Tool: Using the Bell Curve to Understand What Is Important 1

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1* Contents

2* Tool: Using the Bell Curve to Understand ‘What’ is Important Suppose this is the percentage of participants in your Step Study.

Purpose of understanding the bell curve

 To learn that not everything is black and white

 To see how extreme behavior messes with your life

 To see the importance of balance

3* Why Do You Desire to be a Step Study Leader?  Do you feel a need to give back and that leading people through Step Studies is your calling and gift?

 Do you see a need in your Celebrate Recovery Group to provide a means for people to ‘bulletproof’ their recovery?

 Do you see people searching for a deeper understanding of recovery and how to apply recovery principles to their lives?

 Did someone recognize in you the gift of leadership and sharing and ask you to learn more?

 Did you have a poor experience in your personal step study and commit to enhancing the process for others?

 Do you feel the joy that comes through serving and the desire to share that joy with others who are hurting?

Principle 8 Verses

“What a wonderful God we have – he is the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the source of every mercy and the one who so wonderfully comforts and strengthens us in our hardships and trials. Why does he do this? So that when others are troubled, needing our sympathy and encouragement, we can pass on to them this same help and comfort God has given us.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4, TLB)

[Type text] Page 2 “In response to all he has done for us, let us outdo each other in being helpful and kind to each other and in doing good.” (Hebrews 10:24, TLB)

“When God’s children are in need, you be the one to help them out… Don’t just pretend that you love others; really love them. Hate what is wrong. Stand on the side of the good.” (Romans 12:13, 9, TLB)

4* What is the key verse in your testimony?

Verse:

5* Celebrate Recovery DNA What makes a CR Step Study a CR Step Study?

1. Leader (especially for groups)

a. Completed successfully at least 1 Step Study

b. Demonstrated at least 1 year of sobriety

c. Have attended a CR Step Study Leaders Training workshop

d. Attending a regular CR meeting

e. Currently not involved with any major ‘life’ decisions

f. Currently not acting out or ‘on the edge’

g. If a ‘rookie’ (first couple step studies) being mentored by an experienced leader.

h. Accountable to leadership for status updates, prayer requests and need(s) for assistance

2. Participants (for group)

a. Have a sponsor (actively searching)

b. Knows importance of recovery team

c. Has some sobriety, is not acting out Adventure Works Marketing Plan d. Has attended CR for at least 3 months

e. Willing to make time commitment - accountability

f. Ability to focus and ‘track’ with group

g. Attending a Bible believing church

h. Willing to purchase/acquire CR participant guides

3. Format for Meeting

a. On a separate night from regular meeting night (2 hours)

b. Leader and Co-Leader

c. Men’s and Women’s (hurts, hang-ups and habits may play a role)

d. Private/secluded location (meeting room - not a restaurant)

e. Standard meeting guidelines

e.i. Anonymity and Confidentiality

e.ii. Keep sharing focused

e.iii. Language and graphic descriptions

e.iv. No Fixing (Feedback & Processing)

e.v. Crosstalk

f. Open/Check In – Worship/Focus Question – Lesson(s) – Close

g. Start on-time and End on-time

Notes:

6* First Day Step Study Organization

1. Introductions 4. Need a sponsor

2. Accountability - Attendance – life has a 5. Step Study Schedule role 6. Journals 3. Sign-in sheet [Type text] Page 4 a. Contact information

b. Baseline

c. Study questions

d. Notes

e. Thoughts and assignments

7. Participant Guides

8. Pen & Paper

9. Bibles and Bible Apps & other materials

10. Contact information

11. Attendance verification card/sheet (justice system)

12. Initial check in

13. Definition of a relapse

14. Behavior that is ‘out-of-bounds’

15. Not a time to start a new relationship

16. Not a time for a major decision

17. Other ______Adventure Works Marketing Plan Notes:

7* Discernment 1. Potential mental health issues that impair 11. Victims & Abusers a participants focus 12. Substance Abuse & Life Issues 2. Melt downs, eruptions & distractions 13. When to close group to new members 3. Evidence of a crime committed – to be committed 14. Surrogate sponsor

4. Spiritual, emotional and time investment 15. Not doing work (by leader) 16. Accountability (attendance)

5. Feelings of suicide or harm 17. Bending small group guidelines

6. Referral (counseling, financial, housing, 18. Favorites & partiality sponsor, etc) 19. Co-leader & special speakers 7. Sunday School/Bible Study vs. Recovery Meeting 20. Cancelling a meeting

8. Religion vs. Recovery 21. When is the group dead?

9. ‘Christian-ese’ and other jargon 22. Open prayer requests

10. General topics off subject 23. Graphic discussions

25. Notes:

26.Step Study Goals and Objectives 1. Make arrangements for a good location to meet

a. Easy to find, park, safe, well lit at night

b. Minimal/no distractions

c. Place for two hours of uninterrupted time

d. Privacy [Type text] Page 6 2. Educate for understanding

a. Don’t assume everyone understands the material

b. Assess as you go

c. Have their sponsor follow up on the ‘foggy stuff’

3. Introduce them to our Higher Power – Jesus Christ

a. Through our lives

b. Through the workbooks

c. Through prayer

d. Through discussion with other believers

4. Prepare their life for change

a. Recovery is about old life to new life

b. Stick to the program – do steps in order

c. Watch for change

5. Effective and clear communication

a. Reminders

b. Assignments

c. Meeting dates and times (to include changes)

d. Rules violations

6. Cultivate open-honest-and-respectful conversation

a. Be prepared for serious life issues

b. You set the tone for what is discussed and how it’s discussed

c. Do not play favorites, do not isolate and be accountable

d. Do not be the source of gossip

7. Definition of Completion

a. Completed a 4th Step Inventory

b. Completed a 5th Step with another

c. Completed at least 1 proper 9th Step Amends Adventure Works Marketing Plan d. Completed all questions in participant guides

8. Prayer – Prayer – Prayer

27. Notes:

28.Step Study Concepts 1. Move from the extremes of behavior to the middle, balance

2. Sins of the parents – Rain/Shine on good and bad people (encouragement)

3. Relationship with God (What does it mean?)

a. Read the Word

b. Pray

c. Seek the wisdom of believers

d. Build relationships (minister)

4. Priorities of Time

a. Sleep/Maintenance

b. Obligated Time (work/school)

c. Discretionary Time (leisure time/reflective thought)

5. Recovery Baseline

a. Where are they when you start?

b. Is there change?

c. Where should they be at the end?

6. We don’t all think alike (squares, circles, triangles & squiggles)

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8. Step by Step Help 1. Step 1 – Group forming, looking for structure, set boundaries & get baseline

2. Step 2 – Journaling, talk about sponsors, explore who you are

3. Step 3 – Communication, listening, I-Statements, confirm sponsors

4. Step 4 – Life of David, journaling, focus on inventory

5. Step 5 – Scheduling 5th steps, cancel meeting,

6. Step 6 & 7 – Explore character defects and root causes, look for change

7. Steps 8 & 9 – Discussion about head & heart (motive)

8. Step 10 – Daily inventory tool, look for change

9. Step 11 – Reinforce positive habits (change)

10. Step 12 – Wrap up, commitment, revisit baseline a. Notes:

b. Methods for doing a 4th Step c. Your forth step inventory is a collection of facts that:

- Have occurred within your lifetime

- Have left you with an emotionally changed memory

- May have been a positive or negative experience

- Are things you have done to others AND things that were done to you

- May be memories that have been repressed

- May be memories that you deal with every day

- Most likely are associated with the people closest to you Adventure Works Marketing Plan d. The CR Principle 4 Inventory Worksheet requires each fact to contain:

- The Person (the subjects of the event)

- The Cause (what happened)

- The Effect (the factual result of the event)

- The Damage (the impact on yourself and others)

- My Part (why were you involved)

e. 4 th Step Inventory – Method #1: Timeline

f. Using the 4th Step Inventory Timeline draw a line from the approximate age in the timeline above the line and list the event in which something was done to you. Draw a line below from your approximate age on the timeline and note an event you did to others. After collecting these facts transfer the significant events to the CR Principle 4 Inventory Worksheet.

- Events in your childhood (earliest memory through elementary)

- Events in your youth (Jr High through High School)

- Events in your young adult life (college/military/working life/family)

- Events within the past few years (what got you to CR)

- Milestone coming to CR

- Events since you’ve been coming to CR

g. 4 th Step Inventory – Method #2: Relationships

h. Using the relationship priorities list below try to remember events in your life for the four time periods (i.e. Events God during childhood, God during youth, etc) and list them on the Pre 4th Step Worksheet. After collecting these facts transfer the significant events to the CR Principle 4 Inventory Worksheet.

- God (childhood, youth, adult, recently)*

- Spouse (adult, recently)

- Children (adult, recently)

- Extended Family (childhood, youth, adult, recently)

- Friends (childhood, youth, adult, recently)

- Coworkers (adult, recently)

- Others (significant relationships – military, institutional, clients, constituents, etc)

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j. 4 th Step Inventory – Method #3: Multiple Passes

- Using the Pre 4th Step Worksheet consider the 4 time periods and begin noting events beginning with the strongest memories you have about events positive and negative in your life. Focus on the theme of each pass as you note the facts. After collecting these facts transfer the significant events to the CR Principle 4 Inventory Worksheet.

- Pass 1: strongest event memories (you did to others, others did to you)

- Pass 2: criminal behavior (criminal activity – not caught, arrests and breaking rules)

- Pass 3: strong feelings (anger, resentment, fear, sexual harm)

- Pass 4: personality (bully, controlling, know-it-all, wall flower, promiscuous, etc)

- 4 th Step Inventory – Method #4: Journal

- Using your Journal consider the 4 time periods:

1. Label the top of the first page of your inventory with ‘Childhood’ and begin journaling about the events during that time period. Take your time and do a little at a time each day. When the thoughts start to slow down go to next step.

2. Leave a page or two and start with the next time period ‘Youth’ and so on.

3. When all time periods are complete review all your entries, highlight or asterisk the significant events and fill in missing details as needed.

4. When your review is complete transfer the significant events to the CR Principle 4 Inventory Worksheet.

- Bottom line: Get the 4 th Step Inventory done. Keep things simple. These methods are recommended to accommodate different ‘thinking’ styles. It is possible to mix and match aspects of each method to adjust to your leadership style or the needs of the group. There is no one ‘right’ way to do it. An inventory in chronological order makes it easy for a sponsor to hear a 5th Step.

- Barriers to completing a Searching and Fearless Moral Inventory

- Too much processing of past events – not being ready

- Not being honest

- Distractions

- Priorities of life

- Shame and guilt

- Confusion about doing a 4th Step Adventure Works Marketing Plan

[Type text] Page 12 - Tool: Understanding More about Our Self - Who we are, is made up of many factors. Use signs, figures, symbols, letters and abbreviations to identify ‘who you are.’ (physical – relational – occupational – recreational – situational – habitual)

- The Four Realities of a life in Recovery (or for anyone else).

- Things we - Things we can - Things God - Things we live can’t change change (our does (higher with (the facts) choices) power stuff) (consequences ) - - - -

- Handouts 1. Step Study Schedule (1p)

2. Step Study Contact List (1p)

3. How Do You Feel Today (1p)

4. Selecting your CR Recovery Team (2p)

5. David’s Timeline BC 1046 to 970 (2p)

6. David’s Family Tree (1p)

7. 4th Step Inventory Timeline (1p)

8. Pre 4th Step Worksheet (1p)

9. Celebrate Recovery Principle 4 Inventory Worksheet (1p)

10. My Daily CR Review (1p) Adventure Works Marketing Plan 11. Step Study Wrap-Up (1p)

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