Congregation Beth Shalom Rodfe Zedek

The WholeMegillah

September & October 2013 Elul 26, 5773– Heshvan 27, 5774

Inside this issue High Holy Days Schedule and Reflections 8–9

The Joslow Report...... 5

Message from Belinda Brennan on the Beginning of a New School Year...... 12

Highlights from the Annual Congregational Meeting…....18

My Journey to by Trina Shipuleski…...... 20

Social Action with 2013–2014 Calendar…..22–23

www.cbsrz.org Maurycy Gottlieb, Praying in the Synagogue on . 1878, Tel Aviv Museum of Art T H A N K Y O U to the following donors from 6/4/2013 to 7/15/2013 IN THIS ISSUE

We would like to thank the following donors: From Our Rabbi Rabbi Rachel Goldenberg 3 860-526-8920 Samuels Scholarship Fund [email protected] Stephen Rozenberg & Michele Kleiman: in appreciation of Belinda Brennan for always Worship Services and Belinda Brennan being there and for her support Educator & Sept/Oct. Events Cantorial Soloist 860-526-8920 Religious School Fund [email protected] Daniel & Lynda Wilkes: in memory of Joan Hoberman 4 Lary Bloom From Our President President Donations 860-526-9401 Rebecca Blake: in memory of Newton Cohen 5 [email protected] Lewis & Beatrice Case: in memory of Meyer White Miriam Gardner-Frum Rochelle Dauenheimer: in memory of David Adler and Dora Adler Editor’s Column Vice President 860-526-2292 Jeffrey Davis: in memory of Stella Davis 6 [email protected] Frances Freedman: in memory of Richard Freedman Sandy Seidman Rubin Hirsch & Leslie Bulion: in memory of Martin Bulion Red, White, and Jew Financial Vice President Howard & Pauline Kaplan: in memory of Freda “Fritzie” Kaplan 860-399-5709 Carol LeWitt: in memory of Nellie LeWitt 7 [email protected] Bernard & Rose Madnick: in honor of Lynn and Lee Nathan’s 50th anniversary Henry Resnikoff Bernard & Rose Madnick: in memory of Meyer White High Holy Days: Sched- Secretary 860-767-0547 Bernard & Rose Madnick: in memory of Simon Bernstein [email protected] Bernard & Rose Madnick: in memory of Syd Katrasar ule and Reflections Kevin B. Fox Meg Magida: in memory of Meyer White 8–11 Treasurer Steve & Jill Nadler: in honor of the birth of Keira Ann Seidman 860-597-6302 Steve & Jill Nadler: in memory of Emma Nadler Whole Mishpacha [email protected] Steve & Jill Nadler: in memory of Rita Sumner 12-14 Wendy Bayor Norman Needleman: in memory of Ann Needleman Administrator 860-526-8920 George & Dorothy Palmer: in memory of Lillian Tuch Photo Gallery [email protected] George & Dorothy Palmer: in memory of Morris Palmer Joseph Pear: in memory of Morris Pear 15-17 Linda Polomski: in honor of Meg Gister and the CBSRZ choir Linda Polomski: in memory of Louis Goodman Annual Meeting The Whole Megillah Saul & Hila Rosen: in memory of Frances Cohen, Harry Rosen, and Mildred Rosen 18–19 Published bi-monthly by Congregation Beth Shalom Matthew & Hadass Rubin: in memory of Zahava Caspi and Isidor Rubin Rodfe Zedek Joel & Marcy Saltzman: in memory of Leon Saltzman My Journey to Judaism 55 East Kings Highway Adele Saykin: in memory of Lillian Saykin 20 PO Box 438 John Schwolsky & Elizabeth Storch: in memory of Florence Storch Chester, CT 06412 Sandy & Andrea Seidman Voice: 860-526-8920 CBSRZ News Fax: 860-526-8918 Sharon Taubman: in memory of Dr. Louis Glickman 21 www.cbsrz.org Editor Year-End Appeal Social Action Sean Konecky Estelle Breslow 22-23 Editor Emeritus Lary Bloom Miller Lighting Fund Board Highlights Photo Editor Ellen Friedman: in memory of Adele Miller Deborah Rutty Ellen Friedman: in memory of Murray Miller 24 The Whole Mishpacha Editor Rabbi Discretionary Fund Remembrance and Leslie Krumholz Lewis & Beatrice Case: in appreciation of all friends and family on their 71st Editorial Assistant anniversary Refuah Shlemah Wendy Bayor Philip & Susan Fine: in memory of Meyer White 25 Design/Production Gerald & Mary Kelly Justin Marciano September and October Calendars 26–27 2 From ourRabbi we connect with each other, learn about each other, By Rabbi Rachel Goldenberg listen to each other, respond to each other, and reach beyond our walls, the richer and more vibrant our com- munity will be.

his year the High Holy Days This year our community is embarking on a campaign are so early that I’m trying to of relationship building. Formally, this is called a Listen- get some of my sermons writ- ing Campaign. On October 20 between 20 and 40 CBSRZ T members will be trained as “listeners.” Over the following ten in July! I hope I’ll be prepared in time to make it to a family reunion month, these listeners will each meet one on one and in (on my mother’s side) in the Berk- person with 5 other congregants and have a conversation shires over Labor Day. My extended based on some open-ended questions developed by our family never used to need to create big events in order to leadership. These questions will allow the pair, first, to for us to see each other. There weren’t as many of us, and get to know each other, and then, for the listener to hear we lived closer together. When I was growing up, most of about the congregant’s passions and concerns and how my Mom’s family was in New Jersey, and we were the far- the congregation might harness or respond to those pas- flung relatives in Central Pennsylvania. But now we need sions and concerns. an occasion. After the one-on-one conversations are complete, the I’m grateful for these gatherings. There is nothing like the listeners will report back to each other on November 17. energy produced by multiple generations of people who Then a report will be made to our Board on the major have all known each other since they were either born or themes the listeners have heard from our congregation. married in to the clan. This year we’ll be sharing the joy of AME Zion Church in Middletown, an African-American my cousins Gloria and Mike’s 50th wedding anniversary, church, will be participating in the trainings with us, and the excitement of my cousin Tovah’s pregnancy, as which is a wonderful opportunity to make new connec- well as sharing the sorrow of the recent death of an Israeli tions beyond our synagogue. These trainings will be cousin, Yoel, whom we all loved dearly. Stories will be facilitated by United Action CT, an interfaith network of told about the oldest generation, only one of whom, Tante congregations that we belong to. Anny, is still alive, in her nineties. The purpose of this campaign is for the themes we hear to Here at CBSRZ I have always loved the moments when help shape the priorities of our congregation, internally, congregants start flowing into our sanctuary on Rosh in terms of what our congregants want and need, and Hashanah. This too is a family reunion. The sanctuary fills externally, in terms of what issues to address in the world with the warmth of long-time friendships and connec- through our social justice work. An equally important out- tions. New faces are welcomed with enthusiasm, and we come is that, by the end of the process, we will have cre- get to connect with members’ young adult children whom ated at least 100 new connections in our community’s web we don’t often see. We’re together as a community in the of relationships. We will have identified how to engage same place at the same time, and the energy is palpable. more of our members in the sacred work of our congrega- Something transformational is about to occur as we gather tion, and I hope we will have started a communal conver- to pray and sing and turn towards the New Year. sation that will be ongoing. This year my goal, and the goal of our Board, is to bring At the same time that this is going on, this whole year, the energy of those relationships to the next level. We I will be taking on my own listening campaign as your do a wonderful job around here of filling seats for High rabbi. I will be reaching out to long-time members, new Holy Days and classes and programs and concerts. We members, active members, and folks we haven’t seen in a come together in solid numbers for and holiday while, to renew our relationships with each other. celebrations, and our school buzzes with joy and learning. I see all of these conversations as extensions of our big But what gives all of this life and meaning is the web of family reunion on Rosh Hashanah. May we all be renewed relationships that we weave as we go. for a New Year of joy, of peace, and of connection to each In this New Year, I want to invite you to weave that web other and to this community. even tighter and even wider than it already is. The more L’shanah Tovah!

3 SEPTEMBER EVENTS OCTOBER EVENTS

September Worship Services Wednesday, September 4, Erev Rosh Hashanah Wednesday, October 2, 8:45 AM, Religious Affairs; 4:15 Thursday, September 5, Rosh Hashanah Day 1 (office closed) PM, Religious School Wednesday, September 4, 7:30 PM, Erev Rosh Hashanah Friday, September 6, Rosh Hashanah Day 2 (office closed) Sunday, October 6, 9:30 AM, Religious School; 11:30 AM – Service 1:00 PM, Confirmation; Sunday, September 8, 9:30 AM, First Day Religious School Thursday, September 5, 9:30 AM, Rosh Hashanah and Taschlich Walk; 9:30 AM, Parent High Holy Day Tuesday October 8, 3:00 PM, Shoreline Soup Kitchen and Morning Service; 2:00 PM, Rosh Hashanah Family Program; 11:00 AM, Membership Committee; Pantry Board Meeting Program; 3:00 PM, Rosh Hashanah Children’s Service Wednesday, October 9, 4:15 PM, Religious School with Apples & Honey Tuesday, September 10, 3:00 PM, Shoreline Soup Kitchen and Pantry Board Meeting; Thursday, October 10, 12:00–1:30 PM, Lunch and Learn; Friday, September 6, 9:30 AM, Rosh Hashanah Morning 7:00 PM, Board of Directors Service (Day 2); 7:30 PM, Shabbat Shuvah Service with Wednesday, September 11 (no religious school) Sermon by Rabbi Irwin Goldenberg Thursday, September 12, 7:00 PM, Board of Directors Meeting Sunday, October 13, 9:15–10:30 AM, Breakfast with the Rabbi (Grade 6); 9:30 AM, Religious School Sunday, September 8, 1:00 PM, Cemetery Service — Foun- Friday, September 13, tain Hill; 3:00 PM, Cemetery Service — Rodfe Zedek Wednesday, October 16, 4:15 PM, Religious School Saturday, September 14, Yom Kippur Wednesday, September 11, 7:45 AM, Morning Minyan Sunday, October 20, 9:30 AM, Religious School; 1:00 Sunday, September 15, 9:30 AM, Religious School PM – 5:00 PM, UACT Listening Campaign Training with Friday, September 13, 7:30 PM, Kol Nidre Wednesday, September 18, Erev (no religious school) AME Zion Church Saturday, September 14, 9:30 AM, Yom Kippur Morning Wednesday, October 23, 4:15 PM, Religious School Service; 12:30 PM, Yom Kippur Youth Program; 2:30 Thursday, September 19, Sukkot (office closed) PM, Yom Kippur Children’s Service; 4:00 PM, Yom Sunday, September 22, 9:30 AM, Religious School; 11:30 AM Thursday, October, 24, 7:00 PM, Executive Committee Kippur Afternoon Service with Yizkor and Neilah, – 1:00 PM, Confirmation; 11:30–1:30 PM, Gesher Sunday, October 27, 9:30 AM, Religious School; 11:30 AM Followed by Break the Fast Wednesday, September 25, Erev Simchat (no – 1:00 PM, Confirmation; 11:30 AM–1:30 PM, Gesher; Wednesday, September 18, 7:45 AM, Morning Minyan; religious school) Books & Bagels with David Fitzpatrick (time TBA) 7:00 PM, Erev Sukkot Service Thursday, September 26, (office closed); Wednesday, October 30, 4:15 PM, Religious School Thursday, September 19, Sukkot (office closed) 7:00 PM, Executive Committee Friday, September 20, 6:15 PM, Hang in the Sukkot Sunday, September 29, 9:30 AM, Religious School Potluck Dinner; 7:30 PM, Erev Shabbat Sukkot Service UPCOMING EVENTS Wednesday, September 25, 7:45 AM, Morning Minyan; 5:30 PM, Potluck Dinner; 6:15 PM, Erev Simchat Thursday, November 14, 12:00 PM – 1:30 PM, Lunch and Learn Torah and Consecration Service Pre-High Holy Days Series: Sunday, November 17, 2:00 PM – 4:00 pm UACT Listening Thursday, September 26, 8:00 AM, Simchat Torah Campaign Feedback at Cross Street AME Zion Church Service with Yizkor Friday, August 16, 7:30 PM, Sunday, November 24, Interfaith Thanksgiving Service Friday, September 27, 7:30 PM, Erev Shabbat Service Message of Hope and Healing Friday, November 29, Chanukah Service and Celebration Sunday, December 8, 12:00 PM, Books & Bagels with with Rick Hornung Wally Lamb Friday, August 23, 7:30 PM, Message of Hope and Healing with Jeannette Ickovics Holy Scrollers October Worship Services Friday, August 30, 7:30 PM, Torah Study Wednesday, October 2, 7:45 AM, Morning Minyan; Message of Hope and Healing every Shabbat Friday, October 4, 5:45 PM, Tot Shabbat; 6:15 PM, Dairy with Stu Baker Potluck Dinner; 7:00 PM, First Friday Shabbat Service 9:00 –10:30 AM Saturday, October 5, 10:30 AM, Shabbat Service and Bat Mitzvah of Acadia Barrengos, Wednesday, October 9, 7:45 AM, Morning Minyan; Friday, October 11, 7:30 PM, Erev Shabbat Service Don’t Be Afraid of CBSRZ’s Social Media: Facebook, Websites, Blogs, Tumblr, Twitter Saturday, October 12, (no second Saturday service) The words alone can cause tremors for some but, like it or not, they are here to stay. CBSRZ is using one or Wednesday October 16, 7:45 AM, Morning Minyan; more of these sites and asks members to come along—it’s not hard—and explore the joys of cyberspace. Friday, October 18, 7:30 PM, Erev Shabbat Service Begin by clicking on www.cbsrz.org to bring up the Synagogue’s site and then click on any of the colorful sites Wednesday October 23, 7:45 AM, Morning Minyan that you want to access. Click on the Facebook icon at the bottom of the page, and you will be directed to the CBSRZ Facebook page and a treasure trove of information beginning with EllenNodelman’s blog about what it Friday, October 25, 7:30 PM Erev Shabbat Service is like to be an adult B’nai Mitzvah. Click on the Like icon so you can be counted as a Friend of CBSRZ and thus Saturday October 26, 10:30 AM, Shabbat Service and receive postings as quickly as they are sent. Bat Mitzvah of Maya Gold Wednesday October 30, 7:45 AM, Morning Minyan Charles Savitt has launched a twitter site. Be sure to follow us Twitter @CBSRZ !!

4 From our face? We are too big and even with a few people who have to be small and for drifted away from us in recent years. all members to feel He wanted, indeed, to talk to all 241 President intimate connections, family units, but even Jon couldn’t pull and too small to have that off in one month’s time. The Joslow Report: the staffing and range His questions were open ended: What of volunteer efforts are we doing right? What are we doing How Are We Doing? to ensure all critical wrong? Is there an elephant in the matters are attended By Lary Bloom room? This would be part of a CBSRZ to in timely fashion. continuum, an epic effort on our part Are we doing every- to connect much more deeply with thing we can to make congregants: a key goal of our “listen- our members feel ing” campaign to begin in the fall. part of our efforts and if not, why not? As the month passed, Jon called to few months ago, I called Jon Does our spending reflect our values? provide progress reports. He didn’t Joslow and asked him to How can we improve, and improve say, and I didn’t ask him, how people undertake a project on behalf quickly?" A were responding to his questions. He of all of us at CBSRZ. I can’t recall Jon had heard this sort of thing before. was careful to preserve the anonym- exactly what I said during our conver- The reason I called him in the first ity of respondents. He simply gave sation, but, allowing for liberties here place is because over his business updates on how the project was going. and there, it might have been some- career he has helped management of It was a lot of work and, no doubt, thing like this: companies large and small to become stress was involved. The saying goes, “Jon, could you do the congregation more efficient and effective. Moreover, after all, “two Jews, three opinions.” a little favor? It would only require Jon has a personal stake in this: he In this case, if the math holds up, it’s that you set aside everything else in is a lifelong member CBSRZ, having thirty Jews, forty-five opinions. your life for 30 days, have intense had his Bar Mitzvah at the old shul, At the June board meeting Jon interviews with as many leaders of having served in a variety of roles on patiently went through his findings. our community as possible, take copi- the board, and having smiled broadly We had a large crowd that night. Word ous notes, and provide a honed-down when the Joslow daughters, Judy has spread about his report. Here are report to the board by the June board and Becca, celebrated their respec- highlights: of directors meeting.” tive B'not Mitzvah with us. His wife Doreen also has been a stalwart of the Jon offers eleven recommendations, Instead of responding, “Lary, with congregation for decades. some of which are intertwined. all due respect, you're out of your He pointed out that we had done a mind,” Jon waited patiently for more Jon was impressed that the board had great deal of work in 2010 to create information. built a foundation on which for him to work. In the last year, it had prepared a strategic plan, but that plan, as writ- I told him there is much to be cel- detailed reports, white papers, on our ten, needs reexamination and updat- ebrated at CBSRZ. That in a time when synagogue’s emerging needs, such as ing according to the needs of today other congregations have been hit care of our seniors, and how to ensure and the next few years. Moreover, hard — large drops in membership — a healthy religious school in a time the operating budget must be tied to ours has remained stable. In fact, this when demographics indicate real chal- priorities outlined in that plan, not year we had the largest membership lenges ahead. I didn’t ask him to solve merely adjusted slightly from year to ever, 241 family units. But I wasn’t those problems; I was more interested year. There is not enough money to calling to ask him to arrange a party in his assessment of our organizational do everything we’d like to do, and at which we could toot our horns. structure and how it affects our leader- have done in the past, so Jon urges Because I know, and every board ship and congregants. using our resources for selected and member knows, and nearly all of our highly strategic initiatives rather members know, that there is much yet Jon said yes. He would do this. It than spreading them thinly over to do before we truly make our house, would be a chance for him to dive many things. as we say on our welcome wall, a back into a place that he loves and He urges us, as a board, to finish the house for all. has done a great deal of work for in the past. And so he did 30 interviews work we have begun to identify and I asked Jon, “Are we structured — in 30 days — with committee chairs, meet the needs of seniors, and of our office-wise, committee-wise and oth- with past presidents, with members of school. He reports that many of our erwise — to meet the challenges we our staff and our executive committee, hard-working volunteers feel burnout, (Continued on page 6)

5 description of his encounter sense of belonging. After three days at From our with Chabad rabbis, and Trina Woodstock I would close my eyes and Shipuleski’s moving account of see endless lines of hippies unscroll the steps leading to her conver- before my imagination. sion. They all seem to reflect Editor And yet being part of a community is the importance of a sense of not an unalloyed delight. The web of community. personal relationships is sticky. Every- By Sean Konecky I was speaking on the phone to one has an agenda, and only a few my sister the other day. She lives are aware of what theirs are. Are my in Seattle, which is too far away attempts to comfort others driven by to suit my taste. She is a remarka- concern for their welfare or a need to ble, independent woman: funny, allay my own anxieties? Dispensing wise, a devoted friend. She advice is a way of dispensing with the takes on a lot of other people’s problem and the person who has it. burdens and keeps me at a distance Keats spoke of Shakespeare in terms he big advantage of being editor when she’s feeling down. Not having of what he described as Negative is that I get to read everyone heard from her in a while, I suspected Capability: “that is, when a man is Telse’s articles before starting my that such was the case. She said to capable of being in uncertainties, own. This is particularly helpful when me: “I feel like the tallest tree on the mysteries, doubts, without any irritable I don’t have anything that pressing to tallest mountain, getting repeatedly reaching after fact and reason.” This is write. I am reminded of a creative writ- struck by lightning.” In part by choice, the best definition of the art of listening ing class in high school. The teacher, in part by circumstance, and in part that I have come across. with the ominous name of Professor because those around her are not as For those of us whose grip on reality is Moriarity, singled out two students, caring of her as she is of them, she somewhat tenuous, community is dou- myself and a guy named Tony Movs- feels very alone. hon. One day he took us aside and bly welcome. The richness it provides said to Tony: “You have a lot to say, So I am grateful to feel part of a com- as well as the obligations it enjoins but you don’t know how to say it. This munity. Though I am not without keep us here. Rather late in the day I is in contrast to Sean. He knows how contrarian impulses, I always felt have come to realize that not every- to say it; he just has nothing to say.” at home as part of a large, raucous body shares my thought processes. extended family. My formative years And that is an insight I could not have So I take as my point of departure as a deranged member of the ‘60s arrived out without engaging with all the Rabbi’s column, Bruce Josephy’s counterculture provided another of you.

The Joslow Report: How Are We Doing? (Continued from page 5) and there is a need for greater support and for much greater engagement is 860.841.4812, and email larybloom@ of volunteers. all around — being sure that every sbcglobal.net. He says: “All of the work of our Rabbi, congregant feels a part of the family In terms of next steps, we have paid and unpaid staff, leadership and of CBSRZ and has access to the board already reestablished the strategic plan general membership should relate to and to our Rabbi. Though acknowl- committee, and Rabbi Goldenberg, at supporting what we want as a congre- edging there may be a need for organi- the July board meeting, presented a gation. There is a financial and a vol- zational restructuring of our staff, he detailed plan for greater engagement unteer cost or expenditure of energy says that priorities must be articulated with the congregation. More steps are and effort to make CBSRZ a special before that can be addressed. being planned. place. We know it can be more special For Jon’s complete report, please call One step we must always take is thank and more relevant to our lives and in or email me and I’ll send it to you. The people for their hard work. So thank the lives of our congregation.” board, by the way, also invites your you Jon Joslow for your thirty days in He points out the critical and immi- responses as well, so please feel free the desert, and for your eleven, if not nent need for leadership succession, to be in touch with me. My cell phone commandments, sound suggestions.

6 House of Greater Hartford. There We have several educational forums at Red, White and were about 120 rabbis and a handful CBSRZ, such as Holy Scrollers every of lay leaders. Saturday morning; Rabbi Goldenberg’s Jew Lunch and Learn Series the second The color scheme throughout the rest by Berel Josephy Thursday of each month (except of America that day may have been this September); and single classes red, white, and blue, but in West Hart- throughout the year, such as Rabbi recently had lunch with my friend ford it was all black and white. Lary Bloom. He mentioned that I Goldenberg’s recent one about Tisha I haven’t been writing lately for the I listened to the speakers and thought b’Av. In addition to these learning Megillah about my wandering around how lucky I was to be an American opportunities, I’ve attended classes the Jewish world. Jew. Lucky to have the freedom we given by Rabbi Yossi Yaffe of Chabad have in America. of the Shoreline. It’s been an active journey. Here’s a recent stop. Our rabbi in New York, Yisrael Stone A goal I see for us today is to create of Chabad of the Lower East Side, says more Jewish learning opportunities and West Hartford, Connecticut – July 4, that G-d gave the Torah to the Jewish to attract more people to the study of 2013 People, not to this group of Jews or that Torah. Some possible topics I’ve been The USA is a great country. And a great group of Jews, but to the Jewish People. thinking about are a course on Jewish medical ethics and a textual study of a country for Jews. We Jews are all in this together. But topic in the . If you would like so often, the focus is on “differences” As cookouts (hopefully kosher) and to join me to expand Jewish learning instead of commonalities. One of the fireworks were happening on Inde- opportunities in the area or would like things I’ve learned along the way is pendence Day, I attended a confer- information as these classes develop, that various groups of Jews can learn ence for Chabad rabbis from New York please email me at [email protected]. and New England at the Chabad with, and from, one another. Be well.

l to r – Rabbi Moshe Kotlarsky, Rabbi Joseph Gopin, Berel Josephy, Rabbi Yisrael Stone, Rabbi Yossi Yaffe 7 L’Shana Tovah Tikateivu

In the month of Elul we open our hearts to reflection, repentance and

renewal as we prepare for the days of awe. The four Friday evening Changing Torah “If you have done your services preceding the New Year will focus on themes of comfort and mantles from blue to neighbor a little wrong, healing, with special presentations from Rabbi Goldenberg and three white is a symbol of let it be in your eyes of our congregants. See page 4 for a full listing of speakers. our desire to cleanse great; if you have done our lives and begin the him much good, let it New Year without be in your eyes little; if Friday, August 30th blemish and full of he has done you a little compassion. “For the good, let it be in your 7:30 pm We change the Torah mantles from blue to our new white Torah teaches gentle eyes great; if he has manners,” Peskita done you a great wrong, High Holy Day Mantles, Stu Baker Rabbah 17b let it be in your eyes speaks to the spiritual path of little." Avot de Rabbi addiction recovery Nathan, ch. 41. Our Erev Rosh Hashanah service Saturday, August 31st concludes with honey “And, the Lord said, ‘I 7:30 pm Service at cake oneg, as Rabbi pardon you as asked.'” Congregation Beth Tikvah, Goldenberg, Cantorial Numbers 14:20. Madison Soloists Belinda Brennan and John “If a mortal man uses DeNicola, and choir th broken vessels, it is a Wednesday, Sept 4 director Meg Gister disgrace, but with God 7:30 pm Erev Rosh Hashanah Service greet all and extend wishes for a happy, it is otherwise, for all healthy 5774. His servants are broken Thursday, Sept 5th vessels, as it is said, ‘The Lord is nigh to the 9:30 am Rosh Hashanah Morning Service, followed by Taschlich, Mack Goller & Joey broken hearted, and the Gister join Harvey contrite in spirit He will 2:00 pm Rosh Hashanah Family Redak as two save.’” Peskita Kahana generations blow the 158b, Psalms, 34:18 Program (Details in The Whole ) shofar on Rosh Mishpacha Hashanah and Yom 3:00 pm Rosh Hashanah Children’s Kippur. “A king had a son who Service and Apples & Honey oneg had gone astray for a journey of 100 days; his Friday, Sept 6th We honor the tradition friends said to him, 9:30 am Rosh Hashanah Service, of Taschlich on the ‘Return to your father.’ Chester ferry, casting He said, ‘I cannot.’ Second Day out wrongdoing as we Then, his father sent to 7:30 pm Shabbat Shuvah Service cast crumbs into the say, ‘Return as far as river. you can and I will come Rabbi Irwin Goldenberg delivers to you the rest of the sermon way.’ So God, says, During the Torah ‘Return to me and I will service and sermon on return to you.’”Peskita Rosh Hashanah and Rabbah, 184b Yom Kippur mornings, Babysitting (for potty-trained children) will be available students grades 4 on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur with advance through 7 will take a “Like palm trees, the break from the reservations for a fee. However, children and teenagers righteous flourish; like sanctuary to join John cedars they grow.” are encouraged to be with their parents for the parts of DeNicola, Eric Infeld, Psalm 92:12 the service that parents deem appropriate. For guidance and Marjorie Lander on this and other questions, look for the High Holy Days for an activity and Frequently Asked Questions sheet, which will arrive in discussion of High the mail along with your tickets. This year, we are Holy Day themes. continuing with some special programs in our effort to make our High Holiday services more accessible and

meaningful for families with children and for our teens.

8 Shema Koleinu – Hear our voice, Oh God; have compassion upon us, and with compassion, accept our prayers, High Holy Day Liturgy

“Remember the former “Sow to yourselves Sunday, Sept 8th things of old…” Zachor, the according to 1:00 pm Cemetery Service Hebrew root of the word righteousness, reap Yizkor, we are commanded according to mercy, Fountain Hill, Deep River to remember. “Declaring break up the fallow 3:00 pm Cemetery Service the end from the ground, for it is time to Rodfe Zedek, Moodus beginning” (Isaiah 46:9-10). As we look forward, we also seek the Lord,”Hosea look back, standing at the 10:12. Friday, Sept 13th graves of those who are no 7:30 pm Kol Nidre longer with us. On the second day of Rosh Hashanah, Saturday, Sept 14th Michael Roth will lead a 9:30 AM Yom Kippur Morning Service “No righteous man dies out discussion on the of this world before Akedah, the binding of 12:30 PM Yom Kippur Youth outing, another like himself is (Details in The Whole Mishp cha) Isaac. a created,” Babylonian Talmud, Yoma, 38b 2:30 pm Children’s Service On Yom Kippur afternoon before and 4:00 pm Afternoon Service with “In this month you shall Yizkor, Followed by Break the Fast after the 2:30 p.m. renew your deeds. On this month, blow the shofar, children’s service, the Wednesday, Sept 18th sanctuary will remain that is, cleanse your deeds. 7:00 pm Erev Sukkot Service God says, ‘If you cleanse open for quiet your deeds, then I will be individual meditation Friday, Sept 20th to you like the shofar. As and prayer. 6:15 pm Hang in the Potluck the shofar draws air from Dinner the narrow end and emits it “For on this day shall from the wide end, so I will atonement be made for 7:307:00 pm Erev Shabbat Sukkot turn for you the attribute of you, to cleanse you from Service with New Member Blessing judgment into the attribute of mercy,” Leviticus Rabbah, all your sins…and you st shall be clean before the Saturday, Sept 21 Emor, 29, 6. 9:00 am Scrollers in the Sukkah Lord,” Lev. 16:30. Wednesday, Sept 25th “Study is not the principal Yom Kippur afternoon 5:30 pm Potluck Dairy Dinner thing, but doing, for we services will feature have been taught that deeds Rachel Angle, Amy 6:15 pm Erev Simchat Torah and make atonement for a Burzin, Dana Foley, Consecration Service person and that repentance Jacob Luster, Jennie and good deeds are a shield th against punishment,” Rozenberg and Sam Thursday, Sept 26 8:00 am Simchat Torah Morning Numbers Rabbah 14, 10. Thorpe chanting the Service with Yizkor Holiness Code. This year, Rick Hornung will “Behold it was He who tell a helluva tale, declared, 'Is it not to deal thy bread to the hungry offering his midrash on and that thou bring the how and why Jonah poor that are cast out to thy lived in a whale. T’aint house?(Isaiah 58:7)’” necessarily so. Baba Batra 10a. “When the prideful arrive, Proverbs then 11:2-­3 comes shame; but wisdom walks with the humble, guided by the integrity of the upright.”

9 SUKKOT he Festival of Sukkot begins on Tishri 15, the fifth day after TYom Kippur. Sukkot is a seven- day festival so unreservedly joyful that it is commonly referred to in and literature as the Season of our Rejoicing. It is during this holiday that we thank God for the harvest food and for God’s protection. It is a time to feast and welcome visitors. And we are supposed to do that in the Sukkah! We have a small committee of volun- teers who work very hard to erect the Sukkah and then decorate it with lights and plantings. Then the Religious School children add their beautiful artwork. If you would like to help in erecting the structure or the trimmings, please contact Wendy in the office. Leopold Pilichowski, Examining the . C. 1890, Private Collection. We begin our Sukkot celebration on Wednesday, September 18 at 7:00 PM our beautiful sukkah! It is the annual rain or shine event. If the weather is with an Erev Sukkot Service. Hopefully “Hang in the Sukkah” Potluck Dairy not cooperating, we will eat inside. we will have a wonderfully cool fall Dinner followed by Erev Shabbat Suk- evening! On Saturday, September 21 at 9:30 kot Services at 7:30 PM. Following our AM Holy Scrollers will be held in the Friday Night September 20 at 6:15 PM new tradition, we will bless our new Sukkah. please come and spend the evening in congregants at this service. This is a

to another person to complete a circle, and the ritual begins anew. Rosh hashanah Simchat Torah Along with Simchat Torah, we will afteRnoon ollowing Sukkot comes the celebrate the consecration of new , dancing and festivities of Sim- students in our religious school. This 2:00 pm chat Torah, Rejoicing with/of the is a special way to commemorate the F beginning of a child’s formal Jewish Torah. On Wednesday, September 25, education at CBSRZ and affirms our we celebrate the cycle of reading the The high Holidays are a time Torah. Our celebration will begin at commitment and dedication to educat- ing our children in the Jewish tradition. of reflection and renewal. Join 5:45 PM with a Dairy potluck dinner, Karen Evans and her family as she followed by Erev Simchat Torah and Following the consecration and the Consecration Service. Our Klez Act hakafot we will move to the social shares their tradition of revisiting will join the celebration with music hall where we will unroll one of the the year through journal writ- and dancing. Torah with the assistance of the con- ing and drawing. Children and gregation. The children will stand in adults of all ages will have the During Simchat Torah services, we will the middle of the circle surrounded by gather, take out the Torah scrolls, and opportunity to create their own the Torah. Our Kitah Hey class will be dance around the synagogue as peo- High Holiday journal entry in the reading from Genesis during this fes- ple dance and sing along. The dancing hopes of continuing this tradition tive service followed by music from with the Torah is known in Hebrew the Klez Act. each year. Participants can bring as hakafot — which means to march their own journals if they want. around. There are seven hakafot, so as On Thursday, September 26 at 8:00 AM Materials will be available for use. soon as the circle around the sanctu- there will be a Simchat Torah morning ary is completed, the Torah is handed service with Yizkor. 10 has less eggs than a frittata and more 2. Heat oil over medium heat and sauté vegetables than a kugel. For a Break- the onion (and leeks, if using) until soft. Breaking the Fast the-Fast meal, it’s good served cold or Lynne Stiles 3. In a large bowl, combine eggs, cheeses, at room temperature; it can be made a parsley (or dill), nutmeg, salt & pepper. Mix or the past two years, I’ve coordi- day ahead, put in the fridge, and cut into well. Stir in the vegetables and onion. squares before serving. nated the Break-the-Fast, CBSRZ’s 4. Spoon mixture into baking dish. Bake F bagel, lox, and potluck meal fol- until set in the center and golden brown, lowing afternoon Yom Kippur services. Quajado about 40 to 50 minutes. Can be served At first I wondered, can I do this? Can 6 to 8 servings warm but is great cold or at room tem- I be around food all day and still fast? 1 ⁄4 cup olive oil perature. If desired, top each square with Turns out that plating 15 lbs .of smoked a dollop of yogurt and dill sprig. fish, mounding bagels, and taking in 1 large onion, chopped the beautifully prepared potluck dishes 6 large eggs, lightly beaten put me in a somewhat contempla- tive mood. When the day was almost 1 cup crumbled feta or farmer cheese, over, before the service came to a close or a combination of both cheeses and the crowd came through, I would 5 oz grated cheddar, Swiss or muenster walk down “Main Street” to see if eve- cheese rything was in place. The long tables 1 ⁄4 cup chopped flat-leaf parsley or dill overflowed with every kind of kugel, 1 domes of tuna salad, chopped herring ⁄2 tsp ground nutmeg (optional) on lettuce leaves, hummus with black About 1 tsp table salt or 2 tsp kosher salt olives, brownies, and bundt cakes. I was reminded, again, how food connects us: Ground black pepper to taste, or cayenne to tradition, to each other, to the hearts to taste and hands that prepare our food. 6 cups vegetables such as: chopped spin- ach; grated zucchini with excess moisture This year, the holidays come early, prac- squeezed out; sliced and sautéed leeks; tically in summer, and cold food and seeded, chopped and drained tomatoes vegetables come to mind. As described in the terrific book Encyclopedia of Jew- 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Lightly ish Food by Gil Marks, this Quajado or oil a 9-in square baking dish. Sephardic Egg and Vegetable Casserole

Breaking News Due to illness, the art exhibition of Brian Shapiro's work originally scheduled has been cancelled. The paintings of Daniel Kleiman will take its place on Mainstreet As a very young child Daniel Kleiman was diagnosed with autism at a time when the medical world had few meaningful programs to deal with this condition. He entered a group home at the age of twenty-one and was fortunate to begin working with an art therapist who helped him express himself through art forms. That expression led to an explosion of color and creativity that will adorn CBSRZ's walls from mid-August through late Octoboer. Although Danny has never received formal art training, his imagination has lent mood and movement to his work so that his abstracts range from fireworks to feelings of quiet reflection. Daniel, the son of Howard Kleiman and brother of Michele Kleiman Rozenberg (both CBSRZ members), resides in Long Island. Coinci- dentally our guest artist will celebrate his fiftieth birthday this Septem- ber as we celebrate his imagination and gift that have enriched both his life and ours.

Michele and Daniel Kleiman 11 The Whole Religious School & Family Activities

Religious School and Family Calendar Fall Holiday Calendar for Families Special Rosh Hashanah

September 2013 Rosh Hashanah Thursday, Sept 5 Program for 2:00 PM Rosh Hashanah Family Program Sun 8 Opening Day w/Taschlich (for parents and kids – open to all) Families: A Rosh Parent High Holy Day Program 3:00 PM Children’s Service and Apples and Honey Wed 11 No School: classes come to Yom Kippur Youth Hashanah Journal Program during morning services Yom Kippur Saturday, Sept 14 Families are invited to join Karen Evans 12:30 PM Yom Kippur Youth Program (grades 8 and up) Sun 15 Sunday Session in a special program taking place on Wed 18 No School: classes come on the 20th 2:30 PM Children’s Service Rosh Hashanah, Thursday, September Fri 20 Hang in the Sukkah Potluck Dinner (6:15 PM) and Sukkot Friday, Sept 20 Erev Shabbat Sukkot Service (7:30 PM) 6:15 PM Hang in the Sukkah potluck dinner 5 at 2:00 PM. Families will take time Sun 22 Sunday Session 7:30 PM Erev Shabbat Sukkot Service to reflect on the year that has passed Gesher & Confirmation and write about their hopes for the Wed 25 No School: classes come to Potluck Dinner (5:30 PM) Simchat Torah Wed, Sept 25 and Simchat Torah & Consecration Service (6:15 PM) 5:30 PM Dairy potluck dinner future. Start a tradition called a Rosh Sun 29 Sunday Session 6:15 PM Erev Simchat Torah and Consecration Service Hashanah Journal Entry. Any age can join. Write and draw about your experi- October 2013 ences throughout the year and for the Wed 2 Wednesday Session future, as Karen guides families through Sun 6 Sunday Session Rosh Hashanah the experience at the start of the pro- Confirmation and Yom Kippur gram and then allows everyone to take Wed 9 Wednesday Session time to write and reflect on their own. Sun 13 Sunday Session; student activity Breakfast with the Rabbi (Grade 6) Reservations are not necessary, but Wed 16 Wednesday Session In keeping with the intention to families should bring their own journals, Sun 20 Sunday Session exchange some class time for more colored pencils, crayons, etc. Wed 23 Wednesday Session intensive, experiential learning outside Sun 27 Sunday Session of the classroom, there will be no Community Gathering (led by Grades K/1) Yom Kippur Afternoon Gesher & Confirmation Hebrew School on Wednesday, Sep- Wed 30 Wednesday Session tember 11. In lieu of this class time, Youth Program led by students in grades 4–7 are asked to Birthdays Moreh Jim Talbott participate in a unique program, taking After morning services on Yom Kippur, place during Rosh Hashanah and Yom September 2013 Moreh Jim will be taking eighth through Kippur morning services. The program 2nd: Tillie Ripin twelfth graders on an outing for our will be led by John DeNicola, Marjo- 8th: Benjamin Rosenblum-Jones teens. Weather permitting, they will walk rie Lander, and Eric Infeld. It will take 10th: Allie Champion to the ferry, take the ferry across the 11th: David Crair place about the time of the Torah ser- river, and walk up to Gillette Castle. 12th: Evan Stein vice. It will be an experiential program Once there, our teens will engage in 13th: Maya Gold connecting the two holidays. Themes 17th: Lilian Kleinberg a High Holy Day themed discussion in an are being discussed now. The idea of 21st: Eliot Barrengos informal setting. It should be an enjoy- “..on Rosh Hashanah it is written and 22nd: Cole Merriam able afternoon outdoors. The group will 27th: Moreh Jim Talbott on Yom Kippur it is sealed...” will per- return to CBSRZ in time for the 4 PM haps serve as a main theme. Students October 2013 Afternoon service. will be asked to reflect, discuss, and 1st: Jacob Schlessel participate in an activity related to the 2nd: Phineas Scott theme chosen. If a family has other What to do: 4th: Aria Sinnappen commitments for this special holiday, -RSVP to Marc at [email protected] to 6th: Acadia Barrengos tell us if your teen(s) will be attending 7th: Noah Stein it is understood that a student may 12th: Rianna Brennan be absent. We hope many students - Please drop off/send $2 in to the 13th: Rachel Gelven will participate and find the program CBSRZ office to cover the round trip 17th: Seraphin Merriam meaningful and relevant to their own ferry ride. Meet after Yom Kippur morn- 27th: Samuel Thorpe ing services (around 12:30 PM) at the 29th: Moreh Eric Infeld participation in the Jewish holidays.

12 Mishpacha Compiled by Leslie Krumholz

sofas in the Main Street area. In case of Whew! These are all great ideas and is a work in progress as we begin this inclement weather, we will stay in the understandably we can’t do everything at year to experiment in “manageable small synagogue. once. We are taking things one step at a bytes.” It is impossible to foresee every time, and through further discussions, we outcome, but I hope through ongoing What to bring: chose some areas in which to begin. dialogue with our communal voices that Those unable to fast for other reasons In large part, our year is driven by we will monitor what works and what should bring a lunch and a bottle of the celebrations of holidays. Holidays perhaps does not and come out with a water. are perfect opportunities to break out deepening sense of joy and commitment (Even if you are fasting, you may want of the walls of the classroom, and into to Jewish learning and experience, in and to bring a snack and water just in case the synagogue community itself, to learn, beyond our classroom walls. — we do not want anyone not feeling celebrate, and connect to our heritage well!!) Bring a change of clothes and and people. For example, in September, An expression of comfortable shoes to change before we have canceled several Wednesday leaving, as we will be walking outside. classes asking instead, that families come gratitude for twelve to the student/parent planned events wonderful years. at High Holidays, Sukkot, and Simchat Lastly, we could use some adult chaper- Morah Ann Louise ones! Please let Marc know if you are a Torah. In November, in lieu of a Sunday In 2001 I was nervous and happy to ac- parent who is able to come along. session, we are asking that families come to the student/parent planned activi- cept the invitation to teach kindergarten, ties of the November Second Saturday lovingly known as the Latkes class, at Breaking Down Service. In addition to the Breakfast CBSRZ. We were fairly new members the Walls: with the Rabbi and Chanukah programs who had decided to raise our two sons, Zac and Trevor, to be Jewish (Sam is A Welcome Message from Religious School we already do with parents, we have added additional parent programming to Jewish and I was raised Episcopalian), Director, Belinda Brennan the calendar around High Holidays, Tu and I had so much to learn myself, that This is not the first time I’ve sat down B’Shevat, and Passover. kindergarten seemed the perfect place to write a Megillah article for the month Regarding Hebrew, I will be gather- to be! of September, when it is only July. Yet ing a small, combined group of teachers Our experience in joining the it is the first time that I am looking at a and parents to pilot the new Hebrew congregation had been so warm and Religious School calendar that will begin on-line learning available through our enthusiastic that I knew as a teacher I to break down the walls of the school’s publisher Diana Yacobi of the Sarah wanted to offer a similar experience to classrooms. This comes in response to and David Hebrew curriculum that we our youngest members, so that they too several “family meetings” held at the currently utilize. We will compare this would feel as comfortable as I did. beginning of last year around the topic offering with other Hebrew programs Twelve years later, students from of how our community can continue to such as the URJ Mitkadem self-paced that very first class have become Bar be responsive to the changing needs of system, and Behrman House Hebrew and Bat Mitzvah, many stayed to be mad- families. Within these discussions we on-line options as well. Regarding richim and are now moving on to life heard about the difficulties in managing project-based-learning, there are many after high school as young Jewish adults. increasingly hectic family schedules, a aspects of our current teaching methods And other former Latkes continue to desire to shift out of some typical class that already incorporate this concept, do meaningful and creative work every time in exchange for deeper, “intensive” and we will continue to see how it can week with our wonderful teachers. It’s experiences which may also include be expanded. beautiful to see, and if you’re ever look- cultural activities as well as mitzvah I see a lot of exciting possibilities in ing for inspiration, spend a Sunday morn- based projects, requests for additional store for us next year, and I am grateful ing in our religious school, and you’ll be knowledge around celebrating holidays, to all of the voices within our school sure to find it. interest in exploring the ways that tech- community who are helping to articulate As I move on to a new chapter and nology has impacted how students can and shape the way in which our fami- you welcome in a new Latkes teacher, learn Hebrew, and interest in exploring lies can learn, experience, and connect I want to say thank you with my whole the idea of “project based learning” both within Judaism and with each other. This heart for the opportunity to welcome school and at home. twelve groups of kindergarteners into 13 The Whole Mishpacha (Continued from page 13) our CBSRZ family. Thanks to all of our Jewish Summer Camp teachers, who truly do feel like fam- ily, to our rabbis and three outstanding 2013 principals from whom I learned and got Editor’s Note: This summer, 10 CBSRZ so much support. A special thank you children are attending Jewish Summer camp: to Debbie Guss for everything you did 5 are at Crane Lake and 5 at Camp Eisner. to make blending our Latkes and Aleph At the time of our deadline, they had all classes work so beautifully. mostly just arrived at camp so asking them Thanks to all of you parents who to send a note back to the congregation was shared your young children with us not possible. However, one parent sent us the every Sunday. And of course, warm first weekly email from Crane Lake, which we thanks to all of you one-time Latkes thought was worth sharing (in abbreviated who started every class sharing your form) with the congregation so parents (and news and singing “Good Morning Boker kids) can get a sense of what Jewish camp is Tov” at circle time! I was constantly like in case they are considering it for a fun amazed by your wisdom and creativity, Maya Gold summer next year! your open minds, and generous hearts. Our session is off to a wonderful Your sweetness taught me a lot about What does becoming a bat start! We were thrilled to spend Shabbat spirituality. I can honestly say that I left mitzvah mean to you? with our full community. Shabbat services school every single time with joy in my Becoming a bat mitzvah means that I am and song session were filled with as heart because of you, and for that I am a Jewish adult and I can participate fully our returning campers and staff showed ever grateful. in the activities and responsibilities of the new members of our community Shalom and love to you all, CBSRZ. Shabbat Crane Lake style. Last night Upper Ann Louise Rosensohn Bonim Girls inaugurated our new camping I realize it is only July, but site called K’far Har, which means “Village on the Mountain”. Bat Mitzvah of have you thought at all about your Torah portion? If so, This coming week is going to be Maya Gold can you tell a little bit about filled with excitement. Tomorrow we October 26, 2013 what it means and your D’var have sports tournaments beginning Torah Portion: Chaye Sarah Torah? with our own soccer tournament at CLC. We will be sending out 7 teams to My Torah portion contains Sarah’s death, other camps in our area to play base- Please tell the congregation a Abraham’s purchase of a burial place for ball, tennis, and basketball throughout her, and Isaac’s marriage to Rebecca. I little about yourself. the week. A full rehearsal schedule will I am in 8th grade at John Winthrop Mid- haven’t begun to write my D'var Tora yet. begin for our camp play “West Side dle School in Deep River. I love to play Story,” and we will continue to have soccer and do gymnastics. I am compet- Have you done a mitzvah bunks camp out at K’far Har. On Inde- ing in gymnastics this year for the first project? What is it? pendence Day we will have a wonderful time. I am part of the student leadership I am still working on finalizing my mitz- carnival with games, moon bounces, and at John Winthrop. I have three sisters vah project, but I am hoping to do some- a large inflatable slide. and I love to hang out with my friends. thing both meaningful and rewarding. In the meantime, there is lots of new content on our blog including our Any advice for kids who What excites you the most Opening Day video, Week 1 in review about your bat mitzvah? haven’t begun preparing yet? and a letter from an alum to our staff. Work hard and keep practicing! I am excited for the party because it is a Thank you for sharing your children with Mazel tov to Acadia Barrengos for be- chance to celebrate this accomplishment us! We hope that you are having half as coming a Bat Mitzvah on October 5, 2013 with all of my friends and family! much fun at home as we are here!

14 PICNICKING! Jubelirer Brad Brad Jubelirer Brad

Klez Act. l. to r. Harvey Redak, Norman Hanenbaum, Lori Jubelirer, Belinda Brennan, Lary Bloom, Neil Gottfried, Bill Berterlli, Steve Jacobs Lori Jubelirer on bass Brad Jubelirer Brad Suzanne Levine

Beth Gottlieb and Linda Rigono helping out, as they always seem to do.

Shabbat dinner at Cedar Lake: Misty and Matthew Scoggins and Lary Bloom shooting the breeze. Suzanne Levine Brad Jubelirer Brad

On trumpet Harvey Redak Brad Jubelirer Brad

Shabbat dinner at Cedar Lake: Noa and Tracy Kleinberg serving up salad. Foreground: Bernie Slater. At the grill: Norman Shulkin brandishing hot dog, center Harvey Payton, right Kevin Fox. 15 THE YEAR IN PICTURES Deborah Rutty Deborah

Angel Riders: l. to r. Brad Jubelirer, Eduardo Vigil, Martin Anderson, Harvey Payton, Dave Miner Saucy Ed Pinn Deborah Rutty Deborah

Backup singer Luis Villabon admiring Loli Marquez-Sterling as she plays. In background, drummer Richie Gonzalez The Minyanaires. Clockwise: Bernie Slater, Rabbi Goldenberg, Marlene Scharr, Henry Gottlieb, Susan Peck, Belinda Brennan, Morty Pear

16 Julia Phyllis Siegel Keira Ann Seidman Jonah Shilling Cole Irving Davis Lillian Marie Stamm

Elia Mae Glazer Deborah Rutty Deborah

Latke Masters: Barbara Beckerman and Sue Peck

Sarah BurzinSarah A veritable feast Howard Baran Howard

Debbie Guss with her daughter Sam Angle and Community Gathering: Kitah Bet and Gimel with Morah Dana Foley Marjorie Lander

17 Congregation Beth Our school faces reduction of enrollment; of how the congregation is connected. our seniors face isolation. This has led to Longtime members returning to learn. It Shalom Rodfe Zedek centerpiece discussions for the Board: the helps us foster relationships formed among June 20, 2013 education system and our seniors. What our congregants. And every week at are the most innovative ways to invigorate Scrollers (30-40) people who come every The Annual Meeting programs and funding? How to engage week. A caring network that begins and those who have been active in the past? moves beyond that. What a blessing. Kevin Fox welcomed everyone attending How to staff properly?” 2. A year of meaningful worship. Friday announcing: “This is not a coup. If you have He thanked Stephen Davis for his night service attendance is up! More music not signed in you cannot speak and to please presentation on senior needs and Lynne on Friday nights in addition to choir. Experi- announce your name when before speaking.” Zimmerman on her presentation on the ments in worship that have been successful: President Bloom called the meeting to religious school. He further thanked Jon Tisch style is drawing more people (in the order at 7:40 PM. Joslow for his recent review of the adminis- range of 60-100). Three rounds of Shabbat- A thank you to Sue Levine for arrang- tration and staffing needs. based dinners. Twelve households hosted. ing the refreshments prior to the start of President Bloom announced a theme See people of all ages experiencing joy the meeting. for the coming year: it is no longer accept- together. Hope you will take up invitation President Bloom said that we gather to able to point out a deficiency. You must to host or attend. talk about the state of the shul, elect a new also present a solution for that problem. 3. The love and caring that is shared class to the Board, and approve the budget. Rabbi Report: amongst us. I wish to thank Marilyn White- And according to tradition eat pizza and The Rabbi stated: “As I stand here Gottfried, Sue Savitt, Beth Brewer, and drink beer. reflecting on the year past, I am looking the new chair of Chesed Linda Sherman. This night is to determine how we can forward to what is coming. Since the last An- Working on how to enlist more help and be sure that we are meeting the needs of nual Meeting our home burned down, and base it geographically. Chesed is not just our congregation today and that twenty I have so many to thank for your support in a committee. Should be the driving force years from now we are still successful. assisting us back into our rebuilt home. that is the center of the shul. He officially announced that we have “I want to acknowledge the fact there “Allison Fine points out that not a quorum. are a number of people in this shul who everyone wants to be on a committee. On a motion by Seidman and sec- are suffering. And this is very present for Gatherings were tried a few years ago. onded by Fox the minutes of the June 14, me. I wish to send out an informal prayer Remember Shabbat forums which led to 2012 Annual Meeting were approved with to those here, home, or in hospital.” reform in services. Conversations lead to the correction that Lary Bloom and Nancy She extended a Happy Birthday to changes and innovations. Need to keep Schwam were in attendance. Belinda Brennan. listening. We need to be listening the needs Bloom reported his conversation with “Lary and I read the same article by of the senior population, those who don’t the president Alison Fine of the Tarrytown, Alison Fine. The link can be found on the drive at night; those who want to meet New York shul, which was motivated by CBSRZ Facebook Page. Part of her message during the day to learn. More out there we her article in the URJ magazine. She cited is that we need to consider moving from don’t know yet. Rabbi Hesch Sommer will declining birth rates, reduction of affiliation, a hierarchy model to a network model of be doing a needs assessments in August and competition from other shuls including running the community. Solutions don’t with senior groups to see what is needed Chabad. One of her missions was to rein- come just down from President, Board and including pastoral or activities. Please come. vent her Board, which was composed of Rabbi, but that the leadership and staff is in “Starting a listening campaign starting the people who had started the shul, and continuous discussion with the community in October coordinating an effort to spark look forward to changes for the future. and listening, harvesting the wisdom of the interest to have a team of congregants to Bloom stated that CBSRZ bucks na- entire community. Foundation is the web of have one-to-one conversations. Structured tional trends in that we are maintaining and relationship among all of us. around open ended questions that we growing. He cited the work of the Rabbi, the “This week’s D’Var: how beautiful are develop as CBSRZ. Also a goal of discov- staff, the quest for social justice, our religious your tents…the prophet Balaam is moved ering what issues in the world and larger school principle Belinda Brennan, our teach- to bless us though he has come to curse us, community are on people’s minds to lead ers, and many others. He lauded the vision- as he looks at the encampment in the des- to social action. Training with a church from ary work of our committees and volunteers. ert. I see so much beauty and connection in Middletown. “You know this from our classes, social the tent of CBSRZ. We have a treasure of “Hope that those interested will action, programs, and religious instruc- skill in the leadership and staff. I hope we will become listeners. Hours of training, meet- tion. You know it from Chesed and from listen and respond to the journey. ing with congregations and then reporting art and from music programs. From our “Three specific areas that I would like back. If invited to meet, I hope you will take choir or life cycle events or Yizkor during to point out: up the invitation. the holidays. You see it in the faces of our 1. We have come through a year of “As we continue with meeting tonight, youngsters; you see it in our innovations. rich learning. Hebrew classes. Two mini I hope you will be struck by what you We have a lot of committees including a courses on the prayer book and on Torah see here. I hope you will weave your own committee of committees (commcomm). study. Now eight women are preparing for thread into our web to help experience “CBSRZ feels the pressure of our an adult bnai mitzvah and one conversion. the joy and relationships in participating in times. Our annual budget is tough to meet. When I look deeper, classes are examples this holy community.” 18 Financial: Seidman reporting. Somewhat The New Haven Foundation is put- and be done! We are a great school.” disappointing year. Appears we will need to ting together a new grant program to be Nominating and Governance Com- transfer funds from our endowment, which funded with $1,000,000 of unrestricted mittee: Martin Wolman reported that the we are allowed to do. There is a current funds. Anyone can apply, matching grant N&G committee has nominated the class deficit of $9,000, but there are receivables program. Jo-Ann Price is on the grant of 2013–2015 as directors at large: and monies not transferred as of yet. committee. The Board is discussing making George Amarant, director He went on to state that we have an application for a matching grant (this Karen Burzin, director $1,000,000 in cash. $600,000 in endow- program is based as a matching grant) for Stephen Davis, director ment and $350,000 in restricted funds. various activities. Lenny Goldberg, director He reviewed the new proposed budget In response to a question from Jon Brad Jubelirer, director of which $403,000 comes from member- Samburg, Kevin Fox stated that the golf Linda Rigono, director ship dues anticipated in 2013-2014. Typically tournament has made money two years in a Maxine Klein, director last five years we are usually within 5% of row, but that there is a lack of congregational membership income. Explained about the participation. Samburg then asked does that On a motion by Sue Peck, second Kevin various fees and income sources. Total mean we should perhaps find a different Fox the slate for 2013–2015 was passed budget is $563,000 for 2013-2014. fund raiser. He offered no alternative idea. unanimously. On a motion by Phil Scheffler and Phil Scheffler pointed out that CBSRZ Martin Wolman announced that seconded by Kevin Fox the 2013–2014 still owns about 75 LeWitt prints which Miriam Gardner-Frum will be stepping budget and dues package were approved have a value of $2,500 each. Seidman down as vice president by December 2013 unanimously. stated these are not carried on the books and that the N&G committee is working In response to a question by Harvey of the shul as an asset. on a replacement. Redak, Sandy Seidman explained that if a David Zeleznik asked as to the state of President Bloom welcomed Maxine to fund is not used for three years it is folded the capital fund. the Board and thanked her husband David into the general endowment. Redak asked Seidman responded that the building Zeleznik and her for their great support specifically about the Breitman Fund and is 11 years old but that there are no major of CBSRZ. He also thanked Lynne Zim- the Flag Fund. Seidman stated both are problems we know about. The budget, he merman for her work on the Board and kept as separate line items. went on to say, assumes a dues increase of announced she would continue on as chair In response to a question by David 2–3%. About 25% of our members are on of the committee of committees. Zeleznik, Seidman stated that the expenses variance. For those who are able if you can President Bloom reminded everyone were as anticipated but that there was a do a little bit more certainly appreciated. of the final program for Music and More: lack of income in the development line People really need the variance. He said he the Klez Act. He also asked people to sup- item as the Congregation did not support has never seen it this bad. port the August 4, 100th birthday party for the fundraisers as much as anticipated. his piano and the book reading by Wally Kevin Fox reported on the funds held Education: Belinda Brennan asked that peo- Lamb in December. by the New Haven Foundation: there are ple please read the Karen Burzin report. funds we own and those held for our ben- Karen was absent as her daughter was He then opened the meeting to congre- efit. The latter give off cash flow. CBSRZ graduating from high school this evening. gant questions. gets no say in their use. The other monies “We always have a good year. I get to Harvey Redak asked if the Board was we own: we have not taken any distribu- work with this amazing group of teachers considering the Cutler Family offer of an tion $634,000 from our owned funds, and and families. Lots of brainstorming of how approximately one acre cemetery site in there is another $101,000 of funds for to do things better. We don’t do tests. We West Hartford. The Cutler Family Associa- our benefit. First quarter of this year had don’t have standards…one hard and fast tion (of which Harvey is a member) is a 4% gain, only reported results. Waiting measure of how we are doing returning seeking an entity to take over this cem- for second quarter reports (June 30) and 22 young 8–12 graders who want to be etery. He asked that his question be noted anticipate that the return will be somewhat Madrachim. That is an amazing statistic. for the record. President Bloom stated lower as the entire market is lower. These young adults love it. They don’t sleep he would confer with Stu Baker and the The golf tournament was a few weeks in, they show up! As of today we have 45 Cemetery Committee. George Amarant ago. Made some money. Not as much children in K–7. commented for the Cemetery Committee as last year. Majority of players were not “Real issue is that of the 45 children, that there are now an additional 200 plots CBSRZ. The membership could have done 32 are in 4–7. That means K–3 only 13 in the Deep River CBSRZ cemetery. a lot more for sponsorships and playing. children. We have combined K–1 and 2–3. Marcy Saltzman volunteered to host Next year trying for Sunday. “We don’t have enough space and another blessing of the animals. The Rabbi A committee is working on the Legacy work for the teenagers. Great outcome stated she would confer with them to Program. We will be coming to visit every- but a problem our enrollment is decreas- work out a date. one hoping you will make a commitment. ing.” Belinda passed out the new religious Without other business the meeting Upon your demise the money will benefit school brochure, reiterating for the health adjourned at 8:55 pm. the endowment. As we participate in of our community going forward, hard to program and meet our goals, we get a cash think about not having a school. Respectfully submitted stipend for the general fund from a special “We need a pipeline or in five to six Henry B. Resnikoff gift given to the New Haven Federation. years we will cycle through the children Secretary 19 smart, caring, and considerate. I trusted be part of this Jewish community. My My Journey to him the moment I met him, and trust son’s father and I visited CBSRZ after in my life was something that did not reading in the New York Times about “A Judaism exist. I remember asking him “How did Klez Act” performing there. Upon arriv- you get to be so special?” He replied, “I ing there we were swiftly greeted by Trina Shipuleski am Jewish and from Baltimore; every- the Temple president Lary Bloom, who one I know is like me.” I found that to then showed us the temple and intro- n 1998 I was in eighth grade in be almost true; I did meet the friends duced us to Rabbi Goldenberg. That day Catholic school and had a Jewish he grew up with and colleagues who made me feel so welcomed by so many IEnglish teacher. I found her interest- were also Jewish, and I did get the who did not even know me that I knew ing in the sense that she was different sense of the “Jewish” humor and sar- that Judaism and this Temple is where from most of the people I knew. Dur- casm. Still, for me he was unique. I belong. Seeing the beautiful temple, ing that school year we learned about hearing the wonderful music, seeing the In 2011 we moved in together into a each Jewish holiday as it approached, caring community and women in lead- cozy house in Canterbury, Connecticut and she even brought in apples and ership roles — I felt whole in the deci- with his best friend and his cat Yetti. honey to celebrate Rosh Hashanah. At sion for our family to become members I just could not get enough of them. that point she had captured my interest here and for me to start and complete We made a home and celebrated high in Judaism as a subject. the conversion process. holidays together. I learned Jewish Years went by, my belief in God disap- recipes and cooked, and they cleaned At first I thought my reason for con- peared. I prayed to God as a child to up. They taught me about some Jewish verting was to escape the tainted feel- help get me out of an abusive home. As traditions. They exposed me to Jewish ing of Catholicism and to make my an adult I realized that God did not come deli, Jewish art, and klezmer music. family complete and uniform, and raise and help me when I needed him, so why We took trips together to New York my son Jewish (this is still a big reason should I believe in something that could City and went to the Jewish Museum why). But as I write this paper I am not help an innocent child? That realiza- together and saw plays like “Old realizing that I feel a relationship with tion left me with an angry, sad void. Jews Telling Jokes.” They taught me Judaism, I feel like the holidays are my the meaning of the word “hondle.” I holidays, I feel like the Jewish people Then I met this man by accident in received the best education on Jewish are my people. This year long process 2009 who also seemed a bit ‘different’ culture from these two guys, and I am of converting has also made me real- to me in the sense that his personal- very thankful for it. Living with them ize that life changes for many reasons; ity was something I was immediately made me realize that I have a love not having Judaism in my life has helped drawn to. He was funny and sarcastic; only for them, but for Judaism. start the healing process and fill that two qualities I was instantly attracted void. I can now say that I have a belief to. Over time our relationship grew In April of 2012 I found out I was preg- in God whoever he, she, or it may be. closer I realized he was also very nant! It made me realize that I want to

families and the opportunity to interact say that it was helpful to be able to sit Fashioning a Jewish and spend time with other parents rais- and talk openly with others in a non- Identity ing Jewish children in similar communi- judgmental forum about the trials and Barbara Infeld ties intrigued me. I wanted the chance joys we have raising our children Jew- to talk with parents who faced the same ish. We spent time discussing the chal- was recently approached to write challenges with raising Jewish children. lenges of explaining the High Holidays an article about the sessions held to school administrators and the need We met on Sunday mornings during during the school year with Rabbi to not schedule tests, field trips, or simi- I religious school at the Chester Guest Hesch Sommer related to fashioning lar events on these days. We also dis- House Retreat Center. Parents from our Jewish identities. Originally I was cussed the amount of homework some both CBSRZ and Temple Beth Tikvah unsure what I would write regarding children are given, without regard to participated. The mix was often half these sessions, and the more I thought how difficult it would be to complete and half from both synagogues. We about it, the more questions I had. the assignments. We spent one ses- had parents who were born Jewish, sion discussing the issues surrounding Why had I decided to attend? Didn’t I became Jews by choice, and those Chanukah and Christmas not only from already have what I felt was a strong who maintained their religious identity the perspective of the Jewish parents, Jewish identity, one that Eric and I from childhood. Rabbi Sommer would but also that of the non-Jewish parent were passing on to our sons? Didn’t we often begin the sessions with top- concerned that family Christmas tradi- celebrate Shabbat at home and when ics, however, as is often the case, we tions may not be passed down to the traveling (if we remembered the battery would digress from the original topic next generation. Rabbi Sommer is open operated Shabbat candles)? Didn’t we and wind our way around and back to suggestions of other topics of inter- observe the holidays and try to instill a again, though always keeping in mind est from the participants as well. Please Jewish culture in our home for the boys? the reason for us being there. consider attending either one or all of Then it dawned on me, we live in a The sessions and topics were as var- the sessions in the future. community with a handful of Jewish ied as the participants; however, I can 20 CBSRZ NEWS Thanks to the Congregation

From Mount St. John School: Welcome to Emet Israel In the spring, our synagogue was host to a fundraiser, “Let’s Hear it for the Boys,” organized by the Middlesex Resnikoff, son of Joshua Community Foundation and intended to support the work done by Mount St. John school and Christine Resnikoff, in Deep River. Recently, Lary Bloom received the following note of appreciation: grandson of Henry Res- nikoff and Daphne Nielsen, Dear Lary, on his arrival into the world July 11. Mazel tov! I am thrilled to let you know that your and members of CBSRZ’s incredible support helped our event net over $26,000 — a remarkable achievement in this transition year to the Community Foundation. From the proceeds $10,000 will establish a permanently endowed fund. The balance will be distributed Adult Hebrew on Sunday this year to qualified organizations that help enhance the lives of boys and young men. Mornings with Evelyn Foster Our Beginning and Advanced Thank you for your generous support. Adult Hebrew Classes will Warm regards, be resuming in the fall. New Gary Parrington (former director, Mount St. John’s) students are invited to join us! Advanced Hebrew begins From Peninnah Schram: Sept 8 and will run every Dear Rachel, Sunday from 8:30–9:30 AM. What a joy it was to be with you and your congregants during this Shabbat and sharing stories, davening and If you know the Hebrew eating together! I ‘flew’ home on all the enthusiastic responses I experienced during this Shabbat! alphabet and can decode, Thank you and the committee people for this wonderful invitation to return — after 18 years even if slowly, but would like — to share more stories with everyone in this now-merged and very beautiful synagogue. The sa- to increase your reading flu- cred space of the sanctuary was so right for presenting the various story programs from the Sacred ency, learn vocabulary, verb Stories for Shabbat, through my d'var of "Almonds and Salt", the workshop on our names/pasuk and declension and knowledge of finding a special mitzva, followed by Elijah the Prophet folktales. Hebrew sentence structure Thank you and everyone for all the follow-through and planning and considerate attention. I know the for speaking and for reading time and energy it takes to make it all happen! Thanks also to the donor family! comprehension, this class is It was a pleasure to meet your family and I thank Amina and Zeve for their questions and along for you. with the other children for the marvelous card they created for me! I love it! Beginner Hebrew begins Sept I loved meeting Belinda again. Please send her my best regards! I loved meeting my "landzman" Henry 15 and will run every Sunday Reznikoff and hearing his reflections on my father's Kol Nidre, etc. I loved staying with Jo-Ann Price again and from 9:30–10:30 AM spending time with her. I enjoyed meeting so many others at one or more of the programs. I was impressed We will be working on He- that the rain didn't stop any (or not many) from coming Friday night. That was quite a day and night of brew letter sounds, vocabu- drenching downpours. lary and reading, particularly as related to reading and Please give my regards to all the good people I met at CBSRZ. understanding of prayers. With my best wishes and appreciation, Even with knowledge of just a Peninnah few letters, there is vocabu- lary that you will be able to From the Women at York Correctional Institution: read, understand, and use in conversation. This will grow as we work our way through the alphabet. For questions or more information, please call Evelyn Foster at 860 526 2620. To sign up for either class, please contact Wendy in the office at 860-526-8920 or [email protected] The fee for the year to cover the cost of our teacher is $50 for members, $75 for non- members.

21 Most of us have the luxury of making A New Local Task Force our choices freely. But millions of Ameri- Addressing Hunger and cans make impossibly difficult choices SOCIAL out of absolute necessity: who will eat Self Sufficiency today and who will not? Will I buy medi- cine or buy food? As a community we This past spring, Shoreline Soup Kitchens can take action. ACTION and Pantries organized a task force to COMMITTEENEWS take action addressing causes of hunger. Efforts are underway to attack the prob- Social Action Committee lem through education, public awareness, legislation, and other means. Several Announces Calendar 2013-14 members of the Social Action Commit- The Social Action Committee has FOCUS ON HUNGER tee are participating in the task force announced its tentative calendar for 2013– and will keep the CBSRZ community 14. Each activity requires 5–10 volunteers This coming year, the Social Action Com- informed. to contribute 2–3 hours to help make the mittee will continue to focus on addressing activity a success. Please sign up to volun- hunger within our community. The following teer 2–3 hours by contacting Linda Rigono activities highlight this concentrated effort MAZON: A National Jewish at [email protected] or 860-345-3839, to bring awareness of this issue. It is an or Andy Schatz at andy@andrewschatz. opportunity for us as a congregation to help Response to Hunger com or 860-202-2690. alleviate this growing problem which should not persist in this country – and certainly MAZON: A Jewish Response to Hunger, As discussed in an accompanying article, not in our region. a national anti-hunger advocacy orga- addressing hunger will continue to be a nization, works with partners in both major focus. Other areas of focus will the anti-hunger community and the include housing, health, tolerance, and other Jewish social justice community to seek issues, which will be included in programs August 23, 2013 Shabbat food justice. Its mission is to provide in connection three during the for people who are hungry while at the year — Human Rights Shabbat (December Service Speaker same time advocating for other ways to 14), Martin Luther King weekend (January Jeanette Ickovics, professor of Public end hunger and its causes, and to edu- 17), and a Pesach Social Action Shabbat Health and Psychology at Yale University, cate and raise the consciousness of the (April 11). Jeannette Ickovics, Professor will be sharing from her experience and Jewish community regarding its obliga- of Epidemiology and Psychology at Yale her work specifically with the issue of tion to alleviate hunger and its causes. University will share thoughts about com- obesity and poverty as well as discuss MAZON’s work is informed by its long- munity health, including hunger and obesity, the evidence of “food deserts” in our standing relationships with food banks, at Shabbat services on August 23. food pantries, and food policy organiza- urban communities. At the request of the Board of Directors, tions; the impact of its efforts is realized the Social Action Committee is coordi- through its work with over 1,000 syna- nating the Listening Campaign that will Congregation gogue partners in the United States. For be conducted during the period October 28 years, MAZON has been the Jewish “Hunger”Activities Calendar 20–November 17. The goal of the cam- response to hunger, representing the paign is to determine through interviews September 4–14 Congregants will be Jewish perspective and the Jewish voice with most of the congregation the real asked to take bags on Rosh Hashanah, fill within the anti-hunger movement. Learn goals of the congregation and the oppor- them with food to donate to Shoreline more about the problem and progress tunities for achieving them. Soup Kitchens and Pantries, and return — or donate — at www.mazon.org or the bags to CBSRZ on Kol Nidre contribute through the Mazon envelopes The full social action schedule as cur- October 6: Crop Walk Old Saybrook at CBSRZ High Holiday services. rently planned for 2013–14 is as follows: — an opportunity to raise funds and August 23: community health presenta- Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are, at awareness tion by Professor Jeannette Ickovics their core, holy days of reflection and October 6, December 22, April 20,2014, decision-making. Each year, we reflect on August 23–September 15: fill and bring in and July 6, 2014 — Chester Soup the year gone by and contemplate the your boxes Kitchen (4-6pm) year ahead. We also make choices about September 4: Rosh Hashanah distribu- October 17, January 16, 2014, April 17, who we want to be, how we want to tion of food-drive bags 2014, and July 17, 2014 — Deep River act, and what we might do to change our Soup Kitchen (4-6pm) world for the better. September 14: Deliver food to Shoreline Soup Kitchens and Pantries

22 October 6: Crop Walk Old Saybrook December 14: Human Rights Shabbat March 13–14: Purim box assembly October 6: Chester Soup Kitchen social action program (topic to be April 11: Social Action (Passover) Shab- (4–6 PM) announced) bat (topic to be announced) October 17: Deep River Soup Kitchen December 19*: Blood Drive (1–6 PM) April 17*: Deep River Soup Kitchen (4–6 PM) December 22: Chester Soup Kitchen (4–6 PM) October 20: Listening Campaign Training (4–6 PM) April 20: Chester Soup Kitchen (4–6 PM) November 17: Listening Campaign January 16*: Deep River Soup Kitchen June 16*: Blood Drive (1–6 PM) (4–6 PM) Debriefing July 6*: Chester Soup Kitchen (4–6 PM) January 17: MLK human rights event November–December (dates TBA): fur- July 17*: Deep River Soup Kitchen (4–6 PM) nishing apartments in Middletown for (topic to be announced) homeless March 1-10: Purim box production of * Anticipated date not yet set by outside agency contents

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23 that it is highly encouraging to find such common passion amongst a CBSRZ Minutes of wide array of people. BOARD OF DIRECTORS He identified the following trends Highlights a) Census: relatively flat last four years June 13, 2013 b) School: census dropping over the last four years. School days drop- ping as well as the number of children due to when children enter the school system Financial Report: c) Older congregation: define by age what do we need to satisfy the Seidman: Reported that this was the tightest year to making the bud- older population get in many years. We will either just break even or be a tad ahead. We have to utilize the endowment income to balance the budget. d) Committees and what resources do they have and what is their Noted that the lack of development/fund raising was the largest involvement on the Board: source of the deficit in the budget. e) Suggested that there needs to be a job description of being a Fox: Stated that as of the Board meeting there are approximately Board Member, a Committee Chair, and a committee member $34,000 in receivables of which he estimates $20,000 is collectable. He f) Administrative side: the discussion is about functions. Administra- stated this is a higher amount of receivables than in the last five years. tion is not clear regarding accountability and responsibilities. What Investments: Fox stated that the funds invested in the endowment is protocol for getting actions done? (both owned and for the benefit of the Congregation) continue to Posed the question to the Board: if we were just getting ready to grow and are earning a higher rate of return than the S&P. open a new shul how would we describe ourselves and what would our goals be? President Report: Further stated that he recommended revisiting the Strategic Plan and President Bloom nominated two new members who were approved going to a zero based budget system with a three-year life. And that on a motion by Seidman seconded by Pinn: programming should be based on those identified needs. He stated Lynne Coviel from Westbrook that we need to align our resources with our goals. Andrew Corpeul and Christine Corpeul with children in Guilford Following his presentation there ensued a lively discussion which includ- (former TBT members) ed comments from congregants citing the need for day time programs for seniors, lunch and learn programs with the Rabbi, how to get more He thanked everyone who worked on the scholar in residence program. volunteers involved (instead of committees, use specific activities). He cited the current URJ publication interview with Alison Fine who is Stephen Davis and Miriam Gardner-Frum both stated that the president of a synagogue from Tarrytown, New York with many similar Strategic Plan is in fact utilized; that there were two “white papers” characteristics to CBSRZ. He spoke about having a long discussion with presented during the course of the year addressing the needs of her about many subjects including non-affiliation, eniors,s budget, and seniors and the religious school. That these white papers have led to fund raising. He urged all Board members to read the article. the creation of ad hoc committees addressing each issue. In addition He announced that David Tilles will take over as librarian from Karen they cited that there is now a “committee of committees” headed by Cheney and offered hearty thanks for the many years of service Kar- Lynne Zimmerman which gathers all of the heads of the various com- en has given CBSRZ in the position of librarian. He announced Lon mittees together to discuss their mutual and common needs and to Seidman would chair the communications committee with a focus on create a report to the Board. They further noted that each commit- expanding the social network and media to reach our Congregants tee has a liaison from the Board to assure communication between and non-members. the committees and the Board. Two new fund raisers were announced by President Bloom: on Au- In response to questions about the budgeting process from some of gust 4 a 100th birthday party for his piano and at the end of Novem- the congregants present as well as responding to Joslow’s comments, ber [new date December 8] the award winning author Wally Lamb Seidman pointed out that about 65% of the budget is fixed and that will present his new book We Are Water. The latter event is being to do zero-based budgeting for the remainder is not going to pro- organized by Clo Davis. duce any significant results. He went on to say that the financial issues for CBSRZ arise from the need to increase membership, asking con- Centerpiece: gregants to give more fair-share and to increase development giving. Jon Joslow gave a report on his mission of the last 30 days to inter- Some suggestions to consider included requiring every member view past presidents, the executive committee, the Rabbi, and others to volunteer a certain number of hours or at least those on vari- to help identify gaps in the administration of CBSRZ, volunteerism, ance to provide some time in lieu of dues. President Bloom cited staffing, the Board, the executive committee, and the Congregation. that the head of Social Action, Andy Schatz, had asked everyone to donate three hours a year at High Holidays last year with very little (An FYI John has been a member of CBSRZ his entire life, has served response. Other comments were about making CBSRZ more of a in numerous capacities, and has a professional business of providing Jewish Community Center; that the building should be filled with consulting on institutional organizational issues). activities for some group every day and that community outreach for interfaith activities is important. Here are the key questions he posed: How has the last year been? What do you anticipate for next year? Do you have enough vol- Other pointed out the success of the Shabbat Across America, the unteers for your specific responsibilities? Do you have sufficient home based Shabbos Dinners, the Tisch dinners on Friday night in resources? And finally “is there an elephant in the room that is not lieu of regular services and other on-going events to meet the needs being discussed openly?” of the various constituencies. He said that the one common theme out of all of the interviews is It was announced that Bruce Josephy, a past president, is now on the the passion that all of the respondents have for CBSRZ. While the national URJ Board. passions may not be the same or the motivations the same he said

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Samuel Elkin Morris Mackover Anna Needle Joseloff Robert A. Tobis Memorial Plaques Hyman Fink David Miller Memorial Plaques Rose Kabatznick Marie Waldinger Tishri 27 – Heshvan 27, 5774 Elul 26, 5773 – Tishri 26, 5774 Arthur Frank Emma Oppenheimer Sam Krupnikoff Melville S. Wein Daniel Alan Altman Max Frankel Sadie Palmer Louis Alcon Benjamin Lake Pauline Weinstein Leo Amarant Bertram Friedman Michael Pear Kate Baron Rose Leiwant Jennie Young Bella Astrove Elizabeth Friedman Irving Pivnick Denise Berwick Ann Samuels Levine Morris Zelvin Samuel Banner Anna Gelper Isidore Raab Belle Birnbaum Sidney LeWitt Harry Baron Solomon Ginsberg Sara Schulman Rodkin Clara Mager Isaac Baron Edward Glazer Lucille Schur David Bockstein Esther Miller Isidore Baron Charles Gottfried Frances Seidman Herbert Breslow Leah Katz Pear Rose Baron Louis Joseloff Louis Steinberg Sondra Burzin Ida Polstein Celia Baum David Joslow Irving Strom Theodora Chaimovitz Jean Polstein Celia Benson Jacob Lake Leonore Palmer Tobis Anna Cirulnick Tillie Polstein Nathan Benson Lena Lake Matthew Wartel Milton Davis Morris Rotfuss Victoria Bernstein David Levine Sara Rotfuss Yosoloff Phyllis G. Diamond Ada Sager Philip Berwick Ida Levinson Harry Zack Joseph Friedman Max Schulman Abraham Blecher Bernard LeWitt Hindie Gall Adele Siker Abraham Breitman Bettie LeWitt Sol Goldstein Morris Sprecher Aaron Diamond Nathan Luchnick Mortimer Hays Sidney Swadosh

Yahrzeits Tishri 27 – Heshvan 27, 5774 Yahrzeits Elul 26, 5773 – Tishri 26, 5774 Leo Amarant – father of George Amarant Louis Alcon – father of Hyla Cohen Abraham Baskin – stepfather of Linda Pinn Sondra Burzin – mother of Jeff Burzin Sylvia Beckerman – mother of Barbara Beckerman Mene Case – mother of Lewis Case Marie Cassen – mother of Lois Nadel Anna Cirulnick – grandmother of Ellen Friedman Etta Cohn – grandmother of Gail Feld Dorothy Cohen – loved one of Sol Tilles Lee Diamond – father of Barbara Mason Irwin Davidson - father of Shari Foley Annette Farber Rechtschafer – sister of Beverly Glassman Milton Davis – father of Jeffrey Davis Hyman Fink – husband of Rita Fin Henry Drobiarz – father of Martin Drobiarz Nathan Fink – father of Hyman Fink Lester Feld – father of Gail Feld Bertram Friedman – loved one of Dorothy Friedman Beatrice Fischbach – grandmother of Nancy Fischbach George Glassman – father of Ron Glassman; father of Richie Glassman Harry Fischbach – grandfather of Nancy Fischback Edward Glazer – husband of Lois Glazer; father of Natalie Glazer Adele Fox – stepmother of Kevin Fox Albert Goller – father of Ethan Goller Carol Ruth Goodman – sister of Linda Polomski Charles Gottfried – loved one of Mae Wichman Beatrice Gottfried – mother of Corinne Weber Nathan Gottlieb – father of Henry Gottlieb Rose Heller – mother of Betty Gilman Jane White Gwillim – mother of Liz Gwillim Benjamin Lake – father of Dorothy Friedman Leonora Hays – wife of David Hays Caral Lebworth – mother of Alva Greenberg Milton Braun Hesslein – father of Laura Hesslein Doris Levin – mother of Stephanie Arbige Rachel Ickovics – mother of Jeannette Ickovics Ann Samuels Levine – loved one of Steven Ross David Joslow – father of Liz Archambault, father of Jon Joslow Nat Mason – father of Stephen Mason Patricia Konecky – mother of Sean Konecky Esther Miller – grandmother of Ellen Friedman Max Krasner – father of Roni Berson Weiner Libby Nevas – mother of Jo-Ann Price Lena Lake – mother of Dorothy Friedman Rita Nirenstein – mother of Nancy Schwarz Lloyd Levin – father of Stephanie Arbige Leah Katz Pear - beloved wife of Joseph Pear Steve Levinson – brother-in-law of Nancy Fischbach Elinor Reiner – wfe of Irving Reiner Maria Lopez – wife of Juan Carlos Lopez David Ross – father of Louise Ross Nathan Luchnick – father of Lois Glazer Eliezer Schindler – grandfather of Debra Trautmann David Miller – grandfather of Ellen Friedman Kenneth Stein – father of David Stein Rhoda Patkin – sister of Marlene Scharr Robert A. Tobis – father of Justine Redak Michael Pear – brother of Joseph Pear Rose Weintraub – mother of Marcy Saltzman Libby Peck – mother of Michael Peck Aaron Weissman – grandfather of Laura Roman Paul Peck – father of Michael Peck Edith Weissman – grandmother of Laura Roman Marvin Radom – father of Debra Landrey David Wexler – uncle of Susan Fine George Saffir – grandfather of Ron Glassman; grandfather of Richie Bruce White – first husband of Marilyn White-Gottfried Glassman Gertrude Case Sandler – sister of Lewis Case Martin Saykin – father of Sdele Saykin Harry Schwartz – father-in-law of Irving Shiffman Frances Seidman – mother of Sandy Seidman Sadie Case Sharp – sister of Lewis Case Condolences Refuah Shlemah Nathan Sigal – father of Dorothy Palmer, grandfather of Peg Palmer Our heartfelt condolences Milton Weintraub – uncle of Marcy Saltzman are extended to: Linda Thal Howard Kaplan Harry Zack – father of Sylvia Zack Marilyn Buel Lorraine Klappholz Sarah Zomback – mother of Beth Brewer Adeline Koppelman Chorches Jo Watanabe Florence Mackey Mother of Sam Chorches Donna Miller David Roberts July 4, 2013 Louise Ross Marni Lawson Peggy Tunick Linda Sherman Dr. Sumner Gochberg Eileen Ilberman Jill Nadler Father of Rob Gochberg; Beth Gottlieb Rose Madnick grandfather of Katelin July 18, 2013

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8:30 am - 9:30 am Advanced 3:00 pm SSKP Board Meeting (No religious school) 7:00 pm Board of Directors 7:30 pm Kol Nidre YOM KIPPUR Hebrew 7:45 am Morning Minyan (No Holy Scrollers) 9:30 am 1st Day of Religious 9:30 am Morning Service School and Taschlich Walk 12:30 pm Youth Program 9:30 am Parent High Holiday Program 2:30 pm Children's Service 1:00 pm Cemetery Service - 4:00 pm Afternoon Service with Fountain Hill Yizkor and Neilah, followed by 3:00 pm Cemetery Service - Rodfe Break the Fast Zedek

15 11 TISHRI 16 12 TISHRI 17 13 TISHRI 18 14 TISHRI 19 15 TISHRI 20 16 TISHRI 21 17 TISHRI 8:30 am - 9:30 am Advanced (No religious school) SUKKOT SUKKOT SUKKOT Hebrew (Office closed) 9:30 am - 10:30 am Beginner 7:45 am Morning Minyan 6:15 pm Hang in the Sukkah 9:00 am Holy Scrollers Hebrew 7:00 pm Erev Sukkot Service Potluck Dinner 9:30 am Religious School 7:30 pm Erev Shabbat Sukkot Service

22 18 TISHRI 23 19 TISHRI 24 20 TISHRI 25 21 TISHRI 26 22 TISHRI 27 23 TISHRI 28 24 TISHRI SUKKOT SUKKOT SUKKOT EREV SIMCHAT TORAH SIMCHAT TORAH 7:30 pm Erev Shabbat Service 9:00 am Holy Scrollers SUKKOT 8:30 am - 9:30 am Advanced (No religious school) (Office Closed) Hebrew 8:00 am Simchat Torah Morning 9:30 am - 10:30 am Beginner 7:45 am Morning Minyan Service with Yizkor Hebrew 5:30 pm Potluck Dinner 7:00 pm Executive Committee 9:30 am Religious School 6:15 pm Erev Simchat Torah and 11:30 am - 1:00 pm Confirmation Consecration Service 11:30 am - 1:30 pm Gesher

29 25 TISHRI 30 26 TISHRI

8:30 am - 9:30 am Advanced Hebrew 9:30 am - 10:30 am Beginner Hebrew 9:30 am Religious School

26 27 Tishri- OCTOBER 27 Heshvan, 2013 5774

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1 27 TISHRI 2 28 TISHRI 3 29 TISHRI 4 30 TISHRI 5 1 HESHVAN 7:45 am Morning Minyan 5:45 pm Tot Shabbat 9:00 am Holy Scrollers 8:45 am Religious Affairs 6:15 pm Dairy Potluck Dinner 4:15 pm Religious School 7:00 pm First Friday Erev Shabbat 10:30 am Shabbat Service and Bat Service Mitzvah of Acadia Barrengos 12:30 pm Barrengos reception

6 2 HESHVAN 7 3 HESHVAN 8 4 HESHVAN 9 5 HESHVAN 10 6 HESHVAN 11 7 HESHVAN 12 8 HESHVAN 8:30 am - 9:30 am Advanced 3:00 pm Shoreline Soup Kitchen 7:45 am Minyan 12:00 pm - 1:30 pm Lunch & Learn: 7:30 pm Erev Shabbat Services No 2nd Saturday Shabbat Service Hebrew Jewish Responses to Big Ethical 9:30 am - 10:30 am Beginner 4:15 pm Religious School Questions 9:00 am Holy Scrollers Hebrew 7:00 pm Board of Directors 9:30 am Religious School 11:30 am - 1:00 pm Confirmation

13 9 HESHVAN 14 10 HESHVAN 15 11 HESHVAN 16 12 HESHVAN 17 13 HESHVAN 18 14 HESHVAN 19 15 HESHVAN 8:30 am - 9:30 am Advanced 7:45 am Morning Minyan 4:00 pm - 6:00 pm SAC - Deep 7:30 pm Erev Shabbat Service 9:00 am Holy Scrollers Hebrew River Soup Kitchen with Choir 9:30 am - 10:30 am Beginner 4:15 pm Religious School Hebrew 9:30 am Religious School

20 16 HESHVAN 21 17 HESHVAN 22 18 HESHVAN 23 19 HESHVAN 24 20 HESHVAN 25 21 HESHVAN 26 22 HESHVAN 8:30 am - 9:30 am Advanced 7:45 am Morning Minyan 7:00 pm Executive Committee 7:30 pm Erev Shabbat Service 9:00 am Holy Scrollers Hebrew 9:30 am - 10:30 am Beginner 4:15 pm Religious School 10:30 am Shabbat Service and Hebrew Bat Mitzvah of Maya Gold 9:30 am Religious School 12:30 pm Maya Gold Reception 1:00 pm - 5:00 pm UACT Listening Campaign Training with AME Zion Church @ CBSRZ

27 23 HESHVAN 28 24 HESHVAN 29 25 HESHVAN 30 26 HESHVAN 31 27 HESHVAN 8:30 am - 9:30 am Advanced 7:45 am Morning Minyan Hebrew 9:30 am - 10:30 am Beginner 8:45 Religious Affairs Hebrew 9:30 am Religious School 11:30 am - 1:00 pm Confirmation 11:30 am - 1:30 pm Gesher

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Mama Loshen by Marilyn Kalet High Holidays are early this year!

Ober yetzt? Erev Rosh Hashanah, September 4 So now? Rosh Hashanah, September 5-6 Er redt in der velt arein! “Who has much learning Kol Nidre, September 13 He talks nonsense! (He talks into the world.) but no good deeds Yom Kippur, September 14 Vos iz der tachlis? What's the purpose? Where does it lead to is like an unbridled horse, Moisheh kapoyer that throws off the rider Mark your calendar A person who does everything wrong or as soon as he mounts.” in reverse —Ethics of thE fathErs K'velen Glow with pride and happiness, beam; be delighted

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Beth Brewer and Rita Fink Harvey Payton Charles & Sue Savitt Rochelle Dauenheimer Michael & Sandee Gelven Don & Andrea Bartels Maxine Klein & David Zeleznik Johanna Schaefer