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Codependency in Church Systems: the Development of An ASSEMBLIES OF GOD THEOLOGICAL SEMINARY CODEPENDENCY IN CHURCH SYSTEMS: THE DEVELOPMENT OF AN INSTRUMENT TO ASSESS HEALTHY CHURCH LEADERSHIP A PROJECT SUBMITTED TO THE DOCTOR OF MINISTRY COMMITTEE IN CANDIDACY FOR THE DEGREE OF DOCTOR OF MINISTRY DOCTOR OF MINISTRY DEPARTMENT BY F. WESLEY SHORTRIDGE RICHARDSVILLE, VA MAY 2016 Copyright © 2016 by F. Wesley Shortridge All rights reserved iii CONTENTS CONTENTS ............................................................................................................................. iv ABSTRACT ........................................................................................................................... viii ACKNOWLEDGMENTS ....................................................................................................... ix LIST OF TABLES ................................................................................................................... xi Chapter 1: INTRODUCTION....................................................................................................1 The Context ..........................................................................................................................1 The Problem .........................................................................................................................2 The Purpose .........................................................................................................................5 Definition of Terms..............................................................................................................6 Description of the Proposed Project ....................................................................................6 Scope of the Project .......................................................................................................6 Phases of the Project ......................................................................................................7 Research .................................................................................................................. 7 Planning .................................................................................................................. 8 Implementation ....................................................................................................... 9 Evaluation ............................................................................................................... 9 Writing .................................................................................................................... 9 Conclusion ...........................................................................................................................9 Chapter 2: BIBLICAL-THEOLOGICAL LITERATURE REVIEW......................................11 Introduction ........................................................................................................................11 Toward a Biblical View of Addiction ................................................................................12 iv Wine as a Type of Addicition ......................................................................................13 Wine in the Covenant of Life................................................................................ 13 Wine in the Abrahamic Covenant ......................................................................... 17 Wine in the Mosaic Covenant ............................................................................... 18 Wine in the Exile and Return ................................................................................ 24 Wine in the Incarnation ......................................................................................... 26 Wine and the Spirit ............................................................................................... 30 Wine in the Last Days ........................................................................................... 35 Wine in the New Creation..................................................................................... 36 A Summary of the Images of Wine ...................................................................... 37 Ephesus as an Example of an Addictive System .........................................................39 Biblical Solutions for Addiction ........................................................................................43 Ephesus as a Model for Healthy Systems ....................................................................50 Conclusion .........................................................................................................................59 Chapter 3: GENERAL LITERATURE REVIEW ...................................................................60 Introduction ........................................................................................................................60 Codependency Defined ......................................................................................................60 Early Definitions of Codependency .............................................................................61 Emerging Definitions of Codependency ......................................................................65 The Characteristics of Codependency ...............................................................................67 Early Views of Codependency’s Charateristics ...........................................................68 Emerging Views of Codepency’s Characteristics ........................................................70 Characteristics within Relational Systems ...................................................................73 The Causes of Codependency ............................................................................................75 Codependency as a Progressive Condition ..................................................................75 v Codependency’s Emergence within Family Systems ..................................................76 Codependency and Spiritual Dysfunction ...................................................................78 Codependency in Systems .................................................................................................80 Codependency in Church Systems .....................................................................................85 Leadership within the Church Relational System ........................................................89 Codependency in Larger Church Structures ................................................................91 Codependency in Pentecostal Churches ......................................................................92 Codependency as Misplaced Priority ...........................................................................95 Assessment Instruments for Codependency ......................................................................97 Toward Solutions ...............................................................................................................99 Conclusion .......................................................................................................................106 Chapter 4: DESCRIPTION OF FIELD PROJECT ...............................................................109 Introduction ......................................................................................................................109 Preparation of the Project.................................................................................................109 Survey Sample ...........................................................................................................111 Survey Questionaire ...................................................................................................112 Comparison of Survey Instruments to Categories of Codependence ................. 114 Execution of the Project ...................................................................................................119 Results of the Project .......................................................................................................120 Demographics ..................................................................................................... 120 Response Analysis .............................................................................................. 120 Findings............................................................................................................... 121 The Project’s Contribution to Ministry ............................................................................127 Conclusion .......................................................................................................................128 Chapter 5: PROJECT SUMMARY .......................................................................................130 vi Introduction ......................................................................................................................130 Evaluation of the Project ..................................................................................................130 Keys to Project Effectiveness ....................................................................................130 Keys to Project Improvement ....................................................................................131 Implications of the Project ...............................................................................................133 Recommendations for Denominational Leaders ..............................................................134
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