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A men and, 424 premature ejaculation and, 323 AAMFT (American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy), 438, 441 sex and, 404–405, 418 AAPC (American Association of Pastoral AGLP (Association of Gay and Lesbian Counselors), 441 Psychiatrists), 442 AASECT (American Association of Sexuality AIDS (acquired immunodeficiency syndrome), 100, Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), 307–309 437, 442 alcohol, losing your virginity and, 165 abortion alprostadil, 337 about, 123–125 Alzheimer’s disease, 295 legal issues and, 375–376 Amazon (website), 443 abstinence, 11 American Association for Marriage and Family acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS), 100, Therapy (AAMFT), 438, 441 307–309 American Association of Pastoral Counselors acrosome, 33 (AAPC), 441 Adam & Eve (website), 443 American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), addictive behavior, 362–363 437, 442 adolescence, 131, 237 American Board of Sexology (website), 438, 442 adoption, 123 American Cancer Society (website), 444 adultery, 258, 380 American Mental Health Counselors Association adulthood (AMHCA), 441 evolving into, 130–131 American Psychiatric Association (website), 441 masturbation during, 238–239 American Psychological Association (APA), 442 adventitia, 45 AMHCA (American Mental Health Counselors afterglow, basking in the, 415–416 Association), 441 afterplay ampulla, 196 about, 205–206 anal sex defined, 145 about, 135, 188–189 importance of, 206–207 orgasms from, 197 sharing the moment, 207–209 during pregnancy, 192 techniques for, 209 COPYRIGHTEDanonymity, MATERIAL of online chatting, 251 age of consent, 368–369 anorgasmic, 348 age shock, 74 antibiotics, Pill and, 108 The Age of Love (film), 282 antidepressants, 328 aging antiretroviral drugs (ART), 308 adjusting to changes caused by, 430 anus, 41 dating and, 73–75 APA (American Psychological Association), 442 erectile dysfunction (ED) and, 330–331 appearance, importance of, 414

Index 445

0004411691.INDD 445 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM apps OrthoEvra patch, 110 consent, 87 Pill, 106–109 dating, 63–65 single-use internal condom, 115–116 areola, 55 sterilization, 101–106 aroused, 16 tubal ligation, 103–104 ART (antiretroviral drugs), 308 vaginal contraceptive film, 116–117 The Art of Arousal (Westheimer), 149, 378 vasectomy, 105–106 Association of Gay and Lesbian Psychiatrists bisexual, 261–262, 265 (AGLP), 442 blue balls, 420 Astroglide, 240 body image aural sex, 254–255 aging and, 281 as a female sexual problem, 354–355 B body mapping, 152–154 babies body-to-body rubbing, for lesbians, 273 adopting out, 123 boredom, fighting, 360–361 keeping unplanned, 122–123 breadcrumbing, 66 making, 11–15 breast cancer, checking for, 56–57 bad breath, 149–150 breastfeeding, 55 Bartholin’s glands, 42–43 breasts basal body temperature method, 118 about, 55 battery-operated vibrators, 242 breastfeeding, 55 bedroom door lock, 94 checking for breast cancer, 56–57 benching, 66 enhanced, 57–58 benign prostatic hypertrophy, 37 lesbians and, 272 bi-curious, 265 during pregnancy, 192 birth control options sexual pleasure and, 55–56 cervical cap, 112 breath, bad, 149–150 condoms, 82–83, 112–116, 188, 272, 313, 324, Browne, Joy (author) 393–394, 410 Dating For Dummies, 3rd Edition, 67, 133 creams, 116 butterflies, 242 Depo-Provera, 50, 109 diaphragm, 112 C failure of, 122–126 calendar method, 117–118 foams, 116 candidiasis, 301–302 future of, 111 Capellini, Steve (author) gels, 116 Massage For Dummies, 2nd Edition, 152 history of, 101–102 Caverject injections, 287, 337 hormones in, 50 CDC (Centers for Disease Control and Implanon, 50, 108 Prevention), 442 intrauterine device (IUD), 50, 110–111 celebrities, 421–422 myths about, 119–122 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention natural family planning, 117–119 (CDC), 442 NuvaRing, 109–110 cervical cap, 112

446 Sex For Dummies

0004411691.INDD 446 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM cervical mucus method, 118–119 clitoral hood, 42, 43 cervix, 13, 47–48 clitoral orgasms, 197 cesarean section (c-section), 15 clitoris chancre, 311 about, 41, 43, 415 Cheat Sheet (website), 4 for lesbians, 273 cheating, 258 penis size and, 44 chemistry, dating and, 60–61 stimulating the, 155–156 childbirth, loss of libido and, 3fter Clone-a-Willy (website), 443 childhood, masturbation during, 236–237 clothing, foreplay and, 148 children. see also sex education; teenagers cock rings, 216 about, 368 cocktails, of drugs, 308 age of consent, 368–369 coil-operated vibrators, 242 allowing to explore their bodies, 382–383 combination pills, 107 answering questions from, 384–385 Coming Home (film), 287 changing diapers, 418 coming out, 267–270 commitment and, 90–91 commitment. see marriage giving the speech about strangers, 391–392 communication incest, 369–371 benefits of improved, 86 legal marriage age, 369 remembering, 92–93 nonverbal communication with, 394–395 compromises, 296 playing doctor, 383 computers, as sex objects, 249–251 protecting from cyberporn, 388–391 Condomania, 114 protecting from media, 387–388 Condomania (website), 443 resources for protecting, 444 condoms sex education, 371–372 about, 82–83, 112–115 teaching about privacy, 391 during anal sex, 188, 272 warning signs of sexual abuse, 385–386 effectiveness of, 313 chivalry, 413–414 premature ejaculation and, 324 chlamydia, 302, 412 single-user internal, 115–116 choosing for teenagers, 393–394 partners, 164 using, 410 protection, 166–167 consent sex therapists, 438–439 about, 85–86, 87 chromosome, 11 age of, 368–369 Cialis, 336 contraception circle jerks, 240, 271–272 about, 20, 82–83, 97–98 circumcision birth control options, 100–119 about, 26, 27 cervical cap, 112 AIDS and, 309 condoms, 82–83, 112–116, 188, 272, 313, 324, premature ejaculation and, 323 393–394, 410 cisgender, 262 creams, 116 cleanliness, for oral sex, 227–228 Depo-Provera, 50, 109 climacteric, 52–53 diaphragm, 112

Index 447

0004411691.INDD 447 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM contraception (continued) cuissade position, 182 failure of, 122–126 cunnilingus, 135, 157, 225–227 foams, 116 curiosity, 247–248 future of, 111 cyberporn gels, 116 protecting children from, 388–391 history of, 101–102 teenagers and, 140–141 Implanon, 50, 109 cybersex intrauterine device (IUD), 50, 110–111 about, 248–249 law and, 373–374 aural sex, 254–255 myths about, 119–122 computers as sex objects, 249–251 natural family planning, 117–119 multiple partners, 258–260 NuvaRing, 109–110 print, 257–258 OrthoEvra patch, 110 radio, 255–256 Pill, 106–109 safety and, 252–253 preventing pregnancy, 98–100 sexting, 251–254 preventing STDs, 98 television, 256–257 single-use internal condom, 115–116 sterilization, 101–106 tubal ligation, 103–104 D date rape, teenagers and, 138 vaginal contraceptive film, 116–117 dating vasectomy, 105–106 about, 59–60 controlling erections, 170 aging and, 73–75 conversation apps for, 63–65 art of, 62–63 art of conversation, 62–63 meaningful, 358–359 chemistry of, 60–61 cooties, 310 finding partners, 67–73 corona, 24 overcoming loneliness, 62–63 corpus cavernosa, 24 prevalence of, 60 corpus spongiosum, 24 rejection, 65–67 costs romance, 61 condoms, 116 sex on a first date, 76, 425 Depo-Provera, 109 smartphone use, 62 Pill, 108 teenagers and, 133–134 counseling resources, 441–442 tips for, 75–76 Cowper’s fluid, 13, 228, 272 Dating For Dummies, 3rd Edition (Browne), 67, 133 Cowper’s gland, 47 D&C (dilation and curettage), 53, 124 crabs, 310 Deep Throat (film), 224 creams, 116 delayed ejaculation, 338–339 creativity dental dams, 230–231 in dating, 76 deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), 33 in sex life, 213–214 Depo-Provera, 50, 109 crus, 29 depression, loss of libido and, 352–353 cryptorchidism, 31

448 Sex For Dummies

0004411691.INDD 448 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM descent, of testicles, 31 E desire, lack of, 341 ECPs (emergency contraception pills), 124–125 detumescence, 24 ED, 279–280. see erectile dysfunction (ED) diabetes, 291–293 Eddelman, Keith (author) Diabetes For Dummies, 5th Edition (Rubin), 293 Pregnancy For Dummies, 4th Edition, 15 diapers, changing, 418 Edex, 337 diaphragm, 112 effort, making the extra, 212–213 dilation and curettage (D&C), 53, 124 egg, fertilization of by sperm, 11–15 dilation and evacuation, 124 Eichenwald, Theresa (author) dildos, 243, 244, 273 Menopause For Dummies, 2nd Edition, 54–55, 277 disabilities Eisenstadt v. Baird, 373 about, 283 ejaculation compromises, 296 about, 13 diabetes, 291–293 defined, 196 drugs, 292–293 drugs affecting, 292–293 finding partners, 285–286 premature, 170–171, 280, 322–328, 417 heart attacks, 288–290 retarded, 197 keeping relationships alive, 286–288 retrograde, 202 long-term care facilities, 295–296 swallowing, 228–229 mental, 293–295 embryo, 13 occurring later in life, 290–291 emergency contraception pills (ECPs), resources for, 444 124–125 sexuality and, 284 emotional effects, of foreplay, 146–147 Disabled World (website), 444 empty-nest syndrome, 364–365 diseases, spreading, law and, 374–375 endometrial biopsy, 53 The Division of Disability Services and Educational endometrium, 14, 48 Resources (website), 444 epididymis, 33 DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid), 33 epididymitis, 37, 302 doctor, playing, 383 erectile dysfunction (ED) Dodson, Betty (doctor), 243 about, 38, 279–280, 328 doggy style, 179–183 aging and, 330–331 ’doormats,’ dating and, 68–69 diabetes and, 291–292 double standards, 82 downsides of therapies, 338 douching, 120 injection therapy, 337 Dr. Ruth Says icon, 4 managing short-term, 332–334 Dr. Ruth Talks To Kids (Westheimer), 129 monitoring, 334 Dr. Ruth’s Pregnancy Guide for Couples morning cure, 331 (Westheimer), 190 oral medications, 335–336 ’dreamers.’ dating and, 68 penile implants, 336–337 drug paraphernalia, 318 precursor to, 329–330 drugs, affecting sex life, 292–293 stuff technique, 331 Duenwald, Mary (author) vacuum constriction, 337–338 Pregnancy For Dummies, 4th Edition, 15

Index 449

0004411691.INDD 449 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM erections orgasms, 343–351 about, 29–30 tightness, 168–169, 351 controlling, 170 females drugs affecting, 293 afterplay and, 208–209 monitoring, 334 aging and, 276–277 erogenous zones, 152–154 erotica for, 251 Eroscillator, 240, 241 first time for, 167–169 erotica, 251, 378–379 masturbation for, 240–241 estrogen, 48, 130 oral sex for, 225–227 etiology of homosexuality, 262 orgasms in, 196–199 Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex But Were sexual practices among lesbians, 272–273 Afraid to Ask (film), 324 what they wish men knew about sex, 413–418 Eve’s Garden (website), 215, 443 female-superior position, 177–179 Excitement Phase, of sexual response cycle, 17 fertilization, 49 eyes, kissing and, 150 fetus, 15 films, renting, 256–257 F fimbria, 13 facial, 229 finding faking orgasms, 349–351 partners, 67–73 fallopian tubes, 48–49 sex therapists, 437–438 family, coming out to, 267–268 flat moment, 347 family planning resources, 443 flexibility, of vagina, 45 Famvir, 306 flowers, sending, 147 fantasizing, during masturbation, 244–246 foams, 116 FBI Parent’s Guide to Internet Safety (website), 444 follicle, 12 fellatio, 135, 158–159, 223–225, 272 follicle stimulating hormone (FSH), 53, 130 female condom, 115–116 foreplay female organs. see also menstruation about, 145 about, 39–41 extending, 145–146 breasts, 55–58 female organs and, 155–157 cervix, 47–48 with genitals, 154–159 fallopian tubes, 48–49 getting physical, 149–154 foreplay and, 155–157 linking emotional to physical, 146–147 hymen, 44–45 male organs and, 158–159 ovaries, 48–49 moving on from, 159 uterus, 48 setting the stage, 147–149 vagina, 45–47 variety and, 160 vulva, 41–44 foreshortening, 28 female sexual problems foreskin, 26–27 about, 343 French kissing, 150 body image, 354–355 Freud, Sigmund (psychiatrist), 198 loss of libido, 352–354 Friday, Nancy (author), 245 mastectomy, 355–356 friends, coming out to, 267–268

450 Sex For Dummies

0004411691.INDD 450 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM friendships, teenagers and, 131–133 hard-on, 223 frottage, 272 hCG hormone, 14 FSH (follicle stimulating hormone), 53, 130 Healthfinder.gov (website), 444 full laparotomy, 104 heart attacks, sex after, 288–290 heat, being in, 12 heavy petting. see outercourse G Hemingway, Ernest (writer), 198 games, playing, 96 hepatitis B, 304, 412 Gardasil vaccine, 303 herpes, 305–307 Gay Liberation Movement, 267 herpes simplex virus (HSV), 305 gay marriage, 377 hetero, 261 gay men, sexual practices among, 271–272 HIV (human immunodeficiency virus), 100, 307–309 gels, 116 holding hands, 80 genital warts, 302–303 Homemade Sex Toys (website), 443 genitals, foreplay and, 154–159 homo, 261 germ cells, 32 homosexuality ghosting, 66 about, 261–262 giving birth, 15 legal issues and, 376–377 giving permission, 434 honesty, with sex therapists, 432 GLAAD (website), 442 hormone replacement therapy (HRT) glans, 24–26, 43, 323 about, 54–55 gonorrhea, 304, 412 for vaginal dryness, 277 Good Vibrations (website), 215, 443 hormones. see also specific hormones government, sexual orientation and, 263–264 in birth control pills, 50 Grafenberg, Ernest (gynecologist), 199–200 contraception and, 106–111 Griswold v. Connecticut, 373 produced in testicles, 31 group masturbation, 271–272 horny. see aroused group sex, 259–260 hot flashes, 53 G-spot, 199–200 hot tub, 152 “gushing” phenomenon, 200 HPV (human papillomavirus), 302–303, 412 gynecologists, 35 HRT (hormone replacement therapy), 54–55 HSV (herpes simplex virus), 305 H human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), hair, on genitalia, 42 100, 307–309 Hall, Nancy (author) human papillomavirus (HPV), 302–303, 412 Menopause For Dummies, 2nd Edition, 54–55, 277 humor, dating and, 63 hand job, 239 hydraulic prosthesis, 337 hand-held showerheads, for masturbation, 244 hymen hands about, 42, 44–45 holding, 80 breaking the, 167–168 kissing and, 151 hysterectomy, 104

Index 451

0004411691.INDD 451 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM I as a sensory experience, 15–16 teenagers and, 134–138 icons, explained, 4 International Society for Sexual Medicine immature orgasm, 198 (website), 442 Implanon birth control, 50, 108 intimacy, in marriage, 95 impotence. see erectile dysfunction (ED) intrauterine device (IUD), 50, 110–111 ’in the closet,’ 267 incest, 369–371 Inderal, 290 J infertility, male, 34–35 J/O Clubs, 271–272 inhibitions, overcoming, 222–223 Johnson, Virginia (doctor), 16, 17–18 injection therapy, 337 joint replacements, 290–291 injuries, to testicles, 35 Jones, Marcia (author) instincts, trusting your, 408 Menopause For Dummies, 2nd Edition, 54–55, 277 intercourse. see also specific topics about, 9–10, 135 K anal, 135, 188–189, 192, 197 Kaplan, Helen Singer (doctor), 16, 17, 18, 326–327 aural, 254–255 Kegel, Arnold (doctor), 198 cybersex (see cybersex) Kegel exercises, 45, 198–199 dumb things people believe about, 399–405 kidney disease, 292 on a first date, 76 KidShield (website), 444 for the first time, 161–172 kinky sex, 416 first time for men, 170–171 kissing, 149–151, 429 first time for women, 167–169 kinky sex, 416 making it special, 163–167 L making the decision to have, 21 labia majora, 41 marriage and, 95 labia minora, 41, 42 mature, 275–282 lactates, 55 menstruation and, 51–52 lactobacillus, 192 with multiple partners, 258–260 lap dancing, 184–185 naturalness of, 434 laporoscope, 104 with a new partner, 171–172 Lawrence v. Texas, 376 oral (see oral sex) legal issues oral-penile sex, 272 abortion, 375–376 orgasm during, 201 about, 367 penile-anal sex, 272 adultery, 380 phone sex, 249, 254–255 age of consent, 368–369 postpartum sex, 193 children, 368–372 reasons for having it, 10–16 contraception, 373–374 recreational sex, 99 homosexuality and, 376–377 for reproduction, 11–15 incest, 369–371 rushing into, 162–163 legal marriage age, 369 safer sex/safe sex, 312, 407–412 pornography and, 378–379

452 Sex For Dummies

0004411691.INDD 452 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM prostitution and, 377–378 male organs rape, 372–373 foreplay and, 158–159 sex, 370 penis, 23–30 sex education, 371–372 prostate gland, 37–38 against spreading diseases, 374–375 testicles, 31–37 Lesbian,Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer male sexual problems (LGBTQ), 262 about, 321–322 lesbians, sexual practices among, 272–273 delayed ejaculation, 338–339 Levitra, 336 erectile dysfunction (ED) (See erectile LGBTQ (Lesbian,Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, dysfunction (ED)) Queer), 262 lack of desire, 341 LH (luteinizing hormone), 130 Peyronie’s disease, 30, 223, 339–340 libido premature ejaculation (See premature defined, 17, 323 ejaculation) loss of, 217–218, 352–354 priapism, 335, 339 Loestrin 24, 109 males loneliness, overcoming, 62–63 afterplay and, 207–208 long-distance relationships, 361 aging and, 277–280 long-term care facilities, 295–296 first time for, 170–171 love masturbation for, 239–240 introducing sex into relationships when you’re oral sex for, 223–225, 227 in, 79–80 orgasms in, 196–199 marriage and, 90 sexual practices among gay, 271–272 not hurrying, 414–415 what they wish women knew about sex, ’love-at-first-sight syndrome,’ dating and, 71 419–424 low sperm count, 34 Malinowski, Bronislaw (anthropologist), 175 lubricants mammogram, 57 during anal sex, 272 marriage for clitoris, 156 about, 89 condoms and, 114 children and, 90–91 vaginal, 46–47 gay, 377 for vaginal dryness, 276 legal age of, 369 luteinizing hormone (LH), 130 love and, 90 Lybrel birth control pill, 50 putting first, 91 lying, when dating, 74 between same-sex partners, 274 lymphocytes, 308 sex before, 135–137 strengthening your, 91–96 massage, 151–152 M Massage For Dummies, 2nd Edition (Capellini Making Marriage Work For Dummies (Simring and van Welden), 152 and Simring), 93 mastectomy, 355–356 male infertility, 34–35 Masters, William (doctor), 16, 17–18 male menopause, 329–330

Index 453

0004411691.INDD 453 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM masturbation pregnancy and, 121 about, 19–20, 233–235 premenstrual syndrome (PMS), 51 during adolescence, 237 sex and, 51–52 during adulthood, 238–239 mental illness, 293–295 age and, 236–239 mini-laparotomy, 104 during childhood, 236–237 minimizing risks, 319 defined, 16, 233 mini-pills, 107 fantasizing during, 244–246 miscarriage, 123–124 frequency of, 235 missionary position group, 271–272 about, 174–177 methods of, 239–244 during pregnancy, 190 during pregnancy, 192 premature ejaculation and, 325 premature ejaculation and, 325 mittelschmerz, 12, 119 self-, 189 mixed signals, 419–420 teenagers and, 139 Molluscum contagiosum, 309 mature orgasm, 198 moment of inevitability, 326–327 mature sex. see also aging mons pubis, 41 about, 275 mons veneris, 41 female changes, 276–277 mood, setting the, 426 male changes, 277–280 morning cure, for erectile dysfunction (ED), 331 psychological changes, 280–282 mucosa, 45 meatus, 24 multiple orgasms, 201–202 media, protecting children from, 387–388 myths, about birth control, 119–122 media sexuality education, 255–256 meiosis, 33–34 men. see males N NAMBLA (North American Man Boy Love ménage à trois, 259 Association), 368 menopause National Center for Missing and Exploited about, 52, 276 Children (website), 388, 444 downsides of, 277 National Gay and Lesbian Task Force easing into, 52–54 (website), 442 hormone replacement therapy (HRT), 54–55 National Runaway Safeline (website), 444 loss of libido and, 353 natural family planning, 12, 117–119 vaginal dryness, 276–277 negotiations of the sexes, 86 Menopause For Dummies, 2nd Edition (Jones, nipples Eichenwald and Hall), 54–55, 277 about, 55–56 menstrual cycle, 47 during pregnancy, 192 menstruation nitroglycerin, 290 about, 49–50 no, learning to say, 407 advantages of, 50 “No means No,” 77–78 defined, 14 non-hydraulic prostheses, 336 menopause and, 277 nonoxynol-9, 116–117, 188 oral sex during, 229 nonverbal communication, with children, 394–395

454 Sex For Dummies

0004411691.INDD 454 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM North American Man Boy Love Association reasons for having, 204 (NAMBLA), 368 responding to, 203–204 NuvaRing, 108–110 spectatoring, 202–203 types of, 199–202 O vibrators for, 346 oceanic position, 185–186 orgy, 259 online chatting, 253–254 OrthoEvra patch, 110 on-the-job discrimination, 269 osteoporosis, 54 operative laparoscopy, 104 outercourse, 135, 137–138, 412 opportunistic microbe, 308 outing, 270 oral medications, for erectile dysfunction (ED), ovaries, 12, 48–49 335–336 overcoming oral sex inhibitions, 222–223 about, 135, 187, 221 loneliness, 62–63 aging and, 279 ovulation, 47 cleanliness, 227–228 cunnilingus, 225–227 P fellatio, 223–225, 227 pain, testicular, 37 for lesbians, 273 pansexuals, 261–262 during menstruation, 229 ParaGuard IUD, 124 orgasms during, 191 Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays overcoming inhibitions, 222–223 (PFLAG), 442 positions for, 229–230 partners pregnancy and, 226 about, 18 safety during, 230–231 choosing, 164 swallowing, 228–229 comparing, 403 tiredness from, 229 disabilities and, 285–286 virginity and, 222 finding, 67–73 oral-penile sex, 272 finding out their needs, 426 orbiting, 66 limiting your number of, 408 Orgasm Phase, of sexual response cycle, 18 long-term, 19 orgasms for love, 19 about, 195–196 for lust, 19 achieving, 199–202 protecting yourself and your, 427 from anal sex, 197 satisfying, 429–430 difficulty having, 343–351 sex with multiple, 258–260 drugs affecting, 293 sex with new, 171–172 faking, 349–351 for visiting sex therapists, 433 handling your own, 345–346 PC (pubococcygeus) muscle, 196, 327 during intercourse, 201 peer pressure, teenagers and, 140 male and female differences, 196–199 pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), 309–310 during oral sex, 191 penile implants, 287, 336–337 pregnancy and, 120–121, 190 penile-anal sex, 272

Index 455

0004411691.INDD 455 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM penis female-superior position, 177–179 about, 23–24 lap dancing, 184–185 circumcision, 26, 27, 309, 323 missionary position, 174–177 erections, 29–30 oceanic position, 185–186 glans, 24–27 oral sex, 187 orgasms and, 197 for oral sex, 229–230 sexual performance and, 27–29 pregnancy and, 189–193 size of, 27–29 premature ejaculation and different, 325 structures of, 24 scissors position, 183–184 perimenopause, 53 self-masturbation, 189 perineum, 41 69 position, 230 Peyronie’s disease, 30, 223, 339–340 spooning, 182–183 PFLAG (Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians standing canine, 181–182 and Gays), 442 standing up, 186–187 phallic-shaped vibrators, 242 positive thinking, 75 phone, turning off your, 94 postpartum sex, 193 phone sex, 249, 254–255 Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP), 309 physical, getting, 149–154 pregnancy physical changes abortion, 123–125 during pregnancy, 192 anal sex during, 192 teenagers, 130 decisions about, 125–126 physical effects, of foreplay, 146–147 early signs of, 15 physical problems, ruling out, 433–434 emergency contraception pills (ECPs), 124–125 PID (pelvic inflammatory disease), 309–310 masturbation during, 192 Pill, 106–109 menopause and, 277 Plan B pill, 124 menstruation and, 121 Planned Parenthood, 126, 443 miscarriage, 123–124 Plateau Phase, of sexual response cycle, 17–18 oral sex and, 226 playing doctor, 383 orgasms and, 120–121, 190 plug-in vibrators, 241–242 preventing, 98–100 PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder), 51 sex and, 189–193 PMS (premenstrual syndrome), 51 unwanted, 122–123 pornguide (website), 251 Pregnancy For Dummies, 4th Edition (Stone, pornography Eddelman and Duenwald), 15 about, 249–251 Prelude vibrator, 242 addicted to, 362–363 premature ejaculation legal issues and, 378–379 about, 170–171, 280, 322–323, 417 realism of, 401 age and, 323 positions, sexual circumcision and, 323 about, 173–174 exercising control, 327–328 anal sex, 188–189 getting help, 328 cuissade position, 182 home remedies for, 324–325 doggy style, 179–183 premonitory sensation, 326–327

456 Sex For Dummies

0004411691.INDD 456 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD), 51 Rekindling Romance For Dummies premenstrual syndrome (PMS), 51 (Westheimer), 211 premonitory sensation, 159, 326–327, 435 relationships PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis), 309 about, 357 prepuce, 42 addictive behavior, 362–363 preventing alone time, 358–361 pregnancy, 98–100 developing before having sex, 410–411 STDs, 98 empty-nest syndrome, 364–365 priapism, 335, 339 long-distance relationships, 361 priapistic erections, 337 priorities, 365 print porn, 257–258 religion, sexual orientation and, 263–264 priority, making sex a, 365 reproduction, sex for, 11–15 privacy Resolution Phase, of sexual response cycle, 18 protecting your, 141–142 resources teaching children about, 391 for counseling, 441–442 prodrome, 305 for disabilities, 444 progesterone, 48, 130 for family planning, 443 prostate, 34 for protecting children, 444 prostate gland for sex therapists, 442 about, 37 for sex toys, 443 checking prostate, 37–38 for sexual assault, 444 treating prostate, 38 for sexual orientation, 442 prostitution, 377–378 for sexuality, 443 Protecting Children in Cyberspace (website), 444 for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), 442 protection, choosing, 166–167 for support groups, 444 PSA hormone, 38 responsible behavior, sexual orientation and, 264 psychogenic erections, 158, 278, 329–330 retarded ejaculation, 197 psychological changes retracted foreskin, 26 aging and, 280–282 retrograde ejaculation, 202 teenagers, 131 rimming, 273 psychosexual therapy, 434 risks, minimizing, 319 pubic lice, 310 risky behavior, 411 pubococcygeus (PC) muscle, 196, 327 Roe v. Wade, 375 ’pulling out,’ to prevent pregnancy, 121–122 romance, 61 romantic dinner, foreplay and, 148–149 RU-486 (mifepristone), 124–125 R rubber dolls, 240 radio, 255–256 Rubin, Alan L. (author) rape, 372–373 Diabetes For Dummies, 5th Edition, 293 recreational sex, 99 Ruskin, Asa (doctor), 283 refractory period, 18 ruts, 427–428 rejection, while dating, 65–67

Index 457

0004411691.INDD 457 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM S cybersex (see cybersex) dumb things people believe about, 399–405 safekids (website), 389 on a first date, 76 safer sex/safe sex for the first time, 161–172 defined, 312 first time for men, 170–171 discussing upfront, 409–410 first time for women, 167–169 tips for, 407–412 kinky, 416 safety making it special, 163–167 condoms, 82–83 making the decision to have, 21 contraception, 82–83 marriage and, 95 cybersex and, 252–253 mature, 275–282 discussing sexual history/disease, 83–84 menstruation and, 51–52 oral sex and, 230–231 with multiple partners, 258–260 sexually transmitted infection (STI), 82 naturalness of, 434 when introducing sex into relationships, 82–84 with a new partner, 171–172 saline abortion, 124 oral (see oral sex) same-sex relationships oral-penile, 272 about, 261 orgasm during, 201 determining your orientation, 266 penile-anal, 272 marriage between same-sex partners, 274 phone, 249, 254–255 revealing your sexual identity, 266–271 postpartum, 193 sexual identity, 261–265 reasons for having it, 10–16 sexual practices among gay men, 271–272 recreational, 99 sexual practices among lesbians, 272–273 for reproduction, 11–15 SASH (Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health), 443 rushing into, 162–163 scheduling sex dates, 359–360 safer sex/safe sex, 312, 407–412 scissors position, 183–184 as a sensory experience, 15–16 Seasonale birth control pill, 50, 109 teenagers and, 134–138 secondary sex characteristics, 237 Sex Addicts Anonymous ISO of SAA (website), 443 Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs), 328 Sex and Morality (Westheimer), 371 self-masturbation, 189 sex dates, scheduling, 359–360 Semans, James (urologist), 326–327 sex education semen, 34 about, 371–372, 381 seminal vesicles, 34 accidental voyeur, 386–387 seminiferous tubules, 32 allowing children to explore their bodies, 382–383 sensate focus exercises, 436–437 answering children’s questions, 384–385 sense of touch, 428–429 giving the speech about strangers, 391–392 senses, dulled, 409 nonverbal messages, 394–395 sensory experience, sex as a, 15–16 for older children, 393–394 sex. see also specific topics playing doctor, 383 about, 9–10, 135 protecting children from cyberporn, 388–391 anal, 135, 188–189, 192, 197 protecting children from media, 387–388 aural, 254–255 warning signs of sexual abuse, 385–386

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0004411691.INDD 458 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM “sex flush,” 17 sexual positions sex forums, 254 about, 173–174 sex life anal sex, 188–189 about, 211 cuissade position, 182 adjustments to over time, 20–21 doggy style, 179–183 loss of interest in, 217–218 female-superior position, 177–179 sex toys, 214–217 lap dancing, 184–185 variety in your, 212–214 missionary position, 174–177 sex shop, 214 oceanic position, 185–186 sex surrogates, 436 oral sex, 187 sex therapists for oral sex, 229–230 about, 428, 431 pregnancy and, 189–193 choosing, 438–439 premature ejaculation and different, 325 finding, 437–438 scissors position, 183–184 homework from, 435–437 self-masturbation, 189 resources for, 442 69 position, 230 sexual status exam, 431–434 spooning, 182–183 sex toys standing canine, 181–182 about, 214–216, 318 standing up, 186–187 resources for, 443 sexual practices sexting, 251–254 among gay men, 271–272 sexual abuse, warning signs of, 385–386 among lesbians, 272–273 sexual assault, resources for, 444 sexual response cycle, 16–18 Sexual Assault Hotline (website), 444 sexual status exam, 431–434 sexual desire, drugs affecting, 292 sexuality Sexual Desire Phase, of sexual response disabilities and, 284 cycle, 17 resources for, 443 sexual history/disease, discussing, 83–84 Sexuality Information and Education Council of sexual identity the United States (SIECUS), 385, 387, 443 about, 261–262 sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) revealing your, 266–271 about, 299–301, 411–412 sexual orientation, 262–263 acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS), sexual intercourse, 13 307–309 Sexual Myth icon, 4 candidiasis, 301–302 sexual orientation chlamydia, 302 defined, 262 genital warts, 302–303 determinants of, 262–263 gonorrhea, 304 determining your, 266 hepatitis B, 304 resources for, 442 herpes, 305–307 teenagers and, 139–140 human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), 307–309 sexual performance human papillomavirus (HPV), 302–303 circumcision and, 27 Molluscum contagiosum, 309 size of penis and, 27–29 oral sex and, 230–231

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0004411691.INDD 459 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) (continued) stage,setting for foreplay, 147–149 pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), 309–310 standing canine position, 181–182 prevalence of, 299 standing up position, 186–187 preventing, 98 start-stop technique, 326–327 public lice, 310 statutory rape, 368 resources for, 442 Stendra, 336 syphilis, 310–311 sterilization methods, 101–106 trichomoniasis, 311 STI (sexually transmitted infection), 82, 97, 299 vaginitis, 312 Stone, Joanne (author) sexually transmitted infection (STI), 82, 97, 299 Pregnancy For Dummies, 4th Edition, 15 short-term impotence, managing, 332–334 stop-start technique, 435 side-by-side position, 183–184 Straight Spouse Network (website), 442 SIECUS (Sexuality Information and Education strengthening marriages, 91–96 Council of the United States), 385, 387, 443 stuff technique, for erectile dysfunction (ED), 331 significant other, 282 stuffing, 23 Simring, Steven (author) support, for same-sex relationships, Making Marriage Work For Dummies, 93 270–271 Simring, Sue Klavans (author) support groups, resources for, 444 Making Marriage Work For Dummies, 93 swallowing ejaculate, 228–229 simultaneous orgasm, 201 swinging, 259–260 The Sinclair Institute (website), 443 sympto-thermal method, 119 single-user internal condom, 115–116 syphilis, 310–311, 412 69 position, 230 size, of penis, 27–29, 44 sleep habits, 333–334 T tact, 422 “slide” technique, 324 taking-her-from-behind position, 179–183 smartphones, dating and, 62 teamwork, 420–421 smegma, 27, 43, 228 Technical Stuff icon, 4 snake oil, 324 teenagers. see also children Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH), 443 in the 21st century, 128–129 sodomy, 376 about, 127–128 sonogram, 191 checking online profiles of, 390 spectatoring, 202–203 common concerns, 131–141 sperm evolution into adulthood, 130–131 fertilizing egg with, 11–15 protecting privacy, 141–142 producing, 31–35 sex education for, 393–394 spermatozoa, 32 television, 256–257 spermatozoon, 33 testicles spermicides, 101, 116 about, 31 spooning, 182–183 blue balls, 420 squeeze technique, 327 descent of, 31 SSRIs (Selective Serotonin Reuptake hormones, 31 Inhibitors), 328 injury to, 35

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0004411691.INDD 460 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM sperm production, 31–35 V testicular cancer risk, 35–37 vacuum aspiration, 124 testicular cancer vacuum constriction, 337–338 about, 35 vagina checking for lumps, 35–37 about, 45 pain, 37 life changes and, 47 testicular torsion, 37 lubricating, 46–47 testosterone, 17, 31, 130, 281 structure of, 45–46 Therapist Directory (website), 438 tightening of, 168–169 ticklishness, 154 vaginal contraceptive film (VCF), tightness of vagina, 168–169, 351 116–117 time, sharing with partners, 93–94 vaginal dryness, 276–277 ’time-wasters,’ dating and, 69–70 vaginal infections, 223 timing, for introducing sex into relationships, vaginal orgasms, 197, 198 79–82 vaginal procedures, 104 Tip icon, 4 vaginismus, 168–169, 351 tiredness, after oral sex, 229 vaginitis, 312 tongue, for foreplay, 156–157 Valtrex, 306 touch, sense of, 428–429 van Welden, Michel (author) transgender, 261–262, 265 Massage For Dummies, 2nd Edition, 152 transsexual, 265 vas deferens, 33, 34, 105 transurethral resection of the prostate (TURP), 38 vasectomy, 101, 105–106 treating prostate, 38 vasocongestion, 46, 189 Treponema pallidum, 310–311 VCF (vaginal contraceptive film), trichomoniasis, 311 116–117 tubal ligation, 101, 103–104 vestibular bulbs, 42 TURP (transurethral resection of the prostate), 38 vestibule, 42 Viagra, 279, 287, 335–336 U vibrating eggs, 242 vibrators, 157, 216, 240–242, 346 United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB), 443 viral load, 309 urethra, 34, 42 virginity urinary tract infections, 44 losing your, 165–166 urologist, visiting a, 332–333 oral sex and, 222 U.S. Department of Justice (website), 392 virgins U.S. Department of Justice National Sex Offender introducing sex into relationships, Public Registry (website), 444 84–85 Us-TOO (International Support Network for teenagers and, 134–135 Prostate Cancer Survivors) (website), 444 visual turn-ons, 420 uterus voyeurism, 271, 386–387 about, 48 vulva defined, 13 about, 41–44 fertilized eggs in, 49 defined, 41

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0004411691.INDD 461 Trim size: 7.375 in × 9.25 in June 13, 2019 11:56 AM W Planned Parenthood, 443 pornguide, 251 walks, going for, 93 Protecting Children in Cyberspace, 444 wandering eyes, 417 safekids, 389 Warning icon, 4 Sex Addicts Anonymous ISO of SAA, 443 water masturbation, 243–244 for sex toys, 215 WebMD (website), 442 Sexual Assault Hotline, 444 websites Sexuality Information and Education Council of Adam & Eve, 443 the United States (SIECUS), 443 Amazon, 443 The Sinclair Institute, 443 American Association for Marriage and Family Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health Therapy (AAMFT), 438, 441 (SASH), 443 American Association of Pastoral Counselors Straight Spouse Network, 442 (AAPC), 441 Therapist Directory, 438 American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), 437, 442 United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB), 443 American Board of Sexology, 438, 442 U.S. Department of Justice, 392 American Cancer Society, 444 U.S. Department of Justice National Sex Offender American Mental Health Counserlors Association Public Registry, 444 (AMHCA), 441 Us-TOO (International Support Network for American Psychiatric Association, 441 Prostate Cancer Survivors), 444 American Psychological Association (APA), 442 WebMD, 442 Association of Gay and Lesbian Psychiatrists Westheimer, Ruth (author) (AGLP), 442 The Art of Arousal, 149, 378 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), 442 Dr. Ruth Talks To Kids, 129 Cheat Sheet, 4 Dr. Ruth’s Pregnancy Guide for Couples, 190 Clone-a-Willy, 443 Rekindling Romance For Dummies, 211 Condomania, 114, 443 Sex and Morality, 371 Disabled World, 444 wife swapping, 259–260 The Division of Disability Services and women. see females Educational Resources, 444 Eve’s Garden, 215, 443 FBI Parent’s Guide to Internet Safety, 444 X X-rated movies, 216–217 GLAAD, 442 Good Vibrations, 215, 443 Healthfinder.gov, 444 Y Homemade Sex Toys, 443 Yaz, 109 International Society for Sexual Medicine, 442 yeast infections, 223 KidShield, 444 National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, 388, 444 Z National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, 442 zona pellucida, 13 National Runaway Safeline, 444 Zovirax, 306 Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and zygote, 11 Gays (PFLAG), 442

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