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Mom of the month: Felicia Bechtel

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Barbara Hough Roda Multitasking: Don’t give it too much respect Four days before book club remnants of order sacrificed to case for online banking. But it’s met in March, I was discussing the multitasking that continues also an example of what happens the selection of the month with to erode my world. It’s a mom when I try to do too many chores a friend. thing, to be sure, but in these at the same time. A heavy read, she said, fast-paced times pumped up with “Multitasking?’’ asked actress describing the tragic short life of high-tech gadgetry that should Helena Bonham Carter. “I can’t the title character. She mentioned simplify rather than complicate do two things at once. I can’t the South, and then went on to life, it’s a killer. even do one thing at once.’’ talk about Johns Hopkins and My mind is simultaneously She’s on to something. medical research and cells and spinning with so much online Honesty. the bittersweet threads that information and so many tasks bound the book from cover to it’s impossible to think about The multitasking mayhem has cover. doing a single one of them with produced far too many mishaps proficiency. Because I often feel in my family, and costly ones at Whoa, I thought. I didn’t get that: my microwaved cellphone; to that part yet. I no longer do much truly well, I’ve learned to live with the cash in my unzipped purse that I was a few decades ahead mediocrity I abhor. ended up passing through the of my friend on the other side dog’s digestive tract; the brand- of the Atlantic in the English I can bake a batch of cookies, new eyeliner that dropped like countryside. The protagonist write a column, pay a bill, fold an anchor into the commode; wasn’t the struggling African- the laundry and search for my a daily hunt for car keys that American mother of five she daughter’s cellphone while I never make it to the kitchen key Ellen Milligan and daughter Maeze, 6, of Lititz, pull invasive described, but a proper and answer a call/text message/ hook; the trip to my daughter’s garlic mustard plants from Landis Woods Park in Manheim mature gent with one eye on his doorbell/email. Manor Township school via Township, Saturday, April 21. They were among the dead brother’s antique shotgun But later, I wonder whether I the newsroom in downtown volunteers who removed herbaceous plants and bushes as and the other, more romantic put baking soda in the batter. Was Lancaster — not intentionally, part of an Earth Day cleanup sponsored by the Sierra Club and the Manheim Township Department of Recreation and peeper on a widow tending a there detergent in the washing but because myriad matters led Park Planning. shop in their village. machine? Did I accidentally me in divergent directions. Justin David Graybill photo The more we talked, the include someone in a return It’s easy to understand why greater my sense we weren’t just email who wasn’t supposed to one unnamed writer described on different pages — we were see my response? multitasking as “screwing up well into different books. Not so long ago I pulled into everything at once.’’ Visit LancMoms.com Exasperated, I asked: What a bank drive-thru to make a Somehow, I manage to Check out what other Lancaster Moms (and are you talking about? mortgage payment. The check stay focused at work. And on Dads) are doing and saying. Forums, blogs, was made out to the bank, all important tasks at home. But the “The Immortal Life of right, but it was in the amount questions, and answers all can be found at Henrietta Lacks’’ by Rebecca multitasking mom stuff is taking of the electric bill. Minutes a toll. LancMoms.com. Get a LancMoms.com Skloot, she said. later, and already on the other Skloot? side of town, I got a look at the I learned last month, while card, good for discounts and services. receipt and realized what I’d pulling together a presentation You’re reading the wrong done. I snatched the mortgage on time management — yeah, forth are difficult ones. Henrietta Lacks will have to wait. book, I snorted. This month it’s payment, sealed in a stamped I know what you’re thinking, “Major Pettigrew’s Last Stand.’’ envelope addressed to the utility but that’s another column — In other words, if you feel One thing at a time. like a slacker because your mind When I learned others in our company, just before it slid into that multitasking isn’t what Barbara Hough Roda is mom the outgoing mail bin at the post it’s cracked up to be. Many isn’t juggling a half-dozen jobs to Faith and managing editor book group had read the same at the same time, think again. “wrong’’ pick, I faced facts: My office. Then I hightailed it back pros note that we should try to of the Sunday News. Her email date with the “Major’’ was two to the bank. Because of it all, I curtail the practice because it Which brings me back to “Major address is broda@lnpnews. months premature. was late for an appointment. zaps mental energy. It decreases Pettigrew.’’ He’s going to get my com and her phone is 481- efficiency, particularly when the The incident makes a great undivided attention this weekend 7335. Check out her blog at And so goes my life, any tasks we’re switching back and so we can finish what we started. LancMoms.com. Lancaster, Pa. VISIT LANCMOMS.COM MAY 12, 2012 • 3 Mom of the Month ~ Felicia Bechtel

By Maureen Leader Felicia and her husband, Special Features Writer Tim are the parents of three daughters: Ellen, 19; Marian, 17 On paper Mom of the Month, and Maddie, 14. Felicia Bechtel’s life seems The Bechtels are both almost impossible. She works geologists and geophysicists fulltime at her own business with at their business in Lancaster, her husband while raising three Enviroscan. Enviroscan scans daughters. Her daughters are all a property without digging. very talented and accomplished. “Anything that anybody wants There are a lot of activities and to find: utility mark outs, sink events to attend in addition to holes, underground storage Bechtel’s own long business tanks, dead bodies…” Typical hours and travel schedule. customers might be engineers or But almost like a perfect archeologists. It’s an extremely storm things have come together specialized business. “Much like for Bechtel to make it all work: a Scotch tape store,” Bechtel a supportive husband, great joked. The Bechtels have owned the Felicia Bechtel with her daughters Madeline, left and Marian, right. Daughter Ellen kids, and a lot of music, family is away at college. dinners and no television. - continued on page 4

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Bechtel also gives much All the girls, as Bechtel credit to Tim who lives in But Bechtel gives most of the describes, are “uber involved” this household of all women. credit for her family’s success to in music. They all play several “Even our pets are female,” the girls themselves. “They are musical instruments. The Bechtel said. She explains that inherently good people. They family’s schedule is dictated Tim is a father who is equally look out for each other and are by the girls’ music activities. comfortable with helping his level-headed.” Whether it’s marching band, daughters out on nail polish as festivals, competitions, lessons, well as digging in the mud with “I am lucky. Truly lucky. performances or jazz fests, them. They have made my job easy.” Bechtel said that virtually every weekend includes at least one musical event the family attends. Bechtel admitted that even though she can sing, the girls Mom of the Month got their talent from Tim who can play any stringed instrument Details plus the trumpet. The Bechtels also love to Bechtel met her husband The Bechtels have been travel together. They have Tim while she was a student at married 29 years. been to Ireland, Switzerland, Bryn Mawr College. Tim was London and camping around the attending Haverford College, Her favorite colors are United States. They love that the “brother school” to Bryn purple and teal. “They are their daughters have been able Mawr at the time. my life colors. They are the to experience so many other colors of my business logo cultures together through their Bechtel was born and raised and they were the colors in my travels and also by meeting in Lancaster. wedding.” foreign business associates in the United States. She enjoys reading when she She loves the flavor of Television is not part of has time. “I always like to have vinegar. Bechtel’s life. It’s not that she a book going.” Favorite books is against it in any way. It just take place in other countries Bechtel was nominated to be never occurs to her to have it on and Bechtel learns about Mom of the Month by friend, unless there is a specific movie other cultures by reading the Marcie McCarthy. McCarthy or show, like “Glee,” that the story. She especially enjoyed stated on her nomination that family wants to watch. This “Memoirs of a Geisha.” Bechtel is “a role model for started during Lent when Ellen parenting.” was in first grade. The family Bechtel loves to cook, but decided to give it up and as also loves to go out, especially Chris Fitz and his daughter, Joana, of Marietta, were among Bechtel explains, “It just never to The Belvedere in Lancaster. those watching the running of the YWCA Race Against Racism in downtown Lancaster. came back on.” Bechtel enjoys Jeff Ruppenthal /Sunday News Photo Lancaster, Pa. 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No one is the end- Willow Street, PA sure this provider has access all resource for kids’ needs — www.livesinbalancegym.com 6 • MAY 12, 2012 VISIT LANCMOMS.COM Lancaster, Pa. Day Trippin’: The Goggleworks By Rochelle A. Shenk The mission of the metals and wood. Programs at Special Features Writer GoggleWorks is to “nurture GoggleWorks provide quality the arts, foster creativity, arts-based activities to a diverse If you’re looking for some promote education and enrich audience throughout the year. family activities nearby, Reading the community.” It opened in Those activities include has some interesting places to September 2005 and boasts a monthly Second Sunday visit including the GoggleWorks 150,000-square feet of space Open House from 11 a.m. to Center for the Arts, which that is home to 40 artists. The 4 p.m. Zogas says that these focuses art in its various forms. center contains 34 studios for events feature a variety of “This is a very active and large working professional artists, demonstrations and walk-in place—we feature exhibits, four galleries, classrooms, a workshops offered by the various demonstrations and hands-on film theater, a café, a store, artists that have studios at the classes; it’s all here in our facility. offices for arts and cultural center as well as a free make- If you and your family enjoy the organizations and spaces for and-take activity for children. arts, you can easily spend a day community events, as well as Other activities vary and may here,” says executive director studios for ceramics, dance, include poetry readings. Gust Zogas. glass, photography, jewelry, “Most of our artists are in their studios during Second Sunday, so visitors not only get to see their work, but can also talk with the artists themselves. One of the typical questions the artists are asked is ‘how long it takes to create a particular Over the years the company that equipment, so our studio is piece’,” Zogas says. expanded its focus by addressing available,” he says. The building that houses hearing, respiratory and head Glass blowing classes as well this arts center has quite a protection equipment as well as other art classes including history. GoggleWorks derives as safety equipment for coal crafts, ceramics, and painting are its name from the structure miners, military personnel and also offered at the GoggleWorks. from which it evolved, the aviators. 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The GoggleWorks is world to manufacture optical GoggleWorks’ glass studio open daily 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. glass for lenses and reading is operated by an onsite glass Free parking is available in glasses. The company became blower, but the space and the GoggleWorks parking known for the innovative equipment is also available lot, accessible from 2nd, fashion in which it addressed the for use by other glass blowers. 3rd or Walnut Streets. For occupational hazards faced by ”Glassblowing is an art that further information call the factory workers and is credited requires a skilled glass blower. GoggleWorks at 610-374-4600 The GoggleWorks offers a wide variety of fun and with launching the safety The equipment can be costly, or visit www.goggleworks.org. extraordinary things to see and interact with. protection industry. and not every gloss blower has Lancaster, Pa. VISIT LANCMOMS.COM MAY 12, 2012 • 7 Teaching kids to be GREEN The children of today are the part of the day. Automobiles hand. However, what was once decision-makers of the future. consume large amounts of fossil the latest and greatest toy can Therefore, it’s imperative that fuels and also release harmful quickly become overshadowed youngsters learn about the planet contaminants into the air via by something new tomorrow. and how to protect it. their exhaust systems. Walking Explain the benefits of getting Teaching children about the or biking to school gives children gently used toys, clothing and ways they can protect the planet the opportunity to enjoy fresh books instead of purchasing or make simple changes to air and exercise while reducing them new. Doing so reduces decrease their carbon footprints their reliance on fuels. 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That exam may try, some health-related be struggling with myopia. may include an eye pressure issues are difficult to avoid or Kids who are nearsighted might measurement; a refraction test, prevent. For example, even squint to see objects that are far which is used to determine the most conscientious parents away, including the television. a correct prescription for might have little influence One of the telltale indicators eyeglasses; a retinal examination over their children’s vision. is how a child behaves in the and a visual acuity test, which Many children have a form classroom. 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I Late-night comedians have to assume that the teacher broke the three-joke limit rule knew Krentcil and wonder if skewering her, newspaper her appearance affected the cartoonists ran wild sketching instructor’s perception. the bronzed blond, and Saturday I’m not suggesting Krentcil Night Live even did a skit on it. isn’t guilty as charged, and if Like everyone else, I’m she did bring a 5-year-old into mystified why Patricia Krentcil a tanning booth she should would feel compelled to go to be prosecuted. 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