelrod -Marsha & Larry Schwartz to Judy Teich, in memory of her father, Andrew Fisher in commemoration of the yahrzeit of Freida Lieberman -Alison & Norman Axelrod -Jess Lieberman to Sheila and Larry Groskin, in honor of your new to Mel Lamster, in honor of your 80th birthday! grandson, Mazel Tov! -Ruth & Stu Turner -Judie & Gerry Wyckoff -Ellen Fluhr to Joel ives, well wishes for a speedy recovery!! -the Library Ladiess to Jill Pearlman, in memory of your mother, Barbara Greenblatt -Helen Milstein -Lisa Lamster Brick Fund: to Judy Teich in memory of your father, Andrew Fisher -Helen Milstein to Nita Klaskow, in memory of Eddie Klaskow, with deepest sympathy -Marsha & Larry Gluck in memory of werner Schott -Sheri & Allan Schott -Jane & Jan Simon to Mona Lefkowitz and family, in memory of to Joel ives, well wishes for a speedy recovery your mother, Martha -Linda & Ed Vogel -Jane & Jan Simon -Alison & Norman Axelrod -Lisa Lamster to Shana Brown, in memory of her mother -Linda & Ed Vogel -Lisa Lamster
16 Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Temple Topics Contributions
September 3, 2016 Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund Michelle Mitzvah Group with thanks and appreciation for your support and guidance to Nita Klaskow, in memory of Eddie Klaskow -Lori Perlstein -Ellen & Paul Ratisher with thanks and much appreciation and conducting in memory of Nathan LeBron -Nita Klaskow such a beautiful service. -Len & Meryl Kaplan to Debbie Royal, Mazel Tov….in honor of Jamie’s marriage with thanks and appreciation -Alison & Norman Axelrod -Jill & Bill Pearlman Center For Food Action Cantor’s Discretionary Fund Bar Mitzvah of Jason Ritchin to Nita Klaskow, in memory of Eddie Klaskow, with our Bar Mitzvah of Ryan Peller deepest sympathy -Sandy & Newt Parks Bat Mitzvah of Heather Romoff -Allan & Sheri Schott Bat Mitzvah of Jordan weinberger Bat Mitzvah of Jessica Korman with appreciation -Joyce & Stephen Weinberg B’not Mitzvah of Emma and Aerin Grunstein Bat Mitzvah of Brooke Dann with many thanks for caring during a difficult time -Roni & Andrew Silver Bar Mitzvah of Owen York with all our love -the Rosengarten family in memory of Andrew Fisher and with many thanks Animal Shelter of Oakland -Estelle Fisher Bar Mitzvah of Jake Ehrman Educator’s Discretionary Fund Bat Mitzvah of Arielle Ravett Bat Mitzvah of Chloe Caren to Mona Lefkowitz and family, in memory of your mother, Bar Mitzvah of Harrison Flynn Martha -Irma & Joel Becker Bat Mitzvah of Samantha Lever
Tree of Life Jewish Family Services of Rockland to Lori Perlstein and family, in honor of Dr. Brad Perlstein- we will always remember you fondly Bar Mitzvah of Hunter Surgan -Friends of Beyond Signs & Graphics
in honor of Jake Ehrman becoming a Bar Mitzvah - September 10, 2016
in honor of Jason Ritchin becoming a Bar Mitzvah - 17 Youth Programming
Our latest event, Laser Tag, was a lot of fun. we had almost twenty 6th - 8th graders come out for a great time! Some of them are pictured below. it’s not too late to be a part of the Junior Youth Group; just contact me at [email protected] or on my cell at 201-994-5898. You can find liza Fishman a membership form on the BHSS website on the Youth page. Be a part of our next group photo! Director of Informal Youth Programming Grades 6-12 Our next youth event is run by our Senior Youth Group (we’d love to see our 6th, 7th and 8th graders turn out in a big way to support BHSS and their senior youth group!) – the annual Spaghetti Dinner on November 18. Come with your family and friends! From 6:30 p.m. until services begin at 7:30 p.m., we’ll be serving pasta, bread, and salad…all for the suggested donation of $5 per person. Since all our food is generously donated by ShopRite, all of your donations will go this year to Oasis – A Haven for women and Children, which serves over 600 women and children each day. Their services include education for underserved women and childcare for their children while they study, graduate, and find jobs.
Mark your calendars for the next event for grades 6 through 8: December 11 Sky Zone Trampoline Park in nearby Allendale, New Jersey.
it’s the start of the year and the Menschmakers have already had two events and started volunteering in the community. Our first event hosted in September was centered around S’lichot . Menschmakers and their families participated in activities with the cantor and rabbi, singing songs and listening to a story for the holiday. Rosh Hashanah cards were also made to wish friends and family members a happy and healthy New Year, and the night ended with Havdalah.
On October 2, the Menschmakers volunteered at Richard's Run in Ho-Ho-Kus to benefit the Brittany Silverman Youth Activities Coordinator, Go4theGoal Foundation, which improves the lives of Grades 3 – 5 children battling cancer. Posters were decorated and our Menschmakers cheered on the runners during the race and stood at the finish line handing out water bottles. There was so much energy and positive messages to motivate the runners to keep pushing through.
we still have 7 events left and you don’t want to miss them! Volunteering at Saddle Ridge Riding takes place on November 6 and our Chanukah event is scheduled for December 18. we’re having a great start to the year and i hope to see many of you attend our upcoming events!
18 Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Temple Topics Sisterhood News
Fall is in the air; the sun is down for the religious school while all of this is already in store, we’re planning for spring, carpool pickups, and there’s a crispness to the mornings that so make sure to watch for events like our Fashion Show, our tells us summer is gone for good. But have no fear - not only Famous Dine-A-Round and our Miriam Seder. You’ll see do we have Thanksgiving and Chanukah to look forward to; details about these and other events in future Temple Topics this season also brings us plenty of BHSS-style adventures. articles. we’re still enjoying our Honey for the Holidays, and still Haven’t filled out your Sisterhood membership form yet? admiring all the holiday-decorated Converse sneakers we what are you waiting for? we’re waiting for you! showed off at Yom Kippur. But did you know that Sisterhood also welcomed the New Year and our new BHSS and Gail Spencer, Co-President [email protected] Sisterhood members, by delivering a delicious challah to each Lisa Lamster, Co-President [email protected] new family? Rabbi Diamond asks us to welcome someone new at each service. Your Sisterhood takes that message to each new member’s home! Notes from Music what’s next? why, channel your inner Chagall at our Hello everyone, November 20 Painting with a Partner party! Here’s your chance to make a personal project (or 2?) with a partner. Our first meeting of the year followed tradition and Enjoy the evening, and maybe you’ll go home with an early challenged it at the same time. it has been a long-standing Chanukah gift or two! practice that the committee chair hosts the first meeting at her home. we had a great cocktail and dessert party with our As we do each year, we’ll gather for our Chanukah cocktail members and their spouses as well as other guests enjoying party and grab-bag event. Meet new friends, and party with each other's company. everyone as we light the lights, and spread the BHSS cheer! watch your weekly emails for more information on these Rabbi Barry Diamond, our special guest, was the one who events, and be sure to RSVP while space is still available. helped us challenge tradition by asking us to look at how and why we provide programming for our congregation. Hopefully, you’ve already marked your calendar for our Have any ideas on how to answer Rabbi Diamond’s extraordinary Goods and Services Auction on December 10 questions? we are very interested in what you have to say! at the temple. it’ll be the highlight of your holiday season! we are looking for your input. Seriously, you could send Come for the auctions, the tricky trays, the art, the jewelry just that answer! Email me at [email protected] so we can and the events; and stay for desserts, drinks and a whole lot chat. of laughing and schmoozing. Bring your friends; it’s a not-to- be missed evening! The committee would like to welcome Brian Muni to our ranks. we look forward to working together and sharing we would love to hear from you with donations for the ideas. As always, there is room at the table for more. Please auction, which is Sisterhood’s major biennial fundraiser, and join us on the fourth Tuesday of the month at 7:30 at the the main resource that lets Sisterhood help the congregation, synagogue. our kids, and our community. Please support it and us, with your donations, your help or advice, and especially, your Musically yours, attendance! For more information, please contact Linda Nora Berger Vogel or Stacey Coyne.
19 Brotherhood 2.0
Happy New Year! The holidays came late this year, but never it may seem trite…or perhaps it’s a daunting task to open up too late for atonement! This past month of Elul, leading up to to someone or ask them to open up to you. Just a friendly chat the high holidays of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur was, - let your fellow person know that you are there, that you’re traditionally a month of reflection – a time for looking inward willing to listen. Some well-placed words or just a kind smile and preparing for atonement. can go a long way toward making a difference in the lives of others. My year has been a bit rough. As i speak with my fellow brothers and sisters across the congregation, i learned that, for Remember why we atone during this High Holiday season. the most part, i am not alone. Everyone is experiencing some Remember what true atonement is – first an apology, then level of personal, physical, emotional and/or financial taking steps to correct the action, then learning from this to challenge, disappointment, controversy or pain. As i reflect never repeat the same mistake, and then teaching someone else during this time, i recognize that one’s own circumstances are how to effect change and atonement in their own life. the most severe because everyone owns their own pain. what i also realize is that if everyone brings their problems to the L'Shalom, and Shana Tova! May this year bring us health, village square for everyone to see, most people will take their wealth and happiness! own back. Keep an eye on some upcoming events – All are welcome! At this time of challenge, change, and self-reinvention it is important to be able to see past our own personal situations Dates: and reach out to someone next to us. Perhaps that person is Nov 1 though December - Coat Drive experiencing something similar, or perhaps that person has a solution or some guidance or advice to help you through…and Nov 6 – Daylight Savings Time Bike Ride – Rockland Lake, even better…perhaps you have something that you can share 1:00 PM to help that person through their tough times. Most importantly, what this simple act of empathy does, is build Nov 17 – Brotherhood Board Meeting – All are welcome – community and strength in numbers. Location TBD
Yes, indeed…sometimes the light at the end of the tunnel is an Nov 19 – Comedy Night at Bananas in Hasbrouck Heights – oncoming train. Perhaps you are faced with the choice of either Dom irrera headlines – Dinner at 5:30, Show at 7:30. $75 getting clobbered by that train, or trying to find another exit. per person, advance paid reservations required – RSVP Nowadays, we cannot accomplish this on our own. Ask [email protected] by November 1st. yourself, “why am i a member of BHSS?” “what do i expect to gain from the community?” “what can i contribute to the Nov 27 – Brotherhood Raps – Post Thanksgiving version – community?” 9:00 AM at Panera Bread
Come to an event, a meeting, or just connect with someone in Dec 15 – Annual Brotherhood Holiday Party – 7:30 PM at the community and ask them to join you for a cup of coffee, waterwheel Café, Tallman, NY where you can ask each other “what bothers you?” and “what keeps you up at night?” and “how can i help you to help Dec 17 – Sisterhood/Brotherhood Hanukkah Cocktail Party yourself and others?”
20 From the Sifriyah
Stop, breathe, focus. Consider your desired outcome. This named and can be found on was the main message of Loren Gelberg-Goff, our speaker at page 234. Can you also our recent Book and a Bagel. it bears repeating over and over. imagine an entire book She is the author of several books and articles and walked us entitled The Brisket Book: A through 5 powerful strategies to go from Distressed to De- Love Story with Recipes Stressed. if you would like her booklet, please contact Lisa or (Stephanie Pierson.) iris in the office. There's My Former Best Friend’s ex-Mother-in-law’s Genealogy and Goodies, sponsored by the library, will be held brisket, Temple Emanu-El November 6 at 1 p.m. it is a very special event featuring our Brisket, The Amorous own Joel ives, architect by profession and genealogist by Brisket, and on and on. Perhaps you have a brisket recipe. if choice. For Joel, documenting his family history has been so, send it to us via Lisa or iris. And remember, reading while important, both for him and for future generations. His eating brisket is one of the most voluptuous things that you journey began in the 1970s before the popularity of the can do with your time. (Novelist Gary Shteyngart). Finally, a television mini-series Roots. it continued with the discovery third book caught our attention: Kosher by Design by Susie of distant relatives aboard the ill-fated ship, the Struma. Joel Fishbein. As you peruse this book, note holiday recipes, would love to share his story with all of us and explain how beautiful floral arrangements, wine lists, and exciting we also can find our family roots. He will present an entertaining ideas. incredibly informative program. Mark your calendars and come to learn, to be inspired, and to possibly explore. it’s not too early to begin reading Let There Be Water by Seth Naturally, the Library Ladies will provide delicious snacks. Siegel. This compelling book explores israel's Solution for a water-starved world. The book is the choice of One Book Do you have any idea how many good cookbooks are part of One Community which recognizes the impact water has on our library collection? Twenty, the last time we counted. all our lives. And they are not just cookbooks but social and historical archives. Take, we value your input. if you have comments or for example, Recipes Remembered: A would like to suggest a program, please contact Celebration of Survival by June us at [email protected]. we all look forward Hersh. in it are timeless recipes to hearing from you. garnered from Holocaust survivors and other family members. You may what could be a more know Dr. Ruth westheimer as “Dr. Jewish way to start the Ruth,” a prominent author, Jewish New Year than therapist, and media personality. with a great book But did you know she survived a (Jewish Books Executive traumatic childhood and fought ln Director)? This says it the israeli Hagganah? Her all! Celebration Cake is appropriately
21 November Yahrzeits
Samuel Aarons Bessie Hieger Herman Orth Dorothy Adlman Sadie Hyman William Resnik Manuel Ansin Norma Jaffe Al Rosenblatt Michelle Appelbaum Norman Kaplan Beth Rottell Corinne Baum Anna Kasper Samuel Schechter Samuel Berger Leonard Katz Paul Sherman Sandy Bernstein Michael Klaskow Harvey Shill Benjamin Blumenfeld Sally Kobrin Howard Shmaruk Yury Boroda Henry Kolb Norman Silver Beatrice Burghardt Israel Samuel Kriegel Eric Steinman Jennie Cohen Irving Kursman Emma Stern Bernard Frishberg Rose Lefkowitz Janice Sternlieb Debra Frishberg Isidore Levine Edward Tocci Alberta Greenberg Dina Lozinsky Erna Tuteur Sylvia Greene Rena Lulov Max Vogel Benjamin Gross Viga Manzon Steven Wein Bernice Shirley Gruber Sale Meerovici Sybil Wolfe David Haberman Norman Novak Sarah Yerushalmi Sylvia Haberman Sadie Novock Sara Zinn Esther Oppenheim
Caring Committee
The Caring Committee has been quite busy making phone calls and visiting synagogue members who are ill and are in Caring Committee members also attend shiva services. It is hospitals or rehabilitation centers. We have several very rewarding to see the comfort on the face of the volunteers who prepare meals that are delivered as needed, mourner when a temple member walks in the door to and this committee thanks each contributor for his/her support the family at their difficult time. We encourage all to kindness and generosity. participate in this mitzvah.
Along with our Brotherhood volunteers, we have been If you have any availability and are willing to provide a providing rides to doctors and Friday night services to service, please contact: members who are not able to drive. We are, however, in need of more driving volunteers so we don’t have to turn Candy Kassover at [email protected] or laura anyone down when a request is made. If the Caring miller at [email protected]. Committee has helped you in the past, and you are a ble, please try to “pay it forward” to provide help to fellow members.
22 December Yahrzeits
Howard Ballen Allan Heffler Sally Rabinovich Alfred Baum Mae Heilbraun Carl Richardson Marvin Bendalin Herman Hershman Faye Richardson Lillian Berman Clifford Kelman Mary Rudnick Elaine Cramer Bernstein Carolee Kirshman Seymour Saiff Howard Bettman Ann Kirshner Martha Scheinin Donna Blumenthal Elsie Klein Moritz Schott Ernest Bolson Milton Klein Samuel Schuman Bella Cohen Betty Kursman Blanche Schwartz Ed Cohn Jerome Kursman Judith Shacknai Marvin Comisky Alice Levy Rabbi Shai Shacknai Joe Coyne Herbert Levy Nathan Singer Sonia Demsky Hyman Lieberman Saul Stedman Donald Fields Alejandro Llibre Shepard Stern Abraham Finkelstein Richard Lulov Florence Turner Alan Flon Sheldon Lulov Annette Gordon Waldbaum Milton Flon Jodi Lyons Reba Weber Burton Freeman Oscar Maier Sol Weber Marilyn Friedman Murray Marks Howard Weinberg Emanuel Garbus Nathan Mayers Jerome Weinberg Sheldon Goldstein Nathan Mellin Eleanor Weiner Morris Goodman Paul Mohnblatt Milton Weiner Florence Gordon Claire Novak Rose Weinstein Harry Gordon John Parks Stanley Weinstein Eugene Greenblatt Sanford Parks Robert Weiss Isidore Gross Vi Pearlman Sarah Zall Elaine Hall Aaron Premselaar Mollie Zukof
Mah Jongg is BACK!
To everyone interested in playing or learning mah Jongg:
mah Jongg will be held on the following dates: December 4 and 11 at 1 pm All are welcome. Please let marilyn Taylor know if you are coming, and if you can bring a set. [email protected]. Thank you.
23 Membership Committee
Sukkot is my favorite holiday. it wasn’t always that way. Like what i love most about Sukkot is the welcoming of guests most Jewish children, Chanukah was my favorite for many into our home. ian and entertain a decent amount, but there years. it’s hard not to like a holiday in which you get a gift is something special about “Ushpizin”, the tradition of every night, and candles are pretty, and latkes (and pretty inviting people into your sukkah and breaking bread with much anything fried in oil) are delicious. As a teen, Passover them. The best part is no one is ever “uninvited”. Once was the favorite holiday. My mother hosted epic seders, you’ve come once, you remain on the guest list forever (which overflowing with family and friends, in which laughter was is why the guest list gets bigger every year). the overarching theme of the evening. My mom’s matzah ball soup was certainly a factor as well (i’m beginning to see a This is what membership could and should be. it is our job as pattern here.) i even went through a phase when Yom Kippur a Jewish community not to wait for people to decide to attend was my favorite; there was (and still is) something beautiful an event. it is our job to invite them in. And it is our hope about the serenity of the day, and i feel deeply connected to that once invited, those people will want to remain on the God and my fellow Jews when the day is coming to a close. guest list year after year. with that in mind, the Membership But Sukkot has been the top dog for me for almost twenty Committee would like to extend an invitation to all new years now, which coincides with when we built our first members of BHSS to dinner after services on Friday, sukkah. December 2. Family Services will be at 6 p.m. and dinner will follow at 7 p.m. we will also reach out to you to invite you As active members of a classical Reform synagogue, my family personally, but we wanted you to mark your calendars now, and i helped build and decorate the large sukkah at the so you can be sure to join us. we want you to be our guests synagogue every year, and i have wonderful memories of so we can make you feel welcome and get to know you better. enjoying the oneg in the sukkah on Erev Sukkot. But no one Sukkot may be over, but that doesn’t mean we can’t continue i knew actually had a sukkah at their home, and i never even the tradition of inviting people into our homes and into our saw a personal sukkah until ian and i moved to Suffern after lives. i look forward to meeting as many new members as Josh was born. One year at the synagogue, there was possible in the coming months and to seeing all of you on information about purchasing a sukkah kit, and we decided to December 2. give it a go. we invited people over to help us decorate, bought an etrog and lulav, and an annual tradition was born. B’Shalom, Each year the guest list gets a little longer, and last month we Stacey Coyne, Membership Committee held our 20th annual sukkah decorating party.
24 Beth Haverim Shir Shalom Temple Topics Sustaining Members Donations
B’racha
A special thanks to those families Sydelle & David Aarons Simcha who continue to support Beth Sarah & David Adelson Laurie & Marc Daniel Haverim Shir Shalom by Elyse Victor Berman & Carole & Barry Green participating in one of the Joseph Berman Sheila & Larry Groskin following levels of sustaining Shelley & Gary Bettman Sue Ellen & Ron Johnson Marilyn israel Arlene & Richard Mandel membership: Candy & Michael Kassover Gwen & Eric Ravett Claire & Paul Lipson Fran & Jeff Rowbottom B'racha is a blessing Lisa & Jack Schulman Robby & Eddie Saiff Simcha is a joy Barbara Lacher & Shari Slavin & Andrew Schechter Tzedek means righteousness Antoslav Vlahovic Ruth & Stu Turner Gail & Ranan wichler Anonymous (2)
Tzedek Sandra & Bill Arlington Alison & Norman Axelrod Monica & Stephen Levy Carlene & Michael Messinger Barbara & Phil Moss Laurin & Adam Steiger Marci & Harvey weinberg Julie & Doug wright Beverly & Harlan York
25 Good &Welfar e from & for the congregation
Condolences R’fuah Sh’leimah to Larry Groskin on the death of his mother, Sylvia Barish Groskin (For a Full and Speedy Recovery) to Marcelle Shacknai on the death of her husband, Gideon Shacknai to Andrew Moskowitz on the death of his mother, Barbara Moskowitz Mark Moskowitz to Ellen Fasanaro on the death of her mother, Lois Fasanaro Terri Coffel to Richard Berens on the death of his mother, Gloria Berens Beth Wiesner Phyllis Okon
Mazal Tov to Beth Wiesner on receiving the Medal of independence Award at the Helen Hayes Hospital Honors Assembly to Terry Sitomer on the birth of her grandson, Gavin Jack to Deborah and Jeff Klein , on being honored by the Center for Food Action for your many years of dedicated service on the installation of Stacey Coyne, Samantha Lamster, Sarah Miller and Lorraine Orlick to the BHSS Board of Trustees
Special Thanks to Robin Cassell, Stacey Coyne, Ellen Fasanaro, Jackie Lowenfels, and Jaimie Ratowsky for their time on the BHSS Board of Trustees
Welcome New Members! Carrie & Marc Panoff and family , Suffern, NY Phoebe & Allan Peister , Suffern, NY Sanda & Alan Kessler , Upper Saddle River, NJ Robyn & Marc Garbar and family , Upper Saddle River, NJ Penny & Jonathan Schwartz and family , Montebello, NJ Jennifer & Eric Shrier and family , Upper Saddle River, NJ Jackie & Scott Bugni and family , woodcliff Lake, NJ Alexia & Elliott Feldman and family , Mahwah, NJ Elissa & Neil Schnelwar and family , Mahwah, NJ Marcy & Andrew Moskowitz and family , Mahwah, NJ Leslie & David Weintraub and family , Mahwah, NJ Elizabeth & Jeffrey Levin and family , Montebello, NY Amanda Hudes & George Botsakos and family , Allendale, NJ
26 Contribution Opportunities at Beth Haverim Shir Shalom
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27 Eternal Lights Toastin Dinner g 18 Years
Eternal Lights is our synagogue’s only Of fundraising event where the money goes Eterna directly into our general fund. it sustains l Lights programming, helps maintain the growth P of our Jewish community and benefits all lease join our congregants. it is a casual evening of us for an lau evening of laughter and fun, old friends meeting ghter and f new friends, with the sole purpose of as we riendsh celebrate o ip supporting our synagogue. we have ur Jewish c raised over $350,000 to date and of ommunity course we thank all of you who have Novem attended in the past and hope to see ber 17, 2016 you again this year. 7:00 pm Cocktails if you cannot attend you can still 8:00 pm Dinner support Eternal Lights in your own The Riv way, whatever you are comfortable er Pal M m Terrace with. These donations, no matter ahwah, N what the amount, are greatly ew Jersey appreciated. Everyone can be a Please h friend of Eternal Lights as elp us ensu Eternal Lights benefits all. our syn re the g agogue and rowth of sustain our Thank you for your support. to ben program e t all our c ming ongregants Event Ch airpersons Deborah & Jeff Klein
Thank you for you generous donation which goes directly to the vital services necessary for building a strong Jewish community
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All proceeds go to the michelle mitzvah The michelle mitzvah Group is Scholarship Fund a part of the Social Action program of Beth Haverim Shir Contact Jane Simon Shalom with a hands-on [email protected] approach to its programs. (201) 327-9128 oR Temple office Fundraiser to go to Make checks out to: scholarships. Drawing on November 6. Michelle Mitzvah Group Winner will be contacted.
Brotherhood/Sisterhood Join us for Chanukah Shabbat Chanukah Friday, December 30 at 7:30 p.m. Cocktail Party with choirs Bring Your Chanukiyah (Chanukah menorah) and let's celebrate the Festival of Light
Then enjoy a delicious special Oneg December 17, 2016 featuring jelly doughnuts! at the home of Sheryl Thailer look for more details as the event gets closer! Please bring a bottle of cooking oil for the CFA
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GIFT CARDS meeting friends at Panera? Sipping Starbucks? Do you shop at ShopRite, Stop & Shop, Acme or Fairway? Support BHSS with this easy, ongoing fundraiser by buying gift cards to use at these and dozens of other stores and restaurants! Beth Haverim offers a wonderful gift card program. It’s easy and simple if you wish to utilize this program.
There is no additional cost to you, and the temple makes money. As an example, if you purchased a $25 gift card to Panera, the temple earns $2.25 on that card. If you purchased a $25 ShopRite card, the temple would earn $1. Just think, for every $100 of Shoprite cards purchased, the temple earns $4. If every family participated in this fantastic program, the temple has the potential to earn over $20,000 a year. All we would need is for each family to purchase $100 in Shop Rite cards or something else that you prefer. everyone needs food in their house. Please consider participating in this wonderful program. There is a full list of vendors on the website. most of the time, I can order gift cards and have Center for Food Action them to you within one week. As we have in the is looking for the following types past, we still have in-stock Amazon, Barnes & of donations during the year: Noble, Bed Bath & Beyond, CVS, Dunkin Donuts, iTunes, Panera, Starbucks, ShopRite, Stop & Shop November - Boxed Potatoes, Rice & Stuffing and Target. December - Canned Vegetables & Fruits January - Pasta and mac & Cheese Check out the BHSS website (top of the front February - Soup page) to view a list of cards available. march - Peanut Butter & Jelly April - Cereal & Pancake mix They also make wonderful gifts for teachers, may - Canned meat/Fish coaches, birthdays, anniversaries and the holidays! Items can be brought to the synagogue Please contact lisa lamster at and placed in the baskets in the front ([email protected]) or 201-760-1935 with lobby or inside the school entrance. any questions or to order your cards today! BHSS Chanukah D.A.R.E. Toy Drive
The michelle mitzvah Group provides BHSS members Please stop by the temple’s bulletin board by the many ways to help heal the world. one of these ways is entrance to the religious school. You will find information that BHSS provides assistance to the Suffern Police identifying a child of a family in need of help. Please Department’s D.A.R.e. Program with its annual toy drive. understand and respect that the identity of the needy our participation over the years has allowed Suffern family is very confidential and can not be provided to you. D.A.R.e to offer aid to families in orange County, New The child will be labeled by family number, gender and York, Newark, New Jersey and New York City in addition age. Please take a label and attach it to an unwrapped gift to its primary mission of helping local families in Rockland and drop it off at the temple during November and County, New York and Bergen County. New Jersey. December. There will be bins to put the gifts in by Suffern D.A.R.e, along with local social workers, religious school entrance. We want to help you to help municipalities and organizations identify local families in repair the world. If you don’t want to pick a child but need or who are dealing with a tragic event. Suffern would like to donate, please do so and just drop off an D.A.R.e provides these families with the ability to have unwrapped gift. If you can’t get the gift to the Temple, no gifts for their children during these difficult times in their problem, email us and we will be glad to pick it up from lives. Yes, these families are our neighbors and we, as a you. Please note that the last drop-off date at the temple community, are obligated to help them. With the High will be monday, December 12, 2016. Holidays fresh in our minds, please use this worthy cause to help people in need and teach our own children the Finally, the michelle mitzvah Group, as well as Suffern meaning of tzedakah. D.A.R.e, can also use help. If you wish to provide assistance or have any questions, please feel free to email The BHSS Chanukah D.A.R.e. Toy Drive has been very Barry Romoff at [email protected]. Thank you. successful over the years with our congregation donating around 400 gifts for families in need each year. However, as successful as we are, we do not get 100% participation from all of our congregational families. I would love for that to change this year. I am requesting that you all Mitzvah Day pledge to participate in the BHSS Chanukah D.A.R.e. Toy Sunday, November 6, 2016 Drive this year. All you need to do is do is as a family donate one unwrapped gift to a child in need. We have over 400 member families and if each family donates we make a Difference - It's easy! will not only reach our annual number of 400 gifts, but we will exceed that number greatly. If every family donates, BHSS will be a collection site so please we can help over 100 families in our neighborhoods and donate new or gently used clothing for continue to provide Suffern D.A.R.e. with the ability to children - infants through size 8 expand its reach to our surrounding communities and help heal the world. We are requesting that you and your Help us sort clothes on family embrace the obligation to provide at least one gift November 6 from 1 to 3 p.m. and in doing so, each of us will continue to teach the meaning of tzedakah to the next generation. Remember, even if you can't be there, you can still donate clothes! Our beautiful new space, The Ulam , is available for your next event!!
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Sessions of School: Office Closed : Sundays: Nov 6, 20 & Dec 4, 11, 18 Thursday, Nov 24 Mondays: Nov 7, 14, 21, 28 & Dec 5, 12, 19 Friday, Nov 25 Tuesdays: Nov 1, 15, 29 & Dec 6, 13, 20 Monday, Dec 26
To do in November and December: • Donate your gently used coats ~ Annual Brotherhood 2.0 Coat Drive begins Nov 1, box at school? entrance • Still a few weeks to lend a hand in our Community Garden ~ 9 am Sun thru mid-Nov • Share Shabbat with BHSS friends at the Congregational Dinner Fri, Nov 4 following the 6 pm family service, by RSVP to temple office by 10/31. • Torah Study ~ Saturdays, beginning at 8:15 am: Nov 5, 12, 19, 26 & Dec 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 • Participate in Mitzvah Day at BHSS, Sun, Nov 6 • The Library Committee welcomes congregant Joel Ives to speak on the subject of Genealogy ~ Nov 6 at 1:00 pm • Attend the Sisterhood Painting with Partners event ~ Sun Nov 20 at 1:00 pm • Support michelle mitzvah Group ~ Chanukah Candles on sale! Contact lisa lamster • Help support oasis at the Youth Group Spaghetti Dinner Friday, Nov 18 at 6:30 pm, $5 pp suggested donation • Join Brotherhood 2.0 at the Bananas Comedy Club Saturday, Nov 19 ~ advance ticket purchase by 11/1 • Mah jongg is back at BHSS! Sun Dec 4 & 11 ~ 1:00 pm in the Social Hall • Attend the BHSS Sisterhood Goods & Service Auction ~ Sat Dec 10 doors open at 7:00 pm • Adopt a child (or family!) for D.A.R.E. Toy Drive - Beginning in Nov ~ Drop-off at BHSS by December 12 • enjoy the Sisterhood & Brotherhood Chanukah Cocktail Celebration ~ Sat, Dec 17 • Bring the family to the BHSS Community Menorah Lighting ~ Tues, Dec 20 at 6 pm ~ hot chocolate ~ jelly donuts! • Join the michelle mitzvah Group, Cantor Perper, choir members to brighten the day for the Wanaque Children’s Hospital Center on Sun Dec 25 ~ meet in the BHSS parking lot • Shabbat Chanukah Fri, Dec 30 ~ 7:30 pm ~ light your family's Chanukah menorah! Support the CFA by donating to the BHSS Chanukah “oIl” drive!