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Temple Rodef Shalom Connection October 2020/ – 5781

Food4Thought: Today’s Immigrants – Not Like My Grandparents Tuesday, October 13, 10:00 – 11:30 AM & Simchat Torah7&8

10 All Right Already, 12 I’ll be Grateful: Developing a Gratitude Attitude Women in Inside: Sweets of the Month, Saturday, October 17, Sun, Sept 13, 11:00 – MoTRS Welcome Back, Ohel 12:30 PM EST Yaacov Community Housing 4:00 – 6:00 PM Fund, Dining in Together, Introduction to Prayerbook WoTRS Fall Hebrew, Normalization, Membership Event Annexation, and Elections: with Jean Chatzky Israel on a Crossroad, , Wick and a Flick, Sunday, October 25, Mussar 1 10 11:30 AM – 1:00 PM Clergy Message In this issue 2 Shabbatot A New Lens on Sukkot 4 Announcements 5 MoTRS When my children were very young, their eyes would Welcome Back widen and their mouths would drop at the site of houses aglow with Christmas decorations and trees heavy with 6 Ohel Yaacov colorful ornaments. They knew that Christmas was not “our holiday” but, like most Jewish kids, they were 9 Events captivated by the elaborate adornments of our neighbors. 13 Looking Ahead Luckily, gives us a response when our kids ask for ‘just lights’ or a ‘bit of tinsel to hang on the 15 Traditions refrigerator.’ We have Sukkot – our fall holiday that bequeaths us a structure to decorate and, even better, a week of outdoor 16 Community rejoicing imbued with many layers of meaning. And, if ever there were a 17 time when we all would benefit from a different view, a new place to eat B’Nai dinner, a redux of that which we call home – it is now! Our COVID reality 20 Donations has kept us cooped up at the same kitchen table and on the same couch. Let’s embrace the weeklong change that Sukkot offers. 23 Local Guide Many of our holidays connect the dots for us between historic events, 24 Calendar agricultural seasons, and contemporary issues in need of our attention. The sukkot or huts in which we dwell remind us of the time when our ancestors wandered in the desert on their way to the . Later, once our people were settled, the sukkot were the huts where our ancestors lived while they harvested their autumn crops. Today, our sukkot also compel us to acknowledge the great need for affordable and stable housing for a huge percentage of our population. For one week, we live as many do – in rickety, insecure structures – which heighten our sensitivity and deepen our response to the housing crisis in our midst. This year, like our ancestors, I feel we are very much in the wilderness, wandering, trying to make our way to a better and safer land. This year, like our ancestors and those who work the land at this time of year, I want to celebrate the gifts and the food security I do have. How lucky I am to have enough apples to hang them from the roof of my . This year, I must spend more time reflecting on and responding to the plague of homelessness and how those without shelter have suffered profoundly during our pandemic. Beginning October 2, let us step out of our solid, secure homes into the flimsy huts of Sukkot – decorated with fruits of the harvest, New Year’s cards, family pictures, and, yes, even fairy lights! Let us celebrate, eat and drink, play games, engage in deep conversations, reflect on our blessings and, in this year of great uncertainty and need, imagine how to bestow those blessings on others.

Camp leadership had so much fun Chag Sukkot Samayach, filming their daily videos over the Amy Schwartzman summer!

Courtesy of Emma Davidson President’s Message

Sukkot is upon us, a time I associate with building and decorating a sukkah, gathering for outdoor meals, the and . Coincidentally and excitedly, this year Succoth lines up with final touches on our temple’s construction project. Although we may have to delay a large-scale formal ribbon cutting ceremony, we will not delay in sending out an enthusiastic and heartfelt message of gratitude to all of our volunteers, staff and clergy who have been so closely involved in this entire enterprise. So many people have contributed their time, expertise and passion to this project, far too many for me to mention everyone by name. But, please know every small and large contribution is valued and appreciated. Today we can see our gorgeous renovation, beautiful new landscaping, enlarged parking areas, four new playgrounds, a clergy suite and a stunning small chapel! A truly fabulous outcome and culmination to an endeavor that began six years ago. Allow me to share a brief history while acknowledging some key players for a special TODAH RABAH along the way. It all began with a few visionaries keeping an eye on the land next to our temple. With thoughtful negotiations led by Paul and Susan Abramson, and forward thinkers and Past Presidents Barry Holt and Andy Joskow, we were able to purchase that land in mid-2014. A Visioning Task Force was formed and led by our dedicated Past President Bob Schlossberg and lay leader extraordinaire Reyna Pratt. That group eventually evolved into the Building Task Force, with the addition of Barry, Beth Silver, and a host of committee members. Through the visioning process the committee met for pizza dinners and brainstorming sessions. Bob remembers an exciting evening when the idea of building a basketball court came up! Maybe next time?! In the meantime, we hired Hannah Moore as TRS Development Director. She swiftly assembled a team of professionals and volunteers who embarked on our hugely successful Capital Campaign. The Campaign Steering committee was established under the expert guidance of co-chairs Matt Korn and Marla Schnall, with support from new recruits to the project. Meanwhile during 2015, the Building Task Force vetted and hired our architecture firm, Brawer and Hauptman. They hosted a charette and attended our December Congregational meeting to present a master plan. No one involved rested on their laurels, and by April 2016 the Building Task Force recommended hiring our civil engineers, landscape architects and a general contractor. Permits and other details were addressed throughout 2017. Since the public launch of a “shovels in the ground” ceremony in the fall of 2018, with clergy and our Past President Susan Weinstock, it has been “all systems go!” The Capital Campaign was launched and dozens of meetings with generous Temple members continued until the last of the $16 million goal was raised. Matt, Marla, Hannah, Beth, and Rabbi Schwartzman really enjoyed meeting and talking with temple members about the bright future of our congregation, and working with the dozens of campaign volunteers who helped to organize and run the events. In the midst of these activities, astute members of our congregation created the Renewable Energy Task Force to make sure solar power was part of our construction project. Co-chairs Hindin and Lawrence MacDonald brought together a strong group, and Ken Schwartz lent his support and legal expertise to this and other contracts the Temple entered throughout this project. In early 2018 site preparations began in earnest and as we all have witnessed, it has been non-stop since then. Thanks to Reyna’s excellent weekly updates and our own drive-by viewing, we have enjoyed seeing the steady progress. Reyna, our project’s north star, is excited to see the children, or perhaps join the children, as they slide down the new slides or play the giant xylophone. I especially enjoyed my family’s behind the scenes tour with our tireless Executive Director, Beth Silver this past spring, and delighted in seeing the installation of the stone facade. Patty Freeman and Barbara Moss have lent their expertise in all things design, artistic and aesthetic. We will view the results of their many volunteer hours, and that of the Donor Recognition Committee, while admiring our new Donor Wall sculpture, Chapel Ark, and the much anticipated coffee bar. In Barbara and Patty’s words, they “derived great satisfaction knowing that they added value to the process of bringing the congregation’s vision to fruition.” For that and more I know that our entire congregational community is extremely grateful to all of our volunteers for the immeasurable value they brought to this project. I am eager for the day when we can once again return to our beautiful and sacred space. Until then, chag sameach, and thanks again to everyone for their gifts of support and love for our temple.

Amy Beckman October Connection 2020 1 October Shabbatot and Holidays Membership All times below are when each service will be airing on our Temple Rodef Shalom streaming site, Apple TV, Roku, Facebook Live, and YouTube Live sites. Magic 8-Ball Sukkot Oct 2 & 3 Leviticus 22: 26 – 23: 44 Ok, I know I’m really giving away Erev Sukkot Family Evening Service my age here. Some of you are asking With Consecration Fri 5:30 PM yourselves, “What the heck is a Shabbat Evening Service Fri 6:30 PM Magic 8-Ball?” Bat Mitzvah of Morgan Lips Fri 8:00 PM I played with them as a kid...and Study Sat 9:00 AM Shabbat Morning Services I loved them. You could ask any Bat Mitzvah of Maya Eisenberg Sat 10:15 AM yes/no question, shake the ball, Bar Mitzvah of Ethan Gelman Sat 11:45 AM turn it over, and get instantaneous Shabbat Afternoon Services guidance. Should I do my homework Bar Mitzvah of Elias Cohen Sat 4:00 PM Bat Mitzvah of Naomi Rosen Sat 5:30 PM now? Will I marry a man named Paul? Will I get that bike – the deep purple one with the banana seat I saw in the Sears catalog – for my birthday? Shabbat Oct 9 & 10 Deuteronomy 4: 22 – 16: 17 Since the pandemic hit, I’ve been thinking a lot about Interactive Zoom Healing Service Fri 5:00 PM my old Magic 8-Ball – about crystal balls in general. I Erev Simchat Torah Fri 6:30 PM have a vision of crystal balls around the world hurling Shabbat Evening Service themselves from shelves and tables, shattering into Torah Study Sat 9:00 AM a million pieces, and releasing noxious chartreuse- followed by Informal Worship colored gases into the air. Shabbat Afternoon Services Bar Mitzvah of Levi Himmel Sat 4:00 PM 2020 has upended everything. Bar Mitzvah of Samuel Jaeckel Sat 5:30 PM I’ve lost count of the number of articles I’ve read Shabbat Bereshit Oct 16 & 17 predicting the epic diminishment of American Jewry... Genesis 1: 1 – 6: 8 the demise of the ...the rise of the “vending Shabbat Evening Service Fri 6:30 PM machine” model of Jewish community...all hastened Torah Study Sat 9:00 AM by our inability to gather in person. Parallel Shabbat Morning Service Sat 10:30 AM Shabbat Morning Services So, I’m writing to you now to ask if you would be Bar Mitzvah of Benson Kluger Sat 10:15 AM willing to share your thoughts on the “now” and the Bar Mitzvah of Jake Miller Sat 11:45 AM future of Jewish community with me. Why are you Shabbat Afternoon Service Sat 5:00 PM a member of Temple Rodef Shalom? Why have you Bar Mitzvah of Max Weinstein chosen Judaism in 2020? Why is it important for Shabbat Noach Oct 23 & 24 your children to have a Jewish identity? What are we Genesis 6: 9 – 11: 32 getting right...and getting wrong...in this moment? Shabbat Evening Service Fri 6:30 PM I’d love to hear from you (or your teenager or young Tot Shabbat Service Sat 9:00 AM Torah Study Sat 9:00 AM adult) – especially if you aren’t so involved. Shabbat Morning Services Who knows? Maybe, by the time this column is in your Bar Mitzvah of Simon Groves Sat 10:15 AM hands, I can treat you to a cup of coffee...outside on a Bar Mitzvah of Sebastian Malawer Sat 11:45 AM Shabbat Afternoon Service Sat 5:00 PM glorious fall day, socially distanced, of course. B’nai Mitzvah of Harold Sleighter and William Sleighter L’Shalom, Shabbat Lech Lecha Oct 30 & 31 Cookie Mandell Genesis 12: 1 – 17: 27 Director of Membership Engagement Shabbat Evening Service Fri 6:30 PM Torah Study Sat 9:00 AM Shabbat Morning Services Bat Mitzvah of Juliana Halpern Sat 10:30 AM Shabbat Afternoon Service Bat Mitzvah of Julia Kruger Sat 5:00 PM Please email us at [email protected] if you need any special accommodations to participate in any of our services. 2 Temple Rodef Shalom Caring and Inclusion Philanthropy New Opportunities That Other Life

Our TRS Inclusion Committee In that other life, the one I wish we is working diligently to bring were all living, I am writing to you our community interesting and about the marvelous innovative opportunities and the congregation nailed to the programming that will enhance doorposts of our new spaces during the experiences of our members a grand celebration and ribbon- who are differently abled as well as cutting just prior to the High Holy those of you who are neurotypical, Days. Blessings of thanksgiving or currently not experiencing a from our and cantors disability. (By the way, all of us will be disabled at some accompanied the gentle hammering, with music, food time in our lives, whether it be due to a broken limb, and people spilling out from all sides. recovering from a difficult surgery, a disabling disease, Sigh. That’s not the life we are living. Entries written a mental illness, living well into our senior years, in my calendar six months ago have been overwritten or something else). with new ones that include a zillion Zoom links, and a We all have different abilities and different levels of total reimagining of the way we operate—not 50 feet ability, and as part of our efforts to make everyone of blue ribbon, giant scissors and hundreds of children feel truly welcomed and included in our community, joyfully pursuing a treasure hunt through the new we are hoping that you will consider a new volunteer rooms and hallways of TRS. opportunity that we are rolling out this month. It will happen. While it’s hard to imagine our re- A New Volunteer Opportunity emergence, just as it was hard six months ago to I’d like to call your attention to a new program conceive of how long and how hard this pandemic featured on page 14 of this issue. Our new Inclusion would persist, our beautiful building with its new small Friendship Program will partner young adult temple sanctuary, meeting rooms, offices and classrooms is members with disabilities (high school age through waiting for us. We may trickle back inside – science age 40, with volunteers without disabilities, who enjoy will dictate how and when – yet eventually we will the same types of activities. Friends can volunteer gather together to hang mezuzahs, cut ribbons, and together and partner with the same number of listen to uplifting songs and prayers. We will nosh members with disabilities, and plan group activities happily, schmooze with one another, and be glad in once the pandemic is over, but for now, everything one another’s presence. will be virtual. Please consider this wonderful and I, for one, can’t wait. important volunteer opportunity. Hannah Moore A Salute to our Vets with a Special Film Discussion Director of Philanthropy On Veteran’s Day, Wednesday, November 11 we will offer a discussion on the film American Veteran. We invite you to view the film at your leisure and then join us for a Zoom discussion led by our own TRS Inclusion Committee member Col. Andrea Wallen (retired). For more information on this program, please see page 12 of this issue. Enjoy the beautiful colors of Fall, and please stay safe and well. L’Shalom, Anita Thornton Director of Caring and Inclusion [email protected] Direct 703.676.3868

October Connection 2020 3 Announcements

Vote Safely, Vote Absentee, Vote Early This year’s elections address fundamental issues for the future of our democracy, both locally and nationally. But exercising our right and responsibility to vote is complicated by the COVID crisis and voters’ understandable desire to avoid crowds during the pandemic. There are three ways to vote in Virginia: • Absentee-by-mail voting in which an absentee ballot is requested, completed, and returned by noon on November 6. • Absentee in-person (or early) voting September 18 to October 31 at your local registrar’s office (check your city or county for voting hours). • In-person at your polling place on November 3, between 6am and 7pm. Because of the pandemic, absentee-by-mail voting is recommended. To avoid delays in mail delivery, we recommend returning your completed ballot as soon as possible or using a secure drop box at your local registrar’s office. Take the Pledge to Vote at the bottom of the TRS website homepage and help make TRS a 100% voting congregation! Then check your registration status and make your plan to vote by visiting your state’s election web site: Virginia: https://vote.elections.virginia.gov/voterinformation Maryland: https://voterservices.elections.maryland.gov Washington DC: https://www.dcboe.org/voters/ For more detailed information on the voting process in Virginia, check out our Election FAQ which you can find at the bottom of the TRS website homepage, under Temple Rodef Shalom Votes. If you have questions, please email [email protected].

Sunflower Bakery Sweets of the Month Temple Rodef Shalom is excited to partner this year in the Sunflower Bakery Sweets of the Month subscription program. Sunflower Bakery is a non-profit, pareve kosher bakery that provides employment training to young adults with learning differences. Participation is easy and benefits TRS (we’ll receive a percentage of total orders), Sunflower and you! You or your designated recipient will receive a monthly package of delicious Sunflower desserts and provide necessary on-the-job training for Sunflower Pastry Arts & Hospitality Employment Training students. Monthly orders will be delivered to TRS on pre-selected monthly dates. Please note Sunflower is looking for approximately 20 subscriptions for TRS to be able to participate. Visit https://www.sunflowerbakery.org/shop/sweets-of-the-month/ for more information or to subscribe.

Treasures Hosts Virtual Chanukah Bazaar Chanukah may not look the same for our family and friends this year so many of us are searching for creative ways to bring this year’s festivities into our homes. Treasures wants to help. We will be creating a virtual Chanukah Bazaar with curbside pick-up that will go live in November. Stay tuned for further details. CONTACT: Shellie Abel, [email protected]

4 Temple Rodef Shalom President of MoTRS Welcome Back!

Welcome back to the school year (even if it is mostly virtual)! For those of you who have been long-time members of Temple Rodef Shalom, as well as those of you who have joined in recent months, we want you all to know that the Men of TRS (MOTRS) is planning a fun-filled year of activities and opportunities for men to get together and socialize. MOTRS is a volunteer organization promoting Jewish lives among Jewish men of all ages. Our Remember to join our goal is to gather the men of our congregation for group activities; social, [email protected], which spiritual, service, and educational. is our mailing list. All men Although COVID-19 has limited opportunities for in-person activities this at TRS are part of MOTRS year, we are continuing our popular MOTRS Happy Hour on Zoom every but to be notified of MOTRS other Wednesday from 7:00-8:00 PM. We are sponsoring virtual bridge news and upcoming card games and are looking into virtual poker. We are holding some get- events you must subscribe togethers outdoors, either at the temple or at another venue. The first was to the mailing list. If you on September 13 where we met at Wolf Trap for a bagel nosh. We hope to are a member and are get together in-person again soon. One of the big events for MOTRS is not receiving messages our annual “Raise the Sukkah” event at the TRS Central Park which we do please try to re-subscribe between Yum Kippur and Sukkot. We are also busy planning exciting and by sending a blank email informative Zoom lectures and discussion sessions. to TRSMEN+Subscribe@ MOTRS organizes and manages numerous TRS events, such as the groups.io. We will also Carnival and the building of the Sukkah. By the way, when you volunteer continue to post events on at any of our events, we will provide you with a one of a kind Men of TRS the MOTRS Facebook page t-shirt to wear proudly at MOTRS events. We also financially support TRS as well as on the Temple events throughout the year, such as the temple’s youth group activities. website, calendar, and in the Connection. We MOTRS has no dues. We rely solely on fundraising and contributions have recently set up a new throughout the year. If you would like to support our mission, please Men of TRS Chat Room consider donating via the TRS contribution page, at https://www. using Google Groups. We templerodefshalom.org/contribute. You will find MOTRS on the dropdown hope it to be a safe place menu under “A House of Gathering”. Thank you for the support! where you can discuss and We hope you will join us at one or more of our events this year. AND exchange ideas on a variety BRING A FRIEND! Know that even if you decide to attend at the last minute of subjects. To subscribe you are still welcome (we are men after all). We hope that you will find to the discussion group, something on our calendar that interests you. send an email to men-of- We also encourage anyone to propose and host a MOTRS activity. Just let trs-chat-room+subscribe@ a member of the Executive Board know of your interest. Simply send an googlegroups.com. email with a description of your event to [email protected]. A member of the Board will get back with you. On behalf of the entire MOTRS board, we are looking forward to a great year as we get through these crazy times. Joel Stillman President of MoTRS

October Connection 2020 5 Ohel Yaacov/Tent of Community Housing Fund

Sukkot 5781/October 2020 Dear Friends: We know we have so much to be grateful for in our sacred tent of gathering here at Temple Rodef Shalom. A new small sanctuary for worship is almost finished, and newly renovated and revitalized spaces will be available as soon as we can be back together in person. We have had amazing virtual services for the , and opportunities to re-examine our tradition and find new ways to observe and remember. We are indeed thankful. Yet as we move from our New Year celebrations, reflections and resolutions to our festival of temporary shelters and abundant harvest known as Sukkot, many around us have no tent, no roof over their head. The pandemic and the resulting economic downturn have not only exacerbated the shortage of affordable housing in our area; they resulted in over 4,000 evictions last summer across the Commonwealth. Tragically, non-profit advocates believe that about 50% of families unable to pay their rent flee their homes, some in fear, others in ignorance of their rights. Sukkot encourages us to think about the nature and importance of shelter. Please make a generous donation to our annual Ohel Yaacov/Tent of Jacob Community Housing Fund so we can make a difference during this economic crisis. Each and every year for over 29 years, you and fellow congregants have stepped up to the plate to support key organizations in Northern Virginia that provide: • Transitional and permanent housing for homeless families, such as Homestretch; • Homeless shelters, and safe shelters for abused women and their children, including Falls Church Homeless Shelter and Doorways for Women and Children in Arlington; • Independent living programs for the mentally and physically disabled, such as Jewish Foundation for Group Homes; • Assistance to affordable housing non-profits which aid low-income seniors and families such as Chesterbrook Residences, AHC Inc. in Arlington and Northern Virginia Family Services. Your compassion and generosity in 2019 allowed us to distribute a record $57,500 to 17 local housing non-profits that care for hundreds of families and individuals in our area. Thank you! Please make a gift to our Ohel Yaacov/Tent of Jacob Fund today. The Fund is a major way we demonstrate our commitment as a sacred community to those in the wider community who are in great need. You may use the donation envelope in this Connection to mail in your contribution, or donate online through our secure Donate button on our website. Thank you. Together we will make a difference in the world around us! Sincerely, Karen Hendrixson, Hillary Horn, Social Action Co-chairs, and Rabbi Jeffrey Saxe PS: Your gift today helps us repair the world one person and family at a time. The urgency has never been greater - please donate now.

6 Temple Rodef Shalom SukkotSukkot Fri,Family Oct 2, Sukkot 5:30 PM Experience Fri,Erev Oct Sukkot 2, 6:30 Service PM

One of our most joyful festivals, Sukkot, which means “booths” or “huts,” reminds us of the story of the Israelites’ wandering in the desert. It refers to the Jewish festival of giving thanks for the fall harvest. We are commanded to dwell in a sukkah; so, build your own this year! It’s a great way to reconnect with nature. You can enjoy your meals there – even sleep there! Sukkot is the only festival when we are commanded to rejoice. So, let’s get busy rejoicing! Here are some ideas to get in the Sukkot spirit!

Temple Sukkah Visits As you may know, the Men of TRS work hard every year putting up (and taking down) our community sukkah. Would you like to reserve some time for just you and your family to enjoy a meal there or just hang out? We are accepting reservations for Temple members and ECC families only. Look for an email from us soon with details to register.

DIY Sukkot Here are some online vendors where you can purchase sukkah “kits.” It’s easier than you think and such a wonderful way to create a little sacred space in your own backyard. https://www.sukkot.com/ https://www.siegersukkah.com/

If you are super handy, you can build a DIY sukkah from supplies from your local hardware or garden center. https://www.simplifiedbuilding.com/projects/how-to-build-your-own-diy-sukkah https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/how-to-build-a-sukkah/

Lulav and Etrog Having a lulav and etrog are essential if you’re planning to do the Sukkah Shake! Select from a number of vendors online. Here are the blessings you should recite and instructions for shakin’ it up – as well as the blessing for dwelling in the sukkah and the . https://reformjudaism.org/beliefs-practices/prayers-blessings/sukkot-blessings

Sukkah Decorations Fancy up your sukkah with garlands, fall flowers, gourds and pumpkins! Homemade decorations are fun to make. But, try to stick to earth-friendly and recycled supplies like these decorations from PJ Library: https://pjlibrary.org/beyond-books/pjblog/september-2017/7-no-waste-decorations-to-make-for-your- sukkah

October Connection 2020 7 SimchatSimchat TorahTorah Fri,Erev Oct Simchat 9, 6:30 PM Torah Service As soon as we bid l’hitrahot to Sukkot, we turn to Simchat Torah when we celebrate the annual reading of the Torah. Usually, we would kick off the evening with a yummy nosh and some fantastic cocktails from our resident mixologists. Then, we would head into the sanctuary for a whole lot of dancing with our Torah scrolls and a brief service where we would read the last of D’varim (Deuteronomy) and begin again with B’reishit (Genesis).

This year, we’ll bring the celebration to you! Here are just a few of our favorite cocktails from some of our mixologists:

Roll IntoLight (Ted Kavich, TRS Member) 3 oz. vodka 1 oz. fresh lime juice 1 oz. allspice dram 1 oz. apricot liqueur Add all ingredients to a cocktail shaker with plenty of ice. Shake well and strain into martini glasses. Serves 2.

Mom, Torah, and Apple Pie (David Rozsa, TRS Member) 4 parts rum (Kraken Black Spiced Rum) 4 parts apple schnapps (99 Apples) 3 parts butterscotch schnapps (DeKuyper) 2 parts cinnamon schnapps (Goldschlager) 2 parts honey liqueur (Barenjager) Combine all ingredients and chill well. Serve neat.

Land of Milk and Honey (Eric Powers, TRS Member) 4 oz. rye whiskey 1.5 oz. Amaro (recommend Ramazzotti or Averna) 1 oz. Luxardo maraschino liqueur 1 oz. honey syrup (recipe below) 1 dash orange bitters 1 dash chocolate bitters

Combine all ingredients and mix well. Stir with ice, strain, and serve neat. Garnish with an orange peel. Add more honey syrup to make a sweeter cocktail. Honey syrup recipe: Mix equal parts honey and water in a pot and bring to a boil. Let cool and refrigerate.

Fall Festival for 2 (Larry Weinstock, TRS Member) 1.5 oz Dark rum 1.5 oz Spiced rum 12 oz unfiltered apple cider ¼ tsp cinnamon ¼ tsp pumpkin pie spice

Mix together and pour in a glass over ice. If you have fresh nutmeg, grate a little over the drink; or add a pinch of pre-grated nutmeg. Do not stir after adding the nutmeg.

Zayde’s Liquor Cabinet (Michael Herman, TRS Member) 1.50 oz bourbon 0.75 oz dry sherry 0.75 oz Manischewitz syrup* 2-3 dashes Fee Brothers Black Walnut Bitters * Manischewitz syrup: 1 part Manischewitz 1 part white sugar A dash orange water

To make syrup, mix all three ingredients and simmer until reduced by about 25 percent. Combine ingredients for cocktail and serve neat with a dried orange slice.

8 Temple Rodef Shalom For a complete listing of events and recurring events, visit our online calendar at templerodefshalom.org. EveDining In Together – The Futuren of Jewishts Communities in Europe Mon, Oct 5, 7:30 – 9:00 PM For 177 years B’nai B’rith has been an effective organization for responding to the needs of around the world. It has promoted human rights, provided disaster relief, supported the Jewish State, provided senior citizen housing, influenced social legislation, advanced holocaust education, and maintained relations with the heads of governments in support of vulnerable Jewish communities. Participants will have a chance to ask Dan Mariaschin, CEO of B’nai B’rith International, about B’nai B’rith activities in addition to its work with European Jewry. In keeping with DIT tradition, families are encouraged to order in food from their favorite ethnic restaurants. CONTACT: Steve Gell, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJwvcOCorDsoGd0qzxArGqTyO69eVYFb-vj8

Introduction to Prayerbook Hebrew Wed, Oct 7, 7:30 – 9:00 PM This 10-session class covers an introduction to the Hebrew letters, vowels, and reading of basic blessings and prayers. An explanation of prayer meanings and structure will also be included. No previous knowledge in Hebrew is needed. This will be held virtually, but if, and when, we can gather in-person, we will plan accordingly. CONTACT: Na’ava Feder, [email protected] COST: $36 for Members, $54 for Non-Members REGISTRATION LINK: https://prayerbook-hebrew-1-fall20.eventbrite.com

Normalization, Annexation, and Elections: Israel on a Crossroad Thurs, Oct 8, 7:00 – 8:30 PM Learn about the latest developments and paths available to Israel and its place in the Middle East by none other than Dr. Natan Sachs. He is a Fellow and Director of the Center for Middle East Policy at the Brookings Institution. The Israel Committee sponsored Dr. Sachs in December of 2019 for a very well-received program. It is our pleasure to welcome him back. There will be ample opportunity for questions and discussion. CONTACT: Joann Berkson, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJIlce2orTkqEtTpO-8TltJ3Zh0zM1z-Hxrd

October Connection 2020 9 Events cont’d Food4Thought: Today’s Immigrants – Not Like My Grandparents? Tues, Oct 13, 10:00 – 11:30 AM How similar are the experiences of our immigrant parents or grandparents to those of current immigrants to the United States? Join us on Zoom when Tyler Anbinder, TRS member and emeritus professor of history at George Washington University, describes what life was like for immigrants to the United States 100+ years ago. Also, learn how their experiences compare to what recent immigrants encounter as they work to build new lives in the US. Prof. Anbinder is an expert on immigration and the author of Five Points: The Nineteenth-Century New York Neighborhood that Invented Tap Dance, Stole Elections, and Became the World’s Most Notorious Slum (2001), and City of Dreams: The 400-Year Epic History of Immigrant New York (2016). CONTACT: Carol Wolinsky, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJwsceyurzotGdRA1R6jKGPfTCO-bCT4ejNF

MoTRS Virtual Happy Hour Wednesdays, Oct 14 & 28, 7:00 – 8:00 PM All men of TRS are invited to join MoTRS for camaraderie and conversation. Open to those who are 21 and older! CONTACT: Joel Stillman, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJEqdumvpzgqGNce6WCBdt9S7CzpXBSpMea-

All Right Already, I’ll be Grateful: Developing a Gratitude Attitude Sponsored by the Adult Education Committee Sat, Oct 17, 4:00 – 6:00 PM This interactive program will explore the important role gratitude can play in helping us cope with these strange and challenging times. We will examine Jewish gratitude traditions along with scientific findings on gratitude’s powerful benefits. Using small group discussions, participant polls, postings on Zoom chat, and video presentations from our clergy we will explore the challenges associated with making gratitude a part of our daily lives and share potential solutions and ideas. CONTACT: Jane Guttman, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJIqcu6qpjgiHNyus4G2KNtsZZCWmAT0-mCC

10 Temple Rodef Shalom Events cont’d Rosh Chodesh Women’s Circle Sponsored by the Women of TRS Sun, Oct 18, 8:00 – 9:30 PM Let the spirit of the High Holidays linger by coming together virtually in our Rosh Chodesh Circle. Our monthly celebration of the new moon begins this year with “New Beginnings” as suggested by Simchat Torah, when we rejoice in concluding and beginning a new cycle of Torah readings. Beth Renne, B’nai Mitzvah tutor and meditation instructor, will lead us through readings, song, and meditation reflecting on this season of renewal. Women’s Circle/Chevral Ruchanlot Rosh Chodesh is open to all women of TRS and mothers of children in our ECC and new members are always welcome. Sessions this year will be held on or near each New Moon, which means meeting on different days of the week. To accommodate differing family schedules, we will meet later in the evening. CONTACT: Josie Hertz-Ackerman, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJArceqspjspH9Ce8YfJGv83bu1Swho_ckCJ

WoTRS Meet, Pray, Nosh Fri, Oct 23, 7:30 – 9:30 PM What is virtual “Meet, Pray, Nosh”? It is a women’s Friday Night Shabbat services get-together! The atmosphere is friendly, and the conversation is easy. That with the comfort of Shabbat services with our wonderful uplifting clergy makes for a good combination! This is how it happens: Meet: 7:30 - 8:00 PM Temple women gather virtually to introduce themselves and exchange Shabbat greetings. Pray: 8:00 - 9:00 PM All participate together in Shabbat Services through a shared streaming of the TRS Friday Night Shabbat Service Nosh: 9:00 - 9:30 PM: Reunite for the HaMotzi, noshing and schmoozing. CONTACT: Lisa Kazden, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIlde- trT4iEtSHAA0DNxG43bybyQIWeFrm (Please RSVP by Oct 23 at 7:00 PM)

Wick & a Flick – The Windermere Children Sat, Oct 24, 7:00 – 8:15 PM Watch “The Windermere Children” on your own (available on Amazon Prime, Google Play and YouTube); then attend the service with Cantor Allen Leider and join a group discussion about the film. The film is the true story of 300 orphaned Jewish refugees who survived concentration camps and were brought to the Lake District after the war for rehabilitation before receiving permanent homes in Britain. It recounts their difficulties and triumphs in adjusting to life after the grim realities of war. CONTACT: Carol Wolinsky, [email protected] COST: Platform may charge a rental fee for the movie; no fee for TRS discussion REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJArduiurTgiEtbHmmAakZ58sYhLpe8thGCn

October Connection 2020 11 Events cont’d Mussar 1 at TRS Sun, Oct 25, 11:30 AM – 1:00 PM Mussar is both a group study and personal practice. It is a thousand-year-old Jewish system for personal growth, with guidelines to help you live a more meaningful and ethical life. If you’ve ever wondered about how Jewish values can guide your daily life and inform your interactions with others, Mussar provides such a path for living. This program, created by The Mussar Institute is suitable for all adults and teens regardless of level of Jewish knowledge (including Hebrew). We will explore together what Jewish tradition has to teach us about traits such as humility, patience, trust and equanimity. We will practice improving these qualities in our own lives through text study, guided meditation, journaling and group discussion. Classes generally meet every other week, through May 2, 2021. Space is limited to 12 participants per course and there is an 8-participant minimum. This will be held virtually, but if, and when, we can gather in-person, we will plan accordingly. CONTACT: Gail Fisher, TRS Mussar Coordinator, [email protected] COST: $36 for 11 sessions. This does not include the book, Everyday Holiness by Alan Morinis, which can easily be purchased new or used from various online sources, including here: https://www.amazon.com/Everyday-Holiness-Jewish- Spiritual-Mussar/dp/1590306090 REGISTRATION LINK: https://mussar1-fall20.eventbrite.com

Fall Membership Event with HerMoney.com CEO Jean Chatzky Sponsored by the Women of TRS Sun, Oct 25, 11:30 AM – 1:00 PM Join us as WoTRS’ annual Fall Mimosa Brunch goes virtual this year. We proudly announce that our featured speaker will be HerMoney.com CEO, NBC Today Financial Editor, and best-selling author, Jean Chatzky! In this exclusive appearance for the TRS community, she will discuss “Women with Money: The Judgement-Free Guide to Creating the Joyful, Less-Stressed, Purposeful (and, Yes, Rich) Life You Deserve,” based on her latest book by the same name. She will also offer some concrete steps for financial resilience in the face of a pandemic. So, enjoy some precious “Me Time” as you listen to a powerful Jewish woman and a leader in her field speak on what promises to be an intriguing and timely topic. Feel free to sit down with your own mimosas and brunch for this Zoom journey, which will also offer a chance to greet old friends, get to know other TRS women, watch a year- in-review slideshow, hear updates about Women of Temple Rodef Shalom, and win some great door prizes as we kick off our exciting Membership Year. Can’t make it to the event or just feeling generous? Why not consider becoming a Patron or Benefactor of the Event to help WoTRS with its charitable giving mission? See the Eventbrite link below. The Zoom link will be included in the “Additional Information” section of the confirmation e-mail that you will receive from Eventbrite immediately after you register. You will also receive a reminder e-mail with the Zoom link shortly before the event. CONTACT: Deborah Droller, [email protected] COST: Free for WoTRS Members (2020-2021 Dues Paid*); $5 for Non-WoTRS Members *Not sure if you have paid your WoTRS dues for 2020-2021? Email Bernice Porrazzo at [email protected]. REGISTRATION LINK: https://wotrs-fallmembership-oct20.eventbrite.com (Please RSVP by Oct 23 at 12:00 PM)

12 Temple Rodef Shalom Looking Please email us at [email protected] if you need any special accommodations to participate in any of our programs. Visit our website to learn more about our efforts to ensure TRS is a community Ahead that is welcoming, inclusive and accessible to all. Dining in Together – Women’s Issues Around the World Mon, Nov 2, 7:30 – 9:00 PM Kimberly Weichel is a social entrepreneur, catalyst, and non-profit leader who has worked on the forefront of building bridges between cultures and peoples for over 25 years. She is a gender specialist who is a passionate advocate and champion for women’s advancement, empowerment, and leadership. As CEO of Peace x Peace, an international women’s peace building and leadership organization, she supported and mentored their global network of women peace builders in over a hundred countries. Kim has extensive global experience in Russia, South Africa, East Africa, Southeast Asia, United Arab Emirates, Germany, Canada, and Australia. She completed her BA and master’s degrees from the University of Cape Town, South Africa, and was awarded fellowships in Europe and Asia. CONTACT: Steve Gell, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJwvcOCorDsoGd0qzxArGqTyO69eVYFb-vj8

The Egyptian Revolution: An Eyewitness Account Sponsored by the Women of TRS Sun, Nov 8, 11:00 AM – 12:30 PM Please join the WoTRS as we virtually travel to the Middle East. On this tour we will learn about the Egyptian revolutions of 2011 and 2013 from Ashraf Masoud, who was an eyewitness to both revolutions. He will discuss the political climate leading to the revolutions, the actual events that occurred, and their aftermath. He will bring a flavor of the past and current political climates in Egypt. Ashraf Masoud, a self-employed travel director, has an extensive background in creating and managing travel experiences for groups and individuals visiting Egypt. He shares his personal experiences as a native of Egypt. In addition to Arabic, Ashraf is fluent in English and Spanish. CONTACT: Sue Pickens Owens, [email protected] COST: $5.00 REIGSTRATION LINK: https://the-egyptian-revolution-nov20.eventbrite.com (Please RSVP by Nov 5)

Food4Thought – The Dreyfus Affair Tues, Nov 10, 10:00 – 11:30 AM In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, French Jewish artillery captain Alfred Dreyfus was falsely accused and convicted of passing military secrets to the Germans. “L’Affaire Dreyfus” deeply divided France and exposed the anti-Semitism in both the military and society. Join us on Zoom as Brown University Professor Holly Case examines the impact of Dreyfus’s arrest and court martial and how “L’Affaire Dreyfus” affected politics, religion, and national identity in France and elsewhere. We will also explore whether the case has any relevance for today. There will be time for Q and A. CONTACT: Sally Horn, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJclcOiorDopH9HjkAOu-LiqXAQNeQR_leN1

October Connection 2020 13 Looking Ahead cont’d Veteran’s Day Film and Virtual Discussion Sponsored by the TRS Inclusion Committee גהנמ Wed, Nov 11, 12:30 – 1:30 PM To honor our veterans, everyone is invited to watch the filmAmerican Veteran at a convenient time in the coming months; we’ll then come together on November 11 for a Zoom discussion facilitated by TRS member Colonel Andrea Wallen (retired). She served in the U.S. Army Reserves Medical Corps as a Registered Nurse for 28 years, first as the Chief Nurse of the 309th Combat Support Hospital then Officer in Charge of training for the 804th Medical Brigade. Upon retirement Col. Wallen received the Legion of Merit award for exceptionally meritorious service. The film is available on Amazon and Tubi. CONTACT: Anita Thornton, [email protected], 703.532.2217 COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/j/99233508470?pwd=S1FuN 1ZSN1orOXBudWdVLy9KL1hidz09

Ladies Night Out/In with Guest Susan Abramson on Wellness Sponsored by the Women of TRS Wed, Nov 18, 8:00 – 9:30 PM Join us for a virtual WOTRS Ladies Night Out/In, to hear from special guest, Susan Abramson, Health and Nutritional Coach, to explore some wellness tips to thrive in time of pandemic. CONTACT: Julie Krachman, [email protected] COST: Free REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkd- GsrDsjHNbWA6KbmFSO9N532LEHEaYO (Please RSVP by Nov 16 at 12:00 PM)

Wick & a Flick – The Angel Sat, Nov 21, 7:00 – 8:15 PM This exciting spy thriller is based on the true story of Egyptian president Gamal Abdel Nasser’s son-in-law who later became the confidant of Anwar Sadat. He was either a spy for the Israeli Mossad or a double agent working for the Egyptians – the doubt remains. Watch it at your leisure on Netflix. Then join Wick & Flick to share a Havdalah service and group discussion about the movie. If renting the film presents any problem for you, please contact Karen Kaplan at [email protected] CONTACT: Karen Kaplan, [email protected] COST: Platform will charge a rental fee for the movie; no fee for TRS discussion REGISTRATION LINK: https://templerodefshalom.zoom.us/meeting/register/ tJIsduyppjwjEt3PmAH4sJ00d1BCAsNGtpfo

14 Temple Rodef Shalom Traditions by Vicki Nelson גהנמ Obligation to Vote

As Americans, we have the privilege of living in a country where we have the opportunity to vote.

So, on November 3, we get to exercise that privilege in the general election. As Jews, we have an obligation to make our voices heard. No matter which candidates you plan to vote for, it is the act of voting that is important. Rabbi Joseph Blair gave his reasoning why voting might be an obligation from a Reform perspective: …”the obligations that Jews have under the Halachic principle of Tikkun Olam (repairing the world), as it is widely understood. It would seem to me that we could legitimately argue that if we feel that things are not as good as they should/could be, and we may bring about changes that will improve the situation by voting, we would be obliged under this principle to act by casting our vote. Since things can ALWAYS be better, the obligation to vote would be perennial, arising in every election at every civic and governmental level. From an Orthodox response we get yet an additional reason from Rabbi Feinstein, Orthodox Jewry’s, a former legal authority: “On reaching the shores of the United States, Jews found a safe haven. The rights guaranteed by the United States Constitution and the Bill of Rights have allowed us the freedom to practice our religion without interference and to live in this republic in safety. A fundamental principle of Judaism is hakaras hatov— recognizing benefits afforded us and giving expression to our appreciation. Therefore, it is incumbent on each Jewish citizen to participate in the democratic system which guards the freedoms we enjoy. The most fundamental responsibility incumbent on each individual is to register and to vote. Therefore, I urge all members of the Jewish community to fulfill their obligations by registering as soon as possible, and by voting. By this, we can express our appreciation and contribute to the continued security of our community.” Our congregation has been very active in the get-out-the-vote campaign. We have tried to reach out to our members and provide any assistance they may need. The hope is that as Americans and as Jews we will take our privilege as well as our obligation to heart.

October Connection 2020 15 Jennie Berman Eng on winning Welcome New Community First Place in the 9th Annual Jewish Members Playwriting Contest for her play Joined late July - early August 2020 “A Moving Picture” Mazel Tov to Judi Hasson This includes news received by Condolences to McLean, VA 22101 August 24, 2020. This includes news received by Eric & Maggie Kuchner Dory & Max Tedford and Kathy August 24, 2020. Arlington, VA 22202-2413 Seidel on the birth of their daughter Armand Weiss on the death of his Henry Kuchner, 9 and granddaughter, Eileen Tedford sister, Carolyn Guertin Kaitlyn Kuchner, 5 Lynn-Revo Cohen and Gary Cohen Bill LeBeau on the death of his father, Michelle & Richard Wachtel on the birth of their grandson Remy Raymond LeBeau Vienna, VA 22180 James Cieutat Herschel Wachtel, 5 TRS mourns the death of our member, Madison Wachtel, 2 Adrian Wager-Zito and Michael Zito Barbara Goldlust on the birth of their granddaughter, Alex, Hannah, Nina and Jonathan Ava Jeanne Compton Zegler and Ella Berkowitz on the Ratner and Bill Wittig on death of their father and her business the birth of their daughter, Eliana partner, Thomas Zegler Ratner-Wittig Larry Riesenbach on the death of his th Jim and Robbie Kaplan on their 50 mother, Lorraine Riesenbach Wedding Anniversary Renee Andrews on the death of her stepbrother Ray Olsen

TRS’s New Friendship Program!

The TRS Inclusion Committee is establishing a Friendship Program. The goal is for differently- abled individuals to maintain a continued connection within the TRS community. The program will enlist volunteers, as mentors, to create one-to-one social interactions. Members of our community, who have disabilities, will be paired with individuals without disabilities. Ranging in age from high school through college and beyond, mentor and mentee pairings will be established, based on similar interests, such as videos, discussion, sports, music, movies, and games. Volunteers can select to work together as a team if they wish, and work with the same number of individuals with disabilities. At the current time, all interactions are virtual.

If you are interested in joining the Friendship Program, as a mentor or mentee, please email Randi Wallen at [email protected].

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10/2 Morgan Lips 10/3 Ethan Gelman 10/3 Naomi Rosen Morgan is a student at Gunston Middle The son of Jennifer and Dan Gelman, Naomi is the daughter of Mo and School in the Montessori program. Ethan is in the 8th grade at Longfellow Debbie. While a COVID-19 Bat Mitzvah When she is not on the field or the court, Middle School. He is on the Tuckahoe wasn’t what Naomi had envisioned, it Morgan can be found learning as much Swim Team during the summers and is an extraordinary time to share her as she can about the cast of Stranger practices Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. Ethan’s passionate views on equality in her Bat Things and cheering on the Cubbies! other hobbies include leaning/speaking Mitzvah speech. Centered on her strong- She has played in Arlington Little League Mandarin, learning how to code, held view that all individuals deserve for many years, most recently on the cooking, working out, making content, respect, equality and empathy, she will 50/70 Nationals team, and looks forward and editing videos. He volunteered at speak about the BLM movement and to continuing her baseball career. Always an animal shelter for his Mitzvah project her unique perspective as an Asian- a team player, her ability to rebound and has varied career aspirations: American. Naomi also expresses herself helped her long time basketball team, a lifeguard, Marine, and a restaurant through her passion for dance on her the Hungry Bears, bring home the 2020 owner. competitive dance team. She also loves Championship trophy. Morgan enjoys to play basketball, rock climb, paddle singing and recently graduated from 10/3 Elias Cohen board, and bake. Shir Harmony into Kol Machar and can’t Elias, son of Maria Castillo and Jeff wait to get back to singing at services. Cohen, is a 7th grader at Maret School 10/10 Levi Himmel She shares her family's passion for in Washington, DC. He has enjoyed Levi, an 8th grader at Thoreau Middle helping homeless dogs and has given playing classical and jazz piano since a School and son to Jennifer and Micah, many hours of time and love at adoption young child and accompanies the jazz is a history buff and curious tinkerer. events. band at school; he also plays the alto When he isn’t reading up on World War saxophone. Elias plays shortstop and I or making drinking cups or walking 10/3 Maya Eisenberg third base for the Stars travel baseball sticks from bamboo, you can find him The daughter of Eric and Carey, Maya program and also is a point guard for the practicing archery or climbing trees. is a 7th grader at The Field School. Maret middle school basketball team. He expresses his love for the outdoors She plays field hockey for Arlington Field For his mitzvah project, Elias collected through participation in the Boy Scouts, Hockey league & the Storm and lacrosse donated musical instruments for Hungry camping trips, and caring for the Accotink for the Arlington Lacrosse league. for Music, a non-profit organization that Creek near his home, which is his Mitzvah When not on the field, Maya loves repairs and delivers used instruments to Project. Given his interest in caring for the playing guitar. children in underserved communities. He environment, Levi aspires to be a national also organized a benefit concert to raise park ranger, though dentistry is also money for this cause. Elias hopes to appealing. share his love of music with others.

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10/10 Samuel Jaeckel 10/17 Jake Miller 10/24 Simon Groves Sam Jaeckel is the son of Jeff and Jake Miller is the son of Melissa and Simon Groves is the son of Peter and Meredith. He is a 7th grader at Dorothy Matt Miller. He is a 7th grade student at Monica Groves. He is a 7th grader at Hamm Middle School. Sam plays french Loudoun Country Day School. He enjoys Swanson Middle School. He plays for horn in the DHMS concert band and the outdoors, including competing on the Cadets Prime baseball team and enjoys playing soccer for the Arlington the lacrosse field, playing golf and the Arlington Admirals middle school Aces and spending time outdoors with basketball and exploring the trails on ice hockey team. Simon also plays family and friends. Sam participated his mountain bike. Spending time in basketball and golf. He enjoys building in a pilot program that paired his Colorado's Rocky Mountains at Camp with Legos and playing with his dog elementary school with the Arlington Cheley is the highlight of his summers. Max. His mitzvah project focused on Food Assistance Center. The program, Jake’s dedication to helping others and tree preservation by removing invasive Kidsgiving, hosted monthly projects to his strong interest in horseback riding species vines from trees. support AFAC. Through that experience, led him to the Sprout Therapeutic Riding Sam formed a relationship with AFAC and Education Center for his mitzvah 10/24 Sebastian Malawer and looks forward to leading his family project. Sebastian (Sebi) is a 7th grader at the and friends in packing meals for AFAC Potomac School in McLean, VA. He is an as his mitzvah project. 10/17 Max Weinstein avid baseball player who loves pitching. Max Weinstein, an 8th grader at Gunston To honor his love of baseball, Sebi 10/17 Benson Kluger Middle School, is the son of Michael participates in the Challenger baseball Benson, the son of Melanie Burke and and Iva. He plays soccer for the Premier program helping others enjoy baseball Louis Kluger, is a strong student at Athletic Club, basketball for the Arlington as he does. When he’s not on the field, Williamsburg Middle School in Arlington. Fuegos and also enjoys biking, skiing Sebi can be found playing tennis, golf When he is not playing basketball, tennis and scooting. Max hopes to be a and will also play squash for his school or video games, you might find him computer programmer in the future so, this year. Sebi has been actively taking biking with his buddies or spending time more often than not, you’ll find him in improv and enjoys drawing. He loves with his grandparents and cousins. He front of a computer screen working on his siblings, but most of all, he loves is an outgoing, loquacious young man new code. chocolate. who keeps his family entertained with his story-telling and sense of humor. He brings energy and happiness to his family and friends.

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10/24 Harold Sleighter 10/31 Juliana Halpern A 7th grader at the Lab School of Juliana, daughter of and Lilliam, Washington, Harold is the son of Kaya is a 7th grader at Longfellow middle Orkand and Shane Sleighter. He loves school. She is very passionate about horseback riding, scuba diving and art, dance, and music. She dances in painting. Harold has been working with the Washington School of Ballet and has his neighborhood recycling program for performed in the Nutcracker for the past his Mitzvah project this year, helping 5 seasons, most recently as the “littlest to keep the neighborhood beautiful clown”. Juliana plays piano and loves to and environmentally clean. He loves sing. She speaks French and Spanish, walking the family dog and is interested and her other hobbies include cooking, in animals and wildlife and hopes for a drawing anime, and painting. She career in fashion or design. aspires to be a pediatrician (possibly after a stint as a professional dancer). Given the challenges of volunteering 10/24 William Sleighter for non-profits during quarantine, she William is the son of Kaya Orkand and started a gofundme page to sell her Shane Sleighter. He is a 7th grader at HB artwork with proceeds going to World Woodlawn. He plays flag football and Central Kitchen. basketball for Arlington Recreational leagues and swims on the Overlea swim 10/31 Julia Kruger team each summer. In addition to playing sports, William likes to track stats for his Julia is the daughter of Lori Jonas and th favorite teams and players. His love of Bob Kruger. She is an 8 grader at The the outdoors helped to focus his Mitzvah Field School. Julia is on the basketball project for the year, litter removal for and soccer teams for school and plays the area around his home and school. ice hockey for the Rooftop Hockey William hopes to be a writer in the future, League. She is a Girl Scout and loves either focusing on nature or sports. skiing, golf and solving Rubix Cube. As an avid recycler, for her Mitzvah project, Julia has been collecting glass from her neighbors in Arlington to take to the glass recycling center, in the wake of Arlington county ceasing glass collection.

October Connection 2020 19 COVID-19 Emergency Fund Religious School Fund Donations Robert Brooks and Julie Griffith Robert and Iris Shamaskin This includes new gifts received by Richard and Jacqueline Cooper August 25, 2020. Kevin Cranman in honor of a Caring for Each Refuah Shleimah for Deborah Other G’milut Hasadim General Funds Roseman, daughter of Janet and Caring Community Where It’s Needed Most Russ Roseman Howard and Elaine Forman in Berman in memory of Stephan and Susan Levy in memory of Barbara Goldlust Susan Gale Goldstein honor of Gabe and Jude Roggen Jacqueline Morse in memory of Gary and Kathy Brill in memory becoming B’nai Mitzvah Shirley Granatir of Michael Littman John and Vicki Nelson in Karen Pyeatt in memory of Michael and Susan Cohen in appreciation of and Barbara Goldlust memory of Blanche G. Cohen, and Dan’s visit in appreciation for the wonderful Barbara Schulman in memory of Kestenbaum Comfort Fund support provided by Temple staff her father, Samuel Schulman Myra Roney in memory of her during this difficult time father, Samuel Wendel Jeffrey Holden in memory of A House of Linda Holden Clergy Funds Gathering Beit Knesset Irma Jacobs in memory of Senior Rabbi’s Jacknow Meditation and Howard Kavaler Discretionary Fund Tribute Garden Joel and Ricki Kanter in memory of Charles Stein in memory of Tanya Weiss in memory of Richard Harold Kanter Barbara Stein Lois Beshgetoor Sylvia Lesher in memory of James and Barbara Tombros in Women of Temple Rodef Shalom Sylvia Springer’s brother memory of Leona Lehmann Evan and Lisa Katzman in memory Michael Phillips and Yardena Carrie Wolfe and Mark Greenwood of Lisa’s grandmother, Esther Mansoor in memory of Claire and in memory of their mother and Krutzel Menahem Mansoor, Pauline and mother in law, Muriel Weinsheink Irving Phillips John and Vicki Nelson in memory Wolfe of Tom Zegler Edward and Kathy Naidamast in Senior Cantor’s memory of Daniel Naidamast and Discretionary Fund Harold Merriam A House of Cindy Crandall Lips in Geraldine Schehr Learning Beit appreciation of Cantor Shochet’s Theodore and Deveny Sebastien Adult Education Fund work to prepare them for in memory of Shirley Sebastien Morgan’s Bat Mitzvah Barbara Schulman in memory of John and Laurie Steiger in memory her father, Samuel Schulman Rabbi Saxe Discretionary Fund of Shirley Freedman Library Fund Suzanne Golomb in memory of Estelle Strassler in memory of Herbert S. Golomb, M.D. Les Baer and Marianne Such-Baer David Strassler in memory of Phyllis Baer James and Barbara Tombros Judie Weiss in honor of Sam Jaeckel’s Daniel and Lorraine Wodiska in Bar Mitzvah Dan Yahiel in memory of memory of Muriel Hennings Michael Lang Shelemyahu and Hanna Zacks in memory of Dvora Zacks

20 Temple Rodef Shalom Social Action Fund donations In memory of Barbara Goldlust Endowment from her Wise Aging Sisters: cont. Funds Dor L’Dor Barbara Huberman, Devra Cantor Rhodes General Endowment Discretionary Fund Massey, Ileen Shefferman, Stein and Jean Wise Richard and Jacqueline Cooper Noah Smith and Deborah Heller in honor of their marriage Steven Gomberg and Hollis Alpert Congregational Life Evan and Lisa Katzman in Andrew and Susan Baldwin Endowment memory of Lisa’s grandmother, Dan and Ellen Blalock to support Simon Family Fund for Esther Krutzel Social Action efforts to increase Jewish Living Joshua and Katherine Sear in the number of voters and the Eugene and Evelyn Fox in honor honor of Cantor Rhodes, for being safety of the electoral process in of the 54th wedding anniversary of a part of their son Michael’s Bris the November 2020 election Susan and Samuel Simon Women of TRS Susan Dubas Sam and Susan Simon Michael and Emmy Lou Glassman in memory of Susan’s father, in honor of Andrea and Joel Joseph Kalmans Programming Stillman on the marriage of their in memory of Susan’s mother, daughter, Jessica, to Jeremy Hare and Cultural Bertha Kalmans Sunny Greene Funds Tarbut Yehudiah in memory of Sam’s father, Marcus Music and Volunteer Choir Fund Robert Sharer and Karen Simon in honor of TRS Clergy and Hendrixson Bill and Carolyn Gedris in memory Staff of Bettye Anna Louick Stuart and Sally Horn to support the Social Action Committee Youth Engagement Cary and Julie Greenberg in honor voter efforts Endowment of Shelden Greenberg Brian Murphy and Susan Kamener Jennifer Blalock Memorial John and Ilene Pachter in memory wishing good health to Doris Scholarship Fund of Bettye Anna Louick Kamener Dan and Ellen Blalock in memory of James and Lauren Ramenofsky in Eric and Lisa Mackem Matthew Carpelow memory of Charlotte Ramenofsky Daniel Davis and Karen Menichelli Dan and Ellen Blalock in honor in support of voter engagement of Joel and Andrea Stillman’s Repairing Our daughter's wedding Andy and Shelley Prince in World Tikkun Olam memory of Tom Zegler Ohel Yaacov/Tent of Jacob Clarine Schmukler Housing Fund Jim and Donna Yazman in memory Roberta S Goren in memory of of Melissa Yazman Soop Saferstein Temple Fund Andy Hemmendinger and Ida Robert and Nancy Bloch in Haugland in memory of memory of Robert’s father, J. Hemmendinger Jerome S. Bloch Sylvia Owens in memory of John Pickens

October Connection 2020 21 DonationDonation FundFund SpotlightSpotlight Stillman Family Maimonides Fund for Self-Reliance Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.

In the spirit of the 12th Century Sephardic rabbi, philosopher and physician Maimonides (also known as Rambam), a new Endowment Fund has been established to assist members with their journey to economic independence. Rambam believed that providing employment or teaching a trade to an individual in need was the highest form of tzedakah, the top of his “golden ladder” of charitable giving. It allows a recipient of such tzedakah to become self-sufficient, maintaining dignity and independence. The benefit could last a lifetime. The Stillman Family Maimonides Fund for Self-Reliance will provide economic assistance as needed to members of our sacred community for career and business development education, additional skills training, and other opportunities that will increase their employment capability. Gifts from other members to this Fund are always welcome. This wonderful new addition to our Endowment distributed its first grant to a member in August 2020. Members of our clergy team or our Executive Director will make referrals.

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For help with any questions you may have about The Hebrew word morashah No minimum amount is required. For help with any our Legacy Society or estate planning in general, is the inheritance you give to questions you may have about our Legacy Society or estate please be in touch. Call Hannah Moore, the next generation. planning in general, please be in touch. Call Hannah Moore, DirectorDirecto ofr ofPhilanthropy Philanthro paty 703.676.3867at 703-676-3867 or email her at [email protected] email her at hmoore@temple. rodefshalom.org.

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October Connection 2020 23 Please note this calendar is subject to change. Visit the TRS calendar online for the most up to date information. October 2020 Calendar Friday, October 2 Saturday, October 10 Erev Sukkot Simchat Torah Erev Sukkot - Temple Office & Religious School Closes 9:00 AM Torah Study at 3:00 PM 10:30 AM TRS Tents: Movement Mavens: 5:30pm Erev Sukkot Family Shabbat Evening Service Shabbat Morning Yoga with Consecration 10:30 AM Shabbat Morning Service 6:30pm Shabbat Evening Service 5:00 PM Shabbat Afternoon Service Saturday, October 3 Monday, October 12 Sukkot Temple Office, ECC & Religious Schools Closed in Sukkot - Temple Office, Nursery & Religious School Closed Observance of Columbus Day 9:00 AM Torah Study Tuesday, October 13 10:30 AM Shabbat Morning Service 10:00 AM Food4Thought: Today’s Immigrants - 5:00 PM Shabbat Afternoon Service Not Like My Grandparents? Sunday, October 4 7:00 PM Introduction to Judaism - Fall 2020 Chol Hamoeid Sukkot 7:30 PM Executive Board Meeting 10:00 AM Renaissance Book Club Wednesday, October 14 Monday, October 5 10:30 AM WoTRS: Wednesday Book Club Chol Hamoeid Sukkot 7:00 PM Discussion Group - How to Be an Antiracist 4:30 PM TRS Tents: Empowered Educators 7:00 PM MoTRS Virtual Happy Hour 7:30 PM Dining In Together - The Future of Jewish 7:30 PM Prayerbook Hebrew 1 Communities in Europe Friday, October 16 Tuesday, October 6 6:30 PM Shabbat Evening Service Chol Hamoeid Sukkot Saturday, October 17 11:00 AM Zoom Host Training 9:00 AM Torah Study 3:00 PM TRS Tents: Children of Holocaust Survivors 10:30 AM Shabbat Morning Service 7:00 PM Zoom Host Training 10:30 AM Parallel Shabbat Morning Service 7:00 PM Introduction to Judaism - Fall 2020 4:00 PM All Right Already, I’ll be Grateful: Wednesday, October 7 Developing a Gratitude Attitude Chol Hamoeid Sukkot 5:00 PM Shabbat Afternoon Service 3:00 PM Wise Aging, Fall 2020 Sunday, October 18 7:30 PM Prayerbook Hebrew 1 9:30 AM WoTRS: Sunday Book Club Thursday, October 8 11:30 AM Mussar 2 Chol Hamoeid Sukkot 8:00 PM Rosh Chodesh 1:00 PM TRS Tents: Book Lovers Monday, October 19 1:00 PM Sunflower Bakery - Sweet of the Month Pickup 4:30 PM TRS Tents: Empowered Educators 7:00 PM Normalization, Annexation, and Elections: Tuesday, October 20 Israel on a Crossroad 7:00 PM TRS Tents: Reservoir Fellas Friday, October 9 7:00 PM Introduction to Judaism - Fall 2020 Erev Simchat Torah - Temple Office & Religious School Wednesday, October 21 Closes at 3:00 PM 3:00 PM Wise Aging, Fall 2020 Sukkot VII 7:30 PM Prayerbook Hebrew 1 2:00 PM TRS Tents: Joyful Grandparenting Friday, October 23 5:00 PM Interactive Zoom Healing Service 7:30 PM WoTRS: Meet, Pray, Nosh 6:30 PM Erev Simchat Torah Services 6:30 PM Shabbat Evening Service

24 Temple Rodef Shalom October 2020 Calendar Saturday, October 24 Wednesday, October 28 9:00 AM Tot Shabbat 7:00 PM MoTRS Virtual Happy Hour 9:00 AM Torah Study 7:30 PM Prayerbook Hebrew 1 10:30 AM Shabbat Morning Service Friday, October 30 5:00 PM Shabbat Afternoon Service 2:00 PM TRS Tents: Joyful Grandparenting 7:00 PM A Wick and a Flick: The Windermere Children 6:30 PM Shabbat Evening Service Sunday, October 25 Saturday, October 31 11:00 AM WoTRS: Fall Membership Event with 9:00 AM Torah Study Jean Chatzky 10:30 AM Shabbat Morning Service 11:30 AM Mussar 1 3:00 PM TRS Tents: Judaism and Theology 3:00 PM TRS Tents: Wordsmiths 5:00 PM Shabbat Afternoon Service Tuesday, October 27 11:00 AM Zoom Host Training 7:00 PM Zoom Host Training 7:00 PM Introduction to Judaism - Fall 2020 7:30 PM Congregational Board Meeting

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TRS Tents is our small groups initiative aimed at pulling Temple members together to enjoy shared interests, hobbies, and passions – or who find themselves at the same age or stage of life. Using Zoom we have created opportunities for you to join the fun from home. Tents are for Temple members and ECC families only. Contact Sharon Sotsky Remirez at [email protected] for more information.

• Active Adults – Movement Mavens • Joyful Grandparenting • AFoLs (Adult Fans of Legos) • Judaism & Theology • Book Lovers • Just the Dads • Bubbles and Babies • Pedal Power • Children of Holocaust Survivors • Photographers • Cooks Connects • Reservoir Fellas • Empowered Educators • Tables About Town • Environmental Professionals • The Understudies • Families Supporting Adults with Special Needs • Today in Israel • Genealogy • Women Who Mean Business • Grape Expectations • Wordsmiths • Grow Getters *Tents are as of September 11, 2020.

October Connection 2020 25 Temple Rodef Shalom 2100 Westmoreland Street Falls Church, VA 22043 703.532.2217 www.templerodefshalom.org

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TEMPLE RODEF SHALOM SENIOR RABBI...... Amy M. Schwartzman The Egyptian Revolution: SENIOR CANTOR...... Michael A. Shochet RABBI...... Jeffrey S. Saxe CANTOR...... Rachel H. Rhodes An Eyewitness Account RABBI...... Stephanie L. Bernstein FOUNDING RABBI...... Laszlo Berkowits with guest Ashraf Masoud Officers PRESIDENT...... Amy Beckman VICE PRESIDENT...... Jen Jacobsen VICE PRESIDENT...... Jeffrey Levy VICE PRESIDENT...... Tina Rafalovich VICE PRESIDENT...... Lynne Lotenberg ASSISTANT VICE PRESIDENT...... Kelly Treibitz ASSISTANT VICE PRESIDENT...... Sam Klein SECRETARY...... John Davidson TREASURER...... Matt Korn ASSISTANT TREASURER...... Ira Gordon ENDOWMENT DIRECTORS...... Ed Beckwith, Andy Joskow, David Lawrence

Staff EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR �������������������� Beth Silver DIRECTOR OF LIFELONG LEARNING ����������� Cantor Allen Leider DIRECTOR OF CARING & INCLUSION �����������������������������Anita Thornton DIRECTOR OF PHILANTHROPY ����������������������� Hannah Moore DIRECTOR OF MEMBERSHIP ENGAGEMENT ������������������������� Cookie Mandell RELIGIOUS SCHOOL DIRECTOR ���������������������������������� Dara Holop DIRECTOR OF EARLY CHILDHOOD PROGRAMS �����������Rene Shiohama CAMP DIRECTOR �������������������� Emma Davidson DIRECTOR OF Sun, Nov 8, 11:00 AM – 12:30 PM TEEN ENGAGEMENT ��������������������� Jordyn Barry Sponsored by the Women of TRS CONNECTION EDITOR ������������������� Sarah Rogoff 26 Temple Rodef Shalom