'Vent and Chester'

August 16, 2019 | Volume XVII, Issue 7

household need to pass a background are eligible for a $50 tax deduction per Exchange Students: Opening check, and the program requests three ref- student per month (15 days or more) that erences on the family prior to acceptance. an exchange student lives with the family. The organization But the rewards in terms of Your Home, Your Heart uses the term appreciation, respect, and “family” loosely: love are immeasurable! The ASSE International Student Exchange creative girl! as you do not Simply by sharing your Program is looking for LGBTQ and straight She is hard- LGBTQ students need to have home for as little as three ally families or individuals to help host working, and from afar seek children at home, months, a semester, or a their exchange students. (The group was once she sets nor do you need school year, you’ll be giv- originally established as the American a goal in her welcoming short- to be married, to ing an exceptional young Scandinavian Student Exchange in 1976, head nothing host an exchange person from another but now serves students the world over.) can stop her! term homes ... student. You do country the opportunity Esther-Marie Emslie, the group’s area rep- Her interests maybe yours! need to have a of a lifetime – to live with resentative for Frederick and Washington include gym- stable house- your family and experi- counties, recently told Baltimore OUTloud nastics, singing, writing, reading, calligra- hold and meet ence the language, cus- about the first transgender student coming phy, and playing the ukulele.” the minimum re- toms, and culture of this to Maryland this year. “We’re very excited Hosting an exchange student is an quirements laid country. In return, your about this,” Emslie adding that there’s also unforgettable experience, and the require- out above. Hosting exchange student will another student looking for a host family. ments are simple: a host family needs to a student is on a bring to your family a bit “Julia is a 16-year-old young lady from be able to provide a bed for the student volunteer basis, of his or her homeland. Spain. She speaks Spanish, English, and and three meals a day. All adults in the but host families —continued on page 3 French and is a wonderful student urgently seeking a host family,” said Emslie. “She is one of the winners of a very competi- tive scholarship to come to America this By Frankie Kujawa Peter Bisuito, creator Hilarious year. Additionally, she is an advocate for Legendary sitcom creator Norman Lear once of “Vent and Chester” the LGBTQ community in her town, as well said, “We gravitate to shows and issues and – the hilarious new ‘Vent and as for feminism. Julia is a very active and causes that make people care.” For comic modern gay sitcom New alongside iconic drag queen Varla Jean Mer- Sitcom Chester’ man (Jeff Roberson), humor has a new meaning. Bisuito spoke ex- able light to audiences around the world.” clusively with Baltimore OUTloud regarding Since uploading the sitcom pilot to Face- the sitcom’s pilot. book a month ago, the episode has already “It’s been a lifelong dream of mine to star garnered 30,000 views – almost 1,000 views a in a sitcom,” began show creator Bisuito. “In day. “We’re getting messages from people all this youth-driven society, I have creat- over the world that they can’t ed a product that not only celebrates Don’t gay men believe how refreshing this gay men, but middle-aged gay men. show is because it’s about It’s long overdue.” Bisuito continued, of a certain age two middle-aged men.” “‘Vent and Chester’ is the first sitcom deserve to be The old-school style sit- in history to revolve around two mid- com, filmed in front of a life dle-aged gay men in this youth-driv- laughed at? studio audience, centers en society. There are a lot of us out around two middle-aged gay ‘Sitcom’ there,” Bisuito added, “This is roommates living in Fort Lauderdale. Chester doesn’t mean also the very first sitcom to Bateman (played by Jeff Roberson sans drag), always taking take place in Fort Lauderdale. a newly out and recently divorced professor it sitting It’s a great destination and we of psychology was just dumped, defrauded down! – from ‘Vent and will show the city in a desir- —continued on page 17 Chester’ Co-Publishers Jim Becker • Jim Williams [email protected]

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2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // local Results Published: National Survey on LGBTQ Youth Mental Health A new report published during June’s Dr. Peters states the importance of Pride Month by the Trevor Project, a non- recognizing the warning signs for youth profit that seeks to prevent suicide among demonstrating suicidal tendencies, in- LGBTQ youth, found significant rates of cluding an obsession with death and mental health issues or self-harm. Hopelessness and discrimination and depression are also red among LGBTQ youth. flags. “Young people who have According to the Trevor stopped doing activities they Project, this is the “larg- used to enjoy, and who with- est survey of LGBTQ draw from friends and family, youth mental health are at risk. Further, they often ever conducted,” with feel intense sadness about more than 34,000 re- something or about themselves Make a difference ... spondents from across and are often convinced that the US. nothing can fix or take away We are seeking Maryland residents who Among the survey’s those feelings.” are interested in becoming a therapeutic most troubling statis- The Trevor Project’s oth- foster parent. tics was the finding that er findings point to the lack of 39% of LGBTQ youth support for LGBTQ youth. Less If you have room in your heart and – and more than half than half of the participants in of respondents who the Trevor Project’s survey room in your home, call us today at identified as transgen- LGBT youth: greater were out to an adult at school. 301-804-6109. der or non-binary – had suicide risk, says Two-thirds said someone had foundationscommunity.com seriously considered at- Dr. Todd Peters tried to “convince them to Model representations of real patients are shown. Actual patients cannot be divulged due to HIPAA regulations. For tempting suicide in the change their sexual orientation language assistance, disability accommodations and the non-discrimination notice, visit our website. 191229-1119 3/19 past year. And 71% of respondents said or gender identity.” More than half of trans- that they felt “sad or hopeless for at least gender and non-binary individuals report- two weeks in the past year.” ed that they had been “discouraged from “LGBTQ youth are at a much greater risk using a bathroom that corresponds to their for suicide than their heterosexual peers,” gender identity.” said Dr. Todd Peters of Sheppard Pratt Bullying also continues to be a troubling trend for LGBTQ youth. 71% percent Bullying also continues to be of the Trevor Project’s respondents report- T3 ed experiencing discrimination as a result a troubling trend of sexual orientation or gender identity. for LGBTQ youth. “As a society, we need to continue AT CEDARCROFT embracing and celebrating LGBTQ indi- Health System. “At Sheppard Pratt, it is our viduals,” says Dr. Peters. “Unfortunately, A BENEFIT PARTY FOR AIDS ACTION BALTIMORE desire to reach young people with the sup- attitudes of fear and intolerance can have ANOTHER GREAT PARTY AT NATE AND NEAL'S port and resources they need to help them a tragic impact on our LGBTQ youth and deal with negative emotions in healthy ways, their mental health.” t We have the distinct pleasure of celebrating our rather than by harming themselves.” Fall Tea Dance at Cedarcroft again this year! Please join us at the original 1846 homestead of historic Cedarcroft Farm. Enjoy the lovely home and enchanting gardens nestled in an urban hamlet this memorable and valued cultural expe- conveniently located in Baltimore City. Exchange Students rience. To find out more about how to become —continued from page 1 a host family for Julia or another student Expect refreshing cocktails and plenty of delicious Students come from Europe, Asia/Pacific, contact Ester-Marie Emslie (443-789-1927 food. Dancing to the great music of the Middle East, the Americas, and Africa. or [email protected]). Open your DJ Vince Christopher and an exciting Silent Auction. Each year, ASSE and its affiliates place home to a new family member and share several thousand exchange students, ages in their future! t 15 to 18, in host families like Sunday, September 22nd ● 2-7PM yours throughout the world. ASSE International Student 6204 Sycamore Road, Baltimore, MD 21212 Exchange Programs invites Get Your Tickets While They Last. Tickets Are Limited. you and your family to join all the families in our country To purchase tickets go to: aidsactionbaltimore.org and throughout the world in BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 3

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parking and maps for finding the pavil- 8 to 10 pm. The contest and show are from more. The festival is planned over three LGBTQ Commission ion, visit the Facebook event page at Bit. 10 pm to midnight, followed by Hip-Hop days: Friday, August 30th through Sunday, ly/2ZXwm27. t music until closing. The event is hosted by September 1st, and will be held at the SNF General Body Extacy (the reigning Miss New Faces of Parkway Theatre (5 West North Avenue, Maryland 2019) and Helena Hologram (the corner of Charles Street and North Ave- Meeting June winner of New Faces of Maryland). nue, Baltimore). The Back-to-School The BFS Film Fest says it “centers on black femme filmmakers and re-envisions On Monday, August 26th, the Baltimore Show the black femme as a global protagonist, mayor’s LGBTQ Commission will hold its empowering their stories through film. In quarterly general meeting from 6:30 to 8 Students are heading back to school, and addition to screening films that face sys- pm at Baltimore City Hall (100 Holliday many will need help to get a good start. temic barriers of sexism, racism and clas- Street), on the fourth floor in the Curran Join host Amanda Chase on Friday, Au- sism, BFS Film Fest strives to foster an Room. New and prospective members are gust 30th at 8 pm at the Rowan Tree intentional community of filmmakers and welcome to attend. For more info visit the (1633 South Charles Street, Baltimore) for film lovers alike.” commission’s Facebook event page at Bit. the show, followed by karaoke at 10 pm. “Access” is this year’s theme, as in ly/2KG0Orf. t There’s no cover, but they encourage do- “access to power, access to guidance, and access to love.” Friday’s opening night will feature Numa Perrier’s film Jezebel. A shorts pro- LGBT Family Day gram dedicated to Baltimore-made films including B. Monet’s documentary Ballet at the Zoo After Dark and Antonio Hernandez’s documentary Indelible: Abdu Ali, will be fea- A day at the zoo and a benefit for FreeS- tured during both Saturday and Sunday’s tate Justice are all wrapped in on Sunday, programs. August 25th from 11 am to 3 pm at LGBT Saturday’s programs include Maria- Family Day at the Maryland Zoo in Balti- ma Diallo’s horror-comedy Hair Wolf, and more (1 Safari Place). Join other LGBTQ Iyabo Boyd’s surreal and introspective Me families, friends, and allies at the Water- Contest registration is first-come- Time, as well as a pitch competition for up- fowl Pavilion at the zoo for lawn games first-served and entry is free. The winner and-coming filmmakers. and family friendly activities, alongside the each month gets a cash prize of $25 and Sunday’s programs include Tchaiko whole cast of animal characters that make the opportunity to perform at the following Omawale’s coming-of-age feature Solace, the zoo their home. Take part in a scaven- months contest, as well as entry in the and Reina Gossett and Sasha Wortzel’s ger hunt, get your face painted, or take a annual finals contest in December. Con- Happy Birthday Marsha, a documentary testants may not have held any state, re- about the iconic transgender artist and ac- gional, national, or international title. Per- tivist Marsha Johnson, and her role in the formance limit is five minutes. The winner 1969 Stonewall Riots in New York City. is chosen by the audience. “We’re excited to bring the festival to Cover for patrons is $5. For more in- the place that inspired it,” said Nia Ham- formation visit the Facebook event page at mond, festival organizer. “It’s a full circle Bit.ly/2H1pl94 or call 443-467-9749. t moment, because the Parkway is under new management and looking to reconnect nations of and for school supplies to be do- with Baltimore, and we want to help facil- nated to local kids in need. Parking passes itate a new era in Baltimore filmmaking.” are available at the bar. For more informa- ‘Black Femme Online ticket purchase and prices are t snooze in the shade of the pavilion. tion visit the Facebook event page at Bit. available at Bfsfilmfest.com. Friends and families of all ages are ly/2OUeC6N. t Supremacy – compiled by Bill Redmond-Palmer welcome. All proceeds from the day will benefit FreeState Justice’s services for Film Fest’ Maryland’s LGBTQ community. This is an alcohol-free event. The zoo allows food August New Faces Starts Aug in the main park and a food truck will be available for attendees at the pavilion. of Maryland 30th Tickets for people over 11 are $22.85, for those under 11 but old than two the cost The monthly installment of the New Faces The 2019 Black Femme is $16.48. Those under two are free. Visit of Maryland contest for August is planned Supremacy Film Fest Bit.ly/33pAHxn to purchase tickets online. for Saturday, August 31st, at Ziascoz Bar (BFS Film Fest) returns Tickets include access to the Waterfowl and Lounge, (1313 East Pratt Street, Balti- for its second year, and Pavilion, specifically reserved for LGBT more). The contest is open to all male and will feature over 50 films Family Day attendees. Tickets include ac- female impersonators. Every month, usu- including narratives, cess to the entire zoo and all its open ex- ally on the last Saturday, the contest re- documentaries, music hibits and activities. turns. The evening begins with registration videos, web series, ex- For more info, including details on from 8 to 9:30 pm and Hip-Hop music from perimental films and 4 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com beyond the beltway

compiled by Jim Becker bought its building in 1979 but lost it sever- in the relationship legally adopted the two al years ago. Since then it has been rent- boys now aged 12 and 14 in 2010. Same- Philadelphia ing space. Fortunately, the current leader- sex couples are not allowed to adopt chil- ship of the center reportedly has obtained dren in Russia, but single people are. LGBT Center a $500,000 bond from the state and will be According to their lawyers, the adop- purchasing a building that will become its tion agency in Lyublino carried out regular gets $1 million permanent home.] visits to the home from 2010 to 2019. The agency reported the men looked after the state grant boys very well. The activist told Gay Star Sites of right-wing terror in the US News that a psychologist who assessed Philadelphia – The William Way LGBT Russian the family found no evidence of abuse. In If the Atomwaffen Division group Community Center will undergo $1 million fact, the psychologist reported “a healthy sounds familiar, it’s the same group that worth of renovations thanks to a grant from authorities and close emotional connection between trained a man who stabbed a gay man Governor Tom Wolf. The funds, from the parents and children.” She added that the 20 times in August 2018. Atomwaffen Redevelopment Assistance Capital Pro- remove gay dads’ law is so vague “the only thing LGBT peo- members subsequently celebrated the gram subsidized by the state’s Office of ple can do to be completely safe is to stay gay man’s death. (LGBTQ Nation – Dan- the Budget, will go toward updating the adopted children invisible, hide their [sexual orientation and iel Villarrea at Lgbtqnation.com/2019/08/ organization’s public spaces, namely the gender identity], lie in their social environ- white-supremacist-arrested-plotting-fire- lobby, ballroom, art gallery and histori- Moscow – Gay Star News reports that ment.” (Gay Star News – Shannon Power bomb-gay-bars-synagogues/) [Editor’s cal archives, as well as offices. Updated a trip to the emergency room soon turned at Gaystarnews.com/article/terrifying-ad- note: Baltimore OUTloud edited out the technology, such as modernized lighting into a nightmare for two dads, who have opted-kids-removed-from-their-gay-dads- man’s name in order not to give him fur- and hanging systems, will be added to been separated from their adopted chil- in-russia/#gs.v5sjir) ther publicity.] enhance the presentation of the organiza- dren after authorities ordered them to be tion’s artistic and cultural items. taken away from them. Lawyers for the The grant will fund the first part of William men have described their situation as “ter- Way’s two-phase redevelopment plan, with rifying” as Russian authorities try to sepa- White Penna to allow a focus on the front third of the 1315 Spruce rate them from their children. Street location. Phase-one renovations will On June 19th, two men brought one of supremacist gender option begin within 18 months, and the center aims their sons to a Moscow hospital to treat a to remain open throughout the duration. The suspected case of appendicitis. The men nabbed after of ‘X’ on driver’s second phase of renovations will add 9,800 remain unnamed for their own safety. But square feet of usable space to the com- the doctor found out the boy had two dads threats to bomb licenses munity center, including a 51% increase in and immediately reported them to the In- rentable space, and a two-story event area. vestigative Committee of Russia. The gay bars Harrisburg – PennDOT, the Pennsyl- William Way is beginning a “capital vania Department of Transportation, will campaign to raise additional funds” for the Las Vegas – LGBTQNation.com re- offer a gender designation of X on driver’s latter half of the project, said the organi- ports that a 23-year-old security guard and licenses beginning in 2020. (Maryland is zation’s executive director Chris Bartlett. white supremacist in Las Vegas, Nevada, also offering this option.) Erin Waters-Tra- “The renovations have emerged out of a was arrested Thursday and charged with satt, PennDOT spokeswoman, told Phila- sense that we have … the most welcoming possession of an unregistered firearm af- delphia Gay News that the agency “plans and inclusive LGBT city in the country, and ter investigators discovered components to deploy a systematic process to make we really have a center that reflects that for an improvised explosive device (IED) role,” Bartlett added. “When we applied for in his home. An FBI-led Joint Terrorism the state funds, we made the case that this Task Force investigation found that he is a really unique project in that it not only regularly used “derogatory racial, anti-Se- serves the city, but the region and really mitic, and homosexual slurs” online and Pennsylvanians from around the state as a So far, no storybook ending had talked openly “with an FBI informant beacon of hope, a welcoming space.” The online, telling them that he had identified remodeling will also preserve the history Committee went on to sue the social work- possible targets near Las Vegas, including of the center’s building, Bartlett told Phil- ers who approved the children’s adoption police leadership, synagogues, an area in adelphia Gay News. The location housed for “negligence”. It also ordered authorities downtown Las Vegas with gay bars, and the Engineer’s Club of Philadelphia, one remove the boys from their family home. the headquarters for the Anti-Defamation of the oldest professional clubs in the The Committee decided the adoption con- League,” according to Buzzfeed News. US, throughout much of the 20th century. travened Russia’s controversial “gay pro- The FBI began investigating the young The site became William Way’s home in paganda” law. Introduced in the 2013, the white man after they discovered his com- available the use of an X indicator for gen- 1997, and has since undergone primarily law forbids the positive representation of munication with the white extremist group der before this time next year.” maintenance-oriented renovations, such LGBT people in media. The government Atomwaffen Division. He had reportedly The change is especially important be- as replacing roofs, Bartlett added. (Phila- argued the law stopped the “promotion of joined a splinter group called the Feuer- cause, according to PennDOT, “Beginning delphia Gay News – Laura Smythe at epgn. nontraditional sexual relations to minors.” krieg Division with the hopes of providing October 1st, 2020, Pennsylvanians will com/news/local/15016-william-way-re- An activist told Gay Star News this was the training in IED construction towards a need a REAL ID-compliant driver’s license, ceives-1-million-for-renovations) [Editor’s first time authorities had used the “gay pro- “righteous cause.” If convicted, he could photo ID card, or another form of feder- note: The Gay Community Center of Bal- paganda” law to justify the removal of chil- face ten years in federal prison and a ally-acceptable identification (such as a dren from a family home. One of the men $250,000 fine. timore, now the Pride Center of Maryland, —continued on page 10

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 7 BVYC0103_BIKTARVY_B_9-875x9-6_BaltimoreOUTloud_KeepPushing1_DR4_r1v1jl.indd All Pages 4/23/19 3:22 PM VoiceVoice ofof thethe CenterCenter org/start-a-program/ and let us know be wrapping up the year with our an- ED Corner August how to support you. nual December Bash. This year the Some additional upcoming events Bash will be held at the Motor House We are currently winding down from all er emphasis to be community driv- that we have this year is our open so make sure to get your tickets in ad- of the great fun we had this past Pride en. Currently we do this by providing Town Hall in September. Please come vance. Please visit the calendar to find and gearing up for the fall. We have space for groups events to take place to the town hall to learn more about out more details about our upcoming quite a few events planned the rest of at the Center. In addition to this we what we have been doing. In addition events and our regular programming. the year. In September we will be host- have started to provide any group with we want to hear from you so please The Pride Center of Maryland is ing our Civic Engagement Series with funding to provide food incentives for come and share your ideas. In Octo- here to serve you. Please let us know Baltimore Police Commissioner Harris. a meet up that wants to take place at ber we will have our annual Halloween what we more we can do. Also hold The series is our way to help our com- our Center. As a Center that serves the party for young people. In Novem- your next event at the Center. As al- munity create a stronger platform for community we have to find better ways ber we will have a Thanksgiving treat ways visit our website or give us a call airing issues, to learn how to push our to help support our community mem- where we can come together, eat good to find out what’s taking place at the issues forward, learn what our elected bers meet their needs and we think food and share stories with one an- Center. We hope to see you soon. officials are currently doing and hold this is one more way to do that. To start other. Additionally, we will be holding each other accountable. your own group please visit our web- our annual Trans Town Hall and day The Center is also placing a great- site here: http://www.pridecentermd. of remembrance. In December we will

8 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com VoiceVoice ofof thethe CenterCenter Incident Reporting Tool The Pride Center of Maryland to Track Offences Against Calendar of Events the SGM Community

The Pride Center of Maryland has launched an Inci- dent Reporting and Tracking tool as a way to better Friday, August 16 (MA)Marijuana Anonymous: 7:00 - 8:00pm advocate for our community. This tool can be used to Saturday, August 17 report any incident that has occurred that negatively Bi-Monthly Queer Families Potluck: 11am -12:30pm impacts our lives. The tool is located under the Ser- (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous: 6:00 - 8:00pm vices Tab on the Pride Center’s website. The link can Sunday, August 18 be found here: (NA)Narcotics Anonymous: 11am – 1pm http://www.pridecentermd.org/1013-2/ Gentle Mindful Yoga: 3:30pm – 4:45pm Coming Out Support Group: 5:00 – 7:00pm Anyone can use this tool to report any incident that negatively impacts your life that occurs as a result Monday, August 19th of your sexual or gender identity. This tool is meant Tuesday, August 20th Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00 – 5:00pm as a way to provide us a stronger platform for ad- SILhouette: 7:30 - 9:30pm vocating for ourselves and protecting our rights. We Wednesday, August 21st have made a lot of strides in our community yet un- (SCA)Sexual Compulsives Anonymous: 7:00 - fortunately we continue to be discriminated against. 8:00pm The Mankind Project: 7:00 - 9:15pm This tool will be one more way for us to fight against Trans Baltimore: 7:00-9:00pm systemic oppression and societal discrimination prac- SOGAA Book Club: 7:30 – 10:00pm tices that harm our daily lives. Thursday, August 22nd The Pride Center of Maryland is committed to Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00 - 5:00pm uniting, empowering and advocating for Maryland’s Helping Hands Clothing Closet 3:00 - 7:00pm Sistahs of Pride - 7:00-9:00pm sexual and gender minority community. The Incident Friday, August 23rd Reporting and Tracking Tool will help clarify and quan- Pay-What-You-Can Chair Massages at the Center tify where these incidents are taking place and will Breaking Bread Project - 6:30 -10:30pm provide us a stronger platform with which to advocate (MA) Marijuana Anonymous 7:00-8:00pm and protect our community. Having evidence of these Saturday, August 24th occurrences will also help stop us from being ignored (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous - 6:00-8:00pm when we raise these issues and demand change. Sunday, August 25th (NA)Narcotics Anonymous: 11am – 1pm You can go online to fill the fill the form or you Gentle Mindful Yoga: 3:30 – 4:45pm can call the Pride Center of Maryland at 410-777- Monday, August 26th 8145 to immediately report any and all incidents. The Tuesday, August 27th Pride Center of Maryland is here to Unite, Empower Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00-5:00 pm and Advocate for all sexual and gender minorities in New Volunteer Orientation: 6:30– 7:30pm Maryland. Wednesday, August 28th Vogue Night with STAR TRACK: 6:30pm – 9:30pm (SCA)Sexual Compulsives Anonymous - 7:00pm The Mankind Project: 7:00pm Thursday, August 29th Free & Confidential Testing: 2:00 – 5:00pm Every Sunday Friday, August 30th 3:30pm – 4:45pm (MA) Marijuana Anonymous 7:00-8:00pm Saturday, August 31st (AA)Alcoholics Anonymous - 6:00-8:00pm

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—continued from page 5 still a sensitive issue to be ‘out’ at work His reply echoed similar sentiment from all valid passport or military ID) to board a when in law enforcement. Unfortunately, military chiefs of staff that personnel who domestic commercial flight or enter a fed- not all agencies are supportive of this ini- had transitioned to their preferred gender eral building or military installation that re- tiative. With that said, we invited everyone had not damaged readiness. quires ID.” Waters-Trasatt said, “REAL ID to shed their uniforms and march with the Palm Center director Aaron Belkin requires a gender indicator. An X indicator sheriff, under his cloak of acceptance. So said: “Vice Admiral Gilday’s statement un- will meet those requirements as defined by maybe, just for a moment, they will truly dermines the primary rationale for Trump’s see 37.17(c) of the federal regulations.” feel completely accepted and appreciated transgender ban, which is that those who LGBTQ activists have been hard at for who they are and what they do,” the North Carolina Gov. Roy Cooper need to transition gender threaten the read- work to effect this change in Pennsylvania, sheriff’s office emphasized. iness and cohesion of the force. Across three years of open service by transgen- according to Jason Landau Goodman, ex- “My decision [to walk in the parade] was “What leaders do matters,” said Mathew der patriots – including by those who have ecutive director of the Pennsylvania Youth based solely on my belief that I needed Shurka, Born Perfect co-founder who had transitioned – military leaders have found Congress. He said, “This is a fantastic to serve and better understand my entire been subjected to conversion therapy. move for inclusion for nonbinary and other community. After meeting with several of “Gov. Cooper’s executive order sends a gender nonconforming people. We were the key members of my executive staff, clear message that he and his administra- the lead community group advocating for it was easily decided that Mecklenburg tion will protect LGBTQ youth and ensure this and have been working with so many County Sheriff’s Office (MCSO) needed a that no taxpayer money is spent on this different individuals in [Pennsylvania state platform and vehicle to move us forward. life-threatening practice, which has been government] to support this effort and That platform and vehicle was the LGBTQ condemned by every leading professional make this happen.” Goodman said Secre- committee,” McFadden stated. medical and mental health organization. tary of PennDOT Leslie Richards has been He added, “In my career with Char- Now more than ever, LGBTQ children especially helpful in implementing the lotte-Mecklenburg Police Department, need to hear that they are born perfect.” change that Goodman called “just com- I worked closely with members of the The Born Perfect campaign to end con- mon sense.” Brenda Klitsch, staff attorney LGBTQ community who are also employ- version therapy was founded by National at the Mazzoni Center, said, “This is a very ees of the department. I’ve had the plea- Center for Lesbian Rights in 2014 to bring important change. Not everyone fits neatly sure of establishing lifelong friendships those who have been subjected to conver- into a binary designation of gender – either and confidants. My interest in the LGBTQ sion therapy and legal experts together to female or male.” The affirming aspects of community is nothing new. My new role as end conversion therapy. Born Perfect has the options as well as the legal protections sheriff allows me the opportunity and plat- partnered with the Human Rights Cam- it offers cannot be overstated, Klitsch as- form to make a difference and implement paign and state equality groups across the serted. Pennsylvania and Maryland join positive changes.” The MCSO LGBTQ nation to pass state and local legislation 12 other states and Washington, DC, that Committee is the first organized effort to protecting youth. have granted residents a gender-neutral recognize and support civilian and retired Eighteen US states, Puerto Rico, and option on driver’s licenses. (Philadelphia members of Mecklenburg County Law En- the District of Columbia have banned con- Gay News – Victoria Brownworth at Epgn. forcement Agencies. More info at Meck- version therapy through state-level legis- He won’t com/news/breaking-news/14994-pa-to-al- lenburgcountync.gov. (Q Notes Online lation. Governors in Utah, New York, and be harmed low-gender-designation-x-on-driver-s-li- – Lainey Millen at Goqnotes.com/63572/ Puerto Rico have taken executive action censes) sheriff-to-join-pride-parade) on the issue. (Q Notes Online Lainey Mil- time and again that such service is fully len at Goqnotes.com/63579/governor-is- consistent with military readiness. Once sues-executive-order/) again, uniformed leaders have confirmed Sheriff to North Carolina that the Trump ban is indefensible.” The Palm Center is an independent participate in gov bans Incoming chief research institute analyzes US military personnel policy with an emphasis on Charlotte Pride conversion says trans LGBT populations. For more information, visit Palmcenter.org. t (Seattle Gay Parade therapy troops don’t News & the Palm Center at Sgn.org/sgn- news47_32/page2.cfm) Charlotte, North Carolina – Mecklen- Raleigh, North Carolina – On August harm Navy burg County Sheriff Garry McFadden will 2nd, North Carolina Gov. Roy Cooper be a participant in the upcoming Charlotte signed an executive order, EO97 Protect- San Francisco – In prepared replies These news notes have been compiled, Pride Parade on August 18th in Uptown ing Minors from Conversion Therapy, di- to questions by members of the Senate with permission, from the online version Charlotte. He will be joined by LGBTQ recting the North Carolina Department of Armed Services Committee on Monday, of various newspapers and other web staffers and supporters from various de- Health & Human Services to ensure that August 5th, Vice Admiral Mike Gilday, sites. We thank these publications for partments across Mecklenburg County. no taxpayer dollars are used for conver- whom the Senate just confirmed to become allowing us to bring you their news sto- This marks a first for the law enforcement sion therapy for minors, including North chief of naval operations, made some of ries. Usually the reports have been sig- office and others to walk in the parade. Carolina Medicaid and North Carolina the strongest remarks of any senior mili- nificantly edited and you can read the “The First Responders Unit of the pa- Health Choice, Equality North Carolina tary officials indicating that open service full story by going to the web site men- rade is full of staff, their families, and al- (ENC) announced. This executive action by transgender troops has not harmed mil- tioned following the item. Comments lies alike. When creating this endeavor, we makes North Carolina the first southern itary readiness. “I am unaware of negative are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker wanted to be inclusive of all law enforce- state to establish a state-level policy to impacts on unit or overall Navy readiness and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride ment agencies in the area. For most, it is protect minors from anti-LGBTQ conver- as a result of transgender individuals serv- Media. sion therapy. ing in their preferred gender,” Gilday wrote. 10 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com thinking outloud

Raskin: We have re- I’m wondering about those ports of kids being separat- people who travel to swing ed from their parents on that states to help canvas or reg- My Fabulous basis. Is that what we mean ister voters at election time. I by communicable disease? could do that. Could you? Disease It’s not communicable from Meanwhile, the beat By Mark S. King contact. goes on, people. If you Hastings: That’s the needed another reason to guidance that we follow. contact your elected offi- Raskin: And that came cial, then I just handed you The US from your legal counsel or a doozy. Mr. / Ms. Elected that came from border control Official, why is our border Border Patrol is or where did that come from? patrol separating families? Hastings: I’m not sure if And for God’s sake, why Separating that came from legal counsel. would they do that based I believe that is defined as a Separator on the HIV status of a family member? communicable disease. separated three girls from their in Chief – CBP All you folks who got those cool People with Raskin: Do you have a list of the com- father because he is HIV-positive.” head Brian biohazard tattoos as an anti-stigma municable diseases? According to Quartz, immigration Hastings measure, well, you might have been HIV from Their Hastings: Not with me, sir, no officials “made the decision to per- way ahead of the curve. All of us living Raskin: I mean the flu is communicable. manently separate” three sisters – ages 11, with HIV may be branded with something Families Would we separate parents from their kids if 12, and 14 – from their father and they had like it before this frightening chapter in our a mom or dad had the flu? not seen him since. Their mother had previ- national history is over. The slow-motion train wreck once known Hastings: We’re not, sir. ously died of AIDS in Honduras. Update – July 26th: Are you as horrified as the US Constitution continued its human ••• I’m so afraid. And the only response, of by this policy as I am? Please re-post and/ wreckage Thursday, when Chief Brian Hast- How can I possibly overstate the human- course, is to take some kind of tangible ac- or tweet this story using hashtags #nofam- ings of the Custom and Border Patrol (CBP) itarian insanity of separating someone living tion. For me, that means putting every ounce ilyseparation #closethecamps and tag your casually explained to Rep. Jamie Raskin in with HIV from their support system? What of investment in the 2020 election that I can elected official if you can. One thing this has a congressional hearing that HIV status is a scientific logic tosses HIV into a “commu- possibly spare. made clear: immigration is an HIV issue. We criteria used to separate families at the bor- nicable” bin, when they go on to admit that I live in comfortably blue Maryland. Now must not look away. t der. other communicable conditions are not a The House Judiciary Committee hearing, basis for separation? Are you watching this, “Oversight of Family Separation and U.S. my friends? Customs and Border Protection Hearing,” Nearly every day lately, I bite my tongue and resist the urge to start screaming on “All you folks who got social media, or maybe in the middle of the street outside, that our country is rapidly those cool biohazard sliding into fascism. It seems too awful to be tattoos as an anti- true, right? And then there are the kids in cages and stigma measure, well, another dehumanizing remark about im- migrants or Muslims, and we stand around you might have been in frozen wonderment as if we have been way ahead of the curve. caught mindlessly naval-gazing in Pompeii. Friday August 16, A Washington Blade story has since pro- 9p.m. - 12a.m. All of us living with vided further context for Rep. Raskin’s line of questioning: Shawnna's Chicken Box: HIV may be branded In a statement after the exchange, A SILLY SHOW with something like it Raskin said he’s “ever more dismayed” Saturday August 31st, over the CBP chief’s assertion HIV status is before this frightening grounds for family separation. 10p.m. chapter in our national “Of course, we would never allow par- UNDERWEAR NIGHT ents and children to be separated in any W/ DJ CAPTAIN JOE history is over courtroom in America solely for this reason. As a member of Congress, a citizen, a con- Friday September 6, 10p.m. contained this jaw-dropping exchange be- stitutional lawyer but above all as a father of #KIKI: Dance Party tween the two men: three children, I am outraged by this uncon- and Drag Show Rep. Jamie Raskin (D-MD): If a mother scionable, irrational and cruel policy. I urge A SILLY SHOW or father has an HIV positive status, is that CBP and the Trump Administration to end it alone enough to justify separation from their tonight.” child? Raskin said he based his question on a 60376037 BelairBelair Road.Road. Baltimore,Baltimore, MDMD 2120621206 CBP Chief Brian Hastings: It is be- report he saw in a July 12th article on Quartz. 443-885-9799443-885-9799 ·· Facebook:Facebook: @mixersbar@mixersbar cause it’s a communicable disease under com, titled “US border officials permanently the guidance. BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 11 quality of life // Health and Wellness

bone disease in adults only happens when that type of study was done, it turned out that to produce vitamin D. Or maybe it’s just that vitamin D levels are under 10 ng/mL, it be- even though people with colon cancer have people who are ill don’t get outside as much, came common to recommend supplements lower vitamin D levels than people who don’t so they don’t make as much vitamin D. for everyone with a level under 30 ng/ml. As have colon cancer, healthy people who take Should you get vitamin D testing? The Open Wide a result, one in four adults age 60 and older vitamin D supplements are not any less like- current evidence is that, if you don’t have os- ask Dr Eva now takes vitamin D supplements, compared ly to get colon cancer than people who don’t teoporosis, there is no reason for you to get Dr Eva Hersh with one in 400 ten years ago. Vitamin D take vitamin D. Also, when people who have tested. There’s also no known harm in being tests are now the fifth-most-common lab test colon cancer and low vitamin D levels are tested, although that is still under study. But covered by Medicare, at a cost of $365 mil- given vitamin D supplements, they don’t sur- why do something with no known benefit, Should You lion in 2016. Vitamin D testing has increased vive any longer than cancer patients who do even if it’s harmless? t ten-fold since 2007. not take vitamin D. So if low vitamin D does Dr. Eva Hersh is a family physician. Send Larger and better designed studies pub- not cause cancer, why do people who have your comments and questions to her by email Be Tested for lished in the last few years have shown that colon cancer have low vitamin D levels? at [email protected]. vitamin D supplements do not prolong life, There could be several reasons. Maybe hav- Vitamin D? decrease the chance of cancer or heart dis- ing cancer interferes with the body’s ability ease, or even decrease the chance of bro- ken bones. Recent studies of vitamin D to Dear Dr. Eva, treat depression, fatigue, arthritis, and chron- My old doctor used to test me every year ic pain have not shown any benefits, even in or so for vitamin D, but my people with low vitamin D levels. In new doctor says it’s not nec- Sunshine 2014 the United States Preventive essary. What do you think? Services Task Force (USPSTF) ad- Healthy So Far vitamin isn’t a vised that there is not enough evidence to recommend for or against Dear Healthy, cure-all testing healthy people for vitamin D. Like fashion, nutrition, USPFTS is now doing research to and politics, medical testing goes through find out whether or not it’s useful to test for fads. About ten years ago, many doctors be- and treat low vitamin D levels. Despite this gan checking their patients’ vitamin D blood and other published warnings that it may not levels. It had long been known that vitamin be useful, widespread testing continues. D, along with calcium, is important for bone Any time a single test result seems to health and that vitamin D supplements can be linked to many different conditions, we be useful for adults who have osteoporosis should take a second look. Treatments once (loss of bone density) and low levels of vi- thought to be useful for multiple unrelated tamin D. Not many foods are naturally high conditions have usually turned out to be in vitamin D, but vitamin D is one useless or even dangerous. This of only two vitamins happened with vitamin E. Not so that can be made in the long ago, after initial research body. Vitamin D is made results looked promising, many with sunlight, and many primary care doctors and spe- people living in Northern cialists recommended taking vi- locations with less sun- tamin E to prevent heart attacks shine have low vitamin and dementia. When larger, D levels. For growing better studies were completed, children, lack of vitamin we learned that vitamin E does D leads to a serious bone not prevent heart attacks or disease called rickets, dementia. Besides that, death rates with weakness and curving of the bones of are higher when people take large doses of the arms and legs, sometimes causing per- vitamin E. Similar events occurred when ear- manent deformity. vitamin D has been added ly studies suggested that estrogen might pre- to cows’ milk and other milk products, and to vent heart attacks and dementia, then larger bread, since the 1930’s. Since 2007, it has studies showed this was not the case. also been added to some types of orange It’s a basic principle of medical research juice. As a result, rickets is now extremely that correlation is not causation. In other rare in the US and other developed coun- words, just because two things happen to- tries. gether, like low vitamin D levels and can- The idea of widespread testing for vita- cer, it does not necessarily mean that one min D became popular around 2010 after of those things is causing the other. To find small studies showed that people with many out if one of two factors found together is serious problems including heart attacks, causing the other, it’s necessary to do com- cancer, diabetes, dementia (senility), stroke, parison studies. This means looking at two schizophrenia, depression, and frequent similar groups of people where one group is falls all were more likely to have low vitamin given a treatment and the other is given a D levels. 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er when you exchange Back-To-School Guide for problem issues? Or do you take it as unrea- Ask sonable criticism and LGBTQ Students Dr. J dismiss it? For any human in- By Kate Bishop land, prohibiting “discrimination based on Janan Broadbent, Ph.D. teraction to contribute The LGBT Health Resource Center gender identity, gender expression, sexual to our health – mental Back-to-school can be an anxious time for orientation and nonconformance to stereo- and physical – we need many LGBTQ youth, who may expect to typical notions of masculinity or femininity.” Me – Past and to listen to each other, face bullying, humiliation, and discrimina- These protections allow students to weigh what is being said tion at school. Though the atmosphere for use the restrooms and locker rooms that Present and learn to guide our LGBTQ students has improved greatly in align with their gender identity and to actions and opinions accordingly. Are you the past decade, school can still be a rough self-designate the name and pronoun that These days, we hear a lot about what pol- open to hearing views contrary to yours? place to spend your day. works for them, regardless of legal name. iticians said or did a number of years ago. Can you weigh them and then discuss a In the 2017 National School Climate The policy also encourages sensitivity, di- That got me thinking about how we can look possible resolution? Too often, our insecuri- Survey, national LGBTQ student advocacy recting teachers to ask privately how the back at past relationships and see ties make us outright reject a dis- group GLSEN found that 90% of Maryland student wants to be addressed in their if we handled them any differently A therapist senting thought. With that move, students heard homophobic, biphobic or classroom. than what we would do today. I re- we may lose the chance to grow transphobic slurs at school. More than half Howard County has also voluntari- member at one time, going through looks in the and evolve. Not that everything a of queer and gender diverse ly created new policy guidelines for the old books (!), I realized that in partner says will be on point, but if their schools. Montgomery County’s all relationships, I had been the one mirror we can accept the words of good Kate similarly updated policies request that to leave or to end the connection. intentions, we make it possible to Bishop instructors leave a current roster with Some food for thought there for me …. So improve the feelings and the strength of the students’ chosen names for substitute what about you? Have you had long-term af- relationship. teachers, and direct that group activ- fairs? Mostly short-term? What works for you It takes a lot of work to relate to another ities should be divided by skill rather and what doesn’t? person, whether it is a friend, a parent, a sib- than gender. Find out the policies that Ideally, we learn from past mistakes and ling, a boss, a colleague, or a partner. Our protect you at your school and look for strive to be better. But that in itself is not an only tool to learn to get along is that gift of teachers and staff who will back you end-point. Evolving is a life-long effort. What communication and our ability to learn from up if needed. do you do differently now that works better the past. What gets in the way is that basic 2) Find your people – Research with your partner? Do you listen to each oth- insecurity, wants and needs that demand shows that every tough situation in immediate gratification or solution, and a our lives improves with one crucial strong striving for power and control. With tool: Social support. Look for peers some personalities, a sense of entitlement and possibility models who are living control, and get support in the journey. really brings in harmful behaviors and hurtful your ideal life, then follow their exam- Ultimately, young’uns, your job is this: words. What we can do to combat all that is ple. If you march to your own mara- survive. Do what you must to live through the willingness to do some soul-searching, cas, you are a superstar! Find friends the transit and emerge onto a planet that to look at how we may contribute to the situ- to keep you company and admire loves you right. Try replacing the names ation, and see that almost as an education- your magnificence. of your bullies in your memory with some- al exercise we can learn from and aim for a One great place to start is your thing useful, like the heroes of the Stone- solution. None of us is perfect, but we can school’s Gay Straight Alliance. Near- wall Uprising, or Lizzo lyrics. Approach the do better, act better, and love with joy and ly every middle school, high school, school year with your signature style, use kindness. t college and university in Maryland humor as your armor, and stay strong out “The life which is unexamined is not t has at least one LGBTQ student there! We are all so proud of you. worth living.” – Socrates high school students had been verbally ha- group. If yours does not, please start one! rassed, a quarter were physically harassed, GLSEN’s “GSA Jump-Start” guide will walk and 10% had been physically assaulted. you through finding an advisor and plan- Hearts and Ears Inc. When our youth are bullied out of school, ning the first meetings. Amazing fact: just their future prospects shrivel like a flower having a GSA in a school reduces harass- LGBTQIA+ Wellness & Recovery Center without sunshine. If you are an LGBTQ stu- ment and discrimination for all students, dent dreading the homeroom bell, here are not only the group members. GSAs are three tips to help you hang in there. magic. Hearts & Ears, Inc. is a non-profit organization for Gay, 1) Know your rights – Gender ex- 3) Keep your head up – Remember Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex and pansive students in Baltimore City public that school can seem like the whole uni- schools won a spectacular victory this April, verse when you are inside it, but it is only Questioning, and Gender Non-Conforming individuals when city legislators passed a new law pro- one little globe in a vast sky. Adolescence with behavioral health issues and concerns. tecting the students’ rights to respect for is a shredding time of life for most, and for who they are. Following in the footsteps queer and gender diverse youth being a of Frederick County, which enacted simi- teenager can be life-threatening. Change 611 Park Avenue Suite A, Baltimore, Maryland 21201 • 410-523-1694 lar regulations in 2017, the measure goes the circumstances that can be changed, [email protected] • heartsandears.org beyond the protections provided by Mary- seek serenity about what is out of your

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Balance exercises force the brain to fact rare, that a person would walk into was kind enough to visit Being... learn and control the position of a deficient our healthcare center, test positive for our new healthcare center joint. Some moves to try out: HIV that day, and walk out with ARVs. and report on our arrival in Balti- We all experience anxiety, stress, trouble • Single leg balance with reach The decision to begin treatment is made more, I wish they had come to the grand sleeping, and even depression • Single leg dumbbell bicep opening, where they would have seen the at times. The root cause could ... With these curls ‘While I am glad that warm welcome we received from city and just be that our bodies aren’t exercises • Stability ball bridge that state officials and other providers with producing enough endorphins, can be progressed later with Baltimore OUTloud was whom we have built strong relationships causing an endorphin deficien- adding a dumbbell chest press over the past few years while we have cy. Endorphin deficiency is commonly re- A couple of agility exercises designed kind enough to visit our new planned our new site. We are grateful for ferred to as “experiencing the blues,” but to challenge balance while also improving the partnerships that are in their nascent exercise is a great way to combat low strength include: healthcare center and report stages and those that will be cultivated endorphin levels. During a workout and • Cone drills with quick turns while run- on our arrival in Baltimore, in the months and years to come. We are a good while after, your body produces a ning from cone to cone proud to bring our resources and expertise surge of endorphins which naturally im- • Speed-ladder drills making quick I wish they had come to to the city-wide efforts toward eradicating proves your mood. Whether it was a quick steps in each ladder box the epidemic in Baltimore. We plan to work ten-minute jog or a full hour using all types In group-oriented workouts, such as a the grand opening, where hard, to provide quality and affirming care of gym equipment. boot-camp class or one of Youfit’s “YouGX” they would have seen the to patients, and go where the need is the Surprisingly enough, our brain and ex- group fitness classes – you’re in an envi- greatest. ercise are directly connected. When we ronment where everyone is working hard warm welcome we received We appreciate the outreach of Balti- exercise, the endorphins that are released toward a personal fitness goal in a fun, up- more OUTloud to communities that we are interact with certain receptors in the brain beat setting. That sense of community and from city and state officials also connected with and we are hopeful that reduce our perception of pain. En- accomplishment can fuel happiness as it and other providers with that we can have a clarification of these dorphins cause a positive boost in mood, combines exercise and social support. and other statements that were made in feelings of euphoria and well-being in the So go ahead, start your exercise jour- whom we have built strong the article that were not accurate and be body while lowering rates of depression, ney now or try adding something new to able to share the tremendously impactful anxiety, and stress. To jump start those your existing fitness groove. 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and hope, be- Lenker is one of cause I didn’t Good as Gold the greatest song- have anyone like By Gregg Shapiro Gregg Shapiro: Becca, at what age writers that we me. If I did, I didn’t Nashville-based queer singer/songwriter did you first pick up a guitar? have now. She’s know. I didn’t have Becca Mancari is an artist you must hear Becca Mancari: I was 12 when I first just incredible and language for who and one who’s name you should remem- started learning how to play guitar. I’ve kind of a poet, I was. I remember ber. Her 2017 debut album Good Wom- been playing it kind of poorly ever since more than any- sneaking on my an, which received [laughs]. thing. Radiohead, dad’s old church high praise from music An interview Did you have lessons or are too, because I MacBook to try journalist Ann Powers, you self-taught? think they’re the and figure out who landed at number 19 with singer/ I’m self-taught. At that age I had best band out I am. I didn’t know on Rolling Stone’s “40 a lot friends who were in bands, so there. how to say who Best Country and Amer- songwriter I had some great mostly guy friends I’m glad I was, but I knew icana Albums of 2017” who said, “I’ll show you how to play that you men- I was different. I list, as well as Brooklyn Becca that”, or “This is that power chord”. tioned moving was raised very re- Vegan’s assemblage Still, today, I have friends that teach to Nashville. ligious and I always of “Five Overlooked Al- Mancari me along the way. Was the twang felt connected to bums of 2017”. In addi- Do you play any other instru- in your sound the musical aspect tion to her acclaimed solo work, ments? always there or of the church and Mancari has also performed as one I’m learning how to play keys now be- did it become the way it can trans- third of the trio Bermuda Triangle with cause of the new music and the necessity. more pro- late into something Brittany Howard and Jesse Lafser. With a It’s really fun. Just some simple keys. nounced when more important than new album completed (and being shopped Who do you consider your top five you relocated Becca being famous or a around to labels), Mancari is embarking music influences? to Nashville? Mancari celebrity. Bob Dylan, credit: on a multi-city concert tour. She was kind When I first moved to Nashville, it was It definitely Zachary Gray the ultimate rock enough to answer a few questions before very much songwriters. Bob Dylan. Neil became pro- star, said, “No, I’m hitting the road. Young for so many reasons, including that nounced here. I didn’t grow up a poet!” For me as we were born listening to country music. When I first a singer/songwriter, I feel like I’m able to on the same moved to Nashville, I didn’t know who explain something in a way to help people day – November Dwight Yoakam was [laughs]. I’d never lis- feel less alone. 12th! – and I feel tened to George Strait. I’d never listened You released your debut album very connected to 1990s country, for sure, which by the Good Woman to much fanfare, includ- to him. There way is so much fun if you’re in the right ing a rave review from Ann Powers. is something setting. Nashville has taught me a lot How did you go about selecting the about him that about the beauty of that. The songwriter songs for the album? feels simplistic aspect that got under my skin when I first It’s so funny that you mentioned Ann in a way and moved here was Gillian Welch and the Powers. I’m at home in Nashville now and rhythmic, and people who were in old country. But then I just ran into her five minutes ago. It was that’s where I everything changed because I came back so nice! I hadn’t seen her in a while. She find myself as to telling my story the way that I grew up changed my life! She was the first real a songwriter, speaking it. I grew up in the northeast with writer to write about me and put me on the too. There are no country music. My new record doesn’t map! For those songs, it was very much a lot of simple, even have a hint of country. what a debut album is. The compilation of repetitive feel- In recent years, queer women have everything that you’ve ever done in your ings and I think become increasingly visible in modern life that you feel is good enough. I always he does that country, with artists such as yourself, feel like debut albums are interesting be- as well. When Brandi Carlile, H.C. McEntire, and Lucy cause they’re so aged. A lot of times the I first moved Dacus, leading the way. What does it songs aren’t really in the present. You’re here, I met Gil- mean to you to be one of those musical just making your first statements. They’re lian Welch. Talk pioneers? all the songs that came out of my early 19-, about meeting I love Lucy. It’s interesting that you 20-year-old time. one of your he- brought her up. She’s so young. She’s so Would you say that a debut album is roes! At a local from another generation. I joke with (mu- the musical equivalent of a coming-of- taco shop that sician) Jillian Baker. She’s a good friend age novel? I worked at in of mine and I used to give her a hard Oh, sure! I think so! It was a represen- Nashville! That time. I’d be like, “You kids! You don’t even tation of where I was at the time. I knew blew me away. know what it was like to be gay in the ear- it was the best record I could do with the Some modern ly 2000s!” If I’m being honest, it’s pretty knowledge that I had about music. I select- stuff, too. I’ve emotional for me. I don’t think of it as a ed them because they were my story at the listened to a lot fashion statement. I think of it as saving time. t of Big Thief; I somebody’s life. I want to be the kind of Read the full interview with Becca think Adrianne musician I needed as a kid. That’s my goal Mancari at Baltimoreoutloud.com

16 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com lively arts ‘To Bean or Not to Bean’ ‘Vent and Chester’ By Frankie Kujawa and invited so many people into Baltimore Center Stage recently an- B’more’s the building for not only our per- ing out to local businesses in the Fort Lauder- nounced the opening of To Bean or formances, but other events. And —continued from page 1 newest dale area to see if they’ll help us by sponsor- Not To Bean, a coffee bar located many, many kids coming through and stripped of his life savings by his very ing an episode.” on the first floor of the theatre at 700 caffeinated for camp. It was the idea of saying first boyfriend. Now, in need of a roommate This is a feat that won’t stop Bisuito from North Calvert Street. To Bean (for we wanted this building to really for financial and emotional support, in walks pursuing his dream. “I’ve wanted to be the short) opened its doors in early July hot spot be a gathering place.” Vent (played by Peter Bisuito), an out and star of my own sitcom since I was a little boy. and serves a variety of hot and cold Support for creating the infra- proud, free-spirited bartender who’s in need It was a pipe dream, and it remained a pipe coffees and teas, as well as snacks. Serving structure and furnishing of To Bean or Not to of a place to live. Bisuito added, “I think we dream that never came to fruition. I didn’t as a public gathering space, To Bean offers Bean was provided by a generous grant from have something special and something differ- have the guts to do anything when I was free wi-fi and comfort- able long-time Baltimore Center Stage donors and ent with this show. It isn’t just going to be just growing up. I thought the only way you could meeting and work philanthropists George and Betsy Sherman. a comedy – it’s going to have meaning and become rich and famous was if you moved spaces. “We wanted to open this up all day long and meaningful moments, as well.” to Los Angeles or New York. So, the chanc- “This was have a presence and have this welcoming “I know this is going to be successful,” Bi- es of me becoming a star of my own sitcom really inspired sense of people being in our building and suito continued, “because people are writing were slim unless I moved. Now, it’s not like by our mag- to join us. We owe a lot to George and Bet- in telling me their entire life stories. They’re that anymore. Anyone can become famous nificent reno- sy for helping us making this happen and relating to both characters, who are so differ- with Youtube and online streaming. So, two vation,” began opening it up.” Visitors of To Bean or Not ent. They’ll say things like, ‘I have two kids years ago, I said to myself, ‘You know what, Executive Di- To Bean will also enjoy the fabulous original and grandchildren, and dealt with the same I’m going to think of an idea and plow forward rector Michael season art by award-winning Baltimore-based things in my life as Chester.’ That’s how I and see how far I can take it. It took two years Ross. Adding on collage artist Mirlande Jean-Gilles. Each col- know this is going to be a success because to film that pilot episode, and who knows how to what we did to lage-based work interprets each of the works people are relating to it.” much longer I’ll have to wait to film a whole open up this place. To really engage being performed in Baltimore Center Stage’s For Bisuito, who used most of his life sav- season one, but it will eventually happen.” Bi- the public spaces in ways we never have upcoming season. ings to pay for the pilot episode, bringing his suito concluded, “I want this show to be the To Bean or Not To Bean is open Monday t before. With people coming so early to the idea to life wasn’t cheap. “Right now, we’re online ‘Will & Grace.’” shows now to enjoy dinner on the mezzanine – Friday from 8 am to 3 pm. For more info looking for creative ways to raise money to For more information, please visit Face- level and to come down here to our bars and on the upcoming season, visit Centerstage. help film the rest of the season. We’re reach- book.com/ventandchester cafes. This renovation has been so beautiful org. t

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 17 Lively Arts // QMUSIC // screen Savor Modern Horror Stories Stage and Screen they are the doppelgangers of the family. By Gregg Shapiro With his second feature-length horror film Unfairly dismissed as shadows, they have Us (Universal), now available on Blu-ray, come to life and are seeking retribution, – Summer 2019 writer / director Jordan Peele got 2019 according to Red (also Nyong’o). Having off to a great start. Like Ari Aster (Heredi- waited for this day for so long, they are be- Also, Rocketman takes unexpected liber- ginning “the untethering” from their human By Gregg Shapiro tary and Midsommar), Peele is redefining ties in its storytelling approach. While it forms. In other words, armed with large You have to admit that it’s more than a and revitalizing a genre that had become includes straightforward concert-style mu- scissors, they must kill them. little strange to watch the third season somewhat, well, horrifying. sical performances, it also features Through a series of wily moves, Addy of Netflix’s “Stranger Things” Setting the stage in 1986, with an ad musical numbers out of the Hol- and her family outwit their doubles. They while the strangest thing of all for the charity stunt Hands Across Amer- Tunes from lywood movie musical handbook. escape to Kitty and Josh’s house where is living in the White House. ica (remember that?) and a mention of You’ll find all of it on Rocketman: they discover that the family has already Plus, the evil Russians subplot the miles of tunnels that exist beneath the screen Music From the Motion Picture been killed by their shadows. frankly hits a bit close to home, the continental US, Us takes us to the (Virgin / Interscope). Additionally, Fortunately, Addy if you know what I mean. Nev- Santa Cruz beach boardwalk amuse- the soundtrack contains the new and her family are ertheless, the 1980s-set se- ment park, where young Addy (Madison song “(I’m Gonna) Love Me Again”, able to do away ries always has good period tunes and the Curry) wanders away from her parents. a duet performed by Elton John and Taron with these less in- various artists Stranger Things 3: Music On the way to the nearby beach, she Egerton. telligent doubles. from the Netflix Original Series (Netflix / encounters a man holding a sign that Like it or not, the jukebox musical is Taking a moment to Legacy) is proof. While it doesn’t have any reads “Jeremiah 11:11”, a prescient here to stay. Far from a new (or inven- regroup, they watch of Kyle Dixon and Michael Stein’s marvel- biblical reference. As a thunderstorm tive) concept (see 1977’s Beatlemania), the news where they ous Tangerine Dream-esque moves in, Addy seeks shelter in the the proliferation of jukebox musicals in the see that what has hap- score, you will Vision Quest attraction. During a 21st century is probably cause for con- pened to them is hap- find brief power outage, Addy comes cern, especially for anyone who loves mu- face-to-face with her double. The pening in other places; sical theatre. Imitations of music legend resulting trauma leads Addy re- that the beings in red Cher are also nothing new. Drag queens fusing to speak and her parents jumpsuits are carrying have been impersonating Cher for eons; taking her to see a therapist. out brutal and terrify- some lip synching, some singing in their In the present day, Addy (Lupita ing attacks, as well as forming a own voices. With a book by gay playwright Nyong’o in an Oscar-worthy performance) hand-holding chain. Rick Elice (Jersey Boys), as well as cos- is a seemingly well-adjusted wife and With the exception of Red, Addy’s tumes by gay fashion designer Bob Mackie mother. With husband Gabe (Winston family has disposed of the ones terroriz- (who received a Tony for his work), The Duke), daughter Zora (Shahadi Wright Jo- ing their family. In a final (and slightly too Cher Show: Original Broadway Cast Re- seph) and sassy son Jason (Evan Alex), long) underground confrontation with Red, cording (Warner Brothers) features three she embarks on a family vacation. Addy featuring a whole bunch of rabbits perhaps actresses, each taking turns recreating is visibly displeased that the trip includes left over from The Favorite, Addy is given Cher’s distinctive voice. The actresses a trip to Santa Cruz beach. Nevertheless, additional insight. This is where Us goes portray various stages of Cher’s lengthy they go. on a kind of philosophical bender about career; Micaela Diamond represents the One of the pleasures of Us is the au- bodies and souls, about tethering, about “Babe” portion, Teal Wicks plays her in the being “born special” and different. Be- 1980s chestnuts thenticity of the family dynamic. Zora and “Lady” segment, and Stephanie J. Block cause Peele is careful to pepper his dia- by “Weird Al” Yankovic (“My Jason tease each other lovingly. They is the “Star”. An additional camp element logue with humor, he narrowly avoids step- Bologna”), Teena Marie (“Lovergirl”), How- roll their eyes when Gabe makes one comes from Tony-nominated stage actress ping over the line into woo-woo territory. ard Jones (“Things Can Only Get Better”) of his corny dad jokes. Addy is a fierce- Emily Skinner in the dual roles of Cher’s Peele also includes the kind of final twist and Wham (“Wake Me Up Before You ly over-protective mother, which we see mother Georgia Holt and TV legend Lucille that would make Brian De Palma jealous. Go-Go”). Wham!’s George Michael isn’t when Jason wanders off at the beach, Ball. t The abundant bonus features included de- the only queer Brit represented here. The where they are visiting with friends Kitty leted scenes and eight featurettes. song “Never Ending Story” (written by (Elisabeth Moss) and Josh (Tim Heideck- Like Peele’s 2017 directorial debut Get Giorgio Moroder and Keith Forsey), and er), and their obnoxious twin daughters Out, the remarkable 2014 Australian hor- covered by cast members Gaten Mataraz- Becca (Cali Sheldon) and Noelle (Lindsey ror film The Babadook took a tired genre zo (Dustin) and Gabriella Pizzolo (Suzie), Sheldon). After Jason returns and is rep- and turned it on its head. Creating terror was originally performed by out singer Li- rimanded, Addy says, “Stick with me, I’ll through suspense instead of ugly violence, mahl. keep you safe.” writer / director Jennifer Kent raised the The Elton John biopic Rocketman Nevertheless, Addy remains unset- bar for other filmmakers working in the opened in theaters less than a year after tled, and tells Gabe she wants to leave. field. Due to a perceived queer subtext the Oscar-winning Queen movie Bohemian She says she doesn’t feel like herself and in the movie, The Babadook received a Rhapsody. While both movies have things then tells him the boardwalk story from her special limited edition (2,500 copies) reis- in common – the queerness of the lead childhood. And then the power goes out. sue in rainbow packaging in time for Pride characters, the UK and period settings, as Suddenly, there appears to be a fam- month, as well as in advance of the inter- well as sharing director Dexter Fletcher – ily, in matching red jumpsuits, standing in national gay holiday Halloween. t there are also considerable differences. the driveway. Addy calls 911. Gabe con- Ratings: Us – A-minus / The Babadook First, actor Taron Egerton who plays Elton fronts them. They advance and break into – A-minus John in Rocketman does his own singing. the house. Once inside, it is revealed that 18 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com @evonmichelleXO Drag Queen

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Fall into the New assist and support our queer teens and Season with their friends ages 14 to 19! Our next Hagerstown meeting is Sunday, September 8th, from 1 to 4 pm. Check out Hopes our Facebook and By Asher Kennedy Twitter as well as The summer days may be winding down, our webpage with but the folks at Hagerstown Hopes are only more details to be announced. September member Asher Kennedy, it will meet at the heating up! Fresh off the heels of another is a busy month for Hagerstown Hopes as Hub on the 1st and 3rd Monday of each successful Hagerstown Pride, we recently it’s election season. We will be holding month from 6 to 8 pm, with the first meet- supported our community to the north as elections for openings on our board of di- ing on September 16th. Our Trans Support a part of Franklin County, Pennsylvania’s rectors. Are you a passionate, driven per- Group and the Spousal Support Group are annual pride celebration on August 4th. son who wants to help helm the amazing ready for the changing seasons as well. and what we have on the horizon can all “Drag Race” star Kalorie Kardashian led work going on at Hopes? Do you have a Both groups will begin collecting winter be found within its pages the festivities with help from Hagerstown drive to help our local LGBTQ community? coats and toiletries for our transgender As the days start to end earlier and we Hope’s own Queen of Pride, Miss Chasity Do you want to be a part of the positive and non-binary folks in need. The details begin to head back into our fall routine, Vain, as well as many of the area’s many change in Western Maryland? If the an- for both the coat and toiletries drive as we at Hagerstown Hopes are excited to talented drag superstars. It was a perfect swer to all three questions is a “yes,” then well as our next meetings for each group be part of the positive upswing happening way to wind down Pride season with a fam- be on the lookout for the link to apply on will be available on our website and so- within Washington County and western ily-friendly event that truly allows Hopes our Facebook page and website. cial media closer to the beginning of the Maryland as a whole. If you have never to bridge new relationships with our sur- September is also going to be the inau- month. come to an event before, there’s no better rounding communities. gural meeting for the new Parent Support If you’re looking for a fun way to get to time than now! t With the area’s pride festivities wrap- Group. This is a group designed to allow know some of us more and see for your- ping up, we are quickly transitioning into parents a safe, bias-free environment to self what we are up our fall activities. With back to school sea- learn, grow, and support each other. Led to for the fall and son upon us, our youth group is ready to by Trans Group co-organizer and board- beyond, our next Night Out will be on Thursday, August 22nd from 5 to 9 pm at Benny’s Pub (on Eastern Boule- vard, Hagerstown), where 10% of proceeds go directly to putting on more events for everyone. And mark your cal- endars now, because The Keystone Gay Rodeo Association is a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt our next Drag Bingo is already scheduled non-pro t organization whose purpose is to promote the for November 10th. In country and western lifestyle and rodeo type events within partnership with For Otis Sake Dog Res- the LGBT community and their allies. cue, we are bringing Do you enjoy any of the following activities? you a Country Hoe- down, just in time for •Social Events including country music and dancing. everyone to don their •Meeting new people and making new friends. fanciest Western wear •Helping other community organizations by volunteering and and boots and come out to have a great time raising much needed funds. that supports two great •Trail riding, open horse shows, causes. As always, the best way to stay up to rodeos and other horse related events. date with everything going on with Hagerstown Hopes is to sign up to If so, then KSGRA membership may receive our newsletter. be for you. To join visit our website Everything going on with at ksgra.org the board, to each of our committees and groups, 20 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD august 16, 2019 • baltimoreoutloud.com out in the valley

are required to be labelled as non-gen- Calling All Wannabe dered, and there are similar bills and ordi- nances in progress around the rest of the Asher’s state. Even where single-stall bathrooms Cowboys & Cowgirls World are not available, students are able to use by Adam Romanik Rodeo School ley County Park (9777 Asher Kennedy the bathroom that affirms their gender. In So what’s a rodeo school? A rodeo Crest Road, Glen Rock, addition, students in Maryland who wish to school is an event dedicated to teach- & Trail Ride Pennsylvania). On Sat- participate in interscholastic athletics are ing newbies how to perform the events urday, September 14th, Pencils, Paper, able to do so as the gender they identify in a gay rodeo. At a gay rodeo, you’ll Weekend – the rodeo school will as, and not just the one on their legal iden- find traditional rodeo events like bar- start at 11:30 am. Cost Backpacks, tification. Students in Maryland also have rel racing, bull riding, and calf rop- September for the event is $15 per the right to be identified as their preferred ing. Gay rodeos also add in some fun 14th-15th event or $60 to try them ... name with correct pronouns by their teach- crowd-pleasing camp events that even all. Each contestant will and ers and administration. To know that stu- those who don’t know how to ride a get three tries at each As the August nights begin to chill it means dents sitting in the exact classrooms I oc- horse or have never been around livestock event to perfect their skill. On Sunday, that back-to-school sea- cupied are now filled with students can do. The three added camp events that September 15th, there will be a trail ride son is upon us. You can- who are able to at least be who they you’ll find at a gay rodeo are goat dress- through the park. The trail ride is $15 per not escape the displays, ... Liberties know themselves to be is why I do ing (a team relay race to put underwear on person for KSGRA members and $20 per school lists and giant what I do. a goat), steer decorating (a team event to person for non-KSGRA members which in- adverts of pencils and for queer However, just because the legal get a 400-to-500 pound steer under con- cludes lunch. For those that do not have apples that have popped protections are stronger in Maryland trol and tie a ribbon around its tail), and their own horse, horses are available for up in stores and online. students than other places, does not mean the wild drag race (a three person team rent at $20 per horse. For those that want Even if you’re decades removed from your we can rest, or even pat ourselves on the event to get a 400-to-500 pound steer un- to come for both days, camping is avail- own schooling, it is impossible to wade back. Students in surrounding states of der control and get a drag queen up on its able for free and for those that might want through the latter half of August and not re- Pennsylvania, West Virginia, and Virginia back and across the finish line). All three to just come watch the fun admission is member the smell of new school supplies have no legal protections for their affirma- of these events will be offered at the ro- free as well. Food will be available for pur- and shoes. Picking out the best outfit and tions of self. The majority of states still do deo school along with barrel racing, pole chase. Come and spend a fun weekend packing your new backpack to the brim, not offer any legal protections and rights for bending, flag race, and chute dogging. For with KSGRA and the critters. and anxiously awaiting seeing your friends queer students. Queer students still face those that want to try their hand at any of Be sure to mark your calendar and while wondering which teachers live up to bullying and discrimination at highly dis- the speed events (barrel racing, pole bend- save the date for our third Annual Key- their reputations. Young me usually spent proportionate levels. Nine out of ten queer ing, and flag race), horses will be available stone State Gay Rodeo, October 12th. the night before the first day back tossing students said they face bullying form their for you to try with. For more info or to sign-up for the ro- t and turning until my alarm went off in the peers. Kids can be cruel. I remember what The Keystone State Gay Rodeo Asso- deo school or trail ride, visit Ksgra.org. morning. it was like to be out and proud in school, ciation (KSGRA) will be holding a rodeo In elementary school the energy was and it painted a target on my back. Instead school and trail ride weekend at Spring Val- excitement, eagerness to see of them actual- which of my friends ly needing to find would be in my something about class for the year. me, the individual, A Hidden Pleasure in Frederick By middle school I was just ridiculed it had turned to for my sexuality, By Gary Schwartz sheer dread, puber- and if kids are be- There’s a delicious little cupcake shop in historic downtown Frederick City called ty brought with it a ing made to feel Angelcakes and Cupcakes on East Church Street (along Shab Row) that serves whole mess of com- unwelcome and the best cupcakes ever and made from all natural ingredients and “never from any plications my ba- unsafe in schools, industrial mixes!” What makes this delightful shop so by-trans brain could their academics unique, is head baker Jolynn Wright. You can walk into not process. While suffer and their her shop and see her baking her little heart out, and my peers were ea- self-esteem. sometimes singing a show tune or a classic oldie. At gerly growing up, I Until every times, she’ll post on their Facebook page, come in and felt that middle and student in this sing … and get a free cupcake. But what has prompted high school me was country is able to have the me to share all of this with you is that she is one baker spent living behind a screen door. While same protections as their Maryland peers, who will never discriminate. She related to me that she my peers could see me, they could never we are failing our children. Growing up had a couple order a wedding cake from her because see the real me, because he was hidden queer was a dozen mixed bags of negativ- another bakery had refused them because “they were beneath an ill-fitting girl suit. With all of the ity until the last few years, and we owe it gay.” “I wasn’t aware that this practice went on and it’s information available to kids these days, to our youth and the youth we used to be terrible,” Jolynn stated. “I want people to know this. I they are able to articulate who they are to make sure that school is safe, affirming want the LGBT community to know that they are safe as individuals in a way I could never have and accessible to all of our students. Not in my shop and I am happy to make anything for them,” Jolynn added. And you dreamed of a mere 20 years ago. only are our kids the future of our planet should check out their Facebook page at the amazing cakes for any occasions that As a forever-Marylander, I am glad that as a whole, but they represent the future of Angelcakes has made and sculpted. Currently she is looking to get a rainbow stick- Maryland Public Schools are leaps and our own vibrantly diverse community, and er and flag for her shop to proudly display to show her support for our community! bounds above the national average. With- we owe it to ensure our rainbow shines Huzzah for Angelcakes and Cupcakes and Jolynn. t in Baltimore City, all single-stall restrooms brighter than the day before. t

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privilege the law has to offer. Marriage does couple would effectively be disinherited. spouse is also deceased, it can be essential confer many essential rights – more than a But the benefits of marriage extend only so that they will name a responsible person to thousand, by one count. But there are sev- far. The responsible approach is to visit a take on this role. Otherwise, this important eral legal protections a marriage license lawyer from the LGBTQ community to have job may fall to a family member who might The Law simply does not provide. As a consequence, wills drawn up that leave everything to the not have your best interests at heart. & You couples who have tied the knot should take survivor in case something should happen One right that marriage does confer Lee Carpenter additional steps to ensure that they are pre- to either spouse. is the right to make medical decisions on pared for the uncertainties of life, including Wills can also provide for any children behalf of your spouse. Just as important, the death or disability of a spouse. when both spouses are deceased. Placing however, is the right to make financial de- Whether they are gay or straight, most a child’s inheritance into a trust will help to cisions, which can be granted only under Why the Legal couples assume that if one of them died, a power of attorney. The attorney who pre- the surviving spouse would inherit every- “But there are several pares your will can also draw us these im- Benefits of thing left behind – the car, the house, the legal protections a portant documents. bank accounts, and any jewelry, furniture, For those of us in the LGBTQ commu- Marriagee Aren’t or other personal property. This assumption marriage license nity, the right to marriage was hard-won. would be wrong. simply does not We lobbied our representatives, donated to Enough The simple fact is that the surviving advocacy groups, and marched in parades. spouse is entitled to only part of a deceased provide.” If you and your partner are ready to tie the The English author John Lyly once said, spouse’s estate. Depending on certain fac- knot, make sure you finish the job by having “Marriages are made in heaven and con- tors, such as whether the couple has chil- ensure that it goes toward worthwhile pur- an estate plan prepared to help you navi- summated on Earth.” Indeed, marriage has dren, this share could be roughly one-half poses, such as college, medical care, or gate the uncertainties of life. t long been a two-sided coin. On the one side to one-third of the estate. The rest of the maybe the down payment on a house. A will Lee Carpenter is an attorney at the law are the social and emotional aspects of the estate would go to the couple’s children or can also name guardians to look after any firm of Saul Ewing Arnstein & Lehr and institution, the “joy and wonder” of marriage. possibly the deceased spouse’s family. Ei- children who may be under the age of 18 an adjunct professor at the University of On the other are the legal implications, the ther way, the outcome will probably differ when both spouses are gone. Maryland Carey School of Law. He can be rights and privileges the law grants to mar- dramatically from what the couple would Whether you have children or not, hav- reached at 410-332-8626 or lee.carpen- ried couples. have expected. ing a will prepared ensures that someone [email protected]. Learn more about LGBT es- After exchanging wedding bands, many Being married does go a long way to- you trust will settle your estate. Most cou- tate planning at Mdlgbtestateplanning.com. couples assume that they have cemented ward protecting the survivor if one spouse ples name each other as their “person- This article is intended to provide general their relationship with every benefit and dies. The surviving partner of an unmarried al representative.” If, however, the other information, not legal advice.

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Does Chris Nagle Expect John der my saltwater soaked dog in the back seat, eventually corroding the fabric. Waters to Love Ptown’s How involved do you get with the design process for certain Outermost prod- Outermost Designs? ucts? Are those original tees soft enough By Kevin Assam for bear daddies to hibernate in? Chris Nagle has a keen eye for design. He – how it sounds, describes the land and sea- I work with any of the vendors open to still remembers the lone wildflower atop the scape, and describes the feeling of standing creating custom products: ceramic trays, dining table shared with his partner on their at the water’s edge on our outer beaches. It nautical hardware, leather work, tote bags, first date and his father’s painting, carpentry, speaks of the people: the curious, the char- concrete work, Outermost chair colors, and and sculpting work that set the creative path acters, the artists. As for breaking something finishes. Plus, I go junking for all of the vin- for Chris to explore. This pursuit ultimately in the store, I would abandon all sense of tage pieces. As for the artwork, I don’t allow led to his teaming up with Adam Slone in peace and love and restrict your shopping much in the door that doesn’t fit a certain col- 2019 to launch Provincetown’s Outermost to the few blocks in the very center of town, or palette. No red. No gloss. Nothing bright. – a collection of art and furnishings that is what we call “Taffy Alley.” There you can Can’t stomach it. As for the tees, there are chic but not cliché. Let’s find out why John break all you want. plenty soft and XL for our beloved bears. Waters may not be shopping there anytime What were the designs that featured I’ve been admiring a new business soon. throughout your first date with your part- owner from afar who never has the time Kevin Assam: What sort of queer ner? to get together between work. What neighborhood where you confined to The visual elements I remember most would be a great not overkill item to gift growing up and who in the family first include the tiny lone delicate wildflower on him from Outermost that communicates own candles burning. Give him a wrapped identified your colorful spirit? the restaurant table, the stroll through the my interest to him? pair to take home for when he has the time Chris Nagle: I lived in a small New architecturally gorgeous historic center of I suggest a pair of our custom color ta- to cook you dinner. Then, when you go to his Hampshire town for many of my forma- Concord, Massachusetts, and sucking face pered beeswax candles. It says “Slow down house, bring him a pair of our vintage candle tive years. It was very small in its thinking. in the most beautifully designed vehicle – and let’s get back to the basics,” but also holders. If he’s that busy, he likely doesn’t If by “confined” you mean the imprisoned my vintage Toyota Land Cruiser. “Have me to dinner.” It says this loud and have any. Everyone needs a few pairs of What are the Outermost rules of en- clear. If he doesn’t make the next move, good candleholders. The lack of them is a t “My parents had a gagement for contemporary dating when move on. problem in many households. butterfly chair in our there is a sizable age gap? You can alternatively purchase two pairs. Find out more at OutermostHome.com Tough one. Make sure that [in consid- Invite the busy boy to dinner and have your A-frame house and I ering] the age difference that the math is secondary to the connection. The energy was completely aroused between you has to be above the numbers. by its shape.” Don’t use the age difference to be something you’re not. Be your age. And above all else, sense, then there you have it: small-town dress your age. New Hampshire. Thank God there were sec- Outermost’s fancy kitchen and dining ond-home owners from cultured areas who ware are as queer as a 69-degree angle. knew the world was round. My godmother Have you forsaken both straight lines first identified my colorful spirit. My parents and straight people with your whimsical Get ready! It’s the most unique, furtastical event of the year -- were too busy raising four kids all within five plates, bowls, and goblets fit for a dinner years of each other. Three are gay. There is with John Waters? DOGFEST WALK & FESTIVAL! a lot of color in this family. A whole F-ing rain- Queer, but not whimsical queer. More Pet lovers, pet owners, kids, and pets – this is THE day for you. bow under one roof. Greek or Roman queer – ancient, simple, What was your first queer experience strong shapes. Smooth. Natural. Architectur- It’s a dog day extravaganza lled with tons of activities for with a home furnishing and did you im- al. In an early concept exercise, I was asked both humans and dogs. You don’t need a dog to love DogFest. mediately journal about it? what Outermost was not. I said not whimsi- My parents had a butterfly chair in our cal, not fleeting, not playful, nor glossy. John Saturday, September 21st , 10 a.m.-4 p.m. A-frame house and I was completely aroused Waters would yawn or doze off if dinner were by its shape. It was rather unisex, but much served on my things and that’s what I was Baltimore Humane Society, 1601 Nicodemus Rd. sexier with men in bellbottoms sitting in it. after. Stylish straight women are loving this. Reisterstown, MD 21136 And no, I didn’t journal about it. I kept all my If together with gay men they are buying, early queer furnishings experiences to my- you’ve done good. $10 & Kids under 12 free when purchased online; $15 at the door & self, unrecorded. How have you put your own spin on $10/kids 6-12; Kids age 5 and Under and Dogs ALWAYS FREE How did you decide on the name “Out- the classic sweater or pullover look in Free Parking ermost” and how much trouble would I be Provincetown? in if I broke something at the store? Only own two of top quality that were For tickets, walk registration, and more: “Outermost” came from the title of the bought second hand. Wear them until they http://dogfest.org 1928 book from naturalist Henry Beston, fall apart. Never tie it over your shoulders. The Outermost House. He spent one full Do they fall apart in the hands of a [email protected] year, including winter, in a 150-square-foot lover or some contraption used to design Tel: 410-833-8848 ext. 202 cottage called The Fo’c’sle, on the Great Outermost products? Outer Beach. I have since loved that word They fall apart after getting creased un-

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Take it from an old leather titleholder, el. (An actor / model in New York – what Something I didn’t have to worry about having a leather title is lots of work. On are the odds?) Unfortunately, he had no in 2001 was social media. Just as you the bright side, it gives you memories that background or knowledge about the leath- should learn as much about your judges Nyet! last a lifetime. A leather title also presents er community. He looked good on stage as possible before the interview (Google you with a wonderful opportunity to not and spoke well, but he was not selected them!), don’t be surprised if they know who Leather only serve your community for one year, Mr. Eagle NYC. The interview cost him. you are as well. When is the last time you Line but if you keep at it, to make your title last When planning a vacation, it’s always Googled yourself? (I do it all the time when Rodney Burger many years. I’m still working my Maryland a good idea to know where you are go- Sir Steve is away for the winter – but that’s Mr. Drummer 2001 title and I don’t plan to ing. If you are running for a leather title another story.) What does your Facebook stop anytime soon! you should have some sort of idea where page show about you? Does it show that A leather title is about serving the com- you would like to take that title. Is there you are involved and working in the com- Time to munity. It is not about making you more a charity in your community that famous, getting you more dates, or adding you feel could use some Start Running! many more Facebook followers. (Although support? Have you ex- that will happen, too.) So, if you are think- perienced an issue and The year is now half over, and it will very ing about running for a leather title, the want to share your journey soon be time to select some of our ar- first thing you should do is get involved in order to help others? ea’s 2020 leather titleholders. Who will with your local leather community. Join Is there a problem in the be Mid-Atlantic Leather Woman 2020 or a leather club or offer to help at a club’s community that needs cor- Mid-Atlantic Leather Woman Bootblack fundraiser. Attend as many leather events recting? Think about what 2020? Who will be sashed Mr. Maryland in your area as you can. Meet the current your platform would be if Leather 2020, Mr. Virginia Leather 2020, titleholders, leather club members, and lo- you were presented with a Mr. & Ms. DC Eagle 2020, Mr. & Ms. Phil- cal leather community leaders. I’m always leather title. This will also adelphia Leather 2020, Mr. Pittsburgh amazed when I attend a local leather con- come up at the interview Leather Fetish 2020, or Mr. Mid-Atlantic test and a contestant is introduced with: and in conversation with Leather 2020? “Contestant number two is Sam. Sam has the judges. “I just want to been involved in do it for me” is not a win- the local leather ning platform. community for Don’t be The Lone five years….” Re- Ranger. It is always clear ally? How come when a contestant bravely no one has ever hits that stage and never seen him or met asked anyone for help. We him? A leather all like to think I can do this titleholder rep- myself. I don’t need any- resents his or her one. Yes, you can but with a community. Step community filled with leath- one should be er titleholders who would become a part of be happy to help you, why your local leath- wouldn’t you ask? If I fell er community. and broke my arm, I could I’ve judged many try to fix it myself – but why contests and would I? I’m going to an ex- for me the most pert. Seek out as much ad- Mr. Mid-Atlantic important part vice as you can. You don’t muni- Leather 2019 and of the contest have to do everything that everyone tells ty? Does it show a the runners-up is the interview you to do, but it doesn’t hurt to listen to the strong, resourceful with the judges. voice of experience. person who would The contestant When running for a leather title the first make a good leader? Or does it show a who has not item that contestants worry about is cloth- chronic complainer who trashes others done anything ing choices. What do I wear? If this is your and has nothing but negative things to say. in the commu- only concern than perhaps you should sit Believe me the contest starts as soon as nity and has no this one out. Yes, you will be judged on ap- you put in your application. knowledge of pearance, but the person who looks flaw- Our area’s leather contest season will the communi- less does not always win. Support your lo- soon be here. Go ahead and take that first ty is not going cal bootblacks. Your leather does not have step and enter a leather contest. Even if to win. When I to be new, but make sure everything looks you are not selected you will meet lots judged Mr. Ea- good and fits well. It is your time to shine, of people and learn so much. I’ve heard gle NYC there make sure your boots do too! One can many people say that they didn’t enter be- was a contes- never go wrong with classic black leath- cause they were not ready. Why wouldn’t tant who was er. Those chaps with the flames down the you be ready to have the best year of your absolutely gor- side may be loved by one judge and hated life? It is time to start running! t 2019 geous. He was by another. There can be a fine line be- titleholders an actor / mod- tween creative and catastrophe.

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