Proverbs; Song of Songs

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Wisdom is a Person with whom we can have a relationship.

People want to succeed in life. In the Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and workplace, relationships, finances—in every the life. No one comes to the Father except area of life—they crave success. This drive to through me” (John 14:6). He is waiting for thrive inevitably draws them to quick fixes you now. and easy steps. They seek advice from TV talk shows, books, or the Internet to help them • A dmit to God that you are a sinner. live life well. Repent, turning away from your sin. What we know from the Bible, however, is • By faith receive Jesus Christ as God’s Son that the wisdom needed for living life well and accept Jesus’ gift of forgiveness from comes not from quick tips and easy steps; sin. He took the penalty for your sin by true wisdom is a Person with whom we can dying on the cross. have a relationship. • Co nfess your faith in Jesus Christ as The Book of Proverbs is about becoming wise Savior and Lord. You may pray a prayer in everyday life. It reveals God’s principles similar to this as you call on God to save for successful living. The theme of the book you: “Dear God, I know that You love me. is stated in this way: “The fear of the Lord I confess my sin and need of salvation. is the beginning of knowledge” (Prov. 1:7). I turn away from my sin and place my faith This means wisdom has a starting point. It in Jesus as my Savior and Lord. In Jesus’ begins with a personal relationship with God. name I pray, amen.” The Bible speaks of Jesus as “the wisdom of After you have received Jesus Christ into God” (1 Cor. 1:24). Thus, coming to a saving your life, tell a pastor or another Christian knowledge of God through the person of Jesus about your decision. Show others your faith Christ is the beginning of a life well lived. in Christ by asking for baptism by immersion in your local church as a public expression of your faith.

FEATURES A Life Well Lived ...... 2 Writers ...... 4 From the Team Leader ...... 5 Two Ways to Use QuickSource ...... 6 Introduction to Proverbs; Song of Songs ...... 8 Outlines of Proverbs; Song of Songs ...... 10 6 Ways to Invest in the Next Generation ...... 63 Coming Next Quarter...... 66 Map: Solomon’s Economic Enterprises ...... 67

SESSIONS

SUGGESTED FOR Title Page THE WEEK OF

June 7 Session 1: Charted Waters* (Prov . 1:7-19) ...... 11

June 14 Session 2: Direction Offered (Prov . 3:1-12) ...... 15

June 21 Session 3: Compassion Demonstrated (Prov . 3:21-35) ...... 19

June 28 Session 4: The Choice (Prov . 4:11-27) ...... 23

July 5 Session 5: Following God’s Design (Prov . 5:3-11,15-18) ...... 27

July 12 Session 6: Pursuing Wisdom (Prov . 8:6-21) ...... 31

July 19 Session 7: Living Wisely (Prov . 14:8-15) ...... 35

July 26 Session 8: Pleasing God (Prov . 15:33–16:11) ...... 39

August 2 Session 9: Staying Sober (Prov . 23:17-21,29-35) ...... 43

August 9 Session 10: Accepting Discipline (Prov . 29:1-3,12-20) ...... 47

August 16 Session 11: Finding Honor (Prov . 31:10-16,23-31) ...... 51

August 23 Session 12: Relational Foundations (Song of Sg . 2:15–3:5) ...... 55

August 30 Session 13: Relational Investment (Song of Sg . 5:6-16) ...... 59

*Evangelistic Emphasis

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The decision was made to serve donuts on the shuttle vans. The church used off- campus parking and needed to encourage people to park there, so donuts seemed to be a simple solution. The only problem was that parents began dropping their kids off in the remote parking lot so the kids could grab a donut but the parents proceeded to follow the van in their cars and park in the crowded church parking lot.

Someone observed what was happening and offered some wisdom—serve coffee on the shuttle van instead. Parents began dropping their kids off at the church and then enjoyed a few moments of peace and some coffee while riding the shuttle from the remote lot. We live in a world that may seem simple at times, but the simple is often what makes it so complex. This is true in part because we live in a system where everything is connected. One decision impacts others, having a ripple effect. Systems theory refers to this as simplexity, and this simplexity points to our need for wisdom.

Some people seek out professional analysts to help them navigate this world while others turn to their trusted friends and mentors. Solomon discovered that the only place to go when trying to figure out this simplex world was to the One who created it in the first place. Solomon recorded the wisdom God revealed to him in Proverbs and Song of Songs. Learning from these Bible books helps us fulfill Paul’s directive to live as wise people (Eph. 5:15).

As we study Proverbs and Song of Songs, we will discover the wisdom of God and principles for living in ways that please our Creator. Not everything we discover will be easy nor will it be simple, but it will be right.

May God grant us a glimpse of His wisdom and give us courage to act on what we discover. Dwayne McCrary Team Leader, Adult Explore the Bible

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Two Ways to Use QuickSource 7 © 2020 LifeWay Christian Resources INTRODUCTION TO PROVERBS; SONG OF SONGS When God created human beings, He designed us to live in relationship—relationship with Him but also with one another. Marriage is a crucial relationship, but there are other vital relationships as well. Our relationship with God is paramount. It shapes all the others. The Books of Proverbs and Song of Songs provide divine instructions for acceptable, meaningful conduct in these various relationships.

WISDOM LITERATURE In the Hebrew Scriptures (the Old Testament), both Proverbs and Song of Songs are included in the category of divinely inspired wisdom literature. Wisdom may be defined as the appropriate application of knowledge. Awareness that a light socket contains electrical current is knowledge. Keeping one’s finger out of that socket to avoid being shocked exemplifies a basic level of wisdom. Inserting a light bulb into the socket to illuminate the darkness is a higher level of wisdom. During the Old Testament era, people perceived that wisdom existed on three distinct levels. The basic level included having a skill or a certain ability. Training and experience could help an individual attain such wisdom. The work of those who supervised the tabernacle’s construction is an example of such expertise (see Ex. 31:1-3; 36:1-2). A second level of Old Testament wisdom involved living a productive and generally successful life. Such wisdom was practical and realistic, often centered on maintaining honest, fair, and humble relationships with others. Royal administrations and the households of other wealthy families hired professional wisdom teachers to educate their children, particularly young males, in the ways of wisdom. Many proverbs (ancient and modern) fall into this category. A third category of wisdom focused on the profound issues of human existence—good and evil, human suffering, life’s meaning and purpose, and so forth. Whereas on the second level of wisdom one might ask what to do in a specific situation, on the third level one questioned why the circumstance existed. The Book of Job is an example of this category.

DATE AND AUTHORSHIP OF PROVERBS In the Hebrew Bible, the title of the book is “The Proverbs of Solomon.” This doesn’t imply, however, that King Solomon wrote the entire book. While he was the primary author (see 1:1; 10:1; 25:1), smaller sections of the book are attributed to a group known as “the wise” (see 22:17; 24:23a), a man named Agur (30:1), and a king known as Lemuel (31:1). These additional names may suggest that some proverbs came from different periods of Israel’s history.

8 Explore the Bible | QuickSource © 2020 LifeWay Christian Resources Clearly Solomon played a major role in the production of the biblical book. Under his leadership the wisdom movement in Israel reached new heights. According to 1 Kings 4:32, Solomon wrote 3,000 proverbs, most if not all of which are probably included in the Book of Proverbs. He likely collected proverbs as well, some of which were quite old even in his day. For example, Bible scholars date some of the “words of the wise” (22:17– 23:22) to as early as the second millennium BC. The present form of the overall book, however, cannot be older than the time of King Hezekiah of Judah, who ruled from 729 to 686 BC (see Prov. 25:1).

PURPOSE AND THEME OF PROVERBS Proverbs originally was used to educate the young men in Israelite wisdom schools. They were taught to fear God and to avoid evil as a basis for living. This purpose was reflected in Proverbs 1:1-7. Specific teachings from the book cover numerous facets of human life: wealth and poverty, good and evil, family and friends, pride and humility, justice and inequity, gluttony and drunkenness, and others.

Proverbs provides a godly worldview and practical insight for life. Its themes remain relevant in the modern world. Its application is beneficial for men and women, young and old. The primary theme of the Book of Proverbs, as revealed in 1:7 and 9:10, is that true knowledge and wisdom begin with a right relationship with God—“the fear of the Lord.” That relationship is the key for anyone to live a full, successful, and meaningful life.

DATE AND AUTHORSHIP OF SONG OF SONGS The first verse of the text associates the poem with King Solomon. However, the verse can mean either that Solomon is the song’s author or its subject (or perhaps both). We know from 1 Kings 4:32 that Solomon composed not only thousands of proverbs but also more than a thousand songs. Hence, there’s no overwhelming reason to rule out Solomon’s authorship of the song, which would place the song’s date in the tenth century BC.

INTERPRETING SONG OF SONGS Song of Songs has been interpreted in various ways. One ancient tradition viewed the book as an allegory of the love between the Lord and His people, Israel. A more recent form of this interpretation applies the allegory to Christ’s love for the church. While the apostle Paul also used the husband-wife analogy to describe Christ’s relationship to the church (see Eph. 5:22-33), the allegorical interpretation of Song of Songs in this way doesn’t seem likely.

A more likely interpretation is the view that Song of Songs is a love song about a groom (Solomon) and his bride. Thus, it provides a wonderful description of God’s design for the marriage relationship and thereby a model for better understanding the New Testament’s analogy of the church as the bride of Christ.

I. Solomon’s Exhortations and Warnings (1:1–9:18) A. Contrast between wisdom and riches (1:1–3:20) B. Praise of wisdom, love, and worthy conduct (3:21–4:27) C. Warnings against lust, idleness, and deceit (5:1–7:27) D. A portrayal of wisdom (8:1–9:18)

II. Solomon’s Proverbs (10:1–29:27) A. Collected proverbs (10:1–22:16) B. Thirty sayings of the wise (22:17–24:22) C. More sayings of the wise (24:23-34) D. Hezekiah’s collection (25:1–29:27)

III. Other Proverbs (30:1–31:31) A. Words of Agur (30:1-33) B. Words of Lemuel (31:1-9) C. Praise of a capable wife (31:10-31)

OUTLINE OF SONG OF SONGS

I. Their Story Begins (1:2–2:7)

II. Invitation to Enjoy a Spring Day (2:6-17)

III. Night of Separation Preceding Wedding (3:1-5)

IV. Wedding Day and Night (3:6–5:1)

V. Night of separation following wedding night (5:2–7:9)

VI. Invitation to Enjoy a Spring Day (7:10–8:4)

VII. Their Story Complete (8:3-14)

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PROVERBS 1:7-19 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

7 The fear of the Lord A Includes awe, reverence, respect, worship, trust, is the beginning of knowledge; commitment, obedience, submission, and love—all qualities of a right relationship with God . Lord refers fools despise wisdom and discipline. to the personal name Yahweh, God of the covenant . 8 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction, and don’t reject your mother’s teaching, B God possesses knowledge (Ps . 139:6; Prov . 3:20) 9 for they will be a garland of favor on your head and gives it to people (Prov . 2:6) . and pendants around your neck. C Fools “hate knowledge” (Prov . 1:22) and correction 10 My son, if sinners entice you, (12:1; 15:5), think they know everything (12:15), love don’t be persuaded. quarreling (20:3), and openly express anger (29:11) . 11 If they say—“Come with us! Let’s set an ambush and kill someone. D True wisdom comes from knowing God (Jas . 1:5), trusting Him, and turning from sin (Job 28:20-28) . Let’s attack some innocent person just for fun! 12 Let’s swallow them alive, like Sheol, E Moral instruction that warns of consequences for whole, like those who go down to the Pit. or lovingly corrects sinful actions 13 We’ll find all kinds of valuable property F “Forsake” (ESV); “neglect” (NLT) . and fill our houses with plunder. 14 Throw in your lot with us, G “Law” (KJV) . Torah in Hebrew . Here the word and we’ll all share the loot”— refers to parental teachings based on God’s laws 15 my son, don’t travel that road with them that provide children moral guidelines and direction . or set foot on their path, H Symbols of obedience; listening to biblical 16 because their feet run toward evil teaching “will gain you many honors” (TLB) . and they hurry to shed blood. 17 It is useless to spread a net I To tempt or persuade to do evil where any bird can see it, J “Without cause” (NASB) . 18 but they set an ambush to kill themselves; they attack their own lives. K Both words symbolize death . 19 Such are the paths of all who make profit dishonestly; L Referring to a person’s lifestyle and life direction it takes the lives of those who receive it. M “Fall into their own traps” (NCV) .

N In Mark 8:36, Jesus said, “For what does it benefit someone to gain the whole world and yet lose his life?”

NOTES

1. STARTING POINT (Prov. 1:7) • Solomon declared that fearing God is the starting point for acquiring knowledge, wisdom, and discipline .

2. PATH OF OBEDIENCE (Prov. 1:8-9) • Solomon called on young people to heed godly parental counsel, explaining that obedience to God’s wisdom leads to favor in life .

3. RESIST SIN (Prov. 1:10-14) • Solomon urged God’s people to resist temptations to go along with those who love violence and greed .

4. SIN’S RESULTS (Prov. 1:15-19) • Solomon characterized rebelling against godly wisdom as self- destructive with the participants unable to see the end result .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God’s Word warns us of the consequences of foolish choices. • True wisdom starts with a right relationship with God . • Obedience to godly counsel leads to favor in life . • Wise believers resist the pressure to engage in wicked activities . • Ignoring godly wisdom leads to self-destruction .

FOCUS ATTENTION PROVERBS 1:10-14 Who is someone you often turn to for advice? Why? What do the sinners in these verses offer as enticement? • We look to people we respect for advice—preferably those • The sinners not only offer riches and wealth, but they also offer who have successfully navigated situations similar to the ones community and friendship . we’re facing . • Notice the repeated use of “we” and “us” throughout and the • Our lives can feel like uncharted waters, but this is God’s world . community implied in verse 14 . God designed it, created it, and rules it . What sins are these verses warning against? How do • We can trust God for advice on how to successfully navigate life you see this type of sinful mind-set at work today? no matter the situation . • Discuss areas where we may be tempted by greed, a love of • One way God speaks to us is through His Word . Proverbs violence, and enjoyment in seeing the downfall of others . These provides practical advice on how to navigate God’s world . might include business, media, and the entertainment industry . How does Christ offer true riches and true community? EXPLORE THE BIBLE • Christians are called to live in community with one another . PROVERBS 1:7 • Our community should be more desirable than that offered by What does it mean to fear the Lord? non-believers . • We must recognize God’s rule and reign . We approach Him with • As Christians, our treasures are stored in heaven . attitudes of submission, humility, reverence, and awe . • A Christian community helps us honor God . Why are these attitudes the starting point for acquiring knowledge, wisdom, and discipline? PROVERBS 1:15-19 • When we acknowledge the Lord as the good and wise Ruler of Compare the plans of the sinners in verses 11-12 with creation, we can trust Him as our Source of knowledge, wisdom, the actual results in verses 18-19. and discipline . • The sinners plan to ambush others but end up ambushing • True wisdom starts with a right relationship with God . themselves . PROVERBS 1:8-9 • Those who plan evil deeds bring eternal destruction on themselves, not on the innocent people they attack . What do these verses require of children? What do these Why can it be difficult for people to recognize the verses require of parents? self-destructive nature of their sin? How can we “Listen” and “don’t reject” call for more than hearing . These • avoid this trap? words imply a willingness to follow advice . • Thoughts and actions have consequences . Stay focused on • This proverb provides one practical way to follow God’s godly things . command to “Honor your father and your mother” (Ex . 20:12) . • Refer to 1 Peter 5:8: “Be sober-minded, be alert . Your adversary • This passage shows fathers and mothers working together to the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion, looking for instruct their children . anyone he can devour ”. How can these verses apply to spiritual children and • Heed godly advice, both from God’s Word and from God’s people . spiritual parents in a church body? Accountability partners can speak truth to our lives when we • As a church family, we’re brothers and sisters in Christ . • have trouble seeing the next right step to take . • However, just as Paul viewed Timothy as his “son in the faith” (1 Tim . 1:2), we can also parent those younger in the faith and SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE be parented by those who are older in the faith . How should a Christian’s definition of right and wrong • Call for volunteers to highlight such relationships in your church . be different from our culture’s? According to these verses, what are the results of • Wisdom is following God’s definition of right and wrong . heeding godly advice? • We can live as fools, following our own paths, or live wisely, • Following godly advice typically leads to favor in life . following God’s path . • However, proverbs aren’t promises or laws but rather sayings • Personal Challenge: Consider one decision you have been that illuminate general truths . trying to make, large or small . Spend time this week in prayer specifically for this decision . Ask God to give you guidance through the Holy Spirit and Scripture .

A NAVIGATION APP ON A SMARTPHONE Open the navigation app on your phone . Ask: Who used a navigation app to get here? Why or why not? Point out that while navigation apps often offer different routes, and some may be faster than others, everyone arrived at your location eventually . However, when it comes to navigating life, all routes don’t arrive at the same place . There are two paths: the way of wisdom and the way of folly . Ask: How do we know which path we’re following? Explain that we first need to find the right starting point . Sometimes when you turn on your navigation, it’s hard to tell whether you’re supposed to turn left or right out of the parking lot . You may know that you need to go north, but which way is north? interstate . Then, right after you pass that last opportunity to exit, Invite someone to read Proverbs 1:7 . Explain that a position of you come around the corner into the traffic jam and end up at a submission and humility before God is the correct starting point . dead stop . You weren’t heeding good advice . Once you get started, there’s still plenty of room for error though . Call on someone to read Proverbs 1:8-9 . Emphasize that staying Ask: What are some ways we get off the right path? on the right path requires listening and obeying . Ask: How will you Explain: Have you ever ignored your navigation’s recommendation discern the right path this week? to exit before running into a traffic jam? You’re going along at full God has all the information . He knows the path we should be speed down the interstate when your navigation tells you to take following . Let’s trust God to direct us . an alternate route . You don’t see any traffic ahead, so you make a decision based on what looks good to you and remain on the

DIG DEEPER

PARENTS, TEACH YOUR CHILDREN God chose Abraham “so that he will command [“teach” (CEV)] his bondage, preserved them in the wilderness, and enabled them to children and his house after him to keep the way of the Lord by take possession of the land He had promised (Deut . 6:20-25; Josh . doing what is right and just” (Gen . 18:19) . Then, God would fulfill 4:21-22) . Observing the Jewish feasts and festivals, such as Passover, His promises to Abraham . The Lord emphasized the duty of Israelite the Festival of Harvest, and the Festival of Booths, provided parents to teach their children: “These words that I am giving you teachable moments in the home as sons and daughters participated today are to be in your heart . Repeat them to your children . Talk in the preparations, anticipation, and excitement of these events about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along (Ex . 12:26-27; 13:7-8) . the road, when you lie down and when you get up” (Deut . 6:6-7) . Parents also taught children the Ten Commandments and Parents were to educate their children as a daily, ongoing experience . other laws . Understanding the law helped children know how to Fathers and mothers shared in the education of their children live and serve God . The primary purpose of this religious training (Prov . 1:8; 6:20) . Although fathers had the primary responsibility was character formation through instruction in righteousness for moral instruction, the mothers’ teaching had a great impact (Prov . 1:2-4) . Good character resulted from a right relationship (Prov . 31:1-9) . Mothers served as the main parental influence on all with God, reflected in “doing what is right and just” (Gen . 18:19; of their children until their sons reached the age of five or seven . Prov . 21:3) . From their mothers, boys and girls learned the stories of Israel’s Finally, parents helped their children learn life skills . Fathers heroes, instruction in ethics, and key passages of the law . The ruling taught their young sons a trade, usually their own vocation, such classes, officials, priests, and scribes often hired non-familyteachers . as carpentry, metal or stone work, agriculture, or fishing . Mothers Parents taught the history of their people, the Israelites . Children instructed their daughters in domestic skills expected of women, needed to learn how God had delivered them from Egyptian including baking, spinning, and weaving .

PROVERBS 3:1-12 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

1 My son, don’t forget my teaching, A The inner person—one’s mind, emotions, and will but let your heart keep my commands; B “For length of days and years of life” (NASB); 2 for they will bring you “a long and satisfying life” (TLB) . many days, a full life, and well-being. 3 Never let loyalty and faithfulness leave you. C “Peace” (ESV, NASB); “abundant welfare” (NRSV) . Tie them around your neck; D Metaphors emphasizing that children should write them on the tablet of your heart. cultivate faithful love as a part of their nature, 4 Then you will find favor and high regard inwardly and outwardly . with God and people. 5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, E Those who reflect faithful love “will be respected and will please both God and people” (NCV) . and do not rely on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways know him, F To rely on or have confidence in someone for help and he will make your paths straight. and protection, resulting in feeling safe and secure . 7 Don’t be wise in your own eyes; G “Insight” (NRSV) . One’s own intelligence fear the Lord and turn away from evil. and understanding of right and wrong are 8 This will be healing for oury body corrupted by sin . and strengthening for your bones. 9 Honor the Lord with your possessions H The person who knows God puts Him first, and with the first produce of your entire harvest; seeks His will, and submits to His authority in trust and obedience . 10 then your barns will be completely filled, and your vats will overflow with new wine. I Primarily spiritual “health” (NIV) and spiritual 11 Do not despise the Lord’s instruction, my son, “refreshment” (ESV, NASB) or “nourishment” (NIV) and do not loathe his discipline; for one’s inner being 12 for the Lord disciplines the one he loves, J Giving back to God some of the wealth He has just as a father disciplines the son in whom he delights. given; an act of worship showing gratitude to and trust in God

K An agricultural image meaning “the first fruits of all your crops (income)” (AMP)

L Containers used while pressing grapes into wine

M A warning not to reject or resent the Lord’s discipline or correction (Gen . 25:33-34)

NOTES

1. REMEMBER (Prov. 3:1-4) • Solomon called on God’s people to remember the commands He gave, pointing to the promise of long life to those who obey them . • Emphasize the commands being carried out as acts of love (the heart) . • Be careful not to imply that we won’t experience health issues if we practice godly wisdom . • In general, practicing godliness by living according to the Lord’s guidelines results in our being more sound mentally, morally, and physically, along with our spiritual well-being .

2. TRUST (Prov. 3:5-8) • Solomon challenged young Israelites to trust and acknowledge God . • This was in contrast to those who depend on their own understanding and wisdom .

3. HONOR (Prov. 3:9-10) • Solomon directed God’s people to honor God by presenting the first fruits to Him . • Solomon pointed out that God promises to provide for those who honor Him in their giving . • Emphasize the point of trusting God to provide as opposed to proclaiming a prosperity gospel .

4. ACCEPT (Prov. 3:11-12) • Solomon urged the acceptance of God’s discipline as an act of His love . • Solomon compared God to a loving father who gives direction to his son .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God provides direction to those who place their trust in Him. • Integrity characterizes the believer’s life . • Trusting in God leads to renewed life . • God provides for those who honor Him . • Learn from God’s discipline, realizing that His discipline is an act of love .

FOCUS ATTENTION PROVERBS 3:9-10 When have you trusted someone else to make a decision Why does God want us to give Him our material goods? for you? • Giving shows we honor God above ourselves . It can be difficult to trust someone else’s judgment overyour own . • • Humans struggle with the temptation to love money and • No matter how much we know, God knows more . possessions . Jesus taught, “No one can serve two masters .. . . both • When we trust God and acknowledge His judgment as the best, God and money” (Matt . 6:24) . Giving combats greed and a love He provides direction . of money . EXPLORE THE BIBLE • Everything we have is a gift from God . Giving expresses gratitude . PROVERBS 3:1-4 How does verse 5 help you understand verses 9-10? • Verse 10 isn’t a promise for immediate prosperity . If every time What insight do these instructions provide into human we gave, God gave us immediate prosperity, there would be no tendencies? need to trust . Wise living requires more than merely hearing words of wisdom . • By bringing our first fruits we demonstrate trust in God to provide We must learn and apply the teachings . • throughout the harvest . Throughout history, God’s people have been quick to forget God’s • Verse 10 highlights that when we trust God, He delights in us . teaching . • How do we explain this verse when our experience says PROVERBS 3:11-12 otherwise? Discuss the difference between discipline and • These verses don’t promise a life of health without suffering . We punishment. How does this impact our understanding of must read them in context, including the entirety of Scripture, these verses? which addresses the suffering of those who follow God (e g. ,. • Punishment and discipline are both responses to an offense, but 2 Cor . 4:17; 1 Pet . 5:10) . while punishment is the penalty, discipline is training toward • Similarly, we should view life events in their context and our lives obedience . as set in eternity . We’ll suffer and die, but trusting in Jesus as • God’s discipline is an act of love . Savior is the path to eternal life and peace . Why might these verses come right after verses 9-10? PROVERBS 3:5-8 • They reinforce that God doesn’t promise constant health and wealth to those He loves . How are trusting in the Lord, fearing the Lord, and humility related? • These verses, taken in conjunction with verses 9-10, show how • Trusting in the Lord and fearing the Lord both entail submission to respond in times of abundance and also in times of suffering: to God’s will over our own by acknowledging He knows more Trust God . than we do . How does Hebrews 12:5-11 help us better understand How can trusting in God lead to physical and spiritual what Solomon was saying? well-being? • Praise God for the opportunity to be His sons and daughters and • Anxiety and stress can cause health problems . Share Philippians for directing us in the path of righteousness . 4:6-7 . Discuss how trust leads to peace . SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE Many biblical commands promote physical health, such as • God offers us direction for how to respond in the good abstaining from drunkenness (Eph . 5:18) and maintaining sexual times and the bad—trust Him. purity (1 Cor . 6:18-20) . • We trust God by following His commands . Trusting in God leads to a renewed, purposeful life . • • We trust God by giving . How does God make our paths straight? • We trust God by accepting His discipline . • Point to Psalm 119:104-105 . God offers to show us the right choices to make . • Personal Challenge: Read 2 Corinthians 6:16–7:1 . Praise God for the opportunity to be called a son or daughter of the King . Ask When we follow God, He will complete the good work He started • God to reveal any areas where you have been trusting your own in us (Phil . 1:6) . judgment over His . Submit to His rule and authority .

CAR KEYS Hold up your car keys . Ask: What are some things we trust when we drive or ride in a car? Discuss several features of the car that we trust (e g. ,. brakes, seat belts) . Additionally, there are structures we trust (e g. ,. bridges, traffic lights) . Don’t forget the other drivers and, if you’re driving, your own judgment . Ask: What factors make you more or less likely to trust those things and those people? Explain that you may be more likely to trust your car if it has been checked out recently, or less likely if it has broken down in the past . Our trust in bridges and roads is bolstered by seeing others use them and having used them in the past . Your own driving history can give you insight into how trustworthy your judgment is . Invite volunteers to read several verses about trust (e .g ., Pss . 9:10; State: Although we often strive for self-sufficiency, trusting others 56:3; Rom . 15:13; Rev . 21:5) . Emphasize that memorizing Scripture is is an everyday reality . Trusting God should be as well . Ask: What one way we internalize God’s promises . Ask: What are the benefits can hold us back from trusting God? How do we overcome these? of trusting God? What characteristics of God give us confidence to Proverbs reminds us to trust in God, not to put our own judgment trust Him in all situations? over His . Our trust can be bolstered when we remember how God Share Psalm 119:97-100 and Proverbs 3:1-6 . Emphasize that has proven Himself faithful to us in the past and also when we see humility isn’t the same as ignorance . Wisdom, insight, and how He is faithful to others . understanding are all good things, and we achieve the greatest versions of these by following God’s commands .

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THE VALUE OF DISCIPLINE The Book of Proverbs emphasizes the importance of discipline . For disobedience (2 Sam . 7:14) . His steadfast love motivated this example, wicked people will die “because there is no discipline” discipline (Prov . 3:12) . (5:23) . “Corrective discipline is the way to life” (6:23) . “Whoever The writer of Hebrews quoted Proverbs 3:11-12 and identified loves discipline loves knowledge” (12:1) . “A wise son responds to his suffering as a form of discipline (Heb . 12:4-6) . Such discipline father’s discipline” (13:1) . “Anyone who ignores discipline despises demonstrates that God loves believers and treats them as His himself” (15:32) . children . Lack of discipline shows illegitimacy—not belonging to The ancient world, including the Israelites, expected fathers to the family (Heb . 12:8) . The correction of human parents lasts only discipline their children . “Discipline your son while there is hope; a short time “based on what seemed good to them” (Heb . 12:10) . don’t set your heart on being the cause of his death” (Prov . 19:18) . Earthly parents may make mistakes when they correct their children . This discipline combined both education (training in life lessons) and God, however, always disciplines for the good of His children punishment . Likewise, God also used corrective acts to teach His (believers) . His purpose is that believers might share His holiness, people, such as plagues, poverty, wild beasts, famine, war, captivity, being “imitators of God, as dearly loved children” (Eph . 5:1) . The death, and other physical trials . (See Lev . 26:14-39 ). These punitive Lord has the long-term advantages in view (Heb . 12:11) . events had a positive purpose—to lead to repentance, turn away God has more interest in the character of His people than their from sin, and turn toward God . Moses recognized the Israelites’ comfort . Discipline in the context of a loving relationship transforms forty years of wilderness wanderings as God’s discipline: “Keep in correction from being punishment to benefit . Discipline is an act of mind that the Lord your God has been disciplining you just as a man love and has value . Living a Christlike life requires it . “Blessed is the disciplines his son” (Deut . 8:5) . The Lord’s covenant relationship one you discipline, Lord” (Ps . 94:12a, NIV) . with Israel provided the context for His punishment of their faithless

PROVERBS 3:21-35 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

21 Maintain sound wisdom and discretion. A ”Sound judgment” (CEV); “insight” (GNT) . My son, don’t lose sight of them. B Metaphor suggesting that those who hold on to 22 They will be life for you wisdom are charming and have favor with others . and adornment for your neck. “Adornment” literally means “grace” (KJV) . 23 Then you will go safely on your way; your foot will not stumble. C Literally, “you will not strike your foot” (Ps . 91:12) 24 When you lie down, you will not be afraid; D Relates to trust in God and His personal care you will lie down, and your sleep will be pleasant. 25 Don’t fear sudden danger E May refer to the pay earned by workers, the help or the ruin of the wicked when it comes, the poor needs, the justice victims deserve, or the repayment owed to those who have loaned money 26 for the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from a snare. F “To those who need it” (GNT) . 27 When it is in your power, don’t withhold good from the one to whom it belongs. G A warning against abuse of the legal system 28 Don’t say to your neighbor, “Go away! Come back later. H Usually refers to a person of extreme wickedness I’ll give it tomorrow”—when it is there with you. who may use physical violence, cruelty, social 29 Don’t plan any harm against your neighbor, injustice, harmful words, hatred, and rudeness for he trusts you and lives near you. I “Repulsive” (AMP); “dishonest” (CEV) . 30 Don’t accuse anyone without cause, when he has done you no harm. J God “detests” (NIV) or “hates” (NCV) the 31 Don’t envy a violent man wicked—the reason one should not envy or follow or choose any of his ways; violent persons . 32 for the devious are detestable to the Lord, K God takes “into his confidence” (NIV) “those who but he is a friend to the upright. are honest” (AMP) and brings them into intimate 33 The Lord’s curse is on the household of the wicked, relationship with Himself . (See Job 29:4 ). but he blesses the home of the righteous; 34 He mocks those who mock, L To give power for success, wealth, fruitfulness (children), long life, and a rich relationship with God but gives grace to the humble. 35 The wise will inherit honor, M The Greek translation of the Old Testament but he holds up fools to dishonor. (the Septuagint) translates these words as, “The Lord resists the proud ”. (See Jas . 4:6; 1 Pet . 5:5 ).

N “Gain an honorable reputation” (GNT) .

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1. CONFIDENCE GAINED (Prov. 3:21-26) • Solomon explained that the person who trusts in God will find rest from fear . • Characterize the person who seeks to harm a faithful follower of God as being in opposition to God . • Emphasize that the fear of being mistreated by wicked people can cause a person to fail to act and minister to the needs of others .

2. KINDNESS EXPRESSED (Prov. 3:27-30) • Solomon directed God’s people to act quickly to help their neighbors and never abuse their trust or plan harm against them . • Clarify that Solomon’s teachings are not a license to mistreat strangers .

3. BLESSING SECURED (Prov. 3:31-35) • Solomon warned about desiring the possessions of the wealthy who secured it through violence and wickedness . • He emphasized that God blesses the righteous, offering them His grace and honor . • Emphasize that God intimately knows the upright .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS Following God’s wisdom is demonstrated in how a person treats others. • God offers His peace to those who trust Him . • God expects His people to treat others with kindness . • God blesses those who know Him .

FOCUS ATTENTION Describe a positive experience you’ve had with What do these verses tell you about living in the a neighbor. kingdom of God? • Jesus was asked, “‘Teacher, which command in the law is the • Emphasize that God is ruling here and now . We’re in His kingdom . greatest?’ He said to him, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your • However, we also look forward to a more perfect kingdom heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind . This is the in eternity . greatest and most important command . The second is like it: Love What’s significant about Solomon emphasizing your neighbor as yourself . All the Law and the Prophets depend “neighbors” as opposed to people in general? What on these two commands ’. ” (Matt . 22:36-40) . does this mean for how we treat strangers? • Last week, we studied a section of Proverbs that explained trust • Refer to the parable of the good Samaritan in Luke 10:25-37 . and honor must accompany our relationship with God . This Jesus was asked, “Who is my neighbor?” He responded with a week, we’ll see how that relationship influences our relationships parable that answered a slightly different question: Are you acting with others . like a neighbor? EXPLORE THE BIBLE • “Neighbor” isn’t limited to people who are like us and live near us . PROVERBS 3:21-26 • Jesus says we’re a neighbor when we treat others with mercy . Is it wrong to fear danger? How might fear be related to PROVERBS 3:31-35 our trust in God? Why might people be tempted to envy a violent man or Fear can be a healthy response to danger . However, we don’t • choose his ways? need to be overcome with fear . • Discuss how the wicked or violent sometimes seem to prosper • In verse 26, we see that our confidence and safety come from with wealth . trusting God, not from trusting our own ability to avoid all dangers . • Consider some ways people or groups may be benefiting from • However, we also use God-given wisdom and judgment . violence and wickedness without taking part in violence directly . How might fear prevent us from loving our neighbors? What reasons did Solomon give for avoiding this • The fear that wicked people might mistreat us can keep us from temptation? reaching out to help . • Solomon reminded the audience of the Lord’s attitude toward the • Invite the group to discuss specific examples . wicked and toward the upright . According to these verses, why don’t we need to fear? • Direct the group to look for words used to describe God’s attitude • The wicked are in opposition to God, and He sees them . We don’t toward the wicked and proud . Then look for words to describe need to fear because we have God on our side . God’s attitude toward the righteous and humble . • God offers His peace to those who trust Him . • Point out that verse 34 is quoted in James 4 and 1 Peter 5 . • Invite volunteers to share verses about overcoming fear (e g. ,. What can help us overcome this temptation? Ps . 23:4; Isa . 43:1-2) . • Remember that God sees you . We don’t always experience immediate benefits, but we’re to keep eternity in mind . PROVERBS 3:27-30 • Invite someone to read Philippians 2:5-11 as you consider Jesus’ What excuses might people use to avoid helping others? example of humility and service . • Sometimes people plan to “do it later,” meaning help when the time is more convenient or when they have more means . Often SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE that time never comes . God’s Word directs us in wise living. Which of the • Explain that verses 27-28 call for immediate action . Delayed following points is the most difficult for you right now? obedience can be disobedience . • Don’t fear the wicked . Trust God’s protection . • Emphasize that verses 27-28 instruct believers to act responsibly • Don’t imitate the wicked . Love God’s image-bearers (humanity) . in their giving, honoring God with what they have . • Don’t envy the wicked . Enjoy God’s blessing . • Personal Challenge: Use a concordance or Bible app to find verses that speak about fear, love, or humility .

A PHOTO OF A HOUSE Bring in a photo of a house . As you display the picture, say: We want our homes to be a safe place, a haven, a shelter, a place to rest . Direct the group to Proverbs 3:21-26 . Ask: What are some reasons you feel safe at home? What are some things that might keep you from peaceful sleep? Discuss how God is aware of our situations . Those who would seek to harm God’s faithful followers are working in opposition to Him . We aren’t guaranteed safety, but God calls us to trust Him and to rest in Him . State: Your house is also where people can find you . It’s your home base . Invite the group to read Proverbs 3:27-30 . Ask: According to these verses, how can we be good neighbors? Remind the group physical, familial, and so forth . Ask: What are some practical steps that as stated in the parable of the good Samaritan, God calls us to we can take to avoid discontentment? Emphasize that we must give be good neighbors to whomever He places in our path . Emphasize: our concerns to God . He’s the Source of all we have . Our homes can also be sources of discontentment, stress, or worry . Conclude by thanking God for His blessings . In verse 33, Solomon We can be overwhelmed with necessary repairs, family stressors, or stated that God blesses the homes of the righteous . We experience how to pay the bills . God’s blessing now . We also have a future home prepared for us Direct the group to Proverbs 3:31-35 . Discuss how home by Jesus: a home with ultimate blessings, perfect contentment, and renovations aren’t inherently a bad thing . Encourage the group to complete security . consider how discontentment can lead to sin . Then lead them to discuss ways we can combat our concerns—financial, emotional,

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GOOD NEIGHBORS The Book of Proverbs emphasizes how God’s people should reflect God’s own character . This verse identifies neighbors as treat neighbors—in other words, how to be good neighbors . “members of your community ”. Most Old Testament laws emphasize Neighborliness includes doing acts of kindness for those in need relationships among fellow Israelites—those who were in covenant (3:27-28) . It doesn’t include planning harm against or bringing with Yahweh and had duties and responsibilities based on that unwarranted lawsuits against innocent neighbors (3:29-30) . Good covenant . This covenant relationship encouraged God’s people to neighbors don’t commit adultery (6:29), slander (11:9), show view their neighbors as family members . God made clear, however, contempt for their neighbors (11:12), or testify against their neighbors His expectations for His people toward those outside the covenant . “without cause” (24:28) . Proverbs warns: “The one who despises his “You must not exploit a resident alien or oppress him” (Ex . 22:21) . neighbor sins” (14:21) . “Do not deny justice to a resident alien” (Deut . 24:17a) . The Ten Commandments prohibit giving “false testimony against By the New Testament era, many Jews debated the definition your neighbor” (Ex . 20:12), as well as coveting “anything that of neighbor, as Jesus’ encounter with a law expert illustrates . This belongs to your neighbor” (Ex . 20:17) . God’s laws also regulated scholar asked, “Who is my neighbor?” (Luke 10:29) . Jesus answered business relations between neighbors, such as prohibiting stealing by emphasizing the importance of being a good neighbor to those (Ex . 20:15) and governing buying and selling (Lev . 25:14-17), loans in need—not setting limits on whom to love . “Love your neighbor (Deut . 24:10), and wages (Jer . 22:13) . as yourself,” quoted or alluded to many times in the New Testament, Leviticus 19:18 summarizes the Old Testament teachings about is the second greatest commandment (Matt . 22:39), God’s “royal neighborliness: “Do not take revenge or bear a grudge against law” (Jas . 2:8), and fulfills the law (Gal . 5:14) . Good neighbors are members of your community, but love your neighbor as yourself; I am individuals who love their neighbors as they love themselves, not the Lord ”. The words “I am the Lord” indicate that good neighbors seeking their own good but the good of their neighbors .

PROVERBS 4:11-27 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

11 I am teaching you the way of wisdom; A “A life of doing right” (TLB); actions and behavior I am guiding you on straight paths. B “The paths of uprightness” (ESV); “the right way 12 When you walk, your steps will not be hindered; to live” (GNT)—both morally and practically . when you run, you will not stumble. 13 Hold on to instruction; don’t let go. C “Always remember” (GNT); “Carry out” (TLB) . Guard it, for it is your life. D “Never let go” (CEV) . The discipline of wisdom 14 Keep off the path of the wicked; requires faithful obedience . don’t proceed on the way of evil ones. 15 Avoid it; don’t travel on it. E Avoid evil ways and evil people: “Don’t follow the Turn away from it, and pass it by. bad example of cruel and evil people” (CEV) . 16 For they can’t sleep F A rapid series of commands that emphasize the unless they have done what is evil; urgency of rejecting the evil way of life they are robbed of sleep unless they make someone stumble. G “Robbed of sleep” (NASB, NIV) . Sin so enslaves 17 evil people they can’t sleep until they plot and carry They eat the bread of wickedness out their wickedness . and drink the wine of violence. 18 The path of the righteous is like the light of dawn, H Images showing evil’s powerful influence in the shining brighter and brighter until midday. lives of wicked people . Violence sustains them . 19 But the way of the wicked is like the darkest gloom; I Describes the life of the righteous as full and certain they don’t know what makes them stumble. 20 My son, pay attention to my words; J “Total darkness” (CEV, NLT) . Symbolizes moral listen closely to my sayings. failure, disaster, danger, and insecurity 21 Don’t lose sight of them; K Repeated for emphasis (Prov . 4:1,10) . Righteous keep them within your heart. living requires constant, intentional focus on the 22 For they are life to those who find them, Lord’s teachings . and health to one’s whole body. 23 Guard your heart above all else, L Wisdom provides “radiant health” (TLB) for the whole person—physical, emotional, and spiritual . for it is the source of life. 24 Don’t let your mouth speak dishonestly, M A person’s heart (thinking, emotions, and will) and don’t let your lips talk deviously. is “where life starts” (The Message), determining 25 Let your eyes look forward; the direction of one’s life . fix your gaze straight ahead. N Talking in a perverted or morally-twisted way

26 Carefully consider the path for your feet, O “Be sure” (ESV); “always do what is right” (NCV) . and all your ways will be established. Keeping fixed on God gives a sense of well-being, 27 Don’t turn to the right or to the left; certainty, and rightness to people’s lives as He directs their ways . keep your feet away from evil. P A warning not to depart from God’s commands (Deut . 5:32; 28:14; Josh . 23:6)

1. THE PATH TO TAKE (Prov. 4:11-13) NOTES • Solomon declared that his aim was to guide people on the path to life .

2. THE PATH TO AVOID (Prov. 4:14-19) • Solomon warned against following the path taken by evil people whose appetites for wickedness led to more wickedness .

3. THE CHOICE TO MAKE (Prov. 4:20-27) • Solomon challenged God’s people to continually consider His counsel, diligently watching over their hearts . • He encouraged them to remain focused on the righteous path, refusing to veer off that path in any way .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS All people have a choice to make: follow God or reject Him. • Following godly instruction leads to life . • Wicked living leads to more wickedness and dissatisfaction . • Righteous living calls for disciplined living .

FOCUS ATTENTION Share a time you had a choice to make that seemed • Read Galatians 6:7 . Point out that we will reap what we focus on obvious. What made the choice appear obvious? How and put our intentions toward . did the outcome compare to what you anticipated? Call on volunteers to use the following verses to • Point out that we’re faced with choices every day and throughout compare the life of the wicked with the life of the our lives . Some are insignificant . Some seem to have one clear Christ follower. answer . Some have a variety of good answers . • John 8:34-36: Slavery vs . Freedom • However, there’s one choice of ultimate significance where • Romans 6:23: Death vs . Life there’s only one good option: Will you follow God or reject Him? • Proverbs 4:19 and John 8:12: Darkness vs . Light EXPLORE THE BIBLE • Isaiah 57:20-21 and Matthew 11:28-30: Restlessness vs . Rest PROVERBS 4:11-13 PROVERBS 4:20-27 Solomon used the metaphor of traveling a path to describe our choices in life. Why is this metaphor What words or phrases in these verses emphasize the appropriate? importance of continued diligence? • Discuss various types of paths: straight and smooth, rough terrain, • Point out that Solomon placed the responsibility for righteous paths that double back, paths that dead end, and paths with living on individuals, not their circumstances . branches . Why must we remain diligent even after our initial decision to follow Christ? • Call on volunteers to cite examples of some of the paths . • Like any relationship, growing in fellowship with God takes effort • As you discuss the importance of following wisdom and and intentionality . instruction, remind the group of Proverbs 1:7: “The fear of the • While God is looking to make us more and more like Christ, the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and devil is prowling “for anyone he can devour” (1 Pet . 5:6-9) . discipline ”. What strategies have you found helpful in staying How did Solomon describe the path of godly diligent and disciplined? instruction? How does following godly instruction lead Discuss spiritual disciplines and habits that promote growth in the to life? • believer (e g. ,. prayer, Scripture reading, worship, discipleship) . • Point out that the path is straight, but it isn’t described as short . • Following God leads to life, but these verses don’t promise SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE immediate arrival at a destination or that the path will be easy . What are some signs that we’re on the right path? There’s still a journey . • Proverbs urges us to listen to godly wisdom, carefully consider our PROVERBS 4:14-19 choices, and follow the path of righteousness . God offers peace and life to those who follow Him . When we What words or phrases did Solomon use to convey • the urgency and seriousness of avoiding the path of follow God’s path, our light will grow brighter and brighter . the wicked? • Personal Challenge: Prayerfully meditate on the following • Allow time for several answers . Point to 2 Timothy 2:22-26 . verses this week, and humbly thank God for signs of spiritual Encourage the group to look for similarities between this passage growth and sanctification in your life . “Now the Lord is the Spirit, and Proverbs 4:14-19 . and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom . We all, with Why do wicked choices lead to more wicked living? unveiled faces, are looking as in a mirror at the glory of the Lord What are some examples of this? and are being transformed into the same image from glory to • Verses 16-17 characterize the wicked as living for evil and violence . glory; this is from the Lord who is the Spirit” (2 Cor . 3:17-18) . • Consider the roles dissatisfaction and discontentment play in the life of the wicked . • Discuss addiction and how one poor choice can lead to a downward spiral of dependence on a substance or action . • Contrast this cycle of wickedness with verse 18 where goodness leads to more goodness—shining brighter and brighter .

AN IMAGE OF THE VASCULAR SYSTEM WITH THE HEART AT THE CENTER Display an anatomy image of the vascular system with the heart at the center . Ask: What is at the center of the vascular system? Which parts of the body does this impact? Invite your group to look back through verses 20-27 and circle all words or phrases related to the body/anatomy . Ask: What’s significant about Solomon including the whole body and not just the mind or heart in his discussion of wise living? Which verses did you circle that talk about the receptive ability of the body? Encourage volunteers to read the entire verse, not just answer by verse number . Point out that wise living includes how the rest of our body functions through the vascular system . being responsible for what our bodies receive . This includes taking Ask: How does the way we use our body impact our spiritual responsibility for what we hear, see, and ingest . heart? Discuss both positive and negative effects . For example, Discuss: Which verses speak of the body in active terms? reading Scripture, exploring nature, enjoying certain types of art and Emphasize that wise living also includes being responsible for where media can have positive effects . On the other hand, it’s foolish to we go and what we do . Ask: Which verses speak about the heart? believe the media you watch or listen to can’t have a negative impact Point out that in these verses, the word heart doesn’t refer to the on your heart (Matt . 5:28) . physical organ . Rather, these verses refer to the spiritual heart as the Ask: Conversely, how do our spiritual hearts impact the rest of center of thoughts and emotions . our bodies? Refer to Luke 6:45 . Emphasize the Holy Spirit works in Say: Our physical heart is impacted by what we do with the rest our hearts when we trust in Jesus . Close by rereading Proverbs 4:23 . of our body (for example, exercise and diet) . Our heart also impacts

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HEBREW POETRY Poetry characterizes more than one-third of the Old Testament, Hebrew poetry has terseness . Using as few words as possible, including all of Proverbs . Hebrew poetry is thought-based, while some words are omitted . “A door turns on its hinges, and a slacker, Greek and Latin poetry are sound-based, using rhyme and meter . on his bed” (26:14) . The writer omitted turns in the second line: a Parallelism represents the most important feature of Hebrew slacker turns on his bed . poetry . In parallelism, one or more lines of poetry follow a first line Hebrew poetry involves imagery . A simile makes a comparison, of poetry and restate or reinforce the first in some way . The parallel often using the word like in English . “The path of the righteous is lines balance each other in thought . In synonymous parallelism, like the light of dawn” (4:18) . A metaphor involves a direct or implied the second line repeats the thought of the first line using different comparison of two unlike things . “They eat the bread of wickedness words, intensifying the thoughts and feelings expressed . “My son, and drink the wine of violence” (4:17) . These vivid images make an pay attention to my words; listen closely to my sayings” (Prov . 4:20) . emotional impact . In antithetical parallelism, the lines express opposite thoughts by Poetic devices in Proverbs also include hyperbole (exaggeration): means of contrast or stating the positive and the negative . “The “The slacker buries his hand in the bowl; he is too weary to bring Lord’s curse is on the household of the wicked, but he blesses the it to his mouth!” (26:15); personification (inanimate things given home of the righteous” (3:33) . “Don’t abandon wisdom, and she will characteristics of living things): “Wisdom calls out in the street” watch over you; love her, and she will guard you” (4:6) . (1:20); synecdoche (a part of something stands for the whole): “For With synthetic parallelism, the second line completes or develops the Lord will .. . . keep your foot from a snare” (3:26); chiasm (reversing the thought of the first by giving a reason or explanation . “Guard sequence of words in the second line): literally in Hebrew, “The curse your heart above all else, for it is the source of life” (4:23) . of the Lord is on the house of the wicked But He blesses the dwelling of the righteous” (3:33); and acrostics or alphabet poems (31:10-31) .

PROVERBS 5:3-11,15-18 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

3 Though the lips of the forbidden woman drip honey A “Another man’s wife” (GNT); “adulteress” (NASB) . and her words are smoother than oil, B Metaphors picturing the adulteress seducing with 4 in the end she’s as bitter as wormwood flattering words, inflating the man’s ego and as sharp as a double-edged sword. 5 Her feet go down to death; C Naomi called herself “bitter” after the heart- her steps head straight for Sheol. crushing loss of her husband and sons (Ruth 1:20) . 6 She doesn’t consider the path of life; D Describes the adulteress as a deadly weapon she doesn’t know that her ways are unstable. 7 So now, sons, listen to me, E An immoral lifestyle leads to death . and don’t turn away from the words from my mouth. F “Staggers down a crooked trail” (NLT) . 8 Keep your way far from her. Don’t go near the door of her house. G “Children” (KJV); “child” (NRSV) . 9 Otherwise, you will give up your vitality to others H “Honor” (ESV); “vigor” (NASB) . The health and and your years to someone cruel; strength that belongs to the best years of life 10 strangers will drain your resources, and your hard-earned pay will end up in a I “Best years of your life” (NCV) . foreigner’s house. 11 J “What you have worked for” (GNT); “Someone At the end of your life, you will lament else will enjoy the fruit of your labor” (NLT) . when your physical body has been consumed, ... 15 Drink water from your own cistern, K An adulteress or prostitute water flowing from your own well. 16 L The anguished “groan” (ESV) of a sufferer in pain Should your springs flow in the streets, and distress from regret at sinful choices streams in the public squares? 17 They should be for you alone M “Be faithful to your wife” (CEV) . A man should and not for you to share with strangers. find sexual fulfillment with his own wife . 18 Let your fountain be blessed, N “Springs” and “streams” are metaphors for a and take pleasure in the wife of your youth. husband’s sexual affections .

O Use of this word indicates that God gives sexual pleasure in marriage . Blessing also includes the fruitfulness of children .

P “Find your joy” (GNT) in a fulfilling marriage .

NOTES

1. SEE THE REALITY (Prov. 5:3-6) • Solomon declared that whatever appeal is presented, adultery eventually leads to bitterness and death . • In application, broaden the scope to warn against the dangers of all forms of illicit sexual behavior .

2. THINK LONG TERM (Prov. 5:7-11) • Solomon challenged God’s people to resist sexual temptations . • He encouraged them to think about the long-term social, economic, and physical consequences of sexual sins .

3. ENJOY GOD’S PROVISION (Prov. 5:15-18) • Solomon directed married couples to enjoy sexual intimacy within the confines of a faithful, exclusive marriage relationship . • He affirmed monogamous relationships as God’s design . • Affirm marriage as being between a man and a woman .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God expects His people to show His wisdom through sexual purity. • Living for sexual gratification will lead to bitterness . • Considering the consequences of unwise choices can help a person make a wise choice . • God gave the gift of sexual intimacy to be enjoyed exclusively within the marriage relationship .

FOCUS ATTENTION Describe a time when God’s direction for your life ran • Point out that while the penalty of eternal death was removed counter to cultural norms. when our sins were forgiven, God still disciplines us through • Much of God’s wisdom and direction in Proverbs is consistent consequences (2 Sam . 11-12) . with the ideas embraced by our society . Our society has been • God’s grace shouldn’t be viewed as a license to sin (Rom . 6:1-2) . significantly influenced by a Judeo-Christian heritage . How can a long-term view of sin’s consequences help us • However, in a fallen world, there will be areas where we, as resist in the present moment? Christians, are called to a standard different from what is • Divide the group into men and women, and ask them to discuss embraced by our society . practical ways to avoid sexual temptations . • God expects His people to show His wisdom through sexual purity, even when it goes against current norms . PROVERBS 5:15-18 Encourage the group to mark words related to water. EXPLORE THE BIBLE What do these verses teach about God’s design for PROVERBS 5:3-6 sexual intimacy? Why might Solomon have described the appeal of the • Highlight that Solomon affirmed sexual intimacy within marriage woman in these verses as verbal rather than physical? as a good gift (vv . 15,18) . • Direct the group to verse 3 . Discuss how sexual sin is built on lies . • Solomon stated that sexual intimacy is a private matter, part of a • Emphasize that adulterous relationships often begin with a non- monogamous marriage (vv . 16-17) . physical relationship, in person or online . • Although not specified in these verses, affirm that God’s • Use Matthew 5:27-28 to broaden the scope of discussion and design is for marriage being between one man and one woman warn against the dangers of all forms of illicit sexual behavior . (Matt 19:4-6). . According to these verses, to what does sexual sin lead? How can sexual purity demonstrate love for God and • Note that only one verse is written on the appeal or temptation of others? the sin, while three verses are spent on the bitter reality . • Following God’s design for sexual purity shows a love for Him through a willingness to trust His commands . • Point out that, no matter how strong the initial appeal is, the end is always bitterness and death . • Emphasize that enjoying sexual intimacy within marriage expresses love for your spouse . Who is responsible for sexual sin? • The woman in these verses embodies sexual sin, similar to the way • Additionally, abstaining from illicit sexual behavior demonstrates Lady Wisdom embodies wisdom in other sections of Proverbs . love and respect for your fellow image-bearers . This isn’t meant to put the sole blame on women as temptress . SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE Clarify that the context of these verses is Solomon addressing his • What are some specific actions we can commit to in son, which may be why the warnings are worded this way . order to display God’s wisdom through sexual purity? • Ultimately, we’re responsible for our own sins . Direct the group to • When God’s Word is opposed by culture, we have a unique the next section of verses, which place the responsibility on the opportunity to display His wisdom to the world by following His son to resist sexual temptations . commands . PROVERBS 5:7-11 • Invite a volunteer to read 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 . How do Solomon’s words convey urgency? • Personal Challenge: Confess any areas of sexual sin to • Highlight verse 8, and discuss the difference between resisting God . If you have an ongoing area where you’re struggling with sexual temptation and avoiding it . temptation, seek out a trusted person within the church to help hold you accountable . Don’t underestimate the power of sharing What are some long-term physical and economic with a trustworthy person in being able to overcome sin’s grasp . If consequences of sexual sin? you’re not struggling in this area, pray God’s wisdom and strength • Balance the conversation by emphasizing forgiveness of sins for those who are . through Christ (1 John 1:9) .

A BOX OF BUTTER OR MARGARINE Bring in a box of butter or margarine (with nutrition facts on it) . Ask: What’s the main factor you consider when determining if a food is healthy? Discuss how healthy eating trends are often in flux . At one time, margarine was considered healthier than butter for your heart due to its lower levels of saturated fat . Then new research revealed that most stick margarines contained trans fats, which were considered even worse than the saturated fat found in butter . Now some people opt for margarine that’s trans fat free, while other people consider butter to be the healthier choice, since it’s less processed . Say: Health food trends and diet rules continue to change, but God’s rules for what’s best for us are timeless . Hold up the box Affirm that God is eternal—always existing with no end and of butter and point to the nutrition label . Explain that one way no beginning . God is immutable—unchanging in His will and we can learn about what’s in a food is by reading the nutrition character . God is omniscient—all-knowing . God is good and wants facts . However, it wasn’t until 1990 that nutrition labels became what is best for His children . Say: God’s wisdom for sexual purity mandatory, and it wasn’t until 2006 that labels were required to is unchanging and trustworthy—trustworthy for all times, always include trans fat . good, and always satisfying . Ask: Even as science and societal norms change, why is God’s Close in prayer, thanking God for the revelation of His good wisdom unchanging? wisdom for our lives .

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ADULTERY AND THE FORBIDDEN WOMAN The Book of Proverbs has three lectures from a father to his son warning eager to make more men unfaithful” (23:28, NLT) . She flatters with him against sexual relationships with a forbidden woman: Proverbs deceptive words to lure the foolish man to her bedchamber (5:3; 7:21) . 5:1-23; 6:20-35; and 7:1-27 . Other verses offer similar warnings: The adulteress rejects the path of wisdom and chooses one that 2:16-17; 22:14; 23:27-28 . In most of these passages, the forbidden leads to destruction—not only for herself but for those who yield woman is married, thus an adulteress . At other times, it’s unclear . to her temptation . Her victims face public humiliation (5:14), and Whatever the identity of the immoral woman, the young man the wrath of her husband who “will show no mercy when he takes is married . revenge” (6:34) . All the unfaithful husband has worked hard to God’s law clearly prohibits adultery (Ex . 20:14; Deut . 5:18) . Adultery obtain will go to others (5:10) . The immoral woman ruins many men, means having sexual relations with someone other than one’s spouse . costing them their very lives (7:23,26-27) . This unfaithfulness in marriage goes beyond the physical act . It The father instructs his son in how to avoid the forbidden woman: includes inward purity . “Don’t lust in your heart for her beauty” (Prov . obey the instructions of his parents (6:20), resist temptation by 6:25) . Jesus also taught that adultery originates in the heart, because keeping away from the temptress (5:8), and take pleasure and joy in lust violates the law’s intent (Matt . 5:27-28) . The penalty for adultery sexual intimacies with his own wife (5:15-20) . was death for both the adulterer and the adulteress (Lev . 20:10) . God‘s law deals with adultery so severely because the marriage Proverbs describes the forbidden woman . She leaves her husband relationship serves as a picture of the Lord’s relationship with His and forgets the marriage vows she made before God (Prov . 2:16-17) . people . Faithfulness between husbands and wives illustrate His She doesn’t stay at home but roams the streets looking for her victims . faithfulness to His people . The prophets described Israel’s idolatry She dresses seductively and wants to fool and entrap someone . She as (spiritual) adultery (Jer . 3:1; Hosea 2) . Those who repent of their is “loud and defiant” (7:10-12) . “She hides and waits like a robber, adultery receive God’s forgiveness (John 8:3-11) .

PROVERBS 8:6-21 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

6 Listen, for I speak of noble things, A Solomon personified wisdom in chapter 8 . and what my lips say is right. B What is right, trustworthy, and reliable 7 For my mouth tells the truth, and wickedness is detestable to my lips. C “Abomination” (ESV); “hateful” (GNT) . 8 All the words from my mouth are righteous; D “Upright and in right standing with God” (AMP) . none of them are deceptive or perverse. Ethics and morals based on God’s nature and will 9 All of them are clear to the perceptive, and right to those who discover knowledge. E Wisdom’s teachings are “plain” (KJV) and 10 Accept my instruction instead of silver, “straightforward” (NASB), not deceptive or perverse . and knowledge rather than pure gold. F “Nothing you desire can compare” (NIV, NLT) . 11 For wisdom is better than jewels, Wisdom—not money—enables true happiness and and nothing desirable can equal it. protects those who follow the wise path . 12 I, wisdom, share a home with shrewdness and have knowledge and discretion. G “Prudence” (ESV); “good judgment” (NCV, NLT) . 13 To fear the Lord is to hate evil. H Opposing, detesting, despising, and rejecting I hate arrogant pride, evil conduct, something—to have nothing to do with it and perverse speech. 14 I possess good advice and sound wisdom; I “Pride and arrogance” (ESV, NIV) characterize those who reject God’s rule . I have understanding and strength. 15 It is by me that kings reign J “Counsel and sound judgment” (NIV) . and rulers enact just law; 16 by me, princes lead, K “Make laws that are fair” (CEV) . The Messiah will use wisdom to reign in this way (Isa . 11:1-4) . as do nobles and all righteous judges. 17 I love those who love me, L Powerful, respected persons who serve as and those who search for me find me. companions or advisors to the king 18 With me are riches and honor, M God gives wisdom to those who ask (Jas . 1:5) . lasting wealth and righteousness. 19 My fruit is better than solid gold, N Primarily spiritual rather than physical, as “honor” and my harvest than pure silver. and “righteousness” indicate . (See Prov . 8:35 ). 20 I walk in the ways of righteousness, O “Gifts” (NLT, TLB) . along the paths of justice, 21 giving wealth as an inheritance to those who love me, P “I always do what is right” (CEV) . and filling their treasuries.

NOTES

1. VALUABLE (Prov. 8:6-11) • Solomon portrayed God’s wisdom as perfect and righteous in every way . • God’s wisdom is of more value than any precious metal or gemstone .

2. POWERFUL (Prov. 8:12-16) • Solomon declared God’s wisdom as residing in those who fear God . • Wisdom empowers kings and provides for justice .

3. OBTAINABLE (Prov. 8:17-21) • Solomon promised that the person seeking God’s wisdom will find it . • The person who lives by God’s wisdom will experience God’s blessings, including avoiding self-destructive patterns .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God promises to provide His wisdom to those who search for Him. • God’s wisdom can be trusted as true . • God’s wisdom comes through fearing Him . • God’s wisdom can be found and acted upon .

FOCUS ATTENTION Describe a time when you wanted to buy something How can these verses impact the way we pray for our that was hard to find, such as a vintage or collectible government leaders? item. How much time and energy did you spend • After some discussion, offer a prayer for your government searching for it? What were the results? leaders . Pray that they would fear the Lord, seek His wisdom, • We may think that if we look hard and long enough, we can find judge righteously, and enact just laws . anything we desire . However, some things will elude us . • Emphasize that the same wisdom used to govern the nations is • Encourage the group to discuss things in life that money offered to us . can’t buy . PROVERBS 8:17-21 • Explain that while we can buy books and education to increase our knowledge, we can’t buy wisdom . Thankfully, God promises How do we acquire God’s wisdom? His wisdom to those who search for Him . • Call on volunteers to read Matthew 7:7-11 and James 1:5-6 . • Guide the group to consider whether asking for wisdom is EXPLORE THE BIBLE enough or if we’re called to an active pursuit . PROVERBS 8:6-11 • Jesus’ command in Matthew 7:7 to “seek” implies pursuit, and How did Solomon describe God’s wisdom in these verses? “knock” is linked to perseverance in prayer . God’s wisdom is personified as a lady calling out at the city gates . • How might these verses be helpful when we encounter • Contrast the traits of wisdom with the verses studied last week something in Scripture that seems counter-intuitive? in Proverbs 5:3-4 . • God promises to give wisdom to those who seek it . Ask for How is God’s wisdom more valuable than precious wisdom in understanding Scripture . metal or gemstones? • Read verses 8-9 . God’s ways are always good . If we’re having • Invite the group to read Ephesians 1:17-18 and 1 Timothy 4:8 . difficulty accepting Scripture, then we may not be properly • God’s wisdom guides us in godly living . understanding it . Scripture is infallible . • According to Paul, the point of wisdom was to know God better . What kind of wealth was Solomon talking about? How • Following God is the path to true happiness and life, both now can we see this passage in Solomon’s life? and eternally . • Emphasize that Proverbs provides wisdom on how to live in the present age . As a principle, not as a promise, those who wisely What are some good things we desire? How do we keep follow God’s way find much goodness in this life . a proper perspective on their value? • Solomon declared that nothing we desire can equal God’s • However, the goal of wisdom isn’t wealth and material blessings . wisdom (v . 11) . We seek wisdom in order to follow God’s paths of righteousness and justice . • When we remember that every good gift is from God, we will seek Him, His ways, and His wisdom . • Wisdom can lead to blessings now, but it also leads to something much greater: eternal blessings found in God’s presence . • Emphasize that God’s wisdom is highly valued because it guides us in following God . Wisdom at its own end isn’t superior to SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE other aspects of godly living . What is significant about God’s promise to make PROVERBS 8:12-16 Himself available to those who seek Him? Clarify that godly wisdom isn’t a matter of intellect . Rather, we What characterizes a person who fears God? • gain godly wisdom by faithfully pursuing God (v . 5) . • Refer to Proverbs 1:7 . Wisdom and knowledge begin with a proper relationship with God based on awe and humility . • One practical step is to pray for wisdom—for ourselves and others . • When we humbly accept God’s wisdom as perfect and righteous, • Personal Challenge: Pray Ephesians 1:16-23 for someone we desire to love what He loves and hate what He hates . this week . What do these verses teach about what God loves and what He hates? • After some discussion, ask the group to spend a few minutes in silent prayer . Encourage them to search their hearts to determine if they love what God loves and hate what He hates .

A PIECE OF SPORTS EQUIPMENT Bring in a piece of sports equipment . Ask: Who here played sports in high school? What about college? Professional sports? Point out that fewer people are able to compete at the highest level of a sport . Ask: What are some ways athletes work to get to the next level? Allow for some discussion . Ask: What are some possible parallels between athletic training and growing in godliness? Below are some examples . • Teams have standards . We have the Bible . • You can learn from great players of the past . We can study the lives of faithful Christians . • Athletes need time practicing on their own . We spend time in private devotion . Connect: As Christians, we don’t grow in godliness through • Athletes also practice as teams . We spend time in corporate sheer will and determination either . But there are guarantees for us . study and worship . God has guaranteed He will finish the good work He began in us Ask: What do you think prevents high school athletes from (Phil . 1:6) . He provides us with everything we need for godly living becoming college athletes or college athletes from going pro? Discuss (2 Pet . 1:3) . If we draw near to God, He will draw near to us how some athletes may not practice enough, have the right coach, (Jas . 4:8) . God also promises His wisdom, “I love those who love me, or the best team, but a lot of it comes down to talent . Despite what and those who search for me find me” (Prov . 8:17) . many movies might tell us, we can’t always make things happen Close in prayer, thanking God for allowing us to approach Him through sheer will and determination . No amount of love for the with our requests and for His promise to provide us with His wisdom game will overcome a lack of talent . when we seek Him .

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WHAT IS WISDOM? Generally, in the Old Testament wisdom refers to special skills— “wise dealing” (ESV) or “prudent behavior” (NIV) . Related is “sound physical and intellectual . People identified as wise possess practical wisdom” (8:14), referring to wisdom that guides people’s lives and knowledge in any area from skilled workers to politicians (Ex . 31:3-6; provides strength to cope with problems . 35:35; 1 Kings 3:12) . In Proverbs, however, wisdom refers to skill in Fourth, “shrewdness” (1:4) reflects a clever and practical wisdom living . Wise people make choices based on God-centered ways of that produces sensible behavior . “A sensible [shrewd] person sees life, thus avoiding moral dangers . danger and takes cover, but the inexperienced keep going and are Several key words used in the first seven verses of Proverbs show punished” (22:3) . the many aspects of wisdom . First, “instruction” (Prov . 1:8), also Fifth, “discretion” (1:4) describes making plans or seeing the best translated “discipline” (1:2,7) means correction that results in learning course of action for achieving a goal . Discretion can protect people’s and character development . Instruction/discipline warns about the lives from harm . consequences of straying from or rejecting the God-centered way of Two more words related to wisdom are “knowledge” (1:4,7) and life or lovingly corrects those who ignore those warnings . “learning” (1:5) . The former means information gained through the Second, “understanding” (1:2; 2:2) refers to knowing how to use senses . God possesses knowledge (3:20) and gives it to people (2:6) . the knowledge we possess . This facet of wisdom enables us to make These facets of wisdom show that biblical wisdom is practical, using decisions . For example, if we follow our parents’ discipline, we will common sense . It’s intellectual, using the mind . Wisdom is ethical “gain understanding” (4:1) . and uses self-control . The fear of the Lord provides the foundation Third, wise living represents the good sense or practical nature of wisdom (1:7) . Wisdom comes by revelation: “For the Lord gives of wisdom: “for receiving prudent instruction in righteousness, wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding ”. justice, and integrity” (1:3) . Other translations render the word as (2:6) . All who diligently search for wisdom will find it (8:17) .

PROVERBS 14:8-15 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

8 The sensible person’s wisdom is to consider his way, A “Prudent” (ESV); “wise” (CEV); “clever” (NRSV) . but the stupidity of fools deceives them. Translated “shrewdness” in Proverbs 1:4; 8:12 . 9 Fools mock at making reparation, B “Understand” (KJV); “give thought to” (NIV) . but there is goodwill among the upright. 10 The heart knows its own bitterness, C “Folly” (ESV, NIV); “foolishness” (NASB) . and no outsider shares in its joy. D “Don’t care” (CEV), “make fun of” (NLT) . 11 The house of the wicked will be destroyed, Fools have no concern for the harm they do . but the tent of the upright will flourish. 12 There is a way that seems right to a person, E “At making amends for sin” (NIV) . Fools ridicule but its end is the way to death. the need to make things right or reimburse . 13 Even in laughter a heart may be sad, F “God is pleased” (CEV); “enjoy acceptance” (ESV) . and joy may end in grief. 14 The disloyal one will get what his conduct deserves, G Emotional response to a hurtful, heart-crushing and a good one, what his deeds deserve. situation . Hannah (1 Sam . 1:10) and Peter (Matt . 26:75) experienced this . 15 The inexperienced one believes anything, but the sensible one watches his steps. H Initially referred to a dwelling made by nomadic people and shepherds; later referred to more permanent dwellings; may refer to families

I Refers to an increase in children or influence

J “Sorrowful” (AMP); mental or physical anguish

K Emotional “heaviness” (KJV) and anxiety resulting from great suffering

L A “backslider in heart” (ESV) who turns away from God and the path of righteousness

M “Will be fully repaid for their ways” (NIV) .

N “Good people receive their reward” (NLT) .

O “Naive” (NASB); “gullible” (The Message) .

P “Think about what they do” (NCV) .

NOTES

1. PRUDENT (Prov. 14:8,15) • Solomon contrasted the wise and the foolish, charactering the wise as prudent and the foolish as gullible .

2. CONTENT (Prov. 14:9,14) • Solomon emphasized that foolishness leads to discontentment while wise living leads to contentment .

3. JOYFUL (Prov. 14:10,13) • Solomon declared that the person who appears to be happy may actually be bitter, knowing that laughter isn’t the same thing as joy . • Focus on the difference between happiness and true joy .

4. THRIVING (Prov. 14:11-12) • Solomon pronounced judgment on those who ignore God’s wisdom and blessing on those who follow God’s wisdom . • He reminded his readers that relying on human ingenuity will lead to death .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS Following God’s wisdom leads to joy, while failing to do so leads to grief. • The wise person seeks to understand knowledge . • Following God’s wisdom leads to contentment . • God’s wisdom produces joy even when there is grief . • God’s wisdom leads to His blessings .

FOCUS ATTENTION PROVERBS 14:10,13 Describe a time when you were surprised by how a food Why did Solomon warn about judging someone based tasted relative to how it looked. on appearances? • Things aren’t always what they appear . If we take time to • We can misjudge someone based on appearances, but God consider them wisely, we’ll be better able to discern the truth . knows and “sees the heart” (1 Sam . 16:7) . • Superficial circumstances can mislead us into believing that • The outward happiness of a fool can deceive others into disobeying God will bring happiness, but discernment shows following his foolish ways, but happiness isn’t true joy . that only God’s path leads to true joy . • A wise person won’t be easily deceived by the fool’s laughter . EXPLORE THE BIBLE Where does true joy come from? How can we share this PROVERBS 14:8,15 joy with others? • Encourage the group to discuss the differences between joy Invite a volunteer to read the entire passage (Prov. from God and circumstantial happiness . Refer to the joy the 14:8-15). Point out that the passage follows a carefully early Christians expressed during persecution (Acts 16:25; balanced chiasmus pattern. Heb . 10:34) . • The pattern is A, B, C, D, D’, C’, B’, A’, with verse 8 being “A” and verse 15 being the corresponding “A’” verse . • God’s wisdom produces joy even in times of grief (Ps . 30:1-5) . • The second verse in each pair balances the thought of the first PROVERBS 14:11-12 verse, clarifying the meaning of both verses . What did Solomon teach about the life of contentment • We will study the verses in their corresponding pairs . and truly thriving? What’s the relationship between foolishness and sin in • Externally, a house appears superior to a tent, but it’s better to verses 8 and 15? have little while living in righteousness than to have much while • Invite someone to read Titus 3:3 . Notice how Paul classified living in wickedness . himself and fellow believers before they were saved . • “Unless the Lord builds a house, its builders labor over it in vain” • The fools deceive themselves into thinking their path is best, (Ps . 127:1) . without considering God’s direction . How do these verses encourage us to “walk by faith, not Contrast how the foolish person and the wise person by sight” (2 Cor. 5:7)? think about the future. • Just because something looks good doesn’t mean it is good . • Wise people believe God’s promises . Trust God’s Word . • Fools doubt or dismiss the consequences of their actions . • Refer to the parable of the wise and foolish builders . The foolish • Fools trust their own judgment, while wise people trust God’s . man built his house on the sand and it was destroyed . The wise man built his house on the rock and it stood firm . Jesus said that PROVERBS 14:9,14 the wise person is the one who hears His teaching and acts on How does a foolish person respond to sin differently it (Matt . 7:24-27) . than a wise person? What is sin’s impact on relationships? SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE • Fools don’t recognize the need to make amends with God or How might people confuse God’s wisdom and with others . foolishness? What makes God’s wisdom superior? Solomon warned about the deception of outward appearances . • The wise value relationships—with God and others . • The wise will trust what God says is good, not base their • God repairs our relationship with Him, but fools reject this . decisions on what seems right in their own eyes . What are the consequences of these differing attitudes? Jesus’ death on the cross looked like a horrible loss, but His was We can trust that God will judge everyone . This is both a • • actually the ultimate victory . warning to us when we sin and an encouragement to us when we follow Him . • Personal Challenge: Ask God for wisdom to see things the way He does . As you’re faced with decisions, ask for His help in God desires a sincere and contrite heart . Refer to Psalm 51:4,17 . • recognizing the path to joy . • When we come to God in sincerity, He accepts us .

AN ALTERED PHOTO Take a selfie and apply a filter that significantly alters your appearance, or show an image of someone who has obviously altered their appearance with a filter . Ask: What makes it obvious that this isn’t an accurate depiction? Explain that it would be hard to imagine anyone thinking this was a true picture, because the deception is obvious . Ask: What are some obvious signals that someone is being deceptive or suggesting a foolish path? Explain that people making foolish choices may experience immediate consequences . In these cases, it’s fairly easy to look at those people and know you don’t want to follow them . Say: Unlike the first picture, many people make slight alterations Discuss ways people downplay sin and its consequences . For to images before posting them on social media (e .g ., a smaller waist, example, we often fail to name a sin but instead use language about more hair, or different colored eyes) . These changes are often difficult struggles and temperament . to detect . Ask: What are some reasons we might have difficulty Read Proverbs 14:11-12 . Living outside of God’s wisdom will distinguishing a wise choice from a foolish one? Consider ways that end in grief . Ask: How can we avoid being deceived by outward appearances can be deceptive . appearances? Refer to Proverbs 14:10,13 . Explain that people who make Read Proverbs 14:8,15, and then close in prayer . Ask God for foolish choices don’t always experience immediate consequences . wisdom in following His path and for willingness to trust that His In fact, many people appear to be happy while living outside of path leads to joy . God’s wisdom .

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REPARATION: SIN AND GUILT OFFERINGS The Hebrew noun ‘asham in Proverbs 14:9 has a wide range of offering . The nature of the offering depended on the status of the meanings: “reparation” (CSB), “guilt offering” (ESV), “restitution” giver . For instance, the high priest or the whole congregation had (HCSB), “sin” (KJV), and “guilt” (TLB) . The verb form of this word to offer a young bull, while a very poor person might offer a tenth primarily centers on guilt but includes actions (sin) resulting in guilt of an ephah of the finest flour . The sin offering given with proper and the punishment for those actions . procedure and motive restored their fellowship with God . Presenting Sin creates a barrier between individuals and God, resulting in the sin offering allowed individuals to attain purification . a loss of fellowship between them . The Old Testament sacrificial Individuals who had either deprived other people of their rights system detailed two sacrifices to deal with this sin problem: sin or had desecrated something holy had to present the guilt offering . offerings (Lev . 4:1–5:13; 6:24-30; 12:6-8) and guilt (or trespass) The guilt offering focused on restitution . For instance, those who offerings (Lev . 5:14–6:7; 7:1-6; 14:12-18) . Both offerings were cheated or stole another’s property had to return the stolen items mandatory and offered expiation to the one who gave the offering . plus 20 percent of their value as a fine and then present a ram Expiation refers to the way sins are nullified or covered . Both sin and or lamb without blemish for the guilt offering . The cleansing of guilt offerings related to unintentional sins with the guilt offering lepers and the renewal of a broken Nazirite vow also required the being a specialized kind of sin offering requiring restitution (or guilt offering . compensation) . These offerings could atone for sins only after the Isaiah 53:10 identifies the Suffering Servant—Jesus—as an‘asham . guilty persons realized their fault and came forward . He gave His life as the “guilt offering” (CSB), “a sacrifice to take away The law required persons who had sinned unintentionally or the sin and guilt of others” (CEV), and “an offering for sin” (NIV) and accidentally by neglect or thoughtlessness to present a sin offering . “forgiveness” (GNT) to bring sinners into fellowship with God . Cleansing from defilement or uncleanness also required the sin

PROVERBS 15:33–16:11 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

15:33 The fear of the Lord is what wisdom teaches, A Humility and fearing God are necessities for and humility comes before honor. ... obtaining wisdom and honor (Prov . 16:18) . 6:1 The reflections of the heart belong to mankind, B “Plans” (ESV); “preparations” (KJV) . but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord. 2 All a person’s ways seem right to him, C The Lord enables individuals to state and carry but the Lord weighs motives. out their plans according to His sovereign will . 3 Commit your activities to the Lord, D “Judges” (GNT); “examines” (NLT) . and your plans will be established. 4 The Lord has prepared everything for his purpose— E Meaning “roll” in Hebrew, this pictures individuals even the wicked for the day of disaster. trusting the Lord and rolling their burdens on Him . 5 Everyone with a proud heart is detestable to the Lord; F “Succeed [if you respond to His will . . ]” (AMP) . be assured, he will not go unpunished. 6 Iniquity is atoned for by loyalty and faithfulness, G God will judge all people, and all will receive their and one turns from evil by the fear of the Lord. appropriate reward or punishment (Rom . 2:5-11) . 7 When a person’s ways please the Lord, H “Be sure of this” (NIV); “Take my word” (TLB) . he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him. 8 Better a little with righteousness I “Sins” (CEV)—the wrong committed and its than great income with injustice. consequences or punishment . 9 A person’s heart plans his way, J “Will be forgiven” (CEV); “is purged” (KJV) . but the Lord determines his steps. 10 God’s verdict is on the lips of a king; K Genuine signs of repentance, resulting in his mouth should not give an unfair judgment. forgiveness of sin 11 Honest balances and scales are the Lord’s; L A life that pleases God restores relationships . all the weights in the bag are his concern. M “Great wealth gotten by dishonest means” (TLB) .

N God has sovereign control over life .

O “Divine decision” (AMP, NASB); “An oracle” (ESV, NIV); “inspired decisions” (NRSV) .

P God required accurate and fair balances and scales (Lev . 19:36; Deut . 25:13) .

Q God “sets the standards for fairness” (NLT) .

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1. WISDOM DEMONSTRATED (Prov. 15:33; 16:8) • Solomon declared that humbly revering God is wise—more valuable than great wealth .

2. ACCOUNTABILITY ESTABLISHED (Prov. 16:1,4-5,9) • Solomon explained that while humans can think and act for either good or evil, God is sovereign and will hold all accountable in the end . • Carefully distinguish between all humanity being held accountable for their accepting or rejecting of salvation through Christ and the accountability believers face in regards to their works and life (see 1 Cor . 3:10-15) .

3. MOTIVES MATTER (Prov. 16:2,10-11) • Solomon emphasized that pleasing God involves right motives as well as right actions . • Solomon gave two examples of God-pleasing: right actions are a king’s delivery of fair decisions and a merchant’s use of honest measurements .

4. BLESSING ASSURED (Prov. 16:3,6-7) • Solomon identified blessings that come to those who revere the Lord and seek to please Him: stability, deliverance from evil, and peace . • Avoid suggesting these proverbs guarantee faithful Christians will never experience failure or face hostilities .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God’s people should seek to please Him in their attitudes and actions. • Believers demonstrate wisdom by seeking to please God in all they do . • All people are accountable to the sovereign God . • Pleasing God is borne out of a right relationship with Him seen in right attitudes and actions . • God’s blessings on those who please Him are seen in Him giving stability, rescuing from sin, and peaceful relationships with others .

FOCUS ATTENTION Describe a time when you put someone else’s happiness • Distinguish between the proud of heart—who think they know above your own. best and do what pleases themselves—and the humble of • In a healthy relationship, we consider how to please the other heart—who trust God to establish right from wrong . person, even if it means sacrificing our own appinessh . PROVERBS 16:2,10-11 • In Proverbs, we learn that people in a healthy relationship with God seek to please Him . What do these verses teach about what God values? God cares about our motives . He examines our heart . • However, pleasing God isn’t a sacrifice of our own happiness . • Rather, attitudes and actions that please God lead to our • We can’t trust ourselves and our own desires over the Word of happiness . the Lord (Jer . 17:9-10) . • Emphasize that God has given believers new hearts in Christ . EXPLORE THE BIBLE PROVERBS 15:33; 16:8 • We’re works in progress, but the Spirit living in us guides us in pleasing God . What’s the connection between fearing the Lord and How do verses 10-11 offer examples of God-pleasing humility? actions? What are some ways we see this type of God- • Reiterate that proper reverence of God leads to humility . pleasing behavior today? • In humility before God, we recognize that His ways are better • Highlight that God is just . He values justice and honesty . than ours . The wise path is the one that pleases God . In the world, when does humility come before honor? PROVERBS 16:3,6-7 How does this differ from the humility Christians are What blessings did Solomon identify for those who seek called to and the honor Christians are promised? to please God? How is this different from a guarantee • The world may praise humble beginnings, but the end goals are that Christians will never experience difficulties? honor, recognition, and riches . • Highlight God’s blessings of salvation, rescue from sin, and peace in relationships • For Christians, honor comes through service (John 12:26) . . How can our attitudes and actions demonstrate that our • Emphasize that we aren’t guaranteed easy lives, but we can priority is to please God, not ourselves? trust God’s sovereignty . • A life that pleases God is worth more than great wealth . How do we demonstrate trust in God? • We demonstrate wisdom when we seek to please God . • We display our trust in God by turning our plans over to Him, acknowledging that God’s way is the best way . PROVERBS 16:1,4-5,9 • Highlight that salvation is through faith in Jesus Christ . How do these verses serve as a warning to humanity in general? How do they serve as a warning to Christians? SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE • Everyone will be held accountable for accepting or rejecting Direct the group to look back through Proverbs 15:33– salvation through Christ . 16:11 and circle each mention of “Yahweh,” “the LORD,” Invite someone to read 1 Corinthians 3:10-15 . Explain that or “God.” How can our attitudes and actions show the • world what pleases God? Christians are secure in salvation through Christ . • Every verse in this section, except verse 8, mentions the Lord or • We aren’t saved by our works or by our own righteousness, but God . Wise living is all about Yahweh . we’re responsible for what we do with our lives . • God’s way is the best way . We can trust that what pleases Him What do these verses reveal about God’s sovereignty? is the best . • God allows us to think and act for good or evil, but in His sovereignty, He holds all people accountable . • Personal Challenge: We’re ambassadors of God’s kingdom . Look for opportunities to show others what God’s kingdom is • We aren’t saved by good works, but we’ve been saved “for all about . good works, which God prepared ahead of time for us to do” (Eph . 2:10) . • Highlight the emphasis on the heart . We’re responsible for our hearts and desires . • We should desire the things that please God .

A BATHROOM SCALE Bring in a bathroom scale . Ask: How do you calibrate a scale? What happens if you unknowingly use one that’s not properly calibrated? Discuss the importance of a fair scale that’s calibrated to zero . If you use a scale that hasn’t been calibrated, your judgments won’t be based on reality . Invite someone to read Proverbs 16:10-11 . Ask: What pleases God when it comes to how we conduct business or make decisions? Highlight that justice and honesty please God . Proverbs tells us we’re to deal with people honestly and fairly, like a properly calibrated scale . Ask: What characteristics of God lead you to believe He’s working with a calibrated scale? Emphasize that God is just: All of Say: God is still just . Explain Romans 3:26 tells us God is both just God’s judgments are fair and true . God is omniscient: God knows and the justifier through the atoning sacrifice of Christ . As Christians, everything . He can’t be deceived by a falsely-calibrated scale . we don’t actually get what we deserve because we’re given what Call on a volunteer to read Proverbs 16:2 . Explain that God weighs Christ has earned . It’s as if Christ is standing on the scale for us when our hearts and makes fair judgments based on our motives . it comes to our eternal standing with God . When we recognize this Say: God is just . However, God’s mercy and grace works with beautiful gift, it should be our pleasure to do what pleases Him . His justice . How does God’s mercy and grace impact the way we’re Close in prayer, thanking God that He’s fair and just . Praise Him for weighed when it comes to our standing with God? providing a sacrifice in Jesus Christ to remove our sins and reconcile Invite someone to read Psalm 103:10: “He has not dealt with us as us to Him . our sins deserve or repaid us according to our iniquities ”.

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PROVERBS 16 AND GOD’S SOVEREIGNTY God is sovereign: He’s in control . He possesses supreme power and Whether individuals make detailed plans (v . 9), consider the facts authority . He depends on nothing outside of His being . He rules over (v . 20), or cast lots (v . 33), God controls all events and circumstances . all things: creation, human history, and salvation . Dependence on Him is the most important action to take in any Proverbs 16 emphasizes God’s sovereignty over all of life . This decision . Commitment to Him, as is fitting to the King of kings and chapter marks the exact center of the Book of Proverbs . Eleven verses Lord of lords, brings His blessing . of Proverbs 16 feature the name of the covenant God, the Lord or God’s sovereignty doesn’t mean that every happening is God’s Yahweh . This repetition emphasizes God’s supreme position as Lord will . His permissive will allows people to make their own free over all that exists . All human affairs fall under the sovereign rule of choices . They’re accountable to God for those choices and the God . Proverbs 16:4, the middle verse of the first seven, states: “The resulting consequences . Individuals find true freedom in submitting Lord has prepared everything for his purpose ”. God is in control . themselves to the rule and reign of God in their lives . He uses even the activities of the wicked for His purposes . Persons’ God’s sovereignty requires all people to bow before Him— actions will have an appropriate consequence under His just rule . some willingly in faith and surrender, others unwillingly in the day In His sovereignty God helps people put their ideas into words (v . 1) . of judgment (Phil . 2:9-11) . God’s sovereignty also encourages and As the Supreme Ruler, only God can evaluate people’s actions comforts because God is love . He rules in love . He loves all people because in His omniscience He knows their motives (v . 2) . Only and desires fellowship with each individual (2 Cor . 5:19) . He promises complete dependence on the Lord will enable one’s plans to succeed “that all things work together for the good of those who love God, (v . 3) . God punishes those who resist His rule (v . 5) . Only faithfulness who are called according to his purpose” (Rom . 8:28) . to the One who reigns supremely brings freedom from sin (v . 6) . The sovereign Lord rewards those who please Him (v . 7) .

PROVERBS 23:17-21,29-35 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

17 Don’t let your heart envy sinners; A Warning not to desire what sinners do or possess instead, always fear the Lord. B “Reverence for” (GNT); “respect” (NCV) . The 18 For then you will have a future, correct envy is zeal for the fear of the Lord . and your hope will not be dashed. 19 Listen, my son, and be wise; C Hope comes from God (Ps . 62:5) . God promises keep your mind on the right course. His people “a future and a hope” (Jer . 29:11) . 20 Don’t associate with those who drink too much wine D “Cut off” (ESV); “disappointed” (NLT) . or with those who gorge themselves on meat. 21 For the drunkard and the glutton will become poor, E “Children” (CEV); “child” (NRSV) . The context and grogginess will clothe them in rags. ... doesn’t limit these instructions to males . 29 Who has woe? Who has sorrow? F “Right path” (NIV); “God’s paths” (TLB) . Who has conflicts? Who has omplaints?c Who has wounds for no reason? G “Heavy drinker” (CEV); “drunkards” (ESV, TLB) . Who has red eyes? H “Stuff yourself with food” (CEV); “gluttons” (TLB) . 30 Those who linger over wine; those who go looking for mixed wine. I Jesus’ enemies wrongly called Him a drunkard and 31 Don’t gaze at wine because it is red, glutton (Matt . 11:19) . because it gleams in the cup J Laziness and idleness (See Prov . 6:10-11 ). and goes down smoothly. 32 In the end it bites like a snake K “Anguish” (NLT); “trouble” (NCV) . and stings like a viper. 33 L This could mean “bloodshot” eyes (NIV), blackened Your eyes will see strange things, eyes from beatings (23:35), or dull eyes from blurred and you will say absurd things. vision—all the results of heavy drinking . 34 You’ll be like someone sleeping out at sea or lying down on the top of a ship’s mast. M A mixed drink, usually wine with spices or honey 35 “They struck me, but I feel no pain! N These images could refer to the effects of too much They beat me, but I didn’t know it! alcohol or to the scary hallucinations of alcoholics . When will I wake up? I’ll look for another drink.” O “Your heart [will] utter perverse things” (ESV) . P Similes comparing drunkenness with being seasick

Q “Must have” (ESV)—points to danger of addiction and the poor choices of an alcoholic

NOTES

1. THE PROMISE (Prov. 23:17-18) • Solomon promised that those who fear God and trust in Him can count on a secure and hopeful future .

2. THE PETITION (Prov. 23:19-21) • Solomon petitioned God’s people to avoid heavy drinkers and gluttons . He emphasized that both lead to poverty . • Emphasize the need for people to trust God in difficult times, not turning to vices such as alcohol or overeating for comfort in the process .

3. THE PORTRAIT (Prov. 23:29-32) • Solomon portrayed the abuse of strong drink as seducing the users who later find out they’re snake-bitten . • The thought of escaping from life’s troubles adds to the initial allure .

4. THE PROBLEM (Prov. 23:33-35) • Solomon described the problem of addiction, pointing to senseless, harmful actions taken by drunkards . • Even after the senseless and harmful actions are realized, they seek more to drink .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God expects believers to be good stewards of the bodies He has given them. • Believers are to fear God alone, finding their security and hope in Him . • Believers are to associate with those pursuing godly lifestyles . • The initial allure of intoxicating drinks is replaced by abuse and heartache . • Addiction leads to perpetual danger .

FOCUS ATTENTION PROVERBS 23:29-32 What strategies do you use to stay healthy? How did Solomon portray the person who abuses • Our bodies are gifts from God . God created us with physical alcohol? bodies, and they’ll be transformed when Christ returns . • Ironically, the person who turns to alcohol for solace from • God expects us to be good stewards of the bodies He’s given us . sadness will only find more sadness . • Discuss the seriousness of the end results . The bite of a viper EXPLORE THE BIBLE was often deadly . PROVERBS 23:17-18 What advice given in today’s verses do you find most Why might we be tempted to envy sinners? How is this relevant to your family situation? contrary to fearing God? • The father is concerned about his son . He wants what’s best for • Sinners may appear to be enjoying life . However, those who him . Discuss why at times it’s easier to give good advice than it fear God trust that living in opposition to His instruction will is to take the advice ourselves . ultimately lead to grief . • Life can be messy, and sometimes the desire for relief can lure What happens when we look to things other than God us into sin . We must stay vigilant to avoid “the sin that so easily for our hope and security? ensnares us” (Heb . 12:1) . • Discuss how idolatry is a cycle that continues to pull our hearts away from God . PROVERBS 23:33-35 • On the other hand, when we “draw near to God,” He promises How does this portrait highlight the addictive nature of to draw near to us (Jas . 4:8) . all drugs, especially alcohol? How does God’s promise to give believers futures and • Emphasize that this portrait can also be applied to illicit drug use hope help us overcome the temptation to envy sinners or other physical addictions . and pursue sinful lifestyles? • Even after the senselessness and harmful actions, the addict • Point to Lamentations 3:21-24 . wakes up and looks for more . • Emphasize that when we trust God, our hope in Him won’t How can we take these warnings seriously while also disappoint us, “because God’s love has been poured out in our loving those people who struggle with addiction? hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us” (Rom . 5:5) . • Don’t minimize the severity of the addiction’s consequences or the strength of its grip . PROVERBS 23:19-21 • However, we should also proclaim the truth of freedom found in Why are drunkenness and gluttony displeasing to God? Christ (John 8:34-36) . How are they similar? • Emphasize that drunkenness and gluttony are both ways that SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE we look for things other than God to provide security, comfort, God expects us to respect our bodies, which He has or escape . given us. How do our physical actions now point to the • Both sins show disrespect for our bodies, which are good gifts true hope and promise we have for the future? from God . • “We are ambassadors for Christ” (2 Cor . 5:20) . Our actions What are the results of these lifestyles? can demonstrate that true hope is found in Christ Jesus not in • Initially these types of sins may look like fun, but like all sin, they substances . end in poverty and grief . • Emphasize that we’ve all sinned and fallen short, but God is Why did Solomon warn against associating with heavy faithful to forgive us when we come to Him . “Therefore, there is drinkers and gluttons? How is this reconciled with Jesus’ now no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus” (Rom . 8:1) . example of eating with sinners? • Personal Challenge: Prayerfully consider if you’re looking to • Solomon’s warnings encourage God’s people not to fall in with things other than God for security or comfort . Ask God to help those who delight in sin, which can tempt us to follow their you turn to Him in times of need instead . If you think you may be sinful ways . struggling with an addiction, speak to a pastor or trusted person • This doesn’t mean we should avoid all sinners . We’ve all sinned at your church . and are called to love everyone . • If you’re struggling with a specific sin, it’s wise to avoid associating with others who are likely to encourage you in that sin .

A RUBBER SNAKE Bring in a toy snake or image of a snake . Ask: What’s your initial reaction to snakes? What about poisonous snakes? While some in your group may not mind reaching out for a snake, many will express fright or fear at the thought of touching a poisonous snake . Explain that while most of us wouldn’t willingly reach out to a poisonous snake, we should also know better than to risk our bodies and health with damaging substances such as overeating or abusing alcohol . However, we’re often misled into reaching for these instead of turning to God . Ask: What are some ways we might be misled into overuse of alcohol or food? Point out that while alcohol and food don’t lure us in by camouflaging with their surroundings like a snake does, they may lure us in while appearing innocuous at first . Solomon warned that no and grumbling about their condition . The Israelites displayed a lack matter the appeal, drunkenness and gluttony end in pain . Solomon of trust in God, and God sent poisonous snakes among the people . described the results of drunkenness like a snake bite (Prov . 23:32) . Many were bitten and died . Moses interceded for the people, In verses 33-35, drunkenness leads to blurred vision, nausea, and confessing their sin . God instructed Moses to make a bronze snake even pain from beatings . Just as someone who had just been bitten by and lift it up on a pole . Anyone who looked up at the snake would a snake would be a fool to reach back in for another bite, the picture be saved and recover from the poison . painted of the drunkard is also one of a fool, waking and looking for Point out that sin is often the result of a lack of trust in God . But another drink . just like the Israelites, we’ve been offered salvation . We need only lift Call attention to John 3:14-16 . Jesus was referring to an incident up our eyes and look at Jesus in faith . that took place when the Israelites were wandering in the desert

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BIBLICAL WISDOM ON ALCOHOL Drinking alcohol has become an area of debate for many commandment is “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Matt . 22:39) . contemporary believers . Some promote abstinence; others favor Substance abuse contributes to broken relationships, dysfunctional moderation . What does the Bible teach about this issue? families, physical and emotional abuse, and divorce . Psalm 104:14-15 and Proverbs 3:9-10 depict wine as a gift The Bible forbids drinking alcohol if it offends fellow believers . from God . Jesus turned water into wine at a marriage celebration (Rom . 14:13,21; 1 Cor . 8:9) . Romans 14 and 1 Corinthians 8 remind (John 2:1-11) . Paul encouraged Timothy to use wine medicinally believers to respect those whose convictions differ from their own (1 Tim . 5:23) . The Bible did prohibit alcohol, however, for some and not allow the exercise of their Christian freedom to lead others individuals: Levites (Lev . 10:9), Nazirites (Num . 6:1-4), kings into sin . The Bible also forbids doing anything, including drinking (Prov . 31:4-5), Daniel (Dan . 1:8), and John the Baptist (Luke 1:13-15) . alcohol, if it hinders a witness for Christ (1 Cor . 9:19-23) . The Bible warns about the dangers of alcohol (Prov . 20:1; 23:19-21) Other biblical principles guide decisions about using alcohol or and condemns drunkenness (Prov . 23:21; Rom . 13:13; 1 Cor . 6:9-10; other drugs . Believers should not conform to the world (Rom . 12:2) . 1 Tim . 3:3,8; Eph . 5:18) . Isaiah attacked the abuse of alcohol (Isa . God will hold believers accountable for all their actions (2 Cor . 5:10) . 5:11) . Paul viewed drunkenness as a work of the flesh (Gal . 5:19-21) . Believers should do everything for the glory of God (1 Cor . 10:31) . The Bible urges believers to take care of their bodies (Rom . 12:1; Since the Bible doesn’t absolutely forbid alcohol, Christians must 1 Cor . 6:19; 2 Cor . 6:16–7:1) . Yet drug and alcohol abuse leads to weigh the biblical teachings and prayerfully seek the Holy Spirit’s illnesses, body deterioration, drug dependency, and even death . guidance in making their decisions about this issue . The Bible encourages believers to control their minds and actions (1 Pet . 1:13; 4:7; 5:8) . Alcohol, as well as illegal drugs, can remove moral restraints and lead to poor decisions . The second greatest

PROVERBS 29:1-3,12-20 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

1 One who becomes stiff-necked, A “Stubborn” (CEV); “refuses to accept criticism” (TLB) . after many reprimands B “Destroyed” (KJV)—the consequence of will be shattered instantly— persisting in sin and refusing to repent . beyond recovery. 2 When the righteous flourish, the people rejoice, C “Increase” (ESV); “thrive” (NIV); “in but when the wicked rule, people groan. authority” (KJV) . 3 A man who loves wisdom brings joy to his father, D “Keeps company” (NASB); “friends of” (NCV) . but one who consorts with prostitutes destroys his wealth. ... E Wasting wealth shamefully betrays one’s family 12 If a ruler listens to lies, and risks respectable standing in the community . all his officials will be wicked. F Those who give personal service, often to a 13 The poor and the oppressor have this in common: person of high rank (Gen . 39:4; Josh . 1:1) the Lord gives light to the eyes of both. 14 A king who judges the poor with fairness— G God gives life to all people regardless of their status or situations (Job 33:30) . his throne will be established forever. 15 A rod of correction imparts wisdom, H The security and duration of an administration but a youth left to himself depends on their obedience to God’s standards . is a disgrace to his mother. 16 I Refers to the process of corrective discipline . When the wicked increase, rebellion increases, “Correction” is translated “reprimand” in 29:1 . but the righteous will see their downfall. 17 Discipline your child, and it will bring you J “Left undisciplined” (NIV); “neglected” (NRSV) . peace of mind K “Sin” (NIV) characterizes those who reject God’s and give you delight. authority and law . 18 Without revelation people run wild, but one who follows divine instruction will be happy. L “Rest” (ESV); relief from anxiety 19 A servant cannot be disciplined by words; M The written form of “God’s law” (GNT) . though he understands, he doesn’t respond. 20 Do you see someone who speaks too soon? N The spiritual joy that comes from a right There is more hope for a fool than for him. relationship with God

O “Sometimes mere words are not enough” (TLB) .

P “Speaks without thinking” (CEV) .

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1. THE GOAL (Prov. 29:1-3) • Solomon explained that ignoring discipline leads to destruction . • He explained that those who learn from their mistakes and from others are revered by family and others .

2. THE AVAILABILITY (Prov. 29:12-14) • Solomon pointed out that wisdom (God’s light) is available to all people . • Leaders impact the lives of those they lead . • The wicked leader produces wicked followers while the righteous king produces stability .

3. THE RESPONSIBILITY (Prov. 29:15-17) • Solomon reminded parents of their responsibility to discipline their children . • Failing to do so creates a selfish and wicked generation that will be outlived by the righteous . • Emphasize the difference between discipline and abuse of a child .

4. THE SOURCE (Prov. 29:18-20) • Solomon pointed to God’s revelation as the standard for discipline . • He reminded his readers that words alone don’t constitute wisdom; leaders must back their words up with actions . • The person who heeds instruction avoids the folly of acting with haste .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God uses discipline from society, family, and others to shape His people. • Believers are to grow in righteousness, learning from any discipline received in the past . • God’s wisdom is available to all people . • Parents are to discipline their children, teaching them God’s wisdom . • God’s Word provides a basis for determining wise actions .

FOCUS ATTENTION How would you explain and illustrate authority to a • No matter whom we’re dealing with, we can recognize that God first grader? is willing to give wisdom to all people . • Authority is the right to oversee, give orders, and enforce obedience . PROVERBS 29:15-17 • God has placed us in positions of authority over some and also What happens when we fail to discipline the people placed us under the authority of others . under our authority? Refer to Exodus 32:25 . When Moses came down from the We have a responsibility to both give and receive discipline • • mountain, he “saw that the people were out of control, for Aaron wisely . This can shape us and others in righteous living . had let them get out of control, making them a laughingstock EXPLORE THE BIBLE to their enemies ”. PROVERBS 29:1-3 How is discipline connected to a child’s relationship to God? What happens when we ignore discipline? What can Discipline is one way we impart God’s wisdom . Reference make it difficult to accept discipline? • Proverbs 1:7 . • Verse 1 describes a stubborn person . Emphasize the difference between discipline and child abuse . • Refer to Exodus 32:9 . God referred to the Israelites as “a stiff- • Discipline is an act of loving correction for the child’s best . It necked people” for worshiping a golden calf while Moses was never puts the child in harm’s way . on the mountain receiving the Ten Commandments . When we lovingly discipline our children, we prepare their hearts • God is angered when we stubbornly disobey . • to receive discipline from God . Refer to Hebrews 12:7-11 . • Point out that those who heed rebuke and humbly learn from discipline can grow in righteousness . PROVERBS 29:18-20 Why would others care how we receive and respond to How can these verses inform the way we discipline and discipline? How do our choices impact others? the way we receive discipline? • Verse 2 describes society’s response to the decisions of those • Highlight that verse 18 tells us God’s Word is our standard in authority . for discipline . God guides us to know which actions require • Righteous living blesses those around us . discipline and how to give and receive discipline . • We grow in righteousness when we learn from discipline . • Note that in verse 20, we see the importance of being slow to When do people run out of opportunities to speak in both giving and receiving discipline . Govern yourself if acknowledge their wrongs and accept correction? you hope to govern others . How does this impact the way we offer and receive Refer to verse 19. What are some ways to discipline that discipline? are beyond words? • Emphasize that there will be a time when it’s too late to repent • Discuss the idea of incentives, consequences, and rewards . (Rom . 2:5-8) . • We must model instruction with our own actions, not just make • No one knows the time of their death . This gives our actions a threats or “do as I say, not as I do ”. sense of urgency . SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE PROVERBS 29:12-14 How can we overcome the temptation to be stiff-necked How does the morality of leaders affect those serving when faced with discipline? under them? • We all have areas where we can exercise authority and heed rebuke . • Discuss ways that leaders set the culture for what’s considered • Highlight that a fear of the Lord leads to humility . As we acceptable in a society, business, or social group . recognize that God uses others to discipline us, we can humble • God offers His guidance to everyone . However, if we don’t accept ourselves before God and before the people He has placed in His guidance, corruption spreads quickly . Conversely, when we our lives . do accept it, righteousness thrives . • Personal Challenge: This week, read Deuteronomy 10:14-17, What do these verses teach about equality? which describes a time after Moses came down from the mountain • Wisdom is available to all, whether rich or poor, in positions of with the second set of tablets . Consider how Moses’ description leadership or not . of God encourages you in humility and fear of the Lord .

A WRAPPED GIFT Display the gift . Ask: Is it better to give or receive? Why? Allow time for discussion . Say: When it comes to gifts, there are good things about receiving and about giving . But when it comes to discipline, we may be tempted to say that it’s not good to give or receive . Read Proverbs 29:15 . Explain: According to this verse, discipline is one of God’s chosen methods for helping us grow in righteousness . When we accept God’s Word, then we can begin to look at discipline as a gift to give and to receive . Ask: What’s your favorite type of gift to receive? Discuss how gifts can come in many forms: gift cards, jewelry, food, acts of service, words of love . Similarly, discipline comes in many forms— just as different people appreciate different types of gifts . Effective Similarly, the attitude of the person giving discipline will impact forms of discipline can vary from person to person and change with how the discipline is received, and the attitude of the person being age or life-situations disciplined will impact how effective that discipline is . Ask: How is a gift impacted by the attitude of the giver and by Close in prayer, asking God to give each of you a heart that desires the attitude of the receiver? Emphasize that just as “God loves a righteousness for yourself and for the rest of His people . Ask that cheerful giver” (2 Cor . 9:7), a gift given to us in love has much more He would allow this desire to shape your attitude toward discipline . meaning than one given out of obligation . Additionally, the meaning of a good gift can be lost if it’s given to someone who isn’t gracious in receiving .

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THE IMPORTANCE OF WORDS Speech represents one of the major themes of the Book of Proverbs: Speech may also have negative effects . People use words to lie How do people use words? In general, words have power: the power and slander (10:18; 29:12), as well as provide a false witness (19:5) . of life and death (18:21), the power to build up or tear down (11:11), Words spread gossip (20:19) . Words may be hypocritical (24:24) . and the power to heal or wound (15:4) . Speech also has limitations . Words may create conflict (16:28) . Words may be dangerous, “Work and you will earn a living; if you sit around talking you will be malicious, and destructive (12:13; 17:4) . Harsh words create anger: poor” (14:23, GNT) . Words don’t change the truth (26:24-25; 28:24) . “a harsh word stirs up wrath” (15:1b) . Perverse words harm: “cutting Finally, words can’t force a person to do something (29:19) . words wound and maim” (15:4, The Message) . Impulsive words are Words may have a positive impact . Words may be appropriate foolish (18:13; 29:20) . Careless speech leads to destruction (18:7) . (15:23) and beneficial (16:24) . Words may offer good advice (11:14) and Foolish words lead to trouble: “A fool gets into constant fights . His good news (15:30) . Words may give knowledge (15:7) and encourage: mouth is his undoing! His words endanger him” (18:6, TLB) . “Anxiety in a person’s heart weighs it down, but a good word cheers Why do some people use words positively, while others use their it up” (12:25) . Words may be honest and righteous (16:13) . Words may tongues negatively? Speech reflects an individual’s character, his or be productive: “People will be rewarded for what they say; they will her own heart . Proverbs repeatedly identifies two paths—”the path be rewarded by how they speak” (18:20, NCV) . Words have value of the wicked” (4:14) and “the path of the righteous” (4:18) . Words (10:20; 20:15) . Words of truth outlast lies (12:19) and please God reveal the path a person has chosen and show the importance of (12:22) . Controlling one’s mouth keeps a person from trouble (21:23) guarding one’s heart: “Guard your heart above all else, for it is the and sin: “When there are many words, sin is unavoidable, but the one source of life” (4:23) . Jesus Himself said, “For the mouth speaks from who controls his lips is prudent” (10:19) . Calm words encourage peace the overflow of the heart” (Matt . 12:34) . (15:1a): “A gentle answer turns away anger ”.

PROVERBS 31:10-16,23-31 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

10 Who can find a wife of noble character? A “Virtuous and capable” (NLT); “excellent” (ESV) . She is far more precious than jewels. B ”Her worth is far above jewels“ (NASB) . Wisdom 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, is also more valuable than jewels (3:15; 8:11) . and he will not lack anything good. 12 She rewards him with good, not evil, C “Depends on” (CEV); “has full confidence in” (NIV) all the days of her life. D The verb conveys the adequacy of God’s grace 13 She selects wool and flax in meeting His people’s needs . Here the husband’s and works with willing hands. abundance from God comes through his God- 14 She is like the merchant ships, fearing wife . “She will greatly enrich his life” (NLT) . bringing her food from far away. E “Spoil” (KJV) . The husband’s gain from his wife’s 15 She rises while it is still night labors parallels the bounty of the spoils of war . and provides food for her household and portions for her female servants. F “In delight” (NASB), meaning having joy in what 16 She evaluates a field and buys it; her hands create and creating eagerly with purpose she plants a vineyard with her earnings. ... G Simile meaning the wife goes wherever she needs 23 Her husband is known at the city gates, to go to gather abundant food for her household where he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes and sells linen garments; H “Feeds her servant girls” (NCV); “tasks for her she delivers belts to the merchants. servant-girls” (NRSV) . Either the wife sees that the servant girls have a fair share of breakfast, or she 25 Strength and honor are her clothing, gives them their assigned tasks for the day . and she can laugh at the time to come. 26 Her mouth speaks wisdom, I “Money she has earned” (GNT) with her own hands and loving instruction is on her tongue. J “Civic leaders” (TLB); “leaders of the land” (NCV) . 27 She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle. K The Canaanites were known for their trading skill . 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also praises her: L The wife “looks forward to the future with joy” (NCV) due to her hard work and diligence . 29 “Many women have done noble deeds, but you surpass them all!” M “Does not eat the bread of idleness” (ESV) . 30 Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised. N Sons should look for this quality in a wife: “[reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect]” (AMP) .

31 Give her the reward of her labor, O “Give her of the fruit of her hands” (ESV); “honor and let her works praise her at the city gates. her for all that her hands have done” (NIV) .

1. COMMITMENT TO HER HUSBAND NOTES (Prov. 31:10-12) • Lemuel characterized the excellent wife as one who has gained the trust of her husband, knowing she is committed to helping him succeed all her days .

2. WISE IN HER WORK (Prov. 31:13-16) • Lemuel pointed to the savvy and prudence of the wife who wisely provides for the needs of her family .

3. SURE IN HER REPUTATION (Prov. 31:23-27) • Lemuel described the excellent wife as carrying influence in the community out of respect for her character . • He emphasized that she spoke and taught with wisdom .

4. HONORED THROUGH FEARING GOD (Prov. 31:28-31) • Lemuel noted that the excellent wife is honored by her husband, children, and others . • Her honor comes as a result of her honoring God (fearing Him) .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God recognizes those who faithfully demonstrate His wisdom in their lives. • Believers are to honor their marriage commitments . • Believers are to wisely provide for the needs of their family . • Believers are to use their influence for the kingdom . • Believers are to honor God with their lives .

FOCUS ATTENTION Describe a woman you know and respect. How can we view the call to provide for others as a • Proverbs 31 describes a woman known as “a wife of noble good gift? character” (v . 10) . • These verses describe a woman who is happy to provide and work . • Proverbs 31:1 identifies the work as “The words of King Lemuel, She goes above and beyond to provide the best things for those a pronouncement that his mother taught him ”. King Lemuel is around her: rising early, preparing the house, and seeking out an unknown ruler . the best foods from afar . She works with “willing hands” (v . 13; refer to Gen . 2:15 and Col . 3:23-24) . • Verses 10-31 form an acrostic poem, with each verse beginning with a successive letter of the Hebrew alphabet . PROVERBS 31:23-27 EXPLORE THE BIBLE What synonyms might be used in place of Lemuel’s PROVERBS 31:10-12 descriptions? • Highlight verse 25 . Invite the group to share examples of women How does this wife embody wisdom? displaying strength and honor . • The wife exemplifies the wisdom taught in Proverbs . • Discuss the meaning of verse 25b . Emphasize that the woman • Like wisdom, the excellent wife is worth more than jewels . She of noble character doesn’t worry about the future . She fears the is trustworthy and does good, just as wisdom can be trusted to Lord (v . 30) instead of fearing possible dangers and troubles of lead us on the good path . the future . Her fear of God gives her trust in God and therefore • These verses present an ideal, similar to the use of Lady Wisdom . hope in the future . This description should not discourage women when they fall How does the excellent wife gain influence and honor in short, but rather serve as an encouragement of ideals to strive the community? for and qualities to praise . • She acts wisely in her dealings in the community and is respected . Why might Proverbs conclude with this poem? • Verse 23 implies that the excellent wife’s wise actions in the • The end reward of wisdom depends on its beginning: the fear of home and community provide support for her husband’s wise the Lord (Prov . 15:33) . actions in the city . How do these verses describe a healthy marriage • She doesn’t keep wisdom to herself, but she shares her wisdom commitment? and instruction with others . Refer to Titus 2:3-5 . • The husband treats his wife with respect by fully trusting her . She upholds this respect and trust by acting unselfishly, focusing PROVERBS 31:28-31 on his good . How do these verses serve as a celebration of the • The husband recognizes his wife’s value . The phrase “who can impact of women in society? find” (v . 10) doesn’t mean there are no women of noble character • Emphasize that when a woman honors God with her life, she but emphasizes that such a woman has high value to those who receives honor, whether in business, family relations, or society . find her . She is a gift from God (Prov . 19:14) . How are these verses universal, not just for women? • Verse 12 ends with “all the days of her life,” implying a lifetime • The ultimate focus is the fear of the Lord . The wife isn’t noble or commitment . excellent on her own . She behaves this way because she trusts God and lets Him lead her in the path of wisdom . PROVERBS 31:13-16 What do these verses teach about how to work wisely? SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE • According to verses 13 and 16, she uses discernment to make How can we honor and encourage the godly women in good decisions . She is trustworthy in financial matters . She is our lives? willing to sacrifice and work hard . • The noble wife was honored by her husband, children, and others . • Verses 14-15 describe a woman who puts others first—she gets • Consider verses 28-31 . Some possibilities are verbal praise and up early, plans, seeks out the best food for her household, and words of encouragement, personal rewards for excellence, and looks out for the needs of those under her authority . public respect . • Personal Challenge: Follow through with one of these ideas to honor a specific godly woman this week .

A PICTURE OF A “WORLD’S GREATEST” MUG OR TROPHY Display the picture of the mug or trophy . Invite the group to share about any “Best” themed gifts they have received (e g. ,. Best Dad t-shirt, World’s Greatest Boss mug, etc ). . Ask: Did you feel encouraged or honored by this? Why or why not? (Alternatively, you could ask this as a hypothetical question: Do you think this type of gift would be encouraging? Why or why not?) Some people may have received such gifts in sincerity while others may have been jokes . Call on someone to read Proverbs 31:28-29 . Ask: Does this type of praise provide encouragement and honor? Why or why not? When David had been anointed as king, but hadn’t yet assumed Explain that even an over-the-top declaration of someone being the throne, his friend Jonathan came and encouraged him to keep the absolute greatest can still be encouraging when offered in trusting God’s promises . “Then Saul’s son Jonathan came to David sincerity . Ask: Why is the woman described in Proverbs 31:10-31 in Horesh and encouraged him in his faith in God, saying, ‘Don’t be worthy of this type of honor and praise? Emphasize that her fear of afraid, for my father Saul will never lay a hand on you . You yourself the Lord is the basis for others’ praise of her . will be king over Israel, and I’ll be your second-in-command . Even my This is a posture we can and should imitate . A man should father Saul knows it is true’” (1 Sam . 23:16-17) . appreciate a wife of noble character when he finds one . Similarly, we Challenge the group to look for opportunities to encourage and can offer encouragement and honor when we find other believers honor others who faithfully follow God . “Encourage one another and living in the fear of the Lord, trusting God, and following His paths . build each other up as you are already doing” (1 Thess . 5:11) .

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ANCIENT CITY GATES The gates of walled cities during biblical times had many important the gates to hear messages from kings and prophets (Jer . 17:19-20) . functions . Physically, they controlled access in and out of the city . Ezra gathered the people at the Water Gate to read and explain Since even farm workers slept in the city at night, many people God’s law (Neh . 8:1) . The city gates provided a place for business— passed through the gates daily . Cities closed the gates at night markets for the purchase of food and other supplies (2 Kings 7:1) . (Josh . 2:5) . As a weak point in the city’s defense, gates required huge Legal transactions took place at the city gates (Ruth 4:1-10) . The doors, usually made of wood but sometimes of a stone slab . Some earliest legal transaction recorded in the Bible, Abraham’s purchase doors had coverings of metal sheets for added strength . A large of the cave of Machpelah to bury his wife Sarah took place at the bar, often of iron, secured the gate’s door (Isa . 45:2) . Some entries, gate of Hebron (Gen . 23:1-19) . due to the width of the city walls, had two gates, an inner and an Kings and elders administered justice at the gates (Amos 5:15) . outer gate . The gatekeepers or guards lived in rooms at the sides The elders who held court at the city gates had high standing in the of the gate complex . Some walls also had rooms above the gates community . The fact that the husband of the excellent wife sat with (2 Sam . 18:24) . Towers beside the gates added extra protection the elders at the city gate implies that he too was a respected elder (2 Chron . 26:9) . Cities had one main gate and other smaller gates and judge of the people (Prov . 31:23) . Elders settled many legal and depending on the city’s size . Jerusalem had fifteen gates, each with criminal cases, such as property settlement (Ruth 4:1-10) and murder a different name . cases (Deut . 21:1-9) . Additionally, gates served as centers of the community’s public The biblical text often uses “gate” figuratively . Sometimes the life—social, business, and administrative . Many gates had a word means the city itself (Gen . 22:17; 24:60) . “Gate” may also threshing floor at their entrance (1 Kings 22:10) for meetings, such symbolize strength, power, and rule (Ps . 24:7; 87:2; Isa . 60:18) . as friends gathering to visit or discuss the news . People assembled at

SONG OF SONGS 2:15–3:5 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

2:15 Catch the foxes for us— A Figuratively represents anything that might the little foxes that ruin the vineyards— separate the lovers and harm their love for our vineyards are in bloom. B A metaphor for the woman’s own body in 1:6; in 16 My love is mine and I am his; the plural, it could refer to their physical attraction he feeds among the lilies. 17 Until the day breaks C Implies figuratively both the initial stages of the romantic love relationship and the beauty of the two and the shadows flee, lovers when they’re most attracted to each other turn around, my love, and be like a gazelle or a young stag on the divided mountains. D Depicts the two lovers as belonging to each other in an exclusive relationship . 3:1 In my bed at night E “Delighting in the flowers” (The Message); I sought the one I love; figuratively means the bride is ready for the groom I sought him, but did not find him. to enjoy the pleasures she, the lily (2:1-2), offers him 2 I will arise now and go about the city, through the streets and the plazas. F Word pictures for the groom (2:9), emphasizing I will seek the one I love. his vigor, agility, beauty, and grace I sought him, but did not find him. G “Mountains of Bether [which separate us]” (AMP); 3 The guards who go about the city found me. “cleft mountains” (ESV); “rugged hills ”. (NIV) . I asked them, “Have you seen the one I love?” 4 I had just passed them H Suggests the woman is having a dream—or a nightmare—in which she can’t find her beloved when I found the one I love. I held on to him and would not let him go I “Yearned for” (NLT); verb implies a great intensity until I brought him to my mother’s house— in her search, even a deep-seated desire and longing to the chamber of the one who conceived me. 5 J “Him whom my soul loves” (ESV); repetition in Young women of Jerusalem, I charge you verses 2-3,5 emphasizes the woman’s passionate by the gazelles and the wild does of the field, love for her beloved do not stir up or awaken love until the appropriate time. K Isaac took Rebekah into the tent of his late mother where they consummated their marriage (Gen . 24:67) .

L In the Old Testament to “swear by” (GNT) meant to carry out a promised action without fail .

M “Until it pleases” (ESV); “until it so desires” (NIV) .

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1. PREVENTATIVE CARE (Song of Sg. 2:15) • Solomon wrote of the bride calling for the catching of foxes to prevent them from ruining the vineyard . • He was reminding his readers of the need to put up safeguards to protect relationships . • Be aware that a variety of interpretations exist for this passage .

2. BUILD TRUST (Song of Sg. 2:16-17) • Solomon told of the trust needed to sustain a marriage . • The husband and the wife are mutually committed to each other .

3. RESTRAINT REQUIRED (Song of Sg. 3:1-5) • Solomon told of the bride’s desires as she longed to be with her husband . • In so doing, he included a reminder that one must be careful to avoid sexual temptation outside of the marriage relationship .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS God created humans to be relational, with the greatest relationship being between Him and His people. • Believers are to be careful to protect marriages . • Marriages grow through mutual submission to one another . • God created sex to be enjoyed exclusively within the marriage relationship .

FOCUS ATTENTION What’s the best marriage advice you have heard? Verses 16b-17 describe the husband and wife enjoying • Song of Songs is a romantic love poem that shows what God intimacy. What’s the relationship between trust and values in our marriages . intimacy? True sexual intimacy flourishes only in a committed marital • If we’re married, we must take our marriages seriously . However, • relationship between a husband and a wife . whether or not we’re married, we must also treat the marriages of others with respect . • Relational intimacy occurs when there is mutual trust—trust to speak and share openly, to protect each other’s hearts, • We’re not studying Song of Songs as an allegory but as a love and so forth . poem describing marriage . Ultimately, though, marriage points to the greatest relationships: the believer’s relationship with God and How can we heal when trust is broken? the church’s relationship with Christ . • Emphasize the healing work of Christ . • Point to Ephesians 4:32 . Embrace the forgiveness that comes from EXPLORE THE BIBLE Christ in order to have the strength to forgive others . SONG OF SONGS 2:15 How might God’s wisdom guide us in protecting SONG OF SONGS 3:1-5 marriages? What do these verses teach us about God’s view of sex? • Explain that one interpretation of this verse understands the • These verses are often interpreted as a dream sequence taking vineyard as representing the marriage relationship . The foxes place before the wedding . Emphasize that this is poetry and not represent things or people who threaten to ruin the marriage . a literal story . • Lead the group to identify some “little foxes” that can sneak in • The bride longs to be joined with her husband and enjoy sexual and ruin a marriage . intimacy . This desire isn’t inherently sinful . • Sin can sneak in and ruin something from within . • However, the bride recognizes that arousing lust and sex outside • Believers should take preventative steps to protect marriage, of marriage aren’t good (v . 5) . developing plans for open communication and conflict esolutionr . • We can trust that God has a good plan for us . Walking in the • Highlight that God’s wisdom is available to all of us . Invite someone fear of the Lord, we follow His path, including His design for sex to read Proverbs 15:1 and Colossians 3:12-14 as examples of God’s being enjoyed exclusively within marriage . (See Hebrews 13:4 ). wisdom that helps keep the foxes out . What encouragement is there for those who have given Why is marriage important to God? into sexual temptation outside of marriage? • Emphasize that God created humans to be relational . Ultimately, • God forgives those who repent and turn away from their sin . this desire for relationship is fulfilled in our relationship with God . • This forgiveness comes through Jesus Christ’s willing sacrifice • Reference Genesis 2:18-25 and Ephesians 5:32-33 . Emphasize that on the cross . marriage was created as a good gift that points to the relationship • Emphasize forgiveness and grace by pointing to Romans 3:22-24; between Christ and the church . Colossians 1:22; and 1 John 1:8-9 . What are the responsibilities of those outside the SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE marriage when it comes to other people’s marriages? • God cares about marriage, so we care about marriage . Additionally, Consider the phrases “holy of holies” and “Lord of we care about the marriages of others because we love them . lords,” which describe the ultimate or best. Why might Song of Songs be considered the ultimate song? • Discuss ways to respect and protect marriages—speak kindly of • Consider how marriage points upward to our relationship with others’ spouses; encourage those who are struggling; offer to Christ, the relationship of all relationships and ultimately the share burdens with things like childcare, repairs, or errands . marriage of all marriages . SONG OF SONGS 2:16-17 • Romantic love within marriage is a good gift from God . Verse 16a implies mutual commitment and trust. How • “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19) . do we build trust in relationships? • Personal Challenge: Look for an opportunity to support and • Point back to verse 15 . When spouses actively take care of the encourage the marriage of someone else in your life this week . “little foxes” together, they display commitment and build trust .

A SEED PACKET Ask: Who has experience with gardening or growing vegetables on a farm? How did you handle pests? Say: Song of Songs 2:15 compares the marriage relationship to a vineyard in bloom . The vineyard is vulnerable to attack from foxes, which sneak in and eat the grapes . Similarly, the relationship in 2:15 is just beginning to bloom and grow and is also vulnerable to attack . Explain that we’re in a spiritual battle and God-honoring relationships will be attacked . This can come in the form of other people, tragedy and difficulty, or sins from within the marriage . We can prepare for some of these attacks . Premarital and marital counseling, for example, can function like a fence around the the wrong setting . If you’re growing blackberries in your garden for garden . However, there will be times when problems and sins sneak jams and pies, you may welcome a large, healthy bush . However, in like little foxes . Then we must work hard to catch them and rid the blackberry bushes growing outside the garden can quickly become garden or marriage of them . a nuisance, taking over the yard, and they’re notoriously difficult to Ask: What are some preventative strategies you’ve found helpful eradicate . Similarly, sexual intimacy is good inside of marriage . But in keeping relationships healthy? Say: In addition to pests, there’s when it shows up in the wrong place, its effects can be devastating . the issue of weeds . Ask: What has been your experience with Close in prayer, asking God to strengthen and protect the weeds in a garden or in your lawn? marriages in your group and in your church . Thank Him for inviting Suggest that a weed is just a plant growing where it’s not supposed believers into relationship with Him . to be . What’s considered good in one setting becomes a weed in

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WHY IS SONG OF SONGS IN THE BIBLE? Why does the Bible include a love song celebrating the romantic Third, Song of Songs teaches that sexuality isn’t evil but a gift love of a man and a woman over the course of their engagement of God’s grace . God created men and women to enjoy each other and marriage? sexually . Physical affection and enjoyment have validity and beauty First, the Bible provides general guidelines for every aspect of despite this fallen, sinful world . The Bible prohibits only the abuse human life . Love and sexuality impact all people, while marriage and misuse of sex . Song of Songs encourages spouses to cherish and affects most individuals . Song of Songs helps men and women nourish their love relationship, to view sex as more than a means of learn how to cultivate love for a spouse . This book shows that a love having children . relationship includes both physical and verbal expression, as the man Finally, Song of Songs doesn’t elevate sexual love to the status of a and woman illustrate . These two lovers repeatedly tell of their desire religious act . This recognizes the historical context in which Solomon for and joy in each other . Song of Songs celebrates the goodness and wrote the book . Pagan religions flourished in and around Israel . beauty of romantic love . Most of these religions, including the Canaanite worship of Baal, Second, Song of Songs affirms by example that marital love should viewed sex as a sacred act . People worshiped Baal through ritual be exclusive and faithful . “My love is mine and I am his” (2:16) . “I prostitution and sexual union . Pagans believed that engaging in sex am my love’s and my love is mine” (6:3) . “I am my love’s, and his pleased the gods and released divine power to increase a couple’s desire is for me” (7:10) . Such an exclusive relationship doesn’t permit fertility . Song of Songs completely separates sex from worship . Sex premarital and extramarital sex . Husbands and wives should devote has no magical or divine powers . Instead, it’s part of God’s good themselves to each other alone . (Solomon recorded these truths creation . God’s people should embrace a very different view of sex though he failed to live by them himself, allowing political alliances than that of unbelievers . to supersede devotion to one woman ).

SONG OF SONGS 5:6-16 EXPLORING KEY WORDS

6 I opened to my love, A In Hebrew, “my soul went out”—an idiom but my love had turned and gone away. expressing great despair (Gen . 35:18): “I was crushed” (HCSB) . My heart sank because he had left. I sought him, but did not find him. B Literally, the watchmen might have thought the I called him, but he did not answer. wife was a prostitute since she was wandering 7 The guards who go about the city found me. alone in the night . Figuratively, the words reflect They beat and wounded me; the woman’s own sense of failure and guilt for not responding quickly to her husband’s knock (5:2) . they took my cloak from me— the guardians of the walls. C “Handsome and healthy” (CEV) . The husband 8 Young women of Jerusalem, I charge you, possessed good looks, strength, and manliness . if you find my love, D A number used in Hebrew poetry to make tell him that I am lovesick. comparisons; refers to an indefinite, large number of 9 What makes the one you love better than another, people (Gen . 24:60; Ps . 91:7); implies no other man most beautiful of women? could compare to the husband What makes him better than another, that you would give us this charge? E Using gold in comparisons emphasizes beauty, 10 My love is fit and strong, value, and uncommonness (Prov . 8:19; Ps . 119:127) . notable among ten thousand. F Describes a younger man since he isn’t bald or 11 His head is purest gold. gray-headed His hair is wavy and black as a raven. G Suggests the wife finds her husband’s scents 12 His eyes are like doves beside flowing streams, appealing, comparing them to fragrant spices washed in milk and set like jewels. 13 His cheeks are like beds of spice, H Highlights how her husband’s kisses affect her mounds of perfume. I A metaphor describing how the wife values her hus- His lips are lilies, band’s touch, since beryl are precious “jewels” (ESV) . dripping with flowing myrrh. 14 His arms are rods of gold set with beryl. J “Ivory decorated with sapphires” (CEV); “bright His body is an ivory panel ivory encrusted with jewels” (TLB) . covered with lapis lazuli. K Metaphor stressing the dignity, strength, and 15 His legs are alabaster pillars value of the husband’s body set on pedestals of pure gold. His presence is like Lebanon, L The cedars of Lebanon symbolize beauty and majesty .

as majestic as the cedars. M “His kisses are sweet” (CEV); “His speech is most 16 His mouth is sweetness. sweet” (NRSV) He is absolutely desirable. N The relationship between the wife and This is my love, and this is my friend, her husband isn’t merely physical . It includes young women of Jerusalem. commitment and trust, as well as delight in each other .

1. THE CRY FOR COMPANIONSHIP NOTES (Song of Sg. 5:6-8) • Solomon depicted the new bride as needing emotional support from her husband . • She called out to others for assistance but was met with abuse .

2. THE CALL FOR REMEMBERING (Song of Sg. 5:9) • Solomon wrote of a response by the young women that challenged the bride to remember why she was attracted to her husband in the first place .

3. THE CRUX FOR CELEBRATING (Song of Sg. 5:10-16) • Solomon told of the bride recounting the admirable characteristics of the husband . • In so doing, the bride is seen as reaffirming her love for her husband .

SUMMARY STATEMENTS Just as a couple must invest in their relationship, believers must also invest in their relationship with God. • Godly marriages should be a characterized by mutual moral and emotional support . • Godly marriages are founded on a commitment to remain faithful to each other throughout life . • Godly marriages include mutual affirmation of one’s spouse .

FOCUS ATTENTION SONG OF SONGS 5:10-16 Describe a time when you’ve had to work hard to get Based on her description, what are some characteristics better at something. the wife values? • Just like a hobby or skill, relationships require investment . • Clarify that these aren’t literal descriptions . • For our relationships to grow, we must put the needs of others • These verses explain how the bride feels about her husband . first, investing time and energy . For example, the statue-like description in verse 15a emphasize the husband’s nobility . EXPLORE THE BIBLE Why is it important for spouses to verbalize their feelings? SONG OF SONGS 5:6-8 • In celebrating her husband, the wife continued to remind herself How can miscommunication lead to conflict in marriage? of her own feelings for him, and her love grew . Explain that in verses 2-5, the bride has rejected the husband’s • By recounting these characteristics to the young women, the wife advances for companionship . At the last minute, she has a change • boldly praised her husband in public . of heart and goes to open the door to him . By the time she opens the door, he has withdrawn . • Emphasize the importance of building each other up in public and never tearing one another down in front of others . Refer to Emphasize that these verses aren’t retelling an actual event but • Ephesians 5:33 . are poetry filled with metaphor . The focus is on feelings and emotions . • Highlight the friendship noted in verse 16 . How do we celebrate God in private and in public? How One interpretation of verse 7 is that it reflects how the bride feels • does public worship encourage us and others? regret and shame at her earlier actions . Another is that verse 7 God doesn’t need our praise, but the Bible tells us to praise Him . shows the bride seeking support from others in the community, • and they mock her instead of helping . • Just as the bride in Song of Songs reminded herself of her husband’s attributes when she recounted them to others, we remind ourselves What types of support do husbands and wives need in marriage? How can selfishness impact the relationship? and others of God’s goodness when we praise Him . • Men and women often desire different types of support and love, SUMMARIZE & CHALLENGE and this will vary even from one man to the next or one woman to How can we apply the truths in this study about the next . Nonetheless, husbands and wives need emotional and investing in marriage relationships to our relationship moral support . with God? • Emphasize that Christ has provided a perfect example of • Relationships are important and require selfless investments in selfless love, and we’re called to imitate Him in our relationships order to flourish . The most important relationship we have is our (Phil . 2:3-8) . relationship with God . SONG OF SONGS 5:9 • Clarify that our relationship with God doesn’t completely mirror any earthly relationship . God is already perfect and complete . How do these young women encourage the bride in her marriage? How can this provide an example for us to • However, God invites us into relationship with Him . We should be encourage other believers in their marriages? quick to answer when He knocks and know that if we seek Him, • Selfishness and pride can keep us focused on present hurts or we’ll find Him . disappointments . • Personal Challenge: What makes God better than any other? • Humility helps us recognize our own imperfections and focus on Write a poem or paragraph about His beauty, greatness, and the good things others have done in the past . faithfulness . How can we remind each other of God’s faithfulness in the past in order to stay committed to God in the present? • We shouldn’t dismiss current pains, struggles, and disappointments . However, by sharing stories of God’s goodness, we can remind each other that God is always faithful .

A HERMIT CRAB Display a picture or share a video of a hermit crab with a sea anemone on its back . Explain that the hermit crab and sea anemone have a symbiotic relationship known as mutualism, where both species benefit from the relationship . Connect to today’s Scripture: Song of Songs highlights several areas where godly marriages display mutual benefit . Mutual Support: The sea anemone’s stinging tentacles protect the hermit crab while the scraps of food from the hermit crab feed the anemone . Song of Songs 5:6-8 reminds us that both husbands and wives are called to provide emotional and physical support to each other . Mutual Sacrifice: The sea anemone and hermit crab support each Mutual Affirmation: In our marriages, we’re more than just other, but they don’t sacrifice for one another . Believers, on the other animals in a symbiotic relationship . Song of Songs 5:10-16 show the hand, are called to a self-giving, self-sacrificing submission to the bride recounting the admirable characteristics of her husband . We’re needs of each other . called to affirm and reaffirm each other throughout the course of Mutual Commitment: Hermit crabs often take the anemones with marriage . them when they change shells . The anemones allow the hermit crab As we invest in our relationships with one another, it reminds to detach them from the original shell to move to the new shell . us of the need to invest in our relationship with God . Unlike a In Song of Songs 5:9, the young women encourage the bride to mutual symbiotic relationship, we can’t add anything to God or remember why she loves her husband . Even in difficult times, godly give Him anything . Nonetheless, God has graciously invited us into marriages remain faithful for a lifetime commitment . relationship with Him .

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MORE BIBLICAL TEACHINGS ON SEX God created humans as sexual beings: “He created them male and misuse and abuse of human sexuality . The Bible condemns premarital female” (Gen . 1:27) . He affirmed all His creation, including sexuality, sex (1 Cor . 6:13; 1 Thess . 4:3) and adultery or extramarital sex as good (Gen . 1:31) . God established the marriage relationship as the (Ex . 20:14; Matt . 15:19-20; Heb . 13:4) . Sexual intimacy within marriage place for sexual intimacy: “Each man should have sexual relations without mutual respect, love, care, and commitment also violates with his own wife, and each woman should have sexual relations God’s will (Gen . 2:24; Eph . 5:25, 33; 1 Cor . 7:3-4) . with her own husband . A husband should fulfill his marital duty to The abuse of sex includes attitudes, thoughts, and actions . his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband” (1 Cor . 7:2b-3) . Examples include lust (Matt . 5:27-28), pornography (Phil . 4:8), Within the marriage covenant, human sexuality provides love rape (Ex . 22:16-17; Deut . 22:23-29), prostitution (Deut . 23:17-18; and companionship (Gen . 2:18,24) . It cultivates unity, as the Prov . 29:3), and other defiances . Homosexuality violates God’s couple becomes one-flesh (Gen . 2:24-25; Matt . 19:4-6) . Sexual intention for sexual behavior (Lev . 18:22; Rom 1:26-27; 1 Cor . 6:9-10) . intimacy allows the husband and wife to have deeply meaningful Scripture doesn’t teach that sexual relationships are necessary for communication—they know each other: “The man was intimate with human fulfillment . God gives some individuals grace to live celibate [knew] his wife Eve (Gen . 4:1) . “Know” means knowledge gained lives (Matt . 19:12) . Paul serves as a model for celibacy (1 Cor . 7:7-9) . through experience . A married couple reveals and commits themselves When people fail to meet God’s standards for human sexuality, completely to each other . Sexual intimacy offers the husband He stands ready to forgive those who express genuine repentance and wife mutual pleasure (Prov . 5:18-19) . Sexual relations within (1 John 1:9) . God calls believers not to impurity but to holiness marriage guard against improper sexual expression (1 Cor . 7:1-9) . (1 Thess . 4:3-8), including God-approved expressions of human Human sexuality also produces children (Gen . 1:28; 4:1) . sexuality . As sexual beings, believers should glorify God with their Unfortunately, living in a fallen, sin-corrupted world leads to the bodies (1 Cor . 6:9-20) .

by Dr. Fran Trascritti

In my role at LifeWay, I have the pleasure of working with plenty of people who are younger than me. I have found them to be highly relational, creative, and eager to learn, and I will tell you that it is an incredible blessing to get to know each of them. And I have learned a ton from them along the way!

If you’re around someone younger, God has given you a fantastic opportunity to invest in the next generation. You have a chance to help them develop, grow, and serve Jesus greatly for years to come. But how is this done? Here are six ways that you can invest in the next generation:

1. Pray for them. Nothing spiritual can happen without praying for God to work. The next generation has many temptations that can distract them from the things of the Lord. Spend time each day praying for those you know by name, that their eyes and hearts will focus on the Father.

6 Ways to Invest in the Next Generation 63 © 2020 LifeWay Christian Resources 2. L isten to them. Everyone wants to be heard, and a younger person is no different. In fact, it’s essential to let them speak. Proverbs 18:13 says, “The one who gives an answer before he listens—this is foolishness and disgrace for him.” A good listener will ask open-ended questions, affirm their thoughts, and paraphrase what they said before responding.

3. Share with them. Just the other day, I had a young colleague come to me for advice and I was honored even to be asked to help. Many of those from the next generation want an older person to share their life experience and knowledge. And by the way, you might just have a chance to learn from them as well.

4. Appreciate them. Whether it’s words of affirmation, an act of service, or a thoughtful gift, a small gesture of appreciation goes a long way. Be intentional in letting the younger person know that they are valued, needed, and appreciated.

5. Mentor them. Having a mentor relationship is helpful and beneficial for all involved, and it doesn’t have to be hard to do. Having a one-on-one mentor relationship can be as simple as praying with them, studying a book of the Bible together, or utilizing tools such as the weekly Talk It Out section of the Explore the Bible Daily Discipleship Guide.

6. Serve with them. Many in the next generation are concerned about the world around them. One great way to connect with them is to serve with them. Besides, a ministry with a new influx of younger people will often see a new energy and excitement, which will encourage other participants.

It’s a privilege and an honor to work with younger people all around me. I love the energy that they bring, the eagerness that they approach their work, and the way that they have fun while serving Jesus in such a wonderful way. I also take great pleasure in devoting time and energy into those who will reach the nations for decades to come. Let me encourage you to do the same, as you can be a blessing while being blessed from your care for them.

Dr. Fran Trascritti (@frantras) is a husband, father, and grandfather, but most of all, a servant of the Lord Jesus Christ. He pastored various churches for more than 23 years and now serves with the Explore the Bible team at LifeWay. You can reach him by emailing [email protected].

Social media is powerful and prevalent in our culture these days. It’s also ruthless and cruel at times. The smallest of molehills can become a mountain, and the seemingly mundane can turn viral. Whether the topic of the day is food, movies, or politics, it appears that everyone has an opinion—and a very strong one at that!

Yet for believers in Christ, we need to be careful of not only what we share, but how we share. Tone matters, and testimonies matter even more. And while our testimony is tested in the age of social media, there is an important underlying principle that we should follow in all we do: that we need to watch our talk, our walk, our deeds, our faithfulness, and our holiness. All these principles matter to people, and most importantly, to God.

How can you watch your tone on social media and be a blessing to others? Here are three words of advice:

1. Be genuine. Discernment is needed as to how much to share, but authenticity is a breath of fresh air on social media. For example, avoid creating a persona that only exists in the virtual world. Be yourself, yet be sensible about sharing things that might present a stumbling block for others to hear the gospel.

2. Be gracious. Grace is not always seen in places like Twitter. However, grace is sorely needed. Ever see a social media conflict between two people that escalates? That almost never goes well. Instead, recognize that we are all sinners, blinded by our brokenness, and that Proverbs 15:1 offers important wisdom: “A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath.”

3. B e good. In an environment of so much negativity and hatred, positive people are difficult to find, but they are there. Ranting or venting is neither helpful nor biblical, especially if it’s about another person’s conduct or teaching. It is more constructive to build up others, so take any serious concerns privately to the person involved and love them in the process. This is the proper and good thing to do.

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Session 1 God Confronts > Isaiah 1:10-20 Session 2 God Sends > Isaiah 6:1-13 Session 3 God Promises > Isaiah 7:7-17 Session 4 God Reigns > Isaiah 23:8-18 Session 5 God Saves > Isaiah 25:1-10a Session 6 God Protects > Isaiah 31:1-9 Session 7 God Listens > Isaiah 37:14-20,30-35 Session 8 God Renews > Isaiah 40:18-31 Session 9 God Acts > Isaiah 46:3-13 Session 10 God Comforts > Isaiah 49:1-13 Session 11 God Justifies > Isaiah 53:1-12 Session 12 God Expects > Isaiah 58:1-12 Session 13 God Restores > Isaiah 65:17-25

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