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2 C ONTENTS The First Presidency: Gordon B. Hinckley, Thomas S. Monson, James E. Faust Quorum of the Twelve: Boyd K. Packer, L. Tom Perry, David B. Haight, Neal A. Words of the Prophet: Sister Connection 26 Maxwell, Russell M. Nelson, Your Family 4 Janet Thomas Dallin H. Oaks, M. Russell Ballard, Joseph B. Wirthlin, President Gordon B. Hinckley Sisters in Columbus, Ohio, reveal the Richard G. Scott, Robert D. The greatest joys of life are secrets of staying close. Hales, Jeffrey R. Holland, Henry B. Eyring found in happy family relationships. . Editor: Of All Things 32 Dennis B. Neuenschwander Idea List: Advisers: J. Kent Jolley, W. Rolfe Kerr, Stephen A. West Plan Now for Then 7 Message on a Bottle 34 Managing Director: David Frischknecht Kristi McLane Elder Ronald L. Loveland Editorial Director: Here are some tips for getting your A mother’s love is the best message. Victor D. Cave Graphics Director: own family tree off to a great start. Allan R. Loyborg

Ask Yourself 36 Managing Editor: My Fathers 8 How do you feel about your family? Richard M. Romney Assistant Managing Editors: Rosemarie Deppe Here are a few questions to ask yourself. Vivian Paulsen, I found great father figures in my Marvin K. Gardner Editorial Staff: ward and stake. The Extra Smile 39 Collette Nebeker Aune, Arianne B. Cope, Susan Barrett, Caroline Benzley, Ryan Carr, Shanna All I Asked For 11 Tagalong 40 Ghaznavi, Jenifer L. Greenwood, Carrie Kasten, Melynn Minson, Becca Aisen BreighAn Olsen Sally J. Odekirk, Adam C. Olson, I needed to know that I was loved. Spending time with a pesky little sister Roger Terry, Janet Thomas turned out better than expected. Managing Art Director: M. M. Kawasaki Our Greatest Happiness 12 Art Director: Scott Van Kampen Every modern-day prophet has Joseph’s Family 42 Design and Production Staff: Fay P. Andrus, Brent Christison, taught the importance of families. Elder M. Russell Ballard Colleen Hinckley, Randall Pixton

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YYOOUURR F M L FHereAA are the spiritualM blueprintsII forL a happyYY home.

We have learning to gain, work to do, BY PRESIDENT GORDON B. HINCKLEY service to give. We are here with a marvelous inheritance, a divine endow- ment. How different this world would be if ou will know no greater every person realized that all of his actions happiness than that found in your have eternal consequences. How much home (from Ensign, May 1998, 51). more satisfying our years may be if in YY our accumulation of knowledge, in our The greatest joys of life are experienced relationships with others, in our business in happy family relationships. The most resident affairs, in our courtship and marriage, poignant of sorrows, the most bleak and Gordon B. and in our family rearing, we recognize forlorn feelings of misery come of unhappy P Hinckley that we form each day the stuff of which family life (from Ensign, Aug. 1992, 5). teachesP us how eternity is made (from Ensign, Jan. 1994, 4). to strengthen our The Stuff of Which Eternity Is Made families and Strengthen the Family You’re in Now The family is divine. It was instituted by our increase our Let us continually work to strengthen Heavenly Father. It encompasses the most happiness at home. our families. . . . Let us not take one sacred of all relationships. Only through its another for granted, but let us constantly organization can the purposes of the Lord be work to nurture a spirit of love and respect fulfilled (from Ensign, Jan. 1994, 5). for each other. We must guard against

4 ILLUSTRATED BY DILLEEN MARSH faultfinding, anger, and disrespect children. This, more than soft one for another (from Ensign, May carpets, more than lovely draperies, 1999, 88–89). more than cleverly balanced color If we would look for the virtues in schemes, is the thing that will make one another and not the vices, there for better and more beautiful homes would be much more of happiness (from Ensign, Feb. 1991, 2). in the homes of our people. There In such a home, parents are loved would be far less of divorce, much and not dreaded; they are appreci- less of infidelity, much less of anger ated and not feared. And children and rancor and quarreling. There are regarded as gifts of the Lord, to would be more of forgiveness, more be cared for, nurtured, encouraged, of love, more of peace, more of and directed. happiness. This is as the Lord would There may be an occasional have it (from Ensign, May 1998, 51). disagreement; there may be small quarrels. But if there is prayer in the Pray Together to Stay Together family, and love, and consideration, I feel satisfied that there is no there will be a residue of affection adequate substitute for the morning that will bind forever and a loyalty and evening practice of kneeling that will always guide (from Ensign, together—father, mother, and Jan. 1994, 5).

NEW ERA JUNE 2003 5 Aim for a Temple Marriage A Strong Family Is Worth the Work Every normal young man desires a wife. Every normal I believe in the family where there is a husband who young woman desires a husband. Be worthy of the mate regards his companion as his greatest asset and treats you choose. Respect him or her. Give encouragement her accordingly; where there is a wife who looks upon to him or her. Love your companion with all your heart. her husband as her anchor and strength, her comfort and This will be the most important decision of your life, security; where there are children who look to mother the individual whom you marry. and father with respect and gratitude; where there are There is no substitute for marrying in the . It is parents who look upon those children as blessings and the only place under the heavens where marriage can be find a great and serious and wonderful challenge in their solemnized for eternity. Don’t cheat yourself. Don’t cheat nurture and rearing. The cultivation of such a home your companion. Don’t shortchange your lives. Marry the requires effort and energy, forgiveness and patience, right person in the right place at the right time. love and endurance and sacrifice; but it is worth all of Choose a companion of your own faith. You are much these and more (from Ensign, Aug. 1992, 5–6). more likely to be happy. Choose a companion you can When all is said and done, this is what the gospel always honor, you can always respect, one who will is about. The family is a creation of God. It is the basic complement you in your own life, one to whom you can creation. The way to strengthen the nation is to give your entire heart, your entire love, your entire strengthen the homes of the people (from Ensign, allegiance, your entire loyalty (from Ensign, Feb. 1999, 2). May 1998, 51). NE

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lder BY KRISTI MC LANE and pray for John H. help to know what EEGroberg of you can do to make the Seventy said, your family stronger. “We [came] to this ❦ Pray and prepare for a earth charged with a temple marriage. As you mission: to learn to love and prepare to go to the temple, serve one another. To best help us you will live life in a way that will accomplish this, God has placed us in help you be a better spouse and families, . . .” (Ensign, May 1982, 50). parent. Eventually, we will have families of our ❦ Interview your parents. Ask own—a big responsibility. Here are some them questions like, “What did suggestions to help you to prepare now: you to do prepare for a family? ❦ Read and gain a testimony of “The What would you do the same? What Family: A Proclamation to the World.” Along would you do differently?” with the scriptures, the proclamation is the ❦ Tu rn to the scriptures. Remember Nephi perfect guide to help us live in and prepare promised that if we “feast upon the words of to raise families. Christ; . . . the words of Christ will tell you ❦ Participate in your family’s activities now, all things what ye should do” (2 Nephi 32:3). especially family prayer, family home Have faith and feast upon His words. evening, and family scripture study. You can ❦ Look to examples of good families. In the help your family to establish these habits scriptures, in your extended family, or in through your faithfulness. your ward, you can find many examples of ❦ Attend special events that your family families who love each other and who are members are involved in. Support them in trying to live the gospel. NE their activities and spend time with them. Kristi McLane is a member of the BYU 61st Ward, University ❦ Pray for your family Second Stake. members,

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MMYYFathers Kind and caring leaders taught heavenly friend who loved me. So I focused wanted a father me what a father could be. on Jesus Christ and His love for me. I loved who loved me, Him because my Young Women leaders I who took care loved Him. I saw how happy they were when I of me, and who BY ROSEMARIE DEPPE they talked about Him. I tried hard to keep protected me. I was the commandments and do all that He missing that in my ost of our family’s struggles wanted me to do. home. But at church were because of my father. He When our youth group was planning to I found “fathers” MMwas angry and bitter, and our do baptisms for the dead, I wondered what it who, in the special world at home was a dark place. I was very would be like in my Heavenly Father’s house. times of my life, scared of him. Everything was uncertain and With great anticipation, I stepped inside filled that role. unpredictable when my father was around. the Los Angeles California Temple. I was I could feel darkness surrounding me, even overwhelmed at the feeling of peace there. at a young age. I felt so afraid and alone. It Nothing could have been more opposite was hard to be home. I wanted a father from my earthly home. I almost didn’t dare who loved me, who took care of me and breathe for fear the feeling would go away. protected me. But I felt none of those things But it was constant and calm. from my earthly father. I loved being in the temple. In His I sought refuge by going to church when- house, I did not need to be afraid. It was ever he would let me. I loved to be in the safe, calm, peaceful, and comforting. I chapel because it seemed like such a safe wanted to live there. Heavenly Father’s place. I was nervous, hesitant, and unsure house was full of love. I was so happy. about being close to my Heavenly Father I wanted to hold on to that feeling and because I wasn’t sure what He was really promised myself that I would be worthy like. I learned in church that I had another to come back to His house again.

ILLUSTRATIONS BY RICHARD HULL NEW ERA JUNE 2003 9 Through my Church and temple experiences, I learned I knew then that my Heavenly Father cared about me, too. that Heavenly Father is a loving father. He cares about me Another “father” who was placed in my life was a and is aware of my needs—both physical and spiritual. member of my stake presidency. President Merrill was Even though I lived with a father who didn’t follow God’s always at our stake dances, Young Women camps, and teachings, God placed others in my life to support me as a youth conferences. good father should. I had a wonderful bishop who always As I was preparing to leave for college, President Merrill took a minute to say hello and see how I was doing. Bishop felt I needed some fatherly advice before heading into the Hicken treated me the same way he did all the youth in our world. His voice was gentle and soothing. I could feel his ward. He held interviews with us, went to our activities, and concern. I knew he loved me. He told me he would go as had us in his home for firesides. He was loving, kind, and far as the Salt Lake Temple to attend my wedding. patient. I watched how he treated his wife and children, A few years later, I called my father to announce my and it helped me believe that my Heavenly Father was like engagement. He was cold and indifferent. Nothing had that. He was a happy man, full of life and love. I tried to live changed. I tried not to cry. I turned to my Heavenly Father better because he expected us to. in prayer, and the Spirit reminded me of President Merrill’s I was a late bloomer when it came to dating, and it promise. I wondered if he would remember what he seemed that when I got my first date, everyone knew about had told me several years before. Did he really mean it? it—even my bishop. The big day arrived and the young man I picked up the phone and dialed his number. President picked me up. While we were at a stoplight, someone very Merrill answered. I stumbled through telling him of my carefully bumped into the back of my date’s truck. As we engagement and asked if he remembered his promise to turned around to see who had done this, I saw a man me. “What temple are you getting married in?” he asked. marching up to the driver’s side of the truck. It was my “The Salt Lake Temple,” I answered. bishop! As my date rolled down his window, my bishop said, “Then I will be there,” he said. He drove 13 hours “That’s my girl you have in there and I want her in the snow to be there for me. When I walked home by 10 o’clock.” I don’t remember much into the sealing room with my future about that night except that I was home by husband, he was the first person I saw. 10:00. But I will never forget that I was He was my father that day! “his girl” and that he loved me Years later, these “fathers” continue to and cared about me. be a part of my life. Their callings and circumstances have changed, but they have not. They are constant in their faith, their testimonies, and their love and interest in me. From them I learned that I could trust my Heavenly Father. These great men were a link so that I could feel of my Heavenly Father’s love and concern for me.

Rosemarie Deppe is a member of the Jennings Lane Ward, Centerville Utah North Stake. H OW I KNOW AALLLL II AASSKKEEDD FFOORR

During a difficult time in my life, an answer That night I decided to give prayer a try. I knelt, from heaven was just and I just asked. I was on my knees for a few minutes and nothing happened. I wanted to know what I needed. so much that it seemed like something deep inside me was just begging for some love from BY BECCA AISEN Heavenly Father. At that moment I felt like someone was cradling me. My heart felt so few years ago I was having a rough time warm and so peaceful. I felt this huge weight in my life. One of my brothers was on a being lifted from my shoulders, and then I AAmission, another was at college, and, among heard a quiet whisper: “I love you so much.” other things, we found out my dad had terminal can- I started to bawl. I knew my Father in cer and wasn’t going to live very long. Heaven cared for me. I knew He loved me! That summer I went to Especially for Youth at I didn’t ask Him if the Church was true. in Provo, Utah. While I didn’t ask Him if the I was there I had a really bad attitude. I was true. All I asked for was love, and didn’t care about the gospel or the Church He gave it to me. As soon as He did, every- anymore. And I didn’t care about thing seemed to fall into place. I knew who Heavenly Father, because in my eyes I was. I knew the Book of Mormon was He had abandoned my family and me. true. I knew the gospel was true. During one of the talks at EFY, the Today I am so happy! My Father in speaker mentioned that Heavenly Father Heaven loves me! He loves me so much loved and cared for us very much. that He gave His Son to save me and everybody else. I was laughing inside, thinking, “Yeah, right, that’s He loves all of us. Christ loves us too, or He wouldn’t what you think.” Yet something inside me really wanted have suffered and died for us. I’m grateful for their love to know if Heavenly Father did love me and did care for for all of us. NE me. The speaker challenged us to ask Heavenly Father to Becca Aisen is a member of the Maryville Ward, Knoxville see if the Church was true. Tennessee Stake.

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ll of the modern-day prophets have ometimes we taught the importance of families. give the least AA They understood that our greatest SSto those who happiness in this life comes from our fami- should matter most lies. But to achieve this happiness, we have in our lives—our to work to strengthen our families each day. families. Here’s what Here are some suggestions from each of the the modern-day modern-day prophets on how to make your prophets have said family a happy one. to help us turn our hearts toward our KEEP AN ETERNAL PERSPECTIVE greatest joy. Joseph Smith (1805–1844) First President of the Church “A man filled with the love of God, is not content with blessing his family alone, but ranges through the whole world, anxious to bless the whole human race.”1

Harold B. Lee (1899–1973) Eleventh President of the Church “The most important of the Lord’s work you will ever do will be within the walls of your own homes.”2

Ezra Taft Benson (1899–1994) Thirteenth President of the Church “There can be no genuine happiness sep- arate and apart from the home. The sweetest influences and associations of life are there.”3

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Brigham Young

John Taylor

Wilford Woodruff

Lorenzo Snow

LATTER-DAY JOURNAL KEEPING, BY ANNE MARIE OBORN; PAINTINGS OF PRESIDENTS OF THE CHURCH BY UNKNOWN, JOHN WILLARD CLAWSON, NEW ERA JUNE 2003 13 A. WESTWOOD, H. E. PETERSON, AND LEWIS A. RAMSEY HONOR YOUR PARENTS READ SCRIPTURES TOGETHER Lorenzo Snow (1814–1901) Howard W. Hunter (1907–1995) Fifth President of the Church Fourteenth President of the Church “I would plead with you, my young “Families are greatly blessed when wise brethren and sisters, to honor your fathers fathers and mothers bring their children and your mothers, that your days may be about them, read from the pages of the long in the land which the Lord hath given scriptural library together, and then discuss to them and to you. Be obedient and loving freely the beautiful stories and thoughts Joseph F. Smith to them.”4 according to the understanding of all.”9

Spencer W. Kimball (1895–1985) COMMUNICATE WITH LOVE Twelfth President of the Church Brigham Young (1801–1877) “If we truly honor our parents as we are Second President of the Church commanded to do, we will seek to emulate “The greatest difficulty that exists in the their best characteristics and to fulfill their little bickerings and strifes of [families] . . . highest aspirations for us. Nothing we could arises from the want of rightly understand- give them materially would be more prized ing each other.”10 Heber J. Grant than our righteous living.”5 “Anger should never be permitted to rise in our bosoms, and words suggested by PARTICIPATE IN angry feelings should never be permitted FAMILY PRAYER to pass our lips.”11 John Taylor (1808–1887) Third President of the Church David O. McKay (1873–1970) “Do not forget to call upon the Lord in Ninth President of the Church your family circles, dedicating yourselves “We contribute to an ideal home by our and all you have to God every day of your character, by controlling our passions, our George Albert Smith lives; and seek to do right, and cultivate the temper, by guarding our speech, because spirit of union and love, and the peace and those things will make our homes what blessing of the Living God will be with us, they are.”12 and He will lead us in the paths of life.”6 Gordon B. Hinckley (1910–) Heber J. Grant (1856–1945) Fifteenth President of the Church Seventh President of the Church “There are good families everywhere. “I am convinced that one of the greatest But there are too many who are in trouble. things that can come into any home to This is a malady with a cure. The prescrip- David O. McKay cause the boys and girls in that home to tion is simple and wonderfully effective. It grow up in a love of God, and in a love of is love.”13 the gospel of Jesus Christ, is to have family prayer.”7

George Albert Smith (1870–1951) Eighth President of the Church “[Do] we want our homes to be happy[?] If we do, let them be the abiding place of Joseph Fielding Smith prayer, thanksgiving and gratitude.”8

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Spencer W. Kimball

LIVE FOR ETERNITY Joseph Fielding Smith (1876–1972) Wilford Woodruff (1807–1898) Tenth President of the Church Fourth President of the Church “The function of a Latter-day “We want the Latter-day Saints from this Saint home is to insure that every member time to trace their genealogies as far as they of the family works to create the climate can, and to be sealed to their fathers and and conditions in which all can grow toward Ezra Taft Benson mothers. Have children sealed to their par- perfection.”16 NE ents, and run this chain through as far as NOTES 14 you can get it.” 1.History of the Church, 4:227. 2.Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Harold B. Lee (2000), 134. Joseph F. Smith (1838–1918) 3.In Conference Report, Oct. 1947, 27. 4.Deseret Semi-Weekly News, 4 July 1901. Sixth President of the Church 5.“‘Hold Fast to the Iron Rod,’” Ensign, Nov. 1978, 6. “We are living for eternity and not merely 6.Teachings of Presidents of the Church: John Taylor (2001), 148. for the moment. Death does not part us 7.In Conference Report, Oct. 1923, 7. 8.In Conference Report, Apr. 1944, 32. from one another, if we have entered into 9.“Reading the Scriptures,” Ensign, Nov. 1979, 64. Howard W. Hunter sacred relationships with each other by 10.Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Brigham Young (1997), 175. virtue of the authority that God has revealed 11.Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Brigham Young, 174. to the children of men. Our relationships 12.In Conference Report, Oct. 1967, 149. are formed for eternity.”15 13.“Look to the Future,” Ensign, Nov. 1997, 69. 14.In James R. Clark, comp., Messages of the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter- day Saints, 6 vols. (1965–75), 3:256–57. 15.“General Conference of the ,” Relief Society Magazine, June 1917, 316. 16.“Message from the First Presidency,” Ensign, Jan. 1971, 1. Gordon B. Hinckley

PAINTING BY DEL PARSON; PAINTINGS OF PRESIDENTS OF THE CHURCH BY ALBERT E. SALZBRENNER, CHARLES J. FOX, LEE GREENE RICHARDS, NEW ERA JUNE 2003 15 ALVIN GITTINS, SHAUNA CLINGER, DAVID AHRNSBRAK, JUDITH MEHR, KNUD EDSBERG, WILLIAM F. WHITAKER, AND WILLIAM F. WHITAKER Q UESTIONS & A NSWERS Q&A QMy brother isolates& himself from the restA of the family. He spends most of his time with friends, and he never goes to church with us. How can I reach out to him?

Answers are intended for help and perspective, not as pronouncements of Church doctrine.

N E W E RA Respect the agency of R EADERS others. Forcing them to ehind this question lies the funda- follow the gospel path is I used to be the brother who mental issue of agency. Sometimes what Lucifer proposed in withdrew from the family. My when our loved ones stray from the sisters’ examples of service, B the premortal world. B love, and charity were some of gospel and the family, we feel so concerned that we may want to pressure or even Loving acts of service the many ways they showed me force them to return. But this is not only can build bridges that what I was missing. Tell your brother you impossible; it is contrary to the Lord’s plan. will allow for the return love and miss him. Those words are powerful When we try to compel someone to of one who is lost. from any family member. Elder Franco B. return to the gospel path, we are using the Ciammachilli, 20, South Africa Cape Town Mission Show through your strategy Lucifer proposed in the premortal actions and attitude that world to “redeem all mankind, that one soul Perhaps your brother is confused living the gospel makes shall not be lost” (Moses 4:1). Agency may about who he wants to be and you happy. seem like a difficult principle because it thinks he is satisfied with what

allows for bad choices and for grief and Be prayerful but be he is doing, even though he is pain. But forced obedience can never build patient. It takes time to searching. The best thing for you a godlike character; only obedience freely change. to do is pray diligently and search for chosen can lead to eternal life. answers in the scriptures. Then show him Understanding the need for agency, Involve every member how much you care. Try to spend time with however, does not mean there is nothing we in family activities. The him. Do good deeds for him. Even if he can do to try to bring back a lost brother or choice not to go to rejects your kindness, never give up. The sister. The parables of the lost sheep, the lost church shouldn’t be a Lord will bless you for your diligence. coin, and the prodigal son suggest there is choice not to be part of Stephanie O’Brien, 18, Wichita Falls Ward, Lawton much we can do (see Luke 15). First and the family. Oklahoma Stake

16 The way to help someone For more than six years I I know what it is like to like your brother who is isolated myself from my have a family member not helping himself is to family. I thought my isolate himself and not go fast and pray for him. The friends were more to church anymore. The best scripture for someone interesting, and going to way to respond is with who does not read the scriptures is church was not in my plans. Finally the pure love, just as Christ loves each of your example. Ask leaders and friends missionaries taught me about goals I us. You can reach out by sharing your who care about your brother for help. could set, about how to grow closer to testimony and telling him you love him. Sometimes a person outside the my family, and most of all about God. Pray for your family members and situation can see something you do not. They helped me understand that I yourself to have the strength to love Guerta Zwirtes, 20, Vitória Ward, Vitória have great importance in God’s eyes. and forgive. Alyssa Hansen, 17, Ridgefield Stake Sister Samantha Seiko, 23, Fiji Suva Mission Ward, Vancouver Washington West Stake

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always, we must love those who stray. Try to plan family activities your We must love them enough to serve them brother would enjoy. Take every selflessly and to reach out to them even opportunity to show him how when they withdraw from us. Selfless acts of much you love him. Pray for love given freely can build bridges between ll of us have guidance, and ask Heavenly straying souls and other family members. family Father to soften your brother’s heart. Sometimes, like the prodigal son, those A members Bill Younkin, 17, Huntington Beach 9th Ward, who have turned away from the gospel and or friends who Huntington Beach California North Stake their families eventually wish for a way back, need the gospel but they don’t know quite how to go about but are not now The first thing I would advise you it. If you are patient and nonjudgmental, to do is to pray for guidance. interested. To your love can be a bridge. I would also advise you to get be effective, our Don’t be afraid to bear your testimony, closer to your brother and earn but don’t bear it in a condescending or efforts with them his trust. He may tell you why he accusing way. Be sensitive to the Spirit and, must be directed is not going to church. Then you can help him. when appropriate, share your feelings about by the Lord so David C. Vallejo, 16, Choloma Ward, the gospel, the Church, and your family. that we act in the Fesitranh Stake Show through your actions and attitude that way and at the living the gospel makes you happy. You cannot force anyone to go to time when they Sometimes, though, a brother or sister church, but you can fast and pray. will be most may reject anything you say about the Share your testimony, but it is up gospel. At these times all you can do is love receptive. We to him to decide what he will do. him or her and make it clear that the choice must pray for Madeleine Wahle, 13, not to go to church isn’t a choice not to be the Lord’s help Dortmund Ward, Dortmund Stake involved with the family. Try to include your and directions WHAT DO YOU THINK? brother or sister in family activities that so we can be Send us your answer to the question below, would make him or her feel welcome and instruments in along with your name, age, and the names of valued. Remember that your brother or sister His hands” your ward and stake. Please include a snap- is a child of God and that Heavenly Father is shot of yourself that is 1 1/2 by 2 inches doing everything He can to bring all of His (Ensign, Nov. (4 by 5 cm) or larger. Please respond by August 1, 2003. children back into His presence. NE 2001,8). Q&A, New Era —Elder Dallin H.Oaks Of the Quorum of 50 East North Temple the Twelve Apostles Salt Lake City, Utah 84150 QUESTION “I need to earn money for a mission and college. The Church teaches that we shouldn’t work on the Sabbath, but almost all the jobs I am qualified for require Sunday work. What should I do?”

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WARMTH, KINDNESS, AND CHARITY CAN BE YOUR FAMILY’S SPIRITUAL SECURITY SYSTEM. (See Hymns, no. 298.)

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BY SHANNA GHAZNAVI

very family is different. And each of Stephanie says, “family is probably the us has his or her own ideas about biggest thing.” Ewhat an ideal family should be. Stephanie’s mom and grandma are Stephanie Spann loves and appreciates her members of the Church, but her dad and At Delicate Arch family just the way it is—even as she works grandpa are not. For Stephanie, having a Stephanie was to make it, and herself, a little better. part-member family has its challenges. “I handed the At 17, Stephanie is the youngest in her think it would make it a lot easier to know Olympic torch family. Her brothers, Wayne and John, have I would live with my family forever. I’ve by her grandfather, grown and left home. Her parents, LaRee always planned on a temple marriage,” a leader in the and Ed, are great examples to her and a big Stephanie says. Northern Ute tribe. support in her endeavors. Stephanie loves Stephanie’s dad makes time for family her family, and one of her biggest role home evening with his family and supports models where family is concerned is her her in her schoolwork and at sporting grandpa, Frank Arrowchis. “Of all the events. She loves that he is always there for things my grandpa has taught me,” her, and she hopes her family will be sealed

PHOTOGRAPHS BY SHANNA GHAZNAVI AND COURTESY OF THE PARK SERVICE AND THE SPANN FAMILY NEW ERA JUNE 2003 21 in the temple someday. “I think “and I know she’s in good shape. I know she can do it.” he’s coming around,” she Stephanie smiles. “He’s always taught me that girls can smiles. do anything guys can do.” The Spanns’ extended family Stephanie is a soccer player for her high school, so she is also close, even though they was in great shape to run the torch. She credits her grand- don’t live very close together. father with helping her succeed there too: “My grandpa “Everyone’s always there for has the best work ethic of anyone I know. This work ethic Stephanie practices each other. We’re always calling has helped me in my commitment to sports, to my reli- running the torch each other to check up on each gion, and to my personal goals.” along the slick rock at other,” says Stephanie. “If any- When Stephanie received the Olympic torch from her Arches National Park. one has anything, like a pro- grandfather under the picturesque Delicate Arch in south- (Right) Stephanie gram or sports, we all always go ern Utah’s Arches National Park, it seemed more symbolic with her parents and to it.” Another way she likes to than real. More important than giving her the torch is the grandparents. stay close to her family is hang- legacy of love her grandfather and family have passed on. ing out with her nieces and She wants to continue that legacy in her own family. nephews. It doesn’t have to be anything big. “We go to The Ideal Family the park and feed the ducks. I just enjoy spending time Stephanie realizes her family might not exactly fit the with them.” mold of the ideal family many of us picture. But she also knows her family is a good family, doing the best they can Passing the Torch to love each other and to stay close to God. Stephanie has a special relationship with her grandpa. Elder Richard G. Scott of the Quorum of the Twelve “He’s a good guy. He’s my hero,” she says. Stephanie and her Apostles has said: “Throughout your life on earth, seek grandpa do as much as they can together and with the rest diligently to fulfill the fundamental purposes of this life of the family—ice fishing, hunting, camping, and working through the ideal family. While you may not have yet together on her grandfather’s ranch in Whiterocks, Utah. reached that ideal, do all you can through obedience and From her grandfather, Stephanie has learned not only the faith in the Lord to consistently draw as close to it as you importance of family but also respect for others and for her are able. Let nothing dissuade you from that objective. . . . Native American heritage. Do not be discouraged. Living a pattern of life as close as As part of that respect for heritage, Stephanie, her mom, possible to the ideal will provide much happiness, great and her grandmother all work on genealogy together at satisfaction, and impressive growth while here on earth the Bennion Utah Stake Family History Center. Stephanie regardless of your current life circumstances” (Ensign, has done the research and submitted many family names May 2001, 7). for temple work, and she is getting better all the time at That’s what the Spann family is striving for. Just as doing research on her Northern Ute ancestry. Stephanie was prepared to accept the torch from her Recently her grandfather was chosen to represent the grandfather and run with it, she’s prepared to carry on Northern Ute tribe in the Salt Lake City 2002 Olympic her family’s tradition of love and togetherness. The torch relay. When officials asked Frank, Stephanie’s Spanns are a great family trying their hardest. Stephanie grandpa, to suggest someone for him to pass the torch knows if they continue doing their best, they will continue on to, Stephanie was the first to come to his mind. to be blessed. NE

“She’s really involved in sports,” her grandpa told them, Shanna Ghaznavi is a member of the Church magazines staff.

22 PHOTOGRAPH ELECTRONICALLY COMPOSED BY JEFF L. MARTIN

WWHHAATT AA BBOOTTHERHER BY MAMIE HUNSAKER HAMMER

My brother was the cause of all my problems. I was going to be happy to see him go; that is, until he left on his mission.

henever we ears streamed down my face as I before I figured it out. washed stood on my tiptoes and we hugged I used to think Tommy caused all my WW dishes, he TT each other tightly at the Missionary problems, but now I realize he was just would sneak some of Training Center. I probably dampened his teasing, and it was probably my temper that the clean dishes back new suit, but I don’t think he minded. “I love caused many of our disagreements. onto the counter. Once, you,” I said. Sometimes I wondered why my parents I washed a cup six I thought of the many times I had thought never split us up or put us on different times. Then, after all I disliked Tommy, even if he was my brother. teams. But as we got older, I realized it was his teasing, he’d go Then I thought about how much things had because those times together forced us to and do something nice changed over the years, how sad I was to see get to know each other and to learn to get for me. him go. along. I remembered when we were younger As time passed and we both matured, we and didn’t get along well. Sometimes he started to talk to each other about school, teased me so much I thought I’d be happy to teachers, friends, and all the other things someday see him go away. Because we were that concerned us. Tommy and I actually close in age, we were always together—at became friends. In high school, Tommy was home and sometimes even at school. I a senior when I was a sophomore, and it was remembered being on his “work team” while nice to receive advice from an experienced doing chores around the house, like folding student. We were both in the marching clothes and washing dishes. When we were band, and even though we had our own on clothes crew together, we would both friends, Tommy was always willing to talk to fold as slowly as possible in order to fold the me or help me in any way. He had developed least amount of clothing and thus make the a real sense of humor, and I enjoyed other do more work. Because we both spending time with him. worked so slowly, it would always take all I remember nights when we would be the day. only ones up, doing our homework, and Dishes were even worse! Whenever I was Tommy would serve us both some ice cream. the washer, he would sneak some of the We would talk late into the night. Tommy dishes that I put in his drain rack and put was a wonderful example to me, and I was them back on the counter to wash. I remem- always learning something from him. He ber once washing one cup about six times chose good friends, and I never saw him

ILLUSTRATED BY SCOTT SNOW 24 hesitate to choose the right. I especially respected him for how well he treated my parents. Whenever we came home from school, Tommy would go into the kitchen to get something to eat, and we would sit down and chat with Mama about the day. Somehow, the con- versation always drifted to things deeper than school. I will always cherish those times. Tommy soon graduated and began preparing for his mission, but I never really realized how much I would miss him until the day he left. As Tommy hugged us and wiped his tears away, I suddenly felt a little lonely. But I knew it was the right step for Tommy to take, and I was proud of him. Tommy is an example of kindness, service, and love. I really couldn’t ask for more in a best friend and a brother.

Mamie Hunsaker Hammer is a member of the BYU 139th Ward, Brigham Young University 18th Stake.

NEW ERA JUNE 2003 25 CONNECTIONCONNECTION A sister can be a friend, an example, and someone who shares your beliefs.

BY JANET THOMAS

here are 12 young women in the can tell her anything. She is always there to Riverside Ward, Columbus Ohio listen to me when I complain about stuff or Stake. Just 12. But in that small I’m sad. She is always supportive of every- he TT group, eight of the girls are sisters—four thing I do.” Welling sets. And best of all, these sisters are great Heidi Welling doesn’t like to do things sisters, Heidi and sisters, good to each other and the best of alone, so she enjoys being with her sister, Andrea, from friends. Plus, they consider the other young Andrea. “She’ll even run errands with me,” Columbus, Ohio, women in the ward to be sisters, as well. says Heidi. “We have fun hanging out on share an interest in Before the four oldest in the sets of sisters Friday nights if we both happen to be home. sports and in music go away to college, they gathered with their We like to play lacrosse and watch movies.” as well as a lifelong younger sisters to talk about what it takes to And for the Blanco sisters, Cristina and friendship. have good relationships with each other. Michelle, a sister is someone to share clothes with and is a ready listener. “I’m sort of the It’s great having a sister designated driver of the family at the Christy Frost is the bishop’s daughter. She moment,” says Cristina. “We spend lots of and her younger sister, Jenny, are a close and time in the car and have lots of time to talk supportive pair. “The best thing about with each other.” having a sister,” says Christy, “is that she is always there. She is a built-in best friend.” Looking up to someone Lindsay Shannon agrees that her The younger sisters have noticed that younger sister Erin is a very good friend. their older sisters have learned things and And she adds, “My sister is one person I have some good advice. They want to gain can feel completely comfortable around. I that wisdom and self-control too.

26 PHOTOGRAPHY BY THE AUTHOR AND CHRISTINA SMITH NEW ERA JUNE 2003 27 Kelley Smith and Heidi Walser both have older sisters who have now left home. The separation has been hard on them because eidi they are close to their sisters. Heidi goes and Walser’s older stays with her sister whenever she has the sister just left Young opportunity. And Kelley says, “My sister Women, but Heidi would take me places I wanted to go. I can finds another kind tell her anything. But since she moved out, I of sisterhood with am telling those things to my mom.” the girls in the ward. How to be a good sister (Below, right) The Another interesting coincidence of this Shannon sisters, “It’s cool to watch people who are older Young Women group is the fact that every Lindsay and Erin, than you,” says Michelle. “If you’ve grown up set of sisters also has a brother of deacon have found they can with them, like your sister, they seem to be age. In fact, Ashley Greathouse and Heidi rely on each other your age. But then you hear them bear their Walser also have deacon-aged brothers. So in every situation. testimonies, and you realize that they aren’t these girls have some definite ideas about (Opposite page) your age. They are older, wiser.” how to support their younger brothers in Jenny and Christy Watching their older sisters gain their their new duties. Frost set good testimonies has been a big boost to the de- “It’s really a nice change to see him on examples for each velopment of their own faith. Erin remem- Sunday,” says Lindsay. “It’s nice to see him other, including bers her first year at girls’ camp. She felt being respectful and serious. You can tell he sharing their lonely, and the bugs were horrible. She knows the is not something to be testimonies of the wasn’t having a very good time, but her taken for granted. He knows it’s special.” gospel. older sister, Lindsay, was there to help. “My brother’s been coming with me when “She was being so positive and was trying we have joint activities with the . to help me have a good time. I remember And he went to the temple to do baptisms my first testimony meeting. I was too afraid for the first time. That was really cool to be to get up, but she got up and talked about her feelings about the gospel and how much we share together. We were both crying. It really strengthened my testimony. Even though it was five years ago, it still is a really big faith builder for me.” And for Jenny, it’s easier for her to relate to her sister. “When she gives her testi- mony, I see how much the Spirit moves her. I think, ‘Well, if she can do that, then I can do it too.’ It’s nice to have her be such a good example and to always be there and see how much she loves the gospel.”

28 NEW ERA JUNE 2003 29 ll but one of the young women in the Riverside Ward have a deacon-aged brother. Learning how to support their brothers as they enter the Aaronic Priesthood creates a bond among the youth. (Opposite page) Cristina and Michelle Blanco find there with him,” says Andrea. get over their differences. “We fight some- it’s great to have Jenny has some good tips for relating to times over something ridiculous when we’re someone to talk to, her younger brothers. “Be there for each in bad moods. We are both stubborn, but we like a sister who other whenever things get tough or if you just apologize and get it over with. And we’re really understands. ever need someone to talk to. My brothers friends again. We respect each other’s like to play games. Just play with them. It will opinions.” make their day. If you’re happy and you’re The connection between sisters is a there with them, they’ll enjoy it.” strong one. A sister can be your best friend, not just in childhood but for your whole life. A family church But the friendship needs to start at home, Andrea tells about a girl at school who growing up. Be kind, and chances are your asked about her weekend. She was amazed brothers and sisters will follow your exam- that Andrea and her sister, Heidi, did some ple. Be the peacemaker, and arguing will de- shopping together and went to a movie. The crease. Be a friend, and you’ll find the most girl asked, “Don’t you ever fight?” loyal of friends in your own family. Andrea answered, “No, not really. If we Jenny talks about going to a school dance. do, we get over it in two seconds.” She knew Christy was somewhere in the Andrea explained, “When people say that crowd. “It’s like we have a sister signal. I’m are really family oriented, we really not really looking for her, but I always seem are. That’s what makes us strong. To be a to find her. Whenever we’re in a crowd, it better sister, do stuff together.” seems like Christy will pop up. It’s Erin says, “I can never stay mad at my sis- always fun to have a familiar face, a friend, ter because there’s always something I want someone to talk to.” NE to tell her. If something exciting happened, I want her to be excited with me.” Janet Thomas is a member of the Church magazines Christy Frost explains how she and Jenny staff.

30 NEW ERA JUNE 2003 31 Happiness “ in family life is most likely to be

TEST YOUR LDS I.Q. achieved he Prophet Joseph Smith’s family was being prepared for generations before he received the and before he could lead the restored Church in this when TT dispensation. His immediate family was a continual support to him, and they loved each other very much. See how much you know about Joseph Smith’s family.

How did Joseph’s Where was the About which of his founded 11parents, Lucy Mack 33Prophet Joseph 55brothers did Joseph and Joseph Smith Sr., Smith born? Smith Jr. say the following: meet? a. Sharon, Vermont “[He] possesses the mild- upon the a. Joseph came to work for b. West Lebanon, New ness of a lamb, and the Lucy’s father in Sharon, Hampshire integrity of a Job, and in Vermont. c. Palmyra, New York short, the meekness and b. Lucy came to visit her humility of Christ; and I teachings brother in Tunbridge, Which of the love him with that love that Vermont, and met 44Prophet’s immediate is stronger than death, for I Joseph there. family were witnesses of never had occasion to of the Lord c. They grew up on the gold plates? rebuke him, nor he neighboring farms in a. Joseph Smith Sr., Alvin me. . . .” Massachusetts. Smith, Hyrum Smith a) Alvin b. Hyrum Smith, Samuel b) Hyrum Jesus How many children Smith, Don Carlos Smith c) Samuel 22did Joseph and Lucy c. Joseph Smith Sr., Hyrum have? Smith, Samuel Smith Christ. a. 10 b. 11

c. 16 —The Family: A Proclamation to

2:338). Church, the of History Answers: 1 b; 2 b; 3 a; 4 c; 5 b ( b 5 c; 4 a; 3 b; 2 b; 1 Answers: the World

32 ” LEADERSHIP TIP

ou might not be in your class presidency or an offi- YYcer at school, but chances are there’s someone in your home A SEW-SEW FATHER’S DAY who really looks up to you. Make it a goal to be a good he 36 young women it. The young women chose made extra ties for the example to your younger brothers in the Ocean material, cut out patterns, bishopric, the Young Men or sisters. You can be an example of TTSprings Ward, pinned, and sewed for presidency, and the ward’s obedience, kindness, and the type Gulfport Mississippi Stake, hours. Finally, each of their missionaries, who weren’t of brotherly love the Savior would made Father’s Day special fathers had a handmade tie lucky enough to have show if He were living in your for their dads and learned a to wear to church on daughters in Young home. new skill while they were at Father’s Day. The girls also Women.

BEAUTY ALL AROUND TEMPLE WORK

“ he family unit is forever, and you should do everything in he youth of the worked on it in rotations, your power to strengthen that unit. In your own family, Huntsville Utah between workshops, speak- TTencourage family home evenings and be an active partici- TTStake couldn’t all go ers, and activities. The pant. Encourage family prayer. Be on your knees with your family to the Nauvoo temple for youth and their leaders also in that sacred circle. Do your part to develop real family unity and last year’s dedication, so completed more than 1,000 solidarity. . . . they decided to bring the ordinances for the dead in “Your most important friendships should be with your own temple to them. As part of the Ogden Utah Temple. brothers and sisters and with your father and mother. Love your their youth conference on They learned how to family. Be loyal to them. Have a genuine concern for your brothers temple work and worthi- saw wood and staple fabric, and sisters. . . . ness, the youth and their but more importantly they “Help keep your family strong and close and worthy of our leaders built a replica of the learned how they could lay Father in Heaven’s blessings. As you do, you will receive faith and Nauvoo Illinois Temple. It strong foundations for their hope and strength, which will bless your lives forever” (Ensign, was about one-fifth the size testimonies of the temple Nov. 1986, 81–82). of the original Nauvoo and their worthiness to go —President Ezra Taft Benson (1899–1994) temple, and the youth there.

NEW ERA JUNE 2003 33 34 OONN MMEESSSSAAGGEE AA BBOOTTTTLLEE with that handwritten verse. It was still there the day I BY ELDER combed my hair before leaving for my mission. RONALD L. LOVELAND Area Authority Seventy That verse impacted my life permanently. It said, “Bless the hands that never tire in their loving care for me.” That hen I was 11 years old, message, which I read every day, drove deep into my heart I had a wonderful love, respect, and appreciation for my mom. W Primary teacher. One Another story about my mother had an even greater dayW in class, she walked in on a impact on me. It shaped how I resolved to live my life. discussion among us 11-year-old When I was a priest, my assignment one Sunday was to boys about our mothers and bless the sacrament in Sunday School. In those days, we y mother’s how tough they were on us. Our took the sacrament during Sunday School in the morning, abiding mothers would insist that we and then returned for sacrament meeting in the evening. MMlove make our beds, help with the I had a 1946 Chevy coupe that I had made into a taught me dishes, take out the garbage, and hot rod, and I wanted to compete in some races that more about the even help with other housework. were being held that Sunday. I knew that my parents Atonement of Our teacher said nothing would not approve, so I said nothing. I am ashamed Jesus Christ than but went ahead with our to say it, but I left church and went to the drag races. anything else in lesson. At the end of the class, I raced one time and lost. my childhood. she said that on the coming When I returned home, my mother was standing at the Saturday morning we were kitchen sink, finishing up the dinner dishes. I could see going to have a special activity at her house. tears on her cheeks. I asked, “Mom, what’s the matter?” That Saturday, we peddled our bicycles to her home. She turned and asked, “Son, where have we failed as She gathered us around her dining room table where she parents that you feel you can violate the Lord’s holy day?” had some liquids in bottles. She also had small, empty I couldn’t bear it! My dear mother was taking the blame bottles for each of us. We poured so much of this and so and burden for my wrongdoing. much of that through a funnel into our bottles. We learned That moment helped me understand more about the that we were making hand lotion for our mothers. Atonement of Jesus Christ, that someone else was willing When we finished, our teacher gave us a small piece of to bear the burden of my wrong choice. I began to under- paper on which she had written a verse. We each copied stand how the Savior could do that for me because I saw it down and taped the verse onto our bottles. We proudly my mother do it in this instance. took the lotion home to our mothers as a gift. To you who may find yourselves in similar situations, I My mother was wise so, instead of using the lotion, say: I hope you learn before you get hurt—spiritually or she put it on the middle shelf of our bathroom’s medi- physically. I hope that you have parents like I have who cine cabinet. It remained there through all my teenage put an arm around me and taught me. I hope you listen to years. Every day, as I opened that cabinet to get my them. They will help you make decisions that will bless toothbrush or comb, there on the shelf was the bottle you the rest of your life. NE

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We asked some teens what they liked best about their families, about their family traditions, and about staying close to brothers and sisters. Try answering these questions about your own family.?

resident Gordon B. Hinckley it is so worthwhile. I like my family said, “We are trying to make because they love me uncondition- PPthe world better by making ally. the family stronger” (Teachings of Brett Price, 16 Gordon B. Hinckley, 209). The New Anchorage 13th Ward, Anchorage Era wanted to know what teens are Alaska Stake doing to strengthen their families, what they like about their families, I grew up as the youngest of four and what they think about eternal children, the only girl, with three families. As you read their answers, older brothers. Because I’m the ask yourself these same questions. “baby girl” of the family, I’ve been Maybe you will think of new ways to looked over and protected by my strengthen the family you are in now brothers and parents. Even though it and prepare for the family you will can be hard and a little annoying one day have. By making your family sometimes, I love it. strong, you can help make the world Jodi Meyerson, 16 a better place. Doylestown Ward, Philadelphia Pennsylvania Stake What do you like best about your family? I love my family so much. I want to There are six kids in my family. It spend eternity with them because I can be challenging at times to get love them, and they are my best along with all of them, but when I do, friends. Their love for me and for the 36 ?PHOTOGRAPHY BY CRAIG DIMOND AND STEVE BUNDERSON gospel really lifts my spirit and helps What are some ways you can stay me stay strong as I try to follow their close to brothers and sisters even examples. if they are a lot older or younger Beth Whitlock, 17 than you? Alma Ward, Fort Smith Arkansas I have three brothers and two sis- Stake ters, and we try as much as possible to be together. When another sibling Even though we have so many differ- has an event or activity going on, we ent talents, qualities, and hobbies, we always try to be there to support him all have the same belief in Christ. This or her. Since there are so many of us, belief helps us understand and love sometimes that’s hard, but it’s helped each other. us stay close. Lesley Stewart, 16 Jessie Shaw, 14 Palm Harbor Ward, St. Petersburg Clarksville Branch, Fort Smith Florida Stake Arkansas Stake

When you have questions about What are some of the traditions that life, ask your older siblings. They help strengthen your family? know what you are dealing with, and One of our favorite things to do as it is a wonderful way to strengthen a a family is to sit around after church weak relationship. We have always and watch Church history movies. We had open communication in our fam- learn a lot and come together as a anything, it is just that we spend ily. We are able to go to our parents family. plenty of family time together. And or siblings with anything because we Michael Lahusky, 18 we always have family prayer. That have such a strong love for one Navarre Ward, Pensacola Florida unites us more every day. During this another. Stake family time we get a chance to ex- Justin Hutchings, 16 press our beliefs, worries,? challenges, Lake Villa Second Ward, Buffalo Every day before we go to school or anything that we feel like sharing. Grove Illinois Stake and seminary we read a scripture and Lisanne Murphy, 17 pray together. We also try to make a Paper Mill Ward, Roswell Georgia I am the only child left at home, so point of eating dinner together every Stake I don’t get to see a lot of my family. day. I usually hang out with my family We talk on the phone a lot and send over the weekend instead of with my We have e-mail as often as possible. When I do friends. I love my family so much. every week. Also, we read our scrip- see them, we just laugh and have a Leta McClean, 17 tures as a family whenever we can good time. But communicating with Dublin Ward, Columbus Ohio Stake and eat dinner together every night. them is most important. Brandon McEntire, 16 Michelle Brewer, 17 The most important tradition my Wadsworth Branch, Akron Ohio Mustang Ward, Oklahoma City family has is not on a specific date or Stake Oklahoma South Stake ? ! NEW ERA JUNE 2003 37 If they are younger siblings, you I feel the most peace, comfort, can draw closer to them by giving and safety when I am with my family. them the attention they desire and I know they all love me and under- crave. If they are older, like my stand me. I know they want me to be brother, you can hang out with them. the best daughter of God I can be. But if they are away, like on a mission, Martha Baldwin, 14 you can support them and make Rockbridge Ward, Buena Vista them feel good by writing them Virginia Stake letters of encouragement. Douglas Allen, 17 Even though everyone in my fam- Spotsylvania Ward, Fredericksburg ily is busy with clashing schedules, Virginia Stake my family is the place I feel I belong and feel loved and supported. Kevin Hallam, 17 Why is family important to you? Mount Pleasant Ward, Charleston I love being with my family, laugh- South Carolina Stake ing and just having fun. We are so close. I love the fact that we can be My immediate family is the only together forever. to strengthen our bonds with our family I have who are members of the Emily Smith, 17 parents and brothers and sisters so Church, so they’re really important to Doylestown Ward, Philadelphia we can grow and develop into a me. I look forward to the time when Pennsylvania Stake strong family unit that will result in we will be together forever. eternal exaltation and happiness. Will Johnston, 15 I can always fall back on my family. Dallin Andersen, 17 St. Cloud Ward, Orlando Florida Friends! may not always be friends, Anchorage Fifth Ward, Anchorage South Stake but my family is always there. Alaska Stake Shannon Haight, 16 Fayetteville Fourth Ward, Fayetteville THE FAMILY IS DIVINE North Carolina Stake Why do you want to be with your “The family is ordained of God. . . . family forever? Happiness in family life is most We’ve moved all over the country, I want to be with my family forever likely to be achieved when founded and family is the only constant I have because I love them, and they are a upon the teachings of the Lord wherever we move. part of who I am. I can’t imagine life Jesus Christ. Successful marriages Isaac Madsen, 17 without one of them. My family is a and families are established and Cedar Valley Ward, Oklahoma City major reason I strive to do what is maintained on principles of faith, Oklahoma Stake right because if I don’t, I wouldn’t be prayer, repentance, forgiveness, re- able to be with them forever. spect, love, compassion, work, and Family is the strongest unit in the Teresa John, 16 wholesome recreational activities” Church. These are the people we will Fayetteville Fourth Ward, Fayetteville (“The Family: A Proclamation to the be sealed to for all eternity. We need North Carolina Stake World,” Ensign, Nov. 1995, 102). 38 ? T HE E XTRA S MILE

“I didn’t learn a foreign language on my mission, so I’ll just have to bear my testimony with a New York accent.”

ne Sunday we OOheld sacrament meeting during a power outtage. The counselor who was conducting announced the closing hymn. He seemed confused at the sudden outbreak ERIC LEACH “Wow! I think I’m of laughter. We then getting a gray hair.” closed by singing “The Light Divine.”(Hymns, no. 305). “Whoopee.” Chris Davis Crescent Fourth Ward Sandy, Utah

STOKER “Oh for goodness’ RYAN sake. First ants then bees. What’s next?”

RYAN STOKER TTAAGAGALLOONGNG My little sister always tagged along. This time I was glad she did.

BY BREIGHAN OLSEN lease. Please. Please.” finishing it. The ride home started off as solemn as the “No. And stop following me around.” ride to the store. I was determined to let Linzie know how PP“But I want to come with you,” she continued to beg in annoyed I was. her six-year-old voice. “Bree, Bree,” she said timidly. “Knock it off, Linzie. Just once I’d like to go somewhere “What, Linzie?” I didn’t bother turning down the radio. without you coming with me.” I could feel the anger in my “You know why I always want to go with you voice rising. I was so tired of her being my tagalong. everywhere?” Everywhere I went she had to come too or else she would Her sincerity caught my attention. “No, why?” throw the biggest tantrum. She knew that even the slight- She sat quiet for a moment before responding. est whimper would get her anything she wanted. This “Because—because I’m gonna miss you a lot because time was no exception. you’re going to college soon.” “Where are you going, Bree?” my mom called from the I looked at her. She was staring at me with her beautiful kitchen, where she was making dinner. blue eyes. I really didn’t know what to say. “I’ll miss you “I have to go to the store to get some paper for school. too. A lot. I’ll still get to come home sometimes, though.” I’ll be gone only 10 minutes.” “Will we be able to do stuff when you come home?” “Well then you can take Linzie with you.” “Of course, silly girl.” “Yea! Yea! Yea!” The tears immediately ceased when “Good,” she said as we rounded the corner onto our Linzie realized her victory. street. “Mom, she’s such a pain. Why do I always have to take That was all that was said, but that day I learned a huge her with me?” lesson about the importance of developing a lasting rela- “Because she’s your sister, that’s why.” I should have tionship with my sisters and brother—even when they’re expected that one. young. It reminded me of the scripture in Mosiah 3:19: “Fine. Whatever. Hurry up, and get your shoes on, “Becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, Linzie.” I knew I was acting like a brat, but I had hours of full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord homework to do. seeth fit to inflict upon him.” “Okay, let’s go,” Linzie said angelically. I don’t think Linzie knew the huge impact her innocent During the drive to the store, I turned up the radio so comment had on me. Now I try to be more tolerant of the I wouldn’t have to talk to my sister. We both stared things that my younger siblings do, because when I’m straight forward. The store was busy, and the lines were gone, I will miss them. NE long. All I could think about was all the homework that BreighAn Olsen is a member of the BYU 215th Ward, awaited me, and how I was going to be up past midnight BYU 19th Stake.

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BY ELDER M. RUSSELL BALLARD raise up to do his work would be “called Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles Joseph” (Joseph Smith Translation, Genesis 50:33), and his name would “be after the ach person who has a testimony of name of his father” (2 Nephi 3:15). The the gospel of Jesus Christ should heavenly messenger Moroni admonished EElove and appreciate Joseph Smith young Joseph to go to his father following a Jr., for he is “the Prophet and Seer of the glorious night of sacred instruction. In Lord, [who] has done more, save Jesus only, Joseph’s words, this messenger “com- for the salvation of men in this world, than manded me to go to my father and tell him any other man that ever lived in it” (D&C of the vision and commandments which I e should 135:3). had received. I obeyed; I returned to my show The ancient prophet Nephi wrote that he father in the field, and rehearsed the whole W honor, was “born of goodly parents” (1 Nephi 1:1). matter to him. He replied to me that it was respect,W and So was the Prophet Joseph Smith; he once of God, and told me to go and do as gratitude to the declared, “Words and language are inade- commanded by the messenger” (Joseph Prophet Joseph quate to express the gratitude that I owe to Smith—History 1:49–50). Smith and his God for having given me so honorable a Joseph Smith Sr. was in tune with the family for the roles parentage.”1 Spirit of the Lord. He knew that his young they played in son spoke the truth. He not only believed restoring the The Prophet’s Father the boy’s words but encouraged him in the fulness of the The Lord foreordained his father, Joseph work he had been called to do. gospel. Smith Sr. to be one of the earthly parents of Joseph Sr. endured ridicule and persecu- the Prophet. Joseph of Egypt prophesied tion because of his prophet son’s experi- that the latter-day seer whom God would ences and claims. Yet, he was unwavering in

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espite persecution D against hisD son, Joseph Smith Sr. not only believed young Joseph’s words, he encouraged Joseph in the work he was called to do.

NEW ERA JUNE 2003 43 his loving support and defended his son. according to the best of my abilities.” After a He saw and handled the plates of gold voice assured her that she would live, she from which the Book of Mormon was trans- told her mother, “The Lord will let me live, if lated and testified throughout his life to the I am faithful to the promise which I made to truthfulness of that sacred book. His name him, to be a comfort to my mother, my hus- remains firmly affixed, with those of the band, and my children.”3 other witnesses to the Book of Mormon, in She gave continual encouragement, the front pages of that second witness of support, and strength to her son, Joseph the Jesus Christ. On one occasion he was Prophet. His mother was the first person imprisoned and told he would be released if with whom young Joseph shared some of his he would deny the Book of Mormon. Not momentous experiences of the Sacred only did he not deny it, but he converted Grove. Years later, he shared with her the joy two persons during his 30-day confinement. and relief he felt when the Lord allowed At the time of his death, Joseph Smith Sr. others to view the sacred plates of gold.4 was described as “a man faithful to his God The Prophet’s mother shared also in his and to the Church in every situation and sorrows, sufferings, and persecutions. One under all circumstances through which he time a mob took Joseph and his brother he Prophet’s was called to pass.”2 Hyrum prisoner and threatened to shoot mother, Lucy Just a few months following his passing them. The two brothers were confined Mack Smith, T from this life, the Lord revealed that Joseph under a cloth cover in a wagon. Their coura- gaveT continual Smith Sr. was in His presence, and “blessed geous mother risked her life and forced her support and and holy is he, for he is mine” (D&C 124:19). way through the hostile mob to comfort her strength to her son. Indeed, Joseph Smith Sr. played a vital role sons. Joseph and Hyrum could not see their She was the first in establishing the kingdom of God upon the mother and could only extend a hand from person with whom earth. under the confining cover. As Lucy’s hand Joseph shared his and the hands of her sons touched, the experience in the The Prophet’s Mother wagon drove off, literally tearing the Sacred Grove. Perhaps less visible than the Prophet’s sorrowing mother from her two sons. Lucy also faced a father, but equally important in shaping and Like great parents of all ages, Lucy turned hostile mob, giving influencing his life, was his mother, Lucy to prayer for divine help to sustain her fam- comfort to Joseph Mack Smith. She gave birth to 11 children ily. During the march from Ohio to Missouri and Hyrum when and endured faithfully as all but 4 preceded known as Zion’s Camp, Joseph and Hyrum all she could see her in death. During her life, she watched six were seriously ill with cholera, and their lives were their hands. of her immediate family and one grandson were almost taken. At one point, “Hyrum die as a result of ruthless mob violence and sprang to his feet and exclaimed, ‘Joseph, we persecution. shall return to our families. I have had an Early in her marriage, Lucy prepared her- open vision, in which I saw mother kneeling self to raise a prophet. On one occasion she under an apple tree; and she is even now became seriously ill, and the doctors said she asking God, in tears, to spare our lives. . . . would die. Lucy records that she “made a The Spirit testifies, that her prayers . . . will solemn covenant with God that if He would be answered.’ ”5 let me live I would endeavor to serve him Lucy’s sons Joseph and Hyrum ultimately

44 sealed their testimonies with their blood. As the grieving son. Joseph surely knew the value of mother looked upon their lifeless remains, she cried, “My true and faithful associates because God, my God, why hast thou forsaken this family!” As a he had trusted many who later kind blessing to a faithful mother, the Lord softened her proved to be false. grief and granted to her the peace that only God can Hyrum was unwavering, even in bestow. A voice spoke to her soul: “I have taken them to the face of death. Following one myself, that they might have rest.”6 period of great deprivation and persecution, he wrote: The Prophet’s Brother Hyrum “I thank God that I felt a determination to die, rather Hyrum Smith, older brother, friend, and mentor to the than deny the things which my eyes had seen, which my Prophet, showed absolute, unequivocal love, loyalty, and hands had handled [the plates from which the Book of allegiance to the Lord and to his younger brother, Joseph. Mormon was translated], and which I had borne testi- Their brotherhood may be unsurpassed. The scriptures mony to, wherever my lot had been cast; and I can assure tell us, “In life they were not divided, and in death they my beloved brethren that I was enabled to bear as strong a were not separated!” (D&C 135:3). testimony, when nothing but death presented itself, as Throughout Hyrum’s life, he guarded his younger ever I did in my life.”7 brother as tenderly as if the Prophet had been his own From the Prophet Joseph and Hyrum, we can learn many valuable lessons. While standing in Nauvoo at the foot of the headstone of these noble men, I had the impression that they would have me counsel all members of the Church to remain anchored to the basic and simple principles of the gospel. Study the scriptures, look to the leaders of the Church for guidance in these troubled times. Be careful of the schisms, divisions, and contentions that are among us today. Keep the command- ments so the Holy Ghost will be with you in your search for truth and knowledge. I bear humble witness that Joseph Smith is one of the great, noble ones to come to the earth. He and his brother Hyrum deserve our honor, respect, and gratitude as do other members of their family who assisted with the of the fulness of the gospel. Jesus, our Lord and Savior, stands at the head of the Church. Our Heavenly Father lives and watches over each of His children. To this I humbly testify. NE

From an October 1991 general conference address.

NOTES 1. History of the Church, 5:126. 2. History of the Church, 4:192. 3. History of Joseph Smith, by His Mother, Lucy Mack Smith, ed. Preston Nibley, 1979, 34. 4. See History of Joseph Smith, 152. 5. See History of Joseph Smith, 229. 6. See History of Joseph Smith, 324. 7. Times and Seasons, Dec. 1839, 23.

NEW ERA JUNE 2003 45 46 ANOTHERANOTHER MMOTHEROTHER I did not want some lady trying I was eight years old when my mother to take the place of my mom. as I died of cancer, and it changed me. I had Nobody could take her place. disloyal to always been shy, but my mother’s death WWtry to love caused me to turn completely inward. My BY TRACIE HOHL a new stepmother friends distanced themselves from me. and stepsisters? Home was my only safe place, and in it I heard the garage door open, and I I didn’t know if it grew up quickly as I became the part-time knew what he would tell me. I lay quietly was possible for caretaker of my two little sisters. I must have IIin bed. My father’s figure appeared our two families blocked some things out because there’s in the doorway. to blend. not much I remember. I do know, however, “Tracie, are you awake?” My heart was that I became a hardened little girl. breaking as I felt my dad sit on the edge of my It was during that stage that my dad told bed. “Lynn and I are going to get married,” me he was inviting Lynn and her daughters he said. I was silent as he tried to explain. to our house for a visit. They were family “This does not mean that I love your friends, so my little sisters were excited to mom any less. I know it will be hard, but play with Lynn’s two girls, Meghan and Paige. I need you to be a good example to your I hated the idea from the start. I suspected sisters.” His sentences swirled around my my dad’s intentions, and I decided I was mind, blurring into a mass of tears, weighing opposed to the idea. I was determined that harder and harder on my heart. I would not forget my mother. “Good night, Tracie. I love you.” I felt betrayed that my dad would even As he left, my eyes overflowed with consider remarriage. How could Mom’s tears. My mind wouldn’t stop spinning. memory live on with another woman in Why did my dad have to get married again? the house? I thought all my dad’s love We were doing fine. Grandma didn’t mind would go to Lynn, and she would try to helping us out. Mom wouldn’t want him to take Mom’s place. remarry. I didn’t want a stepsister my age. I was wrong, and I am constantly amazed I have only one mom. I will be loyal! at how my views over the years have

PHOTOGRAPHY BY BRADLEY SLADE NEW ERA JUNE 2003 47 changed. It has been a long, hard process, think it was dad more happy and relaxed than he’d been but it has contributed a great deal to my their differences in a long time, and it was nice not to have so character and has helped sculpt me into the IIthat made it much responsibility for my sisters. But there person I am. possible for me to was still a wall between us. I loved and appreci- love this new ated her as a person, but she wasn’t my mom. Learning to Love woman in my life. Over time, Lynn’s role in my life changed. The first thing I needed to do was learn Now I love both my I matured, and Lynn became a great help to love Lynn. I thought she was a nice lady, moms and am to me. She loved it when I talked to her. but that was where it stopped. She tried to proud to be a little Sometimes I would just plop down on tell me what to do, and even worse than like both of them. her bed and talk to her for a long time. that, she loved hugs and kisses. I I really started to trust Lynn, to did not want to kiss her and depend on her. went to great efforts, at least at I now consider Lynn first, to avoid it. my second mother. The Lynn and my mom are about wall is gone. I used to as different as two people could think if I loved Lynn, my be. They were actually best love for my mom would friends, and where one had decrease; but just the strengths, the other had weak- opposite has happened. I nesses. I have many memories of my love them both and appreciate mother waking up at five in the morn- their strengths and the many ing to read her scriptures and bake bread. things they have taught She was friendly, but at the same time a bit me. I don’t compare them shy. Lynn was the bold, outgoing one since they are both so lov- who loved talking and meeting people. ing and kind and have so many This was something I had to deal wonderful qualities. It took me a with; she was just so different. long time to admit I love Lynn and I think it was these differ- my stepsisters, but since I did, I have ences, though, that made it possi- realized that love is sweet and powerful. ble for me to love her. I had respected Lynn I love both my moms, and I am proud from the beginning because she was my I am a little like both of them. I feel at peace, father’s new wife, and I wasn’t a rebellious because I know the Lord’s plan for my family child. But it was different when I started to has been fulfilled. I have grown so much love her. I saw that she was good to us. through these experiences and rejoice that She drove us places and helped us with our I have learned to accept different people, problems. It was nice to have a to express myself to others, and most woman in the house, importantly that I now cherish a person I especially during my vowed I would never love. NE early teenage years. Tracie Hohl is a member of the New Canaan Ward, Yorktown She made my New York Stake.

48 Index of Topics W HAT SINITFORY OU ’ acceptance 46 brothers 16, 24 family 4, 12, 20 fathers 8 Young Men and Young Women friendship 26 Personal Improvement Activity Ideas grandparents 20 •Make a point of praying for specific •Your Mutual nights can help foster harmony at home 36 things in your personal prayers. Read “All I family togetherness. Read “Sister honoring parents 34 Asked For” (page 11), and think about one Connection” on page 26. Then plan a Jesus Christ 4, 34 idea or question you have. Study the issue night of fun games. Consider inviting Joseph Smith 42 out in your mind, then offer sincere prayers younger brothers and sisters, who are not love 19, 40 in faith. yet old enough to attend Mutual, to mothers 34, 46 •In “What a B(r)other” (page 24), the attend on this special night. prayer 11 •Preparation is the key to success in author discovers that her brother has helped preparation 7 to strengthen their relationship through most aspects of life, and Personal prophets 12 small acts of service. Think of one way you Progress is no exception. The Idea security 19 can serve one of your siblings or a friend, List, “Plan Now for Then” (page service 24 perhaps by doing something as simple 7), suggests several ways to pre- sisters 26, 40 as spending some time with him or her. pare for your success. Use these stepparents 46 ideas at your next Personal support 8 Progress night to help the girls in testimony 11 your class get on track. •Stephanie Spann’s grand- Family Home Evening Ideas father, who received the •Read President Gordon B. Hinckley’s Winter Olympics torch, passed the article, “Your Family,” (page 4). Then torch to Stephanie (see “Spanning the choose one of his ideas as a family Generations,” page 20). For your activity, “theme.” Base your lessons for the month talk about your families’ traditions. Then on this theme. make a “torch” out of tinfoil. For the •Many of the articles in the flame, write on slips of yellow paper tradi- this month are about family unity, harmony, tions you want to pass on. Pass the torch New Era and happiness. Read this issue, then around, placing the yellow papers in it. choose the article you feel best applies to Seminary Devotional Idea your family situation. Choose one or two •Ask class members to list ways favorite quotes from Church leaders in they honor their mothers and fathers. When they’re done making their lists, read “Our Greatest Happiness” (page 12) to aloud the short article, “All I Asked For” share with your lesson. (page 11). Remind the class that they have a Heavenly Father who loves them. Read Mosiah 13:20 to the class and discuss why it’s important to respect your parents even if you disagree at times.

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Marvelous splendor as the sun folds over the earth with shades that surpass those of any painter’s palette. My heart starts to sing, skipping a beat, not knowing quite what it’s worth. Simply amazing that I feel real when God conveys His feelings through His creation.

BY CHRISTIAN SCHLUCHTER NEW ERA JUNE 2003 51 sister can be your best friend, not just in childhood but for your whole life. But the friendship needs to start at home, growing up.” (See “Sister Connection,” p. 26.)

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