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A Publication of the NASAP Family EducationFAMILY! Section Winter 2003 Getting into the See You in Vancouver? News... In the news last Fall was the issue Family Ed at NASAP 2003 of spanking. Madelyne Gorman How about a practical workshop on anger management crafted for parent Toogood (a name that's hard to educators with ready-to-use ideas brought to you by Gary McKay? Or, beat in this context!) was arrested could you use a lively inside look, by Linda Jessup and John Mulligan, at for repeatedly hitting her child in the design and evolution of PEP in Maryland? Pick up some new and an Indiana mall parking lot. The proven ideas about organization, marketing, recruiting and fund incident of "punishment" was development, which might be useful for either a start-up or an established caught on store security video Family Education Center (FEC). Certainly Dr. Jane Nelson’s fresh look at tape, and the media subsequently the overuse and misuse of consequences in her interactive workshop, “No spent a great deal of time with the More Logical Consequences – At Least Hardly Ever!” should definitely subject of child abuse--giving all not be missed. Previous convention attendees often leave a Mary and their fifteen minutes of fame. Gary Hughes session remarking “more time needed to get the interesting details ....” Their longer- Karen Brandon, a Chicago Tribune than-usual 90 minute national correspondent wrote on session, “Adlerian Tools for September 25 that "[w]hile All Seasons” will explore horrified viewers of the tape agree basic, universal Adlerian that the pummeling little Martha principles and skills using took was not appropriate Member Memo ‘tools’ as visual metaphors to discipline, there is far less provide unique insight into agreement about what parents Register for the conference – family relationships. The should do when their children Invite a friend to go, too! tools will be used to continues on back page brainstorm solutions to a Contact us if you know of a participant’s real-life functioning, struggling or problem while the rest of the New Feature start-up Adlerian program in your area. group discovers individual Dear Addy... applications for their own Send our Editor your email lives in the process. As promised in the last issue of FAMILY!, address, and join the we herewith begin a new feature. Your conversation "between the This list is just a tiny taste of feedback is welcome! lines" of FAMILY! what the rich and varied NASAP '03 program will Poop Is The Problem...Or Is It? offer! Join us! ■ Dear Addy, My son Artie, who is almost 7, Also in this issue seems to have started school on a strong and confident note tho I still Your Co-Chairs Report ........................................................... Page 2 wish that he can somehow Also, Adlerian wisdom, how to reach us convince himself that he is a capable person. He is still timid to Resources ................................................................................ Page 3-5 try things that he can’t get FECs compiled, a look at STEP perfectly the first time. However, he has had many accomplishments News and Views......................................................................... Page 7 this past year that he is proud of: FE members talk about group size at NASAP '02 continues on page 6 North American Society of Adlerian Psychology...International Adlerian Leadership Since 1952 FAMILY! Winter 2003 Adlerian Wisdom FE Section Co-Chairs Report... • A great way to help children feel Dear FAMILY! and friends, encouraged is to spend special time “being with them.” Many teachers A Belated Happy New Year! have noticed a dramatic change in a As you peruse your newsletter, keep in mind the many similarities of “problem child” after spending five FAMILY! to an extended "family." There are conventions ("family minutes simply sharing what they reunions"), an active e-mail list, a special section spot on the NASAP web- both like to do for fun. site for Family Educators (think "address book"), and a regular newsletter • When tucking children into bed, (a "scrapbook" of sorts) to help us all keep connected, and to discover our ask them to share with you their roots from some of our still active "ancestors." “saddest time” during the day and And speaking of families…our Family Education Section has been busy their “happiest time” during the day. making preparations for the NASAP convention Thursday, May 29 (pre- Then you share with them. You will convention workshops) through Saturday, May 31. We certainly hope be surprised what you learn. your Spring plans include attending this "family" reunion in Vancouver. --from Positive Discipline This convention will prove to be busy, exciting, and educational; be sure by Jane Nelsen to consider the tempting topics from page one, and in the brochure. Getting and staying in touch, by gathering the names and descriptions of FECs around the country has proven to be a major task. In their quest to uncover the state of FECs in the US and Canada, FE Section leadership has worked hard at finding and reconnecting with Family Educators, learning How to reach us of struggles, "deaths" and "births" of FECs, along with interesting variations and innovations in Parent Education. This still incomplete Family Education Section Co-Chairs "family portrait" will be shared with you at our annual Section meeting in Linda Jessup, R.N., M.P.H. Vancouver. An important discussion of the future of FECs and the 608 E. 7th Street metamorphosis of Parent Education in Canada and the US will definitely Loveland CO 80537 benefit from your input! email <[email protected]> Consider sharing this issue of FAMILY! with a friend. Invite a colleague Mary L. Hughes, M.H.R. Family Life Field Specialist to join NASAP and the Family Ed Section and extend that invitation to Iowa State University Extension attend the NASAP Convention as a first-timer to Vancouver. If cost is a 1600 S. Hwy 275 problem, there are partial scholarships available through the Family ISD Campus, 2nd fl Careers Bldg. Education Section and possible help with housing. We invite you to make Council Bluffs IA 51503 your presence felt in this dynamic Adlerian "family." Write, call or, even email <[email protected]> better yet, show up in Vancouver. We’d love to meet you there! FAMILY! Editor Warm regards, Mary & Linda Bryna Gamson, M.A.T. 2823 Summit Avenue Highland Park IL 60035 Financial Thumbnail email <[email protected]> From: Helen Iriarte, Treasurer As of November 14, 2002, the balance of funds for our Section was $1254.13 in the savings account after a $662.86 outlay for expenses in NASAP September and October, 2002. These expenses were reimbursements at <www.alfredadler.org> $250 each to the co-chairs for attendance at the COR meeting in • Pennsylvania, $159.86 for the Fall issue of FAMILY!, and money order phone 717.579.8795 fees of $1 each to make these reimbursements. The following are the fax 717.533.8616 anticipated expenditures over the next four months: Revenues will email [email protected] increase with renewed memberships (funds have not been transferred as • of January 30), and participation in the FES. Anticipated expenses: $500 50 Northeast Drive for two $250 scholarships to NASAP Vancouver Conference; $160 to $200 Hershey PA 17033-1549 for this newsletter; and $500 in reserve. Family Education Section of the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology/NASAP 2 FAMILY! Winter 2003 FECs North America: STEP: 27 YEARS & STILL GOING STRONG Vanishing Breed or by Gary D. McKay, Ph.D. parents of elementary school aged Vital Partner? children. STEP/Teen is for parents Editor's Note: FAMILY! is running a of preteens and teens, and Early Your FE leadership has been series of articles highlighting the various Childhood STEP for parents of exploring, seeking to update the Adlerian curricula in parent education. children under six years of age. Family Education Centers This is the third in the series. The authors of the various STEP directory. Conversation and programs include: Don research was conducted on line, STEP (Systematic Training for Dinkmeyer, Sr., Gary D. McKay, primarily by Linda Jessup. Here Effective Parenting) remains Don Dinkmeyer, Jr., Joyce L. are the mixed bag of results: world’s leading parent education McKay and James S. Dinkmeyer. program after 27 years and several Around and Kicking revisions including the latest ones Session Topics There are pockets of regional in 1997 and 1998. Over 4 million Each session emphasizes various longstanding organizations of parents have been involved with Adlerian principles such as: Adlerians, and elsewhere nearly STEP. The program is used isolated, dogged individuals out throughout the English speaking • Humans are social beings whose there, determined to keep parents world and has been translated into main goal in life is to belong. in touch with Adlerian ideas. other languages such as Spanish, Behavior and misbehavior are seen German and Japanese. Numerous as purposive and goal directed – a USA research studies of STEP have means to achieve belonging. ARIZONA been conducted over the period. When children believe they can’t The Parent Connection Family achieve belonging in useful ways, Forum, 5326 E. Pima, Tucson, AZ How STEP Began they become discouraged and 85712, Contact: Kim Metz, In the early 70’s, I proposed to my misbehavior is often the result of Director, phone: (520) 312-1500 coauthor and friend, the late Don this discouragement. Dinkmeyer, Sr., that we develop a “DUSO like” program for parents, • Rudolf Dreikurs found that CALIFORNIA [Developing Understanding of Self misbehavior can be classified into Family Education Center, 629 East D and Others — a widely used four broad categories or goals: Street, Petaluma, CA 94952-3213, elementary classroom guidance attention, power, revenge and Contact: Doris Nelson, Executive program] that is, a kit that almost displaying inadequacy.