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Name adjusted in November 2006 to Catching Up with the Court GayCalgary and Edmonton Magazine. 5 Publisher Steve Polyak & Rob Diaz-Marino, 11 Exposure Festival [email protected] Edmonton Celebrates the Spectrum of Queer Expression Editor Rob Diaz Marino, [email protected] 16 Original Graphic Design Deviant Designs 12 A Calgarian In Toronto Advertising Whither the Gayborhood? Steve Polyak [email protected] Contributors 16 Map & Event Listings Steve Polyak, Rob Diaz-Marino, Jason Find out what’s happening Clevett, Andrew Collins, Jerome Voltero, Stephen Lock, Jack Fertig, Romeo San 23 The Vatican’s Anti- Vicente, Felice Newman, Evan Kayne, Mark Randall, Matt Salton, Mercedes Allen, Joan Homosexual Agenda Hilty, Dave Brousseau, Kevin Alderson, James S. M. 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Copyright 2008 AAdd SSpacepace BBookingooking - WWednesday,ednesday, NovemberNovember 26th26th Member of 22008008 Canadian Gay & Lesbian Chamber AAdd SSubmissionubmission - of Commerce FFriday,riday, NovemberNovember 29th29th 20082008 IInn CCirculationirculation - Tuesday,Tuesday, DDecemberecember 2nd,2nd, 20082008 PPleaselease ccontactontact usus rrightight awayaway ifif yyouou tthinkhink youyou maymay havehave missedmissed tthehe BBookingooking oror SubmissionSubmission DDeadlineseadlines Member of International Gay & Member of Edmonton Rainbow Lesbian Travel Association Business Association. 6 gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #61, November 2008 Reflecting on 5 Years Letter from the Publisher Steve was running the Men By Rob Diaz-Marino, MSc. for Men Terminals only at Boyztown, but we started Like virtually everyone, there are times when I have branching out and ap- wondered about the future and tried to imagine proaching the other bars to where I’ll be several years down the line. What I’ve see if we might be able to often done is set a mental checkpoint – held onto a expand our market. vivid memory of my state of mind as I am looking I remember my fi rst game forward. That way when that moment I’m envision- of pool at the Calgary Eagle, ing fi nally comes, I can look back and feel a connec- and how one of the own- tion to who I was…and in an odd way, who I was ers helped us construct the wooden boxes to house the can feel a connection to who I become. MFM terminals; meeting Lo- When our magazine started, I wondered what things would rie Murphy at Money Pennies be like when our milestone 5th anniversary rolled around. for the fi rst time, and how Though we’ve kept our happy faces on over the years, the she struck me as a motherly truth is that we’ve been through a lot of hardship running fi gure; getting our fi rst tour the magazine. One thing that I never imagined was how hard of Goliaths and the Texas we would have to fi ght to still be standing here after all this Lounge; sitting down for a time – and I’m not talking about the usual trials and tribula- plate of ground beef covered tions of running a business. Like many GLBT businesses, nachos on our fi rst visit to we have faced some extraordinary challenges. the Verge; briefl y popping in to Rooks, a little fearful of The Battles its reputation; momentarily For as long as I’ve known him, Steve has had a passion visiting popping into the for getting involved and making things happen. What drives Midnight Café; and meeting him is not the potential for fame and attention – I know this the crew at Detours. because he is happy to remain behind the scenes; it’s not a Things came to a head desire for power or control - he is happy to step away after at Boyztown. It astonished helping others reach their own goals. His driving force is to me how the people who be a part of the solution, and his reward is to share those accepted Steve’s help with benefi ts with others. open arms would shut the This lead him to start working with the Calgary gay bars, door on him the minute he which he had been doing for quite some time before I came asked for something reason- into the scene. I arrived at a time when Steve was working able in return, and I’m pretty almost exclusively with Boyztown and the Rekroom. It may sure this prompted them to be a shock to hear, but for the fi rst little while my idea of begin looking for an excuse Calgary’s gay community consisted only of Boyztown as the to get rid of him. This move good guys, Detours as the bad guys, and the rumored “other came as a disproportionate bars” entirely insignifi cant to the struggle. reaction to a comment Steve made, after it was distorted Steve’s desire to help out sometimes rubs people the in high school fashion and wrong way – offering a solution implies that something can tattled to an owner. Instead be improved, which implies that something might be wrong, of dwelling on the situation, I and that can be too much for some to handle. At the time made sure we moved on. Detours was the next best fi t; they didn’t demand our undivided attention so we were able to maintain a solid working relationship with the other bars. The man- ager of Detours at the time, Mark Gabruch, was kind and appreciative of our help – he had a genuine concern for the success of the bar, gaycalgary and edmonton magazine #61, November 2008 7 though he too had to fi ght Steve wrote the publisher’s column, and a number of the ar- to make this happen. One ticles. My only involvement was designing ads for The Verge, major obstacle Detours Money Pennies, and the Calgary Eagle. We launched it at the faced was that they were Taboo Sex Show (then known as the Everything To Do With being boycotted by the gay Sex show) and have had a booth there annually ever since.