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Harvest Supper Ambassador Ayalon to speak Oct. 22 Enjoyed by CONNECTICUT Hungry Crowd COLLEGE AT 5:30 Iran Deal; sity, and the Lantos Human • the tumult in the Middle Rights and Justice Foundation Challenges & Opportunities East and the breakup of the in Washington, DC. Facing Western Arab countries; He is a visiting professor Democracies and Israel’s • the consequences of the at Yeshiva University teaching Role in a Rapidly internal conflict of Islam; a course on Israeli statecraft. Changing World • the short and long-term Prior to this, Danny served as goals of the Islamic terrorists; a Member of Knesset (Israeli and - Parliament) and was Deputy The entire community is • Israel’s unique position Minister of Foreign Affairs of invited to hear Ambassador in thwarting the Islamist ex the State of Israel, from 2009 to Danny Ayalon on Thurs., Oct- pansion and its importance to 2013, and Israel’s Ambassador A gathering of around 81 people showed up Wednesday evening, 22 at 5:30 p.m. in the theater American interests to the United States from 2002 Sept. 30 at Temple Emanu-El to enjoy an internationally themed of the Olin Science Center, Con Ambassador Danny Ayalon to November 2006. buffet supper. Many from the community brought their favorite veg- necticut College.Challenges and Op- is the President of Hod Ayalon- Ambassador Ayalon holds an etarian dish and restaurants from southeastern CT donated their portunitiesAmbassador Facing Ayalon’s Western talk is Ltd, a private consulting firm MBA from Bowling Green State favorite ethnic dish. A new feature this year was a local wine and Democraciesentitled and Israel’s for governments and interna University in Ohio, USA, and is a beer tasting of wines from Stonington Vineyards and beer from Role in a Rapidly Changing tional corporations. He is also- graduate of Tel Aviv University Cotrell Brewers that was donated by Gordon’s Yellow Front Wines World. the Founder of “The Truth with a BA in Economics and & Liquors. The cheeses came from Cato and Beltane Farms. This About Israel”, a non-profit cor Labor Studies. event was sponsored by the JFEC and chaired by Cecile Feldman, Major points that he poration to train and educate He was a Captain in the IDF Ann Meitzen, and Harriet Juli. See page 9 for additional photos. will cover include: the public about the facts of- Armored Corps. He married • an analysis of the geo- Israel. He joined the Board of Anne in 1980 and together they Busy beginnings for emissariespolitical changes following the Governors of Tel Aviv Univer have two daughters. By Amit Horovitz & Sagi Zazon 2015-16 Young Emissaries - Sagi went to Temple Emanu El, where he- had the honor of reading the prayer for Israel Hi Everyone! Our first month in the commu- in Hebrew, with our Coordinator, Marcia Re nity is over (can you believe it?) and so is the inhard, who read it in English. Sagi also began- holiday season. During this very special and sig- Yom Kippur at Congregation Beth-El and then nificant time of year, we were part of a month- Temple Emanu-El when he attended Kol Ni full of activities and amazing experiences! Be drei services, one after the other. Sagi ended tween getting to know your wonderful commu his observance of Yom Kippur by attending the nity and so many of you personally, starting our Ne’ilah service at Beth-El with members of his jobs in the different synagogues and schools- host family. - (and learning the difference between Religious- Amit spent her Yom Kippur with her host school, day school and Hebrew school), and ad family away from the community, with extend justing to the weather, we managed to be pres ed family in New Haven (but missed you all). ent in many different events where we were Once Yom Kippur was over, we immediately Encountering Survivors begins 2015-16 season exposed to the holiday environment and able began preparing for Sukkot, and did our first Students from Fitch, Lyme-Old Lyme, Waterford, and Ledyard High to share our Israeli holiday experiences as well. activity for the holiday at Temple Emanu El Schools begin their year as participants in the Encountering Survi- Looking back, it is hard to believe that all of this- Religious School where we taught some Israeli vors program sponsored by the Jewish Federation’s Strochlitz Ho- happened in the course of only one month! Let’s dances. The students (and teachers) were very locaust Resource Center (SHRC) with an orientation and lunch at look back at some of what we did for the holi fast learners and managed to learn the dances Ledyard High School on Tues., Oct 6 . Their first activity was a jour- days… ready? and mastered them in less than 20 minutes! nal entry after watching a video from the U.S. Holocaust Memorial We started the holidays with a Slichot service (Good job guys!). - Museum. Nickie Padilla SHRC coordinator and Jerry Fischer, JFEC at Beth Jacob. After doing Havdalah, introducing After we danced (and with a few hours off) Executive Director were program presenters. ourselves and listening to an interesting speech we continued to Beth-El and joined the con- about “Understanding Kol Nidrei” we joined the gregation in the Sukkah decoration activity lovely Slichot service in which we apologized with the PJ library Play Group. We sang an Is- Before heading south give us a call! for our sins to get ready for the New Year. Then- raeli Sukkot song, made decorations and hung Rosh Hashanah arrived, and we each celebrated- them in the Sukkah. We left Beth-El before din Readers, for those of you who depart for a warmer climate it in a different synagogue. Amit went to Aha ner in order to join the BBYO event where they as temperatures cool here in eastern CT, please call or email vath Achim in Colchester with her host fam were helping to decorate the sukkah at Temple with your winter address so we can make sure you continue ily and following the service, had the chance to Emanu-El, and joined their potluck supper and to receive your Jewish Leader while you are away. We can share something from her community. Together, service. We missed the Sukkah decorating but be reached at 860-442-8062 or [email protected]. Ask before Tashlich, we all launched white balloons got there in time for the potluck supper. While for Mimi or Jeannine. We appreciate your cooperation. EMISSARIES CONT. ON PG 16 into the air in a wish for a good and peaceful year. 2 THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 The Marriage of Opposites Mention & Menschen (or maybe Safekeeping by Jessamyn Hope...lots Hoffman’sof Jewish-related latest, books out there currently!) NADINE LIPMAN Also on my TBR (to be read) list and loaded on [email protected] my poor Kindle are The Debt of Tamar (Nicole Dweck) Uncovered: How I Left Hasidic Life I know you have all been busy with the holi- and Finally Came Home (Leah Lax), and Da- days, so I am giving you a pass for this issue vid Gregory’s How’s Your Faith?: An Unlikely only. Please share your nachas and simchas... Spiritual Journey. (His father is Jewish, though judging from what I have been seeing on Face- his mother is not). book lately there have been several!!! Didja know that according to the Jewish cal- lot of press lately (including a mention in Better endar, this past Yom Kippur was the 50th anni- HomesI had and just Gardens!) finished Runreading You aDown book is getting the sec a- ond book by Julia Dahl in her Rebekah Roberts versary of Sandy Koufax refusing to pitch the series. If you can, I would suggest reading the the Minnesota Twins? I remember how proud Invisible City, as it firstAmerican game Jews of thewere 1965 of him World proclaiming Series against to the makes things so much clearer and easier to un- world that he was Jewish, but what didn’t oc- firstderstand book in in the the second series first,book.. Emanu-El Sukkot program cur to me at that time, being such a young age(!) One book I had mentioned several months As part of Temple Emanu-El Religious School’s (TERS) Sukkot was that this was only twenty years after the ago was a cozy mystery Mrs. Kaplan and the - Holocaust and that many Americans were still Matzoh Ball of Death: A Mrs. Kaplan Mystery ence between the lemon and the etrog. He also showed the kids how by Mark Reutlinger; well, in November, the next celebration on Sunday, Sept. 27, Rabbi Saulson explained the differ went on to lose the second game, but win the one is coming out A Pain in the Tuchis: A Mrs. part of their special snack that day, along with granola bars instead subject to discrimination and quotas. Koufax Kaplan Mystery. If you like something light and theto squeeze usual bagel lemon with slices. cream Later cheese on this to celebrate was made the into harvest lemonade and Suk and- with a complete game shut-out. When Dodger cute, or need something to read between a cou- kot holiday. fifthmanager and then Walter the Alstonseventh made on just his two way days’ to rest the ple of heavy stories, this is for you. And I’m sure TERS students rotated between special Sukkot themed activities mound to take Don Drysdale, the other Dodger those of you who read Daniel Silva have caught which included a discussion on values in action with Rabbi Scott pitching ace out of the game, the pitcher handed up with The English Spy Saulson, Israeli dancing with our Young Emissaries Sagi and Amit, him the ball, smiled and said, “I bet right now Gabriel Allon series. making sukkah decorations with Mrs. Goldsmith and singing spe- you wish I was Jewish, too.” (As an aside, I re- Another really good book the fifteenthat came book out in hisre- cial Sukkot songs with Mrs. Barnes. After a healthy harvest snack, member speaking to Beth El’s Rabbi as we left cently is by Jennifer Weiner, Who Do You Love. the students worked together as teams by grade to perform skits on after Succot services and the Dodgers were - stage and were joined by parents to decorate the Temple’s sukkah. down two games, saying something like “please ent subject matter that is relevant to what is pray for the Dodgers” and the Rabbi responded, currentlyShe always happening manages around to come us. up with differ Candle Lighting for Eastern CT area “At this point, they need more than prayers!!!” And do you know what the hottest books for adults are right now??? Coloring books, believe Friday, Oct. 9 • 5:58 pm The other day, when I went to use my Kindle, it wouldn’t turn on. OY, what to do while it is be- it or not, and a Jewish one is being published Friday, Oct. 16 • 5:47 pm ing repaired???? Go to my bookshelf and grab a in November. Methinks the Congregation Beth Friday, Oct. 23 • 5:37 pm book from it, of course!!! I chose Triangle, by El Gift Shop ChanuKopiah and Jewish Book Katharine Weber, something I had purchased Fair on November 8 is planning to have several Friday, Oct. 30 • 5:27 pm several years ago at a library conference after copies available. seeing the author. I have been interested in the Since this is about books, I found an article Triangle Shirtwaist Fire for a long time, and my in the Jewish Review of Books about Bambi’s - Jewish roots. Yes, THAT Bambi, from the book written by Felix Salten. Salten was a Zionist and man’s The Museum of Extraordinary Things interestpublished was last once year. again In fact,whetted coincidentally, by Alice Hoff the MENTION CONT. ON PAGE 14 National Award Winner of the Council of Jewish of Jewish Federations as the Outstanding book I was prepared to start on my Kindle was Small Cities Jewish newspaper. Published every other Friday for the dissemination of Jew- ish news and views by the Jewish Federation of Eastern Connecticut, 28 Channing Street, New London, CT 06320, 860-442-8062. Managing Editor...... Mimi Perl Layout Editor...... Forrest Sklar Social Editor...... Nadine Lipman President ...... Romana Strochlitz Primus Executive Director...... Jerome Fischer Mailing Volunteers...... Ruth & Henry Dunkerley, Jr, Mimi & Milt Seed, Irving Siegel, Marty Yavener Advertising: Call Mimi Perl 860-442-7395 or [email protected]. Advertising Deadline: Wednesday, October 14 for October 23 issue. Editorial Content: Preferred receipt of editorial material is via email to mimiperl@ gmail.com. Photo(s) submitted via email should be separate attachment(s) from article. Preferred photo format is a .jpg format; resolution should be a minimum of 200 dpi. Material sent via fax [860-443-4175] or first class mail [28 Channing St., New London, CT 06320] should be typed/double spaced or neatly printed. If you submit a hard copy of a photo and wish the photo returned, include a stamped, self- addressed envelope. Editorial Deadline: Friday, October 16 for October 23 issue. Printing: Chronicle Printing Co., 1 Chronicle Rd., Willimantic, CT 06226 Postmaster: Send address changes to Jewish Leader, 28 Channing St., New 567 Colman Street • New London, CT • 860-442-4575 • www.ez2party.com London, CT 06320 Monday through Friday 8:30 a m to 5:30 p m • Saturday 8:30 a m - 5:00 p m THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 3 Kids enjoy PJ Library Group Sukkot event By Laura Frommer, PJ Library Coordinator

PJ Library Play Group with a SukkotWe had theme. a wonderful Seventeen first children participated. First, the children listened to the PJ Library story, “Sadie’s Sukkah Breakfast” by Jamie Korngold. After the story, our emissaries taught the children some Israeli songs for Sukkot. The children made beautiful fall crafts of owls, acorns, leaves, and Indian corn. We decorated the Suk- kah and enjoyed delicious pizza in the Sukkah. Thank you to Jennifer Zettler, Rabbi Safman, Daniel Rob- inson, Israeli Emissaries - Amit and Sagi, and Beth El Cantorial Intern Jennifer Rolnick for your help with this fun program. Thank you to the Jewish Federation of Eastern Con- necticut for sponsoring the PJ Library program in our community and to Congre- gation Beth El for providing the delicious kosher pizza and drink for this event. Hadassah coffee klatch examines Iran deal By Sheila Horvitz any material to build a nuclear weapon in the possibilities of the deal opening up Iran, en- On September 17, at Ahavath Achim Synagogue Library in future. couraging the more moderate elements in Ira- - Inspections of military sites are limited and nian society, eventually leading to changes in bate and discussion on the pros and cons of the Iran deal. Iran will continue to shield its military secrets their leadership. Some people commented that Colchester,Attorney the Mark Hadassah Rosenblit Coffee of West Klatch Hartford presented spoke aagainst spirited the de from the world. The approval process for in- deal and Jerry Fischer of the Jewish Federation of Eastern Con- spection of suspected sites could last up to 24 complies with the deal, before we know it, we necticut spoke in favor. And then listeners weighed in with their days and is like a shell game. 15will years be right is a back flash facing of time Iran - and as athat nuclear even powerif Iran Ending the economic sanctions that have and will have gained nothing by this deal. An- Attorney Rosenblit talked about his objections to the deal. Es- been working to cripple Iran’s economy and re- other participant, Ted Gordon, a futurist, told questionssentially, Iran and is observations. a terrorist nation, will cheat - and this deal just leasing about 100 billion dollars, will give Iran the group that in the world’s history, 15 years rewards them and legitimizes their development of a nuclear more funds to arm Hezbollah, Hamas and the is a very long time - and that we can count on weapon. At any time, Iran could pull away from the deal and be- Assad regime in Syria. And once foreign com- enormous changes in technology, weaponry, gin scaling up its work to achieve nuclear weapons breakout ca- diplomacy and national alliances and interests pability. Iran will retain 300kg of enriched uranium to be used for Iran it will be harder to get sanctions “snapped in the next 15 years. Think about the enormous research purposes, but this is not the same as fully eliminating paniesback” into are place. invested in or making money off of changes to our lives and technology that we Iran’s stockpile of enriched uranium, thus leaving Iran without In representing the pro deal position, Jerry have faced in the last 15 years. Fischer highlighted Israel’s strong self-defense Jerry Fischer also expressed his disappoint- capabilities and the fact that Israel is itself a ment in the fracturing of the Jewish community super nuclear power. At the very least, this deal in its response to the Iran deal. He lamented the has a better chance of working than what we’ve unfortunate comments opponents are making been doing and the opponents have presented against each other. As of the date of the Klatch, no viable alternatives - other than war. The September 17, the deal is a practical reality. Its deal keeps Iran from developing and deploy- implementation and the continued strong bond ing nuclear weapons for 15 years and lowers between the U.S and Israel and its security in- terests are crucial elements for the future. U.S. and Iran and Iran’s existing stockpiles of The Klatch concluded on a positive note. theenriched chances uranium of a military will be conflict cut by 96between per cent. the Marcia Reinhard expressed the wish that the While Jerry acknowledged that the inspections American Jewish community come together regime could have been better, we will still have in the interests of Israel’s security and that we much more information about what Iran is up acknowledge and respect that we are all in this to - with the deal - than without it. - Jerry led the group in a discussion about the rael’s security and future. together and that we all care equally about Is 4 THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 Rabbi leads Rosh Hashanah services for non-Jews! By Rabbi Aaron Rosenberg, special to the Leader The three of us indulged in a sumptuous of Challah, going out on the deck, and we cast As a newly retired rabbi I was to make myself scarce from Oneg Chag that consisted of 2 bottles of Baron our sins symbolically over the rail into the In- my pulpit of the last 35 years, at least for initial High Holidays. Herzog wine, 30 apples, honey, 4 challot curi- ner Passage. Later, I noticed the sign forbidding Therefore, I signed up to be a cruise rabbi for Rosh Hashanah on a ship going to Alaska, a place on Karen’s and mine bucket list. 5776. We were welcomed onto Holland America’s Oosterdam in Van- ouslybowl ofshaped dates. like Our wreaths, new friend 12 piecespromised of gefilta to be throwingThe cruise things was overboard. amazing. Ah,We myloved first taking sin of a fishat the with morning carrot service wedges and in the them, upcoming and a Shab large- helicopter to the top of Mendenhall Glacier near We made arrangements for the Rosh Hashanah evening ser- bat service, mentioning that she would encour- Juneau, riding the White Pass Railroad on the vicecouver to bytake the place friendly that and night efficient in the Event Stuyvesant Manager. Room, which is age the Jewish woman and her daughter in her scenic trail used by Yukon gold miners over a ironic considering that Peter Stuyvesant in 1654, attempted to group to come along. century ago, and of course, the super delicious evict 23 Jews from New Amsterdam, until he was overruled by The following morning, although our Savan- salmon. Our Savannah fellow guest returned for the Dutch West India Company, which had Jewish stockhold- nah friend was unable to wake up her Jewish the Shabbat service, thanking us for the unex- ers. The Event Manager suggested we set up for 50 seats, which travel mates who had stayed up late the night pected treat of a taste of Judaism. I expressed my seemed optimistic considering Rabbi Carl Astor told me he had 8 before, our attendance doubled. Yes, we now gratitude to her for being my best congregant. in attendance when he led Rosh Hashanah services on the same had two devout Christians at our service. Still I realized that my presence on the cruise was ship during his Sabbatical. And that included himself, his mother no members of the tribe. My challenge now not in vain. I commend Cruise lines for provid- and wife. Yes, there were 1,950 guests on the ship, but it would was to shorten the liturgy, blow the shofar, read ing worship opportunities. If you are ever on seem to me that those who take the holidays at all seriously, are a cruise during a Jewish holiday, try to attend worshiping in their home congregations or with family. - services. You may help make a minyan and get Surely, this would be a Rosh Hashanah like none we had ex- andtain studythat there torah, are and Jews deliver around my the now world modified who a delicious oneg. And I am sure the rabbi will sermonwould welcome in the required that. The 45Kiddush minutes. following I am certhe be grateful. Yontif dinner with a man from China who didn’t speak English service now had a large cake added to the deli- Rabbi Aaron Rosenberg is the Rabbi Emeritus perienced.and his daughter In the dining and granddaughter. room Karen and Following I were fixed the up meal for our we cacies. We observed Tashlich by taking a hunk at Temple Emanu-El in Waterford. headed to the Stuyvesant Room, a half hour before the service. A lovely non-Jewish lady from Savannah was already seated in the Blum named national Commander back in a corner. I welcomed her with, “You have to get here early By Joanne Blum, special to the Leader local Post 45 twice, and has chaired many com- to get the back row seat.” She commented that she had recently At the recent Convention of the Jewish War mittees. He has been Department Commander lost her 2nd husband and was in need of prayer. We schmoozed Veterans of the USA, which was held in Tampa, twice, and more recently, Quartermaster (trea- FL, Jerome “Jerry” Blum was elected and in- surer). He has chaired many committees on a congregant. We coaxed her to move to the front row and began stalled as their National Commander. Jerry National level. All in all, his life has been full of withthe worship. her and finallyI abided realized by the to Holland our amazement, America policy she was and our short only- grew up in Hartford, CT, and is the son of the serving and honoring veterans. ened the service with sermon to a mere 45 minutes. late Milton and Freda Wilson Blum. He has a Jerry and Joanne belong to Temple Beth sister, Judy FitzGerald, who is President of the Genizah burial October 18 John L. Levitow, Auxiliary 45, in West Hartford, Board of Directors, run the family picnic, and do CT. Tefilahmuch to in addEast to Hartford, the upkeep CT. They of the serve Synagogue. on the When religious articles such as siddureem (prayer books), Jerry enlisted in the Navy two weeks after They also volunteer a lot of time on committees high school. Following Boot Camp and Class ‘A’ for Relay for Life, which does much for Cancer letter tetragrammaton for G-d written upon them get worn out School in Great Lakes, Research. Jerry is a Life member of the VFW, Torot,or are taliteem,no longer tefilleen, used, they or areJewish cared artifacts for and that stored have away the fourin a IL, he was assigned to Vietnam Veterans of America, a member of the Genizah (Hebrew for ‘storage’). Such a storage place could be the USS Vance. Onboard Disabled American Veterans, American Legion, in a separated closed room of a Synagogue, cave, or most com- the Vance, he was sent Amvets, and has recently joined the local An- monly in contemporary times, burial. Because of the reverence to the North Bering Sea, and respect due, the burial is done with the same respect given as part of the Dewline to a person being buried. Picket Patrol. He was tiquecemeteries. Veterans, a group that renders military There will be such a Genizah ceremony on Sunday, October then sent to Pearl Har- honorsThe Jewish(rifle volleys) War Veterans for deceased originated veterans in 1896 at 18 at the Norwich Hebrew Benevolent Association (NHBA) bor, Hawaii, to the envy as the Hebrew Union Veterans. They were Cemetery No.1 on route 12 in Preston at 1 p.m. The entire com- of his friends. That last- formed as a direct result of slander that Jews munity is invited. In particular, if anyone has any worn out or ed a short time, when had not participated in the military between outmoded religious articles, they are welcome to deposit then the ship was then sent the War Between the States. Today the Jewish in the grave which will be dug for the purpose. Any such articles to Vietnam. Jerry was War Veterans of the USA combats anti-Semitism should be placed in fully biodegradable bags or cartons. stationed in Vietnam and bigotry. (The last two sentences were para- For further information please call Jerry Schwell at for over 2 ½ years, operating the Evaporators, phrased from the JWV homepage). The Nation- 8604648288.. changing sea water into fresh water. Following his discharge, he went to work at the Institute of a brief ceremony concluding with the recitation of Kaddish. Living, a Hartford Psychiatric Institute. There, alR Street, Headquarters is a wonderful is located museum, in Washington, the NMAJMH DC. Rabbis Julius Rabinovitch and Scott Saulson will officiate with he met a student nurse, who later became his At(National the National Museum Headquarters of American location, Jewish onMilitary 1811 wife. He and Joanne, Past National Ladies Aux. History). Admission to the museum is free, and President (2013-14), have been married 47 should be included as part of your visit to our years, and now live in Colchester, CT. They raised Nation’s Capital. 2 beautiful daughters. Their oldest daughter, Jerry believes that our culture will ultimate- Since 1919 Southeastern Connecticut’s Oldest and Most Respected Jewelers Michelle, lost her battle with Pancreatic Cancer ly be judged by how we treat all warriors and Diamonds


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Saturday 10:00-4:00 War Veterans. He has been Commander of his betterment of all warriors and veterans. THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 5 A cold breeze blew through Brad’s cell and an icy claim that they needed ten tourists from Brooklyn for hand gripped his shoulder, while an eerie light lit his a minyan seemed reasonable. The warden still smart- By cell. Brad sat up and came face to face with a scarred - ing the Dali Lama a year earlier. Can’t hurt to make “S themed over wait the while reprimand I get guidance. he’d received after handcuff Artie figureslowly, indrew a tattered open his uniformarmy jacket, crouched and pointed by his an side. ac- heldon, is that you,” Brad said. The figure nodded The guards seemed more relaxed than before, for, Dean chest. by Thenow, five they hundred were used pound to seeing steel doora Rabbi swung in a open.black cusatory finger at the gaping shrapnel wound in his hat. They did, however, take the precaution of mak- Intrigue on the Thames, part 5 hand’s clenched. Why can’t you just leave me alone? ing them wait while the warden went to call his supe- Brad’s nostrils flared. He glared at Sheldon, his riors. Rabbi Kravitz opened the box of lulavs, pulled Continued from last issue…the door slammed and Brad pored out the tale of how he got a fraudulent an esrog from the sack, and demonstrated the proper Brad found himself locked in a Hanoi prison cell, 4F while Sheldon sat stone face. way to celebrate the holiday by shaking vigorously in no light, no sound, no prospects. His mind raced, his Finally Sheldon held up the stump of a hand. all 6 directions. thoughts churned. Instead of shouting for his wife, Marjorie, or Rabbi Kravitz, his unlikely link to the in- *** telligence community, he thought only of the elderly “Nonethe boiler of that room.” matters anymore. Make sure you find Mrs. Cohen, and how much his failure would disap- my son. He’s in solitary confinement in a cell behind laser guided missile landing one hundred yards out- point her. *** side Operation the south Exodus prison beganwall. Moments as planned after with the the explo first- *** Meanwhile around midnight Rabbi Kravitz and sion half of the prison guards on duty ran outside Time seemed to pass like an eternity. He pictured Marjorie were ushered into the back door of the to investigate. In the confusion the tourists opened his wife, Marjorie. I’ve dragged her halfway around American Ambassador’s residence. their crates, and withdrew their hidden weapons. the world for my crazed obsession, and for what—this “This had better be good,” the Amabassador said They donned night vision goggles and released crazy scheme to soothe my guilty conscience? As he lay as he logged onto a secure computer link to the Gro- smoke from canisters disguised as etrogs. A cloud of on his cot in complete darkness his hearing became ton Submarine Base, while an armed marine stood at smoke spread through the prison compound while attention in the corner of the room. pandemonium ensued. and then footsteps grew steadily louder. They stopped The ambassador hit a few keys and then Larry moreand then acute. a frantic A muffled voice clang yelled sounded gibberish in thenearby. distance, Brad *** pictured an emaciated man being led away for inter- “The video we received from Brad Hofstedter’s sur- Brad woke suddenly. “Sheldon, Sheldon, what do rogation. There was screaming and then the sounds veillanceFunt, the intelligence camera clearly officer, shows appeared our operative on the screen. is in you expect me to do?” he said. But there was no an- Bang Yung prison. I’ll run it for you now.” swer, just the acrid smell of smoke, and the wail of sheen of sweat rose on Brad’s forehead, despite the The ambassador opened a draw and pulled out a sirens from the far end of the prison. Guards were ofdank angry prison men, air. a scuffle,Men laughed a thud, nearby. and finally Then silence. a heavy A black and white photo, comparing it to the image on scurrying everywhere, pistols drawn, a look of fear door opened and closed with a clank. Brad imagined the screen. “That’s Bao Phong Cohen alright,” he said on their faces. Shots rang out. Bullets whizzed by himself tied to a chair with heavy ropes, as uniformed after a short while. “No wonder you haven’t received men took turns beating him with bamboo poles. Am I any further intelligence from him in months.” “This is the end, for sure,” Brad muttered under his next? Will I ever see Marjorie again? Rabbi Kravitz stroked his beard. So that’s why Funt Brad’sbreath cell,when ricocheting a tall bearded against man walls wearing and floors. night gog- The hours dragged on, yet sleep proved elusive. had me take Hofstetder to Hanoi. Knew there had to be Brad’s thoughts turned to the day of his Selective more to the story. Cohen’s an agent. his arms. But instead of a shot to the chest, the man Service physical. It had seemed so easy back then, glesprovided stopped a key in frontto Brad’s of his cell. cell “Come with a withrifle cradledme, we’re in the passing of an envelope, contaminating his urine wisps of hair he usually combed over the top of his liberating the prison,” he said as he unlocked the headThe to ambassador cover his bald ran spot. his fingers “I can’t through ask the theChief thin to door to Brad’s cell. How strange to authorize unless we’re sure,” the Ambassador was “Who the hell are you?” Brad said as the bearded besample imprisoned with sugar, after the coming doctor’s willingly feigned to indifference, a country I saying. man grabbed Brad’s wrist. triedand the to avoid4F with at allno costs. questions asked. “I’ve never been surer in my life,” Funt said. “Sol Feinstein, US Army Ranger, Brooklyn Divi- Finally a deep fatigue rose in Brad’s mind. His The ambassador swallowed hard, the muscles of sion, Platoon 18. Now hurry, we’re assembling all the arms and legs felt heavy, his breathing slowed, and his jaw bulging as he pondered a move that could be American families in the prison yard to be picked up deepened, until the painful memory of his youthful the diplomatic blunder of the century if not handled by helicopter in 20 minutes. We don’t have a moment decision subsided and Brad fell into a dream-laden perfectly. Then he turned toward Marjorie and Rabbi to spare.” Then a shot rang out followed by the thud - Kravitz with the most charming smile he could mus- of impact. Sol Finestein slumped forward, his words don High School. A group of four seniors in the ROTC ter. sleep.program He was were fifteen smoking again, on a sophomore the baseball at New diamond Lon “I have to ask you to do something for your coun- “Got to get Bao Phung Cohen,” Brad thought he heard during lunch period, talking about the war, as Brad try that could ultimately cost your lives.” suddenly garbled, as his rifle slipped to the ground.- walked by. where in the cell out of danger. Better a prisoner than “Let me get my hands on those commie gooks,” one *** thea corpse. soldier Then say. Brad’she thought first thoughtof Marjorie, was toand hide old some Mrs. boy with a crewcut was saying. “They can’t hide in Cohen, but mostly he thought of the specter of Shel- tunnels forever.” Then he pantomimed mowing down The nightly news would never report on Rabbi the enemy with an imaginary machine gun. “When Kravitz’s and Marjorie’s heroism, but returning to Bang Yung prison ten days later on the pretense of donhe opened the Vet. the He cell crouched door, stepped to the outcell intofloor the and corridor, picked their pants.” That night Brad watched the evening holding Sukkot services was the hardest thing Rabbi up the rifle, donning the soldier’s night goggles. Then theynews see with the his way parents. New London“432 Americans men fight, died they’ll in Viet wet- Kravitz had done since expounding on the Talmud nam this week,” Walter Cronkite was saying. “Presi- before the head of his Yeshiva. Marjorie was under- and tried to quell the chattering of hisTo beteeth. continued… dent Nixon says losses have to be expected to make standably shaken—no word from Brad in ten days. Vietnam safe for democracy.” She wondered if she would ever see him alive. In her Brad began to shiver and a tightness rose in his weaker moments she thought of leaving Vietnam im- The finest in printing throat. If only he could reach back across 45 years mediately to stay out of harm’s way. Yet there, before and warn his youthful classmates, for they would not the barbed wire, the Rabbi and Marjorie stood on the be returning from the adventure they so willingly evening of the third day of Sukkot, with ten tourists, COPY CATS craved. Still, a sense of shame came over him. He had a box full of lulavs, a sack of etrogs, and a crate from Call Us For a Quote Brooklyn labeled “EasyTo Build Sukkah Kit. 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Sagi and Amit, our new Young Emis- with lunch or your own. saries, joined us for the Potluck dinner. The first price listed is for paid members; Amit stayed for the service while Sagi left the second price is for non-paid members. after dinner to be with his host family for Wednesday, November 4 “Liberace” at Ivoryton. Lunch on a dinner with family friends in their suk- your own. This is a moving and highly entertaining tribute to the kah. This eent served as Yachad’s Sukkot performer and musician famous for his charm, glitz, and glam- event for the year. Teens and their parents should watch a rollicking piano score spanning classical and popular music for information about BBYO’s upcoming our. Liberace relives the highs (and lows) of his prolific life, with events. Saturday night, October 17, is our $45/$48. Lunch on your own at Parthenon Diner. from Chopin to “Chopsticks”, and Rachmaninoff to Ragtime. Cost JCC. October 18 and 25 are our next out- Wednesday, November 11 “A Wonderful Life” at Goodspeed. By Kyra Dezjot Regionaling and meeting,Kick-off respectively.dance at the New Registra Haven- Bedford Falls comes alive as never before with the Goodspeed Yachad BBYO hosted a Sukkot event at Temple tion for International Convention opens Emanu-El in Waterford for any Jewish teen from 8th to this Wednesday, Oct. 7. International 12th grade. We all met in Temple Emanu-El’s Sukkah Convention takes place in Baltimore in premiereLife”, a would-be of the magical angel swoops tale of to finding the rescue hope of in desperate your hometown. banker and began the event by planning and promoting re- mid-February. Hope to see many of you InGeorge a tuneful Bailey re-imagining on Christmas of Eve. the From classic the film Tony-winning “It’s a Wonderful co-cre- gional events followed by Sukkah decorating and teen in the next few weeks. ator of Fiddler on the Roof, it’s a heartwarming family musical bonding. The board also took a vote on who preferred that celebrates the power of love and the goodness in all of us. Remember: “Every time a bell rings, an angel gets his wings!” Cost $63/$66. Lunch on your own at Zhang’s/Pizza Works. Temple Emanu-El Sisterhood 29 Dayton Road (Mail registration to: P.O. Box 288) Looking for original art Waterford, CT 06385 Calling all Jewish Artists, young and not-so-young! An- (860) 443-3005 nouncing…The First ART Annual Chanukah Exhibition on Sun- day, November 8 from 1 - 4 p.m. in the Social Hall at Congrega- FULL DAY MAH JONGG TOURNAMENT tion Beth El, 660 Ocean Ave., New London, Connecticut. 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5RVD*ROGEODWW 5RQ/HHVHU &DPSDLJQ&R&KDLUV 8 THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 Fascinating playbills reveals much of the 1930s culture By Deborah Schwell, special to the Leader gogue in America would dare Congregation Beth El has a collection of memora- post today – which consisted of used. bilia that dates back to the 1930s. In delving through a scantily-dressed lady in stock- names.One ofNo the “Mr.” cutest honorific items was in the miscellanea, I came across two thought-provok- ings and garters very obviously the 1934 playbill was an ad promoting her posterior! Re- for the Mohican Hotel; room American Jewish past. member the title was: “Let’s rates were “$2.50 and Up” and ingOne playbills play: that “We reflected America twons ”different was performed eras in our in Get Behind It…” And on the there were “250 Rooms with 1934 and the Bath.” The Rabbi’s message in other, a musical: Greetings! But it get’s juicier. the 1934 playbill was interest- “Let’s Get Be- firstOn the page next we page have the the program Rabbi’s hind It Beth El states: “Beth-El Sisterhood whether it was appropriate for .. (that is)” was presents SECOND ANNUAL ing.synagogues He began to right be putting off asking on performed by Cabaret Dance and Sisterhood plays. In 1949, there was no Beth El’s Sister- Scandals.” such hesitation. hood in 1949. be interesting to know what the “WE AMERICANS” is a three- It would definitely act drama written by Milton Herbert Gropper and of 15 years, it’s the end of the playbill indicates that this play was a Max Siegel and “Let’s Get Behind It Beth El .. (that Withfascinating a difference to see scriptfund-raiser was. for The Beth score El forbeing the built finale on printedOcean Ave.. toward . . is)” is a musical revue written by various members of what changes oc- Beth El. If anyone has a copy of the original play or curred in Jewish Write out your checks to Beth-El lyrics to the songs in the musical we’d greatly appre- communal con- Show us that you really care. . . . ciate it if you’d contact Deb Schwell, 860-464-8288 or cerns. During the To make our shule(sic) come true dschwell@ height of the De- Let’s say farewell to Blackhall Street aol.com pression, Ameri- and hail to Ocean Avenue. or contact can Jews were (Sung to the tune: “Give My Regards to Broadway) Beth El, highly occupied office@ with being fully accepted into American society at There was one characteristic that both playbills bethel-nl. large. The following is part of a descriptive paragraph shared and that was the socially respectable custom org. If you from the “We Americans” playbill: “This play pur- of not printing a married woman’s personal name un- have either ports to portray with photographic truth the immi- less she had an actual role in the show. All acknowl- a playbill or grant Jew who clings to his European traditions and edgements for fund raising, lyrics, organization, etc script from who fails to respond in any marked degree to Ameri- listed all married women as, “Mrs. Abraham Cohen, some oth- Mrs. Jacob Levy, etc.” “Sarah Cohen’s” name would er Beth El - only be seen if she actually performed on stage. For production, canizingcult for him influences, to understand, dealing an with issue his (being problems, American … at- a scene called the GREYHOUND LIMITED, we see we’d also the same time presenting a vital issue, …though diffi listed amongst the passengers: Lois Kasakow and Joy appreciate all other foreigners that come to these shores.” THE SCANDAL COM- it. ized)Fifteen that affects years later, similarly, during though the post in lesser WWII degree, early MITTEE are ALL listed as Mrs. (husband’s name), - Resnikoff.(family name.) But However the members all the ofmen who participated ing with a rather “racy-looking” cover that no syna- baby-boomer years, the mood is quite different start on committees were listed only by their first and last EMISSARIES OFF TO BUSY BEGINNING CONT. FROM PAGE 1 Amit was able to stay for the service, Sagi left before it to join his family for a meal the amazing seniors in our community who were able to make it to Beth Jacob in the sukkah of some family friends. After such a long and full day we were full of synagogue in Norwich. The following evening, we returned to Beth Jacob for a holiday spirit and ready for our next events. Sukkot service and dinner. We weren’t done yet. On Sunday evening, Oct. 4, we On Monday, Sept. 28, we were invited to a Sukkot dinner in the Sukkah of Rabbi both went to Temple Emanu El and Beth-El to celebrate Simchat Torah. On Mon- Avrohom & Maryashi Sternberg, where we heard and learned more about Sukkot day evening, which is tonight as I write this, we are hoping to go to Conn College as well as enjoyed a delicious meal prepared by Maryashi Sternberg, Rebbetzin and join the Hillel students for Simchat Torah and maybe (if we are still stand- extroadinaire. The following Sukkot activity was at Solomon Schechter Academy. ing) we will get over to Ahavath Chesed as they march around a Torah that was rescued on Kristallnacht but has not been danced around on Simchat Torah since Four Species, became the Ushpizin, baked wonderful Etrog cookies with the aid 1938. It would be an amazing end to a very exhilarating time. Theof Terry students Goldsmith, went throughmade decorations six different for thestations Sukkah, where built they their learned own mini about kosher The And that’s it! Seems like a lot, but the time passed so fast, and we had a won- Sukkah and ate their delicious cookies inside the school’s sukkah. derful time! It’s been a great start to what promises to be a fabulous year!! We want to thank you again for participating, introduc- SukkotAfter dinner, finishing listened this amazing to Rabbi day Safman with ourand wonderfulJerry Fischer students, and met it somewas time of the to ing yourselves (maybe re- dressCoast Guardup a little Academy to attend cadets our and first Hillel Coast members. Guard Academy What a night! event where we ate a peating your name once or As we were nearing the end of twice if we had a hard time - remembering), organizing troduced to the community at the and making our welcome ourHarvest holidays, Supper we dinnerwere officially at Temple in so warm and accepting. You Emanu El on Wed., Sept. 30 spon- are the best community and sored by the Jewish Federation. The dinner was fabulous, and we Stay alert, we have more thank everyone who came, made a wethings are off coming to a great your start! way! dish, welcomed us so warmly and Please mark your calen- helped to make this magical night. dars and SAVE THE DATE: The next day, we left SSA in the November 15, 2015 – JCC middle of our work day to attend W/O WALLS at the Mystic the Fall Fling lunch and meet all of Y!!!! See you there!! THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 9 Schechter celebrates Sukkot In preparation for the Sukkot holiday, Solomon Schechter Academy (SSA) students participated

Yankee Farmer where inMrs. a field Scott trip taught to Scott’s our students about apples, pumpkins, and gourds. Students rode on a hay ride through the farm, chose a special gourd in delicious apples, and re- theceived field, decorative picked Indian some corn from Mrs. Scott.

Canning 101 Himmelstein Homstead Farm Anna Feldman introduced the audi- students enjoyed fun Frank Himmelstein and his sister Sandy ence to the basics of canning -- what SukkotAfter the activities field trip, at Speter manned a table with picked fresh was needed, the terminology, and school, including deco- that day squash and other farm edibles. making sure to have a good recipe rating the school’s beau- to follow. tiful Sukkah. Thank you and parents for your Community tohelp SSA with staff, our joyful teachers, Suk- kot celebration. Harvest pictures Cooking demonstration Junior Youth Group Jane Kierstein of Waterford cooked up a de- licious vegetarian dish of Italian descent con- & Yachad BBYO kick off sisting of peppers and capers. With step by step directions and some tips the audience By Kyra Dezjot was able to enjoy a sample of her Pepero- Yachad BBYO and the Junior nata con Capperi when she was done. together on board the Mystic YouthArgia Group Schooner kicked for off a two the andyear a half hour boat ride, sailing around Mystic and beyond. Our Captain, Steve, told us it was ab- solutely perfect sailing weather and was able to take us out fur- ther than we’ve ever gone be- fore. Over the course of this boat ride, both groups bonded and future BBYO events were an- nounced. Board members, Reed Wells and Kyra Dezjot also led a short service for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, followed by a song sung by Marcia Reinhard, Eastern CT’s Youth Director. A num- ber of parents joined us for the sail and were wonderful chaperones. We’d like to thank Armi & Jonathan Rowe, Deborah Linder, Liz Masson, Andrea Fenton, Mike Reinhard and our BBYO Advisor, Brian Lazarus, for without adult chaperones, this kind of trip would not be possible. Sukkot gathering at Coast Guard Academy Our new Young Emissaries, 2/c Cadet Hannah Heichen, president of the CGA Hillel with members of the Amit Horovitz and Sagi Zazon, Jewish War Veterans who were invited to join the cadets for a Sukkot holiday sup- also joined us for the day and per on Tuesday, Sept. 29. JFEC Executive Director, Jerry Fischer, gave an explana- we were all happy to have the tion of the Rosh Hashana/Yom Kippur holiday period and Rabbi Rachel Safman of opportunity to meet them and Congregation Beth El gave a talk on Sukkot and the lulav and etrog. begin to get to know them. Faculty adviser Prof. Ian Frommer and his family as well as Marcia Reinhard After the boat ride everyone of the Federation, were in attendance. Stanley Schwartz of Noah’s in Stonington, went to Mystic Pizza and the shared round challahs that he had baked for the occasion. Mystic Drawbridge Ice Cream 1/c Cadet Brandon Newman blew a tikia, shevarim, and truah on the Shofar. Shop for dinner and dessert. It Young Emissaries Sagi and Amit introduced themselves to the cadets and JWV was a perfect ending to a per- members. The Emissaries and members of the JWV will join the CGA Hillel mem- fect day!! bers for other activities throughout the year. 10 THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 Preservation Society ribbon cutting in both the Connecticut and sixty plus year history, the Temple Beth Israel Preservation So- National Registers of Historic cietyCelebrating will hold aits Ribbon first major Cutting building Ceremony restoration on Sunday, project October in its Places. It was founded in the 18, 2015 at 1 PM at Temple Beth Israel, 39 Killingly Drive, Dan- early 1950s by a few Jewish ielson, Connecticut. A reception and tour of the Temple will fol- families already living in Dan- low the ceremony. ielson and Holocaust survivors with broad support of the local the sanctuary which was recently listed on the National Register community. The Preservation of HistoricAddressing Places, serious the structuralupper front and terrace stability at theconcerns main entranceaffecting Society directs its program- to the Temple’s sanctuary was stabilized, rebuilt, repaired, re- ming to interfaith understand- pointed and waterproofed. This critical work was made pos- ing, tolerance and the pursuit sible by the generous support of the Daughters of the American of social justice. Revolution (DAR) National Special Projects Grant sponsored The connection between by the Sarah Williams Chapter (Brooklyn, CT). A matching gift the Blumenthal Fetterman of $10,000 was provided by the David and Summer Fetterman family and the local Sarah Wil- Senior Fall Fling Oct. 1 Family who will also be honored at the ceremony. liams Chapter DAR goes back The New London Hebrew Senior Club and Norwich/Colchester to 1945 when Elsie Blumen- Jewish Club kicked off their 2015-16 season with the annual Fall 455-3039 or [email protected]. thal Fetterman (a Director of Fling held at Beth Jacob Synagogue and sponsored by the Jewish TheThe Preservation public is invited. Society RSVPs will welcome are requested honored to guestsNaomi to 860- the the Temple Beth Israel Preser- Federation’s Martin & Millie Shapiro Endowment Fund. A delicious ceremony. Among the guests will be: April Staley, CT DAR Re- vation Society and chair of the dairy buffet was enjoyed by a group of 74 seniors who also tapped gent; Marian Hallowell, DAR Regent for Sarah Williams Chapter; event) received the DAR Good their feet to a musical interlude by ‘Songbird’ Judy Hall as she ac- Barbara Schreier, Chair Killingly Brooklyn Interfaith Council; Citizenship Award at Killingly companied herself on the guitar to a wide variety of standards that Sean Hendricks, Killingly Town Manager; Danny Rovero, CT State showcased her amazing singing voice. Representative; Betty Kusaj, Executive Director Northeastern later, her granddaughter, Sar- Connecticut Chamber of Commerce. Congratulatory messages ahHigh Fetterman, School. Sixty-five was the recipi years- from Dianne Janis, National Special Projects Chair DAR and Da- ent of the DAR Good Citizen- ‘Wear Pink’ event vid Fetterman will be read. ship Award at Henry M. Gunn “Wear Pink,” Eastern Con- nitely by October 15! 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Has anyone a doubt as to which of the Louis Brandeis demanded the same pledge from celled meetings during the Iran Agreement debates two made the right decision? Chaim Weizmann. Israel survives in large measure for fear of permanent damage to relations among We are commanded to live. All com- their members. Dangerously, the traditional bi- mandments are suspended when one’s Israel’s foreign policy has always been to maintain partisan support for Israel in Congress has been life is at risk. Suicide and murder are excellentbecause of relations Jewish Americans.with the United A firm States. principle Netan of- infected with Netanyahu’s poisonous language. grave sins in Jewish law. Why then do yahu has reversed that “survival” policy to Israel’s Netanyahu has not only hurt Israel in America, so many Israelis make the defeatists at detriment. but consider that in the United Kingdom there is a Masada heroes? Why would inductees Netanyahu has alienated the President of the petition with over a million signatures before the into the Israeli Defense Forces swear United States by interfering in America’s elections Houses of Parliament to arrest him as a war crimi- oaths at that place of despair, defeat and and outwardly supporting Mitt Romney in 2012, nal. In France the Jews of the Great Synagogue death? insulting the President privately and publicly, al- of Paris turned their backs on him and sang the Those at Masada had little faith in lying himself with the Republican Party, accepting French National Anthem when he demanded they God’s redemptive powers. They forgot an invitation to speak to Congress in violation of “return” to Israel. In Germany vast numbers are our Exodus story. In violation of our accepted protocols, and ordered major Jewish or- demanding a re-orientation of the German govern- commandments, they chose to take their ganizations to oppose President Obama’s work on ment’s pro-Israel policies. own lives and the lives of their children. the Iran Agreements while saying nothing about One would expect a rational leader to correct Those who put their faith in nuclear the leaders of Russia, China, Germany, France, his ways, or at least in a parliamentary form of gov- Britain and the United Nations. In fact, he has now ernment, resign. Not Netanyahu. He doubles down, faithless; they are certain death for our embraced Russia’s Putin, a co-signer of the Iran and like the fool of whom Solomon warned us, re- people.weapons possessed by Israel are equally Agreement. fuses any and all correction. Beware of leaders! We learn from the Pirkei Avot, “Be- No world power, much less a small regional Netanyahu has now gone too far. He has em- ware of rulers, for they befriend some- power like Israel, has ever treated a President of braced one of the greatest enemies of the Jew- the United States in such an unacceptable man- ish people in history, Russia. The word “pogrom” ner. Not even at the height of the Cold War did a PUTIN CONT. ON PG 13 doone not only stand for theirby someone own benefit; in his they time act of Russian or Chinese leader treat a leader of the free need.”friendly (PA when 2:3) it benefits them, but they world as crudely as has this petulant and arrogant Israelis have voted to put their fu- man representing Israel. lETTERS TO THE EDITOR Editorials • Cartoons Letters tures into the hands of Netanyahu. As he Netanyahu has personalized his dislike and dis- rises they rise; as he falls they fall. That approval of the President of the United States to Trespassing The Russian-Iran link revealed Dear Editor, Jerusalem Post Editorial As a pulpit rabbi, I am not supposed to encroach Syria’s territory which until recently domiciled same. on the territory of partisan politics. But, when an sphereConcomitantly, of pseudo-legitimate Obama is influence. doing his It’s utmost still the to aspirant to the Presidency encroaches on the terri- reduced to a proverbial chessboard upon which disengage from the very spheres that Russia cov- tory of the pulpit, then he is fair game. I speak of Mr. foreigna purportedly powers bona are playingfide nation a cynical – has realpolitiknow been ets, and Putin helped push Obama in that direction Trump. Reportedly, in response to one of his rally at- game. when they met in New York this week. tendees, who wondered when America is going to get rid of Muslims and who challenged the religious cre- In 2013, Putin swayed Obama not to react mili- strikes against rebel targets near the Syrian city tarily to Assad’s use of gas against his own people, “We’re going to look into that.” His post rally follow of On Homs, Wednesday, apparently Russia after informinglaunched its the first US and air dentialsup to that of is Mr. his Obama, claim that Mr. Trumphe has nois quoted moral obligation as saying, Israel. chemical stockpiles. Obama was only too eager to defend the President. So far the superior maneuvering is indisputably but to allow the Syrian leader to relinquish his Well, not so fast, Mr. Trump, claimant to the mantel that of Russian President Vladimir Putin. It’s far butchering Syria’s civilians by other means. of the “silent turned vocal” majority. If your state- from clear what long-term strategy is being pur- to Thenbe offered came thea way deal out, on even Iran’s if nukesAssad continued in which ment, “We’re going to look into that” refers to ridding sued by his American counterpart, Barack Obama. Moscow again coaxed Washington into an ultra- America of Muslims, then you’ve hopped into bed In New York this week, Obama indicated that de- conciliatory stance to avoid confrontation. The with the Ayatollah and other anti-Semites who say feating Islamic State in Syria would only be pos- Russian foothold in Syria’s port of Latakia is tan- likewise about Jews. If your statement, “We’re go- ing to look into that” refers to Mr. Obama’s religious sible if President Bashar Assad were forced to step gible fallout from Obama’s miscalculation. credentials, then you ought to ask yourself and your down, but did not hint at American involvement. Iran was propelled to the forefront as a regional fans: “Why should one’s religious credentials matter Again, after an extended absence, Russia looms power, operating in chummy collusion with Russia as the Middle East’s imposing hegemon – one to prop up Assad in an ostensible anti-terrorist al- And, if the annals of our time one day reveal that Mr. whose self-interests determine who will prevail inObama seeking was or clandestinely in holding the a Muslim,office of youthe oughtPresidency?” to con- and who will fail. sider: “Why would any American have had to conceal Historically the now-defunct Soviet Union used regimeliance. Its in detailsreturn werefor a supposedfinalized last shutdown July, hot of on Teh the- his or her religious preference in order to seek or to describe this region as “adjacent to our south- ran’sheels nuclearof the deal program. to lift sanctions off the ayatollah ern borders.” Qassem Soleimani, chief of Iran’s elite Quds This contention presumably facilitated the claim with holdobligation. the office In myof the mind, Presidency your egotistical or, for that avoidance matter, that the Middle East was essential for the USSR’s anybesmirches public office, your inpersona 2015?” and Therein belies lies your your pandering MORAL security and thus could be annexed to Moscow’s Force, flew twice to Moscow for consultations defense of religious liberty. RUSSIA/IRAN CONT. ON PG 15 Rabbi Scott B. Saulson, PhD THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 13 Bon Jovi dedicates song ‘We Don’t Run’ to Israel At packed, rapturously received Tel Aviv concert, when a Palestinian man stabbed two Israelis to New Jersey rocker tells his Jewish keyboard player, death in the Old City, and injured two others. ‘Your father would be proud of you’ “Good evening Tel Aviv, Israel! Are you ready for rock ‘n roll? I’ve waited a long time for this, By Times of Israel Staff baby!” Bon Jovi called out to fans packed into Tel Aviv’s Yarkon Park before opening with the performance in Israel Saturday evening, Octo- song “That’s What the Water Made Me.” berJon 3 byBon telling Jovi kicked 50,000 off cheering his band’s Israelis first-ever “I’ve waited a long time for this!” time, and we still have a ways to go tonight. Are A few songs into the show, he underlined you“We with finally me?” he made asked. it here. It took us a long his empathy with Israel by introducing a new In an 18-song setlist, fans were treated to song called “We Don’t Run,” released earlier this some of Bon Jovi’s newer material as well as summer, with the comment: “This should be the the group’s biggest hits, including “You Give Love a Bad Name,” “It’s My Life,” and, at the end And later in the performance, the New Jersey- of the long set, “Livin on a Prayer.” Bon Jovi members in Israel on Friday. From left: Drummer Tico fightborn songrocker for name-checked Tel Aviv.” his keyboard player, The 53-year-old musician was upbeat and Torres, keyboard player David Bryan, and singer Jon Bon Jovi. the Jewish musician David Bryan (Rashbaum), energetic throughout, constantly encouraging (Facebook) by saying that “your father would be proud of the audience to clap and sing along, and having you” for being in Israel pounding the piano. them sing solo at the start of “Wanted Dead or Unremarkably, Bon Jovi’s decision to play in Israel had led to Probably unbeknown to the band, the con- Alive.” He introduced that song by asking, “For- pressure from boycott activists and criticism from anti-Israel fel- cert began minutes after a terrorist attack in low rocker Roger Waters. Jerusalem 60 kilometers (some 40 miles) away, cowboys in Israel?” Waters and other supporters of the Boycott Divestment Sanc- give me an innocent question: Are there any tions movement urged the band to cancel the concert, but a local promoter said that Bon Jovi, a longtime Democrat who recent- NETANYAHU/PUTIN CONT. FROM PAGE 12 ly hosted a fundraiser for presidential hopeful Hillary Clinton, should send anxiety and fear through the veins BDS is one of the most important geo-stra- “couldn’t care less.” of all Jews. The anti-Semitism of the czars and tegic threats facing Israel. Alienating Israel The band and its leader were evidently unfazed by the criti- culturally, economically, politically and morally cism. Arriving in Israel on Friday, they had greeted fans and Stalin and Communism, and now through Putin will cause a mass exodus of Jews from Israel; theand RussianNationalism. Orthodox Have no Church doubt flowed about that. through Be- recall the Jewish exodus from South Africa dur- - ware of leaders! ing Apartheid. brieflyformance spoken of their to 2015 journalists, world tour. with Bon Jovi saying he and the Netanyahu has convinced the majority of Is- BDS is a movement that must not be ignored bandWhen were asked “happy why to the finally band be had here” never on playedwhat was in Israel the last before, per raeli people that America is a declining power. and cannot be fought with vitriol by paid Has- Bon Jovi jokingly pointed at his tour promoter, and said, “Blame He has told his followers that the USA cannot bara trolls on Twitter and Facebook. Raising Marcel, he’s never let us come.” be trusted to come to Israel’s defense. Israel the horrendous tragedy of Holocaust victims has over one-million Russian born citizens who will not excuse Netanyahu’s devastating wars always wanted to come to, so this was the perfect opportunity to identify more with Putin than America. Those on Palestinians in the eyes of the world. In “But, no, we’re happy to finally be here. This is a place that I’ve Russians are his key voting bloc. They keep him fact, it is insulting to those sacred martyrs to He said he hoped to tour in Tel Aviv and Jerusalem during the in power. He panders to them at Israel’s security use their names politically and for nationalistic finallyband’s comestay. to Israel,” Bon Jovi said. and expense. Israel is changing. purposes. Speaking to the Hebrew press last Friday, Bon Jovi said he “al- Netanyahu has established a “hotline” with a The result of a successful BDS movement ways heard what a wonderful place Israel is – the birthplace of direct link between himself and Putin. He may will be the end of Israel as a Jewish state. We all religions. use it at any time. Netanyahu has entered into know from South Africa and other countries “I have been everywhere and Israel was a place that I’ve al- an intelligence and military pact with Russia re- that such movements only grow in strength ways wanted to visit, but it never worked out. This time I insist- over time. Consider Iran and Cuba are two of ed that Israel must be on our list and it happened!” That relationship will expand. Netanyahu has Underlining the sentiment, he ended Saturday’s show with a gardingcoordinated Middle military East affairs,attacks onin Syriaparticular with RusSyria.- come to the table. promise: “I’ll come here any time you want.” sia in opposition to the United States Depart- the latest who finally gave into BDS and have Jessica Steinberg and JTA contributed to this report. ment of Defense and the President. guarantee the survival of Israel as a Jewish Netanyahu is working with Egypt’s dictator state,If Jewishwe must Americans unite and arebe strong. to influence We do that and - best by calling our ambassador home and with- 20% OFF WITH THIS AD ence. 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Oct. 17, 2015 at Temple Emanu-El. his life, the late Janet (Nibur) Zeldis. six great-grandchildren, and He will be assisting Rabbi Scott Saulson and Cantorial Born in Romania, he was the son of the late Louis many nieces and nephews. Soloist Sherry Barnes in leading the service, as well as and Anna (Rubin) Zeldis. He was predeceased by chanting Torah and Haftarah. Jacob will also be partici- Norm loved life, and he loved what he made of his his brother, George (whose pating in the Friday evening service on Oct. 16, 2015. life. He steadfastly said that he decided to be a doctor wife Shirley survives), his Jacob is the son of Sean and Anne Bendick of Mystic when he was seven years old and never wavered from daughter-in-law, Sylvia Zeldis, and the brother of Kaitlyn Bendick. His grandparents are that decision. He received a combined undergraduate son-in-law, James Brim, broth- Donald and Carole Bendick of Winston-Salem, NC, and Personals

Obituaries and medical degree from New York University and NYU er-in-law, Henri Nibur, and Helen Dzuranin and the late John Dzuranin of Hazleton, Medical School in 1946, while serving in the U.S. Army, sister-in-law, Pearl Nibur. PA. Jacob is an Honor Student at Cutler Middle School marrying Janet Nibur in July 1943, and starting a fam- Funeral services were held in Mystic. He is the family athlete. He’s a 3-time all-star rd ily. After graduation and completing his residency, he 29, 2015, in the Chapel of the in Mystic Little League, where he pitches, plays 3 base, returned to his hometown, the Hartford area, in 1948. Weinstein Mortuary, Hartford, and short stop. Jacob also enjoys playing basketball in He opened a medical general practice in Hartford, and he later - the Groton Basketball Associa- specialized full time in anesthesia at Mount Sinai Hospital. After ciating. Interment followed in tion. With Pop-pop Donald’s en- serving in the Navy for two years, Norm returned to the Hart- withthe Beth Rabbi Israel Dena Cemetery, Shaffer Jack offi- couragement, he is also starting ford area in 1957, and to Mount Sinai Hospital where he became son St. Ext., Avon. A memorial to pick up golf. the chief of the Anesthesia Department and later, the chief of the period was observed Tuesday Jacob’s love for baseball was following the interment on ways. He retired in 1988. Wednesday at his home, 21 where he collected used base- MedicalNorm Staff. also lovedHis patients the thrill praised of sports. his intelligence From childhood, and his he caring was Tanglewood Road, West Hart- reflected in his Mitzvah Project, a fabulous tennis player, captaining the Hartford High state ford. charity called Pitch In for Base- champions. While in the Navy, he played on a baseball team and - ballball. and During softball the past equipment little league for a stunned his son with how much better he was than his younger rial contributions may be season, Jacob collected dozens teammates. For a long time, Norm was an avid bowler, but then madeIn lieu to the of National flowers, memoKidney of bats, balls, and gloves, as well he discovered golf which became a passion. He became a good Foundation, 30 East 33rd St., as several sets of catchers gear, golfer, but would often comment how much better he would New York, NY 10016, or to the helmets, and cleats. Jacob and have been if he had started at a younger age. After retiring to American Heart Association, 5 Sean are completing the project Boca Raton, Fla., he was able to play golf year round. Brookside Drive, PO Box 5022, But most of all, Norm loved his family. He traveled around the Wallingford, CT 06492, or to a world with Jan. He played golf with his wife and children, as well charity of the donor’s choice . byof Philadelphia, driving the equipment PA, where toit willthe as tennis and bowling, and watched his children’s games and ac- To sign the guest book for charity’sbe distributed headquarters to communities outside tivities. And he would patiently teach his children late at night, Dr. Zeldis, please visit online in need. trying to get them to understand important mathematics and at www.weinsteinmortuary. science principles. His mantra to all was, “if you can’t do some- com/funerals.cfm.h CONT. FROM PAGE 2 thing right, don’t do it at all.” Most memorable was a month long Weinstein Mortuary, 860 MENTION trip across the country in the company of Henri’s (his brother- Farmington Ave., Hartford, liked Disney’s version of the movie even though he changed the in-law) family with a camp trailer hitched to his Nash Rambler handled the funeral arrange- book...he referred to it as DISNEY’S BAMBI. In the article, there trying to climb the mountains before the Rambler broke down. ments. are suggestions of interpretations of Salten’s animal stories as Norm will be missed by all who knew him. He leaves his chil- allegories of the Jewish experience, including Zionism and even dren, Martin Zeldis of Waterford, Lillian Gorfain and her hus- HEIDI ASTOR Nazism...and you thought this was a children’s book! http:// band, Barry, of Preston and Venice, Fla., Kenneth Zeldis and his GUSTAFSON jewishreviewofbooks.com/articles/618/bambis-jewish- wife, Alice, of Pennington, N.J., and Susan Brim of San Diego, Ca- roots/eee Plandome, NY -- Hedi Astor - Gustafson passed away after a ory of my brother-in-law, Robert Patkin of New Hampshire, short illness on September 22, husband And finally,to Mark’s I would sister like Linda, to dedicate who passed this column away the to theday mem after 2015. Yom Kippur and after a two year cancer battle. I doubt many of She was the beloved wife to you knew him, unless you were among the lucky few to attend Carl, devoted mother to Jenni- our wedding and later our sons’ B’nei Mitzvot. Bob was a vo- fer and Isaac, and loving sister racious reader, always with a book in his hand. Many a time he to Michael and Carl Astor. Hedi’s funeral took place at to read, and he read everything--he was a stamp collector and The Reconstructionist Syna- wouldmanaged disappear to turn his from hobby a family into a get-togetherbusiness, so his to ainterests quiet corner were gogue of the North Shore, lo- cated at in Plandome, NY (near history, mysteries, paperbacks, heavy tomes and everything in Port Washington) on Friday, varied.between. He My read library fiction, background non-fiction, gave science us a lot fiction, to discuss. biographies, He will Sept. 25. be missed. May his memory be a blessing. Those wishing to send mes- Chuck and Romana Primus, Owners sages of condolence to Carl and Sharon in writing can reach them in Scarsdale at: 45 Popham Road, Apt. 5-L, Scars- dale, NY 10583. Donations can be made to 136 Sachem Street Amyloidosis Research Foun- dation or to a charity of the Memorial Norwich CT 06360 donor’s choice. 860-889-2374 Come in! We’d like to meet you! Fax 860-886-2396 Remember to send in 475 Broad St., New London CT • 860-443-CITY your subscription THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 15 TEDDY WEINBERGER Death of my therapist © 2015, Teddy Weinberger n August 17 my therapist Dr. Charles (“Chuck”) cide which tools to incorporate into their life. versations with Chuck Frederick Lawe passed away in Atlanta at the age Among the tools that Chuck and I worked on replaced conventional of 73. He was diagnosed with multiple myeloma were psycho-drama, meditation, and muscle- therapy. Chuck always in December 2002 and had battled it ever since. told me “every therapy Chuck was my therapist when I was a graduate student at Emory abilities and writing became crucial in my ther- has a shelf life,” and a UniversityO in the mid and late 1980’s. When I left Atlanta in relaxation.apy. He wasn’t Chuck afraid identified to give me my homework, strong writing and few years ago I was de- 1991 with my wife and family, I continued to be in touch with he assigned me several books on rational think- bating whether or not to Chuck. Along the way he became my friend but he always re- ing. A few months into my therapy, I asked that return to therapy. Dif- mained my therapist. I divide my life into BC we close each session with a ferent issues had come and AC: Before Chuck and After Chuck. hug. And so we did. Chuck up in my life and I sensed that I needed some Why was Chuck such a wonderful thera- sensed that for various rea- more therapy. But I also felt that going back pist? Because he was not interested in tracing sons I needed this hug from into therapy might signal some kind of failure the complete history and origins of the prob- him, and as was typical of on my part. Chuck didn’t see it this way. He e- lems you presented to him--he was interested him, he was open to it. mailed me back saying that not getting therapy in how you can improve things in the here and In the 24 years since I left if I needed it would be the failure on my part. now. Chuck worked to give you the tools to im- Atlanta, it was important to In 2006 Chuck was awarded Emory Univer- prove your well being. me to be in touch with Chuck That was a key to Chuck’s success: working (if that was “dependency,” Lifetime Achievement Award. I am extremely with you--not just listening and interjecting then so be it). My conversa- sity’sproud Office of the of fact Campus that I Life was Helen instrumental W. Jenkins in the occasional “tell me more about that,” and tions with Chuck, sometimes Chuck’s getting this recognition. But what mat- certainly not dictating solutions to you, but lasting close to two hours, tered to Chuck about the award? He told me: working with you. That was very empowering. were an unusual mixture “What touched me most was not the award it- Chuck never pretended to have all the answers of therapy and friendship self but that somewhere in the world there was nor did he present himself as a human being (as Chuck would say “we’ve someone who thought enough about me to do without struggles. He allowed me to ask him broken all the rules”). Chuck something like this.” That was Chuck. A real helped me through my chil- mensch. I loved him and I miss him. being who deals honestly with his own issues. It was up to me, in dren’s adolescence (for one remarkable period personalpart through questions my work and with they Chuck, revealed to deala human with my own. we had 5 teenagers in the house), and through *** A hallmark of therapy with Chuck was his willingness to various personal and professional challenges. Dear Reader: I would not trouble you with Because of his cancer he had to retire from Em- my personal therapeutic record but for one im- of tools to help themselves. It was then up to the client to de- ory in 2007 and I imagine that I was his only portant reason: I learned from Chuck that you try different approaches and to provide clients with a variety regular “patient” over the past 8 years. actually can be helped in therapy, that it can RUSSIAN/IRAN LINK CONT. FROM PAGE 12 Chuck would give me updates about his ill- - ness and the various (often experimental) treat- you have “issues” (and who doesn’t), get your- terminding terrorism. Shortly thereafter, Putin began shipping ments he was undergoing at Emory’s Winship makeself to a tremendous a good therapist, difference set some in your goals, life. andSo if Putintanks, in armored flagrant personnel violation ofcarriers, an international and more travel to Syria. ban That for mas was Cancer Institute. He was sometimes in pain start working on them. when we spoke but he was never down on life How will you know if your therapist is ap- base. or angry at his cancer. One of Chuck’s mottos propriate for you? Because within a relatively followedThe White by fighter House jetscriticized and an the emergent Russian moves, Russian-manned but has most air was “life doesn’t owe me anything.” It is not short period of time you will be better and have recently given Putin leeway. Right before Obama’s eyes, a three- considered gracious to have a sense of entitle- made noticeable progress towards achieving way military axis – comprising Russia, Iran, and Assad’s Hezbol- ment but most of us do. Chuck did not. your goals. If this doesn’t happen, don’t give up lah proxy – audaciously manifested itself. I was never under the illusion that my con- on therapy, but do get a new therapist. WEAR PINK withThe Moscow fact that possible. Iran is finally Russia, off let’s the not American/Western forget, is Iran’s primary nuclear CONT. FROM PAGE 10 AUTO | HOME | COMMERCIAL | MARINE hookweapons and purveyoris flushed andwith builder cash made of its this nuclear unabashed facilities. partnership It made Persian women and their sure that Iran would be treated indulgently during the recent nuclear negotiations. daughters,” Prof. Peretz notes, In all, Iran is emboldened as never before and Putin is heart- “because it enables a physi- Levine Insurance Group LLC ened by Obama’s phlegmatic response. One superpower – Amer- cian to diagnose the cancer at an early stage.” Andrew J. Levine ica – appears in retreat, whereas a reawakening Russia regains prominence. Hadassah’s Marlene Green- ebaum Multidisciplinary Diag- 221 Boston Post Rd. 860-739-4444 Office leaders include Moscow – Israel’s Benjamin Netanyahu is only nostic Breast Center provides P.O. Box 339 860-739-6861 Fax patients with the most sophis- one.The Also itineraries traveling to of Moscow a significant are potentates number offrom Middle such unlikely Eastern East Lyme, CT 06333 [email protected] ally countries as Saudi Arabia, Kuwait, Qatar, the UAE, Morocco, ticated diagnostic technology Jordan, and of course Egypt, which was unaccountably jilted by and care. This Center, located Obama. at Hadassah University Hospi- Putin even plans a visit to Riyadh. All this speaks volumes. - The danger to Israel isn’t only that Iran can now openly be- rael, and its research programs come a key player in Syria, but that aggression will be indirectly tal-Ein Kerem, is unique in Is funded by the resources the US has consented to release and by world. Founded in 1995, it has the vast business opportunities it steers to Tehran. Those funds, benefithelped women more than all around 4,000 the pa- combined with unimpeded Russian ambition will thus not only tients to identify their genetic help ensure Assad’s survival, but will also allow the further arm- risks for cancer. ing of Hezbollah and Hamas. Netanyahu’s conversation with Putin last week dealt not only Make sure you’ve with military coordination regarding Russia’s actions in Syria, paid your pledge but also with Israel’s warning that it cannot allow a massively to the JFEC reinforced Hezbollah menace on its doorstep in Lebanon. 16 THE JEWISH LEADER, OCTOBER 9, 2015 Schechter enrollment up and there’s a buzz at the school By Barbara Wolfe, Head of School Liora Zeevi, both of whom he sounds of little feet and laughter have returned are Israeli, have embellished to Solomon Schechter Academy as the school opened our Judaic program, bring- its 42nd year. With enrollment up by over 25% from ing Hebrew and Israel closer last year, there is a genuine excitement in the air. You to home. And speaking of Is- could feel it when the children shared their Selichot messages; rael, along with the rest of the Twhen the kindergarteners watched their caterpillars change into eastern Connecticut Jewish community, we are fortunate it when students sang their 911 Community Helpers song to our to have Amit and Sagi join us chrysalisesNew London and Fire then Fighters. into beautiful butterflies; and you could feel as our new young emissar- ies. Our new art teacher, Leah secular teachers, Judy Spitz and Dianne Zimmer have returned LeCara, has already launched a to Additionally do what they exciting, do best, many motivate staff theirhave returned. students forOur learning.long time - Ada Filippetti returns as well, wearing several hats including ect, an introduction to color Physical Education Teacher. Betsy Sharack can also be seen lovetheory of art through with her watercolors. first proj around the school enhancing our library and reading program. Our Pre-K program, led by Music, always emphasized at SSA, includes our beloved Marcia Jennifer Zettler, has already Reinhard as well as Karen Navarre, an SSA kindergarten teacher begun their exploring to build from years past. a lifelong love of learning. It is We are fortunate to have Rabbi Rachel Safman, not only as with pride I have hired Erica our Rabbi and Advisor this year, but also as a Judaic teacher and Weiner, a previous SSA student ty to make personal contacts with each student and family this parent. Lastly, the one who holds it all together for us, Vicki Se- of mine, to join us this year as summer by doing home visits. I listened to parents and children share their hopes and dreams for themselves and for the school. What would we do without her?! As the new incoming Head I found great support from them as I shared my vision of a vi- roussi,Our our new Business/Office faculty brings Manager various expertises. has returned Ella to Sackettus this year. and ourof School, After School I had anstaff. opportuni- brant and growing SSA.

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