Bride’s

Wedding Guidelines

All Saints Church 338 East Lyman Avenue Winter Park, Florida 32789 allsaintswinterpark.org 407- 647-3413 Church Winter Park, Florida Revised September 2019

Table of Contents Page Index Introduction ...... 1 Page Pre-Marriage Counseling ...... 3 Checklist for dates and times Remarriage after Divorce ...... 4 of Rehearsal and Wedding ...... 14 Marriage License ...... 4 Coordinator, Church Wedding Guild ...... 11 Planning the Wedding Liturgy ...... 5 Counseling, Pre-Marriage ...... 3 Wedding Bulletin ...... 5 Day of the Wedding ...... 13 Scripture Readings ...... 6 Fees, Schedule of ...... 15 Old Testament ...... 6 Psalm ...... 6 Fees, Summary of ...... 16 New Testament ...... 7 Flowers ...... 12 Gospel ...... 7 Guest Book ...... 13 A Lesson from Tobit ...... 8 Introduction ...... 1 The Music for Your Wedding ...... 9 Liturgy, Planning the Wedding ...... 5 Planning the Music ...... 10 Marriage License ...... 4 Church Wedding Guild Coordinator ...... 11 Music ...... 9 & 10 Photographs ...... 11 Candelabra and Candles ...... 11 Photographs ...... 11 Flowers ...... 12 Remarriage after Divorce ...... 4 Florist ...... 12 Scripture Readings ...... 6 Sunday Flowers ...... 12 Old Testament ...... 6 Guest Book...... 13 Psalm ...... 6 Swedish Crown ...... 13 New Testament ...... 7 Wedding Party ...... 13 Gospel ...... 7 A Lesson from Tobit ...... 8 Day of the Wedding ...... 13 Swedish Crown ...... 13 A Check List to Help You Plan Your Wedding ...... 14 Schedule of Fees ...... 15 Wedding Bulletin ...... 5 Summary of Fees ...... 16 Wedding Party ...... 13 Index ...... 17 17 Summary of Fees Introduction Basic Fee $

Congratulations on your engagement! Music $ The Rector and the staff of All Saints Church are always Organist $ ready to help you plan and prepare for a Christian marriage. Our desire is to do everything in our power to enable you to enter into a lifelong union with the anticipation that each Additional rehearsals year your love for God and each other will deepen. Please with singers or read this booklet carefully as it will answer many questions instrumentalists $ you may have.

Each vocalist $ Christian marriage is a solemn and public covenant between a man and a woman in the presence of God. (BCP page 422) Each instrumentalist $ The Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage begins on page Flowers $ ______423 in The Book of Common Prayer. You are encouraged to read the entire service together and talk about its meaning. When you come to the marriage vows, say them aloud to TOTAL $ each other and share your feelings about the depth of the commitment you have for each other.

Payment of fees and wedding license must be In the Episcopal Church it is required that one, at brought to the parish office two weeks before least, of the parties must be a baptized Christian; the wedding. that the ceremony be attested by at least two witnesses; and the marriage conform to the laws of the State and the canons of this Church. A priest or a bishop normally presides at the Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage, because such ministers alone have the function of pronouncing nuptial blessings, and of celebrating the Eucharist. (BCP page 422)

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Schedule of Fees Please call Liz Stewart 407-599-4304 to make an appointment with the Rector of All Saints Church before A check to cover the fees for your wedding needs to be setting a date for the wedding. The appointment should be brought to the Church office two weeks before the wedding. scheduled at least six months before the desired date of your wedding. There are many things to talk about as you make Basic Fees preparations for a Christian marriage. For active members who are givers of record $1,000.00 Active members who are non-givers of record $2,500.00 Marriage is a sacrament of the church, and the proper Past members who non active $3,500.00 place to celebrate a sacrament is in the church. We do not celebrate and bless marriages in homes or in an outside setting; there are too many variables that come into play and Chapel $500.00 it takes away from the sacredness of the wedding. Music This fee is determined by the services provided.

Couples who wish to be married at All Saints Church Organist should be members of All Saints and actively participate Organ music only for wedding in the worship and life of the parish before and after the in church or chapel $325.00 wedding. Additional fee for each rehearsal with each singer or instrumentalist $75.00 Jesus said . . . Organist’s attendance at the “From the beginning of creation, ‘God made wedding rehearsal $75.00 them male and female’. ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and Singers and Instrumentalists be joined to his wife, and the two shall Each vocalist $150.00 become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God Each instrumentalist-- has joined together, let not man put trumpet, flute, violin, oboe, etc. $175.00 asunder.” Flowers Mark 10:6-9 Flower Guild (High Altar only) $350.00

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Pre-Marriage Counseling Canons of the Episcopal Church require each couple to A Check List to Help You meet with the clergy at least three times prior to their Plan Your Wedding wedding for premarital instruction. Please call Liz Stewart 407-599-4304 to schedule counseling appointments. Our

clergy will instruct you as to the nature, meaning, and THE DATE OF THE WEDDING: purpose of a Christian marriage. Our interest in this

Most couples will plan to be married on the weekend. counseling and preparation is to determine: Saturday is usually preferred, sometimes Friday. Sunday is generally avoided for weddings, since it detracts from the • The maturity of your relationship; other sacraments being celebrated on that day, which is itself a commemoration of the Resurrection of our Lord • The extent to which you have discussed your Jesus Christ. It is directed by the Bishop of Central Florida, religious convictions and your intended involvement that weddings are not scheduled during the season of Lent. in the church and the community of faith;

• Your understanding of household finances and the extent to which you have discussed and decided THE HOUR OF THE WEDDING: upon such issues as budgeting;

Weddings scheduled on Saturdays usually occur between • Your plans for raising children; your relationship 10:00 a.m. and 6:00 p.m. A wedding on Friday is usually with your future in-laws; scheduled between 5:00 p.m. and 7:00 p.m. • Your spiritual journey. Also: • You are encouraged to attend an “Engaged Encounter” during this time. THE HOUR OF THE WEDDING REHEARSAL: • The Myers-Briggs test is given as a part of a premarital course, consisting of four one-hour The rehearsal for a Saturday wedding will normally take sessions, “Prepare & Enrich” given by the place at 5:00 p.m. or 5:30 p.m. on Friday. Everyone’s Counseling Center (407-423-3327) there is a $300.00 fee for this course which is to be paid to The Everyone’s Counseling Center.

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There are other kinds of effective tests that may be administered in place of the Myers-Briggs test. A pre- Guest Book marital inventory may also be administered. If there is to be a Guest Book, the Lead Coordinator should be aware and ensure that a table is set up. Weather Remarriage after Divorce permitting, the table should be outside to prevent a bottle- neck at the door. You should appoint someone to oversee

the Guest Book, and close it about 5 minutes before the All of the above also applies to remarriage after divorce. In ceremony. addition, it is essential that the priest know the couple and understand the problems and circumstances surrounding a Swedish Crown former marriage so that it may be determined: All Saints has a petite silver Swedish Crown adorned

with white sapphires and pearls that is available for your • What attempts were made through counseling to use. It was given by Florence Lamborn Johnson in memory save the previous