Christian Ethics Today A Journal of Christian Ethics Volume 20, Number 4 Aggregate Issue 88 Fall 2012 “The voice of one crying out in the wilderness, ‘Make straight the way of the Lord’” Isaiah 40:3; John 1:23 Special Issue: Proceedings From A [Baptist] Conference On Sexuality and Covenant Why A Special Issue On Sexuality and Covenant? Patrick Anderson, editor .....................2 How the Conference Came To Be Rick Bennett ..................................................................4 The Presentations What’s Going On While We Were Avoiding the Subject Jenell Williams Paris ................5 What Prevents One From Being Baptized? Guy Sayles ...................................................10 How Do We Discern God’s Voice? Sharyn Dowd ..............................................................15 Baptists and Sexuality: An Augustinian View Coleman Fannin .....................................18 What Do Christians Think God Thinks About Sex? Melissa Browning .........................23 What Are the Ties That Bind? David Gushee ...................................................................27 My Parents Divorced When I Left Home Emily Holladay ..............................................30 Covenant As A Desireable Way of Life Jennfer Crumpton ...............................................34 Reflections of a Single Christian African-American Woman Roz Nichols ....................37 What Same-Sex Relationships Teach Churches Cody Sanders .......................................43 Senior Adult Sexuality Rhonda Abbott Blevins ...................................................................48 Human Trafficking Lindsay Comstock .................................................................................52 From Fear To Joy: Our Congregation’s Journey Wendell Griffin ....................................54 Congregations Lead the Way LeDayne Polaski .................................................................58 The Presenters .................................................................................................................... 62 Why a Special Issue on Sexuality and Covenant? By Patrick Anderson, editor his special issue of Christian Ethics politically charged, too controversial, body’s mind. Even in high theological TToday is focused on a single issue. too this and too that. discussions we tend to keep it either We present here the proceedings of “A The conference itself, as the papers simple or esoteric, attempting to avoid Baptist Conference on Sexuality and herein show, focused not only on titil- direct engagement with the topics. Covenant” convened at First Baptist lating issues surrounding sexuality, but During the Vietnam War and the Church of Decatur, Georgia, in April the deeper matters of covenant between Civil Rights Movement, while I was of 2012. This is the first time our jour- followers of Jesus. These papers express a student at Southwestern Baptist nal has chosen to publish papers from deep feelings, serious reflections, Theological Seminary in Fort Worth, a conference, and a fair question may important interpretations of spiritual- I remember the chosen ethics topics be, “Why?” ity and covenant. When I learned that of professorial and chapel speaker pre- I know something about the sensi- the original sponsors of the confer- sentations to be whether girls should tivity some readers of Christian Ethics ence had decided not to pursue the wear off-the-shoulder gowns during Today have concerning the subject publication of the papers, I ask for and GA coronations and the propriety or of sexuality. I published an article in received permission to do so on behalf impropriety of glossolalia. This, while 2011 by a 93-year-old retired Southern of Christian Ethics Today. the planes could be heard flying over- Baptist minister, Bruce Lowe, which I consulted with the board of direc- head from Carswell Air Force Base expressed a view of Scripture in which tors of Christian Ethics Today and taking materiel to Guam to support he claimed that denouncements of the war and returning with body bags homosexuality were not the proper containing the remains of the fallen, interpretation of certain verses gen- These papers express and while American cities burned with erally understood to be denounce- deep feelings, serious racial hatred. ments of homosexuality. In the very Indeed, even today we tend to shy next issue I published a rejoinder by reflections, important away from thorny issues either by Howard Batson, a prominent active interpretations of lumping them in categories which are Baptist pastor who took strong excep- easily bifurcated or by choosing not tion to Brother Lowe’s interpretation spirituality and covenant. to address them at all in the name of of the passages. Some readers praised being non-divisive. Abortion, capital the inclusion of the articles, others punishment, and same-sex marriage objected, a few even cancelled their together we discussed whether, how, are usually presented as point-coun- “subscriptions.” and when to publish the papers. The terpoint questions, for instance. This So, as editor of this journal, I final conclusion was to publish the makes the issues seem simpler than thought long and hard about publish- papers as they were presented, as a spe- they are by limiting discussion to “are ing these papers. I attended the confer- cial volume of “proceedings” from the you fer it or agin’ it?” debates. The role ence and participated in the discussions conference. In addition we will pub- of women in the church or choices of as a small group convener, even though lish the papers along with some other denominational affiliations are avoided I was not involved in the planning materials in book form. We concluded by many congregations in an attempt for the conference and in some ways that it would be wrong for us to ignore to avoid divisiveness, as though the had been lukewarm about the event. the subject of sexuality in a journal decision to avoid the subjects is not in But during the conference, it became called Christian Ethics Today, that our itself divisive. very clear to me that what was hap- purpose statement calls us to address This is where many of us Jesus- pening was not only historic, but also all issues of importance to followers followers and congregations have left very important to the church. Prior of Jesus, that although other ethics issues regarding human sexuality. The speculation and news stories wrongly journals or organizations avoid the subject scares some of us to death, claimed the conference was focused on subject we would do this to fill a void unless or until we are confronted with homosexuality exclusively, or was a first in Baptist ethics literature. the issues within our own families or step in the total affirmation of diverse Sometimes we followers of Jesus have friendship circles. So, we avoid the sub- sexual behaviors and lifestyles as nor- a tendency to talk about everything ject. Out of sight and out of mind or mative for the Christian. Some observ- except what is important or, better head in the sand, that’s us. “Are you fer ers believed that any discussions about said, we tend to talk about everything it or agin’ it?” some ask. “Let’s not talk sexuality were toxic for the church, too with each other except what is on every- about divisive subjects like that,” oth- 2 • fall 2012 • christian ethics today ers say. If someone wishes to bring up ity in the church until many of our in marriage, public shame and embar- subjects regarding sexuality for serious organists began to die of AIDS. Rather rassment heaped on sexual sinners, dis- consideration within our communi- than whispers of sexual orientation, I appointment with political and moral ties of faith, often it is like trying to remember church debates about wheth- leaders who have publicly been exposed argue with a deaf person. Arguing deaf er divorced men could serve as deacons. because of irresponsible, inappropri- persons get agitated and use dramatic Those were the days. ate sex. Baptist churches have long sign language, dramatic facial expres- In today’s church, grown-up Sunday dealt with ministers who fall and the sions, lots of shaking of heads and School class members frequently tell Catholic Church deals with pedophilia. pointing of fingers, strong gestures of of granddaughters or nephews who Can anyone claim that the church is strong opinions. But when one of the have “come out” and are living in lov- not a proper venue for serious discus- disputants wishes to make the last final ing relationships with partners of the sion about all topics related to sexuality? point, or just shut off the conversation, same gender. Many of our children The conclusion of Christian Ethics all she has to do is finish her gestured and grandchildren see no impediment Today is that we must include sexuality statement and then shut her eyes and to ordained ministry merely because among the moral and ethical issues that turn away. It is very frustrating to the of sexual orientation. Sexual activity are of concern to contemporary Christians, other. It is impossible to converse with outside of marriage is a norm even to the church, and to society. That is our a deaf person who will not open his or among many of the most conservative mission. Sexuality is not the only such her eyes. Christians, young and old. Research issue, but it is one. But just because we close our eyes on the sexual activity of kids signing Therefore, we are publishing the to issues regarding sexuality and shut pledges of “true