September 1992 Quaker Thought FRIENDS and Life OURNAL Today

LIVING IN OUR DREAMS

SURVIVORS OF SUICIDE

OPENING OUR DOORS TO THE WORLD AROUND US Among Friends Edltor-M•n•ger Vi nton Deming Assocl•te Editor Melissa Kay Elliott Call it Family Art Director Barbara Benton Advertising M•n•ger don't thrive on so much excitement. It's been building for weeks. What's Catherine Frost about to occur in my life-once the magazine goes to the printer in late July, Clrcul•tlon •nd Promotion and after the plants are watered, the bills are paid, and the dog gets another Nagendran Gulendran I 1\fpesettlng Services flea bath-has been loosely labeled, "family vacation." (Recently, though, when James Rice and Susan Jordhamo describing such an event in their own life, another family more accurately entitled Secret•rJ•I Se rvices Edward Sargent it, " taking a long motor trip.") Bookkeeper What I'm talking about is our biennial family trip to a summer cottage in Ja mes Neveil Edltorl•l Asslst•nt northern Michigan, that beloved place amidst pines and birches and berry bushes Timothy Drake where I've spent many happy summers since early childhood. Preparation tasks, Volunteers now approaching fever pitch, have included packing clothes for warm days and Ja ne Burgess, Anders Ha nsen , Emily Conlon Bo•rd of M•n•gers cool nights, negotiating how many blankets and sheets and towels and pairs of 1990-1993: C lement Alexandre, Marguerite boots and winter jackets and raincoats and flashlights and books and games are C lark, Lee Neff, Mary Ellen Singsen 1991-1994: Frank Bjornsgaard, Emily Conlon , really needed, figuring if it will all fit into a small car (it won't; some will be tied Barbara Dinhofer, Sam Legg (Clerk), Parry Jones, Richard Moses (Treasurer), Harry Scott, on top, the rest stuffed in a duffle bag and shipped by Greyhound a week early), Larry Spears, Robert Sutton , Carolyn Terrell letting the neighbors know we'll be away and "collect the mail for us if you will, 1992-1995: Phoebe Cottingham, Richard Eldridge (Assistant Clerk), Deborah Fisch , Kitty please." Then it will be " time to hit the road," to quote one of my sons. Harrison, Bernard Haviland , Eric Larson, The prize, of course-some 900 miles, numerous stops for drinks, ice creams, Marcia Mason, Marjorie Rubin , David Samuel, Carolyn Sprogell, Wilmer Tjossem, Alice Wiser dog walks, dashes to bathrooms, and "when are we gonna be theres?" later- will (Secretary) be several days of blissful quiet. Some I expect to spend nearly sunk from view in Honor•ry M•n•gers Eleanor Stabler Clarke, Mildred Binns Young a sagging rocker, my bare feet perched on a sloping porch railing, as I observe a FR IENDS JOU RNAL (ISSN 0016-1322) was cool lake where children and grandchildren swim. Cousins will come by for visits, established in 1955 as the successor to The Friend(l 827- l955) and Friends lntelligencer hikes and outings will be organized, sandwiches manufactured. (1844- 1955). It is associated with the Religious Society of Friends, and is a member of the No phone here. No TV, either. 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2 September 1992 F RIEN DS JouRNAL September 1992 FRIENDS Volume 38, No. 9 JOURNAL Features Departments 6 A Gulf War Resister's Stand 2 Among Friends Aimee Allison Military training, with its doses of reality, sent the author 4 Forum looking for CO status. 18 Reports 8 Westtown School: Past and Present 20 FCNL Notes John A. Yeatman Drastic changes in society brought changes to Westtown, but 22 News of Friends the core of values remains firm. 24 Bulletin Board 10 Living In Our Dreams 25 Calendar Gerald W. Vance May the dreams of the next generation pull in a new reality. 26 Books 12 Survivors of.Suicide 29 Milestones Bernie Wiebe 30 Classified After losing a son, this author spells out the steps of healing. 15 My Quaker Work: Clurking Poetry Liza Savory 7 To the General This British Friend relates her 14-year experience at Summit Meeting in New Jersey. Concerning Nursery Rhymes 16 Opening ~ur Doors to the World Around Us Judith Nichols-Orians Henry B. Freeman The reality of life and death in El Salvador sends this Friend home with a different view of happiness.

Cover art by Kat he Kollwitz

FRIENDS JouRNAL September 1992 3 Forum Paying our dues Friends ashamed that our government lags in paying its UN dues-trivial to us , but important for peace-may wish to try to get the administration's attention by taping a dime (or penny) to a postcard addressed to U.S. Ambassador to the UN Charles Pickering, c/o the United Nations, New York, NY 10017. You might say, "This dime is a contribution to the U.S. government for use toward paying our back UN dues." Betty Stone Wilmington, N.C.

! Children at Amari Refugee Camp, Friends Play Center Daniels for president dust, ashes, and black, sorry walls. Even learn and grow. Our interracial Gaia Permaculture doors and windows do not work. Then there is a Core steering committee Community appreciates your Journal-a To us, this was a blow in the heart. If to effect recommended changes in the wonderful source! Your loving care for all UNRWA will stretch a helping hand, then priorities of mental health in two counties humanity comes close enough to politics to we will have a good start. Of course we will here-as all health criteria moves out into encourage me to see if you can present an be starting from scratch, but God will not the community away from the institutions. African American as an independent let us down. This is exciting and long overdue with candidate for president! We heard him We hope and pray that the play center prospects that need attention at every level. speak at an "Up from Poverty" will rise up again-clean, tall, and well­ Finally, there are prospects of a new conference in Montgomery, Ala., last year equipped to be ready in September to Quaker worship group in our growing and were much impressed. receive the children who have no other community. This will take the commitment You no doubt know Ron Dellums's fi ne peaceful place to go, a place where they and energy of at least two families to keep voting record in Congress. Ron Daniels experience friendship, love, and it alive-but it is clear there are a number holds those high values too! He was understanding. of families in this area of 15,000 who executive director of Jesse Jackson's Help us, please, to keep the Quaker would be attracted to the manner of Rainbow Coalition, so he can garner those name bright and alive. As you know, the Friends. votes as well as Greens, labor, farm, play centers project is a non-profit I thank you for all your good works and Consumer party, and possibly NOW, etc. program. [Donations may be sent to the broad spectrum of articles and For more information on Ron Daniels, Friends World Committee for opinions you are providing. I hope you will contact Campaign for a New Tomorrow, Consultation, Section of the Americas, keep doing what you are doing. Box 27798, Washington, DC 20038-7798. 1501 Cherry St., Philadelphia, PA 19102-earmarked for the Ramallah Donald Laitin True Ritchie and Clear Marks Friends Meeting Play Centers Project.] Orangeville, Ontario Mauk, Ga. Violet Zarou Ramallah, West Bank Correction From the ashes FRIENDS JouRNAL regrets that an error (In early July, Margot and Don Klaber, Hardly retiring was made in the July FCNL column. FJ readers/rom Duluth, Minn., received Senator Holling's home state is South the following letter from Violet Zarou, Yes, it is a busy life. Five years ago I Carolina, not South Dakota, as the director of the Play Centers Project in the "retired from my salary" to do more work column stated. The error was made in West Bank. We thought our readers would for Friends and to relate to our global editing, and not by the author. want to learn of these recent developments. village. I am busier than ever. We have a And, speaking of putting people in -Eds.) project on our small farm for refugees places they don't belong, a photo of from El Salvador. They are in a literacy Marian Franz, head of the National Fire can consume all material things, but program in Toronto and come to our farm Campaign for a Peace Tax Fund, was experience taught me a greater lesson: fire to plant pinto and kidney beans as their identified as Ruth Flower, who works for can never consume one's faith . If we put project in farming. They hope to learn Friends Committee on National our faith into action, we will emerge from Canadian agriculture, though the beans Legislation. The mistake appeared in a the fire, its ashes, and disaster stronger have all been planted and harvested by photo cutline of the article "A Matter of than ever before- stronger spiritually, hand. Their backgrounds are rooted in Conscience: The Peace Tax Fund mentally, and physically. God leads us on; agriculture. There are 12 to 15 member Hearings in Washington, D.C.," which we do not need to worry. representatives. It is a good way for us to ran in the August issue. Our apologies to On Monday, J une 22, between 3:30 and share our stewardship of the land. all concerned. -Eds. 4:00p.m., mad, cruel fire consumed all We are still providing encouragement material things at the Amari Refugee and support to Olney Friends School in Camp Friends Play Center. To make a long Barnesville, Ohio- 400 miles away­ Whose rights? list short, nothing remained but ashes. A wanting a renewal there in this spiritual well-equipped play center that serves 40 community. We need to do more work on Jim Corbett (FJ June) writes, " .. . we five-year-old children has nothing left but this. It is a lovely place for children to would not join or support any Quaker

4 September 1992 FRIENDs JouRNAL What Inhibits Friends' Response?

riend Kenneth lves's article "Friends of Friends' approach to conflict: Step I: ing meeting for business; they attend meet­ Membership 1980-1 990" (FJ July) is Turn and face the opposite direction; Step ings for worship less often; some remain F another of a series of JouRNAL arti­ 2: Proceed. An older version of the "Quak­ on the rolls as "cemetery Friends," but cles examining, albeit obliquely, the State er Two-Step" referred to our practice of many move from close ties, to loose ties, of the Society-perhaps more closely than dancing around an issue without touching. to no ties with the Society. many wish. Obviously, all is not well,and In the same issue, Ann Levenger's " On the Pollyanna attitude used to meet re­ Welcoming Friends After Meeting" records What strikes me is the lack of response examiners serves no really good purpose. experiences l- and other similar chronic in the Forum pages. Is it the fear of rejec­ The tenor of Ives's figures agree substan­ inter-visitationists-have experienced in tion that inhibits response? Does no one tially with my own research, except Friends some of my visits. But to experience an ex­ dissent because they might be squelched? World News ( 1987 I I) indicates the indepen­ uberant welcoming ceremony, visit a Uni­ Or do we feel that ignoring a problem long dent yearly meetings grew over 98 percent ty group sometime: almost too much of a enough causes it to go away? between 1977 and 1987 rather than the 25 good thing! Despite the disapprobation levied on percent lves reports from a different and Elizabeth F. Boardman and Sam Cox's Steve Main, who challenged Friends United outside source. "Friends Feeling Hurt" (FJ January 1991) Meeting to realign itself with biblical values Further clouding of any statistical anal­ probed the area moderately deeply, that or break apart, he did bring into the open ysis grows from the highly inaccurate listing anonymity of their initial solicitation per­ a situation that has been festering for years. of " membership" by individua l monthly haps inhibiting the number and frankness Have we had a " marriage of convenience," meetings. I suggest many directories con­ of their respondents. The four articles to or kept the relationship alive "for the sake tain names of persons who have not con­ which I refer suggest, despite the Pollyan­ of the children"? How many monthly and tributed physically, financially, or spiritual­ na attitude our literature often reflects, that yearly meetings have a physical copy of ly to their meeting for a decade- 18 years a careful, meaningful, frank probing of the FUM's current Faith and Practice (1966), being the most I have run across in review­ reasons why our numbers and our influence and how many have read its doctrine re­ ing participation by those shown as active is declining is well overdue. garding membership? members. Perhaps by 1993 Friend lves will I have reviewed all issues of the FRIENDS To quote Dwight D. E isenhower: " A obtain firmer figures and suggest steps that JouRNAL from 1955 through 1989, seeking problem ignored is not a problem solved. might staunch the bleeding that is leaching clues to the gradual diminution of the Until it is faced, it will continue to grow. away our strength. (While such practice Society. A single theme sho uts a bove all When something is finally done, it will cost may enhance our egos, it contributes to the others: the denial of the right to be heard, more than if a timely solution had been G IGO dictum- i.e., "Garbage In, Gar­ the suppression of dissent, the refusal to sought.'' The advice applies not only to in­ bage Out." ) acknowledge problems or face those that dividuals and committees anct monthly and While Friend lves alludes to, he does not obviously exist. The situation is summar­ yearly meetings, but to our national and in­ finger the problem. FRIENDS JOURNAL has ized by the following, which has previous­ ternational Quaker organizations as well. included several more specific articles that ly appeared elsewhere: Perhaps Friend Kenneth I ves will run his a ll Friends ought to read and study: figures through his computer and fo llow up Elwood Cronk's "Handling Our Differ­ Someone is hurt; the hurt may be real or on his article with the prediction of when ences" (FJ Janua ry 1990) speaks of the it might be imaginary; the hurt individuals the demise of the Society of Friends-ac­ practice o f resolutio n avoidance (while we want to be heard ; they are brushed aside tually, of the various Societies of Friends­ preach conflict resolution), notes that fear or a hearing is denied them; their dissatis­ will take place. of being rejected may well inhibit bringing faction grows and dissension develops; con­ concerns before a meeting, and emphasizes tinued denial leads to festering and gan­ George Newkirk the importance of recording experiences. grene; the injured move from the front to Gainesville,. Fla. Chel Avery's "Treating Conflict as a the back benches; they cha nge from active Gift" (ibid.) mentions an outsider's version to passive participation; they cease attend-

meeting, service organization, or school not accepting all who want to immigrate ished in , for example, Ethiopa or Burma? that requires its employees to sign t he here? What, if any, special responsibilities In answering these questions it is useful 1-9 .... " He says the 1-9 subverts Quaker do we have toward African Americans a nd to remember: I) If population is limited testimonies for human rights. Hispanics here who tend to see themselves o nly by misery and starvation, then Quakers acknowledge that of God in as bearing most of the costs of increased population will grow until people are every person. Human rights sho uld not immigration? miserable and starve (Thomas Malthus/ depend upon religion, sex, skin color, or If we feel we cannot accept all who want Kenneth Boulding); 2) Within a few years place of birth. Do these beliefs imply that to immigrate here, what, if a ny, effective of immigrating to the U.S., most people the one or two billion people who now methods for preventing or discouraging consume several to many times more want to immigrate (to the United States or immigration are acceptable? What resources and energy than they did in their other developed countries) should be responsibilities do we have to would-be home countries, and they create more allowed to do so? Ten years from now immigrants and others who rema in in their pollution than they did in their countries. world population will be la rger by one own countries? Should the 20 million who Might we find some "solutions" that billion. Should the large fraction of this die each year of malnutrition-related a ppear to respect the rights of those who a dditional billion people who will want to diseases be considered less needy than immigrate, yet violate the rights of the immigrate be allowed to do so? Wo uld those who are killed by their governments? majority of people and their posterity? competing rights be violated if such Should those who are a ble to make it to massive immigration were allowed? What, our borders be considered mo re worthy of Steven C. Hill if any, moral or religious principles justify o ur concern than those who are malnour- Las Cruces, N. Mex.

FRIENDS JouRNAL September 1992 5 AGull War Resister's Stand by Aimee Allison had no idea when I joined what kind being a medic from operating heavy ma­ thing in refusing to be part of that. He of training I'd have to go through chinery, from shooting somebody, from also saw the French Foreign Legion mas­ Iin the military. I joined as a combat burning a village, or anything else. sacring Iraqi troops-because they don't medic, and I was thinking in the back Bayonet training was one of the ear­ take prisoners. We won't read about of my head, "Well , I'll be helping peo­ lier things that deeply disturbed me and these things in the paper for 20 years. ple. I'm a noncombatant, so I won't be set me thinking about the military. Here When my unit was activated, they hurting anyone, right?" But at 17 I knew are 300 women in my company: we're took a piece of the unit-psychiatrists, nothing about war, the military, the all in battle dress fatigues, with our psych doctors, psych nurses, and other world, or myself. I had a Rambo-esque M16s and bayonets. We're all out in this people. They told them that there had vision of what war would be like, a vid­ field in Fort Jackson, South Carolina. been over 100 suicides of U.S. service eo-game mentality. It wasn't realistic. The drill sergeant stands up on a plat­ people since the buildup. This was be­ In military training I was given a big form with a megaphone, instructing us fore the war started. I never read in the dose of reality. The line between com­ how to jab, how to thrust, how to use paper about any suicides of U.S. service batant and noncombatant is very thin, the bayonet in the correct position. This people-1 know that. People tried to is me-I've never been in a fight in my deal with their conscience or the situa­ life. I've always been taught to talk tion in different ways, and one of them things out. He says, "What's the spirit was by committing suicide. of the bayonet?" We're all forced to Another thing that happened in the de­ yell, "To kill, to kill, to kill with no mer­ velopment of my conscience was the posi­ cy." He yells, " What makes the grass tive reinforcement of learning about non­ grow?" "Blood, blood makes the grass violence, learning about Martin Luther grow.'' We're supposed to make these King, Jr., and Gandhi and the power of noises. I just remember saying it, but I nonviolence to change situations. I still couldn't believe that I was saying it, believe that nonviolence is the answer in because in church I learned that what the Israeli-Palestinian conflict too. I makes us humane is mercy. That was my consider my being a CO as an extension first step in realizing I had to be true to of King's nonviolent movement. my own beliefs and my own sense of The third thing that changed my way right and wrong. of thinking about the military was my hey tried very hard in the military to training as a medic. As a military medic, make every one of us lose our own my job is not to help people. The entire Tidentity, to make us afraid to ques­ purpose of a medic is to continue the tion authority, to follow orders blind­ military mission. So if I see, after all the ly, and to look at the enemy not as a bombs are dropped in a battle, that human being but as an object. There are there are several soldiers down, it's my people who are deeply disturbed as indi­ job as a medic to assess every man or viduals, and some take action and some woman who's injured and establish pri­ A Aimee Allison, 1992 of them don't. But on some level most orities for evacuation based on the in­ people in the military think about what juries, a procedure known as triage. if not nonexistent. In the military, the they're doing and either choose 'to fol­ Those people who are least injured I support system, which is everybody but low their conscience or not. treat first, because they are most likely the people who actually operate the Other things that we did were equal­ to return to their duty stations. The peo­ weapons, is almost the entire military. ly disturbing-like shooting M60s, which ple who are most injured-if I don't As a combat medic, it's my job to sup­ are huge machine guns, at human­ have time after treating the least in­ port and to replenish the front battle shaped targets. I have a friend who just jured-! give a shot of morphine. Then lines. That's my job. So I can't separate came back from the Persian Gulf War I put them behind the screen and allow and saw a lot of things. One of the them to die. That is my duty as a medic. Aimee Allison, 22, is a graduate student in educa­ things that he saw was Kuwaiti troops In the civilian world, if there's an earth­ tion at Stanford University. Since her application for a CO discharge in December 1990, she has re­ using M60s-they're supposed to be quake or a fire, you treat the most in­ mained active in writing and speaking to youth, used on buildings or tanks-shooting jured first because they're most likely to church, and political groups around the country Iraqi soldiers. All he saw was red mist­ die first. That's not the way it is in the about supporting·conscientious objectors. Aimee it decimates people. Right now, actually, military, because the truth is that the was denied a discharge in February 1992, a deci­ sion she is appealing in federal court. Her article he's receiving psychiatric treatment, be­ military not only doesn't care about the appeared in the May/ June issue of The Plough, cause to see that destroys part of your people it drops bombs on, but it doesn't and is reprinted with permission. own humanity. I know I did the right care about its own side either. We're just

6 September 1992 FRIENDS JouRNAL cannon fodder; we're just part of the ma­ have appreciated it if just one person pie?" If they would have asked me that, chine. I remember even the officers in would have said, "You know, you want maybe I would have thought twice about our unit saying, "I know this is wrong, to go to college, you want to be in poli­ joining. That's what I want to do: at it seems wrong-but it's your job." tics, you want to do all these great least put my viewpoint out there, even When a lot of people were leaving, I things, Aimee, but why would you dedi­ though it doesn't come near to equaling remember one physician, an ob-gyn cate eight years of your life to an institu­ the millions of dollars of advertising woman, who said, "I don't support this tion whose sole purpose is to kill pea- from the military. 0 war; it's a ridiculous war, a war for oil­ why, what's the purpose?" But when her number was called, she went. I talked to her on the phone the night before she was to go. I said, "You know, you don't have to do this." She said, "Well, Aimee, I have my career riding on this.'' very person in the military or in society in general has faced at Esome point the question: am I go­ ing to do what I know is right? A lot of the COs I've met, even people who went to prison, say that if they had known about the opportunity for discharge they would have done it a long time ago. Even though the U.S. military has these regulations through which to apply, it's very difficult to prove to the military that you're sincere and that you're a true CO. In many ways the military disre­ spects the UN's recognition of COs. Troops are still being sent to the Mid­ dle East. There were a few parades­ "Oh, everyone's home!"-but there are still people over there. There's sort of a move to the right, a wave of patriotism, all these yellow ribbons, the flag waving, the 50th anni­ versary of Pearl Harbor-all this stuff. It's all part of the same movement to the right, and it's a very scary feeling for me, because it means that mainstream America is not thinking and not ques­ tioning authority. That can only have bad repercussions for democracy, which thrives on different points of view. I think that in a time of great patriotism, in this wave of Follow the Leader, peo­ ple should help to try to right the wrongs in the country and in the world. From my perspective, if I were 17 and had to do the whole thing again, I would

More than 2,500 U.S. soldiers filed for conscien­ tious objector discharges during the Gulf War, ac­ cording to a recent survey made by the War Resisters League. Of these, nearly 100 COs were imprisoned. More than 20 are still con­ fined. -Fellowship, March 1992

FRIENDS JouRNAL September 1992 7 WESTTOWN o PAST AND PRESENT

by John A. Yeatman ometime ago FRIENDS JOURNAL carried an article by a George S School graduate about her experi­ ence as a student attending meeting for worship. Reading this article brought back memories of my own experience as a Westtown student (1947-51) attending that school's meeting. And it was a re­ visit to that meeting a few years ago that brought dramatically to mind the chang­ es that have occurred over 40 years. As boarding students in the late 1940s, we were required to attend meet­ ing twice a week: First Days and Fifth Days (Sundays and Thursdays). Dress code called for coats and ties for boys and similar appropriate attire for girls. Both meetings were always preceded by "collection" at the respective boys' and girls' ends of the main building. Here at­ tendance was taken using assigned seats, and a passage of scripture was read as preparation. We then proceeded in pairs to the meetinghouse, entering at our respective ends of the building. All male students and male faculty sat on one side of the room and females on the other. Four rows of ascending facing benches were occupied by faculty members in order of seniority, with the most senior members seated on the highest bench, closest to the center of the room. (Who ever said there was no hierarchy in . Quakerdom ?) I see those faces as clearly today as I did 40 years ago as they peered down austerely from "on high." Always at the ] top on the highest bench on the invisi- i ble line dividing the room sat Master ~ James (James Walker, headmaster) and ~ John A. Yeatman is a member of London Grove (Pa.) Meeting. For nearly 20 years he has worked as an administrator in the field ofalcoholism, drug abuse, and mental health. A. A recent meeting for worship at Westtown School

8 September 1992 FRIENDS JouRNAL SCHOOL to his immediate left, on the other side alarm clock set to go off at a given.time sitting there that day who observed and of that line, his wife, Alice. One of the and shatter the silence. I particularly re­ reported all. The punishment: sitting weightier, if not the weightiest member call one warm spring First Day when a detention and eventually, in my case, of the meeting at that time was Master few of us decided to skip meeting for a due to numerous such infractions, a let­ Carroll (Carroll Brown, whose career as walk to Milltown, a nearby village. The ter home. Westtown English teacher would span plan was to clear attendance and then It was with these memories and expec­ 45 years). Another familiar face was that to break away enroute to the meeting­ tations (from some 250 school meetings of Agnes Thomas, math teacher, and house and hide in the basement shower attended over four years) that I revisited sister of Norman Thomas, perennial rooms until all were in the meeting­ Westtown a few years ago. To say I was candidate for president on the socialist house. It was to be a simple matter of shocked by the change is no overstate­ ticket. cutting across the soccer field and from ment. While the meetinghouse was as Then there were such non-faculty lu­ there into the woods. What we over­ filled as I remembered it, the similarity minaries as the two authors in resi­ looked in the planning was the fact that stopped there. Gone was the separate dence-Janet Whitney, who wrote Quak­ a certain seat on the third row facing seating-male, female; teacher, student. er Bride, and T. Morris Longstreth, bench provided an unobstructed view Instead students, casually attired, over­ author of numerous childrens' books. through the meetinghouse front win­ flowed front, back, and side benches. The latter always occupied the second dows onto the soccer field and the en­ Teachers were indistinguishable from place of honor in the meetinghouse, to try into the woods. It was the librarian students (sign of my age?). And, what the headmaster's right. Lael Kelly, part­ was most impressive, the vocal ministry, time librarian, and widow of Thomas instead of coming from those venerable Kelly, Quaker mystic, was a familiar pres­ weighty Friend types, came from the ence at Fifth Day meeting. Finally, to youngest attenders popping up all over the amusement and annoyance of some the room. Messages were brief, simply students (she spoke often and at length), spoken, and clearly from the heart. there was the "singing Quaker," who I asked myself on the trip home what attended quarterly meeting and came had changed. After all, we were the dressed in black from head to toe, same age back then, and we-or at least including a black bonnet. Her rising to most of us-would never have thought speak in the archaic singsong manner of of speaking in meeting. Obviously, dress early Friends tended to be greeted by rules had changed, maybe attendance re­ low groans from the student section. ~ !e quirements, and assigned seating. May­ Some of us, I'm afraid, spent too ~ ::;:, be today's students understood better many hours "after lights" scheming to '~ than we did the purpose of meeting for avoid meeting altogether or disrupt it t ~ worship. Instead of seeing it as one more once there. Chattering, giggling, pass­ :, regulation to challenge, they saw it as a "~ ing notes, crumpling paper all seemed ~ tool-a quiet time away from the hec­ minor ploys compared to secreting an A Westtown students, 1949 tic pace-to think things through: big things and little things. Messages I heard suggested this. The world outside also changed dras­ tically in 40 years. Whereas we were an essentially passive, accepting youth in the late '40s and early '50s, the '60s saw stu­ dent campus revolts that helped end a war and bring down a president. No school could remain immune to this. Change from without brings change within. No longer were male faculty members at Westtown addressed as "master." Now all teachers, male and female, were "teacher," thus avoiding racial and sexual overtones. Change! Hard to accept, but inevit­ able. And 40 years hence? More outward changes, no doubt. But somehow I think A In the mld-1960s, male and female students and faculty sat on oplioslte sides of the core of our faith and practice-just the meeting room. because it is Quaker-will stand firm. 0

FRIEN DS JoURNAL September 1992 9 LIVING D I

by Gerald W. Vance

he social studies teacher said developments. The year was 1932, and "bulldozer," and the class all gig­ we were high school juniors and seniors, Tgled, partly through amusement all quite confident of our ability to go at this strange-sounding word and partly forth and confront the world. in embarrassment that they didn't know From consideration of the seeming what it meant. The teacher had brought gobbledegook (the words were all com­ to class a list of new words to see how parable to bulldozer, and no one recog­ conversant his pupils were with current nized any of them) the discussion turned to the developments that might transpire Gerald W. Vance is professor emeritus at Marietta in our lifetimes. The teacher suggested College and a member of Mid-Ohio Valley "Let's dream a little about this." So we Meeting. dreamed.

10 September 1992 FRIENDS Jou RNAL OUR D DREAMS

tioned a telephone that would show a beneficial; others are terribly disturbing. D picture of the person at the other end of Labor-saving devices have shortened the line, we began to worry about getting the workday, increased leisure time, im­ out of the tub to answer the phone (few proved health, decreased accidents, freed MAY MEMBERS of us had showers in our farm homes). women from housework-and have Ultimately, we got around to listing all brought unemployment, created prob­ the instruments around the house that lems of dealing with an aging popula­ OF THE NEXT could be operated by pushing a button, tion, generated "latch-key kids," and and the teacher suggested that maybe thrown high school drop-outs and grad­ human beings would devolve into a big uates alike into streets filled with drug GENERATION finger for pushing buttons. This was peddlers. The released power of the many years before the push-button tele­ atom has made the superliner possible­ phone or the remote control unit! and threatens to poison us with radio­ I thought of that long-ago discussion active waste, or blow us up altogether. DREAM WILDLY, this morning as I finished my cup of cof­ The paved roads, stop signs, traffic fee and chose the button by my chair lights, and improved automobiles allow that would bring the morning's news to us to travel to far places-to face suf­ AND THEN HAVE the television screen over by the wall. Of focating smog, paralyzing gridlock, and course, I could push another button and impending fuel exhaustion. Pre-pack­ personally visit any spot in the world aging of food products has improved FAITH ENOUGH where that news was being made. I sanitation-and imposes imminent inter­ avoided the decision by pushing the ment beneath our plastic trash. The "off" button and clapping my hands push-button telephone allows a call to twice to put out the light so I could take the other side of the globe-and makes IN THEIR DREAMS my after-breakfast nap. me a victim of a different tete-marketer I am reminded of that class again this every evening just as I sit down to din­ evening as I sit at my computer to record ner, or charges me for a long-distance TO PREPARE these developments of the past 60 years. call as I blurt a message to someone's an­ I recall that this evening's newscast an­ swering machine. nounced a new light-beam computer This lifetime of developments has TO LIVE WITH which will make obsolete the electrical im­ shown us high school graduates of 1933 pulse one given me only last Christmas. how puny our super-dreams really were. It has been suggested that only 15 per­ What's worse, we dreamed but we didn't THEM. cent of the developments of this century have faith enough in our dreams to pre­ have yet been invented. That leaves nine pare ourselves to live in them. years in which to invent the other 85 per­ As members of the next generation cent. Try dreaming that! contemplate the awesome acceleration D The developments within that 15 per­ of technological development and re­ cent include only 15 years more than the sponsibility they will live with, I hearti­ Someone said he had heard that some­ innovations I have seen in my lifetime: ly wish them more success in dreaming day news would be flashed on the walls stop signs, traffic lights, multi-lane con­ and anticipation than my generation of our homes, and newspapers would go crete highways, air travel, radios, talk­ had. May they dream wildly-then keep out of business. Dan Seiffert had read ing and technicolor movies, television on dreaming and dreani some more; they that cars would be controlled by wires with news on the wall, air-conditioners, won't exceed the probabilities of reality. buried in the pavement and wouldn't a man on the moon, talking automobiles, Above all, let their dreams be vivid need drivers. Mimi Pfeifer wondered if and-oh, yes-the bulldozer down the enough that they recognize the necessi­ there might be a machine that would street where the new condominium will ty of living in them. Properly prepared, wash the dishes. Someone else had read be. they can find themselves living in a that if the atom could just be split, a Not only has reality far out-stripped dream of a world. Unprepared, they'll thimbleful of fuel would run an ocean those 1930s dreams, but it has brought live in a worse nightmare than we have liner for a year. When Will Adler men- other developments. Some have been already created. D

FRIENDS JouRNAL September 1992 11 ·1n June 1981, just more than a dec­ Most common is the huge basket of by Bernie Wiebe ade ago, our oldest son, Glen, age regrets filled with "what ifs" and "if 23, died in the back seat of his car onlys" about things said or unsaid, done with a hose connected from the exhaust or undone. Some days this basket grows through the rear window. to the overwhelming size of a football While he had made earlier attempts stadium. and had talked openly for seven years Another common mark is the guilt of an unhappy life, the word suicide syndrome of self-blame and blame of became impressed upon my being like the person who died. Judgment, upon I could never have imagined. It was as self and upon the one who seemingly though God pulled the shades over the gave up on life, is so near at hand that sun of the universe and engulfed the you're sure your guilt is readily visible­ globe in bitter and utter darkness. And possibly deservedly so-to everyone you it felt as though I must be the only liv­ meet. ing being in that total blackness, with a The special room, a special drawer, weight so heavy on my own life that I photographs, letters or other writings, could barely breathe. other memorabilia directly connected I still often weep and grieve. But I also . .. we all have one or more of these frequently marvel at the goodness and special reminders left behind by suicide. mercy of God, family, other people­ And there is the grave. life itself! We must touch these stigmata every How does one survive the unthinkable so often. They cannot be avoided. And and unbearably outrageous tragedies in they prove to us over and over again: life? What is the legacy that comes with Yes, my son Glen is gone, never to such wounds that refuse total healing? return. It is true! Is there ever again joyful hope for peo­ ple like us? Where is God in all this? And what about the church? How about The first growth our surviving family? beyond suicide Here are seven lasting fragments from one survivor: is a reluctant growth. There are many models for grief in vogue today. John Bowlby suggests four Suicide has . stages: numbness, yearning or searching, its own stigmata. disorganization and despair, reorganiza­ tion (Mediation Quarterly, 8:3, 1991). When the apostle Thomas had to deal Sometimes, after more than ten years, with the outrageous tragedy of Jesus' I still feel as if I am at the beginning of death at Calvary, he could not believe. my grief work. Jesus invited him to touch his scarred It is almost impossible to drive past hands and his wound-marked sides the cemetery where Glen is buried; I must (John 20:27). These stigmata convinced stop at his memorial stone. I know that Thomas that this was his crucified Lord. there comes a time to walk away from And he was again alive! the grave, for if we stay too long, we can Suicide has its own stigmata. Since linger and become bitter for the rest of Glen died, I have visited by telephone, our lives. Each time I tell myself that I by letter, and in person, with thousands will only pause, not stop. But how do of other survivors. Each one carries we patch that gaping hole left in the fab­ marks; some seem universal while others ric of our lives? How do we live with the are unique. neverness of seeing him again at the family table? Bernie Wiebe, former editor of The Mennonite, Almost immediately after Glen died, teaches Conflict Resolution Studies at Menno Simons College in Winnipeg, Manitoba. His wife, my wife, Marge, and I attended a special Marge, manages a Christian bookstore. They have group called Compassionate Friends. three grown children. We only went once. Unfortunately-!

12 September 1992 FRIENDS JouRNAL now think-the stories told that evening ward. My first thoughts were to disap­ all such obligations for a time. In that about losing loved ones (they were not pear from where anybody might recog­ silence, I spoke with writing. I named suicides, but they were unexpected trag­ nize me-resign my positions, withdraw my silences. edies), sounded a lot like broken re­ from public ministry, pull the drapes on My faith community-our local Men­ cords of self-flagellation and "poor me" the window . . . hide! The telephone nonite congregation in Winnipeg, Mani­ lamentation. looked like a giant machine too heavy toba, and many other friends-reached I believed then, and I still do, that to think of using. It was too difficult to out and touched me. They held out such a self-pitying posture only leads to dress and go to work or to church. Even hands of help and healing, like I had on­ eventual paralysis. My own soul was des­ the wheel of the car-with power steer­ ly dreamed of to this point. Some came perately hungry for reflection that would ing at that-seemed too hard to and wept with me and my family. point me to outward, upward, onward maneuver. Others wrote tear-stained letters, some­ hope and help. Pain drives to withdrawal, weakness, times (appropriately) incomplete sen­ Overwhelming tragedies become temp­ and vulnerability. My pulling back tests tences. Calls came via long-distance tations to stay p~t. Reason to live again, your response to me. Will you hear my from far-away places. but without answers, especially hopeful silence and help me? Food, care, comfort, hope, and mer­ answers, comes slowly, painfully, reluc­ I was fortunate. I was working then ciful grace, began to flow into our lives tantly. But it needs to come, and does. as editor of two church-related publica­ almost instantly. Having been a leader, tions. To sit inertly at home was too I now felt the caring nurture of others. unbearable; so I went to work. My fami­ Church, faith, Holy Spirit dynamic, Naming our silences ly agreed that I must continue a policy love, hope, became alive in unmistaka­ of openness in my writing. So I wrote ble fashion. They helped me speak again, leads to healing. of our devastating tragedy, even as I of­ to play, to try to shout, to feel warmth, Suffering silences us; happiness makes fered letters of resignation from the var­ and to become energized. us want to shout. The excruciating pain ious positions that I held. It was impos­ Yes, this initial support felt too short­ of our son's suicide drove me totally in- sible to speak in public, so I cancelled lived. People must go on with their own

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FRIENDS JouRNAL September 1992 13 lives, and they expect us to go on with Some early believers apparently tried to mine is not yours. We are unique beings, ours. Yet suicide survivorship knows no literally apply Paul's preference "to be yet our lives beat similar pulses and calendar for healing. While normal grief away from the body and with the Lord" breathe similar breaths. To come close tends to subside and become replaced through suicide. Only after a rash of sui­ to another is to feel commonness of life, ·within three-to-six months, suicide seems cides frightened early church leaders, love, hope, and faith. too personal and so person- or family­ suicide was declared a mortal sin. The Life, love, hope, and faith are always specific that its grief creates its own Bible nowhere makes this assertion more vital than rules, doctrines, or dog­ schedule, usually far beyond the norm. unless you read it into texts. This mas. This world too easily moulds us in­ Even today when people sit with me knowledge has helped me to know that to keepers of regulations, controllers of and eventually ask: "Can I talk with you God will deal with Glen just as fairly as our children, pursuers of laws that will about suicide, or is it something you he will deal with you and me. make us holy. Jesus teaches an " upside­ would rather not talk about?" I find it On October 28, 1991 , I became a down-kingdom'' set of values, having to difficult. But it is even more difficult to grandfather for the first time. My grand­ do much more with life, hope, faith, and handle the silence about it. Most of us daughter, Ameena, was born in Elkhart, love than with following specific rules. grab at every chance we get to talk about Indiana. I saw her for the first time on To see our child, our children, our our pain-with people who care. December 13 . It was one of the most ex­ spouse, our friend(s) hurting is an oppor­ hilarating moments of my li fe since tunity to hold out our arms and encir­ 1981. Here is the miracle of life with all cle them with the loving, healing grace Death is the enemy its promise! When I held her in my of God-not with a measuring stick of we·must leave arms, I was transported in my mind to rules and regulations. February 28, 1958, the day I first saw Love for people is the closest thing to for God's overcoming. and held Glen. Ameena will never re­ human dynamite that the world will ever Death is still the ferocious and fright­ place Glen. But, in this world there is see. To connect creatively and construc­ ening and final enemy. We know death li fe and there is death. We start to die tively with a life-weary person is the leads to another phase of being and that when we are born. Glen died; Ameena closest thing to a guarantee against resurrection is our hope. But when I laid is born. Life is precious and fragile suicide that we shall ever experience in into the grave a part of me that should potential. It is humbling and exciting to this world. be enjoying expanding potential in life, again hold one who is just beginning to I felt a hollow sense of panic and aban­ live this miracle. Death is that dark, donment. Who knows life beyond death? frightening reality we all must cope with Wake up and become! Like Thomas, the waves of doubt want­ sooner or later. It is depressing to have The single, most lasting message that ed to wash me away. I wanted to believe to let go of one too young, too vibrant, has stayed with me over this past decade even in the face of suicide; but how too handsome-to die. is an overall impression from the Old could I? No one has to convince me that death Testament prophets and some of the There is the sixth commandment: is the last enemy that only God can over­ other "great cloud of witnesses" spoken Thou shalt not kill. What about the his­ come. I trust God's overcoming power of in Hebrews. Their lingering communi­ tory of pacifism and suicide? And how even though it is often tough to hold this cation echoes within my being: "Wake will Glen fare on that Great Judgment trust high. up and be!" Day? Be alert to the wind, to the flowers, At times God felt to me like the "ulti­ to the mountains, to the valleys, to the mate terminator," the "wintry absence," God's grace is crucial. prairies, to the seas- they are witness to and the silent observer. I have had to think much about the God's creative activity. I eagerly searched the Scriptures. The "important" spiritual qualities-faith, Be open to the pulses, the surprises, Psalms did not help at first; my pain lay hope, and love (1 Cor. 13). By choos­ the obstinacies, the marvelously dynam­ buried too deep. My real contact with ing faith, we can possibly know a por­ ic magnetism, the repulsively depressing God through Scriptures after Glen's tion of joy and of peace. But I cannot rudeness of fellow human pilgrims on death came when I read Job, the Lamen­ choose to have hope; it is a gift that the journey of life. Often these fellow tations, and some of the teachings of comes only when I permit the Holy travelers reflect our own state of being Jesus about the cross. Spirit to work within me. When my faith at that time. Other times they offer us Gradually I felt a connection with real choice and God's spirit of hope get go­ opportunities to reach out and touch stories that made no attempt at general­ ing within me, I am moved to love li fe one another with the life-imparting izing, moralizing, or giving " nice" easy again and to love all that has life from grace of God. They are our sisters and answers. Jesus' agony in Gethsemane, God. That has become my understand­ our brothers, sometimes rejoicing in his cry of loneliness at Calvary, Job's ing of "grace" at this point in my life. their being and sometimes weeping with angry complaint to God in his utter pain in their inability to become their pain-they freed me to talk candidly to dreams. God in my attempts at prayer. These Affirming what counts What a journey li fe is! Robert Louis steps freed me to speak honestly about Stevenson said long ago: "Half the fun the enmity of death, especially unex­ leads to IHe. in going somewhere is in the journey it­ pected and unwarranted death. All our lives have something in com­ self." Yes, I have no hurry to leave this As I studied the history of suicide, I mon. When we come close to one world for another, better world. I still discovered that it has been a problem another, we find that each one has a find it exciting and stimulating to be on among believers from the beginning. special story. 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14 September 1992 FRIENDS JouRNAL by Liza Savory am CLURK of Summit Friends boys, one of them my son Jon. The ary life. Our ties to regional meeting and Meeting, in Chatham, New Jersey. clerk's job moved him out-of-state, a to New York Yearly Meeting are not as l After 14 expatriate years, I still common fact of life in the New York close as some of us would wish, though struggle with that u".S. pronunciation, metropolitan area. Our assistant clerk the concerns that have so deeply shaken and Friends here are lovingly patient met major life-changes, which made it NYYM in the last two years (the so­ with me when I lapse and call myself a impossible for her to continue. A gallant called "goddess" issue, the difficulties "clark." Friend stepped into the breach and kept between pastoral and evangelical Friends Summit Meeting and I were born us together with the size of his heart and and liberal universalitsts, and the recog­ around the same time, in the middle of the warmth of his personality. A be­ nition of lesbian and gay-concerns) con­ the Second World War. A group of sub­ loved elder confided to me that, while cern us deeply too. urban Friends from 15th Street (N.Y.) he didn't want to force me into a major e have just had our annual re­ Meeting and Montclair (N.J.) wanted to decision, he did wish I'd get on and ap­ treat at Powell House, an old save wartime resources by meeting local­ ply for membership. I told him the let­ W farmhouse-conference center ly, and settled in a room in the YMCA ter was already mailed. It was lost, and maintained by NYYM in Old Chatham, in Summit. I, meanwhile, was growing found, and lost again. By the time I met New York. We examined "the sources up Anglican in the south of England. with my clearness committee on member­ of spiritual vitality in our meeting" with When I discovered Friends at the age of ship, I was already pinch-hitting as assis­ the help of a seasoned Friend from 14, and set myself a rigorous program tant-assistant clerk. I was the new kid Scarsdale, N.Y. We have returned full of Quaker reading in lieu of my gram­ on the block. It was absurd. But it need­ of energy and enthusiasm and visions of mar school homework, my parents were ed to be done. new ways to gather together our rich and appalled at this manifestation of adoles­ hat all seems a long time ago now. various inner resources. cent radicalism, so I took my Quakerism Meeting is thriving, not because As clerk, I have two main concerns. into a closet and kept it there for 30 T of my able clerkship but because One is to keep us Quakerly. Nice peo­ years. By the time I went to college in the wind that blew so many of our dear ple find their way to our meeting, often 1960, Summit Friends had found a ·hil­ elders on their way has blown many new seeking refuge from the crass material­ ly site overlooking the Great Swamp Na­ young people in. And babies. If you ism of so much of life here, but I want tional Wildlife Refuge in Chatham and don't want to become pregnant, Summit us to be more than just a group of Nice were planning to build a beautiful, Meeting could be hazardous to your People. We are a busy and impatient lot, plain, wide-windowed meetinghouse health: it seems to be something in the we East Coast suburbanites, and we there. air. About 30 people are in our unpro­ need to cherish our roots and traditions, It wasn't till after my 40th birthday grammed meeting for worship each and learn to wait on the Lord. My oth­ that God, having already hauled me in week; almost as many more are down­ er concern is that we help each other a mysterious way halfway round the stairs in the classrooms and nursery. Re­ create simplicity in our lives. We do tend world, sent me through the door of that ligious education is perhaps our major to live more simply than some of our meetinghouse. By that time many of the concern. We all wish we had loving and neighbors (I don't know of any other wonderful weighty Friends who had experienced teachers for ourselves as church in town that you can attend in founded and nurtured the meeting had well as for our children, but we do what jeans, and the cars in our parking lot are moved away, but their light still shone, we can. Many of us have been helped not exactly emblems of U.S. automotive and I knew I had come home. But I was by the Quaker Studies programs organ­ luxury) but I also know, from dire exper­ just in time to watch the meeting fall ized within New York Yearly Meeting ience, how quickly extravagance can be­ apart. I met, and was blessed and in­ and have carried some of that enthusi­ come necessity. I may go into meeting's spired by knowing, several of those asm and inspiration back to meeting. collective memory as The Clerk Who founders. Then I saw them move south We have active outreach concerns for Hated To Have Anything Photocopied, to retirement communities or north to homeless women in Jersey City, for but that's OK with me. make retirement homes of their vacation Friends in Managua, Nicaragua, and for You will have gathered that I am not cottages. Gone. The chaotic winds of the American Friends Service Commit­ a Great Clerk. And we in Summit Meet­ change blew hard through the house on tee's relief work in Iraq. We have organ­ ing are not perhaps the world's weight­ the hill. First-day school was three little ized and enjoyed informal study groups; iest Friends. But we are working on it. recent examples have been the book of We are a loving community in a tough This article is reprinted from Quaker Monthly, May 1992. When asked to furnish a biographical Genesis, the Journal of John Woolman, world. We are alive and well, and I be­ sketch, Liza Savory replied, "Liza Savory has said and a study of the faith of 19th century lieve the Spirit is working among us. 0 more than enough about herself." Friends and its relevance to contempor-

FRIENDS JouRNAL September 1992 15 Opening Our Doors to the World Around Us

by Henry B. Freeman Like· dangling pieces of rope, the sary. Then, with some reluctance and a child's arms and legs swayed in rhythm bewildered look, s!te lifted both herself esterday was a day in El Salvador to each of the woman's small, cautious and her child off the pavement onto the that began like many others. It steps. Even at a distance I could tell that seat beside me. Yended, however, with memories these were not the arms and legs of a boy Not knowing what to do, I drove of a mother and child facing life and who sought rest and comfort in the arms down the road with no idea where either death on the side of a road waiting for of his mother. she or I were heading. Clearly, however, a bus to take them to the place they call Passing by these two lone figures, I we had both ventured into new territory home-a place where family and friends went to the church and picked up the that until that moment had separated will either share in the death of a small papers required for my upcoming visit our two worlds. boy or pray for the miracle of renewed to Guatemala. As expected, when I came Perhaps knowing the question that life. around the curve on my return trip the lingered just out of my reach, the The story began yesterday morning as woman was still standing on the side of woman holding her frail human bundle I was driving along in a borrowed truck the road holding her child; two small said that her ten-year-old son was very down the mountain from the orphanage arms and two small legs hanging limply sick. In response to a question as to to the church. Rounding a bend several by her side. where she lived, the woman replied with blocks from my destination I noticed a I continued down the road only to find an unknown name and the clarification small woman on the other side of the myself at the next corner turning around that home was "very far away, two road carrying with some difficulty a and asking the woman if she wanted a hours by bus." young boy about half her size. ride. Her answer provides insight as to In the minutes that followed we fum­ Henry B. Freeman is vice president for institutional how she, a poor woman in the Third bled our way through a discussion about involvement at Earlham College. He has just World, views the Good Samaritan story: the cost of medicine (ten colones, or returned from a one-year leave of absence while "But sir, I don't have any money. I roughly $1.25) and where she could catch living in El Salvador with displaced and orphaned children. Those wishing to contact him to schedule cannot pay you." a bus that would take her out of the city a presentation may write to Henry c/ o Earlham With my limited Spanish I convinced back to her home in the countryside. College, Richmond, IN 47374 the woman that money wasn't neces- Reaching into my pocket, I gave my new passenger what for me would buy a nice meal but to her would probably equal a week's income. Realizing that this was an awkward moment, I bridged the silence by explaining that I, too, have children who need medicine when they are sick. The smile that greeted me was the smile of a mother who realized that in her young son I saw my own children at those points when I yearn to heal bruises and brush away tears of pain. Across our cultural boundaries we shared the role of parent: protectors of the next generation, breadwinners for our families. Nothing else needed to be said. As the woman got out of the truck at the bus stop, my initial fears returned. The small arm that fell from a mother's grasp onto the seat beside me showed no sign of life. Watching the arm's lifeless path as it was dragged across the seat, I realized that we as parents were prob­ ! Henry Freeman with Salvadoran children ably too late to cure the sickness of this

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Pendle Hill, Box F, 338 Plush Mill Road, Lake Erie Yearly Meeting Wallingford, PA 19086 • (215) 566-4507 Lake Erie Yearly Meeting gathered on the New toll-free number 1-800-742-3150 chilly, damp campus of Olney Friends School on Sixth Month 18-21 to consider the

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meaning of "Serving One Another in Love." From the first worship through the final meet­ ing, we confronted the question, how do we live in the spirit and knowledge that God is by our side, without claiming self-righteously that God is on our side? We were urged to explore the foundation on which our lives and meetings rest, namely the light and truth of God. We find ourselves hungry to pene­ trate the superficial in seeking God's gui­ Founded in 1893 by the Society of Friends, George School is a co­ dance. The struggles of our communities pro­ educational boarding and day school for students in grades 9 - 12. vide us opportunities to grow as peacemak­ ers, and to become increasingly faithful serv­ The college preparatory curriculum emphasizes Friends values & includes: ers of God. • Courses on 4levels of difficulty • International Baccalaureate (18) Our meeting for business addressed a • Advanced Placement (AP) • International workcamps broad range of concerns. We enthusiastical­ • English as a Second Language (ESL) • Required community service ly approved the first year's report of our ex­ • Foreign study • Required full-year courses In the arts • 131nterscholastic sports for boys & girls periment with a secretary for nurturing. We approved the Peace Committee's minute re­ For more information, please contact the Admissions Office: 215/ 968-3811 garding the quincentennial of Columbus's arrival in North America and protesting our government's use of Shoshone lands for nu­ clear weapons testing. Of continuing concern is financial support for the yearly meeting and two Friends schools within the geograph­ ical area of Lake Erie Yearly Meeting. How well can our financial priorities stand exam­ ination in the light of the Spirit? Patricia Thomas, nurturing secretary of LEYM and pastor of Chester Friends Church, shed new light on the story of Lazarus. Just as Martha was reluctant to open her brother's tomb, we hesitate to un­ bind and love the Lazarus in our midst and in ourselves. Serving one another in love takes many forms. Being present to one an­ other in difficult times, listening, and giving encouragement are tangible avenues of love all of us can share. I The spirit of uniqueness and unity that pervaded the 1991 World Conference of EARLHAM SCHOOL Friends was reflected in the memories related OF RELIGION by a panel from nearby groups of Conserva­ A Quaker Seminary serving all Christian tive, Friends United Meeting, and Evangel­ denominations ical Friends. These Friends joined LEYM rep­ Preparing Men & Women to Serve Pastors • Chaplains • Teachers resentatives in sharing stories of physical and Campus Ministers • Church Admlnlsrators linguistic challenges, as well as spiritual dis­ Peace & Justice Workers covery and growth. Their narratives highlight­ ed the recognition of greater unity than diver­ Inquiries are welcome. Write or call: sity among Friends. Earlham School of Religion An exuberant intergenerational pageant QwUcrr Minislry: An ImJitlllion w TriDI5{ormlltilm Saturday evening was followed by dancing, 228 College Avenue, a giant bonfire (in which the children baked Richmond, fndiana 47374 clay pots and beads), singing, and storytelling. 1-800-432-1377

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20 September 1992 FRIENDS JoURNAL "When it comes to involvement in social issues, I think there's an in-the-trenches approach that really rrst Amendment distinguishes Unitarian Universalism from the o ~he r religions. "I look around me and see people analysis necessary under such a system. devoted to the sanctuary movement Have there been any tremors yet? Indeed - across the country: for political refugees. Counseling for drug and alcohol abusers. Homeless A Jewish parent in Michigan objected on issues. Gay and Lesbian rights. religious grounds to the performance of an And ... well , the list of causes goes on autopsy on her deceased son. Citing Smith, and on. the court dismissed her challenge. "But what most impresses me is that In a similar case in Rhode Island, a these peop l e~ their attitudes toward Hmong family objected on religious grounds social justice. It's part of their social to an autopsy. The local court ruled initial­ justice. It's part of their careers. Their ly in the family's favor, and then the judge family lives. Their social lives. And of reversed his decision (with " deep regret") because of the Smith decision. course, their spiritual lives. It's part of In Seattle, a First Covenant Church sued the whole package. the city over the a pplication to their church "Commitment isn't something you of a Landmark Preservation Ordinance. The can tum on and off Sunday morning." lower court used the " balancing test" (before the Smith decision) and found for the church. The Supreme Court later reversed on T HE U NITARIAN UN!VERSALISfS the basis of Smith. In New York, St. Bartholomew's Church For more information and a sample copy of the World, journal of the Unitarian Universalist sued the city and the Landmark Preservation Association, send $1 (check or money order) to Commission over the commission's regula­ the World, Dept. 600, 25 Beacon Street, Boston, tion of the appearance of church buildings. MA 02 108. Relying on Smith, the local court ruled against the church. And then, of course, there were the rulings against Philadelphia Yearly Meeting and against the American Friends Service Com­ mittee. Philadelphia Yearly Meeting was re­ quired to withhold income taxes from its em­ ployees, even when certain employees had re­ fused to pay a portion of their taxes, due to STTOWN religious opposition to war. And a lower court dismissed the American Friends Serv­ SCHOOL ice Committee's challenge to the requirement that immigration laws be enforced by em­ Westtown, Pennsylvania- Founded In 1799 ployers, even when such policies violate the religious beliefs on which the organization was founded . Westtown is a Quaker school of 600 students in Pre-K through 12th grade, co-educational, college preparatory, day and boarding Yes, there are bills in Congress that re­ spond to this situation. H.R. 2797 by Repre­ sentative Solarz of New York now has almost * Excellent academic programs· 200 co-sponsors. Senators Hatch of Utah and Kennedy of Massachusetts (along with * Individual attention within a caring community 18 co-sponsors) have just introduced a simi­ lar measure in the Senate, S.2969. These bills * Before and after school day care programs would require government bodies at all levels * Performing and fine arts to apply the "balancing test." Governments could interfere with a person's exercise of * 600-acre campus with lakes and woods religion only if the interference is (1 ) essen­ tia l to further a compelling interest of the * Outstanding facilities (science center, arts center government body, and (2) the least restrict­ fieldhouse, 25-meter indoor pool) ive means possible to further that interest. You can help to alert Congress to the im­ portance of taking action on these bills by writing to your own representative and For more information and to arrange to visit classes, senators and urging prompt passage. please call Henry Horne, director of admissions, Westtown School Westtown, PA 19395 (2!51399-0123) Ruth Flower

FRIENDS JouRNAL September 1992 21 FRIENDS JOURNAL News of Friends ON TAPE! In New Zealand, a training course was held Seven Frirmls }oumal articles on spiritual growth on the Alternatives to Violence Project and self-realization are being produced on a (AVP), based on materials developed by New 90-minute audio cassette tape. available Sept. York Yearly Meeting. Stephen Angell of New '11. Special price for this experiment: $8.75, in­ York and Elaine Dyer of New Zealand led cludes postage and handling. Send check and the workshop of 13 people, which included mailing address to F1imds joun111l. Maori and Pakeha participants. Elaine was trained in AVP in New York, after working tours in 1992. One tour was in Minnesota, CREMATION in Auckland prisons. AVP workshops focus Wisconsin, and Iowa, and the second was in Friends are reminded that the on prison work, teaching nonviolent methods western Pennsylvania and New York. The Anna T. Jeanes Fund of conflict resolution. It is based on the belief group's goals are to help meetings build com­ will reimburse cremation costs. that there is good in everyone. Participants munity, do outreach, and nurture a vision (Applicable to members of in the New Zealand training course learned of international peace. This is one of the Philadelphia Yearly Meeting only.) ways to affirm individuals, to build com­ comments the dancers received from a meet­ for Information. write or celepbone RICHARD R. BETTS munity and trust, and skills for listening and ing after a performance: 500-B Glen E

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• Lucretia Mott, were she alive, would cele­ Prayer: A Course in Spiritual Wholeness/or brate her 200th birthday in January 1993. Friends Meetings, it is written by Renee Many Friends colleges, schools, and meetings Crauder, author of articles on Quakerism wiJI observe the birthday as a way to keep and spirituality, leader of numerous retreats, this valiant Friend's memory alive. These cele­ and counselor in spiritual direction. It con­ brations will emphasize the values she stood tains six lessons, exploring different types of for: gender and race equality, nonviolent prayer, spiritual disciplines, discernment, ex­ ways of dealing with conflict, and the pur­ periences, and praying during a "dry spell." suit of justice. Lucretia Mott was a Quaker The booklet includes tips on how to teach minister who led the fight against slavery and and coordinate the course. It costs $12, plus championed the cause of women. $4 for shipping and handling. To order a Events already scheduled for her bicenten­ copy, write to FGC Publications, 1216 Arch nial year include: St., Suite 2B, Phila., PA 19107, or call (800) Jan. 4, 1993-A birthday party for Lucretia 966-4556. Mott at Central Philadelphia Meeting, 1501 Cherry St., Philadelphia, Pa., sponsored by • Help for parents is available from EPIC the Lucretia Mott House and the Women's & Lucretia Mott (Effective Parenting Information for Chil­ Committee of the meeting. dren), Executive Offices, State University March 19, 1993-A symposium, "Nine­ • Success Report: The Peace Is Possible College at Buffalo, Cassety Hall-Room teenth Century Feminist Strategies for Non­ Bookcover Project received $10,000 its first 340, 1300 Elmwood Ave., Buffalo, NY violence," to be held at Swarthmore College year of fund-raising. (FiuENDS JoURNAL was 14222. The program aims at preventing child in Swarthmore, Pennsylvania. among those who ran a notice of the proj­ abuse and neglect, teenage pregnancy, school May 1993-A street fair in the Fairhill ect.) That sum allowed the group to print drop-out, juvenile crime, and alcohol and neighborhood of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, 35,000 bookcovers on first printing, and an drug abuse. It offers services and materials where Lucretia Mott and her family are additional 15,000 later. The bookcovers for parents, schools, and communities, in an buried. depict a peaceful global and multicultural effort to unite those elements in a child's life May 1993-The annual Lucretia Mott scene, offering an alternative to the free ones to develop respect, responsibility, problem­ banquet of Women's Way, a Pennsylvania provided by the U.S. Defense Department, solving, and universal values. group that works on women's issues. which depict tanks and war planes. Requests July 1993-A plenary session devoted to for the alternative bookcovers came from all Lucretia Mott at Friends General Confer­ over the country, and requests are still com­ ence, to be held in Stillwater, Oklahoma. ing. Now the group would like to produce an­ other 100,000 bookcovers for the new school • Materials available* to help others plan year and is again asking for donations. Con­ events to celebrate Lucretia Mott's life are: nected to Burlington (Vt.) Meeting, the book­ Valiant Friend: the Life of Lucretia Mott, cover project has been supported by individ­ a biography by Margaret Hope Bacon. ual Friends and Friends meetings in ten states. Published by Walker Publishing Company For information or to make a donation, write in 1980. to the Peace Is Possible Bookcover Project, Lucretia Mott: Friend of Justice, a book Peace and Social Concerns Committee, Bur­ by Kern Knapp Sawyer. lington Friends Meeting, 173 North Prospect "Lucretia Mott Song," in Songs of the St., Burlington, VT 05401. Spirit, a Quaker songbook published by Friends General Conference (address below). • Cassette and video tapes of music, talks, "The Night They Burned Pennsylvania and experiences at the 1991 World Confer­ Hall," an unpublished play script for ence of Friends in Kenya are available from children. Quaker Press Productions. Cassette tapes Lucretia Mott, a 55-minute video drama­ cost $7 each, and video tapes cost $20 each, tizing her life, suitable for all ages. with discounts for quantity purchases. Ship­ 17th-century Quaker minister James "Lucretia Mott and Slavery," a 20-minute ping and handling is included in the price. Nayler, portrayed as a blasphemer slide show of the life of Lucretia Mott. Part of the money will go to help Friends Lucretia Mott bicentennial poster, avail­ missions around the world. Plenary speeches • Did you know that Joan Baez, Ben able from Friends General Conference (ad­ by Jo Valentine and Miriam Were, and Kingsley, and F. Murray Abraham attend dress below). remarks by Val Ferguson are the subjects of Friends meetings? That Bonnie Raitt and Lesson plan on Lucretia Mott, published three cassette tapes. Others feature African James Dean were raised as Quakers? That in Friendly Seed, by the Religious Education singing events. Video tapes are available of Margaret Fell wrote poetry? These. are Committee of Philadelphia Yearly Meeting, flamingos, African wildlife, a preconference among the gems to be found in the book, 1515 Cherry St., Philadelphia, PA 19102. work camp, home stays, and choir perfor­ Quaker A rtists, by Gary Sandman, of Evan­ mances. To order or to get a more detailed ston (Ill.) Meeting. The book contains 94 *Most of these resources, unless otherwise list, contact Quaker Press Productions, RR reviews and observances about Friends and indicated, may be purchased from Friends lA, Box 60, West York, IL 62478, telephone the arts. It is set out in a typewritten· format, General Conference, 1216 Arch St., Suite (618) 563-4461. with sketches of the artists and photocopies 2B, Phila., PA 19107, telephone (215) of some of their work. Cost is $14, including 561-1700; or borrowed from Philadelphia • New curriculum material on prayer is avail­ postage and handling. Copies are available Yearly Meeting Library, 1515 Cherry St., able from the Religious Education Commit­ from the author at 1203 Gladden, Columbia, Phila., PA 19102, telephone (215) 241-7220. tee of Philadelphia Yearly Meeting. Entitled sc 29205 .

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SEPTEMBER 26-Celebration event of AFSC's 75th anniver­ sary, in Northampton, Mass. Speaker: Steve Cary. 3-7-France Yearly Meeting in Charbonnieres, France. Contact Monique Stahl, 78 Le Planas, F-30670 Aigues Vives, France. OCTOBER 1- 4-Germany Yearly Meeting, at Schloss Erin­ 4-6-Bucks Quarter Family Weekend, at George gerfeld, Nr. Paderborn, Germany. Contact Lore School, Newtown, Pa. Dan Gottlieb, of National Horn, Wikinger Ufer 5, DW-1000 Berlin 21, Public Radio's "Family Matters," will speak on Germany. " Intimacy through Understanding." For informa- . tion, call Claire Wilson, (215) 860-9747. 2-3-International Conference on Servant-Lead­ ership, sponsored by the Robert K. Greenleaf 11-13-"Confronting Racism: The Journey to proaches to Economic Justice," a symposium on Center, to be held at University Place Conference Justice," a workshop focusing on personal, cul­ nonviolence to be held in New Windsor, Md., as Center, 850 W. Michigan St., Indianapolis, Ind. tural, and institutional aspects of racism. Led by part of the American Friends Service Committee's On Friday, a pre-conference workshop will be held Andrea Ayvazian and Beverly Tatum. To be held 75th anniversary. For information, call (215) from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m., introducing the concept at Woolman Hill, Deerfield, MA 01342. Cost: $70. 241-7057. of servant-leadership; cost is $200-$225. Main con­ Scholarships available. For information, call (413) ference begins Friday night and continues through 774-3431. 18-20-Missouri Valley Friends Conference, at Camp Chihowa, north of Lawrence, Kansas. Con­ Saturday afternoon; cost is $200-$250, plus hous­ 13-"Keys to the Castle," a one-woman play on tact clerk Jem Waters, 21 12 Huntoon Ave., East, ing and meals. Speakers will be Peter M. Senge, the life of Teresa of Avila, at Princeton Topeka, KS 66604, telephone (314) 756-8058. and David Durenberger. For information or to Presbyterian Church, 933 Baltimore Pike, register, contact the Robert K. Greenleaf Center, Springfield, Pa. Proceeds will benefit School of 18-21-Reunion of participants in the AFSC's 1100 W. 42nd St., Suite 321, Indianapolis, IN Gaza program, 1948-1950, to be held at the Na­ the Spirit, a ministry of contemplative prayer and 46208, telephone (317) 925-2677, FAX (317) study, under the Worship and Ministry Commit­ tional4-H Center in Wash., D.C. Contact Toshiko 925-0466. Umeki Salzberg, Gaza Reunion, 6342 31st St., tee of Philadelphia Yearly Meeting. Cost is $25 for 3-10-Mysticism and Creation Spirituality: Retreat two tickets, $40 for four tickets, available by call­ N.W., Wash., DC 20015, telephone (202) 244-0118. and Workshop, on the island of lona, west of Scot­ ing (215) 388-1862, and at the door. 19-Spiritual Growth Workshop at Asheville land. For information, write to Harry Underhill, 18-20-St. Louis Fall Retreat, at DuBois Center (N.C.) Meetinghouse, 227 Edgewood Rd. , Ashe­ 73 Winchelsea Lane, Hastings, TN35 4LG. in Illinois, I '12 hours from St. Louis. Elizabeth ville, N.C. Leaders will be John and Penelope In October-Mid India Yearly Meeting, at George Watson will speak on "Spirituality and Sexuali­ Yungblut. Theme: "The Wilderness of the Heart." Fox Hall, !tarsi, India. Contact P .C. Masih, ty." For local Friends, with limited space available. Local meetings and the Asheville Unitarian Church will be invited. Louisa Gray, (704) 669-6907, and Asfabad, P.O. !tarsi, Hoshangabad, MP, India. 18- 20-"Investment in Peace: Nonviolent Ap- David Beckett (704) 255-7700, are co-facilitators.

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The goal was to ensure business con­ forward a tradition and respond flexibly to witness to bear upon contemporary trol over labor through conservative unions. challenges among Friends. The book shows how the language of poli­ Contributors include Quaker tics distorts things while propaganda creates necessary illusions about the political and scholars and concerned Friends economic systems under which elites survive . from a spectrum of unprogrammed As the title of the book suggests, the forces and pastoral backgrounds. of democracy, in the struggle for freedom and human rights in underdeveloped coun­ You can subscribe to Quaker tries, are deterred by the violence of oppres­ Religious Thought for $16 for four sive governments, often supported by the issues, $30 for eight issues. Back United States-in the name of democracy. issues are available for $4 each. 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26 September 1992 FRIENDS JOURNAL Sowing the Seeds the times. On the one hand, Rabbi Rachel the evil in our own empire. Of additional in­ Cowan has moved from liberal liturgical ex­ terest to Friends is the contrast between for a New Kind of periment to valuing the traditional Haggadah Franklin and Limkin, through which Klein simply because, "For centuries, Jews have explores whether one must accept the need Leadership been in dialogue with it." More in pain is for violence to confront the evil that is do­ Harriet Carew, deeply loyal to Catholicism, ing violence to us all. but confessing to frustration with the sexism Signe Wilkinson of her church: "My faith burns holes in my socks. But there's no place for me in the Signe Wilkinson, a member of Willistown (Pa.) structure." Zen priest Bernie Glassman nar­ Meeting, is a political cartoonist for the rates one of the more provocative attempts Philadelphia Daily News. to mediate both the integrity of a tradition and the call to renewal. Zen, he observes, has always mutated according to its surrounding culture. The New York Zen Center, then, Freedom From Fear must account both to Zen and to New York. The center runs a self-supporting bakery and Other Writings ("There's a business sense to what we're do­ By Aung San Suu Kyi, edited by Michael ing.") and has moved out of its Riverdale Aris. Penguin Books, New York, N.Y., mansion into a neighborhood full of home­ 1991. 338 pages. $12/paperback. less people. Rabbi Glassman plans to inte­ Friends should know more about this re­ grate his suffering neighbors into the Zen markable Burmese woman. For starters, the Isn't it about time you discovered community. For this experiment, he has an American Friends Service Committee's No­ servant-leadership? elaborate and practical North American bel Committee was ready to recommend her The Greenleaf Center, an international, blueprint. to the AFSC Board as its nominee for the The stories Peter Occhiogrosso gathers to not-for-profit organization invites you 1992 Peace Prize, when it was announced she illustrate his generation's search for God to discover the meaning of servant­ had won the 1991 prize for her "nonviolence span a broad spectrum of what's cooking leadership by ordering: The Servant struggle for freedom and human rights." spiritually in the United States today. Not as Religious Leader and Trustees as Since the brutal military government of all these paths seem to this reviewer attrac­ Servants, both written by a noted Mayanmar (Burma) is holding Aung San Suu tive or even wise, but I appreciate the wisdom Kyi under house-arrest, her husband, a Friend, Robert K. Greenleaf. expressed in Occhiogrosso's interview with British visiting professor at Harvard, edited Father Thomas Hopko, an Eastern Ortho­ this book for publication before the Oslo a­ What Others Are Saying: dox theologian: " If you're genuinely hunger­ ward ceremony so the world could hear her "Servant leadership deals with the reality of power in ing and thirsting, you're already blessed, and voice. His moving introduction, her speech­ everyday life-its legitimacy, the ethical restraints God will work out the details." upon it and the beneficial results thai can be attained es, letters, and essays, and the reminiscences through the appropriate use of power." of friends, add up to a fascinating story and Mary Rose O'Reilley -The New York Times give a memorable picture of this courageous pacifist leader, who refuses the offer of "Many who desire effective and caring leadership Mary Rose O'Rei/ley teaches in the English depart­ freedom by her captors if she will leave the within the Religious Society of Friends are turning, in ment at St. Thomas University, St. Paul, Minne­ increasing numbers, to the leadership writings of a sota, and is clerk of Ministry and Counsel, Twin country and abandon the struggle. Quaker by the name of Robert K. Greenleaf." Cities Friends Meeting. The title essay begins: "It is not power that -Quaker Life corrupts, but fear. Fear of losing power cor­ rupts those who wield it, and fear of the "Servant-leadership emphasizes the power of persua­ sion and seeking consensus over the traditional "top­ scourge of power corrupts those who are sub­ down" form of leadership." -Experiential Education The Black Hole Affair ject to it." Basing her struggle for democracy and human rights on Buddhist principles, she "Greenleaf's concept of servant-leadership encourages By Jeffrey Klein. Zebra Books, 475 Park insists that "the quintessential revolution is increased service to others; a holistic approach to Ave., S., New York, NY 10016. 1991. that of the spirit," and she asks her people work; promoting a sense of community; and sharing 287 pages. $4.95. ''to make sacrifices in the name of enduring of power in decisionmaking." -Friends Journal Quakerism is spreading to the murder truths, to resist the corrupting influences of mystery rack at the book store. In Jeffrey desire, ill will, ignorance, and fear." To receive both The Servant as Religious Leader and Trustees as Setvants send $10 In check or money Klein's high-tech thriller, Quaker anti-mili­ One historic document is the translation order to: tary activist, Andy Limkin, sets in motion of her famous speech at Rangoon's Golden The Robert K. Greenleaf Center a cat-and-mouse search through Silicon Val­ Pagoda, which marked her emergence as a 1100 W. 42nd St., Suite 321, Dept. FFJ ley's covert military industries. Limkin's charismatic leader with unexpected oratorical Indianapolis, IN 46208 (317) 925-2677 long-lost college roommate, the jaded and talents. She writes easily in English, having Name ______cynical Newsweek reporter, Eli Franklin, is taken her university degree at Oxford, and unwillingly drawn to investigate the clues he she can turn out an engaging guide to her Address ______finds in Limkin's research, after his old dorm-· country for young people as readily as schol­ City/State/Zip ______mate is found dead at the wheel of Limkin's arly interpretations of Burmese history. In appreciation for your order we will also send you a bonus family car. Franklin begins probing the secret While the Nobel prize has served to in­ publication. The Leadership Crisis, absolutely free. Additional work that is still being done on the Star Wars crease the international pressure on the mil­ free information concerning the programs and work of the project. itary junta to release her and to acknowledge Greenleaf Center will be enclosed with your order. Klein portrays this subterranean work as the landslide election victory of her party,

FRIENDS Jou RNAL September 1992 27 APPALACHIAN

FOLKLIFE CENTER the generals.are unbending. But they cannot dividual subjects, followed by more general Enjoy the experience of helping and learning in Appalachian tradition. Participate in authentic stop her voice from being heard throughout conclusions and comparisons with other mountain music and storytelling. learn through the world as editions in western languages studies. hands-on evening programming of crafts and are followed by translations of her book in­ Douglas Heath's meticulous efforts to be trades. Workcamps available all year for varying to Thai, Korean, Indonesian, Japanese, and needs. Quiet, rural accommodations. Now taking both thorough and objective presented some reservations for 1993. Chinese. interesting difficulties. He speaks of the great For further information, contact: The power of her words is increased ten­ amount of time it took to manage home visits John Brock, Director fold by the record in the book of her deeds. with couples who were sometimes living in P.O. Box 10 As the chairman of the Norwegian Nobel distant countries, and about the emotional Pipestem, WV 25979 Committee declared in presenting the tokens involvement those visits often entailed. He (304) 466-0626 of the award to her sons in their mother's found one wife on the verge of suicide and absence: "In the good fight for peace and another couple in the throes of dealing with Bringing Friends' Concerns reconciliation, we are dependent on persons their teen-age son, who had run away, stolen tor Peace & Justice to who set examples, persons who can symbo­ a car, and disappeared for several days. In­ Congress Since 1943 lize what we are seeking, and mobilize the deed, it sometimes seemed to this reviewer Wnte. or cal1 (2021547· 4343 tor ac11on suggeslton tape best in us. Aung San Suu Kyi is just such a that the author might be doing as much per­ person." sonal counseling as interviewing. Irwin Abrams The rapid cultural changes, especially the women's movement, occurring within the Irwin Abrams is emeritus professor of history at time period of the study presented another Antioch College and a member of Yellow Springs difficulty, as it altered people's view of what (Ohio) Meeting. His book Words of Peace is a col­ constitutes success. To illustrate this, the Educational excellence lection of speeches from Nobel Peace Prize author sites his own grandmother's remark, for over 200 years winners. "I've lived with your grandfather 55 years, and for more than 50 of them I've wanted Coed College Preparatory, Pn:-K -12 a divorce, but I never had the courage. No ~-~M;n Fulfilling Lives one has ever known. Thankfully, he never IU?f'/ '" <:-~~ ,f By Douglas H. Heath, with assistance has." That wasn't the attitude the study from Harriet E. Heath. Jossy-Boss, San found in its later stages. He also describes Francisco, Calif, 1991. 340 pages. $29.95 a gay man's request to be included in the married couples part of the study. Although This book shows remarkable dedication, Douglas Heath found the man's relationship persistance, and scholarship on the part of ·-... to be loving and committed, he decided after ~~~~; the author, Douglas Heath, emeritus pro­ some mental struggle to stick with only those Moorestown Friends School fessor of psychology at Haverford College, legally married, despite the changing views 110 East Main Street, Moorestown, NJ aided by the sensitive input of his wife, Har­ of what constitutes a marriage. riet Heath. The ambitious task of tracking 609-235-2900 ext. 227 One characteristic of successful men and 60 Haverford students through three decades women that seemed to be important in all the of learning, living, discouragement, success, areas studied is what the author calls androg­ marriage, and separation, following tpem to yny, or the incorporation of both male and remote parts of the world is impressive female characteristics into the subject's per­ enough. Compiling the data collected from sonality. Identifying this androgynous char­ all kinds of.tests, interviews, and even home acteristic has helped to curb the male bias visits, and coming out with a comprehensive that might be expected in a study done by picture of the mature and successful man, a male professor whose original subjects woman, and couple must be some kind of came from a (then) all-male college. miracle. The subjects themselves also deserve Friends may be interested in this study be­ The Guest House at Knoll Farm credit for submitting themselves to such per­ cause it comes out of Haverford College, a lind Peace of 'mind and 'Renewal of Spirit sonal examination, and for being willing to prominent Quaker school, and also because Ott a 150 Acre Organic Fc.rm devote the time and energy required to take so many Friends are professionally con­ In the Hills of "'ermont the battery of tests at each of four different cerned with sociocultural subjects. Some may stages in their lives. find Douglas Heath's academic urge to back Scotch Highland cattle, horses, pond, At the request of the original group of stu­ organic gardens, pastures with spec­ all conclusions with data from his own or dents, the later part of the study incorporated others' findings too ponderous. I found his tacular views, a well established guest their wives, an additional group of 40. Al­ careful objectivity refreshing and became so house serving three hearty meals a though this study used a small atypical sam­ intrigued with the lives of his subjects that day. Work in our gardens, hike our ple, comparison with other studies shows I was more than willing to pursue the book nature trails, relax in our hammocks, that the results are similar to those found in to its end. recreate your own spirit with a per­ studies done on more widely based samples. Monette Thatcher The book starts with a section on "Under­ sonal retreat or in fellowship with standing Maturity and Success," continues Monette Thatcher is a retired family counselor who other guests. Reasonable rates by day through parts on "Succeeding in Personal Re­ or week. For brochure, write: Ann is a member of Eugene (Oreg.) Meeting, where she lationships," "Succeeding at Work," and works with the group of women currently pub· Day, Knoll Farm, Bragg Hill, ends with "Paths to Adult Success and Well­ fishing Friendly Woman. She also worked on the Waitsfield, VT05673 · (802)496-3939 Being." Each part is illustrated by fascinat­ committee that compiled North Pacific Yearly ing personal examples from the lives of in- Meeting's Faith and Practice.

28 September 1992 FRIENDS JouRNAL Milestones DELAWARE VALLEY FRIENDS SCHOOL a secondary school for students with unique learning needs. Births Wisconsin. His distinguished career included work­ ing on a financial advisory commission for Chile, The full college preparatory curriculum has in­ Ozer-Lily Dove Ozer, on June 10, in Beaumont, Poland, Bolivia, Ecuador, and China during the tellectually challenging cours~s s.upported. by explicit teaching of orgamzahonal sktlls. Texas. Her parents, Dorinda Dove and Ron Ozer, 1920s, serving with the Commission on Cuba Af­ are members of Live Oak (Tex.) Meeting. Teacher student ratio is 1 to 5. Fine arts as well fairs at the invitation of the president of Cuba; as outdoor education are integral to the and on overseas assignments in Guatemala, Lat­ program. Marriages via, Great Britain, Ecuador, and India. He par­ ticipated in several professional and env iron~e n ­ For information call: (215) 526-9595 Hain-Poorman-James T. Poorman and Vicki L. tal organizations. In his retirement years, hts re­ On the campus of Harcum Junior College Hain, on May 23, at University Meeting in search and writing flourished, particularly in the in Bryn Mawr, Pa. Wichita, Kansas, under the care of Gwynedd (Pa.), area of the history of economic theories and struc­ Irene McHenry, Head Meeting, where Vicki is a member. tures in Western Europe and England. In his retire­ ment he worked to make forest improvements on Deaths the Vermont tree farms he operated with family members. He was an avid cross-country skier and Bovard-Bonnie Bovard, 71, on Nov. 18, 1991, participated in races until the age of 85. His first HICKMAN at Pomona Valley Hospital in California, of a cere­ THE wife Elizabeth Garrett Pollard, died in 1977. He OF CONCORD QUARTERLY MEETING bral hemorrhage. She brought a contagious then' married Elizabeth Miller Stabler, who died warmth of spirit, enthusiasm, and love of life to in 1985. He is survived by two sons, Robert Pollard Claremont (Calif.) Meeting, where she was co­ Fetter and Thomas Whitson Fetter; one daughter, clerk of the visiting committee and a beloved friend Ellen Cole Fetter Gille; a brother, Theodore Henry to all. She shared with the meeting her artistic tal­ Fetter; four stepsons, Charles N. Stabler, Griffin ents in watercolor painting, quilting, tapestry, and 100 Year History M. Stabler, Edward P. Stabler, and John Stabler; music. Both adults and children in the meeting six grandchildren; nine step-grandchildren; and 17 A Personal Care Home took piano lessons from her. She loved flower ar­ step-great-grandchildren. • Reasonable Rates ranging, and her garden refl ected her inner beau­ • Not-for-profit ty. She took on menial tasks that no one else want­ Flaccus-Sarah (Sally) Em/en Flaccus, 70, on • Quaker Tradition ed to do-and sometimes no one else knew about. March 29 at Kendal at Hanover, a Friends retire­ In Town Location convenient As a member of the Library Committee, she took ment cent~r in New Hampshire. A life-long Friend, to Shops and Businesses on the details of typing and fili ng cards, leaving she graduated from Germantown Friends School others to do more pleasurable projects. She grew in 1940 attended Smith College, and earned a (215> 696-1536 I up in San Jose, Cali f., where she was an aide in degree in occupational therapy from Columbia West Chester, PA child care and kindergarten programs, a leader of College of Physicians and Surgeons. She did relief Boy and Girl Scout programs, and worked as an work in Germany for the American Friends Serv­ accountant. She was a long-time member of the ice Committee after World War II , where she met Music Teachers Association of California. She is her husband-to-be, Edward Flaccus. They worked survived by her husband, Freeman Bovard; two under the British Friends Relief Service, then in FRIENDS Small classes, strong daughters; a son; eight grandchildren; and three displaced persons camps in Germany, and contin­ academics in a great-grandchildren. ued to be active in AFSC and Friends meeting SELECT supportive, caring work throughout the years. She also worked with Fetter-Frank Whitson Fetter, 92, on July 7, 1991, environment the University of Minnesota, Duluth's program for SCHOOL in Hanover, New Hampshire. He was member of emphasizing Quaker housing foreign students, helped found the Dul.uth Hanover Meeting; earlier in his life he was a mem­ values. Committee on Human Rights, and gave much ume ber of Sadsbury (Pa.) Meeting. Born in San Fran­ and energy in support of human rights, fair hous­ • Pre-K thru 12th cisco California, he graduated from Swarthmore ing, and peace. In later years, she became acuve Coll;ge, earned master's degrees from Princeton ' Day School on behalf of the disabled, helping found two or­ and Harvard, and a doctorate in economics from e • After School Program ganizations to work for accessibility in Bennington, Princeton. He taught economics at Princeton, • Summer Day Camp Vt., and was co-founder of the Arthritis Support Haverford, and Northwestern University; lectured Group there. She was also an artist, an accom­ at Johns Hopkins University School for Advance 17th & the Parkway plished silversmith, a silk-screener, and a painter. International Studies, and Swarthmore College; For several years she bred, raised, and sold AKC Philadelphia, PA and was visiting professor at the University of Shetland sheep dogs. She gave love and support (215) 561-5900 to her family and raised three children. In spite of long and serious health problems, she kept a lively sense of humor, steadfast courage, and a lov­ ing spirit. She was a faithful and valued member of Bennington (Vt.) Meeting. She is survived by her husband, Edward; two daughters, Jennifer and liDJJJJo& Lynne; a son, Christopher; two sisters, Ellie Emlen A QUAKER CENTER Myers and Marie Emlen Hochstrasser; a brother, Arthur Cope Emlen Jr.; and two grandchildren. C-~1:3!:!;:-J for Rest, Reflection, & '\ Renewal on 110 acres . Jenkins-Edward (Ted) Cope Jenkins, 88, in Brunswick, Georgia. His home was in Buck Hill ~oo1 MAN "'''-'- of farm & woodlands. Falls, Pa., where he attended a Quaker worship Ideal for personal, group, group. He was a life-long member of Green Street & Friends Meeting Retreats (Pa.) Meeting. Born in Philadelphia, Pa., he !A INJI!!J~'ii'l\JJ~OINI<@ jgiNIVO~©INJ~jgiNJ'ii' graduated from Swarthmore College and earned a master's degree in international law from the 0@11 m \W©©~ miiu.~ University of Chicago. He was known as a dynam­ ic, energetic, articulate, hardworking man who Keets Road write¥or ... Deerfield, MA 01342 could "stir things up," get things organized, and get people working together. These characteristics call · · ·· (413) 774-3431 typified his long and varied career in businesses

September 1992 29 and civic concerns. He owned and operated Skyline Washington, D.C., sojourners welcome in Friends' home Inn in the Poconos, was director of American in pleasant suburb nearby. By day, week, or month. For Youth Hostels, became a trustee of the Pocono details call: (301) 270-5258. Medical Center, and was an emeritus professor at For information call (215) 241-7279. Looking lor a creative living alternative in New York City? 55' per word. Minimum charge is $11 . Penington Friends House may be the place for you! We are the State University of New York. He helped get looking for people of all ages who want to make a serious together tourist businesses in his area to create the Add 10% if boxed. 10% discount for three consecutive insertions, 25% for six. commitment to a community lifestyle based on Quaker prin­ Pocono Mountains Vacation Bureau, of which he ciples. For information call (212) 673-1730. We also have was president for 18 years. He belonged to numer­ Appearance of any advertisement does not imply overnight accommodations. endorsement by FRIENDS JOURNAL. ous civic groups, such as the Pennsylvania His­ Mexico City Friends Center. Reasonable accommoda­ torical Society and the Pocono Mountain Rotary tions. Reservations recommended. Casa de los Amigos, Classified Ad Deadlines: Ignacio Mariscal 132, 06030 Mexico D.F. 705-0521 . Club. Last October he helped organize a group to For November: September 14 clean up the old Quaker cemetery in Stroudsburg, For December: October 12 Case Heberto Sein Friends Center. Reasonable accom­ modations. Reservations. Asociacion Sonorense de los Pa., which had fallen into disrepair. He and his Submit your ad to: Amigos, Felipe Salido 32, Hermosillo, Sonora, Mexico. group picked up trash, righted tombstones, Advertising Manager, Friends Journal Friends Meeting, Sundays 11 a.m. Phone: (011·52-621) trimmed bushes, and erected a sign showing the 1501 Cherry Street 7-01-42. historical significance of the graveyard. He is sur­ Philadelphia, PA 19102-1497 vived by his wife, Betty (Karge) Jenkins; three Fax: (215) 568-1377 Books and Publications daughters, Nancy Wessell, Charmarie Blaisdell, Book about Jesus by Jewish layman who explains 436 and Susan Hayhurt Komenko; seven grand­ reasons why his ancestors rejected Jesus. Send stamp for children; and two great-grandchildren. His first Accommodations sample cover plus free 20-page pamphlet about the book. wife, June F. Blaisdell, preceded him in death. Ann Arbor Friends Meeting has a small. residential com­ Gieger Family Books. 630G Empire Blvd. , Brooklyn, NY 11213. Johnson-Helen Darling Johnson, 77, on June 16, munity. Applications for singles or couples accepted for fall 1992/spring 1993. Contact director: 1416 Hill Street. Ann at the retirement community of Medford Leas, in Arbor, Ml 48104; (313) 761 -7435. New Jersey. Born on Staten Island, N.Y., she George Fox's volume Works (1831 edition) are back B&B, North Ft. Myers. S.W. Florida, hacienda-style pool in print-at a great price. New introductions by Douglas earned a bachelor's degree from Douglass College home on canal to Gulf. Near everything. Alcohol-free. Con­ Gwyn and others. Library bound, acid-free paper. Priced and a degree in library science from the Universi­ tinental breakfast. Pantry, refrigerator privileges. All faiths at $167.50 for 8 volumes. Sets may be ordered with $40 ty of Michigan. After working in the law libraries welcome; adults. Sorry. no pets. Call (207) 766-2312 or deposit with balance due upon safe arrival. This set of the University of Iowa and Duke University, (813) 955-1234. would be a wondetful, lasting gift for your favorite meet· she became a children's librarian and worked in Ocala, Florida Meetinghouse: Two twin-bedded rooms, ing library. Prospectus available. Orders: George Fox Fund, Inc., c/o Dan Davenport, P.O. Box 15142, libraries in Florida, New York, and New Jersey. split plan, private baths, spacious living areas. Reasonable. George Newkirk, Correspondent, 4910 Northeast 16th Portland, OR 97215. She became a Friend as a teen-ager in Woodstown, Street, Ocala, FL 32671. (904) 236-2839. N.J., and later became a member of Moorestown Beacon Hill Friends House is a Quaker-sponsored Don't subscribe to A Friendly Letter, the independent, (N.J.) Meeting. She was a quiet, faithful member residence of 21 interested in community living. spiritual Quaker, monthly newsletter by Chuck Fager. You of several committees and organizations related groW1h, peace, and social concerns. All faiths welcome. can't-it's on sabbatical. Instead, send for a free Back Most openings June, September. Please apply early. For to her lifelong commitment to world peace, racial Issue List and order all the searching, often controver­ information, application: BHFH, 6 Chestnut Street, Boston, harmony, and economic justice, serving her local sial, reports you missed. Special reduced rates. AFL, MA 02108. (617) 227-9118. meeting, community, and Philadelphia Yearly Dept. Bl1 , P.O. Box 1361, Falls Church, VA 22041. Meeting. She is survived by her daughter, Karen Cambridge, England, B&B. Historic Old Rectory. Ensuite rooms. Peaceful surroundings. Log fires. Easy access. Also Books-Quaker spiritual classics, h•story, biography, and E. Johnson; her son, Timothy F. Johnson; two self-catering, short and long lets. (44) 223-861507. Fax: (44) current Quaker experience, published by Friends United sisters, Nancy M. Darling and Margaret F. Darl­ 223-441276. Press, 101 -A Quaker Hill Dr., Richmond, IN 47374. Write ing; and three grandsons. Nicaragua Friends Center. Refuge for socially concerned for free catalogue. Smith-Roland F. Smith, 75, on April 21, after travelers. Apartado 5391, Managua, Nicaragua. Phone (011-505-2) 663216 or 660984. a short illness. A member of Albany (N.Y.) Meet­ Socially Responsible Travel. Experience other cultures ing, he had served on most of the meeting's com­ Tidioute Friendly Eagle B&B. Peaceful oil rush town, N.W. Pa.; Allegheny River, forests, chamber music; children and lifestyles. Learn about the ideas, values, and mittees, as well as four terms as clerk. He was born welcome. Box 222 Tidioute, PA 16351. (814) 484-7130. perspectives that are shaping a new world. $18/6 issues plus FREE Guide to Overseas Opportunities. Sample in Boston, Mass., he graduated from Oberlin Col­ Montego Bay-Unity Hall. Stunning view. Bed and lege, received a master's degree from the Univer­ $4.50. Transitions Abroad magazine, Box 344-3888, breakfast accommodation with single Quaker woman. Cou­ Amherst, MA 01004-0344. sity of Pennsylvania, and a doctorate from Syra­ ple or two women to share room. Hot and cold water. Con­ cuse University. He taught mathematics at West­ tact Alice Rhodd, Radio Waves, Montego Bay, Jamaica. town, Earlham College, and Russell Sage College. Hawaii-Island of Kauai. Cozy housekeeping cottages. For Sale Raised in the Congregational Church, he was a con­ Peace, palms, privacy. $75/2 nightly. 147 Royal Drive, scientious objector during World War II and served Kapaa, HI 96746. (808) 822-2321. Biblical Greek. Easy, non-academic way. Send for five­ in Civilian Public Service Units, where he became The Berkshires, Maasachusetts. Baldwin Hill Farm Bed hour videotape seminar, 224-page textbook and catalog. & Breakfast. Box 125, RD3, Great Barrington, MA 01230, $29.95. Greek Bible Institute, 547-A N.W. Coast Street, drawn to Friends. He joined Syracuse (N.Y.) (413) 528-4092. A Friends Victorian farm homestead of 450 Newport, OR 97365. (503) 265-2170. Meeting in 1952. He participated in efforts to build acres on a Berkshire mountaintop. Spectacular views all Cape Cod. Historic, Martha Hoxie quarter-house. Near a more peaceful world throughout his life. He was around with warm hospitality and full country breakfasts. Sandwich Friends Meeting. Write: H. VonLaue, Box 576, a member of the Fellowship of Reconciliation, War Close to golf, skiing, concerts, drama, museums, shops, West Dover, VT 05356; (802) 464-3929. trails, and restaurants. Open all year. Pool, hiking, maps Resisters League, and Amnesty International. He Mid-East Peace Fleece. Felt ball kits-Jewish, Palestinian, and menus. had a special concern for those who suffered for and Maine wools with directions to make 30 2" balls; NYC-Greenwich Village Bed & Breakfast. Walk io 15th conscience's sake, and he attended trials of peo­ background information on Jewish/Arab cooperation. Ideal Street Meeting. 1-4 people; children welcome. (Two cats for class project. $12.00 plus $2.50 s&h. Peace Fleece yarn ple arrested for civil disobedience. His dependable, in house.) Reservations: (212) 924-6520. conscientious, gentle spirit was treasured by NYC midtown B&B bargainl Charming, one-bedroom Albany Friends Meeting. He is survived by his apartments of your own in historic, Eastside neighborhood. wife, Margaret; two sons, Stephen and Philip; two $70-$125 double, plus $15 per additional guest. From sim­ daughters, Marcia and Jennifer; and a newborn ple to sublime. (212) 228-4645. MOVING? grandson. A homely base In the heart of London? Short-, medium-, and long-term accommodation available with excellent Please let us know 8 weeks in sOil-Genevieve Soft, 97, on Oct. 25, 1991. She was whole-food meals. Also meeting rooms for workshops, lec­ a member of Minneapolis (Minn.) Meeting and tures, and conferences. Contact: Quaker International Cen­ advance. Send us your address previously of Lansdowne (Pa.) Meeting, with her tre, 1 Byng Place, London WC1E 7JH; Tel: 071-387 5648. label if possible. Otherwise, be sure husband, Guy Solt, who died in 1976. They were Simple low-cost lodging for individuals and groups. to include your name and old zip married in 1957 while he was working for the Seminar planning available. Quaker center on Capitol Hill. code as well as your new address. AFSC. She is remembered by Friends as a capti­ William Penn House, 515 E. Capitol St. SE, Washington, DC 20003. (202) 543-5560. vating Sunday school teacher, an accomplished pi­ Friends Journal London? Stay at the Penn Club, Bedford Place, London . 1501 Cherry St., Phila., PA 19102 anist, and a gracious woman with long-lasting and WC1B 5JH. Friendly atmosphere. Central ·for Friends loyal friendships. She is survived by cousins, a House, West End, concerts, theater, British Museum, (215) 241-7277 nephew, and her stepson and his family. university, and excursions. Telephone: 071-636-4718.

30 September 1992 FRIENDS JOURNAL sample card, $2.00. Joanna B. Sadler, 1235 Red Run Rd. , in their own lives in a Friends (Quaker) boarding high school Stevens, PA 17578. Buckingham Friends Sc hool is seeking a Principal to in southern New Hampshire. We emphasize experiential begin July, 1993. BFS is a 198-year-old, co-educational, education, striving for innovative and challenging aca­ semi-rural, day school with 175 students in grades K-8. For demics while working with consensus and equality regard· Who are Quakers? New Video! VHS, 27 more information, or an application form, write: Search less of age. Teenagers live on campus in faculty homes. min., by Claire Simon. Lively, informative, Committee, BFS, Box 158, Lahaska, PA 18931. Applica­ The school is based on simplicity, honesty, the peaceful for outreach and education. $26.50 plus tion deadline, October 17, 1992. $3.00 postage. Quaker Video, P.O. Box resolution of conflict, the dignity of physical labor, mutual 92, Maplewood, NJ 07040. Head of School: Friends School in Detroit seeks a new trust and respect, and care for the earth. Admissions: The Head to begin July, 1993. FSD serves 120 students, pre-K Meeting School, Rindge, NH 03461 . (603) 899-3366. through grade 8, who reflect Detroit's cultural, religious, Friends Journal on tape! Seven FJ articles on spiritual racial, and economic diversity. Send resumes by October Junior high boarding school for grades 7, 8, 9. Small, growth and self-realization are being produced on a 30, 1992 to the Head Search Committee, Friends School 90-minute audio cassette tape, available Sept. 11 . Special in Detroit, 1100 St. Aubin Boulevard, Detroit, Ml 48207. academic classes, challenging outdoor experiences, price for this experiment: $8. 75, includes postage and community service, daily work projects in a small, car­ handling. Send check and mailing address to FJ. ing, community environment. Arthur Morgan School, Hockessin Friends Pre-School seeks head teacher 1901 Hannah Branch Ad., Burnsville, NC 28714; (704) starting summer of 1993. The preschool (ages three­ 675-4262. Opportunities live), 46 enrollment, under the care of Hockessin Friends Consider a Costa Rican study tour. February 4-15, 1993. Meeting, Hockessin, Delaware, was established in 1962. St ratford Friends School provides a warm, supportive, Call or write Roy Joe and Ruth Stuckey, 1182 Hornbeam We maintain three classes, a five-day morning class and ungraded setting for children ages 5 to 13 who learn dif­ Road, Sabina, OH 45169. Phone: (513) 584·2900. two three-day morning classes. Current staff consists of ferently. Small classes and an enriched curriculum answer three teachers and one assistant. The head teacher Craft Consignment Store looking for quality, hand-crafted the needs of the whole child. An at-risk program for 5-year­ would be expected to teach one class and direct the items; especially dolls, animals and quilted items. All sizes, oids is available. Information: Stratford Friends School, 5 school. Applicants should have a firm grounding in all costs, all quantities. Send photo, description and cost Llandillo Road, Havertown, PA 19083. (215) 446-3144. Quaker tenets, experience in teaching and/or parenting, to: Emma Jean, P.O. Box 554, Meetinghouse Road, A value-centered school for learning disabled elementary and a broad background in developmental theories of Ambler, PA 19002..()554. (215) 628-2087. students. Small, remedial classes; qualified staff serving early childhood education. Send letters of application or Philadelphia and northern suburbs. The Quaker School at nomination including a statement of your philosophy of Horsham, 318 Meeting House Road, Horsham, PA 19044. Visit Guatemala, " land of eternal spring and eternal early childhood education to Richard Bernard, Clerk, (215) 674·2875. tyranny." Study tours in January, February, and April Hockessin Friends Pre-School Committee, 521 Cabot led by Quaker anthropologist with 30 years experience Drive, Hockessin, DE 19707. Application deadline: in Guatemala. Write: Robert Hinshaw, 5603 Rockhill November 1, 1992. Services Offered Road, Kansas City, MO 64110. Electrical Contractor. Ae-:sid-:e- n-t:-ia71-an- d-:-co- m_ m_e-rc-,ia-l-:in_s_t_alc-la­ Sharing Our Lives: A Children's Global Connection, an tion and repairs. (Phila., Pa., suburbs.) Call Paul Teitman: alive, on-going project of The Quaker U.S./USSR Commit· (215) 663-0279. Personals tee, presently involving 10 elementary schools in the U.S. and 10 in Russia who have been cultivating connections L oans are available for building or improving Friends Single Booklovers gets cultured, single, widowed, or between each other through letters, gifts, photographs, meetinghouses, schools, and related facilities. We are divorced persons acquainted. Nationwide, run by Friends. visits, and special projects, needs a volunteer facilitator. Friends helping Friends to growl For information contact Established 1970. Write Box 117, Gradyville, PA 19039, or The program is entering its third year and has boundless Katheryn E. Williams, Friends Extension Corporation, 101 call (215) 358·5049. possibilities. The children and the school communities are Quaker Hill Drive, Richmond, IN 47374. Phone: (317) 962-7573. (Affiliated with Friends United Meeting.) Classical Music Lovers' Exchange-Nationwide link be­ deeply affected by heart-felt connections and we seek to tween unattached music lovers. 1 (800) 233-CMLS, Box 31, further enrich the program and to deepen and sustain their Painting Contractor. Conscientious work at Friendly Pelham, NY 10803. experiences. Contact Nadya Spassenko at (914) 297-2850. prices. Wallpaper removal, drywall repairs. Main Line, Western Yearty Meeting seeks General Superintendent. Philadelphia, and western suburbs. Michael O'Neill, (215) Western's superintendent serves as support staff for a 978.0843. Concerned Singles Newsletter links compatible singles variety of committees and boards, supervises a small of­ Personalized meditation tapes. Quaker hypnotherapistl who care about peace, social justice, and the environ­ lice, visits area and monthly meetings, and represents the Reiki practitioner. Please send description of problem. ment. National and international membership. All ages. Yearly Meeting among wider Friends ecumenical circles. $25.00. Joy Weaver, Tranquility. Box 14, E. Islip, NY 11730. Since 1984. Free sample: Box 555-F, Stockbridge, MA Particular expertise is required in supervising and caring 01262. for pastors as well as nurturing and developing local Quaker Genealogy- Discover your Quaker ancestors meetings. Western Yearly Meeting (FUM meetings in through prompt, professional research. Ann W. Upton, western Indiana and eastern Illinois) is one of the most Positions Vacant 1406 Fox Place, West Chester, PA 19382. diverse groups of Quakers. The person we are looking for Associate Secretary for program position. Philadelphia must be a Friend able to provide leadership to people from Yearly Meeting invites applications to the newly created a broad variety of theological perspectives. Anticipated Quaker Universalist Fellowship is a fellowship of seekers staff position of Associate Secretary lor Program. This ad· starting date is July 1, 1993. Send resume and request ap­ wishing to enrich and expand Friends' perspectives. We ministrative staff position will provide communication, plication blank from Kay Record, Search Committee Clerk, meet, publish, and correspond to share thoughts, insights, facilitation, and nurture of staff and programs of the Educa­ 5610 W. Hanna Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46241 . (317) and information. We seek to follow the promptings of the tion & Care of Members and the Testimonies & Concerns 856-5825. Deadline for applications is October 1, 1992. Spirit. Inquiries welcome! Write QUF, Box 201 AD 1, sections of PYM. Membership in the Religious Society of Landenberg, PA 19350. Friends is required and commitment to Quaker principles Rentals Retreats Wedding Certificates, birth testimonials, poetry, gifts all and practices is essential. Demonstrated management, & done in beautiful calligraphy and watercolor illumination. organizational, budgetary, and problem-solving skills are Brooksville, Florida, home for lease. Beautiful, spacious, Book early for spring weddings. Write or call Leslie Mitchell, required, along with an ability to communicate clearly and comfortable 3 bdrm., 3 bthrm. Huge trees, garden, pool. 2840 Bristol Rd., Bensalem, PA 19020, (215) 752-5554. work enthusiastically in a supportive way with a wide variety 45 minutes from Gull. $850/month. (813) 371-7343. of programs, social issues, and people of differing backgrounds and approaches. Salary is offered in the $32 Socially Responsible In vesting to $39 M range, depending on experience. Application Retirement Living Using client-specified social criteria, I screen in­ vestments. I use a financial planning approach to port­ deadline is October 1, 1992. For full job description and Foxdale Village, a Quaker lif&-care community. Thoughtful· folio management by identifying individual objectives and additional information, please contact the General ly designed cottages complemented by attractive dining designing an investment strategy. I work with individuals Secretary of Philadelphia Yearly Meeting, 1515 Cherry St., facilities, auditorium, library, and full medical protection. Philadelphia, PA 19102. (215) 241 -7211. and business. Call: Sacha Millstone; Ferris, Baker Watts; Setting is a wonderful combination of rural and university member NYSE, SIPC. (202) 429·3632 in Washington, environment. Entry fees from $38,000-$120,000; monthly Full-time nurse: R.N. with three years experience in mental D.C., area, or (800) 227..()..:..30.::...:...:8..:... ______J health, community health, and supervisory role preferred. fees from $1 ,11().$2,040. 500 East Marylyn Avenue, Depart· B.S. in nursing and Mass. license required. Applicant will ment F, State College, PA 16801 . Telephone: (BOO) work independently within clinical department at psychiatric 253-4951 . General Contractor. Repairs or alterations on old or rehabilitation community and live on premises of 60Q.acre The Harned. Lovely old house and carriage house on quiet, historical buildings. Storm and fire damage restored. John farm in Berkshires. Salary negotiable; all benefits, room and residential, tree-fined street south of Media, Pa. Meals File, 1147 Bloomdale Ad., Philadelphia, PA 19115. (215) board. Send resume to: Human Resource Director, Gould served in main house. Short walk to train. Eleven units. 505 464-2207. Farm, Monterey, MA 01245. Glenwood Avenue, Moylan, PA 19065. (215) 566-4624. Moving to North Carolina? Maybe David Brown, a Quaker real estate broker, can help. Contact him at 1208 Pinewood Dr., Greensboro, NC 27410. (919) 294-2095. Goshen School seeks Head starting summer 1993. Schools The pre-school through grade 5, 185 enrollment, is under Family Relations Committee's Coun seling Service the care of Goshen Monthly Meeting. Applicants should United Friends School: coed; K-6; emphasizing integrated, (PYM) provides confidential professional counseling to in­ developmentally appropriate curriculum, including whole have a firm grounding in Quaker tenets, experience in dividuals, couples in most geographic areas of Philadelphia language and manipulative math; serving upper Bucks teaching, administration. Send letters of application or Yearly Meeting. All counselors are Quakers. All Friends, nomination to: Search Committee, Goshen Friends County. 20 South 10th Street, Quakertown, PA 18951 . (215) regular attenders, and employees of Friends organizations 538-1733. School, 814 N. Chester Road, West Chester, PA 19380. are eligible. Sliding fees. Further information or brochure­ Application deadline: November 7. The Meeting School celebrates the transition from youth contact Arlene Kelly, 1501 Cherry St., Philadelphia, PA to adulthood by encouraging students to make decisions 19102. (215) 988-0140.

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