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Bullying entails 3 key elements: Rule 10 : Bullying and Harassment • Intent to harm Students shall not engage in bullying or • Power imbalance harassment of other students. • Repeated acts or threats of aggressive behavior. Bullying • Repeated intimidation of others—real Bullies say or do something intentionally hurtful to or threatened others and keep doing it, with no sense of regret • or remorse -- even when targets of bullying show Physical, verbal, written, electronically or express their hurt or tell the aggressors to stop. transmitted or emotional abuse • Attacks on the property of another. Rude • Implied or stated threats • Not having or showing concern or • respect for the rights and feelings of Exclusion from peer groups.

other people : not polite Harassment • Inadvertently saying or doing something • that hurts someone else . Actions that interfere with a student’s ability to participate/benefit from and Rude behaviors could appear as elements of educational program or activity. lying l bullying, but when looked at in context, Bu incidents of rudeness are usually spontaneous, Retaliation is prohibited unplanned inconsideration, based on n thoughtlessness, poor manners or narcissism, but entio not meant to actually hurt someone. Sometimes it might be useful to come to the rev P

school to find out what you can do as a Mean parent. Who can you contact? • Characterized by petty selfishness or • Teacher malice • School Counselor or School Social Worker • Behavior aims to hurt or depreciate • Principal or Assistant Principal someone . • School Resource Officer Kids are mean to each other when they criticize clothing, appearance, intelligence, coolness or just about anything else they can find to chools denigrate. Meanness also sounds like words rlington S ance-Bu Alam ffice spoken in anger -- impulsive cruelty that is often Central O regretted in short order. Very often, mean behavior in kids is motivated by angry feelings Parent Resource Guide and/or the misguided goal of propping themselves up in comparison to the person they are putting down. 2014-2015 1712 Vaughn Road, Burlington, NC

The main distinction between "rude" and (336) 570-6060 http://www.abss.k12.nc.us Additional resources and tips can be found "mean" behavior has to do with intention; on the ABSS website under while rudeness is often unintentional . This brochure was created and designed by the Prevention Specialist. ABSS Bullying Prevenon Commiee Normal Peer Conflict For Parents 8 Social Networking Sites to Know Educate Yourself about what bullying is ♦ Between friends/equal power (socially, This is a partial list of websites, there are many and what it isn’t. mentally and/or physically) more. The important point is to get to know your ♦ Happens occasionally Get Involved and Be Aware child’s habits on social media. ♦ Accidental Talk to your child about Creepy — geotag location date retrieval ♦ Not serious • places he/she goes Vine —posts short videos, sometimes while ♦ Not seeking power • activities he/she is involved in others don’t know • ♦ Remorse– will take responsibility people he/she identifies as friends Snapchat —widely known as the “sexting” Know the parents of your child’s friends. ♦ Effort to solve the problem app Bullying Set Rules Communicate clear KiK — instant messenger app, also widely ♦ Imbalance of power expectations and consequences. associated with “sexting” ♦ Repeated negative actions Be Present Know your child’s passwords to Pheed —livestream what a person is doing ♦ Purposeful social media accounts, phones, etc. (The at any given moment ♦ Serious with threat of physical or emotional less monitoring by an adult, the higher the Oovoo — video chat/instant messaging app harm rate of bullying and other risky behaviors). like Skype or Facetime ♦ Strong emotional reaction from victim and Qooh.me —allows for anonymous questions little or no emotional reaction from Teach Responsibility Encourage your child perpetrator to other users. Adult profiles are mixed with to develop a family moral code so that ♦ Seeking power, control or material things teens. he/she will choose to behave ethically in ♦ Attempt to gain or keep power person and online. Ask.fm —Latvia-based app that allows users ♦ No remorse– blames victim to ask questions anonymously. Not well- ♦ No effort to solve problem Observe Watch out for behavioral known by adults but has been associated changes in your child. The Bullying Power Imbalance is likened with bullying-related suicides. to Domestic Violence and Rape* Take Action Report any incident of Where students feel safest harassment and/or Domestic/ Sexual physical threats to the Spouse Abuse Bullying Harassment/Rape school or your online/ phone service provider. Help Your child develop Imbalance of power (social, physical, mental) courage and empathy.

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Victim blames self for abuse solving skills. *Leading researchers in the fields of bullying, domesc violence and rape agree the perpetrator and vicm react/respond similarly.