Connecting the Dots Jorge Cruise and the three available choices in life. BY LAURIE HARTT

72 | MALIBU TIMES MAGAZINE | #MALIBUTIMESMAG e’s a celebrity trainer and wonderful boys, wrote more books and health coach to the stars. began to train countless celebrities. He’s authored more than 30 “I [even] had an elevator in my house books and can boast about … I was pretty much living the life,” Cruise being a No. 1 Times said. Hbestselling author. And those who know But he wasn’t happy and felt him describe him as kind and authentic. completely empty and alone. Eventually, Malibu’s Jorge Cruise has been making he and his wife separated. his mark on the transformation industry Then came the question that changed for more than 20 years, working with everything: “During the separation, I had stars like Harvey, an employee ask, when are you going to and Khloe Kardashian. come out?” he said. His most recent book, “The 3 After the employee emailed him a few Choices,” released in June 2017, shares articles about sexual orientation, “I knew his personal story as a backdrop for how what I was,” Cruise said. “I’d been trying readers can find a life they love through to be straight my whole life, and I tried three simple choices. everything to make it work.” Growing up in the early ’70s Cruise and his wife divorced, and, under the care of a domineering while expecting to feel free, it was by Latin grandmother, Cruise was raised far “the worst part of my whole life,” he with the expectation to be a strong admitted. “I was 39 … getting divorced The Three Choices Catholic man. Belts and broomsticks and gay ... I wasn’t happy; I was completely Excerpts from Cruise’s book: were disciplinarians of choice; plates broken inside.” were expected to be cleared—and Be Imperfectly You heterosexuality was the only acceptable ast forward seven years and the story n You are not perfect—we are all option. The lifestyle forced upon him Fhas a happy ending. human, we are full of mistakes. since childhood pervaded past college, “I married my soulmate [Sam] a year n Create a “happy code”—a and Cruise found himself overweight ago, and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been,” technique for creating a series of and unfulfilled. It wasn’t until after he Cruise said. very powerful custom affirmations attended a Tony Robbins seminar that In his new book, he describes the that will empower you in many situations. things began to change. Inspired, Cruise “three things I did to keep myself from asked himself, “What would I do if I going crazy” during the dark period of n Don’t believe everything you couldn’t fail?” his life. He said there are three choices to think—there are ways to stop He remembers his answer clearly: “I make to have a fulfilled life. Through the negative self-talk. knew I wanted to be healthy in one way lessons in his book and his own personal Don’t Hold Your Breath or another. That was my first decision as journey, Cruise hopes readers come an adult.” away with the knowledge that everything n Go from panic to power using your breath. Cruise began working for Robbins happens for a reason. as a sales field rep, and about a year “Today is all we have,” he said. n Breathing is the easiest way to later his mother passed. To honor his “Whether you’ve been through trauma or be mindful. mother’s Latin heritage, he changed his a loss or a new beginning, every change n Breathe with techniques for name from George to Jorge—the “second is hard. We just have to find the lesson. specific purposes (i.e., instant most authentic thing I ever did,” Cruise Eventually you can connect those dots, energizer, breathing to calm down). recalled. and the three choices can get you through Move to Improve After working for Robbins, Cruise it ... in a way that empowers you.” broke out on his own and made his first Cruise and his husband, Sam, have n Movement (not necessarily appearance on Oprah in 2001 as a trainer. been official residents of Malibu for traditional exercise) is essential “I asked her for advice,” he said, “and about four months now, but have long for mental and physical health. she said ‘keep it simple.’ That gave me loved the area. n Understand what motivates you the confidence to write my first book: “Malibu is a really special place,” Cruise and how to find your motivation. ‘8 Minutes in the Morning.’” noted. “It represents a place of healing.” n n Learn how to transform From there, the calls just started movement into a true habit. coming, and the rest was history ... or so jorgecruise.com; he thought. He married his wife, had two Facebook/Instagram/: @jorgecruise

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