Love, Lust & Other Stuff SO, ’RE THINKING ABOUT A THREESOME... It’s his biggest fantasy. And everyone wants to be bold and curious in bed, right? But before you add a threesome to your bedroom bucket list, check out the experiences of these five readers. It’s not always as easy as it looks in the movies. As told to Annie Daly

I had a ‘‘threesome to ‘‘ please my boyfriend. “I’d been dating this guy, Tom*, for a month when he mentioned during pillow talk that we should ‘have a friend over.’ I wasn’t feeling it, but after he begged for five months, I caved. I felt guilty about depriving him of what he wanted and didn’t want to be a bad girl- friend. On the day we’d planned a threesome with his friend Katie, I got my period, and since Tom was anti–period sex, I knew I wouldn’t be getting any…but he didn’t want to reschedule. At his place with Katie, we had wine and all started kissing. That was fine, but when the two of them started having sex, I felt so jealous that I pulled her off him and went down on her, just to stop them. It was weird. When it Who wouldn’t was over, I felt degraded, like Tom get cold feet had forced me into it, so soon after, before a I dumped him. Now, I’m engaged to threesome? a guy who respects me. He says he’d love to see me with a woman, but we know a threesome could hurt GETTYIMAGES us, so we’re keeping it a fantasy.”

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‘‘a threesome I had a threesome with the hot guy from college.

‘‘ while I ‘‘ “In college, I hung out a lot with her. Pete saw my post and texted just got it. They’d planned to have a still in front of me, and I tried to Dave and his hairy arms. He the boys in the lacrosse frater- me—he lived in NYC, and did I threesome with me ahead of time! I give him a blow job…but it didn’t hadn’t finished yet, but I couldn’t was studying nity. I started hooking up with want to hang out? Um, yes! I thought, Pete would be one to have work out. I was too far away from deal. I felt gross, like, What the one of them, Pete, and it was the equated him with amazing sex, so a threesome. Then—he’s hot, and him to do it right, and I couldn’t f*ck am I doing here? So I stood up abroad. best sex I’d ever had. Pete had a I was excited. That Saturday night, I’ll try anything once. It could be exactly scoot up closer since Pete and said, “This is weird. I don’t reputation for being a little slimy, he texted me to come to his friend really sexy, so why not? We all was inside me from behind. So want to be here.” A switch went off “When I was in college, I studied abroad for a but he was so hot in bed that I Dave’s place. Pete greeted me with headed into Dave’s bedroom, and I basically, I was trapped face-to- in my head and I thought, I’m semester in Stockholm. One night, I went to a didn’t care. We hooked up all a kiss at the door, and as we were started making out with Pete. We penis with the hairiest dude ever. better than this. So I ran out club and met this tall, hot guy named Jed, and through out senior year, and then making out, Dave popped up took off our clothes, and Dave stood Not sexy! I felt like I was on a without saying good-bye. That was he introduced me to his bald (but still cute!) we graduated and lost touch. behind us, so we stopped. He in front of me, with Pete behind. cruise ship where everything is five years ago. I chalk up the friend Adam. Jed and I exchanged numbers, “A couple of years later, I went creeped me out right away—he had Dave started playing with my moving all around but you have experience to being young, bold, and the following Saturday, he invited me to to visit a friend overly hairy arms and this look in boobs, Pete started touching me no control. and curious, but it made me feel over to Adam’s place. It happened to be my and wrote on her Facebook wall his eyes like he had an evil plan. I down there, and then we started to “Finally, Pete finished and left debased and disrespected. I know birthday, so I went out with my friends first that I was excited to come see looked at Dave, then at Pete, and I have sex doggie-style. Dave was to go wash up, leaving me with now that I deserve more.” and headed there afterward (I gave a friend their info so she’d know where I was). Jed made cranberry vodkas, and the three of us sipped them and talked on the couch. After an ‘‘ hour, Adam left the room, and Jed leaned in to kiss me. Then, boom—he pulled me into What Do Adam’s room, and we started having sex. You Think About ‘‘ Just like that. I thought it was kind of weird Threesomes? Cocktails With I had a threesome that he brought me into his friend’s bed to do Call into it, but I was so wrapped up in the moment I had a threesome with , on Cosmo Radio (SiriusXM Patrick ‘‘ (and him!) that I didn’t focus on that. Ten Channel 109), on Wednesday, with my best girlfriend. minutes in, Adam appeared in the doorway… March 6, at 4 p.m. the girl I’d been crushing on. ET, to share your thoughts… naked. I realized they wanted to have a or your juicy story. “During my senior year of college, I lived “In the morning, Brian left early. When threesome, and I thought, It’s your birthday. off-campus with my best friend Kate, I saw Kate in the hallway, she stared at me You’re abroad to expand your horizons. Do it! who was hooking up with this guy, Brian. and said, ‘Let’s not tell anyone…promise?’ “I’m bisexual, and when I was a dress with tights and high touched Maggie as I was going So I did. Jed and I had sex while Adam ‘‘ One night in October, I came home drunk I said fine. But here’s where the story watched. Then Adam kissed me, and he and I freshman in college, I had a heels and purple cotton undies down on him. Then Maggie got and found Kate in her room, also a little intensifies: Brian began sneaking into my started having sex while Jed touched me and major crush on this cute, reddish- with lace trim. When I got to on top of Tim, and they had sex. I tipsy, and we started chatting. A couple room late at night to hook up with me after whispered sexy things in my ear. After we blonde-haired girl named Maggie’s apartment, the vibe was knew this would happen, of of minutes later, Brian walked in from the he’d already slept with Kate. And at the were done, we all lay there in bed, cracking Maggie. Unfortunately, Maggie a little awkward, so we started course, but I hadn’t fully bathroom. He said, ‘Oh, I guess I should time, I was okay with it. I thought I just up, before we dozed off. I felt wild but not bad had a boyfriend, Tim. They were drinking beers and made small prepared for how much it would go…,’ but we told him he could stay. wanted sex, but soon after, he told me he for what I’d done. And I found myself really both friends with my two talk about our classes. Finally, hurt to watch them. I felt Then, the three of us just started making wanted to date me. Hearing that made me liking Jed. roommates, so one night, Maggie Tim said, ‘You guys ready?’ I said, crushed. I kept thinking, Why out. It was one of those drunken things. realize that maybe I liked him too. Later “When I woke up in the morning, Jed was and Tim were over at my place, ‘Yeah, of course,’ trying to seem can’t that be me with her? “Kate and I had kissed in the past— that night at a party, Brian drunkenly told gone, so Adam and I got up and he made just alcohol-fueled kisses at parties, Kate: ‘We need to break up. I was only and the three of us were drinking cool but actually freaking. “After they finished, that was coffee and ham-and-cheese sandwiches. nothing meaningful. But this time, we dating you to get to your roommate.’ Not it. No sex for me. We headed back Around noon, I began to get antsy without Jed vodka Red Bulls and watching “When we got to the bedroom, were in the moment, so things escalated. sur prisingly, she told me she couldn’t trust there, so I texted him to see where he’d gone, TV. All of a sudden, Tim turned Maggie and I perched on her bed out into the living room, turned We all took off our clothes, and Brian me anymore or be my friend, and she and he said he’d left to do an early errand. I to me and said, ‘So, would you be and started taking off each on the TV, and had some more turned into the leader. He instructed Kate never spoke to me again. Meanwhile, hugged Adam good-bye and left. Later, Jed interested in having a threesome other’s clothes, while Tim beers. Eventually, they went to to lie down on the bed and had me go Brian continued coming over—he just texted me: ‘Last night was fun.’ I was happy to with us? We want to mix it up a watched in the chair next to us. I bed, and I fell asleep on their down on her. I’d never done it before, but ignored Kate. She and I lived in silence hear from him. I wrote back, ‘Yeah, it was bit.’ My immediate reaction was got down to my underwear, couch. I woke up at five in the I decided to just go for it. It was awkward through the end of the year. definitely interesting…,’ and we texted shock—I’d never had a threesome Maggie stripped down entirely, morning and left. I felt miserable and Kate got uncomfortable, so I “I dated Brian for two years. We broke throughout the week. The following Saturday, before. But I said yes because I’d and we started making out. It and cried the whole day. Maggie stopped. Brian told Kate and me to up recently because I moved away, and he Jed and I agreed to meet up again at the club get to hook up with Maggie! We was great, other than the fact and Tim broke up six months switch positions, and then she went didn’t want to do the long-distance thing. I where we’d met. Adam came too. It wasn’t down on me. It didn’t take long for her to lost most of my college friends over this made a date for the next Saturday that her boyfriend was sitting later—apparently, their awkward—we just didn’t mention our get uncomfortable again, and she left the situation—they couldn’t understand how connection fizzled. I never made escapade—but I did spend the whole night night at Maggie’s apartment. there watching. After a while, room. In the heat of the moment, Brian I could do that to Kate. In retrospect, I feel making out with Jed. After that, Jed and I “I spent hours picking out my Tim sat down on the other side of a move on Maggie though. I took her place, and he and I started horrible about it. It was such a careless started dating exclu sively (Adam under- outfit, especially my Maggie and took off his pants. eventually got over my crush, but having sex. When Kate got back and saw thing to do. I don’t expect to be forgiven, stood), but we broke up when I left Sweden. underwear—I wanted to impress Maggie gave him a hand job, then it still hurts to think back on how us, Brian got up, and I felt weird and told but I know in my heart that I’ll never do My conclusion? Euro peans are amazing. Maggie. I settled on a sweater I gave him a blow job, and he vulnerable I felt that night.” them that I was going to bed. something like that again.” They are so open and nonjudgmental, which is exactly what I needed from my first threesome. I don’t regret it at all.”

168 COSMOPOLITAN | March 2013 *Names have been changed.